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The Difference Between Right & Wrong Mar 15, 2021

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Have you ever gone on a date and been worried about saying or doing the wrong thing? I was recently working with a client who asked the question, “what if I do the wrong thing, or do something embarrassing, and he was supposed to be my person?” That coaching call inspired this episode where we take a look at how we define right and wrong, and how that affects our ability to create the result of finding our person. I share with you some examples of things from my own dating history of right versus wrong, what I learned, and how it all lead me to calling in love and my dream man.

Some of the topics I cover in this episode are also a preview to some of the topics I cover in my course, and in my one-year coaching program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better, launching April 9th. The three results I deliver to you in this program are to stop wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong back, and loving yourself on the next level so that you can attract a next-level partner. To get my course, which is going away very soon, go to https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/.

If you are a current course student and you want to take advantage of the opportunity to upgrade to the one-year of coaching, reach out to me at hello@clairetheheartbreakcoach.com for more information.

Topics in this episode

Defining what is right and what is wrong for you
Why it’s not important to focus on “what went wrong”
Self-reflection questions that serve you
Investigating the labels we attach to our past actions
Taking a look at our interpretations of past actions and how they shape our present
You can’t say or do the wrong thing with the right person
Give yourself permission to make mistakes, because your person will want all of you

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PLEASE NOTE: Claire refers to her exes and the listener’s ex as a “he,” based on her own personal experience as a heterosexual female, but this work can be applied to ANYONE going through heartbreak. ALL genders and sexual orientations are encouraged to listen and apply Claire’s tools into their own lives!

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When Positive Thoughts Don't Work Mar 08, 2021

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With the rise in self-improvement in our culture, and particularly on social media, I have seen a lot of content around this idea of positivity, and the idea that we have to always be positive in order to achieve the life that we want. But I want to call that out! Guess what? Positivity isn’t always the answer, and that’s especially true when we’re heartbroken and looking to heal. We can serve our hearts so much more when we honestly take a look at our thoughts, love ourselves, then begin the work of healing from a place of awareness.

This is the exact work I take my clients through in my course, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better, which will be going away very shortly! Launching April 9th, I will be offering a one-year group coaching program, and it is absolutely the best offer I can give to anybody. You will have access to all the videos in my course, plus three opportunities a week to get coached by me, plus additional videos! To be one of the first to sign up for this offering, subscribe to my website, https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/

If you are currently a student in my course, I am offering you the opportunity to upgrade before April 9th and the chance to take advantage of bonus coaching calls happening now! For more information, reach out to hello@clairetheheartbreakcoach.com

Topics In This Episode

You don’t need to be positive in order to call in the love of your life
The pressure of positive thinking
Investigating what is true and what is possible for you
What if you allowed the negative thoughts?
We can still have moments of negativity and freakouts, even when we’ve created our desired result
Addressing the discomfort of growth

Resources

Episode, Taking A Dump On Your Love Story
Episode, My Heartbreak Story
EFT Practitioner, Lena George: https://www.unplug.com/teachers-new/lena-george

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He Thinks I'm Crazy Mar 01, 2021

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We all have those moments, those vivid memories from relationships with our exes that make us question ourselves. On a recent group coaching call that I offered to students of my course, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better, a client shared one of the times this happened to her and asked the question, “Why does he think I’m a monster?” In this episode, we explore the stories we create for ourselves, based on how we feel our partners think about us. I share some examples from my own dating history, how I take ownership of the role that I played, and how we also get to create the thoughts that serve us. And from there, how to do the work of recommitting our brains in order to create the result of finding someone better.

Be sure to listen through to the end of this episode so you can get the low down on my new offer, coming soon!

And for lifetime access to my course, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better, go to: https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/.

Topics in this episode

Approaching a partner who isn’t willing to work on themselves
Committing to upleveled thoughts
Asking ourselves, “But do I really believe these thoughts?
Own the truth, and decide what you want to do about it

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He's Everything I Want On Paper Feb 22, 2021

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I want to take you through a recent coaching call I had with a client. She kept believing this story that her unavailable ex was everything that she wanted, and that all the qualities she had on paper for her ideal person, her ex checked every box. My loves, I know so many of you also hold on to this same thought. Let’s take a look at what is on your list of what you want your ideal person to have, get clear on why those are things on your list, and why your ex doesn’t actually fit on that piece of paper. And yes, I do mean an actual sheet of paper. Let’s get you over your ex, and find someone better.

