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393: Alex Kouts | The Art of Public Speaking Apr 13, 2015

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If you're serious about advancing your career and yourself, you have to be serious about your communication and speaking skills. Here, Alex Kouts gives us the edge we need to communicate well. The Cheat Sheet: What is the Rule of Threes and how does it apply to communication? How many presentations are given every hour around the world? Alex explains how and when to use humor in communication. Learn how to properly use visuals when speaking. What the Challenger disaster can teach us about slides. And so much more... Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/alex-kouts-the-art-of-public-speaking-episode-393/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming!

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Fan Mail Fridays #10 Apr 10, 2015

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In this one: -"What do I do with my life and how do I find out what that is? How can I play to my strengths?" -"Should I work smarter or harder? I hear a lot about both" -y mas! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming!

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392: Simon Sinek | Start With Why Apr 08, 2015

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What matters most is why you do what you do. Simon Sinek, best-selling author and visionary, joins us to talk about how to start with why and how to be a leader on episode 392 of The Art of Charm. The Cheat Sheet: What are the three levels our brain processes information? When we take work we love, we eventually make more money: true? What is shareholder supremacy and why doesn't it work? What was the Glass-Steagall Act? Can you still be a leader if you are not the boss? And so much more… Far too many of us go to jobs we don't love today. Have you ever wondered if there's a cost to doing so? Or if there really is a way to enjoy, even love, the work we do every day? Our guest for today's show says yes to both questions. Simon Sinek, best-selling author, visionary and speaker, joins us to talk about how to start with why, how to be a leader no matter your title, and how to find fulfillment in every area of your life. Simon Sinek is one of today's foremost thought leaders and visionaries; his personal reason for doing what he does is to inspire others to do what inspires them. On today's show he shares the missing piece of starting with why, the massive impact it has on your family and loved ones if you are unhappy in your work and how you can be a leader regardless of your position. If you ask someone why they do what they do, they probably won't have an answer. Simon says most of us know what we do and how we do it, but not why. The why is the missing piece of the puzzle. And it's that why that is so key to living an inspired and inspiring life. If we come home from our job and complain about it every day it not only makes us feel terrible and those around us, but it sets an example for our kids. We're showing our children that work has to be something that is endured and makes us miserable, rather than something that brings us joy, fulfillment, and purpose. But we can change all of that. If we run a business we can become a leader, and not just a boss. We can carefully select our new hires to be sure they are a fit for our company. And we can put our current employees first who will then put our customers first which will then lead to an increase in profits and growth in our company. If we aren't the CEO or a manager in our current company, we can still be leaders. We can start flexing this muscle in little ways by holding the elevator door for someone, and making a new pot of coffee if we drink the last cup. As leaders we choose to be responsible for the people around us and for their fulfillment and their growth, not just our own. Simon and I also talk about why a leadership buddy is so important, why most companies' hierarchy is so illogical, and why the economic decisions of the '80s and '90s are still having an impact on us today. Simon shared on those topics and more, so listen in to hear it all. THANKS, SIMON SINEK! If you enjoyed this session of The Art of Charm Podcast, let Simon know by clicking on the link below and sending him a quick shout out at Twitter: Click here to thank Simon at Twitter! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming!

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391: Steven Rambam | The Real Life of a Private Investigator Apr 06, 2015

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A private investigator's life isn't like what we see on TV. "No fraud can survive real due diligence." -Steve Rambam The Cheat Sheet: Prime bank guarantee fraud: what is it and how does it work? Why is the US a "garden of eden" for bad guys in general? How his TV show, Nowhere to Hide, came to be. Why his business doubled within 2 years following a bogus arrest. Are there scam lists and are you on one? And so much more... Have you ever wondered what the real life of a private investigator is like? Is it as exciting as it's made out to be on TV shows, movies and in books? Or do they just sit behind a desk, pushing papers and pens around? Today's guest is here to let us in on the reality of a real-life private investigator. Steve Rambam has been a PI for nearly 30 years, is the head of Pallorium, an agency of licensed investigators and has his own TV show called Nowhere to Hide. We talk about all of that and more on episode 391 of The Art of Charm. Click Here to Support The Show at our sponsor Lynda.com! More About This Show: Thirty years ago Steve got a call from a friend called. His friend promised Steve free beer if he'd to come to Texas and help catch some thieves who were stealing farming equipment. Steve agreed and shortly after found himself the proud bearer of a Texas state private investigator and security company license. Today Steve holds licenses in several states, as well as permits to work in other countries. He's the head of Pallorium and the man behind the TV show, Nowhere to Hide. Today we talk about some of his most interesting investigations, the two types of people who get taken in by a con artist and a few simple ways he recommends to protect yourself and avoid being taken advantage of. There are two types of victims who fall prey to a fraudster and his tricks: either the innocent ones or the ones with a bit of hustler in them themselves. The innocent people are the ones who fall for the affinity fraud: these are the people who give money to their pastor for a new church, only to find out the new church is really his new vacation home. Or the people who give to someone in their close-knit community. They assume the person can be trusted because he is part of their community. The hustlers who get taken in fraud cases are the people who think they're getting in on some kind of secret. They're being given inside info that no one else is privy to and love that fact. You often see CEOs or high-level execs, and other movers and shakers get taken in by these schemes. If you want to avoid being conned there are a few simple things to remember: no fraud can survive true due diligence. If you really do your homework you'll eventually spot a fraud. And if you hire someone either to help you investigate an opportunity or pursue a fraudster, make sure you do your homework on that person. Investigators, lawyers, and counselors all must be licensed so check on the status of your person's licensing. Steve also shares some incredible stories, including some you won't see on his TV show. Listen in and they'll help you avoid cams. Then join us in thanking Steve for his wisdom on this incredibly important topic. And special thanks to you for being here! See you next time on The Art of Charm. THANKS STEVE RAMBAM! If you enjoyed this session of The Art of Charm Podcast, let Steve know by clicking on the link below and sending him a quick shout out on Twitter: Click here to thank Steve on Twitter! Resources from this episode: Steve Rambam's web sitePallorium, Steve's company Steve's talk at The Next Hope: Privacy Is Dead Steve on Twitter The Art of Charm bootcamps You'll also like: -The Art of Charm Toolbox-Best of The Art of Charm Podcast Wanna leave a comment? Too bad! Email me instead (we read everything)! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming!

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Fan Mail Fridays #9 Apr 03, 2015

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In this one: -Strong feelings about the 'Chipotle Hack' -Spencer nails networking and makes it a habit, gets a job -Why volunteering can change the way you think about yourself and give you a new sense of purpose. HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming!

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390: Nev Medhora | How to Crash Parties and Grow Your Network Apr 01, 2015

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Nev Medhora (@nevmed) shows you how to stop letting your fear of rejection keep you from what you want. "No one is paying attention to you, everyone is too busy worrying about themselves." -Nev Medhora The Cheat Sheet: How Nev Medhora helped AppSumo get its first $10k day. Why is your non-verbal often more important than your verbal communication? How to use a British accent to get upgrades. Why did Nev turn down pitches from 60 Minutes and a reality TV show? What is Nev's #1 failproof trick to getting into any party? And so much more... Full show notes at https://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/nev-medhora-how-to-crash-parties-and-grow-your-network-episode-390/ Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming!

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389: Scott Stratten | Unmarketing Mar 30, 2015

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We are always marketing ourselves whether we know it or not. "You can't get rabid fans without rabid detractors." -Scott Stratten The Cheat Sheet: How he uses his appearance to his advantage. What can you learn from his speech at The Venetian? Scott debunks the myths of social media. How did his jackass whisper statement become his mantra? What two things will he never talk about and why? And so much more... If someone has ever made a negative personal comment directed at you you know how hard it is to brush it off. Our guest for today has learned firsthand how to let go of detractors and focus on the people who support him. Scott Stratten has been named one of the key influencers in the world. He's also the head honcho of Unmarketing, author of several books including one by that same name and is an international keynote speaker. We talk about what "unmarketing" is, why it stirred up so many naysayers and how he's dealt with them (and more) on episode 389 of The Art of Charm. Click Here to Support The Show and Get 10% Off Onnit! Today's show is also brought to you by Casper, Get $50 toward any mattress purchase by visiting Casper and using promo code AOC! More About This Show: If you saw Scott Stratten on the street you might mistake him for a homeless man; he's well-bearded with long hair, tattoos and usually wears jeans and a tee. But that appearance misleads many folks; Scott is a famous author, keynote speaker and entrepreneur who made his biggest splash with his Unmarketing brand. Today we talk about what that term unmarketing means, the commotion it stirred up (and continues to stir up), why he welcomes thoughtful debates and ignores trolls, and how important it is to create connections and build networks in every area of your life. Unmarketing simply means to stop marketing, start connecting and engaging. It's the idea that we become experts, position ourselves as such in front of our target markets so they chose us when the time comes. It is NOT the traditional means of marketing: splashing your goods and services in front of anyone with no regard for whether or not they're part of your target market. Unmarketing doesn't just apply to entrepreneurs and business owners though, it applies to all of us. Scott says we are all marketing and creating our own branding whether we know it or not. All of us are never not under review in any area of our lives from work to our relationships. Keeping with that idea he's been able to separate the critics from the trolls, and his advice applies for all of us. First and foremost he believes legit criticism is needed, and you'll know it's legit because it's not personal. The minute it becomes personal don't engage. Second, our job is never to convince others not to hate you; doing so simply drains your energy and your strength, don't waste your time on those people. He also gives a great example of how he dug his well before he was thirsty, and shares how that ties into unmarketing. We talk about the myths of social media, and much more! Thanks to Scott for sharing his wisdom and special thanks to you for being here! We'll see you next time on The Art of Charm. THANKS SCOTT STRATTEN! If you enjoyed this session of The Art of Charm Podcast, let Scott know by clicking on the link below and sending him a quick shout out on Twitter: Click here to thank Scott on Twitter! Resources from this episode: Scott Stratten's web siteUnpodcast, Scott's podcastUnmarketing, Scott Stratten's book Scott Stratten on Twitter The Art of Charm bootcamps You'll also like: -The Art of Charm Toolbox-Best of The Art of Charm Podcast Wanna leave a comment? Too bad! Email me instead (we read everything)! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming!

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Fan Mail Fridays #8 Mar 27, 2015

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In this one: -His mother passed: what to do now? -People from the ghetto need help from ANY race -Divorced with a kid and homeless before AoC HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming!

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388: Gretchen Rubin | Mastering Happiness Mar 25, 2015

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How you successfully create a habit may not work for someone else, and vice versa. "Habits are a good servant and a bad master." -Gretchen Rubin The Cheat Sheet: Why does the habit of making your bed matter? Is there a link between happiness and minimalism? What's the biggest myth of all according to Gretchen? What's the strategy of other people and why is it so crucial? How to know if you are an abstainer or a moderator. And so much more... If you've tried to change habits in the past but haven't succeeded you'll want to hear what today's guest has to say on the matter. Gretchen Rubin is the three-time best-selling author who has made a study of happiness and habits. We talk about her books, including her book Better Than Before: Mastering the Habits of Everyday Life, and the finer points of habit-formation and happiness on episode 387 of The Art of Charm. Click Here to Support The Show and Get 10% Off Onnit! More About This Show: Invariably Gretchen Rubin finds herself discussing habits with the people she meets, it's one of her favorite subjects. On today's episode you'll hear simple and effective habits to help you create a calmer, more orderly home. You'll also hear the strategy of the treat and loopholes we sometimes use to justify breaking a good habit. A simple and effective way to create a calmer, more orderly home is to use the one-minute rule: if it takes a minute or less, do it right away! When you get home, put your jacket away instead of dropping it wherever it lands. Your home will feel orderly and so will your mind. When it comes to forming everyday habits one effective strategy she recommends is the strategy of the treat. Choose a treat that's good for you and healthy and adds to your life, like buying new music every week if you're a music lover or lighting candles in your home. The treat needs to be something you do for yourself consistently, think of it as a way to refortify and take care of yourself rather than a reward you have to obtain. If you are taking care of yourself and staying restored you will be more likely to maintain other healthy habits because good treats bolster your will power and self-discipline. Gretchen also highlights a few of the loopholes we use to get out of "being good", these are rationalizations we make in the moment to break a healthy habit. There are over twenty she talks about in her book, Better Than Before: Mastering the Habits of Our Everyday Life, but one we discuss today is the self-actualization loophole. This is where the rationalization that it's ok to have this piece of cake because we need to enjoy life or we tell ourselves "you only live once". If you're using that train of the thought ask yourself how you'll feel about your decision later: will you feel good or will you not even remember that piece of cake? If you'll feel good and it will create a positive memory for you, then go for it. If it won't, then don't do it. We also talk about how to frame your treats, why we can't always create habits (even the fun ones!) and the power of accountability in creating last change. Thanks to Gretchen for sharing her wisdom and special thanks to you for being here! We'll see you next time on The Art of Charm. THANKS GRETCHEN RUBIN! If you enjoyed this session of The Art of Charm Podcast, let Gretchen know by clicking on the link below and sending her a quick shout out on Twitter: Click here to thank Gretchen on Twitter! Resources from this episode: Gretchen Rubin's websiteThe Happiness Project, by Gretchen Rubin Happier at Home, by Gretchen Rubin Better Than Before: Mastering the Habits of Our Everyday Life, by Gretchen Rubin Gretchen Rubin on Twitter The Art of Charm bootcamps You'll also like: -The Art of Charm Toolbox-Best of The Art of Charm Podcast Wanna leave a comment? Too bad! Email me instead (we read everything)! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. Ways to subscribe to The Art of Charm Click here to subscribe via iTunes Click here to subscribe via RSS You can also subscribe via Stitcher FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming!

