Renew You with Quinn Kelly

Latest Episodes:

How to Stop Being Defensive by Understanding the Root of It Mar 14, 2023

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Have you ever found yourself being defensive even when you know you are wrong? In today’s episode, Quinn discusses defensiveness and what it looks like in relationships, why it’s a problem, and techniques to stop it from ruining your relationships.

After the episode, listeners will understand:

How mindset affects defensiveness.
What pledge we need to take to stop being defensive…
The four steps to respond without defensiveness.

Mind Renewal Tip:

There are always two sides to every story. You can see someone else’s view without agreeing they are right.

Responsibility is the antidote to defensiveness.

Scripture Renewal Tips

The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice. Proverbs 12:15

Four Steps to Less Defensive Reactions:

Pause
Listen
Agree and Take Responsibility
Then explain

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10 Offensive Phrases to Avoid in Conversation and What to Say Instead Mar 07, 2023

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We’ve all heard the phrase, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me. But we always know that words do hurt. Today’s episode of the Renew You Podcast is all about learning 10 phrases that can be offensive to others and why. In the episode, Quinn teaches what words to use as an alternative to these tricky phrases.

10 Phrases to Avoid that Can Cause Offense in Conversations:

Whatever.
Calm down.
Don’t be so sensitive.
It’s not that big of a deal.
I’m done here.
No offense but…
You always… // You never…
You’ll change your mind.
I told you so.
It could be worse.

Mind Renewal Tip:

Be careful with your words. Once they are spoken, they can only be forgiven not forgotten. Carl Sandberg

Scriptural Renewal Tip:

The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. Proverbs 12:18

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Just Do It: 3 Ways to Stop Procrastinating Today Feb 28, 2023

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Have you ever heard the phrase, “Don’t put off until tomorrow what you can put off until the day after tomorrow.”? And do you relate a little too much to it? If so, today’s episode is all about helping listeners stop procrastinating and start doing.

In today’s episode, Quinn teaches listeners:

What feelings we are trying to avoid when we procrastinate.
What types of procrastinators there are.
The mindset that we have to avoid in order to stop procrastination

Types of Procrastinators:

The anxious type
The fun type
The “I’ll do it later” type
The perfectionist type

Mind Renewal Tip:

When considering procrastination: Doing something imperfectly is better than doing nothing perfectly.

If we don’t want to procrastinate, we have to accept unpleasant feelings.

Scripture Renewal Tip:

He who observes the wind will not sow, and he who regards the clouds will not reap. Ecclesiastes 11:4

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How to Accept and Process Grief in Ways that Lead to Healing Feb 21, 2023

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Grief is universal and unique to every person, yet painful nonetheless. When we deal with the acute pain of losing a person, place or thing that is meaningful to us, it can knock us off our feet time and time again.

In today’s episode, Quinn helps listeners deal with their grief by understanding:

How grief is not linear and can come in stages
How reorienting our understanding of our life can help us heal
The power of strengthening the vagal nerve

Mind Renewal Tip:

If you want to heal, you have to feel.

Scripture Renewal Tip:

The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. Psalm 34:18.

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The 4 Do’s And Don'ts of Conflict for Healthy Communication in Marriage Feb 14, 2023

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Do you ever find yourself wanting to communicate well with your partner, but find that conflict often happens when you try and talk about hard things? In today’s episode, Quinn teaches couples four healthy habits they need to add to their marriage and four unhealthy habits they need to avoid so they can communicate well and avoid conflict.

In the episode, Quinn teaches the value of:

Accepting responsibility instead of becoming defensive.
The value of keeping conflict focused on the problem and not your partner
The importance of self-soothing in conflict instead of shutting down.

Mind Renewal Tip:

Conflict is not bad. But it’s the way we find resolve that changes conflict into something healthy.

Scripture Renewal Tip:

Whoever keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble. Proverbs 21:23

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How to Rekindle Romance and Increase Intimacy in Marriage Feb 07, 2023

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Have you ever felt like you’ve lost that loving feeling in marriage, but you don’t know how to get it back? In today’s episode, Quinn discusses how to rekindle romance and increase intimacy in your marriage.

During the episode, Quinn discusses how these five tips help your marriage rebuild romance, connection and intimacy.

Love your partner in their love language.
Break up your day-to-day routine.
Remember that sex is a God-given gift.
Find passion in your life.
Take a moment to remember how you fell in love.

Mind Renewal Tip:

Emotional Intimacy Leads to Sexual Intimacy

Scripture Renewal Tip:

Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother and cleaves to his wife, and they become one flesh. Genesis 2:24

Resources:

Love Languages Secret that Lasts

12 Ways We Influence Our Children to Have Healthy or Unhealthy Habits Jan 31, 2023

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We’ve all heard the phrase, “Do as I say, not as I do.” But we know that doesn’t work in parenting. Yet as busy parents, it’s easy to have times where we model behavior in front of our children that we do not want them to imitate despite knowing we are called to be imitators of Christ.

In today’s episode, Quinn challenges listeners to pause and reflect on 12 habits in their life that are influencing their children. And then ask themselves, “Do I like how I am doing or is there something I need to change?”

Here are the 12 Habits that are Discussed:

How we prioritize our relationship with God
How we talk about other people
How we model a good work ethic
How we handle technology
How we handle anger
How we apologize and repair
How we solve problems
How we take care of ourselves
How we handle mistakes
How we model marriage
How we approach differences
How we Listen

Mind Renewal Tip:

When we focus on being mentally, spiritually and physically healthy, we set our children up to be healthy too.

Scriptural Renewal:

Be imitators of me, as I am of Christ. 1 Corinthians 11:1

What you have learned and received and heard and seen in me—practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you. Philippians 4:9

Getting Off the Emotional Rollercoaster and Gaining Self Control Jan 24, 2023

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Have you ever felt like you are ruled by your emotions instead of you ruling your emotions? If you relate to feeling like your emotions can constantly shift your mood from content to frustrated to happy to sad, then this episode is here to help you understand how to stop this pattern so your emotions can take a passenger seat in the ride of your life instead of being the driver.

In the episode, Quinn teaches listeners:

Why living by emotions is a problem.
What emotions are meant to do.
The power of practicing pause with our emotions.

Mind Renewal Tip:

We are emotionally healthy when we are spiritual healthy.

Scriptural Renewal:

A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back. Proverbs 29:11

Resources Mentioned:

Book: The Best of You

Omega3 Fatty Acids Improve Depression

How to Make Friends as an Adult and Be a Good Friend Too Jan 17, 2023

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We are wired for connection and we need it. When we are little, it begins with our parents. But as we grow, it often becomes a need to connect with a spouse or friends. But have you ever felt like it’s hard to make friends as an adult? And you find yourself wondering if you are missing out on some secret others know.

In the episode, Quinn teaches listeners:

Why Friendship is Important
What Keeps Us From Making and Maintaining Good Relationships
Traits of Good Adult Friends

Mind Renewal Tip:

If we want good friends, we have to be a good friend.

Scriptural Renewal:

Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another. Proverbs 17:17

Resources Mentioned:

The theory of Dunbar's number about 150 connections at once.

Loneliness

Giving Yourself Permission to Grow and Understanding the Surprising Thing that Holds You Back Jan 10, 2023

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We all have a past and sometimes we have parts of our past and identities from it that we are ready to let go of, but we feel stuck. In today’s episode, Quinn discusses how to give yourself permission to grow into the person you feel called to be today and let go of your past self that is holding you back.

Today’s episode teaches listeners how to grow by understanding: