Renew You with Quinn Kelly

Latest Episodes:

How to Raise Emotionally Resilient Kids Today Jan 03, 2023

Show notes

Have you ever had the experience that your child is going through something tough at school or with friends and you want to help them not hurt, but you don’t know how to make it better for them? Today’s episode is all about equipping parents in helping your children become more emotionally resilient.

In the episode, Quinn teaches parents:

The power of their child understanding their identity in Christ
How to coach them through their emotions
One phrase that we need to eliminate as parents to become more empathetic

Mind Renewal Tip:

Life will be hard for our children sometimes and we have to expect it. But every circumstance teaches them something. And if we have eyes to look at it through this lens – even when it hurts and it’s hard for them – we will see how trials lead to their growth.

Scripture Renewal:

Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God's love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us. Romans 5:3-5

How to Be Content in a World that Tells You that You Need More Dec 27, 2022

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Comparison is the thief of joy. But often we find ourselves comparing our lives to others and feeling like if we could get this thing or make this amount, we will finally be content. But this way of striving wears us out and runs us ragged.

In today’s episode, Quinn teaches listeners how to stop the comparison game by finding more contentment in their life without more things. Specifically, she teaches them these three things:

What you are actually looking for that isn’t “more things”
The list you need to be making to increase contentment.
Her favorite tip to practice gratitude daily.

Mind Renewal Tip:

We are content when we are joyful.

Scripture Renewal:

Now there is great gain in godliness with contentment, for we brought nothing into the world, and we cannot take anything out of the world. But if we have food and clothing, with these we will be content. 1 Timothy 6: 6-8

How to Improve and Strengthen Your Relationship with Your In-Laws Today Dec 20, 2022

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One of the best yet complicated relationships we experience in life can often be with our in-laws. And while we want to love them, we can find ourselves struggling not to get annoyed or frustrated at them. Despite knowing that only makes things more complicated for everyone.

So in today’s episode, Quinn addresses how to improve this relationship by discussing these three simple tools:

Look for what they offer you. Not what they don’t offer you.
Pay attention to the way they meet your spouse’s needs in the way your family does not.
Communicate what needs to be said but start with your spouse.

Mind Renewal Tip:

There is not right or wrong to the way families do all things. It’s just our norms that make us feel that way.

Scripture Renewal Tip:

“Love must be completely sincere. Hate what is evil, hold on to what is good. Love one another warmly as Christians, and be eager to show respect for one another” Romans 12:9-10

How to Have Good Communication and Connection with Your Teen Dec 13, 2022

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Parenting a teen is challenging yet so deeply important. So in today’s episode, Quinn teaches parents how to stay close and connected with their teens. Specifically, Quinn teaches parents the importance of parenting your teens and offers insight about the brains of teenagers.

Additionally, Quinn teaches parents three tips to help them in connecting with their teens which include:

The importance of giving your children space to make decisions.
The way to connect your teen so your correction works more effectively.
The power of speaking life into your teen.

Mind Renewal Tip:

If you want to connect with your teen, connect with their friends.

Scripture Renewal Tips:

Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6

Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity. I Timothy 4:12

Tips for Dealing with a Difficult Spouse Dec 06, 2022

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Life is hard and marriage can feel hard too – especially when you are married to someone that doesn’t have the easiest personality. But there is hope for all marriages and today’s episode is all about helping you find ways to deal with a difficult spouse so that you can feel connection and love within your relationship.

In the episode, Quinn addresses three ways to deal with a difficult spouse which include:

Asking for what you need in the relationship.
Proactively filling your love tank toward your partner.
Attending to your individual social, emotional, physical and mental needs

Mind Renewal Tip:

As difficult as your partner may be, it’s important to remember, you can be difficult at times too.

Scripture Renewal:

The LORD is compassionate and gracious, slow to anger, abounding in love. Psalm 103:8

How to Lengthen Your Fuse and Stop Being so Quick to Anger Nov 29, 2022

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Do you ever feel like your fuse is shorter than you want, but you don’t know how to make it better? In today’s episode, Quinn addresses not only what causes your anger but also how to stop feeling angry as often so that your anger can serve as a catalyst for change instead of something that controls you.

In the episode, Quinn specifically teaches the importance of evaluating emotions and expectations in angry situations as well as helps listeners understand:

What anger is really meant for?
Two words we need to stop saying in situations where we are mad.
A question we need to ask ourselves in angry situations.
If you are someone that has struggled with anger, this episode is one you will want to tune into.

MIND RENEWAL TIP:
People are not living their life trying to make you mad. Their anger is not about you. It’s about them.

We are intrinsically selfish humans. That’s why we need the Lord. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

Scripture Renewal

A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1

Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God. James 1:19 – 20

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How to Deal with Family Tension at Holidays Nov 22, 2022

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In today’s podcast, Quinn addresses how to reduce or prevent family tension at holiday gatherings because it’s something that is normal for so many, but something so many don’t know how to change.

The point of this podcast is to help you work to make your holiday gatherings less stressful and more enjoyable and aligned with honoring God. In the episode, Quinn offers listeners 7 things to avoid which include:

7 Don’ts to Prevent Family Tension:

Don’t call someone out in front of the family.
Don’t wait to have a hard conversation at a family gathering. Save them for before or after.
Do not over-drink or overindulge.
Don’t respect the host house.
Don’t be upset when someone sets a boundary. Respect it.
Don’t leave children unattended.
Don’t show favoritism toward grand kids.

4 Things to Prevent Tension as A Host

As the host, tell people your schedule.
If someone isn’t responding, reach out to them and ask:
What can I do to make you more comfortable?
Create spaces of retreat.
Offer fun activities for different types of people – the introverts and extroverts.

3 Things to do to Stop Continued Hurt or Family Tension

Set realistic expectations.
If you need to communicate, figure out what needs to be said to make things the most ideal. Change the pattern. Change the system.
Look for moments to connect instead of moments to criticize. And have fun!

Scripture Renewal Tip:

Ephesians 5

Mind Renewal Tip:

God loves families. He desires us to seek healthy relationships because it brings heaven to earth.

How to Have a Hard Conversation with Those You Love Nov 15, 2022

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In this week’s episode, Quinn teaches listeners 8 Steps to Follow when having a hard conversation. In it, Quinn shares how a friend called her about a family conflict and said these words, “Now before I tell you my side of the story, I reserve the right to be wrong. And I could not know what I’m talking about” which led Quinn to feel like this was a powerful topic to address before the holidays.

In the episode, Quin teaches listeners:

What to say when reaching out for a hard conversation
4 Family Communication Patterns
8 Steps to Follow for Hard Conversations

Specifically, Quinn gives tips that will help the listener understand:

Reach out to them: I want peace.
Know that you can be wrong.
Define a goal. Agree on terms before you sit down
Set a time limit.
Acknowledge your responsibility in the situation and conflict.
Listen and validate.
Share your side – “This is my experience. These are my feelings.”
Restate desired outcome.

Mind Renewal Tips

Always remember, “There is your side – my side – and the truth.”

Scripture Renewal:

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

Resources:

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How to Say No to People Pleasing and Yes to Self Respect Nov 08, 2022

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In today’s episode, Quinn helps the listener understand why people pleasing exists, why it’s a problem and more importantly -- how to stop it. By considering the life of Jesus and how he modeled not being a people pleaser but instead a lover of people, Quinn helps listeners understand why Christians are called to love and serve others but not at the expense of themselves.

During the episode, Quinn gives tips for people pleasers to stop this pattern by discussing:

3 Reasons People Need to Say No
What Memories Need to Be Addressed to Stop This Pattern
How a Self-Inventory of Needs and Wants is Important

Mind Renewal Tip:

Harmony exists when what we think say and do matches up.

Scripture Renewal:

Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.

Galatians 1:10

How to Become Less Offendable and Avoid Needless Hurt Nov 01, 2022

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Do you find yourself becoming offended more easily? Or do you ever find that everywhere you go, it feels like people are ready for a fight? In today’s episode, Quinn helps you discover why people seem to get offended and ways to become less offendable and more peaceful in your daily life.

Specifically, Quinn gives tips that will help the listener understand:

1. It's Not a Bad Thing to Disagree and How to Live This Out

2. How to Love Yourself in a Christ-Like Way to Increase Differentiation

3. Why Mindreading is Dangerous in Conflict

Mind Renewal Tip:

We don’t need to be offended by someone we wouldn’t take advice from.