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BONUS: Marc Goodman | Future Crimes and How to Protect Yourself Feb 24, 2015

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We must use grand thinking to secure the Internet.
"We are at the first minutes of the first hours of the first days of this internet revolution." -Marc Goodman
The Cheat Sheet:
What are steganography and script kiddies?
How air conditioning led to the Target security breach in 2013.
Is hacking becoming more complex or more simplified?
What are spoofing and swatting?
Why living in a "in screen we trust" culture is so dangerous, and what do to about it.
And so much more...
Today we live in an era of wi-fi enabled everything, but have you ever considered the consequences of such access? Or what will happen over the next few years as everything goes online from our thermostats to our clothes to our bridges? How vulnerable does that access make us to cyber attacks and what can we do to protect ourselves?
Here to share the good, the bad and the ugly on cyber security is Marc Goodman. Marc is the author of Future Crimes: Everything is Connected, Everyone is Vulnerable and What We Can Do About It. We dive into those topics and more on this bonus episode of The Art of Charm.
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More About This Show:
Whether we're aware of it or not, cyber crime and cyber attacks are becoming increasingly common. Today anyone with Internet access can download an app or software program to hack into your phone or your laptop and do any number of dubious things.
Marc Goodman spells out many of those dubious activities and what we can do to guard against them on today's show. As a former member of the LAPD, Marc has witnessed firsthand how far behind law enforcement is in this area. He says local and state level agencies are swamped with non-tech crimes to solve and they're also hampered by budgetary restrictions.
While they are doing their best to keep pace with technology's ever-changing landscape, cyber crime continues to grow. Over the next several years even more of our day-to-day lives will be online from our clothes to our televisions to our cars. It may not sound like much until you consider our energy grids are online, our traffic systems are online, our airplane management systems are online. Soon every aspect of our lives will be accessible via the Internet.
And we don't have the security to fully protect that information. Do you remember the breach at Target that happened during the 2013 Christmas holiday? It all stemmed from a third-party vendor who had been authorized to manage Target's HVAC systems. Millions of credit cards were breached through an air conditioning system, Marc explains how this happened in greater detail during this show.
But it isn't all doom and gloom! Marc believes the Internet advancements will also lift 2 million people out of poverty, help us feed the world and provide clean water for everyone as well as education. So long as we harness these advancements responsibly and learn to protect ourselves.
He gives specifics on what we can do on a global scale as well as an individual scale. For ourselves we can implement what he calls UPDATE:
U - update frequently.P - passwords. Use a different password for every site and get a reliable password manager (see the resources for suggestions).D - downloads. Watch your downloads and be cautious about what you install.A - administrator. Don't run your computer using the administrator account.T - turn off your computer. If it isn't fully turned off it's still accessible.E - encrypt. There are 2 types: you can encrypt the data on your computer and encrypt the data as it is sent out using a VPN.
There's much more Marc tells on this show. He shares some amazing stories and much-needed data so listen in to hear it all. Thanks to Marc for being here and thanks to you as well. We'll see you next time on The Art of Charm.
THANKS MARC GOODMAN!
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Resources from this episode:
Future Crimes web siteMarc Goodman's web siteMarc on TwitterThe AOC's VPN recommendationPassword protection recommendations: LastPass, 1Password, Dash LaneThe Art of Charm bootcamps
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379: Jairek Robbins | Live It Feb 23, 2015

