The Carvery with Alex Dorr

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When Extreme Ownership Goes Wrong Feb 07, 2020

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Your level of accountability is most correlated to your results and happiness in life. Many that interact with learn this information and take-off with this idea and really start to live out the four factors of accountability in their lives and start to feel different results pretty quickly. However, many run into a similar experience I did where they start to over-reach when it comes to accountability and start taking extreme ownership for their results and noticing some struggles.

In these moments you can start to believe that you can control the outcome of all events that you are involved in and your energy from this mindset can really affect those around you and cause you to wear out.

In this journey of focusing on accountability and the four factors and mental process that cultivate it, I've discovered an important counter-balance that helps to optimize and round-out living a more fulfilled life.

This mix between high-levels of accountability with a consistent practice of self-reflection or inquiry on the stressful thoughts that cause us to overdo accountability is the sweet spot.

Contentment and endless energy comes from this sweetspot and in this episode I walk through my thoughts on this balance I focus on daily.

This ebb and flow of diving all-in to living out the factors of accountability with an eye for additional self-reflection through inquiry on untrue and stressful thoughts is something big if you are in to your own growth and learning.

I am on this journey as well and playing around with it.

Hope you liked this one as well and cannot wait to hear your thoughts!

Let's keep ditching the drama. Alex

Here is a video to learn the 4 Factors of Accountability and how to live in this mindset more often at work. This leads to more happiness and results! Don't we all want that? :)

Here is a front-row seat to one of my latest keynotes if you want to see me in action. I'd love to be on the list if you are ever looking for speakers for your organization in the future. Let's get this message to your teams!

If you have any feedback or questions let's continue the discussion at any of the places below:
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For more of my videos and behind-the-scenes footage of my keynotes and speaking engagements check out my YouTube Channel.

If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to learn more.

Lessons From 85 Speaking Engagements in 2019 Dec 31, 2019

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It was a heck of a ride jumping from around 40 speaking engagements in 2018 to 85 sessions in 2019. I'm beyond grateful and, as I reflect back, I have learned so much. I have summarized all of these lessons and packaged them up for you in this podcast episode.

As you go from city to city and interact with various clients from all of the industries we get to touch - you start to see patterns or themes emerge. These themes become very interesting and, in my free, time I sit in self-reflection around these ideas.

In this episode you will learn more about the themes that I've noticed through 2019. I cover:

Why opinions no longer add value - expertise does
The secret of "unwillingness" and why it is missed by leaders
Quit asking for benefits on the promise of results. Deliver results and then benefits follow.
Many are confusing MACRO challenges for what they can impact individually on the MICRO
Patience in 2018 and patience in 2019

A NOTE TO YOU :)

I wanted to take a moment to thank you, the listener, for all of your incredible support and inspiration for the podcast. It has been unbelievable the amount of reachouts I have been receiving about how passionate people are about the episodes and ideas we have been putting out and I love the community we are building. This world beyond drama is always there, for all of us to access, we just have to understand our thinking.

I hope you know how grateful I am for you for tuning in to each episode. My hope is you help me keep shaping the podcast and making sure it gets better and better each episode. I can't wait for what's to come in 2020. Happy New Year and let's keep ditching the drama.

-Alex

Why You HAVE to Play Favorites at Work Dec 15, 2019

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A conventional leadership wisdom out there is that you CANNOT play favorites at work. However, did you know that the same leadership will not please a high-accountable mindset and low-accountable at the same time? This creates an interesting consideration we go into on this podcast.

Many organizations haven't come around to the fact that they have some employees that default to a lower state-of-accountability each day. This is more of a victim-mindset where they believe that most of their mistakes or issues are not their fault and they cannot have much of an impact.

However, in the same organization and same circumstances, there is another group of high-accountables that are successful and happy in the same situation.

Both of these groups also have completely different lists of behaviors, conversations and standards of excellence they like to work in.

High-accountables get nervous when change is NOT happening and low-accountables get anxious when change IS happening. High-accountables are aware the the world is always shifting and customer demands are always changing so, of course, they see that the business should be too.

Low-accountables seem to want to keep things the same even though it may hurt the experience for our customers, patients or those we serve in the marketplace.

I go through many examples and ideas of this "playing favorites" in this podcast. I also discuss why you actually HAVE to differentiate (for the right reasons) to be an effective leader and I give you some of our best tools to do so.

So if you are someone wondering:

- How to lead better

- Can I play favorites at work?

- Best leadership tips to reward my top performers

- What tips to manage accounability

Then this is a great episode for you.

Also, here is a front-row seat to one of my latest keynotes if you want to see me in action. I'd love to be on the list if you are ever looking for speakers for your organization in the future. Let's get this message to your teams!

If you have any feedback or questions let's continue the discussion at any of the places below:
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Facebook

For more of my videos and behind-the-scenes footage of my keynotes and speaking engagements check out my YouTube Channel.

If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to learn more.

