Renew You with Quinn Kelly

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10 Signs You Need Better Boundaries and What to Do About It May 23, 2023

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Have you ever felt like you needed boundaries in your life but didn’t know how to begin setting them? In today’s episode, Quinn helps listeners identify how to know if they need boundaries and then understand the type of boundaries that may need to be set.

After listening to the episode, listeners will understand:

The 7 Types of Boundaries
A Visual for Thinking About Boundaries
Some simple ways to set a boundary

Scripture Renewal Tip:

Then the Lord said to Moses, “Give these instructions to the Israelites, When you come into the land of Canaan, which I am giving you as your special possession, there will be boundaries.” Numbers 34:1-2

Mind Renewal Tip:

If you want to feel better, you need better boundaries.

Types of Boundaries via Positive Psychology

Mental – Freedom to have your own thoughts and values: “I respect your opinion, but I do not agree.”
Emotional – How emotionally available you are to others: “I want to support you but do not have the emotional capacity.”
Material – Monetary: “I do not have that money to give.”
Internal – Self-regulation “I know that is not good for me after the week I’ve had.”
Conversational – Topics you don’t discuss: “I do not want to talk about that person."
Physical – Privacy and personal space with physical touch
Time – How much time you spend with someone else

5 Practical Ways to Fight Off Anxiety By Using Your Body May 16, 2023

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Have you ever felt like you have anxiety but don’t know how to reduce its presence in the moments when it’s overwhelming you? If so, you are not alone and in today’s episode Quinn teaches listeners that there is hope for utilizing your body to help calm and ground yourself in those anxious moments.

In the episode, Quinn teaches listeners:

One thought that is important for fighting back against anxiety
Three senses you can focus on to ground yourself in an anxious moment
One physical moment you can engage in to release dopamine in the brain

Mind Renewal Tip:

Anxiety often comes from feeling like you don’t know your purpose or believing that having anxiety has become your only purpose. But as believers, we have the hope that our purpose is so much greater than our circumstances.

Scripture Renewal Tip:

If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing. 1 Corinthians 13: 1-3

Resources:

hubermanlab.com

caltech.edu Social Isolation Transforms the Brain

5 Habits to Help You Enjoy Motherhood More (And Have More Peace) May 09, 2023

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Have you ever found yourself in the middle of a hard parenting moment thinking – “I love my children, but I’ve lost my joy in motherhood?” If you relate to this feeling, today’s episode was created to help you reset your mindset with new habits to enjoy motherhood more.

In today’s episode, Quinn discusses:

What makes motherhood feel hard
What we need to be focused on besides our children
How speaking life into our children really does more than just encourage them

Mind Renewal Tip:

We want our children to not just know of our love because of us but also know of God’s love.

Scripture Renewal Tip:

"She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come." Proverbs 31:25

The Trick to Understanding Why You Are Stuck in Repeated Conflict with a Spouse or Child and Ways to Stop It May 02, 2023

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Have you ever felt like you are having the same fight with your child or spouse over and over again? They say this. Then you do this. And then the cycle of conflict and frustration begins?

In today’s episode, Quinn offers listeners a remedy for stopping patterns of conflict within their homes by understanding:

What negative sentiment override is and how it damages communication.
The exact spot in the conflict pattern that you have control to change.
The power empathy has in stopping a fight in its tracks.

Mind Renewal Tip:

The quickest way to stop a fight in its tracks is to show someone empathy for the hurt or frustration we are causing them.

Scripture Renewal Tip:

Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. Ephesians 4:29

How to Love Others Well by Acknowledging We Have Needs Too Apr 25, 2023

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So many adults lose sight of themselves as they seek to meet the needs of their families, children and employers. And while they want to have the capacity to give, they also realize they can’t pour from an empty cup.

In today’s episode, Quinn helps listeners identify ways they are hard on themselves and then offers remedies to change this behavior so they can refill their cup and have something to give from a place of health. Specifically, Quinn teaches:

What self-compassion is and how to use it.
The faulty lie that makes people feel selfish for having needs.
One daily practice to utilize to rebuild a sense of love and respect for oneself

Mind Renewal Tip:

Having needs doesn’t make you selfish. It makes you human.

