Sex With Dr. Jess

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Anal Play: Positions, Prep & Pleasure! May 28, 2021

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Be sure to check out our affiliate links and use our discount code DRJESSVIP at checkout to save when shopping. We appreciate your support! Code DRJESSVIP THANK YOU! 💜 (for real) Code: DRJESSVIP-Save $ + Support Us! No pressure — but if you’re shopping, use our code DRJESSVIP for exclusive savings and a little support for us, too. Win-Win! LOVEHONEY.COM WE-VIBE.COM This is an affiliate link. We may earn a commission. Thank you! TL;DR: Why Anal Play Deserves More Attention Anal sex isn’t about “taking it like a champ”, it’s about care, communication, and understanding your (very sophisticated) butt anatomy. Proper prep = more pleasure. Think hydration, fibre, relaxation, and microbiome-safe products like Future Method. Use motion (not just insertion) and try a gentle toy like the We-Vibe Ditto to help train your internal sphincter muscles. Position matters. Start with the receiver on top for more control, communication, and connection. Toys like the We-Vibe Vector target the prostate for pleasure and health — ejaculation reduces inflammation and stagnant fluid. Want more? Explore these hands-on guides next: 9 Anal Pleasure Techniques for Your Fingers, Tongue & Toys All About Anal: Tips & Tools for Better Backdoor Play Why Anal Play Deserves More Attention Anal sex isn’t just about taking it like a champ or dishing it out like a porn star. As Dr. Goldstein reminds us, it’s about care, curiosity and communication. Your anus is not just a portal to pleasure — it’s a muscular, complex structure that deserves respect. And yes, that means prepping for it with the same care you give to your glutes on leg day. Prep Is Pleasure: Before You Play Preparation isn’t about shame or sanitization. It’s about understanding your body. Dr. Goldstein reminds us that over-douching or using harsh enemas can damage your internal lining. His Future Method line is formulated to be pH-balanced and microbiome-safe. If you’re prepping for anal sex, think beyond the act itself: fibre intake, hydration, and relaxation techniques matter. Not everyone needs to douche. And if you’re unsure, try solo play in the shower to see how clean you really are. To get started, consider using an anal training kit, working slowly over six weeks, a few times a week. This is about progressive training — like weightlifting, but with lube and a more intimate reward. Know Your Butt: The 3 Sphincters & Anal Anatomy You’ve got three major muscle groups around the anus. Two are voluntary (you can clench those on demand), but the third — the internal sphincter — takes time and training to relax. That’s why some toys and techniques might not feel right at first. Dr. Goldstein suggests using motion, not just insertion. Don’t leave toys in place passively. Instead, use a gentle in-and-out motion to mimic the activity and help the muscles adapt. To help get to know these muscles, try a beginner-friendly toy like the We-Vibe Ditto - a smooth, small plug with vibration that encourages relaxation. Code DRJESSVIP We-Vibe Ditto Discount code DRJESSVIP Beginner-Friendly: Slim, soft and easy to insert with 10 vibration modes. Remote + App Control: Great for partner or solo play. Dr. Jess says: A comfy, confidence-boosting intro to anal pleasure. Buy Butt Stuff at We-Vibe.com Buy Butt Stuff at Lovehoney.com This is an affiliate link. We may earn a commission. Thank you! Positions: Control, Communication & Pleasure Especially for first-timers, being in control helps. Dr.

Kinky Sex, Race & Social Justice May 21, 2021

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Dr. Ali Mushtaq joins us to share his journey from a conservative upbringing to leather title holder and discusses how BDSM education can be more inclusive and justice-oriented. Some of the questions he covers includes: When and why is it important to talk about race in BDSM? How can we bring anti-oppression frameworks to kinky spaces? How do you walk to a partner about racial inequality? What is sexual racism and how does it cause harm — physically and emotionally? How do power dynamics develop in relation to erotic associations? To learn more about Dr. Ali’s work, visit GettingWolfie.com And check out our sponsor, OhMyG at IOBAToys.com and save 30% off with code DRJESS. Don't forget, for couples who are interested and would like to participate in a study with Couples and Sexual Health Lab, to check them out on Instagram for more information. If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. Kinky Sex, Race & Social Justice (00:00): You're listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast. Sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. Jess (00:19): Hey, hey, Jess O’Reilly, your friendly neighbourhood sexologist here with my always lovely other half Brandon Ware. Brandon (00:27): Got to be honest, I'm not sure what to say. Now I feel like that's my my only line. Jess (00:33) I am in a really good mood this week. Lots of good stuff going on, including a big celebration. We are celebrating twenty years together sometime this week. We don't know what day but sometime this week, we hit twenty years. Like it's just, it's such a crazy feeling every year at this time. I reflect on that week that we met that lucky for you, I hit on you because you never hit on me. And you had your mom's purple Ford Escort and we hung out the Escort and then basically moved in together the next day, but twenty years is just so mind blowing to me, 'cause I I feel like a kid. I don't know if it's because we don't have kids, but I feel like I'm still in my twenties, I don't know. Brandon (01:22) Time flies. I will say it's surprising to think that twenty years has whipped by. And what feels great for me is that I'm excited for what the next hopefully sixty years brings. But yeah, I looked at that photo that you post and I was contemplating my style selection twenty years ago. But I'm glad that you still decided to hit on me. Jess (01:48) You’re talking about the photo I posted on instagram. I was dressed as a cat, so I I had on cat ears. I think it was a halloween but it may not have been halloween. Yeah like thinking back to twenty years ago just feels so good, and it's interesting because one of the activities sometimes we do with couples, is we get them to retell the story of how they met, when they met, and what it felt like, and what they remember. And sometimes just reflecting upon the past kind of reinvigorates some of the passion chemicals that you experienced in the beginning. And I definitely feel that, like when we were in lying in bed the other night kind of just chatting about what it was like when we were younger and I I really don't feel older but I feel, I don't know, like life obviously isn't as, I don't know if I want to say chaotic as it was then. We used to stay up so late, we'd eat our dinner at the convenience store at like 3 ...

Solo Sex, Dating, Edging & More May 14, 2021

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To celebrate Masturbation May we’re joined by Dr. Megan Stubbs, author of Playing without a partner, a single’s guide to sex, dating, and happiness, who weighs in on these questions and more! What are the advantages of being single? Is it okay to keep going back to my ex? What does it mean if my partner of over a year hasn’t said I love you? Is autocunnlingus possible? What is edging? Why is everyone always complaining about dating and what can we do about it? How can you talk to a new partner about sensitive topics? What can you do if you’re gassy on a date? Megan's book discusses embracing and enjoying life as a single, while steering people away from the idea of what they think a single lifestyle should look like. Follow Megan on Twitter and her Instagram. Thanks to our wonderful sponsor Adam & Eve. Offering 50% off almost any item including shipping with code DRJESS. If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. Solo Sex, Dating, Edging & More (00:00): You're listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast. Sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. Jess (00:15): Hey, hey, Jessica O’Reilly, your friendly neighbourhood sexologist here, on my own without Brandon this week. But he will return for next week's episode, I promise. And I'm excited today. Because we're talking about auto cunnilingus, when to say I love you, sex with an ex, and most importantly, it is masturbation may so we will be talking about self pleasure with an old friend of mine Dr. Megan Stubbs, a sexologist and now an author who has a brand new book all about self love, and self pleasure, and navigating life on your own. It's on the shelves coming at you right about now. Before Megan joins me, I want to answer some of your super interesting questions you sent in, as well as say a big shoutout to our sponsors at AdamandEve.com. AdamandEve.com. They're offering fifty percent off almost any item plus free shipping and a host of other free gifts with code DRJESS — d. r. j. e. s. s. AdamandEve.com cells pretty much everything, from lube and massage oils to plugs and vibrators, dildos, restraints, and lingerie, and all of the fun stuff you can use to spice up the bedroom. So check them out — AdamandEve.com, and again use code Dr. Jess to save. Jess (01:46): Now I wanna start with the topic of auto cunnilingus, because the other day I got a couple of questions about auto cunnilingus from somebody who wanted to know whether or not it's possible and how to do it, and it's not something I've spent much time talking about or thinking about so I had to spend some time looking up what I could find, chatting with some clients, and basically auto cunnilingus refers to going down on yourself, so on your labia. So not on a penis, which might for some people potentially be easier to reach, still pretty unrealistic for most people, but auto cunnilingus, so going down on yourself, just in the end isn't realistic for most of us. If you are a really talented and probably professionally trained acrobat or contortionist, maybe it's doable. But in all of the spaces I've been in, where I see people doing all sorts of sexual things, like festivals and parties and gatherings, I've never seen it happen. It doesn't mean it's impossible.

