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Fetishes, Butt Play & Does Size Matter? Mar 19, 2021

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The brilliant Luna Matatas joins us to answer your sex and pleasure questions including: How do you stimulate the prostate? What are the best anal toys for beginners? What are lactation fetishes? Does size matter? How do I get over body image issues before I go to a play party? How can I bring up fetishes to a partner? How can we normalize anal play and pegging? How can I pleasure my partner externally? Follow Luna on Facebook, Twitter, Youtube & Instagram. Be sure to listen to The Plug Podcast with Luna Matatas. Please see here for a rough version of this transcript. And drawing from this podcast, be sure to check out Womanizer's sale on their Starlet & Pro. If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. Fetishes, Butt Play & Does Size Matter? 00:00:05 - 00:05:01 You're listening to the sacs with dr jess podcast sacks and relationship advice you can use tonight Welcome to the sex with dr. Just podcast i'm your co host brandon. Wear here with my lovely other. Half dr jess hello brandon. Whoa hello there. I'm why did you say like. I don't know i like. I like saying your name brandon brandon. Because i don't really call you britain in real life you do not call you. Hey you know. And i respond. I call you babe. Yaeko call you babe to let's it. It's easy so we never forget each other's names we never screwed up. Oh i'm gonna mood today. I'm so excited because one of my best. Tease is about to join us in just a minute. She's the best in the business. She is funny and punny and creative and empathetic and full of the best sex ed info. We are talking about sex and pleasure educator luna matas who teaches people how to build better relationships to their bodies helps people to practice empathy with their partners in terms of insecurities needs and really encourages people to get curious about all things erotic and all of her work is trauma and equity informed. She talks about pleasure. Topics like anal play and feminine dominance and threesomes and unicorns and she hosts a podcast. Herself called the plug. And we're going to be chatting with luna about body image and pegging and normalizing anal play. And i we have a question about a small penis some fetishes and more so before luna joins us. It is great. I mean she's just fantastic confer excited to. I know i love chatting with her. And i chat with almost every day offline now. I guess it's online technically. Everything's online now. But i wanted to just draw attention to the fact that my friends at womanizer are having a sale right now. I just noticed on the starlet and pro and if you're not familiar with womanizer toys who they are among my personal favourite they are. This is a brand that is really an industry disrupter in that they patented created brand new technology a few years ago that never existed in sex toys before they hit the scene and they call it. Pleasure air so pleasure. Air technologies technology is one of the most direct paths to orgasms for so many people who have clitorises and i would describe this. Sensations as sort of a cross between pulsing inviting and sucking and kissing. And it's all around the sensitive head of the clitoris. So it's kind of a tiny little opening that fits around the head of your quit.

How to Break Up With A Friend Mar 12, 2021

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Dr. Shari Nicole, Psychologist and Key Consultant of Everyday Psychology, joins us to talk about the importance and challenge of adult friendships. We discuss cutoff culture, attachments styles, boosting confidence and more including answers to these common questions: How many friends do most people have? How do childhood experiences affect adult friendships? How do you know if a friendship is worth saving? How do you know that it’s time to break up with a friend? How do you go about breaking up with a friend? How do friendships affect intimate relationships? How do friendships differ according to gender? How can you be more confident in your friendships? Follow Dr. Shari on Instagram and Facebook. Be sure to check out her podcast 3 Psychs and a Mic. Please see here for a rough version of this transcript. This podcast has been sponsored by Let’sGetChecked. Use code DRJESS to save at checkout! If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. How to Break Up With A Friend 00:00:05 - 00:05:03 You're listening to the sacs with dr jess podcast sacks and relationship advice you can use tonight Welcome to the sex with dr. Just podcast i'm your co host brandon. Wear here with my lovely other. Half dr jess how are you. I'm good man. You know. I'm excited for today. Because i have a lot to learn about this topic we are going to be talking about friendship and it is such an important topic because friendship's just like intimate relationships can have such a significant effect on your mental health. You're physical health happiness life. Ill meant and as i started digging into the research while one thing i found is that social isolation has actually increased over the last few decades in north america. And i'm talking far prior to covid. And i was looking at the two thousand six study found that the number of friends people feel they can discuss important matters with reduce to well. There's two in there. That's pretty good. Yeah so it fell from two point nine four so almost three in one thousand nine hundred five to two point. Zero eight thousand four. I'm sorry but that's all right is does does your partner. If you're in a relationship does your partner count as a friend to the in this study. Do you know that's a great question. I'm not sure. Because i feel like i don't know that i would have two point nine or three friends with whom i would feel comfortable discussing serious matters. I think i can think of one. Maybe two depending on the topic. But if if you're not in that mix it's it's now you know you can't tell mysterious That's interesting because i start to think about my numbers. And how do i say this. I'm not sure it's particularly relevant. How many there are right. I don't know that it's that. I need eight versus four. Or you know. It's so easy to say like when i was counting. You know as i do this. I have you and there are four others in my life whom i feel. I can approach with really serious stuff. There are probably actually more than that. But there's four that i'm kind of close with and i don't wanna look at this and say oh i'm above the two point zero eight. I think really what matters is the quality of the relationship as opposed to the number of friends. But as i did dig into the research.

