Stop Wanting Him Back & Find Someone Better

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Owning Your Ugly Truth Jan 04, 2021

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It is a new year, and we should be excited! It’s a fresh, clean slate, and I love the energy that comes forth with everyone wanting to show up differently and create new goals. If you’ve been listening for a while, you’ll know that I am all about being the real deal. And if you want to really get a fresh start and create new results, it all has to start with your ugly truth. In this episode, I share with you how to identify your ugly truth, my experiences with my ugly truths, and how to then turn them into your beautiful truths that allow for your amazing results.

If you are looking to heal your precious heart that is worthy, deserving, and capable of having the most epic love, then I highly encourage my course, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. For just $597, you’ll receive over 60 videos on how to do the thought work, such as working through your ugly truths, fall the fuck in love with you, and find someone better.

Topics in this episode:

Your truth isn’t a fact. It’s a thought.
How our lack of love for ourselves can show up in our lives
What have you done to attract the men in your life, and what are you going to do to change it?
Unresolved feelings with your exes
Looking at your hard-wired thoughts
The discomfort that comes from creating your results

Resources:

Work With Claire

https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/work-with-me

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How To Let Go Dec 28, 2020

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Let’s talk about letting go, which is one of the most crucial steps in how to stop wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong back, and to find someone better, and is an excellent topic to cover and wrap up an insane year. Even if I have discussed this topic before, what I’m going to share today is going to be up-leveled, because I have up-leveled, personally and as a coach through self-coaching and working with my coaches. I know it’s not easy, my loves, to move through the pain, and I also know that the only way through it is to lean in.

You’re not alone. And not only that, but you also have tools that you can do something about the heartbreak and letting them go. I cover this in my course, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. In this course, which has over 60 videos, I teach you what you need to succeed, how to stop wanting him back, fall in love with you, and find someone better. To learn more, click here.

Topics In This Episode

The work is never done
The tricky thing about coaching, and why I think it’s so important
What doesn’t work
The four steps in order to let go:
Making the decision to let go
Being compassionate with your brain
Look at your automatic pull of holding on
Self-coaching
Asking ourselves: Why do you want that person back?
Allowing the discomfort and what we can learn from it
What are you desiring to let go of in 2021?

Resources

Work With Claire
https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/work-with-me

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My Lack Of Self-Love Revealed Again Dec 14, 2020

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This is an emotional episode for me. I think it’s important for me to share with you, by leading by example, that the work is never done. I’m in the most amazing relationship with the love of my life, and I just released an amazing course, helping women fall in love with themselves and call in Mr. Right. But somewhere along the way, as I worked morning, noon, and night, seven days a week, for the lats four months, I abandoned myself, my self-coaching, and my self-love. In this episode, I share with you how I got here, how this relates to finding Mr. or Ms. Right, and how I’m going to prioritize loving myself again.

This is what I teach you to do in my one-on-one coaching. I have spots available for February, so if you’re interested, you can go to my website. I also teach all of this in my course, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. In the course, I share the four modules:

what you need to succeed, stop wanting him back, fall in love with you, and find someone better. To learn more about this course, and finding someone better, go to: https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/

Topics in this episode

The beliefs I had about myself
What I was doing in my love life that kept attracting Mr. Unavailable
Are we ever fully-healed from trauma?
The belief that I didn’t have time to slow down
You get to create money for whatever you want. You get to create time for whatever you want. You get to create the results that you want.
Why we get stuck in our habits
The importance of daily self-coaching
Where might you not be loving yourself?

Resources

Episode, My Heartbreak Story
Episode, Claire Brings On The Love Of Her Life
Episode, Let’s Talk About Sex With Danielle Savory
Danielle’s podcast, It’s My Pleasure
Stacey Boehman’s 2K Mastermind

Work With Claire
https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/work-with-me

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Claire's Clients TELL ALL Nov 30, 2020

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We have an epic episode for you today, a “clients tell-all” episode featuring three of my clients, April, Heather, and Ina. These three women are at different stages of their dating lives and came to me at different stages. I really wanted to share with you a variety of stories and experiences, so that you could hear from them first-hand the kind of work we have done together, and how it could be helpful for you to work with me as a coach to move through your heartbreak.

My course, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better is out now! This course, which features almost 60 videos, puts together all of my coaching experience as I have helped women get over their exes, fall the fuck in love with themselves, and find someone better. I felt it was time to create a course that is affordable and accessible to the masses, where I know you’ll get the same results these women have gotten from working with me, one on one. For this insane value, go to my website.