Hope this one gave you a lot to think about. Let's keep ditching the drama. - Alex

Don't Confuse High Performers with High Accountables Nov 22, 2019

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One common confusion with leadership and our philosophy is that people miss that high performance does not necessarily correlate with your highest accountable employees. This podcast clarifies and explains why this is so important to understand.

For years organizations have focused diligently on measuring performance and when many hear our work they say, "Of course! We just need to keep spending all of our leadership capacity on our highest performers and get rid of low performers."

While some of this is true in theory, one of the challenges is that performance can be such a skewed metric. The key indicator that actually drives great performance, low drama and high engagement is the level of personal accountability one has.

Helping to cultivate teams that live and operate in a high state-of-accountability in their mindsets is the true indicator of future results and engagement. These are people that commit to projects without conditions, are highly resilient, honest in their ownership of results good or bad and continuous learners.

This is a subtle correction that many miss in our philosophy that is a big breakthrough once leaders understand that high performance isn't always correlated to high accountability.

I think this will have some interesting and practical takeaways for you as well as a mindset shift moving forward.

I mentioned a link to the Employee Value Equation if you are interested in learning more about where drama comes in to the value we add at work that goes beyond just measuring performance.

If you have any feedback or questions let's continue the discussion at any of the places below:
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For more of my videos and behind-the-scenes footage of my keynotes and speaking engagements check out my YouTube Channel.

If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to learn more.

Enjoy my people. Let's keep ditching the drama. - Alex

Overcoming That's the Way We've Always Done it Nov 08, 2019

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"Well...that's the way we've always done it" is one of the most frustrating statements for leaders and organizations to hear for the reason to not change the way we are doing something. This statement reveals a bigger issue than most might realize once you start to understand the power of learned helplessness.

This episode dives deep into victim-mindsets and how to overcome an individual or team that is locked into learned helplessness.

Learned helplessness is the belief that our actions no longer have impact on our outcomes. It's when we start to believe what we do doesn't matter anyway.

This mindset is the complete opposite of personal accountability and not much happiness can come about when we are living in learned helplessness.

In this episode, I share a personal example of when I realized I was in learned helplessness and some great tips to recognize and quickly step out of this mindset that can hold us back.

So for any leaders wondering:

How to overcome "that's the way we have always done it"
How to build resilience in my team
How to have less excuses
How to overcome excuses my team has
What is learned helplessness
How to cultivate a higher level of accountability in my teams

Then this is the perfect podcast episode for you!

If you have any feedback or questions let's continue the discussion at any of the places below:
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For more of my videos and behind-the-scenes footage of my keynotes and speaking engagements check out my YouTube Channel.

If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to learn more.

Appreciate you guys listening and hope you loved this one! - Alex

Exploring the Deeper Layers of Drama Oct 23, 2019

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Having the courage to explore the first layer of drama at work is big, but many miss the opportunity to start peeling back the layers of drama that truly get in the way from our teams being highly successful and happy. This episode dives into this idea of the deeper layers of drama that exist and a few tools to identify them and move beyond them.

These deeper layers can be sneaky and out of our awareness until we investigate them. This is something I haven't talked about a ton yet as we have been going through a lot of the core philosophy in my content.

Can't wait to see what you guys think about this one!

So for anyone wondering:

How do I reduce drama at work
Why do I not act when I am clear on what to do
How to take more action and be less scared
How to approach the tough conversations at work

There will be some great ideas for you in this.

The tool I mentioned in the podcast called Edit Your Story is a powerful tool that I do daily and now have as an internally mental process whenever I am stressed, fearful or worried. This is your secret weapon to more clarity in your life.

Watch this video here how to use the Edit Your Story as a leader or to free your own thinking.

If you have any feedback or questions let's continue the discussion at any of the places below:
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For more of my videos and behind-the-scenes footage of my keynotes and speaking engagements check out my YouTube Channel.

If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to learn more.

Cheers to another week of living and leading drmaa-free. - Alex

FULL KEYNOTE: Ditching the Drama at Work with Reality-Based Leadership Sep 28, 2019

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Listen in on a full keynote of mine on how to ditch the drama at work with Reality-Based Leadership. Ever wondered what it would be like to sit in the front row for one of my sessions? That's what you are listening to here!

This session was one of my best yet. Concise and straight to the point with a TON of energy and practical tools to start leading more drama-free, engaged and results-driven teams.

This group was super interactive and all-in to the philosophy so it made for a great time!

The average person is spending 2.5 hours per day in drama at work. 2.5 hours per day! That is an enormous amount of time and energy that leads to stress and less joy in our day-to-day.

This session gives you some of our best tools to start chipping away at that drama. As you carve this away, it reveals so many more places to have better results and more happiness in each interaction.

So if you are interested in learning about:

Sources of drama at work that add up to 2.5 hours per day per person
How to lead better
How to lead your team through change
How to deal with conflict at work
Best tools and techniques to redirect energy away from drama
How to create a culture that is high in accountability
How to change a culture in a way that is effective
How to truly drive engagement at work while ensuring it leads to results
How to help your teams thrive in change instead of fear it
How to overcome your fears, stress, lack of confidence and suffering
What truly adds value in today's workplace and how you can always deliver that value

Then this keynote is exactly what you are looking for!