To take this work to the next level, get my course Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better, which is available for a limited time only. Once you purchase the course, you have lifetime access to the four modules where you learn what you need to succeed, how to stop wanting him back, falling in love with you, and finding someone better. Also, be sure to subscribe to my website, https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/. You will receive a video, How to Stop Wanting Him Back in Three Steps, and will be on the list to be one of the first to know about my new offer coming this April.

Topics in this episode

Deciding what is negotiable versus non-negotiable for you
Your hidden reasons for the items on your “list”
Are you putting them on a pedestal?
If they left, they aren’t your person.
Where the work starts of finding your person
Instagram stalking your ex

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10 Years Since Rockbottom Feb 15, 2021

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Ten years ago today, I was experiencing rock bottom. I was underweight, didn’t really have a place to call home, and I was right in the middle of my worst breakup, and I still had dinner with him. All I wanted was for him to make me feel better. Ten years ago today, I didn’t have the tools that I have now in order to make myself feel better, love the fuck out of myself, and call in my ideal person. But now I do, and I want to share them with you.

I want to share with you the 11 truths that have gotten me to the place I am now, where I am the happiest, most abundant, most at peace, and most in love I have ever been in my life. I have experienced a fuck ton of heartbreak, have done a fuck ton of healing, and so much has changed for me to reach this upleveled version of myself. In this episode, I offer to you what I wish I had ten years ago, important lessons I have learned along the way, and remind you that you are more than capable of creating these kinds of results for you, too.

And if you’re looking to take this work even deeper and calling in Mr. or Ms. Right, check out my course, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. This course comes with lifetime access to the step by step process of healing from your heartbreak, falling in love with you, and finding someone better. I am creating a new offering, and this course will not be available much longer! To enroll in the course, go to: https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/

Topics in this episode

When we show up differently, we have different results.
Asking ourselves if we are really committed to the healing.
Thoughts are optional. Thoughts are changeable. And they always create my reality.
Why our pain lingers
Creating space for your ideal person, and being the woman in her ideal relationship, now.
Investigating your thoughts in a compassionate manner.
How coaching brought me to this place of being the happiest I have ever been.

Resources

Episode, My Heartbreak Story

EFT Practitioner, Lena George: https://www.unplug.com/teachers-new/lena-george
Gay Hendricks, The Big Leap: https://www.amazon.com/Big-Leap-Conquer-Hidden-Level/dp/0061735361
Byron Katie, Loving What Is: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0082PQ3G0

Work With Claire
https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/work-with-me

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The Art Of What You Deserve Feb 08, 2021

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This episode was inspired by an episode from a podcast I love, Date/Able, hosted by Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu. In this episode, they were reviewing bad advice from dating coaches, and one of the pieces of bad advice is when coaches give their clients the advice of, “You deserve better”. I’m happy to say that I am on the same page as these hilarious and brilliant women, and I want to dive a little deeper into this thought of, “I deserve better”. There are times when this can possibly be a helpful thought and other times when it just doesn’t serve you. I take you through how to investigate this thought for yourself and see if it’s working for you.

To take this investigation into your thoughts, and the results they are creating to the next level, check out my course, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. One of my favorite sections is the Fall In Love With You section, and in it, we do the work of healing and falling in love with you, so that you can find your right person who will mirror that love you have for yourself. Find out more at: https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/

Topics in this episode

Dating from a place of entitlement
Getting clear on “your person”
What it looks like when you lump your past experiences into your present
Being a whole and content person, without your person
The thoughts that will serve you more than “I deserve better”

Resources

Episode 100, The Wrong Thoughts to Heal: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2021/2/1/the-wrong-thoughts-to-heal
Date/Able Podcast: https://www.dateablepodcast.com/

Work With Claire
https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/work-with-me

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The Wrong Thoughts to Heal Feb 01, 2021

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First things first, let’s celebrate 100 episodes! Before I started this podcast, I said to my business coach that I wasn’t sure if I could come up with a lot of topics around heartbreak. But here we are, 100 episodes later! Along the way, I have helped so many with healing their relationships with themselves, taught you how to call in the love of your life, and how to live your whole life to its fullest potential.

