Stop Wanting Him Back & Find Someone Better

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Part One: Empath-Life In Romantic Relationships Aug 09, 2021

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I have shared on this podcast before that I am a number six on the enneagram, I have an anxious attachment style, and I’m an Aquarius. I believe that it is important to understand who we are, some of the labels that apply to us, so that we can then understand how it impacts our dating lives, and our entire lives! That is why I’ve created this mini-series about what it’s like to be an empath and look at how it shaped our heartbreak, and what it means about how we show up in our dating and love lives. In this episode, let’s explore what it means to be an empath and the 15 signs you may be one.

This is the exact type of thing I help my clients understand about themselves in my group coaching program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. It’s a one year program that includes three calls a week. Plus, you have access to over 60 videos of how to achieve the three results of stopping wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong back, falling in love with yourself on a deep level that you never would have if you hadn’t gone through this heartache, and you will find someone better. To learn more and apply, go to https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/

Topics In This Episode

Why dating can be terrifying for an empath
My patterns in dating as a result of being an empath
Painting green over red flags
Addiction to our dramas and victim stories
What keeps empaths stuck in their heartbreak
Being an empath is both a blessing and a curse
The 15 signs you might be an empath

Resources

Article, What Is An Empath and How Do You Know You Are One, by Leah Campbell: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-an-empath-and-how-do-you-know-if-you-are-one-5119883
Episode, Heartbreak and the Enneagram With Liz Elkins Newcomer: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/9/2/heartbreak-and-the-enneagram-with-liz-elkins-newcome
Article, 15 Signs You Might Be an Empath, by Crystal Raypole: https://www.healthline.com/health/what-is-an-empath
The Urban and the Mystic: https://theurbanandthemystic.com/
Episode, Are My Feelings Valid Or Am I Being Dramatic? https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2021/7/26/are-my-feelings-valid-or-am-i-being-dramatic

PLEASE NOTE: Claire refers to her exes and the listener’s ex as a “he,” based on her own personal experience as a heterosexual female, but this work can be applied to ANYONE going through heartbreak. ALL genders and sexual orientations are encouraged to listen and apply Claire’s tools into their own lives!

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Are My Feelings Valid Or Am I Being Dramatic? Jul 26, 2021

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It’s no secret that I am a fiery, Irish woman. Even from my infancy, there are well-known family stories that they would have to tip-toe around me so that I wouldn’t wake up kicking and screaming. As an adult, I’ve been told that I am too dramatic and over the top. But when my gaslighting, narcissistic sociopath ex started saying the same thing, I began to really doubt myself.

This is the exact topic that was brought up on a recent group coaching call with a client in my program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. In working with this client, we have been cleaning up some stories from her emotionally abusive ex, and one of the remnants of his abuse left her unable to determine if her feelings were valid or not. In this episode, I share with you how to break it down and determine what your feelings are and how to have your own back through the process of figuring it out.

Topics In This Episode

Sometimes Mr. Right comes before we are fully prepared
It takes time to get to know someone. And if this your Mr. or Ms. Right, then what’s the rush?
Fear of getting hurt again in your next or current relationship
Are your feelings valid or are you being dramatic? You get to decide.
The power of group coaching
Looking at the source of your shame and blame
Different ways self-doubt can show up
Taking ownership of your feelings

If you are finding yourself struggling and really wanting to take this work to the next level, I invite you to join Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. It’s a one year program that includes three group coaching calls a week. Plus, you have access to over 60 videos of how to achieve the three results of stopping wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong back, falling in love with yourself on a deep level that you never would have if you hadn’t gone through this heartache, and you will find someone better. To learn more and apply, go to https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/

Resources

$7 Mini Offer, A Snapshot of My 5-Step Process: https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/5Steps
Episode, When You’re On The Precipice Of True Love
Episode, My Heartbreak Story

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When You're On The Precipice Of True Love Jul 19, 2021

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I am so excited to have another guest on the show again this week, my dear client Emily. She came to me for one-on-one coaching after the end of her divorce when she was ready to find her Mr. Right. She is now a member of my group coaching program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. I wanted to bring her on because since we have worked together, I have coached her through two heartbreaks, and I know that she is on the precipice of finding love.

In our conversation, I ask Emily to share with you her dating experiences so that you can hear how together we determined exactly what her work would be. We talk about thought work, when it’s working, when it’s not, and how to know the difference. And we also discuss her relationship with money and not indulging our victim stories.

If you are wanting results like Emily and really want to take this work to the next level, I invite you to join Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. It’s a one year program that includes three calls a week. Plus, you have access to over 60 videos of how to achieve the three results of stopping wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong back, falling in love with yourself on a deep level that you never would have if you hadn’t gone through this heartache, and you will find someone better. To learn more and apply, go to https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/

Topics In This Episode

Believing that your desired result is inevitable
Self-sabotage is more comfortable than your upleveled thoughts
Getting the most out of your coaching experience
The importance of flexibility in your dating life
Being clear about what you want is not a guarantee
Your person is out there, looking for exactly who it is that you are
Committing to the result, and letting go of the why and the how

Resources

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Your Anything But Average Love-Life Jul 12, 2021

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You guys are in for such a treat today because I have another bestie from my mastermind on the podcast with us today, Lindsey Mango. She is a fellow life coach and she has a program called Anything But Average, where she helps people create their own coaching businesses. She teaches them to have an anything but average life so that they have the confidence to create that in their business.

I wanted to bring Lindsey on the podcast because I believe that creating a result, no matter what it is, from healing your heart, reaching a health goal, or growing your business, is all about how you think, feel, and behave to get there. How we show up in one area of our life is how we show up in all areas of our life, and Lindsey is an amazing example of upleveled living and really creating the life you want and calling in Mr. Right.

Topics In This Episode

Looking at patterns in your dating life, and finding the common denominator

Your feelings are not their responsibility

Create your bliss and invite someone to join in

Understanding what serves you versus what doesn’t serve you

Doing the work and still attracting Mr. or Ms. Unavailable

Disconnecting from your timeline

Lindsey’s dating breaking point before she met her husband

Connect with Lindsey

Website: https://lindseymangocoaching.com/anythingbutaverage

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lindseymango_/

If you are wanting results like Lindsey and really want to take this work to the next level, I invite you to join Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. It’s a one year program that includes three calls a week. Plus, you have access to over 60 videos of how to achieve the three results of stopping wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong back, falling in love with yourself on a deep level that you never would have if you hadn’t gone through this heartache, and you will find someone better. To learn more and apply, go to https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/

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I STILL Give A F*&% About Him! Jul 05, 2021

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Let’s talk about time, and how long it takes to get closure and be able to move on from Mr. or Ms. Wrong. I recently had a client tell me she was really frustrated because even though she is in a new relationship and she knows that her ex is not her Mr. Right, she said to me, “But I still give a fuck about him.” If this sounds familiar, I want you to reflect on two things: why does it matter, and who cares? In this episode, I explain why the closure you seek won’t actually make anything better, how to create the closure you need, and how to give yourself compassion so that you can begin the healing that is necessary in order to truly stop wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong back and find someone better.

If you are finding yourself stuck and really wanting to take this work to the next level, I invite you to join Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. It’s a one year program that includes three calls a week. Plus, you have access to over 60 videos of how to achieve the three results of stopping wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong back, falling in love with yourself on a deep level that you never would have if you hadn’t gone through this heartache, and you will find someone better. To learn more and apply, go to https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/

Topics In This Episode

When we are preventing our healing
A therapeutic response versus coaching
Reaching the heart of the problem to find out what your work truly is
Ask yourself, is he really a nice guy?
The closure you want isn’t the closure you need
When grieving becomes too much grieving
Instead of committing to him and his bullshit, commit to you and your healing

Resources

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Why You're REALLY Not Excited About Dating Jun 28, 2021

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I’ve got to tell you, I’m really excited to talk to you about why you’re not excited when it comes to dating. I’m sure you’re probably thinking that the reasons you aren’t excited about dating are because you’ve had some crappy dates, or it feels like the people on the apps are duds. But in this episode, I’m going to show you how you are getting in your own way by sharing the 7 reasons you aren’t excited about your dating life, and what you can do about it so that you can get excited about dating and call in the love of your life.

If you are looking to really take this to the next level and create your ideal relationship, I encourage you to check out my program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. Once you begin applying the coaching tools I share with you, you will be able to create the three results of stopping wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong back, falling in love with yourself on a deeper level, and finding someone better. If you have any questions, I am currently offering 30 minute one-on-one calls to make sure this is the right fit for you. Head over to https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/ to learn more, or email me at hello@clairetheheartbreakcoach.com

Topics In This Episode

What it takes to create the results to ultimately find someone better
Acts of self-love when you are dating
It’s normal to feel frustrated, but it doesn’t have to be that way
Tapping into your desire and drive for finding love
Trusting the timing of your dating life
How to take care of you when you are taking a break from dating
Letting go of your past, truly, so that you can get excited about your future
Swiping on the apps just for the sake of swiping
Are you really over your ex?

Resources

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Being Single ISN'T Better Than True Love Jun 21, 2021

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When we are in the thick of our heartbreak, it is totally normal to have the thought that you never want to feel this way again. And in order to avoid heartbreak, it means that you should avoid love too. But my loves, you are so worthy, deserving, and capable of calling in the love of your life and to find true love. I cannot promise you or make any guarantees that the next person you date will be forever.

There are no guarantees. But the great news is that when you find who you believe is the love of your life, the idea of there being no guarantees makes you show up in the best possible way. In this episode, I share why it’s so important to find happiness before you call love in, where this work gets tricky for my clients, and how to stay committed to this work when it’s really hard.

If this really resonates with you, I invite you to take this work to the next level and join my group program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. In this one-year program, I offer three weekly calls, over 60 videos, and the ability to write in and get a response within 24 hours. If you are considering the program and you have questions, please email me at hello@clairetheheartbreakcoach.com. Or for more information, go to: https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/

Topics in this episode

When your work is to not date
Getting to the root of your heartbreak
Examples of what it looks like when you are not giving love to yourself
How to be happy being single, when the end goal is finding someone better
Allowing yourself the possibility that true love is out there, even if you aren’t ready for it yet
The belief man (or woman) plan, and how it works
Sneaky ways you are letting yourself down

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What If I Make The Same Mistake? Jun 14, 2021

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Recently a client in my group program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better, was reflecting on some of her past relationships and came to the call asking the question, “But what if I make the same mistake?” When we look at the people we have attracted in our past, it can be so easy to be fearful that we will keep repeating the same pattern because that is all that we have known. Throughout my 30s I definitely experienced my fair share of heartbreak, but I wouldn’t call them mistakes. In this episode, let’s examine our mistakes and really learn how to shift the way we think about them, so that we can use them to serve us in our journey to heal our hearts and find someone better.

Topics In This Episode:

Defining our mistakes
How to know you won’t make that mistake again
Are you making your healing harder than it has to be?
Getting clarity on your choices so that you can make new ones that serve you
My biggest fear around coaching
The unique learning experiences you get from heartbreak and what it reveals about ourselves

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From Man Children to MAN Jun 07, 2021

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I am so excited to share this special episode with you! Back in November I had a client come on the podcast and share what it was like to have worked together for the three months I had been her coach, at that time. In that episode, Taking A Dump On Your Love Story, I talked about how important it was to take off the rose-colored glasses and really evaluate and assess your past relationships for what they truly were, not what we wished they would be. I highly recommend you go back and listen to that episode to hear how important it is to take those relationships off of a pedestal, and to hear how committed Leanne was to the work, even before she found Mr. Right. You can find that episode at: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2020/11/23/taking-a-dump-on-your-love-story

In this episode, Leanne is back! For a little bit of a spoiler, through our time together and the work that Leanne has invested in herself and in her relationship, she has called in the love of her life! I wanted to bring her back on the podcast so that she could share with you some of the challenges she has faced from November to now, how she got coached through tough dating experiences, and why she continues to get coached in the group program, even now when she has found the love of her life.

If you are looking for a transformation such as the one Leanne experienced, I highly recommend you apply to my one year group coaching program, which is the same name as this podcast, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. In this episode you hear Leanne talk about just how life changing this work has been, not only for her dating life, but for other aspects of her life, such as her relationship with herself and her body. I know this work works, and I can’t wait to see you in there. To learn more, go to https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/. Or if you have any questions, email me. hello@clairetheheartbreakcoach.com

Topics In This Episode

The importance of really digging into the painful shit
Investigating where beliefs of unworthiness are showing up in your dating life
The biggest lessons Leanne learned through dating unavailable men
Building a healthy relationship with dating apps
Moments that were uncomfortable for Leanne as she got coached
Training yourself to not accept crumbs
How she continues to use the tools even in her ideal relationship
Working through fears and past traumas in your ideal relationship

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No One Will Love Me The Way He Does May 31, 2021

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I hear this from my clients a lot, “No one will love me like he does, Claire!” What if I told you that you’re right? And not only will no one ever love you in that way, but you won’t want them to! If you are listening to this podcast, then you must be looking to create the results of stop wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong back, to fall in love with you, and to find someone so much better. And if you keep wanting that same love, you will find it again. But my loves, you are worthy, deserving, and capable of creating something so much more.

I’m not going to lie to you. Doing this work and breaking the beliefs that you have is painful, but it is worth it and you can do it. This is the exact thing that I guide and teach my clients in my group course, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. You are so worthy and deserving of making this investment in yourself, in overhauling your mind so that you can create the ultimate life for yourself. You don’t have to do it alone. To learn more and apply, go to: or if you have any questions, email me, hello@clairetheheartbreakcoach.com

Topics In This Episode

When I felt this way before in my dating life
Unpacking why you stayed
There’s the big reason why it didn’t work, but what small indicators were also there?
How are you being unavailable to yourself?
Early signs to look out for when dating
If it was the best love for you, it would have lasted
Choosing faith in your love life