Scripture Renewal Tip:

Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Colossians 3:12

Practical Ways to Let Go of the Need for Control Apr 18, 2023

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Do you struggle with wanting to control situations? Some people struggle to hand over the reins to others because they believe their way is the best way to do things. But after a while, this habit tends to cause conflict in relationships and strain on the person seeking control because it’s tiring.

In today’s episode, Quinn teaches listeners how to:

Identify if they are struggling with controlling behavior
The root of the need for control
And one way of thinking that needs to be eliminated to stop controlling thinking

Mind Renewal Tip

We often think control is what brings up peace but often surrendering control is the peace we are looking for.

Scripture Renewal Tip

In their hearts humans plan their course, but the LORD establishes their steps.

Proverbs 16:9

How to Stop Feeling Pessimistic About the State of the World By Changing Your Focus Apr 11, 2023

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Have you ever been accused of being negative about the state of the world? And despite not wanting to be pessimistic, do you ever find it hard to believe people are really good when you continue to run into people making decisions you don’t agree with?

If you relate to this struggle and want to find hope and encouragement about the world we live in, today’s episode is for you. In it, Quinn focuses on:

How to Change the Way You View that State of the World
What you can eliminate to notice more positivity in your mindset.
One phrase that you can use when you want to see the good.

Scripture Renewal Tip

“I told you these things so that you can have peace in me. In this world you will have trouble, but be brave! I have defeated the world.” John 16:33

Mind Renewal Tip

The world is dark, but Jesus’ love is brighter.

6 Steps to Begin Safeguarding Your Children and Family Against Pornography Apr 04, 2023

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Protecting your home against pornography is an uncomfortable issue but one that should not be avoided for children and parents of this generation. Because every electronic device and every social media app is an easy avenue for your children to discover pornography and become addicted if they do not have the proper tools in place.

In this episode, Quinn teaches parents how to:

Begin gaining knowledge on this subject so they know what steps to take
Start a dialogue with your child on this subject
Change a child’s perspective on this temptation that often causes shame and secrecy

Scripture Renewal Tip

Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. 11 Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. 12 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Ephesians 6:10

Mind Renewal Tip:

We protect against pornography by teaching about it not avoiding it.

Statistics on Pornography:

FightTheNewDrug.org

Filters:

bark.us

Books and Resources:

Good Pictures Bad Pictures by Kristin A. Jensen

Out of the Shadows by Patrick Carnes

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How to Rebuild Broken Trust in Marriage, Parenting, and Beyond Mar 28, 2023

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Have you ever had your trust broken in a relationship and wanted to restore it but didn’t know how? If so, you are like many people that want to rebuild trust but find it takes a longer time and more effort than anticipated to rebuild, which can often lead to frustration and conflict in relationships seeking to mend.

In today’s episode, Quinn addresses this topic and helps listeners find tools to rebuild trust. Specifically, after listening, you will understand:

The power of repentance in healing broken relationships.
What habits need to be implemented to rebuild trust.
How transparency (not just honesty) plays a crucial part in rebuilding trust.

Trust Truths:

Some people trust easily. Others do not. (Most is indicative of their early relationships.)
Trust is not built overnight.
Trust in built in droplets but lost in buckets.
Trust keeps relationships strong and growing.
Trust keeps things secure. High view of self and others.
Broken trust breaks secure attachment. Breaks view of others.
To rebuild trust, you have to be patient and have grace.
We have to be people who can handle hard things to rebuild trust.

Mind Renewal Tip:

Trust in built in droplets but lost in buckets. So to rebuild trust, small actions matter.

Scripture Renewal Tip:

The integrity of the upright guides them, but the unfaithful are destroyed by their duplicity. Proverbs 11:3

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What to Do When You Have a Time Where You Love but Don’t Like Your Child Mar 21, 2023

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Have you ever gone through a time in parenting where you love your child, but don’t feel like you like them? If so, you are like so many other parents that feel guilty for feeling that way but don’t know how to process those feelings. So in today’s episode, Quinn offers wisdom about how to renew your mind on this subject.

After listening to this episode, you will understand: