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46: How Your Hangups About Success Are Holding You Back with Abbey LeVine Sep 05, 2016

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I admit it: I've got some hangups. And as a woman entrepreneur, and someone who is on a journey of self discovery, I realize these hangups stand in my way. Until recently, I think I owned them -- dare I say embraced them -- as something that were just a part of me and who I am. But they don't have to be. I get to decide the kind of woman I want to be, and that kind of woman is one who doesn't let hangups about support and or fear of success stand in her way!

How did I come to this realization? As I mentioned, it's a journey, but along this journey it's people like the cool-as-hell radio show host Abbey Levine of LeVine Intervention, who hold up that all-so-important mirror and make me ask myself the tough questions. When I was a recent guest on Abbey's radio show, she dug in, and pushed me to see that yes, I am successful, and yes, I do deserve to be seen and yes, I deserve support because, hell, support is sexy!

I loved the interview so much that I asked Abbey if I could share it with you all on the Support is Sexy podcast, and she agreed. You'll hear me dive into where I think my hangups come from and what challenges I face, and hear me get vulnerable about my discomfort with being seen. Even what Abbey wrote in her description of my episode: "Elayne is a superwoman, reaching global audiences as CEO of Chic Rebellion Media, on the verge of Oprah-like status," made me recoil a little bit. I love it, sounds great! But who? Me???

Abbey's intervention helped me realize I gotta get over this, now, and that there are ways that this could be standing in my way not only of success, but, as I later realized, of helping others. I meditated on our conversation and what it revealed to me is this: My success means I will be able to be of more service to more people. Have a listen, and let our conversation be of service to you...

On this episode you'll learn...

The importance of asking yourself: "What would this look like if it were easy?"Let go of the how.Realizing when you're playing small.How fear of success and fear of being seen will hold you back.Contemplating what would be possible if you got your blockages out of the way.How to meditate on your success.Realizing there's no magic in perfection.There is no "they."Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes!

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45: How to Recognize Your Inner Critic vs. Your Whisper Sep 02, 2016

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Let's face it: Your inner critic is loud af. She means no harm; in fact, she's there because she wants to keep you safe. But what she ends up doing is keeping you small.

Your whisper, on the other hand, is affirming. She quietly encourages you to go big. Super big. Scary big. She knows it's what you need, she's clear that your magic exists outside of your comfort zone. Your whisper tells you to go there. She knows you can do it. She asks, why not you, and why not now?

On this episode, I share moments that we might encounter both of these voices, within our businesses and within our lives, and how to respond in those moments. Be aware of what you're paying the most attention to, where you're placing the most value. Trust your whisper -- she has your back.

On this episode you'll learn...

The difference between your inner critic and your whisper.What your inner critic says vs. what your whisper says and how to know the difference.Your bicycle will become a motorcycle.For now is not forever.Ask empowering questions.How your mistakes make you stronger.

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44: All the Way Up with Master Life Coach Sylvia High Sep 01, 2016

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For transformation coach Sylvia High, entrepreneurship was part of her life's journey. After many years of crushing it in corporate sales and reaping all of the perks of that success (the bonus checks, the company car, etc), Sylvia finally accepted her truth: This wasn't it, and there had to be something more. She didn't know the answer to what that more was, but she knew the question: Why am I here?

On this episode of the Support is Sexy podcast, Sylvia -- now an author, CEO of Aiming High, a speaker who has appeared at events for Oprah Winfrey and Tyler Perry, a consultant and coach to individuals, groups and companies around the world, and creator of the I Am Woman Conference -- dives deep on the importance of asking the empowering questions, and the moves you need to make when you get the answers. Plus she tackles knowing the difference between a good idea and a God idea.

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On this episode you'll learn...

How to respond once you have the answers to the big questions.Realizing you're the common denominator when issues continue to ariseThe importance of operating in integrity with what matters to me.Determining when you're most alive.How to kick your addiction to answers.How lack of discovery affects your business.How to ask powerful, empowered questions.How to have a good relationship with conflict.How to create a next level life.Know that you have a choice in all things in your life.You are the author of everything. Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes!

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43: Redefining and Rediscovering Your Magic with Sydney Campos Aug 31, 2016

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For Sydney Campos, it's all very simple: She wants "people to be happy and to have fun." It's what she has wanted from the very beginning, since the time she was a little empathic girl growing up in San Francisco. Today, now thriving off the energy of New York, Sydney has created a business that has a similar vibe with her new company Make Only Magic. By combining marketing and branding support with coaching and holistic practices, Sydney helps her clients -- who she calls "conscious creators" -- realize pathways to compassion and connection through their brands and within their lives.