Exes, Erogenous Zones & Erotic Massage May 07, 2021

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This week we explore surprising hot spots on the body including the Million Dollar Mark as well as a variety of erotic touch techniques from the Liquid Trace to the Breath Kiss. We also answer a listener question about whether or not to invite an ex to your wedding. Thanks to our amazing sponsor OMG by IOBA. I love this toy! Save 30% with code DRJESS And don’t forget to tune into Intimately You with Dr. Jess on CityTV Fridays at midnight starting May 14th -- presented by TSC! If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. Episode 212: Exes, Erogenous Zones & Erotic Massage (00:05): You're listening to the Sex With Dr. Jess podcast. Sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. Brandon (00:16): Welcome to the Sex With Dr. Jess podcast. I'm your co host Brandon Ware here with my always lovely other half Dr. Jess. Dr. Jess (00:24): I'm not so lovely today. Brandon (00:27): I think you're lovely. And I'm not just saying that for brownie points. Dr. Jess (00:31): You're being sarcastic. Brandon (00:32): You’re hot. Dr. Jess (00:33): Oh, I’m nice to look at. That's not what I meant. I have a bad attitude. Brandon (00:37): You got the bad attitude all right. You got a bad-a-tude. Yeah you hot. Dr. Jess (00:41): It's been a day. Brandon (00:43): It has. Dr. Jess (00:44): I have to say. So I had such a wild day today, it was a bit of a rough one where I started with a live shoot, and our internet went down, and I pissed off the live audience, and a whole bunch of other things went down. Not a big deal in the grand scheme of things. But then I had therapy, so I just talked to my therapist Carla and I feel, I don't know like nine notches calmer. Brandon (01:03): That's great. Dr. Jess (01:04): Yeah. Brandon (01:05): I went upstairs and banged my head into the wall. Dr. Jess (01:08): It sounded like you were working out. Brandon (01:10): Yeah I did. I did some calisthenics. Dr. Jess (01:13): So you did your work out. I got my therapy. Are you feeling calmer? Brandon (01:16): I always feel calmer after I am physical. Dr. Jess (01:20): I thought you were gonna say you feel calmer after I go to therapy Brandon (01:25): I always feel better when you have therapy. No, I feel, I feel better all right. Dr. Jess (01:28): You've got your outlet. I've got mine. Now we're gonna be talking about erogenous zones today. Hopefully we'll get into some erotic massage techniques, we have a question about exes. Before we dive in, I want to say thank you to OhMyG, they are our sponsor today. This is a super quiet toy by Ioba that massages the G zone internally, with this come hither kind of swirling motion. It's really, really, cool. So if you picture a dildo with a kind of c-shape shaped curve to it, so that it gets really nicely into that G zone and at the tip of it, it has sort of an elongated pearl the size of a chocolate covered almond at the inner end, and it curves and pulses at varying speeds. I like the lowest speed, like slow and sensual. But you can turn it up if you like more intensity, and it's nice and quiet. It's made of body safe silicone and you can check it out on my reels on instagram if you wanna see how it works. Or you can head over to https://www.

