Stop Wanting Him Back & Find Someone Better

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No Thank You To His Feedback Oct 25, 2021

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Picture this. You’re out with friends, or you’re at an event, and there’s a chance you might see your ex. If you’re like my client, you might be freaking out, wondering what you would say to him, or maybe you even want to confront him so you can get the closure you feel like you need in order to move on. But what if you didn’t? What if you didn’t need his feedback in order to stop wanting him back? Focusing on this is actually keeping your person that much further away. Let’s unpack your thoughts around closure and feedback from someone that isn’t your person, and how you can move on without it.

If you are struggling with a broken heart or are fixated on your ex and you are ready to be done with the struggle, then I invite you to join my group coaching program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. It’s a one year program where I coach you through the three results of stopping wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong Back, falling in love with you, and finding someone better. We do this through three calls a week, plus you have access to “Ask A Coach” where you can write in and get a coached response within 24 hours, as well as access to over over 60 videos of coaching. To learn more and apply, go to https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/

Topics In This Episode

The difference between coaching and giving advice
What it looks like when you are abandoning your ability to take care of yourself
How to truly identify the thoughts that create our emotional responses, so that we can examine those thoughts
You don’t need to know why he left
The motivation behind seeking closure, and why it doesn’t always help

Resources

Part 1 of the 3-Part Series on Being an Empath: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2021/8/9/part-one-empath-life-in-romantic-relationships
Episode 5, My Heartbreak Story: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/4/1/my-heartbreak-story
My articles on Poosh: https://poosh.com/author/claire-byrne/
Episode, Clarity on Closure: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2021/5/10/clarity-on-closure
Episode, The Right Way To Get Closure: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2020/6/29/the-right-way-to-get-closure

PLEASE NOTE: Claire refers to her exes and the listener’s ex as a “he,” based on her own personal experience as a heterosexual female, but this work can be applied to ANYONE going through heartbreak. ALL genders and sexual orientations are encouraged to listen and apply Claire’s tools into their own lives!

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I Should Be Further Along Oct 18, 2021

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Should you be further along? This is a thought that comes up a lot for my clients, and it came up again for 2 clients in my group coaching program this week. When it comes to seeing what others have, or feeling pressure about where we are in life, it can be painful and cause mind drama. It is pressure like this that keeps you stuck and pushes your ideal person away. You have the ability to shift your thoughts and practice new ones that serve you! So let’s clean up the drama around where you should be, and start to love where you are.

If you are ready to clean up your heart in a different way, then I invite you to join my group coaching program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. It’s a one year program where I coach you through the three results of stopping wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong Back, falling in love with you, and finding someone better. We do this through three calls a week, plus you have access to “Ask A Coach” where you can write in and get a coached response within 24 hours, as well as access to over over 60 videos of coaching. To learn more and apply, go to https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/

Topics In This Episode

Stop should-ing on yourself
The time it takes to get over someone
Being single is not a problem
The biggest turn off to anyone you may be dating
You are exactly where you should be
Are you staying stuck in your victim story?
The 4 steps to loving where you are

Resources

Episode: Being Single Should NEVER Be A Problem

If you have questions about my group program, or to schedule a consultation call, email hello@clairetheheartbreakcoach.com

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She Found Someone Better Oct 11, 2021

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I have such an awesome conversation to share with you today. My bestie and holistic health coach Jamie McKeowen is back! She has been a guest before where we have talked about what to eat on a broken heart, dating apps, and she has even helped me answer some of your questions. But today, we are talking about her and how she called love in.

It was about this time last year when I was working on creating my course - which is now available in my group coaching program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better - and Jamie was instrumental in helping me create the videos in the program. In this conversation, Jamie shares how the work and the coaching I was doing helped her to identify where she wanted to make some changes in her love life to be ready for her person, and how she then created that result! Jamie has now been in an amazing relationship for eight months, and I am just so thrilled for her and what she has created.

If you are ready to find your person like Jamie did, then I invite you to join my group coaching program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. It’s a one year program where I coach you through the three results of stopping wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong Back, falling in love with you, and finding someone better. We do this through three calls a week, plus you have access to “Ask A Coach” where you can write in and get a coached response within 24 hours, as well as access to over over 60 videos of coaching. To learn more and apply, go to https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/

Topics In This Episode

The catalyst for any big change you want to make
Creating the feeling of being ready
Your work doesn’t stop when you are in a relationship. It just becomes something a little different
The unresolved shit that may be getting in your way
Acknowledging discomfort and walking into it boldly
Being in healthy relationships may be unfamiliar, and therefore, more difficult
Understanding our love languages so we can ask for and get what we need from our partners
Clocking your own unavailability