On this episode, Sydney talks about how to redefine and embrace the word magic; the shift in the business landscape that now has companies knowing how important it is to have more meaning; and how to create a business that taps into a mission bigger than itself.

On this episode you'll learn…

3 tips for women entrepreneurs to embrace their magicWhy, if you're in college, you should take courses that inspire you, not for a job you think you'll have the rest of your lifeHow to thrive in the new economyWhy going through recovery was a transformative part of her journey to spirituality and self-love.The power of going into a job, position or opportunity knowing what you want to learn from it.The importance of knowing when it's time to move on.Knowing that you have the option to say "this isn't a good fit for me," especially if it literally makes you sick.Beware of the curse of knowledge.Operating with an abundance mindset.How to have fun, even when it's scary.

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42: Mastering the Smart Hustle with ScaleTime CEO Juliana Marulanda Aug 30, 2016

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For Juliana Marulanda, CEO of ScaleTime, her mom provided an early example of hustle that the then 7-year-old would never forget. Before Juliana realized it, she was learning important lessons about business, knowing your market, managing the money and more while she and her recently-laid-off-mom sold aguardiente -- a traditional Colombian liqueur -- in the streets of Queens, New York. What she learned the most was the importance of realizing that opportunities are around you no matter what's happening in the market, and that your job is to figure out how to solve a problem and be of service to people.

Since then, Juliana has looked at the best ways that she can serve her clients of entrepreneurs, who are scaling their businesses. On this episode she talks about the importance of delegating, how to avoid burnout, how to manage your time and why, as an entrepreneur, you need to get a life!

On the episode you'll learn…

How to recognize the smart hustle.The importance of being aware of the user's experience.Why you shouldn't start a business out of ego.How to determine what your market needs and what problem you're solving.Why working 24 hours a day is NOT a badge of honor.Her 3 time-management hacks for entrepreneurs.Being aware of time suckers and rabbit holes.The importance of metrics and timelines for solopreneurs.The dangers of "thoughting" vs. executing.How to get over your fears about pricing.

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41: Celebrity Stylist Pamela Macklin on Understanding Fashion and #TALKINGBEAUTY Aug 29, 2016

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Pamela Macklin always knew she was meant to be three things: a leader, a creative and an educator. Over the past 20+ years in the fashion industry – as a style director for Essence magazine and an image maker, who has created looks for — and told the stories of — some of the most iconic people in the entertainment industry, she has been able to explore all of those parts of herself.

Most recently, the Fashion Institute of Technology instructor celebrated her latest creation, an event called #TALKINGBEAUTY, which evolved from an idea that came to her one afternoon while lounging in her place in New Jersey. The event brings together women for food, fellowship and honest conversation about beauty and what they want from the products they use. On this episode, Pamela talks about what putting on the event taught her about overcoming fear, taking inspired action, the importance of partnering and the beauty of expansion.

And Pamela's key question that kept her motivated? "Why not??? DO!"

On this episode you'll learn…

The importance of getting over our own "stuff" and pushing boundaries.People are always watching.The power of being your honest, authentic self.How unplugging and being aware of life opens the door to opportunities.How to be flexible, not rigid, and expand.How working in retail helped her transition into the fashion industry.Why you must know what you're great at!Experiment to learn what you love and to discover your gifts.Why we all need a big fan and a big critic.What it means to know that you are a brand and what message you're sending.What gets in our way as women.

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40: Lessons Learned From the First 40 Episodes! Aug 26, 2016

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Wow! Episode 40! What an amazing ride, and this is just the beginning!

It has been an honor to interview and share space with the women we've featured thus far on the Support is Sexy podcast! I cherish the opportunity I've had to learn so much more about them and from them. Beyond tips about business or strategies for success, these creative women drop jewels in the form of life lessons, many of which I have already incorporated into my own life!

So, recognizing the importance of celebrating the wins along this journey, I am sharing four life lessons I've learned from the first 40 episodes! And a big thank you to you for being along with us for the right! More to come!

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The importance of discovering your gifts.Why you should say "yes!"The right questions.The truth about you WHY.

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39: How Brooklyn Girl Anne Chertoff Became the Queen of Bridal Aug 25, 2016

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Anne Chertoff is the woman you want to help get you down the aisle. Sort of. Since she was younger, Anne has always loved throwing parties and events, and as she matured and began her career as a magazine editor, she fell into bridal and fell completely in love.