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387: Geoff Thompson | Watch My Back Mar 23, 2015

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If we change one thing we change everything. "No one gets left behind but not everyone chooses to come with you." -Geoff Thompson The Cheat Sheet: Where do all fears exist? How did writing down all of his fears make a difference? Why he forgave the man who abused him. Why does certainty matter so much? What Buckminster Fuller can teach you about success. And so much more... If you knew all your fears only existed as a result of your belief in them what would you do differently? Would you actually write down every single one of them from smallest to greatest and then face them? That's exactly what our guest for today's show did and it completely altered the course of his life. Geoff Thompson, BAFTA-winning film writer and author of 40 books including his autobiography Watch My Back is here to talk about fear, creating your own reality and so much more on episode 388 of The Art of Charm. Today's show is brought to you by Casper, Get $50 toward any mattress purchase by visiting Casper and using promo code AOC! More About This Show: Geoff Thompson comes from humble origins; he grew up in a working class family and had working class friends and loved ones for most of his adult life. By the age of 32 he was working in factory and was in a deep depression. He knew he was meant for more but every time he tried to rise up his fears got the best of him and he could not overcome them. Deciding it was time to do something about that, Geoff made a list of everything he was afraid of from smallest to greatest fear. And then he systematically confronted each one. On today's episode he talks about what some of these experiences were like including why physical violence was at the top of the list and how he overcame the naysayers who surrounded him. When Geoff was only 11 years old he was sexually abused by a teacher in his community, someone he admired and respected greatly. When no one helped him deal with the experience, not his church and not his parents, he internalized the abandonment he felt and allowed the experience to "possess" him. The abuse he received became the reason he built himself into a fighting machine. He took away anything about himself that could be construed as attractive and made it ugly; he believed the world could not be trusted and everything around him soon reinforced that belief. Eventually Geoff saw he had to let go of all of the story he had created in order to build a new life. And letting go of it happened as a result of writing it down. His autobiography, Watch My Back, tells of his childhood including the abuse, his early adult years and how he shifted from a working class bloke in a bad neighborhood, in a bad marriage to a fulfilled, evolved and transformed, award-winning writer. We cover so much on this show but one of the main stories to listen to is how Geoff received his BAFTA. One of the principles he's learned and now teaches others is to give without conditions. What you give to the world will come back to you, often not from the same place you give it but it does come back. The story of how he wrote the film that later won a BAFTA is a perfect example of this. You'll also want to hear Geoff's perspective on dealing with negative people in your life. After he published his first book his friends and loved ones were calling him pretentious and telling him not to get above himself. How he rebuilt his life and let go of naysayers is a powerful lesson and Geoff's wisdom will resonate with you. Thanks to Geoff for speaking so candidly and with such grace on today's show. Extra thanks to you for being here! We'll see you next time on The Art of Charm. THANKS GEOFF THOMPSON! If you enjoyed this session of The Art of Charm Podcast, let Geoff know by clicking on the link below and sending him a quick shout out on Twitter: Click here to thank Geoff on Twitter! Resources from this episode: Geoff Thompson's web site Watch My Back, by Geoff Thompson Geoff Thompson on Twitter The Art of Charm bootcamps Click Here to Support The Show and Check Out 99 Designs! You'll also like: -The Art of Charm Toolbox-Best of The Art of Charm Podcast Wanna leave a comment? Too bad! Email me instead (we read everything)! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. Ways to subscribe to The Art of Charm Click here to subscribe via iTunes Click here to subscribe via RSS You can also subscribe via Stitcher FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming!

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