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Learn it, live it and give it. "If you focus on serving others it adds purpose to your life." -Jairek Robbins The Cheat Sheet: What drives most high achievers? What is the archetype of the "do next" person and why should you care? Think winning the lotto will make you happy? Jairek shares a study that says it wouldn't. Can you fall in love with hard work? How does Jairek build his mind set? And so much more... One of the most common struggles we all face is finding our purpose. Even some of the most accomplished people in the world don't have purpose. And our guest for today has met and worked with them. Jairek Robbins joins us to talk about how to find happiness through purpose and discuss his book, Live It. We dive into those topics and more on episode 379 of The Art of Charm. Click Here to Support The Show and Get 10% Off Onnit! More About This Show: Jairek Robbins is no stranger to accomplishments and never has been. In his early 20s he earned a Congressional award gold medal for his achievements as a youth. Today in his coaching business he works with leaders to help them find purpose and happiness. On this episode we talk about why the drive to accomplishment is often based in an unhealthy desire for approval or a need to heal pain felt early in life. He shares stories of people who have had all the money and success anyone could dream of, but they were utterly miserable because they had no purpose. They thought money and success could win them the approval they desired, or heal that hurt from the past. And when it doesn't, they realize something is missing. Jairek helps them find that missing piece and add it to their lives. One of the exercises he suggests we all do is to find out if there's something missing in our lives is to check if our priorities are in alignment with how we spend our time. Jairek walks us through a step by step process to do this and how to get in alignment if we're not. We also talk at length about how to fall in love with hard work. He recounts a story of working as a logger in Canada for several months and the intensity of that experience. There are many valuable lessons he learned from that time including how to retrain our minds to enjoy difficulties. One specific thing he shares is to check your mindset. What is your brain telling you while you're working hard? Is it telling you that you deserve something more than what you've got? Or maybe it says you're smarter than everyone else so why should you have to do this type of work? Or perhaps your mind thinks you deserve more money, more respect, etc. Whatever those thoughts are catch them and become aware of them. When you do that, you can lower your expectations of what you think you deserve from life and raise what you bring to the table. If you really are smarter, then outwork everyone else and prove it! If you deserve more money then prove it! Along the way figure out how to make it fun. Jairek gives some examples from his time as a logger and if he can apply it to logging you can certainly apply it to your life! Jairek gives tons of value on this episode, be sure to listen and soak it all up! Big thanks to him for being here and thanks to all of you for joining us. We'll see you next time on The Art of Charm. THANKS JAIREK ROBBINS! If you enjoyed this session of The Art of Charm Podcast, let Jairek know by clicking on the link below and sending him a quick shout out on Twitter: Click here to thank Jairek on Twitter! Resources from this episode: Jairek Robbins's web site Jairek on TwitterLive It, by Jairek Robbins The Art of Charm bootcamps You'll also like: -The Art of Charm Toolbox-Best of The Art of Charm Podcast Wanna leave a comment? Too bad! Email me instead (we read everything)! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. Ways to subscribe to The Art of Charm Click here to subscribe via iTunes Click here to subscribe via RSS You can also subscribe via Stitcher FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming!

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Friday Five Minutes #3 Feb 19, 2015

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In this one: -Is it my job to convince people to listen to me "even though I'm white"? -A drill to help improve eye-contact and make it a habit HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming!

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378: Chalene Johnson | Push: The Real Way to Set and Achieve Goals Feb 18, 2015