Today, in addition to being a busy mom of two, Anne consults a bevy of brides on the details of their weddings, works with companies, such as Vera Wang, covers bridal for several publications and web sites, appears on television giving bridal tips and is the founder and editor-in-chief of the wedding web site TwirlWeddings.com. Though she isn't a wedding planner (and doesn't want to be), Anne talks about the benefits of knowing the ins and outs of the wedding business, finding your niche, doing what you love, getting help and why you should consider her your wedding "best friend."

On this episode you'll learn…

The importance of having a team, especially as a consultant.The benefits of finding a niche that allows you to do a little bit of everything.The joys of doing what you love.How the weddings business works.Why national weddings magazines are closing and local markets are thriving.The truth about weddings reviews (and what you need to know).Some of her favorite weddings resources.What she wishes she knew before her own wedding.Her top favorite (and least favorite) bridal trends.And why she's not trying to be supermom.

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38: Teen Actress Eden Duncan-Smith on Acting, Activism and Self Love Aug 24, 2016

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If you're going to talk about Eden Duncan-Smith, make sure you get her name right. In response to the dude from TMZ who mispronounced her name when revealing how much money the 16 year old made when she co-starred in the 2014 movie, Annie, Eden says the first thing she thought was: "Boy, you need to get my name right!"

Eden, pronounced eh-den, first fell in love with acting when she was 9, but when she was younger and auditioning, she didn't take it seriously. Until Lion King changed everything. After seeing the play and having friends who appeared in it, the self-described whimsical girl decided to get focused. At age 10, out of 500 kids auditioning for the role of young Nala, she got a call back that same day.

Today, as a triple threat performer, Eden realizes she has experienced so much more than the average teenager since she has been in the entertainment business. She has had to manage up, perfect her interpersonal skills and learn how to have thick skin, all by age 16. Now she says it's "second nature," and it's a skill that we all need for life, not just acting.

On this episode of the Support is Sexy podcast, Eden talks about her journey from the early days of starring in the Tony-award-winning revival Fences with powerhouse actress Viola Davis, her mentor, to her upcoming project, Roxanne, Roxanne, with another mentor, actress Nia Long, and she openly shares the real deal on what it means to be a child actor, how to get into the business, and how to stay grounded in an industry that can easily get you caught up.

On this episode you'll learn…

Eden's advice for young black actorsHow to stay focused on what's importantWhy you need to have the talent then cultivate itThe first step to getting into the businessThe benefits of "cattle calls"How to stay grounded as a young woman in the entertainment industryWhat you need to be aware of about social mediaWhat people misunderstand about the businessWhy her activism is around getting more girls to love themselves

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37: Decisions? Decisions. Decisions! Aug 23, 2016

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Decisions. They are a part of our lives, day in and day out. Yet we often agonize over them each time we have to face one that we think really matters. But they all matter, don't they? Our decisions shape our lives. I heard Tony Robbins say in a recent interview with Tim Ferriss that, "It's your decisions, not your conditions, that shape your life." And whether the decision is right or wrong, it doesn't even matter. What matters is: was it the best choice you knew to make at that time? Was it the next best move? If so what more can you ask?

I've had moments where I've been paralyzed, or on autopilot just doing what I've always done, because of indecision. Whether it was because I was comfortable, confused or complacent, I admit there are times when I have avoided making a decision for fear of making the wrong choice -- or, more accurately -- the winning choice. As entrepreneurs, as women, as ambitious go-getters, the "winning" choice is always on our minds. How do I win? You may phrase it as, "How do I make this happen?" But what you're really experiencing, in most cases is, how do I win at this? Or how do I avoid getting hurt? Or how do I avoid disappointing anyone? How do I avoid regrets? How do I avoid rejection? How do I make a decision, but still play it safe?

That's the thing. With most decisions, especially those that have the potential to change your condition or the trajectory of your life, you cannot play it safe. Sure, you want to be smart, you want to take care of yourself. But you if you want to experience the magic, something new, something inspired, something that could move you forward, you have to skip safe and see what it's like outside of your comfort zone. And yes, it's sometimes scary AF out there. But that's where you belong, where you thrive, where you show the world -- and most importantly yourself -- what you're made of and what matters to you. Make the decision!

On this episode of the Support is Sexy podcast, you'll learn...

Five things I've recently come to realize about decisions. How mine have impacted my life.How I plan to take a new approach to my decision-making moving forward. The importance of "maintaining fidelity to your purpose."The power of deciding what matters and what doesn't.

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