What You Don’t Know About HIV Mar 05, 2021

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Thanks to medical research and breakthroughs, we now have the tools to end the HIV epidemic. Unfortunately, we’re still a long way off on account of stigma, misinformation and a lack of awareness with regard to prevention options. So it’s essential that we talk about it. Brad McElya, joins us to take a deeper dive into the topic of HIV and answers your questions including: How have approaches to HIV shifted since the 80s? Is HIV transmission possible if you have an undetectable viral load? What is PrEP (pre-exposure prophylaxis) and how does it work to prevent transmission? Who should consider PrEP? Why is HIV still an epidemic when we have the tools to eradicate it? How do we chip away at the stigma that hinders testing, prevention and treatment? How can we normalize conversations about HIV and how can your local pharmacist help? We also discuss the new ArcWave Ion and Brandon provides a very personal and detailed review of his first time using this stroker + pleasure-air technology. You don’t want to miss it! Brad is Walgreens' Director of Specialty Health Solutions. Walgreens pharmacists receive specialized training in confidential and compassionate HIV care. Learn more at Walgreens.com/prep or visit your local Walgreens and request a consult in a private room. And you can chat online 24/7 with a pharmacist here. Please see here for a rough version of this transcript. If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. What You Dont Know About HIV 00:00:05 - 00:05:11 You're listening to the sacs with dr jess podcast sacks and relationship advice you can use tonight Welcome to the sex with dr. Just podcast i'm your co host brandon. Wear here with my lovely other. Half dr jess how are you. I'm good. i'm so happy to have you back. Because i was on on my own last week and i promised everyone that brand would be back. And that i'd hand you the reins to talk about touching yourself. Well i'm glad and i was also wondering. Where was i last week when i was busy with work and i am sorry that i missed it. I love these podcasts. I love learning and listening and asking questions. I know i know well today. I'm going to be handing you the reins To talk about your with the arc wave but we're also going to be talking about the hiv epidemic and how it can be a radical added. We have the tools to eradicate it. And i was thinking about. You know when we look back to the eighties there was so much fear around hiv aids and so much misinformation. That was fueled by but also reinforcing of you know homophobia and racism and hiv. I remember when i studied social movements in school Hiv was such an important piece of you know so many social uprisings at the time and we had groups like aids action now and i remember studying it and then now it seems as though it's just kind of taken a backseat in part. Because the fear isn't as strong which is a good thing. We now know that you know an hiv diagnosis is not a death sentence which we saw it as back. Then we knew. And we know that you can live a long healthy high-quality life being hiv positive. Especially if you have access to resources like medications and we know that quality of life is really now the focus of hiv care but we also know that like all medical care.