Sexual communication & research with Dr. Shemeka Apr 30, 2021

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Dr. Shemeka Thorpe is a brilliant sex researcher, post-doctoral fellow and the founder of the Minority Sex Report. She joins us to talk about her latest research and we answer some of your burning questions including: I can't get into receiving oral sex. Is something wrong with me? What's the difference between bisexuality and pansexuality? How do I get over my partner's past? How can we improve sexual communication? How do we manage pain during sex? How do I advocate for myself with health professionals? Check out Dr. Shemeka Thorpe's work (including her database of BIPOC Pelvic Floor Therapists) & follow her on Instagram where she is #MakingResearchRelevant. And be sure to check out our new partner femtasy.com -- an all audio streaming platform that will help you to uncover new fantasies, explore latent desires and put you in the mood for pleasure. Whether you like romance, kink or something wild, Femtasy has you covered and they're running a 99 cent special for Masturbation May. Have a listen and let us know what you think! If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. Episode 211: Sexual Communication & Research with Dr. Shemeka (00:05): You're listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast. Sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. Brandon (00:14): Welcome to the Sex With Dr. Jess podcast. I'm your co host Brandon Ware here with my lovely other half Dr. Jess Dr. Jess (00:21): Hey. Today we are answering a few questions from some of our college student listeners. Looking forward to those and we're going to be digging into the latest research about sexual pain and getting some advice on how to communicate our needs and improve our sex lives from Dr. Shemeka Thorpe. And I'm such a fan of her work. So yeah I'm really excited for this one. And I'm also really thrilled to announce a new partnership that we've just formed with a platform that I have been following and recommending and using personally for quite some time. They're called Femtasy. So Femtasy is an audio only streaming service with short erotic stories, and because my seduction style is audio, I love this concept right. No videos no photos, just narrated fantasies geared at women, but I think folks of all genders will actually be drawn in. It's designed to be a safe space, so the stories are ethically produced with their voice actors, they have over five hundred short stories, that for me are way more likely to get in the mood then visual depiction so. And this is great timing because we're coming up on masturbation may and they've actually dropped their prices really significantly to celebrate so full access is just ninety nine cents a month or ninety nine for the year, so if you do want to explore your fantasies or learn more about how to even figure out what your fantasies are, because so many people say they don't have fantasies. I think Femtasy is a great place to start. It's just one way to take time out for yourself and escape reality. And I've been listening to their audio for a while now and I'm actually going to see if I can play a sample in one of our upcoming episodes, because I think it will give you a taste. For in the meantime you can head over to their site and listen to some samples for free, so you can see if it's a great fit for you at htt...

Erections, Orgasms & More! Advice from a Pelvic Floor Specialist Apr 22, 2021

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Got sexual and pelvic health questions? We’ve got answers! Dr. Rachel Gelman, Doctor of Physical Therapy and pelvic floor specialist returns to answer your questions related to sex, pleasure and pelvic floor functioning including: What is bumper sex? What can I do about leaking when I laugh? How do bowel movements affect pelvic floor function and sexual response? Why is anal pleasure so much hotter after my second child? What causes painful erections and how do you treat them? How do you promote stronger erections — for penises & clitorises? How does sitting at your desk all day affect sexual functioning? Why does oral feel so good after childbirth? How can changing the way you breathe promote pelvic floor function? Learn more about Dr. Rachel Gelman at www.pelvicwellpt.com and follow her on social: IG: @pelvichealthsf twitter: @rachelgdpt FB: @pelvicwellpt And if you're shopping for goodies, be sure to use code DRJESS at AdamAndEve.com to save 50% almost any single item + free shipping + bonus gifts! If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. Episode 210: Erections, Orgasms & More! Advice from a Pelvic Floor Specialist (00:02): You're listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast. Sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. Brandon (00:10): Welcome to the Sex With Dr. Jess podcast I'm your co host Brandon Ware here with my lovely other half Dr. Jess. Dr. Jess (00:17): Hey hey. Brandon (00:18): Hey, how’re you doing? Dr. Jess (00:20): Good good. Today we’re talking about some hot topics. We're talking stronger erections, oral sex, anal sex, and how it changes after childbirth. I don't know about that. But I want to hear about that. Leaking when you laugh. Do you leak when you laugh? Brandon (00:33): I do not leak when I laugh. Dr. Jess (00:36): Do you laugh? Brandon (00:37): I mean I'm hilarious, so I laugh all the time. Dr. Jess (00:39): You laugh at your own jokes. Brandon (00:40): I do. You know I woke up last night laughing to a dream. Dr. Jess (00:44): Do you not remember that I actually thought you were crying? So I was like, “baby it's okay” and you're like laughing. Brandon (00:50): I was laughing for real. I woke up. It was something, somebody farted in my dream. And I thought it was funny. Dr. Jess (00:54): Is that true? Brandon (00:55): Yeah that's the truth. I don't know who farted. But it was real funny. That's all it takes. That's all it takes to make me laugh. So if you ever see me chuckling, I'm probably thinking of somebody farting okay? Dr. Jess (01:05): So you don't leak when you laugh but you laugh in your sleep when someone farts? Brandon (01:09): Yes. Dr. Jess (01:10): Well that's funny because we're also going to be talking about bowel movements and constipation. We're going to be talking about bumper sex, the pussy pocket. Brandon (01:19): I'm thinking of bumper cars now. Dr. Jess (01:21): I just pictured people walking around with erections bumping each other. Brandon (01:25): I feel like that could be so painful so quickly. Dr. Jess (01:27): That's probably why it's so funny to me. Brandon (01:30): Maybe to you yeah. Dr. Jess (01:31):

