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62. HeartShare: Having Privacy vs. Keeping Secrets Oct 22, 2019

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Honesty and open communication greatly contribute to the health of any relationship, especially intimate ones. Being open can be a struggle for couples who have different expectations about keeping secrets and where to draw the line when it comes to their privacy. Does the mantra "I'll show mine if you show me yours" establish a healthy foundation of trust in a relationship? What kind of attitude should we have to foster and maintain trust in our relationships to save ourselves from all unnecessary hurt and heartache?

Today, I dive into the differences between privacy and secrecy. I share how my wife and I dealt with privacy and secrecy in our relationship and how these circumstances affected our openness towards each other. I explain how keeping secrets diminishes your ability to build strong connections with your partner. I also discuss the different types of infidelity that can occur between couples, aside from sexual infidelity, as well as what it takes for couples to gain back the trust they lost due to keeping secrets.

"Trusting one another to be in a relationship and to show up with trust and honesty can be one of the greatest risks that you take in a relationship." - Pripo Teplitsky

This week on Relationships! Let's Talk About It:

How 'snooping' and secrecy can be a learned behavior
The true meaning of privacy in relationships
How my wife and I showed respect for our son's privacy
The different ways to share private experiences in relationships
Why couples should have a private life that is apart from anyone, including families
Situations when your partner could feel like you violated your sacred space as a couple
How to identify when privacy has turned into secrecy
Factors that motivate people to keep secrets
Why secrets diminish intimacy and prevent you from establishing a connection to your partner
The impact that secrecy can have on your relationship
The constant component in infidelity and keeping secrets
The illusion that couples believe when keeping secrets from their partner
What it takes to repair your relationship after trust has been broken
How keeping secrets from your partner increases stress and impacts your overall health

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61. Courage In Relationships Oct 15, 2019

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My wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky, is the founder of Artsy Goddess Studio, where she actively carries out her role in helping others and the planet heal. Yvonne is passionate about art, as seen in the upcycled clothing she creates from second-hand materials, as well as the visual arts she creates, such as murals, paintings, and tapestries. Yvonne also helps women transform through voice empowering workshops and helps couples through workshops and retreats that she co-facilitates with me.

Today, Yvonne and I discuss the significant role that courage plays in having meaningful and authentic relationships even when threatened to face ridicule and rejection from others. We discuss the gravity of being true to ourselves and how to respond when others don't accept your apology. We also share how we had the courage to humble ourselves and take emotional risks when we honestly ask for what we want.

"We've got to dare to live our lives and get the most out of the time we are here." - Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky

This week on Relationships! Let's Talk About It:

The origin of the word "courage" and how it reflects the meaning of the word we know today.
Having the courage to have difficult conversations or set boundaries with your partner in a kind way.
The mistake Yvonne made in an ice cream parlor we visited and how Yvonne's courage to apologize for her mistake made a difference in me, in her, and those around us.
A story of a former neighbor who has wronged me and my wife and how he had the courage to apologize for his behavior.
The steps Yvonne took to go the extra mile as she made amends with her mother.
Why sometimes the process of owning up and making amends can take months before it is considered resolved.
Why it's brave to seek the truth about your feelings and the reality of your relationships.
How to have the courage to have productive and healthy conversations about sex.
What heartsharesare and how it encourages you to speak the truth in your relationships.

Connect with Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky:

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If you have a relationship question you'd love to have answered, visit our podcast page to leave us a voice message. Your question may be featured on a future episode!

And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!

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60. HeartShare: Relationship Advice: Rethink Giving Advice Oct 08, 2019

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It's an instinct for us to give advice - whether we are asked for it or not - as we show care and concern for others, especially to those who are close to our hearts. Our intentions may be good, but more often than not, giving unsolicited advice causes more harm than good. Learning how to shift our mindset about showing care and offering help as well as learning other life skills can prove to be more helpful over providing a "quick fix" through unsolicited advice.

Today, I discuss the difference between solicited and unsolicited advice and why we should reconsider giving the latter. I discuss why people feel the need to offer unsolicited advice and the role that timing plays in providing help to others. I also share how I deal with unsolicited advice in my personal and professional life and share tips on how to handle advice given by people you love.

"Advice assumes that our perspective is the right one and that the way that we see things will work perfectly for others." - Pripo Teplitsky

This week on Relationships! Let's Talk About It:

How to avoid giving unsolicited advice and still get the point across to the other person.
How to know if the other person is ready to hear your advice.
How setting a firm boundary about homeschooling my son helped me and my mom learn to respect each other's boundaries around unsolicited advice.
Why men need to stop giving unsolicited advice to their partner when their driving.
How to tell others that you're not up to hearing unsolicited advice.
Why unsolicited advice from loved ones can be threatening.
How rephrasing my concern towards my son's wake board helped me practice and model good parenting.
How giving unsolicited advice to teenagers or your own children affect the way they see themselves.
Different ways to address concerns with your children or teenagers without having to give unsolicited advice.
Why giving unsolicited advice can be detrimental to others.
The appropriate approach to provide space for others to open up.
The intent to understand vs. the intent to reply.
How to make people experience having powerful and lasting impressions on the decisions they make.

