Stop Wanting Him Back & Find Someone Better

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When You're Sad Your Person Isn't Here Jun 06, 2022

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Let’s say that you have been working on healing your heart, falling in love with you, and it’s time to start dating again. Then, all of a sudden, some guy pulls the rug out from under you in a crappy way that you were not expecting. This recently happened to my client Sarah, and when she came to me for coaching, she said she was so sad that her person still isn’t here. Now, coaching can be very nuanced and this episode definitely deals with more advanced coaching and won’t be for everyone. But still, be sure to listen as I share with you how I coached her through this and the next steps I think she should take in order to continue to heal and find her Mr. Right.

This is coaching that was specific to Sarah, and it may be very different for you, and that’s why I highly recommend purchasing my course, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. In this 60-video course, I walk you through how to heal your heart, fall the fuck in love with you, and find someone better. And if you really want to take your healing to the next level, I also offer a one-year group coaching program. To learn more and apply, visit my website, https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/

Topics In This Episode

Your ex is not “your person”
Learning how to be all in on you, no matter what
Being unattached to when and how you find your person
Maybe I’m not as ok with being single as I thought I was
Not being ready yet is not a bad thing

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PLEASE NOTE: Claire refers to her exes and the listener’s ex as a “he,” based on her own personal experience as a heterosexual female, but this work can be applied to ANYONE going through heartbreak. ALL genders and sexual orientations are encouraged to listen and apply Claire’s tools into their own lives!

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When Dating Gets Risky May 30, 2022

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Let’s look at this “risky” business of dating. I was inspired to do this episode after a friend recently reached out asking for some dating advice when it comes to a situation where she wasn’t sure if it was worth the risk and it really got me thinking. I think it’s natural to approach our dating lives from the mindset that it’s a risk. But is it really? Of course there are situations where we may be in danger or at risk, but when we are in the mindset of dating being risky, is it really, or, are we just afraid of gettin hurt? In this episode, let’s look at the idea of riskyness and how you are thinking about your dating life so that you have aligned thoughts and can call in the love of your life.

Dating doesn’t have to be as risky as we make it out to be. Coaching is all about looking at our thoughts and investigating our actions so that we can create what it is we desire. It’s critical to know yourself and what best serves you and I show you how to get clear on these things through my course, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. In this 60-video course, I walk you through how to heal your heart, fall the fuck in love with you, and find someone better. And if you really want to take your healing to the next level, I also offer a one-year group coaching program. To learn more and apply, visit my website, https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/

Topics In This Episode

Finding your person means being willing to feel heartbroken
Are you avoiding pain?
The result created by the thought that dating is “risky”
Your past relationships are not failures
The importance of taking things slowly when you’re dating
Attachment styles and their effect on dating

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Episode, Dating Dads

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If I Don't Find Him, I'll Be Miserable May 23, 2022

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If you are listening to this podcast, I’ll bet you have had this thought that if you don’t find him, your ideal person, your life will be miserable. This is a belief that I carried for a very long time, and is something I hear often from my clients. Even if they don’t say it outright, I know that some of my clients believe that can’t be truly happy until their person shows up. My loves, I want you to know that your person is an added bonus, but they can’t fill the void. Only you are responsible for healing your heart and loving the fuck out of you. Take a look at your thoughts that are keeping you from finding him, clean up those thoughts, and deliberately love the fuck out of you. Not only is it possible to love your singledom, but it’s critical to love being single while still calling love in.

In my program, these are the kinds of thoughts that we look at and really dig deep to investigate and I take my clients through the process of how to do that, how to create closure, and how to be ok if your ideal person isn’t here now. If you want to learn more about how to create the results of healing your heart, falling in love with you, and finding someone better, then I invite you to check out my 60-video course, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better, where I take you step-by-step through the process. And if you are ready to really dive in and take your healing to the next level, I also have a one-year group coaching program, by the same name. To learn more and apply, go to my website, https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/

Topics In This Episode

Where my clients get tripped up in the “fall in love with you” stage of my process
Getting closure on your past relationships
Healing the lack of love we have for ourselves
It’s not about the how and the action of dating yourself, it’s about your mind
If you aren’t enjoying being single, then you won’t be able to go through the process of falling in love with you
How my clients know that the work is working
Getting clear on the negotiables and the nonnegotiables

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41 & Never Been Married (GASP) May 14, 2022

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I just couldn’t believe it. I recently went to a social event and I was having a perfectly fine conversation with a gentleman when all of a sudden he asked a pretty judgemental and personal question. He said, “How are you 41 and you’re not married?” It became a conversation all about my age and marital status. I know that there is a lot of drama surrounding the topics of a woman’s age and whether or not they are married, and this can be a trigger for some of you. However, I was able to breeze through this conversation because I have done a lot of work to clean up my feelings about these things. And I want to help you be able to do that too.

In this episode, I do a break down of the conversation that inspired this episode. I share with you the why and the how of the fact that my age, not only does it not bother me, but I love being 41. Your singledom and your age are both neutral circumstances, and not only is it possible to love these things about you, it is possible to love your singledom and to also want to call love in.

These are the exact kinds of things I lead my clients through in my course, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better, and my one-year group coaching program of the same title. In my course I take you through the steps in order to heal your heart, fall the fuck in love with you, and find someone better. For those of you that buy my course from now until May 15th, 2022, I am offering three live group coaching calls in June. To learn more, visit my website: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/.

Topics In This Episode

The people you attract when you have insecurities about your age
It is our job to love the fuck out of ourselves
Creating high-quality attractive energy for the high-quality man you want in your life
The transformation from being a Bitter Betty to a Confident Connie
What is required of you in order to create the results you seek

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Episode, A Guy Like That Wouldn’t Want Me
Episode, Dating Dads
Articles on Poosh.com
Follow me on Instagram: @clairetheheartbreakcoach

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A Guy Like That Wouldn't Want Me May 09, 2022

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I think we’ve all had a moment like this in our dating lives. Let’s say you’re out at a bar and you see some hot guy that looks like he has what you’re looking for, and you’re very next thought is that he must be out of your league and just not interested in you. I know that I had this moment often in my single life before I called in the love of my life, Larry. This thought usually comes up when you haven’t cleaned up your thoughts about you and your past relationships. It may not seem like it, but it is possible to love your singeldom and also want to find your Mr. or Ms. Right. In this episode, let’s take a look at what this thought will create in your dating life, and thoughts that are better suited so that you can fall in love with you and find someone better.

These are two of the results that I help my clients create in my course, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. If you are looking to stop wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong back, as well as falling in love with you and finding someone better, I invite you to invest in this course where I teach you the tools so that you can create these results. And to really dive deep in your finding love journey, I also offer a one-year group coaching program, the same title as my course. And for those of you who purchase my course from now until May 15th, 2022, I am offering three live group coaching calls in June. To learn more, visit my website: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/.

Topics In This Episode:

Thoughts create results
Getting clear on who your ideal person is
Can it be ok that some people just won’t want you back?
When you are into you, so will your ideal person
Your thoughts about your singledom may have an impact on your dating life
Preparing for your ideal person before you have found them
Looking at how you may be keeping yourself stuck
You get to change your story whenever you want

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Who Pays On The First Date May 02, 2022

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I’m back this week with another fun and light-hearted conversation with my bestie Jamie McKeowen, and this time we’re talking about who pays on a first date. In this era of modern feminism, there are a lot of questions surrounding etiquette on dating, and this of course includes who pays on the first date. We talk about experiences in our dating lives, feminine and masculine energies, investigating your negotiables, and taking a look at your dating deal-breakers.

This episode is a good example of why it’s so important to clean up your money story, and that your dating life involves more than just being on the apps and going on dates. In order to find your ideal person, it is important to really heal your heart and fall in love with you before you can find someone better. These are the results for my clients who purchase my course, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. And if you’re really looking to uplevel your healing and for access to my coaching, I invite you to check out my group program by the same name. To learn more and apply, go to my website, https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/.

Topics In This Episode

Is it a red flag if they don’t pay on the first date?
When you should ask him out
It’s ok to desire traditional roles and feminine energy
Should you let him pay if you don’t plan on seeing him again?
Aligning your money values
Staying open to the possibility of what’s there
It’s more about energy and less about money

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Dating Dads Apr 25, 2022

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If you’ve listened to my podcast before, you’ll know that I am in my ideal relationship with the love of my life, Larry. And it’s not just him, he also has four amazing kids and I get to be a part of their lives too. Throughout this relationship, I have talked about this situation in bits and pieces, but I’ve never dedicated a whole episode to what it’s like to date a dad, so that’s what I’m doing this week. And joining me to share her experience of dating a dad is my bestie, Jamie McKeowen. In our conversation, we really focus on our personal experiences, how to navigate dating someone with children, and how you can open yourself up to new possibilities in your dating life as well.

Some of the situations I have faced throughout my relationship and acclimating to the lives of these little humans would not have been possible without getting coached. And honestly, I was only able to call in the love of my life and create this ideal relationship using the tools that I share with you in my course, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. In this course, I help you create the results of stop wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong Back, fall in love with you, and find someone better. And if you are really wanting to take your healing to the next level, I invite you to join my group program, of the same name. To learn more and apply, go to my website https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/

Topics In This Episode

You could be missing out on something amazing if you are limiting your options
The hardest part about being a step-parent for me
Differences between listening to the podcast and working with me as your coach
Redefining baggage and past emotional trauma
What you should have in place before meeting your partner’s kids
“It’s hard sharing him”
Being considerate and accomodating, yet still advocating for yourself
Addressing moments of resentment

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Jamie’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamiesguide/
Previous Episodes With Jamie:
Why Is It So Hard To Find Him?
Listener Q&A
Why Do Men...?
Why Can't We Be Friends?
She Found Someone Better

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Cheap Thrills About Your Ex Apr 11, 2022

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Do you remember that song Cheap Thrills by Sia? This week, let’s look at when we feel those cheap thrills when it comes to hearing about our exes. You may remember from last week’s episode that I was recently triggered when I heard about a recent success he had. And in that episode, we talked about how we process those moments of good that may happen to our exes and what we’re making it mean about us.

This week, let’s turn it around. Just a few days ago I heard from a friend about that same ex, from my rock-bottom heartbreak, and hearing about a time when he felt jealous of me and a success I had. I’ll be honest, it brought me a little thrill of joy. In this episode, I share with you why I let myself enjoy this little thrill, how to know it’s ok to feel this thrill, and identifying when it doesn’t serve you.

If you are struggling with these cheap thrills or not sure if it’s ok to feel what you are feeling in regards to your ex, I want to invite you to invest in yourself, heal your heart, fall in love with you, and find someone better. Right now I’m offering my 60-video course on how to learn and use the tools to create these results for yourself. And if you really want to take your healing to the next level, I invite you to apply for my one-year group coaching program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. To learn more, or if you have any questions, go to my website https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/

Topics In This Episode

Whatever he has going on in his life has nothing to do with you
You get to be human
Examining why you get this little high. What is the meaning behind it?
Identifying when there’s more healing to do
The value in going back and revisiting the basics
Looking at the unfinished business in your thoughts
Committing to loving you

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When Mean Guys Win Apr 04, 2022

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Did you catch that? Did you see the two thoughts in the title of this episode? There are two thoughts there: one, that there are “mean guys”, and two, this idea of “winning”. This episode is inspired by something I experienced this week and by the conversations I’ve had with clients. Oftentimes, after a relationship, we may be the ones to be broken hearted or feeling pain, and then we see our exes reaching new levels of success. This can leave you feeling hurt and like there’s nothing good happening for you, especially in the depths of your heartbreak. Let’s take a look at what I believe is the new thought that you should be striving for, and how you can continue to use moments like these in your own journey of healing your heart and finding someone better.

If this sounds familiar, and you are wanting to learn how to do the thought work and use the tools I teach in order to stop wanting him back, fall in love with you, and find someone better, then I invite you to join my one-year group coaching program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. Or, for a limited time, I am again offering my 60-video course, with the same title as this podcast and as my group coaching program. With this course, you get lifetime access to the videos. To learn more, or if you have any questions, go to my website https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/

Topics In This Episode

How are you defining “winning”?
When you’re making his choices mean something about you
This thought puts you in the position of the “loser”
Forgiveness and setting yourself free
The work is never done
What could you be thinking about and focusing on if it wasn’t about him and his “winning”?
Enjoying the benefits of creating a better you
Decide what winning means for you, and go create those results

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Episode 5, My Heartbreak Story

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Should Relationships Take Work? Mar 28, 2022

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I’m just going to cut right to the chase here and say, yes, of course relationships take work! The question is, what is the kind of work you are doing, and what kind of relationship are you in? We’ve all heard people say before things like, “relationships shouldn’t be this hard” or “it shouldn’t take this much work”. And in certain contexts, I absolutely agree. In this episode, let’s take a look at different kinds of relationships where it is worth it to put in the work, what kind of work it takes, and the relationships where it’s not worth it. There are going to be hard times in any relationship, but they can be better issues that aren’t as hard when you find your person.

If you are listening to this podcast, I think you want to put in work, with the right person. If you are having a hard time deciding on reasons to stay or reasons to go, this is the exact thing I help my clients within my group coaching program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. Or, for a limited time, I am again offering my 60-video course, with the same title as this podcast and as my group coaching program. With this course, you get lifetime access to the videos. To learn more, or if you have any questions, go to my website https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/