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There is a simple trick to setting and achieving goals. "The thing that we focus on is what we accomplish." -Chalene Johnson The Cheat Sheet: What is the one thing that stops most people from achieving their goals? Why and how to create a fortress around your focus. This trait impacts every area of life: what is it? What's the one question you should ask yourself every day? What's a leghugger and why do you not want to be one? And so much more... All of us have set goals, gotten pumped up to achieve them only for that enthusiasm to fade and those goals to go unreached. Many of us have repeated this pattern over and over again with the same result. What if all along what we've been taught about setting and achieving goals has been wrong? Our guest for today's episode, Chalene Johnson, says there is one key step no one else talks about. Her book Push is about that very subject: the missing yet crucial step to setting and achieve goals. We dive into that and more on this episode of The Art of Charm. Click Here to Support The Show at our sponsor Lynda.com! More About This Show: Chalene Johnson is known by many for her success in the fitness world. Despite her humble beginnings in a poor neighborhood in Michigan, she has grown several multi-million dollar empires. She's a self-professed reformed workaholic who now shares the lessons she has learned through her podcast, her online academies and her book, Push. One of those lessons is how to set and achieve goals. Far too often people are setting goals but never reaching them for one reason or another. But Chalene has found the missing ingredient: it's called a push goal. A push goal, which is where the name of her book Push comes from, is that one goal you must achieve that will help you achieve all of your other goals. On this episode she breaks down the five step process, including how to discover your push goal. 1. Set 10 goals. Make these very specific. She recommends you set one goal in each of the following areas of your life: a get smart goal (something you want to learn), a pure joy goal (something that invigorates you and brings you joy), a goal for your romantic/love life, a goal related to family & friends, your spirituality, a goal for your environment (where you hang out like your office), a goal for your purpose/profession, a financial goal, a fitness/nutrition goal, a mental wellness goal. 2. Set another goal: this is your push goal. This is your goal that makes a lot of those other 10 goals possible. This is your PUSH goal, it's the goal that pushes all the other ones into happening. Your push goal will have a domino effect on a majority of your other goals. Set your push goal and ignore the other 10! 3. Brain dump. Get a No. 2 pencil and a piece of paper, and write down every possibility to make your push goal happen. When you have all of that written down, make sure it's all on one piece of paper for your next step. 4. Take a photo of that paper on your phone. And look at that photo every day, then pick 2 things to do every day from your brain dump list. Those 2 things are related to your push goal and should take you less than 10 min a day (generally). 5. Set an automatic reminder. Use your phone to create an app to remind you to decide which 2 things you're going to do today to reach your push goal. A great way to do this is to use the If This Then That web site, it can help you set up automatic reminders that arrive as a text to your phone. This is Chalene's 5-step process to setting and achieving goals, a system she has used herself time and time again with successful results! We also talk about confidence and why she's spending so much time on that one topic this year. Have a listen to hear the full scoop! Thanks to Chalene for her time and her wisdom, and thanks to all of you for joining us. We'll see you next time on The Art of Charm. THANKS CHALENE JOHNSON! If you enjoyed this session of The Art of Charm Podcast, let Chalene know by clicking on the link below and sending her a quick shout out on Twitter: Click here to thank Chalene on Twitter! Resources from this episode: Chalene Johnson's web siteCourageous Confidence Club Chalene Johnson on TwitterPush, by Chalene Johnson If This Then That web site Awesome Note The Art of Charm bootcamps You'll also like: -The Art of Charm Toolbox-Best of The Art of Charm Podcast Wanna leave a comment? Too bad! Email me instead (we read everything)! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. Ways to subscribe to The Art of Charm Click here to subscribe via iTunes Click here to subscribe via RSS You can also subscribe via Stitcher FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming!

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Friday Five Minutes #2 Feb 13, 2015

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Experimenting with a new type of Friday show to help kick off your weekend. No jibber-jabber, just a short solo show where we dig into listener mail and bite-size mini-lessons you can apply right out of the box. In this episode: -A feminist wonders if Jordan is 'anti-feminist' -A cat in Queens is surrounded by ignorant friends who hold him down. HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming!

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376: Craig Wilkenson | Masculinity and What it Means to be a Good Dad Feb 11, 2015