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Let's Talk About It!

If you have a relationship question you'd love to have answered, visit our podcast page to leave us a voice message. Your question may be featured on a future episode!

And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!

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59. Designing Collaborative Relationships Oct 01, 2019

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Maureen McCarthy, an extraordinary woman who lives joyfully despite a two-decade-long migraine and 10% lung capacity because of a rare, genetic lung disease, is the co-director of Center for Collaborative Awareness. Together with her husband, Maureen co-founded a process that helps build and keep sincere and strong relationships. This process, called the Blueprint of We Collaboration Process, is used globally by couples, families, schools, and businesses both large and small.

Although she feels pain 24 hours a day, seven days a week, Maureen is one of the healthiest people in the world as she shifts her mindset about living a healthy and significant life.

Maureen and I discuss the five components that help people build, design, and maintain collaborative relationships. We discuss how the safety brain and connected brain neurocircuitry work in custom-designing your relationships. We also discuss how Maureen applies these principles in her life to manage her pain and live a rich life with extraordinarily healthy relationships with herself, her health, and others.

"People are not the problem in relationships - it's often the container we put ourselves in that creates the stress in the relationship." - Maureen McCarthy

This week on Relationships! Let's Talk About It:

What inspired the creation of the Blueprint of We.
Why lawyers and other professionals use the Blueprint of We in legal contracts.
The significance of knowing interaction styles and warning signs.
How to design your relationship in light of your values.
The three entities in every relationship.
The best way for Maureen to manage her pain.
How she uses the stress in her system to get what she desires.
How to help bridge relational differences and be open to possibilities and compassion for others.
How to shift from the safety brain to the connected brain.
How the "flashlight in the dark" and "pinging me" concepts work.
What helps you make meaning of the world.
How to prevent having automatic, emotional responses and start responding intentionally.
When you should deal with the issue at hand.
What "healthy" really looks like and why she is one of the healthiest people in the world.
How the concept of "Ask for everything, Say your truth" improves your close relationships.
How to change your perspective and focus on what you desire instead of merely solving the problem.

Connect with Maureen McCarthy:

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Let's Talk About It!

If you have a relationship question you'd love to have answered, visit our podcast page to leave us a voice message. Your question may be featured on a future episode!

And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!

Theme music "These Streets" provided by Adi the Monk

Relationships! Let's Talk About It is produced by Auxbus. You can create your own great podcast - faster and easier - at Auxbus.com

58. HeartShare: Emotional Availability in Relationships Sep 24, 2019

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Knowing ourselves well involves understanding ourselves so we can be emotionally available in our relationships. It's about knowing what triggers us to pull back, stonewall, and protect ourselves from the potential pain that was brought about by our circumstances. Being emotionally available to others allows us to establish honest and healthy relationships, even during conflict.

Today, I share what emotional availability is and the steps you can take to increase your emotional availability with others. I discuss why people are emotionally unavailable in relationships, how to deal with the challenges associated with it, and what you can do to make others feel comfortable with opening up and being emotionally available. I also share how my perspective of the male emotional world has changed since my childhood and how my family and I experienced a deeper level of connectedness, honesty, and love in spite of a family conflict.

"This is one way to transform the world - by being emotionally available." - Pripo Teplitsky

This week on Relationships! Let's Talk About It:

Why it's difficult to be available to others and ourselves.
How the movie Brian's Songchanged my view of how men feel.
The wrong notion men have about emotions.
Effective and ineffective ways to engage men to be emotionally available.
How men and women connect and bond differently on an interpersonal level.
The role that parents play in their children's understanding of emotional availability.
What parents can do to teach their children emotional availability.
How emotionally unavailable people deal with conflict.
What it means to "speak your truth" and "find your truth while speaking."
How to "take care of your own cup" so you can be available to somebody else.
Why most parents are not emotionally available to their kids.
How parents unintentionally teach co-dependence to their children.
How my father-in-law's emotional unavailability affected my wife's self-esteem and self-worth.
Why living a life of constant guardedness is a picture of notliving a full life.
The inner work you can do to be more available emotionally.

Resources Mentioned:

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For more information or to start your brand identity transformation journey, visit www.GyroCreative.com

Let's Talk About It!

