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124: Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa...Oh My! Dec 06, 2017

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Navigating the complexities of an inter-faith relationship can be difficult, especially during the holiday season. Forty-nine perfect of unmarried relationships and 39% of marriages are inter-faith, and the numbers continues to grow. Today's episode will help you learn how to communicate with your partner during the holiday's and beyond. Don't be the Grinch this holiday season, listen this episode to get the tools to maintain a happy and healthy relationship.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Learn how to communicate about your differences and establish rules to operate under in your relationship.
Understand why our needs are not always met in a relationship, and why that's OK.
How to deal with parents who might be pushing their religious views on you or your partner.
Remembering that you got together because of your differences and this is what should be appealing about your partner. It would be pretty boring if you agreed on everything!
And much more!

Diane Barth is a psychotherapist and psychoanalyst in New York City where she works with individuals, couples, and families and leads private study groups. She also offers workshops for therapists around the country. Her articles have been published in numerous professional journals and books.

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123: Help, My Partner Is A Workaholic! Nov 29, 2017

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Technology and work are an integral part of living in the 21st century. While both can be great, they can also create a huge strain on our relationships. It's common for a person to have feelings of betrayal when their partner is always working, talking on the phone or browsing social media. Learning to create awareness around these issues and communicate through them is critical to having a successful relationship in today's world.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

How using 'I' statements can be the difference between successfully solving a relationship problem and a full-scale blowup.
Why getting out of the house can be the key to a productive conversation within your relationship.
How to discuss and create boundaries between work, technology and your home relationship life.
Forming a contract and schedule for when your partner will take off work to spend time on the relationship.
Why it's important to remember that we cannot change our partner.
The 10-minute rule and how it can help your relationship flourish.
And much more!

Dr. Terri Orbuch (aka The Love Doctor®) is a world renowned relationship expert, author, speaker, therapist and professor. She is also the director of a landmark study, funded by National Institutes of Health (NIH), where she has been following the same couples for almost 3 decades. Dr. Orbuch is widely published in scientific journals and the author of “5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage From Good to Great.” and “Finding Love Again: 6 Simple Steps to a New and Happy Relationship.” Dr. Orbuch has been featured in such publications as The New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Reader’s Digest, USA Today, Women’s Health, Cosmopolitan and TIME magazine and has appeared on The Today Show, MSNBC, The Katie Couric Show, ESPN, HuffPost Live, and CNN.

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122: Managing Long Distance Relationships...Even If You Just Feel Like You're In One Nov 22, 2017

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There is nothing harder than being madly in love with someone and not being able to see them everyday. Whether you live in another state or your partner works a lot, finding success in a long distance relationship can be hard. Listen to today's show to learn the tools to create a successful long distance relationship.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Learn how to gauge if your long distance relationship is going to last.
Find out why you should avoid texting your partner too often.
How to create novelty and passion to keep the relationship alive and thriving.
How simply having kid's can make a relationship feel like it's long distance.
Why it's important not to skip over uncomfortable relationship conversations.
And much more!

Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman is an award-winning author and relationship expert. She is the founder and director of Paulette Sherman Group, a psychotherapy and relationship coaching practice and home of numerous award-winning books, including Dating From the Inside Out published by Simon & Schuster. For more than 20 years, Paulette changed the lives of thousands of clients, and shared insight with millions more through expert commentary on over 30 media outlets including MSN, USA Today, The New York Post, The New York Times and many more. She lives in Brooklyn, NY with her husband and two children and works in Manhattan.

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121: Split the Check, Please Nov 15, 2017

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Managing and communicating around the subject of finances can be a critical part of any relationship. If you're dating, how do you decide who picks up the bill? Recently engaged? Will you combine or keep your finances separate? Financial disagreements in long term relationships and marriage can become a huge problem. Listen to today's show and learn how to navigate the ins and outs of finance in your relationship.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Learn how to communicate about spending habits and how you view money in your relationship.
Find out the best ways to manage your money in a long term relationship.
How to decide on whether or not to combine bank accounts.
Learn how to decide who will pick up the bill for dinner on your next date. This is not the 19th century, women are working and making money too!
And much more!

Stefanie O'Connell is a millennial money expert, speaker and author of the book, “The Broke and Beautiful Life". Stefanie's website, StefanieOConnell.com, is a destination for millennials who want to feel as much clarity with their money as they do confidence in their lives. Her work has been featured in The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, Forbes, SUCCESS magazine, MONEY.com and many more!

Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/121

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120: Esther Perel Talks Infidelity and Modern Relationships Nov 08, 2017

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Infidelity is something that can affect both unhappy, and seemingly happy relationships. That's right, research has shown a significant number of partners are cheating while in a happy relationship. Esther Perel breaks down how to deal with infidelity and a range of other relationship topics that we know you'll enjoy. Esther is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships, and we couldn't have been happier to have her on the show to share her extensive knowledge.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

How the rulebooks for marriages and relationships are being reinvented.
Why people cheat in a happy relationship.
How to avoid the trap of becoming a narrow version of yourself while in a relationship.
What to do when there has been cheating in your relationship.
Talking about non-monogamy with your partner, and why it's important even if you don't want to explore an open relationship.
How to cultivate the healthiest relationship possible.
And much more!

Belgian psychotherapist, Esther Perel, is the New York Times bestselling author of The State of Affairs and Mating in Captivity. Her celebrated TED talks have garnered nearly 20 million views, and she is also the host of the popular Audible original podcast Where Should We Begin?

Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/120

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119: Feeling Lonely In Your Relationship Oct 31, 2017

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The human condition of loneliness is one that everyone experiences. Feeling lonely is common even for those in relationships. Learning how to deal with loneliness is important whether it's your own or your partners. Listen to today’s show to learn how to overcome loneliness in your relationship.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

How to look inward, rather than outward to your partner, to help deal with loneliness.
Why it’s important to accept your own, or your partners loneliness.
How to frame loneliness as a necessary stage before we make a big change in our lives.
How to talk about loneliness with your partner and discuss from a place of acceptance.
Mirror meditation as a tool to deal with loneliness.
And much more!

Dr. Tara Well is a professor of psychology at Barnard College of Columbia University in New York City. She has over 20 years of experience in conducting research on what motivates us and influences our perceptions as well as extensive training in meditation, yoga, and other mind-body healing modalities. Her research has been funded by the National Institute of Mental Health and the National Science Foundation and has been published in the top professional journals in psychology. She teaches classes in personality, motivation, health, and women's leadership.

Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/119

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118: Bad Breakups: Learn How Past Relationships Shape Who We Are Oct 25, 2017

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Chances are you've been through a breakup at some point in your life. Whether it was a recent and difficult breakup, or a high school sweetheart from years ago, these events shape who we are and how we form new relationships. Learning how to accept and validate your feelings is critical to moving on and forming a new happy and healthy relationship. Listen to today's show to learn how to examine your past relationships to improve where you are now.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

How to accept and validate your feelings surrounding a breakup.
The steps to completing a through investigation of your beliefs so that they do not negatively affect your current or future relationships.
Examining your fears surrounding relationships so they do not have power over you.
How to deal with a partner who has a past breakup that is affecting your current relationship.
Writing therapy to help process your past.
And much more!

Rachel Dack is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (LCPC), Nationally Certified Counselor (NCC) and Relationship Coach. Rachel is the owner of Rachel Dack Counseling LLC, a private psychotherapy, relationship coaching and consulting practice located in Bethesda, Maryland. With a Master’s degree in Clinical Counseling from Johns Hopkins University, Rachel specializes in supporting individuals and couples in achieving healthy mindsets, decreased stress, satisfying relationships, positive wellbeing and love. Her areas of expertise include relationships, dating, anxiety, self-esteem, mindfulness and depression.

Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/118

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117: Why Making Excuses Hurts Your Relationship Oct 18, 2017

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It's easy to rationalize the negative ways we talk or act toward our partner. In fact, rationalizing bad behavior often leads to conflict and the eroding of a relationship. Listen to this episode to learn why excuses and rationalizations creep into even the best of marriages, and how help couples identify and eliminate them.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Learn why it's so hard to be self aware when emotions are high and how to change this.
Defending yourself versus being defensive and the important distinction between each.
Why using "I" statements instead of "You" can make a huge improvement in the communication in your relationship.
How to become self aware in order to avoid rationalizing bad behavior.
Why we have negative reactions to being accused and how to change this communication on both sides.
And much more!

Jason Whiting, Ph.D., is a professor at Brigham Young University who studies deception, conflict, and abuse in relationships, with the goal of helping couples become more loving and authentic. His book, Love Me True: Overcoming the Surprising Ways We Deceive in Relationships, looks at how partners can be more honest with themselves and each other. In addition to teaching, studying, and writing about relationships, Whiting is a licensed marriage and family therapist who works with couples in a clinical context.

Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/117

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116: Affair Proof Your Relationship Oct 11, 2017

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The incidence of infidelity in the United States is greater than 50%. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to realize that we're doing something wrong. A huge part of preventing infidelity is communication with your partner. For example, have you communicated your deepest sexual desires to your partner without fear of judgement? Today's show will outline the steps to share feelings like this and to affair proof your relationship.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

How to come to terms with the fact that we are all sexual beings, and will find people other than our partner attractive.
Avoiding the irrational belief in your relationship that, "we love each other and therefore will never stray."
Facing your own fears of your partner being attracted to someone else.
Learn to know the person you love on the deepest level possible.
How to talk about these deep emotional feelings with your partner.
Why the more you talk about your weaknesses, the stronger you and your relationship will become.
And much more!

Steven Ing is reframing an important conversation in society one about the intelligent management of human sexuality. He is a sought-after trainer, speaker and therapist, bringing nearly three decades of experience to his audiences and clients. His book, We're All Like This" (2015, Giant Publishing), is used as a text in Human Sexuality classes in university classrooms.

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115: Great Expectations Oct 04, 2017

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When expectations in your relationship don’t meet reality, disappointment is bound to happen. Whether you find yourself struggling with too high or too low expectations, finding the balance is key to being happier and more satisfied in your relationship. Listen to today’s show with Dr. Sarah Vannier to learn how to manage expectations and avoid disappointment in your relationship.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

How creating false romantic expectations can hurt your relationship.
Finding a balance in your relationship expectations so they aren't too high or too low.
Examining your expectations to determine which are the most realistic.
Learn if you have a growth romantic belief system or a destiny romantic belief system and how this will affect your relationships.
How to keep intimacy for couples who are new parents.
And much more!

Dr. Sarah Vannier is a Postdoctoral Fellow working at Dalhousie University in Halifax, Nova Scotia. Her research tends to focus on the ways that we think about our sexual and romantic relationships and she recently published two papers looking at the link between violated romantic expectations (e.g., love at first sight, destiny) and relationship outcomes in young adults dating relationships. Right now Sarah is doing research looking at the ways to help new parents cope with the sexual and relationship challenges that come with early parenthood.

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Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/115

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