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You can be a good dad even if you grew up without one. "You don't have to play the man to be the man, you are the man." -Craig Wilkinson The Cheat Sheet: What are the three things that drive a man? What is the #1 thing a man must have to truly be a masculine man? The lesson we can learn about masculinity from South African elephants. Driven vs passion: what is the difference? Where does real charisma come from? And so much more… Even if you aren't a dad and don't plan to become one, fatherhood and masculinity are incredibly important subjects. Why? Our guest for today's episode says UNICEF has reported absentee fathers are the single biggest issue of our time. Craig Wilkinson is the author of Dad and was a single father of two for many years. On today's show we talk about why fatherhood is so important to our understanding of what it means to be a man, and what we all can do as men to help raise young men into healthy adulthood. All of that and more on this edition of The Art of Charm. Click Here to Support The Show and get 10% off Onnit! More About This Show: Craig Wilkinson is the proud father of two, and fully admits to learning how to be a good dad along the way. The first moment he consciously took a look at his role as a father was after his young daughter had heart surgery. He requested to be in the operating room as she was given anesthesia and to be there when she awoke after surgery, his request was granted. Not long after he overheard his daughter talking to someone about her surgery and she told them her heart had been broken but her dad fixed it. He was struck by the power and magnitude of her perception and her experience. He wondered if he could really live up to her words, and then made a commitment to be that father to her and to his son. Although it hasn't all been sunshine and roses, Craig has figured out a lot along the way and we dive into much of his discoveries on today's show. We discuss what three things really drive a man, the biggest lies we're told about what it means to be a man and he shares his dadverbs advice we can all take to heart. According to Craig the three things that drive a man are a battle to fight, an adventure to live and a beauty to pursue. But if a man isn't given validation growing up he will become passive and opt to seek these drives through video games, porn or shallow relationships, or he may become an overly-aggressive and dominant alpha male or he may simply pose and pretend to be someone he's not in order to impress others. If men aren't given proper validation from an older male role model they will also grow up believing in the lies society tells us are true. The top lies told about how masculinity is defined are: how much power you have, how much money you have and how many women you sleep with. To help males grow into their healthy masculinity Craig suggests using what he calls "dadverbs", or dad-related adverbs. We touch on a few in this episode including to see and to bliss. To see is when a male role model sees a younger man as separate from himself, having his own passions and interests that may or may not be in alignment with the role model's interests. The masculine role model provides this by being engaged, talking, and spending time with the younger man. The other dadverb is to bliss, which is when older men validate younger men for who they are, what they are passionate and curious about. Doing so allows the younger men to feel they are strong enough and good enough to follow their own path. Craig provides much more insight on this fascinating topic, tune in to hear the full scope of his wisdom! Then join me in thanking him for being here. And thank you for joining us, we'll see you next time on The Art of Charm. THANKS CRAIG WILKINSON! If you enjoyed this session of The Art of Charm Podcast, let Craig know by clicking on the link below and sending him a quick shout out on Twitter: Click here to thank Craig on Twitter! Resources from this episode: Craig Wilkinson's web siteDad, by Craig Wilkinson Craig on TwitterThe Art of Charm bootcamps You'll also like: -The Art of Charm Toolbox-Best of The Art of Charm Podcast Wanna leave a comment? Too bad! Email me instead (we read everything)! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. Ways to subscribe to The Art of Charm Click here to subscribe via iTunes Click here to subscribe via RSS You can also subscribe via Stitcher FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming!

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BONUS: Friday Five Minutes #1 Feb 07, 2015

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Experimenting with a new type of Friday show to help kick off your weekend. No jibber-jabber, just a short solo show where we dig into listener mail and bite-size mini-lessons you can apply right out of the box. HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming!

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374: Simple Pickup (Jesse and Kong) | What 'Pickup' Skills Teach About Value Feb 04, 2015

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Having pickup skills translates to every part of life. "You've got to just give value to the world without expecting something in return."-Simple Pickup The Cheat Sheet: How is Simple Pickup different than other pickup approaches? What was their "kissing controversy" really all about? How they teach men to create change in their lives: where does the power really lie? What they want to teach you about your ego and how not to be douchebag. How knowing what you don't want can be incredibly valuable. And so much more... If a guy wearing a Harry Potter costume can pick up a girl, so can you. That's one of the messages our guests for today share with their successful business, Simple Pickup. Jesse and Kong join us to talk about why their brand of pickup is different, why it's not what you think and how Simple Pickup's techniques carry over into every aspect of your life. All of that and more on episode 374 of The Art of Charm. Click Here to Support The Show and get 10% off Onnit! More About This Show: Jesse and Kong are, by most accounts, fairly ordinary guys. But on their YouTube channel for Simple Pickup they provide tons of entertaining and valuable content on the ever-popular topic of picking up girls. They have several hundred videos on their channel in which they attempt to chat up girls while doing wacky things from dressing up like Harry Potter to rollerskating while wearing a Speedo (and nothing else). While the videos are meant to provide laughs and good fun for everyone, they are also meant to show that regular guys they can pick up girls too. On today's episode we dive into their backgrounds and how their social anxiety played a key role in who they've become today as well as some useful techniques you can implement in your every day life. Both Jesse and Kong were not gregarious and outgoing guys by any stretch. They were painfully shy growing up and into early adulthood. In other words they understand where you may have been and where you might be right now. It's one of the reasons they make their videos silly and playful: to help you loosen up about the idea of chatting up women. Doing so, making yourself laugh and lighten up before doing anything you perceive as "high pressure" like talking to a pretty girl, is one of their suggestions. Whether you want to approach an attractive woman or you're going into an interview for the job of your dreams, they suggest doing something you enjoy and have fun doing to take the pressure off. If you can make yourself laugh you'll help your mind see the "high pressure" situation as much less so. Another suggestion they have on the topic of talking to women is to take baby steps. Start by talking to people in your every day life. Who do you see every day but don't chat with or haven't gotten to know? For example if you have a regular barista you see in the morning ask that person what their favorite drink is and then try it.You'll be surprised by how good it feels to simply talk to strangers, and it'll help your game with the ladies too because you'll be much more versed in the art of creating connection. They give more advice and suggestions on today's show, but they want to be sure to leave you with their motto: Always be giving value, always be having fun! Have a listen to hear all of that and more, then join me in thanking Simple Pickup for being on the show today. And thanks to you for joining us. We'll see you next time on The Art of Charm. THANKS SIMPLE PICKUP! If you enjoyed this session of The Art of Charm Podcast, let the guys of Simple Pickup know by clicking on the link below and sending them a quick shout out on Twitter: Click here to thank Simple Pickup on Twitter! Resources from this episode: Simple Pickup web siteSimple Pickup YouTube channelProject Go web site Simple Pickup on TwitterThe Art of Charm bootcamps You'll also like: -The Art of Charm Toolbox-Best of The Art of Charm Podcast Wanna leave a comment? Too bad! Email me instead (we read everything)! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming!