If you have a relationship question you'd love to have answered, visit our podcast page to leave us a voice message. Your question may be featured on a future episode!

And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!

Theme music "These Streets" provided by Adi the Monk

Relationships! Let's Talk About It is produced by Auxbus. You can create your own great podcast - faster and easier - at Auxbus.com

57. How The Breath You Take Can Improve Relationships Sep 17, 2019

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Al Bailey is the owner of Breathe About Life, a healing center where people find inner healing through massage, breathwork, life coaching, and walking meditation. As a licensed massage and body therapist and healing practitioner, Al has been helping people for nearly three decades. Some of the healing techniques he learned in Beijing, China he also incorporates in his practices in North Carolina.

Al joins me today to share how the breath you take can improve your relationships. We discuss the importance of breathing and how taking deep breaths allows you to be more present, authentic, and grounded in your relationships. We discuss techniques you can use to decrease stress and anxiety. We also discuss how deep breathing exercises can help you overcome physical and emotional pain as well as help you see situations clearly and be less reactive in your response.

"Allowing the breath to flow when we're experiencing something allows us to move through and just see the clarity." - Al Bailey

This week on Relationships! Let's Talk About It:

How relationships change when people focus on healthier breathing.
How deep breathing can cause a person to respond instead of reacting.
The chain reaction that happens when you choose to focus on your breathing while under tension.
How to release yourself from the grip of an unpleasant memory.
The accident that led him to study the importance of how we breathe.
What it means to "return the mind back to the breath" and how to do it.
Why you should take note of your most recent thoughts when you catch yourself holding your breath.
The significance of nature's rhythm in a person's well-being.
How to reset everything through your breathing.
What to do when you're caught up in self-talk.
Why the voice changes in response to breathing.
The three interconnected minds that help us understand ourselves.
How breathwork helps with physical and emotional pain.
The best time to practice healthy breathing.
How to replace the old habits of shallow breathing.

Connect with Al Bailey:

Breathe About Life Website

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Let's Talk About It!

If you have a relationship question you'd love to have answered, visit our podcast page to leave us a voice message. Your question may be featured on a future episode!

And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!

Theme music "These Streets" provided by Adi the Monk

Relationships! Let's Talk About It is produced by Auxbus. You can create your own great podcast - faster and easier - at Auxbus.com

56. HeartShare: Accept People The Way They Are: Yes, Your Partner Too Sep 10, 2019

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How do you feel when you constantly see your partner's things on the floor, the dirty mess in the kitchen sink or the toothpaste pressed in the middle? The better question is - how much do you accept your partner? Accepting your partner, including their good traits and bad ones sounds simple. But, the truth is you do most of the inner work to achieve a certain level of acceptance.

Today, I discuss the things we need to accept in our partner and what it means to accept people. I explain how to shift your perspective and accept the other person for who they are. I also share the story of how I accepted my wife's routine when we need to travel as well as how this acceptance impacted the way I see her, myself, and our circumstances.

"Acceptance is letting go of the struggle to want them to change." - Pripo Teplitsky

This week on Relationships! Let's Talk About It:

The huge poison in relationships.
The kind of energy that's detrimental to bring into the relationship.
How the relational differences pile up to the point of unbearable.
How to accept the other person when shame starts to surface.
How to reprogram yourself when in the process of accepting your partner.
The wrong mindset about changing and accepting people with addiction.
What to do when you feel like "fixing" your partner.
The role that tolerance plays in the energy of acceptance.

Resources Mentioned:

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Let's Talk About It!

If you have a relationship question you'd love to have answered, visit our podcast page to leave us a voice message. Your question may be featured on a future episode!

And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!

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Relationships! Let's Talk About It is produced by Auxbus. You can create your own great podcast - faster and easier - at Auxbus.com

55. Q & A Session With My Daughter-In-Love Sep 03, 2019

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My daughter-in-love, Emma Olyff, is in a relationship with my son, Zander. Currently living in the Netherlands, she is attending Maastricht University with Zander, where she is studying psychology. She is also the founder and jewelry designer at Emwa Jewelry, an artisan jewelry company she started from her passion for handmade jewelry.

Today, Emma joins me for a Q & A session about relationships. We discuss the role of guilt when apologizing to others and how to avoid getting pulled in by other people's emotions to keep your own groundedness. We also discuss why couples should be both friends and lovers and how to make a habit of creating moments that will sustain your relationship.

"We need to have a vision - the vision of repair - because guilt makes us stay in paralyzation." - Pripo Teplitsky

This week on Relationships! Let's Talk About It:

Two significant parts of an apology that make apologizing easier and more sincere
Physical gestures you can do to deal with anxiety
How to avoid allowing your guilt to overshadow the empathy you have for your partner
How long you should wait before apologizing and handling the issue at hand
How to capture the moment-by-moment connections in a long-term relationship
The difference between constructive criticism and constructive feedback
The ultimate purpose of giving constructive feedback
Circumstances where you should learn to get comfortable with the uncomfortable
Understanding and performing individual and collective responsibilities in a relationship when dealing with the effects of negative past experiences
The best time to bring up and discuss unhealthy patterns in a relationship
How to work with each other to learn each other's triggers
How to do the inner work of speaking to your heart and accepting vulnerability to avoid blaming others
The significance of celebrating relational wins and improvements
How to reinforce positive experiences to pursue more of them

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Connect with Emma Olyff:

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Let's Talk About It!

If you have a relationship question you'd love to have answered, visit our podcast page to leave us a voice message. Your question may be featured on a future episode!

And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!

Theme music "These Streets" provided by Adi the Monk

Relationships! Let's Talk About It is produced by Auxbus. You can create your own great podcast - faster and easier - at Auxbus.com

54. Taking Responsibility In Your Relationship Aug 27, 2019

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My wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky is a brilliant artist, originally from Denmark, who creates art such as tapestries, paintings, and other eccentric pieces from diverse materials. She is the owner of Artsy Goddess Studio, an upcycled clothing business using high-quality second-hand clothing. She is also passionate about empowering women to express themselves through the workshops and gatherings she hosts in Black Mountain, North Carolina.

Yvonne joins me today to share how we take accountability and responsibility in our relationship and discuss how you can repair your relationships faster through self-soothing. We share a recent story about how we resolved a conflict regarding sexual intimacy and the power of accountability and apology when done correctly. We also discuss the different ways to shift your negativity and feelings of irritation into feelings of appreciation for your partner.

"We have to take responsibility here and play our part." - Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky

This week on Relationships! Let's Talk About It:

Working on our responses versus focusing on what we don't like about the other person.
When is it notthe right time to work things out?
How to get a positive response from your partner during an argument.
How to repair your disagreement well with your spouse.
How Yvonne 'shakes off' my serious energy to find her own equilibrium.
Questions to ask yourself to stay focused on your "side of the net."
An empowering strategy that allows parties to own their experience, emotions, and behavior.
Ways to take care of yourself during a disagreement.
How incompatibilities regarding your sexual relationship can be a cause of strife.
How to intentionally create a positive default image of your partner to help address the challenging things that come up in your relationship.
Habits to cultivate to inspire your partner to step up and be a better spouse.
The ratio between the positive reactions for each negative comment.

Connect with Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky:

Artsy Goddess Studio Website

Sponsored by Gyro Creative

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Let's Talk About It!

If you have a relationship question you'd love to have answered, visit our podcast page to leave us a voice message. Your question may be featured on a future episode!

And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!

Theme music "These Streets" provided by Adi the Monk

Relationships! Let's Talk About It is produced by Auxbus. You can create your own great podcast - faster and easier - at Auxbus.com

53. A Father-Son Conversation Aug 20, 2019

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My son, Zander Teplitsky, is currently living in the Netherlands while attending college at Maastricht University. Zander and his girlfriend, Emma, recently came home to visit over summer break, and we've shared so many interesting conversations.

Zander joins me today for a father-son conversation about our relationship and how we cultivated our relationship through honesty, communication, and appreciation. We discuss how we continually inspire and motivate each other and why Zander inspired me to start a podcast. We discuss why it's important for parents to cultivate a level of friendship with their children, the qualities Zander believes helps our relationship thrive, and how communication, honesty, and appreciation helps build trust and respect between parents and their children. We also discuss how allowing your children to make mistakes helps cultivate a sense of freedom while enabling them to learn and grow independently as well as how Zander developed his positive outlook on life and his perspective on the world.

"We try really hard every day to be as present with each other, and as loving, and as honest as we can." - Zander Teplitsky

This week on Relationships! Let's Talk About It:

How Zander discovered podcasts and why he inspired me to start podcasting.
The qualities of our relationship that Zander believes helps it thrive.
Why I believe parents can - and should - cultivate a friendship with their children.
How communication and honesty help develop trust in your relationship with your children.
How building a foundation of appreciation with your children impacts their willingness to respect your boundaries.
Why Zander proactively tries to let go of negative or judgmental thoughts of himself or others.
The importance of cultivating appreciation early in your relationship with your children.
How allowing your children to make mistakes cultivates a sense of freedom.
How Zander developed his positive perspective on the world and its future.
How attending the International People's College impacted his perspective on the world.
How our family helps each other reframe our thoughts and emotions.
The recent family conflict we had and how we worked through it.

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