We’re really diving deep into what thought work looks like; what are the right thoughts, what are the wrong thoughts, and how to really investigate and get to the root beliefs that are holding you back from creating the results you are looking for. This is where coaching really comes in. There’s nothing like getting coached by someone who really sees what the root of your issue is and takes you through the process of doing the work to release those beliefs, heal your heart, and call love in.

If this language is totally foreign to you, I highly recommend that you get my course, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better, because that is where I really dig deep into this thought work, what it looks like, and how to make it work. I also want to let you know that you should definitely subscribe to my site at https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/. I have a huge, new, amazing offer coming your way, so to be one of the first to hear about this new exciting launch, be sure to subscribe!

Topics in this episode

Where to begin with thought work
Identifying when a thought is not working for you versus when it is
The role that thought models play in doing this work
Common root beliefs among my clients
Asking yourself: Are you willing to put in the work in order to create the result?

Work With Claire
https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/work-with-me

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Why You Haven't Found Him Yet Jan 25, 2021

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Have you been listening to this podcast for a while, been doing the work on cleaning up your thoughts and you still haven’t found Mr. or Ms. Right? I’m sharing a few of the thoughts that clients and listeners have shared with me that have revealed why they still haven’t found their person. Remember, your thoughts create your results. It is your thinking that has lead you to the result of not finding him or her yet. And that also means that when you identify what it is that’s holding you back, and you shift your thoughts, you can call love in.

If this resonates with you and you want to dive deeper into doing the healing and the work it takes to find your person, I highly recommend you take my course, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. In my course, I take you through the process of getting over your ex, healing your heart, falling in love with you, and finding someone better. This course has over 60 videos to help you step-by-step do the work, and truly, find someone better.

Topics in this episode

Answering the question: Are my past relationships failures?
What needs to change in order to attract a more up-leveled person into your life
Are you overlooking or moving past red flags?
There’s no “there” there (trust me, it makes sense!)
6 Reasons why you haven’t found him or her yet, and how to move through them

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Work With Claire
https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/work-with-me

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Missing Him Isn't A Problem Jan 18, 2021

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This episode is inspired by one of my amazing clients. When she came to me, she was heartbroken over a douchebag, and now, after we’ve worked together and she has put in a lot of work, she still finds herself missing her ex, as is the case with a lot of heartbroken women. In this episode, I share with you why missing your ex isn’t actually a problem, how to identify when it is a problem, and questions to ask yourself and reflect on in order to move through it.

There is so much information in this episode, but it doesn’t even begin to cover how I can help you heal your heart. In my course, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better, I take you through the step-by-step process of doing the thought work, getting over your ex, falling in love with you, and finding someone better. So if you’re looking to take this work to the next level, go to my website where you can find my course, and also apply for my one-on-one six month coaching program.

Topics in this episode

If missing him causes you pain, is that actually a problem?
Why we attract partners who reflect our insecurities
Thoughts that serve you more than “I shouldn’t miss him right now”
Giving yourself permission to miss them, and the results that are on the other side
Ask yourself: what are the reasons why I don’t miss him?
Being aware of when your brain associates dating with pain
“I don’t know if I’m missing him, or the idea of him”

Resources

Episode, More Pain to Cure Pain
Byron Katie, Loving What Is: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0082PQ3G0
Episode, My Heartbreak Story

Work With Claire
https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/work-with-me

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Three Dates Is NOTHING Jan 11, 2021

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How many times have you been swiping on the apps, or gone on a first date and thought, “oh my god, this is my person”? I hear that so often from clients and have even felt that in my dating life in the past! The truth is, you’re “all in” to the idea of your person, and it’s not bad to be in your feels and into the idea of this person. However, it can put added pressure on a situation and won’t help you find Mr. or Ms. Right. In this episode, I share examples from clients, possible outcomes of this mindset, and how to show up differently in your dating life.

For more help with showing up differently in your dating life, I teach you how to heal your heart, fall in love with you, and find someone better through both my one-on-one coaching and also through my course, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. I only have a couple of one-on-one coaching spots, which will be available in mid to late February. To lock down your spot, submit your application here.

Topics in this episode

Staying open to someone even if they don’t make you feel giddy
If you haven’t asked, don’t make assumptions
“I got it wrong again”
Why you shouldn’t put all your eggs in one basket
Noticing when your thoughts come from a place of fear or need
Recognizing when you need to slow it down

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Work With Claire
https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/work-with-me

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