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373: Isaac Tolpin | Choose Growth Feb 02, 2015

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Being proactive will keep you successful. "There's no such thing as a balanced life, that's a complete joke! I think it's an integrated life."-Isaac Tolpin The Cheat Sheet: What is positive disruption and why is it important? The questions he asked that took his revenue from $5 million to $10 million. What is productive thinking and what is reproductive thinking? What's one of the biggest mistakes people make when raising their kids? How a racehorse taught him a valuable lesson about choice. And so much more... If we chose growth in the short-term, even if it's uncomfortable, we'll reap the rewards in the long run. Today's guest is a testament to that statement. Isaac Tolpin is the head of two successful and innovative businesses, has a vineyard, is a husband and the father of six kids. We chat about how Isaac's decision to chose growth has led to success in all of these areas, and much more on this edition of The Art of Charm. Click Here to Support The Show and get 10% off Onnit! More About This Show: Isaac Tolpin is an innovator and entrepreneur. His two businesses are at the top of their field, and it isn't by accident. Isaac has chosen growth over complacency, disruption over stagnation. On today's show he shares with us how he does this, the questions he asks himself and the people around him and how he juggles all of his priorities at work and at home. When it comes to choosing growth over staying the same, Isaac believes we can all do this by implementing productive thinking rather than reproductive thinking. Productive thinking is throwing off the existing constraints and reasons why something is the way it currently is. Put those reasons and constraints aside, then start questioning things. Ask yourself: "Why is it the way it is? Why do we do it this way? Is there a better way?" Answering those questions will open up possibilities that didn't exist before. Reproductive thinking, by comparison, is to simply make slight changes and improvements to stay ahead of the curve. Productive thinking changes the curve itself. If you really want to hone your reproductive thinking skill set, get clear on the quality of the questions you're asking yourself about the situation, about your leadership and about the fundamentals of your business. Isaac gives some great examples in today's show of how to do this and how he has done this. Even if we ask those questions and are committed to productive, revolutionary thinking, we can still make poor decisions. According to Isaac we can avoid this by creating an open dialogue with those around us. We have to be willing to ask for feedback, be open to receiving it and implementing it. All of this will help others speak up if they see us going down a bad path. Isaac specifically does this in his own life by finishing his work conversations with the question: how can I be a better leader? He also asks his wife how he can be a better husband. And when they answer him, he takes stock of what they said and then he finds ways to act on their suggestions. Doing so shows them they are valued by him, and in return their respect for him is increased. Although Isaac and I talk about much more on this show including how he stays focused and manages all of his priorities at work and at home, how he choses what to say no to and what to say yes to and, a big one, how to respond to naysayers including specific questions to ask yourself when they criticize your actions. You'll definitely want to hear all of that! After you do, join me in thanking Isaac for being on the show and thank you for joining us. We'll see you next time. THANKS ISAAC TOLPIN! If you enjoyed this session of The Art of Charm Podcast, let Isaac know by clicking on the link below and sending him a quick shout out on Twitter: Click here to thank Isaac on Twitter! Resources from this episode: Isaac Tolpin's web siteChose Growth's web siteThrowing Boulders' web site Isaac Tolpin on TwitterThe Art of Charm bootcamps You'll also like: -The Art of Charm Toolbox-Best of The Art of Charm Podcast Wanna leave a comment? Too bad! Email me instead (we read everything)! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming!