Trauma Responses in Sex & Relationships Feb 26, 2021

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How are trauma and liberation linked? How does trauma show up in the body? And how can you begin to heal? How does trauma play out in sex and relationships? How can you support a partner who has experienced sexual trauma? How do you talk to a new partner if you’re a survivor of sexual assault? How can therapists improve the way they support clients and what can clients ask of therapists to improve their experience in therapy? Therapist Rafaella Smith-Fiallo of Healing Exchange & Afrosexology joins us to share her perspective, expertise and advice. She explores pleasure politics, liberation psychology, social justice, and embodiment as approaches and tools for healing. Follow Rafaella on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook. Based on the discussion in this podcast, check out the latest events from Afrosexology here. Click here to learn more about Healing for Bibliophiles. Also, consider the You For You Retreat in October 2021, I hope to see you there! Please see here for a rough version of this transcript. If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. Trauma Responses in Sex & Relationships 00:00:05 - 00:05:00 You're listening to the sacs with dr jess podcast sacks and relationship advice you can use tonight. Hey i'm on my own. Today's songs brandon because he got tied up with something big at his work. Bud i am thrilled to get the chance to chat with and interview. Rafael follow of healing exchange. She is a brilliant therapist specializing in relationships sacks trauma she is also the co creator of a powerhouse in our industry. Afra- sexology doing incredible work. That is pleasure centered sex positive and really centers the sexual liberation of black folks but before raffaela joins us. I i want to quickly talk about our leaders. Partnership with walgreens because this partnership is intended to raise awareness around hiv prevention including access to prep which is pre exposure prophylaxis. It's a daily pill to prevent hiv transmission and it is over ninety nine percent effective at preventing transmission via sexual activities. So your are your local walgreens. Pharmacist can help to ensure that you access it at no cost possibly through the ready set prep program and you can just walk into a store to your walgreens and asked to talk to the pharmacist in pharmacist in private. You don't have to give any more information than that or you can learn more at walgreens dot com slash prep. That's walgreens dot com slash p. r. e. p. Now i also wanna talk about another project. I'm working on called the you for you retreat and. I'm really excited for this. I know we've all obviously pulled back from retreats and in person events and travel for the last year. But i'm optimistic that you know with the current vaccination plan hopefully will be able to travel again at the end of twenty twenty one and so i'm going to be part of a retreat at temptation. Resort in october and temptation is actually topless. Optional resort with a. It's very cool very modern and it's got a really definitely an erotic vibe at. It's actually the sister resort to desire resorts which i talk about. Autumn and this retreat is the retreat. I'm working with is specifically for women but people of all genders will be there are many people will bring their partners...

Reproductive Justice: Power, Positions & Pleasure Feb 19, 2021

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The unapologetic sexologist, Michelle Hope, joins us to chat about HIV stigma, forced sterilization, COMMUNITYx, reproductive justice and more. We also address listener questions about anal sex, positions for a tilted cervix and loss of libido. Follow Michelle on Instagram, Twitter & Facebook. The COMMUNITYx App is the premier Social Network for Social Good. Built by changemakers, for changemakers, COMMUNITYx puts organizing and connecting around vital issues at the forefront, without the distractions of other social platforms. The App allows like-minded people from around the world to connect and mobilize in an effort to address some of society's most pressing social issues, allowing members to create a variety of calls-to-action all in one place. Founded in 2019, by Chloe Cheyenne, since its launch, Chloë and COMMUNITYx have earned major accolades such as being recognized by Forbes 30 Under 30 as the #1 Startup of The Year and is also a Techstars Portfolio Company. If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. EPISODE #201: Reproductive Justice: Power, Positions & Pleasure (00:05): You're listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast. Sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. Brandon (00:18): Welcome to the Sex With Dr. Jess podcast, I'm your co host Brandon Ware here with my lovely other half, who’s celebrating her birthday week. Dr. Jess (00:27): Yeah it’s my birthday week but you know we're on what, day twelve of our fourteen day quarantine right now? This is a condition of our travel back home, that we can't go outside or let anyone in or even meet anyone outside. Brandon (00:43): It's amazing how I miss walking in the really cold weather. Dr. Jess (00:47): I've never wanted to go out in winter so badly. Brandon (00:50): The other day I was like, I wish I could put it in the garbage. Dr. Jess (00:53): That's the exciting point. So I guess we'll be celebrating my birthday with takeout. And maybe my mom will come by and wave from the door, even though it's what, negative twelve degrees celsius out there? Brandon (01:05): I think that's without the wind chill. We talk about the wind chill and the humidity all the time. Dr. Jess (01:09): And it was your birthday last week. Brandon (01:11): It was. Dr. Jess (01:12): You turned… Brandon (01:14): forty three. Dr. Jess (01:15): I swear to god, Brandon, so I met you when you were what, twenty three? Brandon (01:19): Yes. We moved in together when I was twenty three. Dr. Jess (01:24): It kind of baffles my mind. I don't know like, it just, I can't imagine you as forty-three year old. Brandon (01:31): Why? I hope you can envision me as sixty three or even eighty three. Dr. Jess (01:34): I don't know you still look, you look young to me now. I mean everybody says that, but no really like, I don't know. I don't see a big difference between forty three year old Brandon and twenty-three-year-old Brandon when I look at you guess. Because I see you every day. Brandon (01:47): I think the changes are felt internally. It's like a few extra aches and pains, i don’t want to tell you how difficult it was to get out of bed yesterday or something like that.

The Apology Languages, Sexual Initiation Techniques & Communication Tips Feb 12, 2021

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This week Jess and Brandon discuss a new project with Walgreens related to PrEP, medication that reduces the sexual transmission of HIV by over 99%. They discuss Jess’ early work in sex education and answer listener questions including: How can I initiate sex with confidence? How do you flirt? What are the “apology languages”? How do you keep your cool during conflict? How can I get my partner to be more dominant in bed? To learn more about Walgreens PrEP, click here. Rough transcript of this podcast below: Brandon: Welcome! Hope everyone is well. Jess: I’m really excited because I’m swamped this week and I like the buzz. I have lots going on with V-Day on the horizon and a big announcement as well, so I’ll start with that topic, as it relates to HIV prevention and involves a new partner and I really think that raising awareness of this topic can make a big difference because While rates of HIV in the U.S. have continued to decrease, but the epidemic is far from over. During the COVID-19 pandemic, many people have faced barriers to HIV testing, prevention and treatment. Obviously sexual health and pleasure intersect with overall health and I really want to increase conversations and understanding when it comes to prevention of HIV through the use of tools like PrEP, or Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis. This is why why I am excited to be working with Walgreens to encourage anyone at risk for HIV to reach out to their local Walgreens pharmacist to discuss their options. Walgreens pharmacists are specially trained to offer compassionate, confidential HIV care, including prevention options such as medication counseling and how to qualify for free programs like Ready, Set, PrEP, a nationwide effort led by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, which provides PrEP medications at no cost to those who qualify. These confidential discussions with a pharmacist can take place in private rooms in stores, by phone and online via Pharmacy Chat. To learn more, visit walgreens.com slash prep. That’s walgreens.com slash P-R-E-P.” Now most people probably don’t know that I started my career in sexuality working in HIV. My focus when I was doing research in teacher training involved three topics: healthy relationships, HIV/AIDS and sexual pleasure, because these were the topics that Toronto teens identified as their top priorities via the Toronto Teen Survey, which was a partnership research project between three universities that spoke with teens who wouldn’t normally be included in research — so newcomer teens, more queer students, and other students forced to the margins. And when or while I completed by research, I started working freelance with some AIDS service organizations as a trainer, as a speaker and I worked with the ASO up in Fort Mac Alberta to help launch a sexual health & STI counselling line in a region that was hit hard in terms of HIV and STI rates on account of the way the oil economy had affected population movement and growth. The ED of that ASO, Daven Seebaran really focused on sexuality as a part of the HIV discussion — this was over a decade ago and he really realized that you can’t talk about HIV prevention without also talking about sex — pleasure, options, activity, behaviour and not just condom use. He was young at the time and way ahead of his time. And he gave me so many opportunities in this field at a time when many people in public health still refused to talk about sex and definitely were leaving pleasure out of the equation. Back then, PrEP was in its infancy and was, in fact, still in clinical trials, but fast forward a decade plus and we’re in a very different situation now. PrEP, or pre-exposure prophylaxis, is a daily pill that can reduce the risk of sexually transmitted HIV by about 99% when used consistently. You may have heard of the brand names for PrEP. Truvada was the first drug approved for use as PrEP for both men and women by the Food &...