Eroticize Daily Interactions: 20 Actionable Tips For Busy Couples Apr 16, 2021

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How do you keep things exciting amid a repetitive routine? How can adults be more playful (because playfulness is associated with happier relationships & hotter sex)? What simple changes can you implement to make your daily interactions more fun, passionate and erotic — even if you’re super busy? You’re not a light switch, so you likely can’t get turned on in the blink of an eye. This week, to celebrate our wedding anniversary, we share 20+ specific strategies and action items you can use to make your relationship more romantic, intimate and erotic. If you’re looking to add a new toy to your collection or for something that will buzz and vibrate bringing new and intense pleasure, check out our friends at Lovehoney, We-Vibe and Womanizer. Use code DRJESS15 at checkout to save! Big thanks to our sponsors AdamandEve.com — use code DRJESS50 to save 50% off almost any single item + get FREE gifts and free shipping. From dildos to butt plugs to lube and lingerie, they’ve got you covered. Check out AdamAndEve.com and use code DRJESS50 to save 50% off almost any one item with FREE shipping. And if you have podcast questions, please submit them here. You can find the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. Episode 341 - Eroticize Daily Interactions: 20 Actionable Tips For Busy Couples Intro: You're listening to the sex with Dr. Jess podcast, sex and relationship advice. You can use tonight. Dr. Jess: Hey, we've got a replay of one of my favorite topics, one of my favorite episodes on eroticizing daily interactions from April 2021, so you might hear some references to a totally different time. It's a time warp. Brandon: Welcome to the Sex with Dr. Jess Podcast. I am your co host, Brandon Ware, here with my lovely other half, Dr. Jess. Hey, hey. How are you? Dr. Jess: I'm feeling good. I'm feeling good. I'm interested in this conversation for the two of us as well. We're going to be talking about how to make your daily interactions more erotic and What are you laughing at? Brandon: I'm immediately thinking about eating a banana. Dr. Jess: Oh my gosh, because in my presentations I always talk about how [00:01:00] to eroticize daily interactions because you're not a light switch. You can't go from talking about your taxes and your work and your kids and whether or not your dog had a bowel movement on its last walk to just flipping the switch and being, oh, hi. Hey. Tear my clothes off, right? And my joke is when I say To eroticize your daily interactions. I don't mean make everything annoyingly erotic, right? I don't want to be eating a banana and have Brandon look over and be like, Oh yeah, you eat that banana. That's what I'm talking about. It's really more about playfulness and flirtation and I don't know, all these different ways to be erotic. It doesn't have to be super sexual or graphic. So we're going to be getting into that. I mean, I guess before we do, I should ask you, Do you feel like our interactions are particularly erotic? Brandon: I don't think that I'm an erotic person. I feel very self conscious whenever I'm [00:02:00] trying to do something that I think is erotic, whether I've seen it on, you know, TV, movie, somewhere, I feel like a goof doing it. So when I see people who are genuinely erotic and they just exude the sex appeal, I'm, I'm like, good on you because when I try that, I feel like I look like a goof. I don't know. Or I sound like a girl. Hey, Dr. Jess: yeah. No, but you are naturally charming. Like flirtation is sort of charming.

