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134: How To Have Great Sex In A Long-Lasting Relationship Feb 14, 2018

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Want to have better sex!? If you answered, YES!, then this episode is for you. It turns out that as relationships mature, the sex tends to become less frequent and less passionate. Don't despair. There are simple steps to help improve your sex life right here in this episode. Listen and learn!

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Why being aware of when you're aroused and what that feels like is the first step to better sex.
Dumb and happy arousal and why it's important in your relationship.
Why women are increasingly less satisfied in bed and what to do about it (hint: smartphones and porn).
The importance of taking your time during sex and not simply having the goal of climaxing.
Why you should 'simmer' and not only get aroused when you are going to have sex.
Understanding that everyone is responsible for their own arousal.
Learn what 'lazy sex' is and how it can help your relationship.
And much more!

Stephen Snyder, M.D. is a sex and couples therapist, psychiatrist, and writer in New York City. He is an Associate Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mt. Sinai in New York City, and chairman of the Consumer Book Award Committee for the Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR). He has treated patients at his practice for 25 years, is a guest on major media outlets nationwide, and writes for Psychology Today and Huffington Post. He lives with his wife and children in New York City.

Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/134

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133: The Importance of Nonverbal Communication in Your Relationship Feb 07, 2018

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Did you know that well over half of the communication you have in your relationship is nonverbal? We all know that feeling when your partner 'needs to talk'. They may touch your shoulder, or their tone or facial expressions change. These are nonverbal communications that are most recognizable, but there are hundreds of nonverbal cues we give and receive in our relationship each day. The way in which we give positive or negative nonverbal communication is a key to creating a successful relationship. Listen to today's episode to learn more about the importance of nonverbal communication in your relationship.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Learn how nodding, leaning and tilting with your head can create positive non-verbal cues for your partner.
Understand the gender differences in how men and women give and receive non-verbal communication.
Why the tone of your voice can be a critical component of successful non-verbal communication.
How reading body language can affect your relationship.
Why something as simple as placing your hand on your partners shoulder can help your relationship.
And much more!

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Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/133

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132: I'm Right, And You're Wrong Jan 31, 2018

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We've all been in an argument where we are so sure we're right. We'll go to great lengths to stand our ground and prove that we are right and our partner is wrong. News flash, this is not helpful for our relationships. Learn the tools to defuse a situation where you or your partner thinks they are right and an argument begins.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Recognizing that when we argue we often go away from the content of the argument and go toward feelings.
How to go beneath the content of an argument to discover the trigger for the conflict.
Why arguments often begin with the relationship we have with ourselves and not our partner.
How to wait and have a productive conversation when we're not in an escalated emotional state.
Validating your partners feelings to have a productive conversation and create a stronger relationship.
And much more!

Ellen Gendelman is a psychotherapist and professional coach who specializes in working with relationships. She cherishes her own roles as wife, mother and grandmother. A veteran educator and motivational speaker, she has a passion for helping people grow and maximize their potential. Ellen is excited to have recently authored her second book ‘When Ice Cream Is Not Enough.’

Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/132

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131: Communication Tips for a Better Sex Life Jan 24, 2018

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Why is talking about sex in our relationships so hard sometimes? Not satisfied in bed? Unhappy with the frequency of sex in your relationship? Do you want to simply spice up your sex life? Sex is a huge part of relationships, and it's often not talked about at all, or in a productive way. Listen to today's episode to learn how to talk about sex with your partner and ignite your sex life.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Learn how to avoid a 'sexless' relationship (having sex less than 10 times per year - 1/3 of couples are actually 'sexless').
Get the tools to have a productive conversation about sex with your partner.
The importance of giving your partner a warning that you want to have a sex talk.
Understand why it's critical that the 'sex talk' is an ongoing conversation.
Learn how to communicate the change in your sex life you want to see in a positive manner.
Find out the steps to having the who, what, where, when, why conversation about sex in your relationship and learn how it can help tremendously.

Laurie Watson is a certified sex therapist, author, speaker, and educator on sexuality, intimacy and relationships. Laurie also co-hosts a podcast with Dr. Adam Matthews where they talk easily and frankly about the challenges of monogamy, and how couples can have an exciting, meaningful sex life in marriage.

Full show notes and episode links at http://idopodcast.com/131

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130: Achieving Work-Life Balance In Your Relationship Jan 17, 2018

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Are you struggling to achieve a healthy work-life balance in your relationship? Do you feel like your partner is focusing more on work and less on you and the relationship? It's easy for our relationships to take a back seat to a busy job or a new business venture. There are only so many hours in a day, and much of the time is spent working. Don't let work ruin your relationship. Listen to today's show to find out the key tools to balance your work life with your romantic life. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

How to manage your time between work and your relationship.
Creating weekly agreements to manage expectations and avoid conflicts.
How to be present with your spouse and forget about work while at home.
Setting boundaries on when to talk about work and when to 'keep it at the office'.
The importance of checking in with your partner and letting them know you care about their work, while not letting it overshadow the relationship.
Using shared calendars to help manage time, expectations and work-relationship balance.