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372: Wesley Chapman | A Human Project Jan 28, 2015

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The control we give an experience is on us. "We have two options in life: we can be the victim or the hero."-Wesley Chapman The Cheat Sheet: What was his first entrepreneurial enterprise at the age of 8? Why he was on 25 pills a day until he was 16. What is H cubed and how can you use it in your own life? How comic books inspired him. Why did he meet his biological father at a Toys"R"Us? And so much more... At the age of only seven and a half our guest for this episode was told he would be lucky if he weren't in jail for murder or rape by the time he reached 25. And yet today he is a well-known and successful entrepreneur, husband and father who is helping other youth cope with the same difficulties he experienced as a child and teen. Wesley Chapman is the founder and originator of A Human Project, a for-purpose organization dedicated to helping abandoned, abused and neglected youth get the love and support they deserve. We discuss how vulnerability helped him heal and become not only a survivor of horrific abuse, but a testament to the capacity of the human spirit on this edition of The Art of Charm. Click Here to Support The Show and get 10% off Onnit! More About This Show: Wesley Chapman experienced more horrible events by the age of 16 than most of us do in our entire life. From sexual and mental and physical abuse to abandonment, Wesley experienced all of it as a child. His biological dad abandoned him when he was only a year old and his mom left five and a half years later. A family member took him in when he was eight and he was finally given some stability. As a child and into his teens he was also on many medication to treat the myriad of diagnoses he had been given. From ADD to PTSD to bipolar, he was diagnosed and prescribed something to treat it. Then he needed pills to treat the side effects of those pills, and the side effects of the side effect treatment medicines. All of which took its toll on his health. By the time he was 16 his liver failed and he had two options: get a transplant or hope his liver detoxed in enough time to save his life. His mom took him home, told him how he could detox and initially he resisted. But he turned to prayer and made a deal with God: if he did the detoxification, got off all the pills and God got him through it, Wesley would give to him in return. And it worked: Wesley detoxed, stopped his meds, lived through several days of nightmarish drug withdrawals and came out the other side with more clarity than he had ever had. With that clarity he finally understood he was allowing his abusers, some of whom weren't even in his life any longer, to run the show. He took responsibility, stopped being a victim and decided he wanted to be his own hero. With that honesty, the first of what he now calls his H cubed tool, he could heal his old wounds properly and fully. He understood he couldn't control what happened to him, but he could control how he responded to it. And when he grasped that concept fully he found hope, the last of his H cubed strategy. Wesley is taking his own personal lesson and helping others get honest, heal, and have hope. Though his primary demographic is youth, his programs at A Human Project also apply to adults. He has found immense power in being vulnerable with AHP and audiences in general; he learned how to let go of shame by sharing his story and being transparent in his experiences. He no longer hides what happened to him, and is an open book because he understands how doing so allows other people to work through their own shame, fears, and challenges. Wesley goes into even more detail on this episode, including what it was like when he finally met his biological father and why he does what he does. Please listen and join me in thanking Wesley for his candor, honesty and immense heart. As always, thank you for joining us and we'll see you next time. THANKS WESLEY CHAPMAN! If you enjoyed this session of The Art of Charm Podcast, let Wesley know by clicking on the link below and sending him a quick shout out on Twitter: Click here to thank Wesley on Twitter! Resources from this episode: Wesley Chapman's web siteA Human Project's web site Wesley Chapman on TwitterThe Art of Charm bootcamps You'll also like: -The Art of Charm Toolbox-Best of The Art of Charm Podcast Wanna leave a comment? Too bad! Email me instead (we read everything)! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming!

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