Sex After Childbirth: Techniques & Strategies From a Perinatal Therapist Apr 09, 2021

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What are the causes of pain postpartum? How can you soothe your own pain and what exercises and massage techniques can help? What does self massage entail — both directly and indirectly? And how do you assess readiness for sex postpartum? How does a Caesarian birth affect sexual functioning? Perinatal Therapist, Janette Yee, joins us to answer these questions and more. Janette's Caesarean Birth Selfcare course is now available for sign up at any time. Previously the four lessons were taught live; now they're available pre-recorded, along with over 20 how-to videos illustrating self-massage techniques and exercises. Cost: $199 Introductory bonus: access to 6 months of weekly live online group classes with Janette every Wednesday at 1pm EST. She teaches a mini-lesson, runs a mini-workout, and answers questions. All recorded and available to all students within 24 hours. (Value: $2600) Follow Janette on Instagram & LinkedIn. Please see here for a rough version of this transcript. This podcast is sponsored by Adam & Eve. Use code DRJESS to save 50% off 1 item + bonus goodies! If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. Sex After Childbirth: Techniques & Strategies From a Perinatal Therapist 00:00:05 - 00:05:15 You're listening to the sex with dr. Jess podcast sex and relationship advice you can you off tonight? Hey, hey, this is Brandon. We're ready to talk sex and relationships with dr. Yes. How's it going? I like that voice now. I just want to shut it off just you and me. Let's just go. Let's get out of here sexy time. Yeah, not if you call it sexy time game. Well, the mood is over. So back to the show. We actually have a new retail partner for our podcast and they are offering a bunch of free stuff to our listeners as well as some deep discounts. So most folks have probably heard of Adam and Eve and they sell everything from lingerie Vibes two rings to toys to King Kong. Have and with code. Dr. Jess Jess, you get 50% off one item plus a bunch of free gifts. So they're giving you six free movies free shipping and three extra treats you can use to spice things up in bed. So please do go check out your options and use code d r j e s s office to save 50% off your one item and get your bonus goodies at Adam and Eve, It can be sexy time right now for everybody. This is why I'm still here. Well, at least I'm having a good time. You know, sometimes we in life we run behind and twenty Twenty-One has been a year for me off of just falling behind. So today we're actually going to Aaron interview that we recorded a few months ago, and we had intended to release it earlier, but you know, Bob If circumstances got in the way and we didn't get to and this was such an interesting interview for me because it's all new stuff related to postpartum Wellness bought a pleasure and overall health that relates to all of us not just people who are postpartum and our guest Jeanette. She is passionate perinatal therapist a mother of two months or more competitive Runner and rugby player and she's working really hard to improve perinatal health care and this really includes quality of life issues around sexual relationships in April is actually cesarean birth awareness month. So our delay makes for good timing. So without further Ado,