Resources

Episode, What To Eat On A Broken Heart: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/8/12/what-to-eat-on-a-broken-heart
Episode, Bumble Shmumble: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/6/24/bumble-shmumble
Articles on Poosh.com
Episode, Heart-Healing Crystals with Courtney Abbiati https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/9/30/heart-healing-crystals-with-courtney-abbiati

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When You're NOT Ready To Call Him In Oct 04, 2021

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I hope all of my listeners listen closely to this episode, even if you don’t think it’s for you! This was a theme for some of my clients and consult calls this week; women who really believed they were ready to date, and it was clear to me that they really were not. We all have human brains which have limiting beliefs that keep us stuck in mind drama, and keep our person further away. This is where the beauty of coaching comes into play! In this episode, I share how I coached one of my clients on her mind drama, what it feels like when you create and believe new thoughts that serve you, and how you can become the upleveled woman that is ready to date and find her person.

Topics In This Episode:

You may not be ready to find your person, but that doesn’t necessarily mean you have to stop dating
Wanting your person is not the same as being ready for them
Being stuck in the drama isn’t serving you and isn’t helping you
Getting coached even when you aren’t going on dates
If it feels like you are forcing guys to go on dates
Making the empowered choice to ask him out
Don’t let the shitty dates get to you

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Diagnosing Your Unavailability Sep 27, 2021

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“I just keep attracting unavailable men. This is just my pattern. This is what I do.” This is something I hear from my clients quite often and I coach them to be able to identify where they are being unavailable in their own lives to themselves and those around them. However, in today’s episode I want to take a bit of a different approach. What if, instead of thinking about the unavailable partners you attract and trying to diagnose where they’re coming from, you just said no and didn’t make it a problem? Holding on to this story that it’s just who you are, isn’t serving you. So let’s unpack it so that you can find your Mr. Right.

This is the exact type of thing I help my clients understand about themselves in my group coaching program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. It’s a one year program that includes three calls a week. Plus, you have access to over 60 videos of how to achieve the three results of stopping wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong back, falling in love with yourself on a deep level that you never would have if you hadn’t gone through this heartache, and you will find someone better. To learn more and apply, go to https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/

Topics In This Episode

What unavailability means in terms of having a partner
You attracting unavailable men isn’t a fact
The impact of daily thought work
Staying committed to this new version of yourself, even when someone who seems really great comes along
Identifying unavailability and saying no
Enjoying the results that you are creating

Resources

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When’s It My Turn? Sep 20, 2021

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Let’s say you have been showing up for yourself and to this work, staying committed to healing your heart, and you feel like you are ready to start dating, but you just aren’t sure. It may feel like the people around you are all in committed relationships, getting married, having children, and it can be easy to see that and think, “When is it my turn?” This question was brought up by a client in my group coaching program, Stop Wanting Him Back And Find Someone Better. When you are in the thick of your heartbreak or maybe just not yet in the result of finding your person, it can be easy to focus on the negative. In this episode, I share with you what it really means when you are asking this question, and how to know when you are ready.

I am so excited to share with you an upcoming free training I am offering called How To Find Your Person. There will be two separate sessions, one on Wednesday, September 22nd, 2021 at 9am pacific standard time, and one on Thursday, September 23rd at 4pm pacific standard time. To sign up for this awesome webinar, go to: http://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/htfyp

If you are wanting the result of healing your heart and calling in the love of your life, I invite you to join Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. It’s a one year program that includes three calls a week. Plus, you have access to over 60 videos of how to achieve the three results of stopping wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong back, falling in love with yourself on a deep level that you never would have if you hadn’t gone through this heartache, and you will find someone better. To learn more and apply, go to https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/. Or email: hello@clairetheheartbreakcoach.com to set up a 30 minute consultation so we can talk about exactly how the program works and how it will work for you.

Topics In This Episode

Why I keep getting coached, as a coach
Resistance is part of the process
The results that are possible for you, even outside of the 3 that I guarantee with my clients: healing your heart, falling in love with you, and finding someone better
Believing that you are enough - for you

Resources

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Clean Urgency On Finding Love Sep 13, 2021

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Why are you wanting to find love, and are you doing everything you can to create that result? I was recently talking with my dear friend and coaching colleague Danielle Savory, and we were talking about our own lack of urgency. I shared this with my group coaching clients and they were a little surprised to hear that sometimes I get comfortable, and I get complacent. But it’s true! Sometimes, when we create amazing results, like healing our hearts, we may find ourselves sitting back and resting in that, and we lose our steam for creating more results for ourselves.

In this episode, I share with you how to light that fire for yourself and remind you why you should keep working to create the result of finding your person. We also talk about clean versus dirty urgency, the thoughts you may be thinking from a place of dirty urgency, and what it looks like when you are thinking clean urgent thoughts that inspire action, to create results.

