Stop Wanting Him Back & Find Someone Better

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Your Best Love Life in 2022 Jan 03, 2022

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It’s that time when there is amplified energy surrounding us with the fresh start of a new year! With it comes a lot of people really thinking about what it is they want and setting new intentions in order to reach their goals. I am proof that with thought work, commitment, and belief in myself, that you can create any result that you set out to. It’s what allowed me to heal my heart and find my Mr. Right, and in 2022 I want to help you create your best love life too.

In this episode, let’s take a look at what it really means to do the thought work, and how to stay committed even if you feel resistant. I also share some of my daily practices that have helped me create really powerful changes in my life, and the eight steps for staying committed in order to create your goal. If you have been listening to this podcast and follow me on social media, you already know the thought work and the tools to heal your heart so now let’s focus on staying the course.

If you’re really struggling with this thought work, which is the basis for healing your heart, then I highly suggest you work with a coach and check out my one-year group coaching program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. In this program, I coach you through the three results of stopping wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong Back, falling in love with you, and finding someone better. We do this through three calls a week, plus you have access to “Ask A Coach” where you can write in and get a coached response within 24 hours, as well as access to over over 60 videos of coaching. To learn more and apply, go to https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/

Topics In This Episode:

Examining where you may be unavailable to yourself
Getting fully engaged in self-coaching
Prioritizing our thoughts, and determining what you want to handle first, and what you can table and handle later
Redefining closure so that you can get to a place of peace and true self-empowerment
What daily self-coaching looks like
Your thoughts aren’t “bad”
Creating the time to do thought work and making it a non-negotiable
8 things to consider in order to stay committed to finding the love life of your dreams this year

PLEASE NOTE: Claire refers to her exes and the listener’s ex as a “he,” based on her own personal experience as a heterosexual female, but this work can be applied to ANYONE going through heartbreak. ALL genders and sexual orientations are encouraged to listen and apply Claire’s tools into their own lives!

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Approaching Dating the Right Way Dec 27, 2021

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You are in for a treat this episode! I am happy to share with you a conversation I had with my client Alicia. I love to bring my clients on the podcast to have them share their experiences of healing their hearts and the results they have created through coaching. I love for you to be able to see just a small glimpse of what is possible when you invest and go all in on finding your Mr. or Ms. Right.

Alicia has been in my group program for less than three months and she has already had some amazing growth in her journey to finding someone better. In our conversation, you’ll hear me talk about a way in which I have coached her that I have never coached any of my other clients. Alicia also describes the difference between working with me as her coach versus the results she experienced when she was self-coaching. She shares in this episode that she can see her future self being created in front of her very eyes, and I am so excited for her progress and I just know she is going to find her Mr. Right.

Topics In This Episode:

What it looks like to be a coachable client, and the growth that can result
Finding my client’s blind spots
Cutting contact and how it helps to heal your heart, even when it may feel more painful
Are you willing to do what it takes to actually get over him?
Finding love when you are busy
When the coaching gets hard
Should you change your photos on the dating apps?
Getting clear on the future version of you, and who your ideal person is

Resources

If you are ready to create the kind of growth and results like my clients, I invite you to head over to my website, https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com, where you can buy my one-year group coaching program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. Or, from now until December 31st, 2021, I am again offering my 60-video course, with the same title as this podcast and as my group coaching program. With this course, you get lifetime access to the videos, and will also be able to join me for 5 live group coaching calls the first week of February 2022. If you have any questions, please reach out to my assistant, katie@clairetheheartbreakcoach.com

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How To Trust Again Dec 20, 2021

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This is a big topic and something I get asked about a lot! Today I’m going to talk about trusting again in regards to trusting someone new, which can feel scary after healing your broken heart. If you’ve listened to this podcast for a while, you’ll know that I come to this episode with a lot of personal experience of broken trust, not just from my rock bottom heart break, but from other past relationships too. Let’s take a look at some of the mind-drama you may be facing as you begin to start dating again, and where hurt and broken trust from your past may be showing up in your present and affecting your future. I also share with you 9 steps for how to trust again.

If this is something you are struggling with and you need a coach to really be able to see your blind spots and where you may be resistant, I invite you to you to head over to my website, https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com, where you can buy my one-year group coaching program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. Or, from now until December 31st, 2021, I am again offering my 60-video course, with the same title as this podcast and as my group coaching program. With this course you get lifetime access to the videos, and will also be able to join me for 5 live group coaching calls the first week of February 2022. To buy my course, go to https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/thecourse.

Topics In This Episode

The difference it makes when you work with a coach you trust
What I tell my clients when they are feeling resistant to the work
Taking a look at what it means to be unavailable to yourself, and different areas it may impact in your life
Check yourself on your own trustworthiness
Changing your “I was blindsided” story in a way that serves you
In past relationships, someone may have broken your trust, but is there another lesson you can learn from that relationship?
Dating with the intention of finding someone who is trustworthy

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Loving Too Hard Dec 13, 2021

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We’ve all seen the movies where one of the characters, usually a woman, is just trying too hard, and loving too much, and it is over the top for the other person. And honestly, I have been her! I’ve been in relationships where I was head over heels, showering my boyfriend with just so much love, and this was something that my client brought to me this week and she had an amazing breakthrough that I want to share with you.

When you think about “loving too hard” and what that looks like, it is different for everyone! I think back to relationships I’ve had in the past and I can see where it was too much for my boyfriends at the time. But now, in my ideal relationship, it just works because I have created a relationship with someone who appreciates my love and loves how I love. In this episode, let’s take a look at how you love, let’s heal your past, and prepare you for your future. You deserve someone who loves your love.

If you want to next level your healing and take a deep dive on finding love, I invite you to head over to my website, https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com, where you can buy my one-year group coaching program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. Or, from now until December 31st, 2021, I am again offering my 60-video course, with the same title as this podcast and as my group coaching program. With this course you get lifetime access to the videos, and will also be able to join me for 5 live group coaching calls the first week of February 2022. To purchase my course, go to:https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/thecourse

Topics In This Episode:

Sometimes doing the work looks different than your expectations
Choosing to not indulge the thoughts that do not serve you
What do you think about the way you love?
Ask yourself: have they earned this much of your love?
Being a nonjudgemental, compassionate witness
Thoughts of “not enough-ness” that will keep your ideal person further away

Resources

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Integrity First Dec 06, 2021

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Integrity is not something we often think about when it comes to heartbreak and the relationship it has with healing our hearts and finding love. However, if you want to be able to show up authentically for yourself, or in relationships with others, it is key to know what you want, what is important to you, how you want to be treated, and to accept nothing less. One of the important steps for how you get there is to be honest and ethical. In this episode, I share with you what it looks like to have integrity in your heartbreak, your dating life, and even when you are in your ideal relationship.

I fucking love what I do, and I get so excited when I see my clients create amazing results! If you are ready for results like what my clients have created for themselves, I invite you to head over to my website, https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com, where you can buy my one-year group coaching program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. Or, from now until December 31st, 2021, I am again offering my 60-video course, with the same title as this podcast and as my group coaching program. With this course you get lifetime access to the videos, and will also be able to join me for 5 live group coaching calls the first week of February 2022. To purchase my course, go to:https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/thecourse

Topics In This Episode

Deciding what works for you and what doesn’t - and sticking to that
Getting clear on what you won’t accept
Reaching out to your support group when you need them
When I am guided by my integrity and morals, the universe will always take care of me
Speaking your truth and standing up for your value - especially when you feel like that’s not being respected
Being able to share your truth and not need validation
Letting your heartbreak
Having integrity and ghosting

Resources

Irish Independent Article, https://www.independent.ie/style/sex-relationships/lessons-from-the-heartbreak-coach-break-ups-can-feel-like-a-death-41101140.html

Episode, My Heartbreak Story

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Wins From Doing the Work Nov 29, 2021

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I am constantly blown away by my clients! They show up, they are committed to the work, and they are powerhouse women who I feel completely honored to coach. I recently realized that a majority of my episodes are really centered on the problems in your life that are getting in the way of creating the results of healing your heart and calling in your ideal partner. So in this episode, I want to change things up and instead, I am going to share with you some of the amazing wins that my clients have had, in their relationships with themselves and in their dating lives, as well as other phenomenal results they have created in other areas of their lives.

I have shared on this podcast before that how you show up in one area of your life is how you show up in all areas of your life. So let’s take a look at how three of my clients have been showing up, what it looks like for each of them when they are committed to the work, and just some of the amazing results that are possible for you too.

If you are ready to create the kind of growth and results like my clients, I invite you to head over to my website, https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com, where you can buy my one-year group coaching program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. Or, from now until December 31st, 2021, I am again offering my 60-video course, with the same title as this podcast and as my group coaching program. With this course you get lifetime access to the videos, and will also be able to join me for 5 live group coaching calls the first week of February 2022.

Topics In This Episode

Creating self-validation and how that affects your dating life
The impact that upleveling your environment has on the rest of your life
When is the perfect time to swipe on the apps
Looking for evidence of wins in your life
Feeling resistance when you are swiping
When the thought work doesn’t make you feel better
Why you should look for and celebrate the wins and results in your life

Resources

Episode, I Don’t Think He’s Out There: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2021/11/22/i-dont-think-hes-out-there
Episode, When You’re On The Precipice of True Love: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2021/7/19/when-youre-on-the-precipice-of-true-love
Episode, Clean Urgency on Finding Love: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2021/9/13/clean-urgency-on-finding-love

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I Don't Think He's Out There Nov 22, 2021

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Here is the tricky thing about our brains, they really like to hold on to negative thoughts. The thoughts that we hold on to are the ones that persist. That is why it is so key to being aware of our beliefs, so that we can dismantle them, create new beliefs, which in turn, then create new results, like finding your person. In this episode, let’s take a look at the limiting belief that I hear from clients all the time, “I don’t think he’s out there” and the seven reasons why they believe that to be true. Begin the practice of shifting out of your limiting beliefs, and you will begin to create new ones that serve you and your desire to find love.

I am excited to share with you from now until December 31, 2021 I am bringing back my course! The course has the same title as this podcast and my 1-year group coaching program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. My 60 video course is broken up into four sections: the introduction that sets you up for success, stop wanting him back, fall in love with you, and find someone better. With this lifetime access, you have access to the tools that I share so that you can create amazing results of stopping wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong back, falling in love with yourself, and finding someone better. I want to make this easily accessible to you guys, so I am also offering a 3-month payment program. To learn more and get started today, go to https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/thecourse

Topics In This Episode:

A sneaky way our brains keep us from doing the work
Understanding how you have created your current reality so that you can create a new one
Investigating your thoughts and answering the question, what is it that makes you think he’s not out there?
The 7 “why”s I hear from my clients on why they have told me they don’t believe he is out there - and diffusing each of them
Our thoughts versus facts
How do you define baggage? Is it holding you back from finding love?
Changing your thoughts requires practice
Your person will sign up for all of you

Resources:

My Articles on Poosh: https://poosh.com/author/claire-byrne/

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Prepare Your Heart For The Holidays Nov 15, 2021

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As a coach, I truly believe that our thoughts create our feelings and that the situations we face aren’t positive or negative. They are simply neutral circumstances, and it’s our feelings about a circumstance that determines what we do about it. I could argue that Christmas is a neutral circumstance, but honestly, I know this is a really challenging time of year to feel heartbroken or to be single and looking for love.

Questions about how to get through the holidays are definitely coming up for my clients and people who reach out to me on social media. They are dreading the holidays, the fear that some residual heartbreak will come up, or that they may even feel more lonely and miss Mr. or Ms. Wrong even more. In this episode, I share tailored tips for moving through the holidays whether you are currently in your heartbreak, or if you’re single and looking for love.

I want this episode to be a resource and a reminder to be compassionate to yourself, whatever you may be going through. I have definitely been here before, heartbroken and dreading the holidays, and I didn’t have the tools back then. But I do now, and I am so happy to share them with you.

Topics In This Episode:

The 6 steps for preparing your broken heart for the holidays
Now, maybe more than ever, do not contact him!
Getting clear on what “no contact” means
Stop avoiding the pain and give yourself permission to consciously grieve
There is no need to add the pressure of creating closure, especially during the holidays
Questions to ask yourself before you commit to a social obligation
The 5 steps for preparing your single heart for the holidays
You get to decide how you want to feel through the holidays

Resources:

Episode, Heartbreak for the Holidays: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/12/2/heartbreak-for-the-holidays
Episode, Putting Pressure On Your Love Life: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2021/11/8/putting-pressure-on-your-love-life

If you want a surefire, step-by-step process on consciously dating and showing up in a completely different way, then definitely head over to my website, https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com, and buy my course, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. It’s a one year program where you’ll get coached, and you’ll get the tools to stop wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong Back, fall in love with you, and find someone better. We do this through three calls a week, plus you have access to “Ask A Coach” where you can write in and get a coached response within 24 hours, as well as access to over over 60 videos of coaching. To learn more and apply, go to https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/

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Putting Pressure On Your Love Life Nov 08, 2021

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Can anyone else relate to this? Putting pressure on my love life was certainly true for my former self, and for a lot of my clients. We live in a society that really praises the hustle and grind, but sometimes, that just really doesn’t serve us. I’ve shared before that this is something that I really struggle with, and I have a difficult time with putting things on pause, so that’s what I want to talk about in this episode.

When you put pressure on creating what you want, whether that is healing your heart, reaching the next level in your career, or finding love, not only does it make it harder, it also keeps that result further away. Let’s take a look at what it means to hit pause in healing your heart and in your dating life, how to identify when you need to pause, and how to really make the most of the time spent away from the hustle.

Topics In This Episode

Even in our ideal relationships, this work doesn’t stop
The fear of “not enough-ness”
It’s natural to think the work isn’t working
Why you should trust the process
Knowing when to pick back up again
The 7 steps to work through when you’re putting pressure on yourself

If you are ready to clean up your heart in a different way, then I invite you to join my group coaching program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. It’s a one year program where I coach you through the three results of stopping wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong Back, falling in love with you, and finding someone better. We do this through three calls a week, plus you have access to “Ask A Coach” where you can write in and get a coached response within 24 hours, as well as access to over over 60 videos of coaching. To learn more and apply, go to https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/

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Am I Too Picky? Nov 01, 2021

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Let’s say you’ve been healing your heart and you’re ready to get out there and find your person, you might be considering what are the situations that are negotiable versus non-negotiables. Or maybe you’ve been dating, but just haven’t found Mr. or Ms. Right yet, and you begin to question if perhaps you are too picky. This was definitely me in my 20s and 30s, and I’m surprised I haven’t covered this topic before! In this episode, let’s take a look at what are your non-negotiables, where you can create some wiggle room, and why I believe you should.

Before I met Larry, the love of my life, I definitely had a list of things that I would consider a no-go, and I wouldn’t even say that Larry necessarily checks all the boxes that I thought I was looking for. But now, I am in my ideal relationship, and I can tell you beyond a shadow of a doubt that he is my person, and that list of checkboxes doesn’t even matter any more. So let’s look at your list and see where we can change your thoughts so that you can create the result of calling love in.

Topics In This Episode:

When he’s great on paper, but he’s not your person
Dating when you still have old wounds and traumas
It’s also a problem if you aren’t being picky enough
Identifying where you have a lack of love for yourself and how it is manifested in your dating life
Getting clear on your negotiables versus non-negotiables
Being “too picky” isn’t a badge of honor

I hope this episode helps you identify what are your hard “no”s that you might consider giving more wiggle room to. With this new information, I’m inviting you to be more open and flexible, to love your reasons for the non-negotiables, and at the same time, hold your idea of your ideal person a little loose. Be open. Be flexible. Your ideal person may be so much better than what you think they should be for you, in order for you to be happy and in love.

If you need help with finding clarity on your negotiables and non-negotiables, then I invite you to join my group coaching program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. It’s a one year program where I coach you through the three results of stopping wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong Back, falling in love with you, and finding someone better. We do this through three calls a week, plus you have access to “Ask A Coach” where you can write in and get a coached response within 24 hours, as well as access to over over 60 videos of coaching. To learn more and apply, go to https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/

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