How to Forgive Yourself After You’ve Cheated Apr 02, 2021

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A listener shares their story and feelings after having had cheated on their long-term partner. They ask for help managing the guilt and shame and Jess & Brandon weigh in on the topic with a discussion of: Whether or not to tell your partner about an affair Why talking about cheating can be helpful in all relationships How to talk about affairs in the hypothetical to improve understanding in relationships How the language of confession can feel burdensome How to manage feelings of guilt How to forgive yourself How to work through feelings of shame How to practice self-compassion How to learn from previous regrets Please see here for a rough version of this transcript. This podcast has been sponsored by Let’sGetChecked. Use code DRJESS to save at checkout! If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. How to Forgive Yourself After Youve Cheated 00:00:05 - 00:05:02 You're listening to the sacs with dr jess podcast sacks and relationship advice you can use tonight Welcome to the sex with dr jasser. Podcast co host brandon. Wear here with my always. Lovely other half dr jess. Hey hey how's it going and good today we're gonna be we're gonna be talking about something serious going to be talking about how to get over an affair. I look forward to your answers. I wanna know what you think. I think this is an important conversation for everyone in a relationship. But we're actually going to be talking about it from the perspective of the cheater Interesting how to move through the guilt and the shame so before we get to the question that somebody sent in one a shout out our sponsor. Let's get checked dot com. They offer all sorts of home wellness and health tests including s. t. is and. I was actually looking at some research out of canada this morning by going to try and get this right. The sex information and education council of canada came out with data showing that young people are reporting lower access to sexual health and reproductive health services since the onset of the pandemic make sense when you think about them perhaps not being on campus and having access to different sexual health counseling And free hall centers especially when we think about so. Many people may be living at home. And maybe they need their parents to drive them someplace. And don't wanna ask so. This is an option for folks. Let's get checked. You receive a box at kit and you take your sample by yourself. At home you mail it in and they provide your results securely online anna matter of days so folks please do check it out. Let's get checked dot com and please please use code dr jess to save and also so that they know you heard about it here. All right so. I'm going to read out the question that i received about how to get over the guilt and shame and other associated feelings of cheating because this is a tough one. I wanted to actually spend some time on it with you. So this person writes in and says i've been in a serious relationship for almost twelve years. We've been cohabitating for eleven years during our ninth year together. I had an affair after sleeping with the other person for the second time i felt tremendous guilt and i cut off all ties. Haven't told my partner. And at this point i don't think it's worth it.

Fetishes as Healing & How to Build Attraction Mar 25, 2021

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Adam Maurer joins us to crush on Brandon, sass Jess (with love) and answer your sex questions including: How do I pick between partners — a safe partner versus one with whom the sex is hotter? How do I deal with the fact that I love my boyfriend, but I’m no longer find him physically appealing? How can fetishes reduce stress and cultivate connection? What can we do to maintain attraction over time? What can we do to make the relationship run more smoothly? How can individual's growth potentially threaten a relationship? How do trauma responses affect partner and relationship decisions? How do I deal with a dental visit knowing that I have a dental fetish? Follow Adam on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter. Please see here for a rough version of this transcript. This podcast has been sponsored by Let’sGetChecked. Use code DRJESS to save at checkout! If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. Fetishes as Healing & How to Build Attraction 00:00:05 - 00:05:04 You're listening to the sacs with dr jess podcast sacks and relationship advice you can use tonight Welcome to the sex with dr. Just podcast i'm your co host brandon. Wear here with my lovely other. Half dr jess. How's it going. i'm excited. What four going to be talking to my friend and we. We need to dive right in. Because i know they have a lot to say so much to say you know what we should really spent some time catching up on our frisbee skills with adam. I feel as though you and our guests are gonna gonna pick on me today. I'm very much looking for this conversation before we welcome them. I wanna give a quick shout to. Let's get checked folks if you have any health tests that are overdue or do anything. From s t is to hormones to cholesterol to diabetes to lyme disease to seal eac. It is covered by. Let's get checked. They send you the test. You take your own sample you mail it in and you check your results securely online. It's let's get checked dot com. Please use code doctor jess to save at checkout and also to let them know that you heard about it here during a pandemic can't be a better time than doing your own testing at home. You know if. I don't have to leave my house i won't. That is the absolute truth unless it's to go on a plane unless it's gonna play. I want my haircut here. My teeth cleaned here also. So let's get checked using her own code. I have have actually alright without further ado. Let's dive right in. Adam is a gender queer straight friendly therapist. From austin texas she is a defender of pleasure and a slayer of shame bitch who loves to dish out wisdom on sex love and mental health here with us. Today is the fabulous miss adam. Our how you doing. I'm so good. I was just thinking man. You having on once and shame on me for tricking you into that without you to what you're getting into and so you have all the troubles on you well. Last time you complained. That brand wasn't here. And so i was a little late to the meeting today. Actually i wasn't late. You both were early. And i walked in and you were you were chatting with one. Another unsupervised discussing the terms of our recent pro frisbee sponsorship agreements. And how amazing they are because as everybody knows just is a frisbee fiend and call it desk tonette just keeping up to...

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