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121. Lu'Cretia On: Handling ghosting and the nights you feel lonely (Part 2) May 05, 2022

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More information on Single You Academy Here.

In Part 2 of my conversation with Lu'Cretia we talk about ghosting, the times of feeling lonely and how we stay on that path of not fumbling our boundaries.

00:00 How do you handle ghosting?
4:00 Is Russell really corny?
8:25 What did Lu'Cretia do to transform her mind?
10:15 Stop taking advice from people who aren't living how you actually want to live.
12:25 How is Lu'Cretia to stay on the path of not fumbling her boundaries?
15:00 How we're quick with cutting me off.
19:07 How is Lu'Cretia handling the nights of feeling lonely?

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120. Lu'Cretia on: I thought that if I did girlfriend things then 'he' who I dated would eventually choose to be with me. (Part 1) Apr 28, 2022

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More information on Single You Academy Here.

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New to me? I suggest starting here:

57.From back-to-back dysfunctional relationships,to my solo trip to Mexico... to finally becoming the woman I said I wanted to be! How'd I do it? (Conference)
49. How can we be so confident in our professional life but not in the lane of relationship? (Kasia Interviews Reka)
50. If you were raised to be a daughter and not a woman, then re-parenting yourself is necessary for your healing.

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Can you relate to Lu'Cretia's truth (title of this episode) ??

Today we go deeper on what Lu'Cretia's journey has been to her beautiful awakening and self love path.

Intro
1:00: Lu'Cretia says that her Dad (more so) would tell her about the bad things that men can/will do.
3:00 Men weren't necessary and option.
4:30 Doing girlfriend things hoping he'll pick me.
6:00 I knew my value but I went about it the wrong way of tying to get a man to see it.
8:20 Having walls up to protect myself but it attracted emotionally unavailable men.
11:00 Not being able to admit "I want a man" which is causing dysfunction in your dating life.
14:16 We focus on professional development so much but don't focus on personal development
14:50 It's not bitterness, it's hopelessness. "he's not even out there".
18:10 How is Lu'Cretia dating today?

... to be continued next week!

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119. I don't believe a lot of Women Of Faith know what love truly is.... Apr 07, 2022

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Cause the way you (old me) be dishing out love, I can tell you have zero idea what it means! Not in the way Jesus wants us to love and be loved.

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Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022?

Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.

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118. Who is the woman you want to be on Jan 1, 2023? Mar 31, 2022

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You will either have a year of excuses or a year of.... I DID THAT!!!!!!

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117. From back-to-back dysfunctional relationships, to my solo trip to Mexico... to finally becoming the woman I said I wanted to be! How'd I do it? (Conference) Mar 24, 2022

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For those of you who are just finding me and you haven't been able to hear my full story yet. Well here it is, I did this speech in 2019 at a conference called; Inspired. It was a woman empowerment event and I asked the audience full of women, who's your mirror? Society? Men? Your kids? Your parents? I challenge you to make YOU your only mirror..

The Reka I was was in 2017 and before: my issue was thinking that how men saw me (mirror) was correct. You see I thought, I couldn’t see myself and only other people could see how I was coming off. God forbid I come off as a cheater and I wasn’t.... or a 'bad' girlfriend and I wasn't. I was looking in the wrong mirror. Instead of questioning ‘why do they always think I’m in the wrong’ (projection) I always blamed me.. for them not being happy or cheating. Unfortunately, I was a target for insecure men and didn't know it. I had no idea what I was doing in these dating streets. So passed up a lot of red flags (when you know better you do better) and dating insecure men is the opposite of guarding your heart. Insecure men will do 1 of 2 things; abuse you or leave you.

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Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.

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116. {Bonus} Why do we not talk about all the unanswered prayers? Specifically around women being told to pray for her husband...and now she's 45 and never been married? Mar 21, 2022

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If you’re new to me. Here is what you need to know… I’m REALLY good at helping women shift their mindset around being single. I also need you to know that I’m not an expert in God. I just know what I’m experiencing in my relationship with God. So I hope that this conversation I have with my friend Cameo encourages you to lean into your relationship with God. My constant goal is to figure out ways to introduce relationship with God differently to the woman of faith, who knows that the 'church' failed her... which in the end caused you to see yourself as 'less than' because you're single. To the woman who has a lot of frustration around men and dating... we have got to get away from the ways of society and religion and get into figuring out who we actually are.

