Stop Wanting Him Back & Find Someone Better

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How Your Heartbreak Can Save Your Life Oct 24, 2022

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I’ve had clients tell me that this work has saved their lives. It is always so incredibly kind and nice to hear, but honestly, I’ve always had a bit of a hard time receiving that fully. Yes, I wholeheartedly believe that this work is so incredibly important, but it doesn’t feel like it’s on the same level as someone who physically and literally saves lives. Then this week, I heard about a woman who was in a relationship where, if she had done this work of healing her heart and getting coached, I believe she may still be alive today.

In this episode, I share with you the story of Moriah Wilson, a woman whose life was sadly cut short due to an awful situation in her love life. I share with you how I believe things could have been different if she was getting coached on healing her relationship with herself, which is what I coach my clients to be able to create for themselves. I also detail how other aspects of this work, and while they may not literally be live saving, they can figuratively save your life by completely changing your life for the better in very big ways.

If you are ready to take the plunge and really invest in healing your relationship with yourself and saving your life, then I invite you to apply for my program Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. I now offer my program in both six and twelve month options and in this program, I guide my clients to the results of healing their hearts, falling in love with themselves, and finding someone better. If I was able to transform my life with this work, then I guarantee you that I can coach you to get the results of healing your heart too. To learn more, visit my website at: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/

Topics In This Episode

The skills you can develop through this work in order to save your own life
You’re out there swiping with strangers, which can be dangerous
“Let’s be friends” is bullshit
Being aware of shady behavior and walking away when you smell trouble
This work will illuminate where you may not be showing up for yourself
Five ways this work has saved my client’s lives

PLEASE NOTE: Claire refers to her exes and the listener’s ex as a “he,” based on her own personal experience as a heterosexual female, but this work can be applied to ANYONE going through heartbreak. ALL genders and sexual orientations are encouraged to listen and apply Claire’s tools into their own lives!

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Handling Social Pressures of Being Single Oct 17, 2022

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As a woman who was dating in LA in her 30s, I can tell you that I was no stranger to people asking me why I was still single and I had my fair share of friends and loved ones asking why I wasn’t married yet. Recently a client came to the group coaching call after family members said some not-so-kind words about her still being single, and I know she’s not the only one experiencing this. Let’s talk about how you can handle these conversations and establish healthy boundaries with your loved ones. And also, let’s look at how your being single isn’t a problem. In this episode, I share with you what your work is if this sounds familiar, when your being single becomes a problem, and how you can move through this to find your person.

In this episode, I also share a couple of updates for you regarding my course. I’ve shared that I have been working on creating new videos for my course, and they are coming soon! So with that, I want to let you know that the course, at its current price point of $597, will be going away. The last chance to purchase the course is by 11:59 pm PST on October 21, 2022. The course will then return in December with an additional 20 videos and it will be at a higher price point. To purchase the course before it goes away, visit my website at: https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/thecourse

Topics In This Episode

You thinking it’s a problem, is a problem
Identifying what isn’t working for you
Getting triggered from old wounds
Removing the rose-colored glasses from your past
Owning the fuck out of your singledom
Clean versus dirty desire for love
Intentionally dating yourself without thinking something is wrong with you
It will be better with him, but it’s a choice to believe that it sucks without him

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Why You Can't Let Him Go Oct 10, 2022

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“I have a confession to make.” This is something a client recently said when she wanted to let me know that she had, in her words, “relapsed”. And let me tell you, this has happened to many many clients before. This was something I used to do, so I get it! You are used to the good feels of being around them, waking up in their arms, spending time with them. And being alone can feel really hard and scary, so all you want to do is reach out to them to get a hit of those good feels again. My loves, there is no judgement here. I just want to coach you on how you can move through these feels and create the result of finding your forever love.

I would love nothing more than to be the coach that helps you find your ideal person, which is why I’m happy to announce some updates to my group-program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. I have recently decided to make the program available for six months instead of a year. I have seen clients make big, amazing transformations in as little as six months, so I wanted to create this new option for you. Also, I am now offering a payment plan. For more information and to apply, visit my website: https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/

Topics In This Episode

Taking responsibility versus beating yourself up
Going back to your ex is neutral
When you just want to feel the feeling of being with him again
The effect it has on your future when you go back to your ex
Starting to behave like the version of you that is over him
Intentionally creating new things that you can feel proud of
Teaching your brain that he is a hard no

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What You'll Do For Love Oct 03, 2022

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I’m willing to bet that most of you have gone above and beyond for love, and sometimes, to your own detriment. Maybe you compromised on your core values, or you diminished yourself for someone else who ultimately, wasn’t worth it. I definitely have gone over and beyond in relationships, and with people who were not deserving. And at the same time, I am now in my ideal relationship with the man of my dreams, and there are decisions I have made and things I have done that I never thought I would have done. And yet, here I am, about to celebrate three years of being with the love of my life. In this episode, let’s examine your negotiables, your nonnegotiables, and your reasons why, so that you can be clear on them and be able to find your perfect love, too.

If you are ready to invest in yourself and dive deep into healing your heart and your relationship with yourself, then I highly suggest you purchase my 60-video course where I walk you through the process step by step. You can find out more information on my website at: https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/thecourse. I also offer a group coaching program where we take the foundations from the course and go next level with the healing and the work. To learn more, you can apply at: https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/

Topics In This Episode:

Creating satisfaction as a single woman with who you are and where you are
Make the decision to never tolerate crumbs again
When to let go of the details and trust
If you don’t open yourself up to the possibilities, you may never find the ideal love you’re looking for
Some of the choices I have made that I didn’t expect, being in my ideal relationship
Staying committed when you’re frustrated with swiping
Is it hard out there? Or are you the one making it hard for yourself?

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Love And The Menstrual Cycle Sep 26, 2022

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I’ve got to be honest with you - I have never really thought about the connection between dating and the menstrual cycle. That is why I am so excited to have Lisa de Jong back on the podcast! Previously, she was a guest in the episode Irish Love where she shared her journey of healing her heart and finding love. Now she’s back to give us the low down on trauma and the menstrual cycle, her personal journey with this work, and how it relates to our abilities to manage our emotions, which is critical in being able to heal our hearts and find love. This was a fascinating topic to learn more about, and I hope you enjoy this conversation.

If you are looking to invest in yourself and heal your heart in the same way that Lisa did, you can find out more information on my website at: https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/thecourse. I also offer a group coaching program where we take the foundations from the course and go next level with the healing and the work. To learn more, you can apply at: https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/

Topics In This Episode

Experiencing physical pain can create lasting trauma in our bodies
Different types of traumas
The relationship between stress and sex hormones, and their impact on the menstrual cycle
Building safety in your nervous system
Handling past traumas as you navigate your dating life
Being able to separate your brain from your body
Create space and allow yourself to feel your feels
Relationship between seasons and the menstrual cycle
The peak time to date in your menstrual cycle

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When You Keep Attracting F Boys Sep 19, 2022

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When I say “F-boys” we all know the exact type of person I’m talking about. These are the guys who have Peter Pan syndrome. They never grow up, they play games, they don’t want a real relationship, and sometimes it can feel like they are the only men that you are attracting. And now you want to know how to stop attracting those dicks so you can begin to find your ideal person. I can tell you, even when you’re doing the work and it feels like you’re doing everything right, those F-boys are still going to show up. So in this episode, I share with you how I coach my clients who keep attracting those F-boys, and what your work is so that you don’t fall into a victim mentality and you stay focused on creating the result of finding Mr. Right.

I believe that we all have blind spots. Maybe you feel like you’re doing the work, and it just isn’t working anymore. Or maybe you’re looking to take your work to the next level and really invest in healing your heart and calling love in. I would invite you to buy my course or apply for my one-year group coaching program, both with the same title as this podcast. Through the course and the program, I guide you through healing your heart, falling in love with you, and finding someone better. To learn more and apply, visit my website: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/

Topics In This Episode

The results you create when you have a victim mentality
Why it is so critical to understand how your mind works and know your triggers
This work applies to much more than just F-boys in your dating life
Your willingness to create the result you’re looking for
Believing that you can’t handle the unavailable men
Being unattached to the when, the how, and the who, while also being willing to attract the fuck boys
Looking for the lesson you should be learning

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Episode 5, My Heartbreak Story

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When You Don't Write Him Off Soon Enough Sep 12, 2022

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Last week I did an episode called Writing Him Off Too Soon and this week we’re swinging to the other side and we’re looking at ways you may not be writing him off soon enough. If you have done the work to heal your heart and now you’re in the finding someone better stage, it is critical that you aren’t wasting time with someone who definitely isn’t your Mr. Right! Maybe you are really feeling the good feels and you’re letting some things slide, or maybe things are going a little too fast and you aren’t sure how to slow it down a bit. In this episode, I share with you 6 signs you should write him off so that you can find your person.

As with everything I discuss on this podcast, it’s important that I share the disclaimer that these aren’t hard and fast rules that apply to every single person. Every person and every relationship are different, and something that works for someone else, may not work for you. Or maybe someone else’s red flags are green flags for you. If you are looking for coaching on your heart and your relationships specifically, then I highly encourage you to apply for my group program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. In this program, you have access to my course and you are able to get coached specifically based on what you need. To learn more, you can apply at: https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/

Topics In This Episode

Signs of love bombing
You get to create the opportunity to ask for what you need
Setting boundaries with physical intimacy
Staying aware of the reality of what is happening and not getting swept up in the feels
When he’s sending mixed messages
If he wants to see you, he’ll find the time and make you a priority

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Episode, Writing Him Off Too Soon

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Writing Him Off Too Soon Sep 05, 2022

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I love to see all of the wins and healing my clients are creating. They are doing amazing at healing their hearts, stepping into new relationships with themselves, and some are ready and are putting themselves out there in order to find someone better. And now I’m seeing that a few of my clients are so clear on what they will and will not tolerate that they are ready to jump ship over things that I believe are relatively small. Let’s take a look and how to pay attention to things you do or don’t like while also not writing him off too soon.

In this episode, I share with you 7 examples of what I hear my clients say that make them want to write someone off when I believe they should give him a chance. I also share with you some examples from my dating history of when I was a bit more flexible with my likes and dislikes with a partner. And I even discuss some of the things with dating Larry where someone else may have written him off or had a moment of pause, but why they didn’t stop me. And because they didn’t, I now get to live in the result of living in my ideal relationship.

If these are the kinds of epic results you are looking for, and you’re really interested in next-level fine-tuned coaching on you individually, I invite you to purchase my course, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better, or apply for my one year group-coaching program of the same title of this podcast and course. Coaching is all about looking at our thoughts and investigating our actions so that we can create what it is we desire. To learn more and apply, visit my website, https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/

Topics In This Episode

It’s ok to have some hard and fast rules. It’s just all about getting clear on your rules and your reasons why
When you use your rules against yourself
Are you waiting for him to show up? Why?
What you’re making it mean might not be the reality of the situation
Staying open, even if it doesn’t feel like a perfect fit
Letting go of societal pressures and what you think your relationship should look like

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Everyone's Married Except Me Aug 29, 2022

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My loves! I have some big exciting news to share with you! My bestie, Jamie McKeowen, a badass holistic health coach and previous guest on this podcast, is back. And not only that, but she’s here to share with us her engagement story! You’ve heard Jamie on this podcast in previous episodes talk about her journey through healing her heart, finding her now-fiance Michael, and now she’s here to tell the big proposal story.

For someone on the outside looking in, they might think that since I’ve been with Larry for longer than Jamie has dated Michael, that I might have jealousy or have been triggered by this big news. However, not only is that not the case, but I am so excited that it feels like it’s happening for me, that’s how over the moon I am for Jamie.

I do know, though, that there are many women out there who see engagements, pregnancy announcements, or see others progress in their careers and it does trigger them and create some really tough feelings. So on this episode, that’s why I want to talk about how I got to this place where I am no longer triggered and how I got to this place of true joy and celebration for my friend.

Jamie is just such an absolute success and proof that this work, works. She and I were both single in LA, and she saw me create this work that I do now of healing hearts and calling in love. It’s how I created my ideal relationship with Larry, and now, how Jamie has created her ideal relationship with Michael. If these are the kinds of results you are looking for, then I highly suggest you purchase my 60-video course where I walk you through the process step by step. You can find out more information on my website at: https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/thecourse. I also offer a group coaching program where we take the foundations from the course and go next level with the healing and the work. To learn more, you can apply at: https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/

Topics In This Episode

When you believe something is in the cards for other people, it will continue to play out that way
Everyone is on their own journey, with their own timelines
You can hold 2 things at once - both sadness for yourself, and happiness for others
It might look different than how you picture it, but the reality that you create can be even better than the fantasy you’ve always imagined
Being committed to following your own path
Creating peace with where you are right now

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Irish Love Aug 22, 2022

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I am a very proud Irish woman, and I have many clients who are Irish, too! It’s really a joy to work with women who come from similar backgrounds as me because I feel like I really truly understand where they’re coming from, and the cultural expectations Irish women face. I am very excited to have another guest this week, Lisa DeJong, a client of mine who, through listening to this podcast and going through my course, has created the results of healing her heart, falling in love with herself, and certainly finding someone better.

In our conversation, Lisa shares her journey through each step of my 5-step process, and the growth she has experienced along the way, both in her dating life and in other areas of her life as well. We also discuss what it’s like as Irish women of dealing with Irish Catholic guilt, dating as Irish women, and confronting that fear-based negative response that just comes naturally to us. She also talks about what it has been like finding love, and what makes this new relationship so different.

And for a limited time, I also am excited to share with you my new webinar, called Will He Come Back? This webinar is really focused on those who are still really in the thick of it with their heartbreak. I know that when we’re heartbroken, this is one of those repetitive thoughts or desires that we have surrounding them coming back and fixing things and no longer being heartbroken. You are not alone. Dive in on getting the answers to your questions and healing your heart. To learn more about this webinar, go to https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/willhecomeback.

Topics In This Episode

Feeling the pain of pining
It’s uncomfortable to do the work, but so is your current situation
Truly listening to your feelings and giving them attention instead of shutting them down
A sign for when the work isn’t working
Creating boundaries so that you can take the time you need to do the work and heal your heart
While there is no timeline, healing your heart might not take as long as you think!
Finding the balance between enjoying your own company and asking for support when you need it