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Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/130

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129: Recovering From Infidelity In Your Relationship Jan 10, 2018

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Infidelity is unfortunately a huge part of the modern marriage. If we can understand why men and women cheat then we are halfway towards solving the problem. Once a partner has committed physical or emotional infidelity, it is important to learn how to heal the relationship. Listen to today's show to learn about healing from a cheating spouse or how to avoid it altogether!

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

How to heal the broken trust from a cheating spouse.
Why men tend to cheat more because of opportunity and women for a larger variety of reasons.
How a man can earn back trust and heal the relationship.
Why a man's desire to 'fix things' can be detrimental to healing after infidelity.
And much more!

Robert Weiss, LCSW, CSAT-S, is a digital-age intimacy and relationships expert specializing in infidelity and addictions—in particular sex, porn, and love addiction. He is the author of several highly regarded books, including “Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating,” and “Sex Addiction 101. Currently, he is Senior Vice President of National Clinical Development for Elements Behavioral Health, creating and overseeing addiction and mental health treatment programs for more than a dozen high-end treatment facilities.

Full show notes and episode links at http://idopodcast.com/129

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128: Improve Intimacy In 2018 Jan 03, 2018

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Let's face it, getting old sucks! As we age, we may also face daily obstacles of intimacy along the way. Whether you're 25 or 55, these obstacles can be increased if you suffer from a chronic illness, depression or any other health issues. Listen to today's show to learn how to navigate the relationships intimacy issues involved with getting older or living with a chronic illness.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Learn how unrealistic relationship depictions can shape how we feel and act in our own relationships.
How to deal with sexual functioning issues, fatigue and the insecurities surrounding these issues.
Tips for communicating effectively about intimacy issues and other relationship areas.
The importance of being willing and ready to hear about changes from your partner.
How to be honest with the people in our lives.
And much more!

Logan Levkoff, Ph.D., is a nationally recognized expert on sexuality, sexual health, relationships, intimacy, parenting, and sexual politics. She is also a TV personality and best-selling author of three books, and is a contributor to online resource Arthritis.com.

Full Show Notes and Episode Links at http://idopodcast.com/128

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127: Just Be Nice 🙂 Dec 27, 2017

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The next time you want to shout, "Hey, you a**hole!", at the person who cut you off, try practicing some compassion. No really, it's the single greatest tool to help you navigate rush hour traffic, a screaming child or a partner who has been getting on your nerves. It can sound a bit 'woo woo', but learning to practice more compassion toward ourselves and others can have a profound impact on our relationships and overall well being. Listen to today's show to get the tools and tips to bring more compassion into your life.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Understand the balance involved in creating a truly compassionate life.
The tools and tips to become more compassionate to yourself and others on a daily basis.
Learn how to be curious about what the other person is experiencing in order to become more compassionate.
How understanding that everybody has a life story will help you be more compassionate.
The tips to realizing that kindness is always possible.
And much more!

Laura Jack, author of #1 best selling book, The Compassion Code: How to say the right thing when the wrong thing happens, teaches compassionate communication and how we can relate to one another more effectively during the challenging moments in life. Her mission is to cultivate a culture of compassion, starting with self, and to create a better understanding of loss and its accompanying grief.

Full Show Notes and Episode Links at http://idopodcast.com/127

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126: Managing Stress In Your Relationship...Especially During Holidays Dec 20, 2017

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Relationships are hard — add your drunk uncle, traveling with kids, buying presents and everything that comes with the holidays, and you have a recipe for a mental meltdown. No need to worry! Today's episode will give you the tools and advice to manage stress around the holiday's and in everyday life.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Learn how to tolerate each others differences and not try to fix them.
Find out what 'speed arguing' is and how it can be a valuable tool for your relationship.
Learn why it's important not to take your partner's mood personally.
Tips to create rules that will help you navigate stressful situations.
And much more!

Winifred Reilly is a marriage and family therapist, with a private practice in Berkeley, CA. In her thirty-five years of clinical practice she has treated hundreds of couples—many who were convinced they were headed for divorce. Winifred has been a guest lecturer on marriage and sexuality, and her writing has appeared on The Huffington Post, The Good Men Project, xoJane, and on her relationship advice blog, Speaking of Marriage.

Full Show Notes and Episode Links at http://idopodcast.com/126

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125: When Two Worlds Collide - Dating and Parenting Dec 13, 2017

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Being a single or divorced parent and dating can be difficult. Whether you are dating someone with kids, or you yourself have kids from a previous relationship, these circumstances present all kinds of potential problems. Learn how to navigate these issues with a world's leading expert on resilience and family dynamics.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Learn how to create structure for your kids to help ease the transition of divorce and dating.
Find out if it's OK for your kids to stay in touch with an ex who is not their parent.
Understand the importance of being genuine with your child when dating new people.
Learn why it's important to not feel guilty about dating.
And much more!

Dr. Michael Ungar is the Canada Research Chair in Child, Family and Community Resilience at Dalhousie University, and the founder and Director of the Resilience Research Center. He is among the best known writers and researchers on the topic of resilience in the world. As both a family therapist and professor of Social Work, he has helped to identify important factors that influence the resilience of children and families during periods of change and stress. He is the author of 14 books that have been translated into five languages, numerous manuals for parents, educators, and employers, as well as more than 150 scientific papers.

Full Show Notes and Episode Links at http://idopodcast.com/125

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