00:00 I'm not here to tell you want you're doing is right or wrong. I'm just here to make you think and I pray he leads you to having a deeper relationship with God.
8:00 Do you just know Jesus? Or do you believe in Jesus? (Do you believe in Jesus vs. Do you actually BELIEVE Jesus)
14:46 Praise breaks are cute but that's not gonna heal your trauma. Correction = suppressing your trauma through praise breaks does not equate to healing. Posted by Jay Barnett.
15:14 How come we don't talk about unanswered prayers? What about the girl who was told at 12 to pray for your husband and she's 45 and still not married?
16:48 Not cultivating a relationship with God.
18:40 How we feel when people just say 'pray about it'.
21:15 Is there a such thing as unanswered prayers?
31:05 Why do we want a husband?
35:35 Do you hear God say no? What does God saying no look like to you?
50:00 Is God still good to you if you don't get the husband?
57:20 "she" said her biggest fear is that she'd be a woman who is not married and with out kids.

Listen to part 2 over on The Good Girl Podcast.

What does it mean to say I want Gods will.
When we say we want a husband... I bet we mean more of 'this' we're just not honest.
Our thoughts on Devon Franklin & Megan Good

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Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.

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115. Why all the commentary on the 'Tinder-Swindler' is all about how stupid the women were and NOT about how evil the man was... (Part 2 with Skyy) Mar 17, 2022

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Let's talk the tinder-swindler (on Netflix)

What I wrote on Facebook....

"I wonder why all the commentary I see on the “Tinder-Swindler” is all about how stupid the girls are/were and NOT about how evil the man was? Rhetorical.

Ps. Some of you want your girls to be married so badly but give her ZERO schooling on what love actually is. She’s out here already believing at 12 that when a boy says “I love you” … he means it."

What Skyy B. wrote on Facebook...

"My thing is on most days the rhetoric is that todays women don't know how to support a man, too independent, etc. However extremely naive these women were they also believed that this man who had shown them a nice time was in danger and they tried to help. Extremely naive, foolish, etc. I realize not everyone has the same life experiences that we do that make us ultra on alert and can smell bs immediately upon arrival.

There's A LOT of women, hell even us, they may not have been swindled out of cash directly but definitely swindled out of time, love, panties, you name it for men we thought we really took real time to know!!

They definitely gotta take the L tho because I think they did it not only because they thought he had it to return but also because they wanted to be chosen by this billionaire. They fell for the dream of the lifestyle. So there's that truth too."

So let's discuss... in this episode. Reach Skyy here.

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Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.

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114. {Bonus} How not knowing who you are is (negatively) affecting your life… what’s on the other side of doing the work? Mar 14, 2022

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Listen... we get so bitter and upset about being treated poorly and we don’t realize once we stop fumbling our boundaries being treated poorly significantly minimizes.

So really what’s on the other side of doing the work?

Knowing exactly who you are
Showing up as you in every room
Having the audacity to believe you can get what you want. Which equals you being able to walk away from a man who isn’t right for you. The first time you feel that.

Can you honestly say with a straight face that you are that woman? The woman you actually want to be, are you her?

If you're saying; I know that I need the change but I need direction on that... that's my constant prayer for direction on how to change. Then let's get you signed up for Single You Academy.

Cause now you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022?

Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.

DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now!

My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. (the fake IG account, I'd love for you to report = @justmeRekaa)

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Email = Reka@justmeReka.com

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113. Skyy B.E. on: Her 7 year abstinence journey (2x) and is that the true key to cutting off dysfunctional relationship? Mar 10, 2022

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I speak to faith based women, especially Black women who grew up in church. So I absolutely suggest that you listen to this episode before or after this episode about abstinence.

In this episode Skyy B. (my friend and Howard sister) speaks on her journey with abstinence.... twice... 7 years... twice and how the first time didn't really change her behaviors with men or stop the frustration or pain. She explains why. On your journey think about; the woman that you want to be, how can she show up in your behaviors? We also discuss; our grandparents before us got married in their teens... do we have to? The sex shame... 'God is mad at me' because I didn't wait.... plus Valentine's has passed, did you 'slip' up? If you did... we discuss why. Reach Skyy here.

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Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.

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112. Ce (licensed therapist) on: How we emasculate men (yes we have work to do sis)... what is he gaining by being with you? Mar 03, 2022

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The continued discussion on... do men say "there are no good women out there". What is their frustration with women?

1:40 Men say "she won't let me be the man".
2:20 Explaining what emasculating him looks like.
8:42 Men are sensitive... human...
12:58 What is a husband... what do you want?
14:14 Is there a level of seeing 'where is this going' with him? Or is that wasting time...
19:00 The narcissism word... and is he truly one just because he got angry?
22:50 Not judging the situation so much. His character and your actions.
23:45 Adjusting his level of access to me (you).
26:10 Giving men grace but not to my (your) detriment anymore.

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Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.

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