Topics in this episode

What if I’m not heartbroken? Healing from past relationships
Showing up for yourself in new ways
What has been different about working with me, versus other ways of healing
The difference between coaching and therapy
What made these women bite the bullet and sign up for coaching
Getting clear on what a higher caliber partner looks like, and attracting that person
Being vulnerable through the uncomfortable moments
Whoever is triggering you, is a mirror reflection of you, and your thoughts about you.

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Taking A Dump On Your Love Story Nov 23, 2020

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This week I am excited to bring another guest on the show. If you listened to the last episode, you may be anticipating a conversation with the other woman who was involved in my rock bottom relationship. However, due to legal reasons, she has decided to not come on the show. When you move through trauma and share that experience with another person, there’s nothing like that to bond you with them, so I completely understand her reasons for not coming on the show.

With that being said, I still wanted to bring a guest this week, and I am excited to share with you a conversation I had with a client, Leanne. I talk with her about some of the work we’ve been doing together, such as taking a dump on your love stories, and the huge shifts she’s experienced in only three months of working together! She came to me, not as a heartbroken woman, but as someone looking for help in her dating life. I ask my clients for a six-month commitment, so we’re only halfway through, and I am very much looking forward to how much more Leanne is going to grow and keep up-leveling as we keep working together over the coming months.

In addition to the one-on-one coaching, Leanne also will have access to my course, How to Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better, which comes out tomorrow! I have worked so hard and created over 50 videos to show you how to get over your ex, fall the fuck in love with you, and how to call love in, and find someone better. To find out more, subscribe to my website at https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/

Topics in this episode

Traumatic thoughts still coming up, even in your ideal relationship
This work doesn’t mean avoiding trauma. It’s about how to heal from it, show up for yourself, and heal your relationship with you
Putting an ex, and your relationship with them, on a pedestal
Give yourself permission to let your heart break
Reacting to trauma and heartbreak, without being a victim of it
You may be more ready than you realize
Let your nos be nos, and your yeses be yeses

Resources

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Your Sneaky Self Beliefs Nov 16, 2020

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If you have listened to this podcast for a while, you have definitely heard me say that how you are in one area of your life is how you are in all areas of your life. I hear from listeners and clients all the time that their lives our great, it’s just the dating part of their lives where they need some help. In this episode, I share examples from a couple clients and how I helped them unpack other parts of their lives, such as their relationships and careers, and showed them the sneaky self-beliefs that were in those areas that had an impact on their dating lives. These sneaky thoughts show up for everyone, but by working with a coach who can see your blindspots, you can be on to your thoughts, change them, and create the results you desire.

If you follow me on Instagram, @clairetheheartbreakcoach, then you would have seen that my course, How to Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better, is launching on Tuesday, November 24th! As I have mentioned, a lot of work, sweat, and energy has gone into me creating a course that I truly believe will help you get over your ex, fall the fuck in love with you, and how to call love in and find someone better. The course will be available for the ridiculously affordable price of $597, and I can’t wait to share it with all of you.

Topics in this episode

You can make it happen, whatever “it” may be
“I can’t” is a thought
Your thoughts create your feelings
All of your thought-drama doesn’t get you to the finish line
What are you waking up for? What is your purpose in life?
Projecting stories from our exes to our new partners

Resources

Episode, My Heartbreak Story
Jenn Sincero, You Are a Badass at Making Money
My coach, Stacey Boehman: https://staceyboehman.com/
Gabby Bernstein, https://gabbybernstein.com/

Work With Claire

https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/work-with-me

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Loving Your NO Nov 09, 2020

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Something my clients struggle with is the balance between having an open mind and knowing when they should say no to dating someone. In this episode, I talk about loving your “no” and not just being ok with, but owning what you do and don’t like in your dating life and with a partner. If you are someone who has a lot of nos and restrictions, then this isn’t the episode for you. But maybe you’ve found yourself in a similar situation as a client of mine, dating someone who you don’t actually like, but you feel like you should give them a chance because they’re a nice person. Get clear on what you don’t and don’t like, and if you trust that your thoughts create your results, you can find Mr. or Ms. Right and call them in.

If you are looking for more of a hands-on guide, I am so excited to share with you that my course, How to Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better, is coming soon! I believe that this topic of heartbreak is about more than just how you’re showing up in your dating life. In the different sections, I cover thought work, how to stop wanting him back, falling in love with you, and finding someone better, and I truly believe this will change your life. To be one of the first to know the release date, subscribe to my website, where you’ll also receive my free video, How to Stop Wanting Him Back in 3 Steps.

Topics in this episode

Your past relationships aren’t failures. They are leading you to the love of your life.
When you are invested in someone, and they stop showing up
Committing to not thinking negative thoughts
Managing your mind around the dating apps
Having a standard for how you expect your partner to show up in your dating life
Attachment Styles
You get to be discerning in your dating life.

Resources

Episode, My Heartbreak Story

Work With Claire

https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/work-with-me

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I ALWAYS Get My Heart Broken Nov 02, 2020

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Have you ever thought to yourself, “I always get my heartbroken”? That happened with a client recently who sent me her thought work using one of the thought models I use with my clients. Your thoughts create your results. Having this thought of always getting your heartbroken will ensure that you do in fact, get your heart broken. In this episode, I walk you through how to examine this thought and unpack it, so that you can see where it’s not true. And from there, how you can shift your thoughts and you can begin to heal and call love in.

Maybe you’re doing this work and it’s not working, or maybe you can’t really see how to change your thoughts. This is where a coach comes in, because they can see your blind spots that you just can’t see. If you are interested in getting one-on-one coaching from me, I’m not currently taking new clients, but you can apply for my waitlist. I am also working on creating a course, How to Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better, where I share with you the tools to stop wanting him or her back and how to fall in love with you before finding someone better. This course is coming in November. To be one of the first ones in the know for the release date, subscribe to my website, https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/.

Topics in this episode

Thought models as a tool to change your thoughts, which yield your results
When we are triggered emotionally, we are not thinking straight
Committing the time to work on your brain
Is this thought serving you?
When we create results for ourselves, we uplevel ourselves.
Falling into the trap “This work isn’t working”
These things don’t happen to you. They happen for you.

Resources

Brook Castillo, The Lifecoach School Podcast: https://thelifecoachschool.com/podcasts/
Byron Katie, Loving What Is: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0082PQ3G0
Episode, My Heartbreak Story
John Gray, Ph.D., Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: https://www.amazon.com/Mars-Women-Venus-Communication-Relationships/dp/B003VW7DZE
Episode, Ex Talk On the First Date?

Work With Claire
https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/work-with-me

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Ex Talk On The First Date? Oct 26, 2020

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I recently created a poll on my Instagram account, (be sure to follow me, @clairetheheartbreakcoach) and in the poll, I asked whether or not you should talk about your ex on a first date. The majority of people said no, you shouldn’t talk about your ex on a first date, and I could not disagree more! Talking about your dating history, and learning about the other person’s, can be really helpful for understanding where each of you is, and what you’re looking for. You should have nothing to hide, and neither should the person you’re dating. You’ve got nothing to lose!

If you’re interested in taking this work deeper, or if you’ve been listening to this podcast for a while and aren’t creating the results you’re looking for, you can apply to join the waitlist for my one-on-one coaching at https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/work-with-me.

I also cannot wait to share with you the course that I’ve been working on, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better! This course launches mid-November, and it is filled with so much goodness on how to stop wanting Mr. Wrong back, fall in love with yourself, and find someone better. Sign up on my website to be one of the first to know!

Topics in this episode

How does the future version of you think and behave?
Why it’s so crucial to fall in love with yourself
Owning your singledom
If someone is going to judge you for who you are, then they’re not your person
How to organically seek the answers to your questions

Resources

Work With Claire
https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/work-with-me

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It Doesn't Matter How You Meet Him Oct 19, 2020

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I have some amazing clients. They are all in on getting their hearts healed, falling in love with themselves, and calling in Mr. or Ms. Right. I was recently working with one client who was so committed to finding her person that she invested $3,000 in a matchmaker. Then she turned around and she found her guy on a dating app! In this episode, I share with you how she was able to find her person, and that it doesn’t matter where you find them. What matters are your thoughts. And if you’re so committed to being in that your ideal partnership, start thinking, feeling, and behaving like that woman right now, and you too can call love in.

If you love what I’m saying, and you still aren’t sure how to do this work, you can apply for my one-on-one coaching. I would also highly recommend my new course, coming in mid-November, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. This course is going to be amazing! In it, there are at least 55 videos on how to stop wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong back and how to fall the fuck in love with you, authentically, before calling in someone better. To receive updates on this course and when it launches, subscribe at https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/

Topics in this episode

In order to reap amazing results, you have to jump in and be ready to make strong decisions
Being thankful for my exes
Bumble doesn’t create your results. Your thoughts create your results.
Don’t go on 8 different apps. Be intentional. Keep some restraint.
How you are in one area of your life is how you are in all areas of your life
The difference between aligned thinking versus positive thinking