Polyamory, Toxic Monogamy, & Ethical Non-Monogamy: What Therapists & Practitioners Need to Know Feb 05, 2021

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Kevin Patterson & Dr. Liz Powell join us to talk about their new course, Unf*ck Your Polyamory Pro — for both individuals, couples, groups and professionals. They discuss shame, stigma, stereotypes, metamours, toxic monogamy, hierarchies, compersion and lessons that we can all learn from — regardless of whether we consider ourselves monogamous, ethically non-monogamous or otherwise inclined. Follow Dr. Liz on Twitter & Instagram. Follow Kevin on Instagram, Facebook & Twitter. To learn more about the We-Vibe Tango X that Jess referenced in this episode, click here. This podcast has been sponsored by Let’sGetChecked. Use code DRJESS to save at checkout! If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. Episode 199: Polyamory, Toxic Monogamy, & Ethical Non-Monogamy: What Therapists & Practitioners Need to Know (00:05): You're listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast. Sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. Brandon (00:18): Welcome to the Sex With Dr. Jess podcast, I'm your co host Brandon Ware here with my lovely other half, Dr Jess. Dr. Jess (00:25): Hi, hi. Brandon (00:26): Hello. Dr. Jess (00:27): How you feeling today? Brandon (00:30): I'm feeling pretty good, you? Dr. Jess (00:31): I'm good. I woke up in a bad mood. But I'm feeling much better. I’ve have had really wild morning, some exciting meetings, learning about some new topics. And I'm really looking forward to today's topic here on polyamory, and toxic monogamy, and compersion and a whole bunch of other hot topics. Brandon (00:51): Should be a great conversation. I'm looking forward to it. Dr. Jess (00:54): Yes, before we dive in. I want to thank https://www.letsgetchecked.com for their ongoing support of our program. Check them out https://www.letsgetchecked.com for all your at home health testing needs, and use code DRJESS to save. And I thought I’d mention something. My friends over at We Vibe, which is really my favourite sex toy brand honestly. I've been working with them forever. I've been using them forever. And my favourite toy is called the Touch. I've had my Touch forever. It sort of looks like a flat thick purple tongue. Is that a good way to describe it? Brandon (01:27): Yeah I would say so. Dr. Jess (01:29): Or like a skinny computer mouse. Brandon (01:32): Yes both of those. Dr. Jess (01:34): I've been pulled over by TSA, and they've asked what's in the bag. They’re like “are those computer mice.” Cause I always have a bunch of them. I’m like not exactly. I always just tell them they’re sex toys and they let me go on my merry ways, because they don't want to go into my suitcase. Brandon (01:47): That’s one that I've used on the plane, as a neck massager. Dr. Jess (01:51): It might have been. You've also used the Wish, the blue one. Brandon (01:56): They all work. Dr. Jess (01:58): Anyhow. We Vibe has come out with a new and improved TouchX, as well as their new Tango. And I'm super excited because these are kind of our old stalwarts. These are the toys that I've had in my personal kit for so long. And now they've been upgraded and yeah, I'm just really excited to try them. I'm not gonna lie and say I've tried them yet. Because I'm still in Jamaica.

Dating with Herpes: Disclosure, Stigma & Healing Jan 29, 2021

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Courtney Brame founded Something Positive for Positive People after his own herpes diagnosis and through his non-profit and podcast, he shares real stories and resources for people with positive STI diagnoses. He joins us to discuss shame, stigma, dating, suicide prevention and more including: How he felt when he was first diagnosed How he navigated the dating world post-diagnosis How people respond when he shares his positive status How to disclose to a new partner How herpes serves as a compass for the body and self-care The costs of herpes jokes How we can reduce the shame and stigma How to build a support system after a diagnosis Check out the Something Positive for Positive People Podcast. Follow Courtney on Facebook, Instagram & Twitter. This podcast has been sponsored by Let’sGetChecked. Use code DRJESS to save at checkout! If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. EPISODE 198: Dating with Herpes: Disclosure, Stigma & Healing (00:05): You're listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast. Sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. Brandon (0:18): Welcome to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast, I'm your co host Brandon Ware here with my always lovely other half, Dr Jess. Dr. Jess (0:26): Feeling somewhat lovely this morning. I feel like we're getting into our 2021 groove. And you know if we go back to the Dionne Roberts podcast on rest, I've been getting more rest and sleep than I ever have in my life. I think I'm growing. I think I'm an inch taller. Brandon (0:41): I'm gonna attribute it in all seriousness to shutting my phone off earlier, making that commitment. And I've been trying to stick to it in 2021. I mean we're only a short time into that, but having that alarm set on my phone or whatever the setting is, to shut off my phone, is really I think helping me sleep. Dr. Jess (01:01): So we're getting more sleep, but my sleeps are a little bit tormented. I feel like my body is still adjusting to this whole eight hours plus sleep, like I think my body was more used to five and now it's like after five hours, even though we're going to bed earlier, I'm waking up. But I think it's getting us into a groove. I don't know it feels good in the body. Brandon (01:21): I agree. It feels good. Almost embarrassed to admit how early we have gone to bed some nights Dr. Jess (01:25): Don't tell the people. Brandon (01:27): We used to have dinner later. Dr. Jess (01:29): We used to go to remember, we used to make fun of the people who went to the club before eleven when we were young? Brandon (01:35): You're going to the club at at ten thirty, eleven? What’s wrong with you? Dr. Jess (01:40): Now, we’re fast asleep, fourth cycle of REM. I don’t know how that works, so don’t quote me on that. Today, we are going to be chatting with an old friend of the podcast who is really doing incredible work in this field via his nonprofit organization, "Something Positive for Positive People". And so he helps to provide therapy and support to folks who are diagnosed with herpes, and other STIs. And through his podcast, he shares his own story of diagnosis and the stories of other people who are diagnosed. And if you tune in or follow Courtney, his name's Courtney Brame,

Somatic Therapy, Sexual Healing & FGM/C Jan 22, 2021

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Psychotherapist, Farzana Doctor, joins us to discuss her latest novel, Seven. She shares her own story as a survivor and an activist and discusses the role the body can play in healing. She also sheds light on the practice of female genital mutilation and cutting, which occurs in all corners of the globe, including North America. We discuss somatic therapy, labiaplasty, and the perils of white saviorism as well as her journey of healing post trauma. Follow Farzana on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook. Use code DOCTOR25 for 25% off Seven at Dundurn Publishers! This podcast has been sponsored by Let’sGetChecked. Use code DRJESS to save at checkout! If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. EPISODE 197: Somatic Therapy, Sexual Healing & FGMC (00:05): You're listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast. Sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. Dr. Jess (0:18): Hey hey. Brandon how you doing today? Brandon (0:20): I'm doing pretty good. How are you? Dr. Jess (0:22): I'm good. I saw that you had a big day today. Brandon (0:26): I did, big morning. Dr. Jess (0:28): You had your first friend date since like, their first virtual friend date, since the onset of COVID. We're like ten months in and you told me you were going to have coffee with a friend online and I was like, “Oh my god. That's so exciting.” And I mean I know we talk about relationships. But I wonder if we should spend some more time talking about friendships. Brandon (0:52): Yeah I had a great, I mean just caught up with a friend over coffee. And like you said it was the first time since this began that I haven’t kind of jumped in on your group of friends to have some connection. So there's this friend of mine who we would meet once every week or two, have coffee, catch up, and honestly just talk. And not like surface, superficial conversations but deeper conversations. We've shed some tears together. When our dog passed away he was one of the few people that I shared the story with. And it was really hard for me and honestly I hope he doesn't mind me saying this but we were both like in tears, at this coffee shop which was a little different. Dr. Jess (01:37): So that was a few years ago. Darkhorse, in the Canary District district right? Brandon (01:43): Yeah coming up on about two years ago that happened. And since then we've shared in other things that have been going on in my life, and things that were going on in his life, and it doesn't always get deep, but it's nice to have a friend where you can dig a little bit deeper and you can open up because it's not something that I felt like I grew up with. I had a lot of friends that we that we really shared, I guess intimately about, like things of it. Dr. Jess (02:09): Yeah and I bring it up because you know, I'm super social and you tend to kind of pop in and pop out. And I think sometimes and correct me if I'm wrong, my friend group fills your social cup right? Like you kinda just come and hang with us for a little bit. Then you pull a Brandon and leave us. But I guess during these different times where I'm not seeing any of my friends right now, we are with two of my cousins here, that's who we're living with actually. They're moving out though tomorrow,

Yoga Nidra, Rest & Sleep Habits: How They Affect Sex & Relationships Jan 15, 2021

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This week we explore the research that connects sleep and rest with sex and relationships. Dionne Roberts joins us as we discuss: How your sleep affects your connection and conflict How Yoga Nidra can be used to address sleep deprivation and improve relationships Sound baths How to reduce stress in the name of overall health and happier relationships How to let go of the mindsets that cause stress and hinder relaxation Follow Dionne on Instagram, Facebook & Twitter. It's not too late to sign up for her Rest & Digest Virtual Retreat happening today! Check out her Youtube channel, and let her walk you through one of her Yoga Nidra practices below! This podcast has been sponsored by Let’sGetChecked. Use code DRJESS to save at checkout! If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. EPISODE 196: Yoga Nidra, Rest & Sleep Habits: How They Affect Sex & Relationships (00:05): You're listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast. Sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. Brandon (0:19): Welcome to the Sex With Dr. Jess Podcast. I'm your co host Brandon Ware, here with my lovely other half, Dr. Jess. Dr. Jess (0:26): Hello, how did you sleep last night? That's what's on my mind. How'd you sleep? Brandon (0:30): That’s what’s on your mind. I slept okay. Wasn't bad, had a hard time falling asleep. But once I'm asleep I'm usually out for the count. Dr. Jess (0:38): Except when I wake you up in the night. Brandon (0:40): Except when you wake me up, and my default has been to start to rub your hand before I fall back asleep. Dr. Jess (0:46): I think you just hold it. Brandon (0:49): What do you know? You don't even know anyways, you’re probably asleep. Dr. Jess (0:52): I'm feeling actually a little bit better today. My sleep has been so poor lately. With everything that's been going on, you know my schedule has been turned upside down. I don't know if we talked about the fact that we've been going to bed so early and I've been waking up by five. Brandon (1:10): We go to bed embarrassingly early, the last six weeks. Dr. Jess (1:13): But it's so weird because my whole life I've been a night owl, like my ideal would be to stay up 'til about 2:30 every night and get up by 6. Brandon (1:23): Really, 2:30? I'd be asleep by 12, 12:30, and I'd like to get up around the same, around 6. Dr. Jess (1:32): Yeah but I can't do that. I mean it's not enough sleep. I did it for so many years, and it's not healthy and that's what we're going to be talking about today. About how important feeling rested and getting a good night's sleep is to overall health and wellbeing, but also to relationships and to your sex life. So before we dive into that. I want to say thank you to “Let’s Get Checked”, check them out if you are looking to do any medical health testing at home, https://www.letsgetchecked.com. Use the code DRJESS, you can get tested for everything from hormones to STIs and a whole bunch of other tests, so do check them out. And I also wanted to shout out an event I’m pretty excited for next week, because I'm working with a brand that I've been using personally for a long time and this brand is Consonant. So Consonant was introduced to me by my mom,

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