If this sounds like you and you are fired up to find your Mr. or Ms. Right, I want to invite you to take part in my upcoming webinar, How To Find Your Person. There will be two separate sessions, one on September 22nd, 2021 at 9am pacific standard time, and one on September 23rd at 4pm pacific standard time. To learn more and be the first to sign up, subscribe to my website at: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/

Topics In This Episode

If you aren’t together, he is not your person

The importance of having a sense of urgency around creating what you want

What is necessary in order for your actions to create momentum and results

Clean versus dirty urgency

“Cop-out” thoughts that create space for complacency

Where dirty urgency comes from

Healing your heart is the most important thing

Resources

Danielle Savory: https://daniellesavory.com

Episode with Danielle Savory, Let’s Talk About Sex

Episode, I Want The Fairy Tale

Episode, My Heartbreak Story

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The Literal Price I Paid For Love Aug 30, 2021

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It honestly makes me a little emotional when I think about the role that coaching has played in my business, my love life, and my entire life. When I began working with my business coach Stacey in June 2018, I was all in on growing my business, and I did! I created amazing results, built a life that I loved, and created a belief man plan in order to call in Mr. Right.

I hear from people about the price of coaching and the reasons they give for not going all in on healing their hearts and finding Mr. or Ms. Right. In this episode, I share with you my willingness and commitment I had to finding my person and how I invested in creating the ideal relationship I have with the love of my life.

It all begins with hiring a coach, and I know I am the best coach to help you heal your heart, deepen your relationship with yourself, and to help you find the partner of your dreams. If you are wanting results like what I created and really want to take this work to the next level, I invite you to join Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. It’s a one year program that includes three calls a week. Plus, you have access to over 60 videos of how to achieve the three results of stopping wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong back, falling in love with yourself on a deep level that you never would have if you hadn’t gone through this heartache, and you will find someone better. To learn more and apply, go to https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/

Topics In This Episode

Loving your life as a single woman
What it feels like when you believe in yourself
Focus is the key to creating the biggest results
Dating myself - why I did it, and what that looked like
How to have fun on the dating apps and not dread swiping
What is it worth for you in order for you to find the love of your life?

Resources

Episode, My Heartbreak Story

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Part Three: Empath Life In Search For Love Aug 23, 2021

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Empaths feel all the feels, and they feel them more and feel them harder than other people. This episode is a part 3 in my 3-part series on being an empath, and how that plays a role when it comes to how we operate, how we move through heartbreak, and how we approach our dating lives. In part 1 I explored what it meant to be an empath. You can find that episode here: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2021/8/9/part-one-empath-life-in-romantic-relationships. And in part 2, I talked about ways you can approach and move through heartbreak as an empath. You can find part 2 here: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2021/8/16/part-two-empath-life-during-heartbreak

One of the great things about being an empath is that we get to experience really high highs in our lives, including when we date! And because of this, it can lead to us not setting and holding boundaries, and even diving in too soon with people we don’t really know that well. As I said in episode 2, I’m not telling you to not be an empath, I want to help you manage those feelings and not act from them. So in this episode, let’s look at what it’s like to be an empath in your dating life and ways to call in your Mr. or Ms. Right.

Topics In This Episode

10 things you can do to navigate your dating life and looking for love as an empath.
A bonus in your dating life as an empath
The overwhelm of dating and intimacy for empaths
Slowing down and taking your time is key
Location is key! Finding and planning dates where you can be comfortable
Signs they are reciprocating the care and time you give them
Advocating for yourself when you find yourself over-giving
The right person for you will honor your boundaries and will see spending time with you as a privilege

Resources

Episode, My Heartbreak Story
Article, 15 Signs You Might Be an Empath, by Crystal Raypole: https://www.healthline.com/health/what-is-an-empath

If this sounds like you, and you want to take your healing to the next level, I invite you to join Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. It’s a one year program that includes three calls a week. Plus, you have access to over 60 videos of how to achieve the three results of stopping wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong back, falling in love with yourself on a deep level that you never would have if you hadn’t gone through this heartache, and you will find someone better. To learn more and apply, go to https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/. Or email: hello@clairetheheartbreakcoach.com to set up a 30 minute consultation so we can talk about exactly how the program works and how it will work for you.

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Part Two: Empath-Life During Heartbreak Aug 16, 2021

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Empaths feel all the feels, and they feel them more and feel them harder than other people. This episode is a part 2 in my mini-series on being an empath, and how that plays a role when it comes to how we operate, how we move through heartbreak, and how we approach our dating lives. In part 1 I explored what it meant to be an empath. You can find that episode here: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2021/8/9/part-one-empath-life-in-romantic-relationships

Now that we have a better understanding of what it means to be an empath, I want to stress that I’m not going to tell you how to not be an empath. Instead, let’s take a look at how you can take this level of understanding about yourself and your needs, and use it to navigate through a broken heart. I share some examples from my own dating life of being heartbroken, what it was like for me, and my 8 tips of how to move through your feelings and heal your heart.