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Ep. 375: Haters, Trolls, and Angry Mobs... Oh My! Apr 12, 2023

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We all know the internet is full of angry people who are ready to join the closest mob, but knowing it is a different thing than experiencing it. Jill recently had a post on Instagram take off and it brought a lot of angry—and let’s face it, insecure—people into her comments. Not to mention, there was some recent Insta-beef between Jill’s ex, Jade, and another influencer. For whatever reason, some people tend to thrive on internet-takedowns and passive aggressive comments, and unfortunately this causes a lot of people to give up, sometimes before they can even begin. It may feel like angry mobs are everywhere, but kindness and respect will always win out.

Going (semi) viral on reels [3:22]

Hate comments from anonymous strangers [5:16]

Mob mentality and fragile self-esteem [8:12]

Own your power and your message [12:57]

The people you know hurt the most [16:17]

Starting beef via Instagram call-outs [18:42]

The “righteous” mob [22:38]

Intent, impact, and context [26:16]

Is it anyone’s job to police the internet? [28:12]

Operating on our biases [30:42]

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Ep. 374: Difficult Conversations with Friends Apr 08, 2023

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You might feel like holding back on tough conversations is the best way to salvage friendships but we disagree. Bringing up disagreements or having a difficult discussion might cause some friction, and in worst case scenarios you may lose friendships, but it’s also an opportunity to create even deeper connections. If we don’t allow ourselves to be fully authentic, we can’t expect to be loved exactly for who we are. That means having the tough conversation—not to point fingers or blame or argue, but to come to an understanding and move forward with deeper respect and affection.

Attraction marketing—for friendships [2:34]

Are you showing up as all of you? [6:11]

Having hard conversations with friends [8:42]

It’s not comfortable, but its a game changer [11:47]

The goal is to come to an understanding [15:09]

Circumstances changing [19:12]

Allowing relationships to get deeper [25:13]

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Ep. 373: Tips for Giving Up Drinking Apr 05, 2023

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Whether it’s by choice or it’s “forced” upon you, cutting back on or giving up drinking entirely is easier said than done. Having a cocktail is so much more than just getting drunk—it’s social connection, it’s relaxation, and it’s cultural. A life change like pregnancy or health issues that necessitate sobriety can you leave you feeling isolated and resentful for all the fun you “can’t” have, but maybe there’s another way. Drinking is becoming less and less popular, and it’s probably a good choice for most of us to analyze our drinking habits anyways. Alcohol is fun, don’t get us wrong, but it’s not the only way to unwind and connect.

Having the audacity to suck at something new [2:29]

Doing new things as we age [8:18]

Feeling left out when you’re not drinking [11:19]

Agency in quitting drinking [13:11]

Alcohol alternatives [16:57]

Analyzing your relationship with drinking [19:08]

Social alternatives [22:19]

Remember what’s really important [24:44]

A generational and cultural shift [30:34]

Support from your partner [34:12]

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Ep. 372: The Sex Talk You Never Had with Your Parents with Vanessa and Xander Marin Mar 31, 2023

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Talking about sex is a tricky situation. Most of us had a brief and most likely awkward sex-talk with our parents at some point, and were then left to figure out the rest by ourselves. Movies, books, and porn make up some of our first experiences with sex—how we should feel about it and what it should look like—which has left us all with a lot of baggage and confusion. Sex shouldn’t feel like pressure or performance, it should be fun! We were lucky enough to talk to sex therapist Vanessa Marin, and her business partner and husband, Xander Marin, about their work to destigmatize sex talk and keep the spark alive in sex lives everywhere!

A non-awkward way to ask questions about sex [2:18]

Becoming a dynamic duo [4:28]

The decision to build a personal brand [7:11]

What makes talking about sex so hard? [11:46]

Two different types of sex drives [15:34]

False portrayals of sex in media [20:01]

Requests disguised as questions [23:14]

Initiation and rejection [26:58]

Feeling obligated to give sex to your partner [33:12]

Working around differing arousal templates [35:25]

Navigating life and business with a partner [39:13]

Fuck First and making sex a priority [44:50]

What really kills libido [48:55]

The sexual conditioning and pressure put on men [51:04]

What happens when we have open conversations about sex [57:44]

A nightly make-out session [1:00:56]

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Ep. 371: Do Couple Need to Go to Bed Together? Mar 29, 2023

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Maybe you feel the same way or maybe you don’t, but we love to go to bed at the same time as our partners. People have different sleep schedules, sure, but isn’t it nice to have a dedicated moment of connection at the end of every day? And is it possible that incompatible sleep times means incompatibility in general? Let’s chat about it. (And if you’re curious How Danny snagged last-minute floor seats for Taylor Swift’s tour, you’ll definitely want to tune in!)

How Danny snagged last-minute Taylor Swift Tickets [1:31]

The magic of live performance [15:04]

Going to bed at the same time as your partner [17:05]

Incompatible sleep times as a couple [19:55]

Building intimacy at the end of a long day [22:01]

When are you prioritizing connection? [26:38]

The energy required to go to bed [29:47]

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Ep. 370: The Paradox of Aging Mar 24, 2023

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40 used to seem like an ancient age—practically dead already—but now that we’re there, we still find ourselves wondering what we’re gonna do when we grow up. There’s a lot of pressure placed upon us in our youth, and we found that once we reached 30, life got a lot more exploratory and a lot more fun. It’s been said that age is just a state of mind, and we believe it! You can kick and scream and hate getting old as much as you want, but you can have a lot more fun if you keep making new memories and look to all the best parts of getting older.

Talking more about our age as we get older [2:12]

Finally accepting our 40’s for what they are [4:46]

Age doesn’t feel how we thought it would [7:02]

The pressure to get it “right” by 30 [9:41]

You can live be a million different people in one lifetime [13:41]

Beliefs about aging effect how you age [15:37]

Keep making new memories [17:56]

The responsibilities of aging [20:31]

Where do expectations come from? [22:31]

You can kick and scream, or you can embrace it [25:50]

Getting excited about the next version of you [30:57]

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Ep. 369: Overcoming Burn-Out Mar 22, 2023

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Whether in life or in business, there are seasons of quiet and there are seasons of busyness. When shit gets hectic, feelings of resentment start to build and burnout starts to loom closer and closer. You can’t always force your life to be “less busy” so how can you manage the feelings of burnout, so that you can live your own life without hating every single second of it? It’s #TheBestLife, not #TheBurntOut life, and we want to feel exited and refreshed to start our days. While life may not ever be perfect, there are a few tools we can use to deal with the stress and minimize feelings of burnout.

An increased energy output [1:59]

Being able to manage your life [4:06]

Anchor actions to get you through the hard days [5:46]

Commit to what refills your cup [8:24]

Delegating + outsourcing so you can do the things you love [11:17]

Setting boundaries to keep you sane [13:31]

Where do you want to be and what can you handle? [16:58]

Get clear on where people can contact you [19:01]

Give your team a chance to do more [22:47]

The visionary and the integrator [26:51]

Put yourself first [28:52]

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Ep. 368: Waiting For The Other Shoe to Drop Mar 17, 2023

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Have you ever felt that unnerving sense that life was good—almost too good—and like something bad was going to happen at any second? Maybe it’s leftover hyper-vigilance from traumatic events, or maybe you’ve been conditioned to believe you don’t deserve to be happy. Whatever the cause, always expecting loss isn’t going to help you prevent it from happening. Your fears might be holding you back, or worse, you may be manifesting those fears directly into your life! Life is going to have really great moments, and some really shitty ones, too. Might as well spend all your energy looking forward to the great ones.

Expecting the worst to happen [3:06]

Is it a problem if you’re not holding back? [4:09]

A self-fulfilling prophecy of loss [7:10]

Hard doesn’t have to exist only in extremes [10:25]

Trusting yourself to handle any outcome [12:02]

Hyper vigilance is a waste of time [16:07]

If you’re going to expect anything, expect something good [18:27]

We all have access to personal development tools [21:20]

“Worthiness” comes down to conditioning [25:25]

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Ep. 367: The Pros and Cons of Breast Implants Mar 15, 2023

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Hey, Breasties! —Er... Besties. We mean Besties. We have boobs on the brain because one of you wanted to know some more about implants: should you get them, should you not? Neither Jill nor Danny was blessed in the breast department, but only one of us has experience with implants. Getting your boobs done isn’t a simple decision and if you’re thinking about it, there’s a lot to think about first. There are positives and negatives to whatever you choose, but what matters most is to make sure you’re not getting implants just to put a bandaid on your deepest insecurities.

To breast or not to breast [1:40]

Danny’s history with implants [4:30]

Recovery and complications from surgery [7:43]

Would she do it again? [10:37]

Looking proportional and natural [11:49]

Doing what’s right for you [13:54]

Implant options [16:27]

Feeling feminine [21:37]

Health and financial considerations [23:32]

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Ep. 366: Should We Be Marrying Up the Social Ladder? Mar 10, 2023

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Hypergamy: it’s an old concept with a new (to us) name. Hypergamy is all about getting into relationships with a person of a higher economic or social status. We’ve all heard about this from period-pieces of the past, but it’s still a practice used by some women, even now. In hindsight it makes sense; women generally want to be taken care of, and the men with the most resources often have the best chance to “provide.” But this is the 1st century, and women don’t need men to be the bread-winners anymore. Is there a way to make the men in our lives take care of us, if not just financially?

Marrying up the social ladder [1:04]

Marriage as an economic proposition [3:18]

Finding a mate with the “right” resources [7:12]

Are men threatened by a self-sufficient woman? [9:27]

Embracing femininity in different ways [12:04]

Give your men space to step up [14:43]

Let yourself get taken care of [17:29]

The Mary Magdalene Complex [20:34]

Is being a woman always a lose/lose? [23:16]

Dating as a parent [25:15]

Past Episodes on Femininity and Relationship Dynamics:

Ep. 200: Women Making More Money Than Men