If you are currently a leader or employee and hoping to take what you are doing at work or in life to the next level this is an important hour of content to listen to.
As I mentioned, you can listen to a longer extended version of this content that teaches you the entire framework, philosophy and tools of Reality-Based Leadership in this podcast episode at the links below:

Listen on Apple Podcasts
Listen on Spotify
Listen on Google Play
Listen on Simplecast

If you have any feedback or questions let's continue the discussion at any of the places below:
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For more of my videos and behind-the-scenes footage of my keynotes and speaking engagements check out my YouTube Channel.

If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to learn more.

Cheers to another week of living and leading drmaa-free. - Alex

With Great Influence, Comes Great Responsibility with Drama Sep 13, 2019

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Does your drama you bring to the table impact others more the higher up you get in your career? This was a great questions asked by a recent executive leader at one of my sessions that got me thinking. This podcast breaks down my thoughts on whether the impact of our personal drama as a higher-level leader in an organization is grander than our initial research has discovered.

In our research at Reality-Based Leadership, we found that your overall value that you bring to your work decreases greatly if you are high in emotional expensiveness or lacking fluency in what causes drama in an organization. In fact, the amount of drama has a 3x negative effect in comparison to your performance and your future potential when you look at the total value you are bringing to a team, organization, interaction or customer experience.

This -3x factor is quite an eye-opener for many who hear our work for the first time.

Below is the link to do your own self-assessment and learn more about our Employee Value Equation and the cost of our own drama.
https://www.realitybasedleadership.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/08/Employee-Value-Equation-1.pdf

But in a recent session in NYC with an executive group, an attendee posed the question about whether as a CEO or high level leader that your drama could be even grander than that because of your influence and position in a company. Could it be -5x, -8x or even a -10x because so many are aware of your every move, comment and non-verbal. After all, you are the final decision point for your organization and many look to your leadership for guidance.

I had not considered this as an option so on the plane after the event I did some reflecting and put together this podcast.

So this is a great episode for anyone wondering about:

What is the effect of my drama as a leader on the organization
How to lead better with less drama
What is the cost of drama on high-level leaders
Conflict Resolution and understanding our part in solving issues

This really is something to consider and I can't wait to hear what you all think about this topic and my reflections. It really makes you think about each day and your influence especially for some of you who have a determined team working alongside you. Your influence if you are not bringing your highest self to the table could be an even grander cause of chaos in your workplace.

If you have any feedback or questions let's continue the discussion at any of the places below:
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For more of my videos and behind-the-scenes footage of my keynotes and speaking engagements check out my YouTube Channel.

If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to learn more.

Let's keep livin' drama free my people. - Alex

Enabling - The Killer of Accountability Sep 08, 2019

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"How can I make someone do something I need them to do at work?" is one of the most common questions I hear as I speak to groups across the country. Most are surprised to find out that trying to change someone is nearly impossible - but you can stop enabling them. Enabling the behavior you don't want is typically what leads to so much conflict or behavior that isn't what you prefer.

This podcast dives deeper into this killer of accountability and gives you some practical ideas to ease the enabling in your life and as a leader.

Understanding the examples in this podcast and how much we are often enabling the exact behavior we wish we weren't seeing on our teams is a powerful step in evolving our leadership.

These concepts have been something I have spent a lot of time thinking about over the last 6 months or so.

So if you are someone wondering:

How do I change someone
How can I make someone step up
How can I lead differently
What can't I hold someone accountable?
How to make someone do something at work

Then this podcast will have some amazing ideas and examples for you!

If you have any feedback or questions let's continue the discussion at any of the places below:
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For more of my videos and behind-the-scenes footage of my keynotes and speaking engagements check out my YouTube Channel.

If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to learn more.

Can't wait you hear your guys' thoughts on this one and how thinking about this more continues to help you ditch the drama.

Have a great week! - Alex

The Hypocrisy of Transparency at Work Aug 25, 2019

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So many people are asking for transparency at work, but are then upset when it happens. Transparent feedback from their leaders seems to ignite the ego. Transparent numbers about how they are doing in their performance can trigger excuses. The transparency of the new internet world has been causing a ton of disruption as well because the tracking and analytics can show the true results of our work.

What we thought would do well in the market (for example a video project we created) only gets a few views once we see the metrics.

This episode talks through my thoughts on transparency as we continue to move to a world that is fueled by more data, more technology and more focus on expertise instead of opinions and how this interacts with drama in the workplace.

This shift has been super fascinating to see in the organizations I am speaking and consulting in. With this shift causing so much confusion, I thought I'd break down some examples of what I mean in this podcast episode.

Hope you all enjoy this one!

If you have any feedback or questions let's continue the discussion at any of the places below:
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For more of my videos and behind-the-scenes footage of my keynotes and speaking engagements check out my YouTube Channel.

If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to learn more.

Let's keep ditching the drama.