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114: Is Your Partner In Love With Their Phone? Sep 27, 2017

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We all know our relationships would benefit from limiting the amount of time we spend on our phones. So, why is it so damn hard to put the phone down!? The average person spends about 4 hours each day on their phone - 4 HOURS! What if we spent 10% of that time nurturing our relationship? That's 10 full hours a month that can be dedicated to date nights. Yes, please! Listen to today's show to learn how to put your phone down and reconnect with yourself and your partner.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

How a smart phone can ruin your relationship and the steps to prevent this.
How our brains react to phone use in the same way as cocaine.
Why creating awareness of an addiction to technology is the first step in treatment and improving your relationship.
Tips to put your phone down and reconnect with yourself and your partner.
How to have a serious conversation about dealing with technology in your relationship.
And much more!

Nancy Colier is a psychotherapist, interfaith minister, mindfulness teacher, relationship expert, blogger for psychology today and huff post, and the author of the new book, The Power of Off: The Mindful Way to Stay Sane in a Virtual World.

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113: Why Respect Is Critical In A Relationship Sep 20, 2017

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John Kim LMFT, The Angry Therapist, pioneered the online life coaching movement seven years ago after going through a divorce which led to his total re-birth. He quickly built a devoted following of tens of thousands of fans who loved the frank and authentic insights that he freely shared on social media. John became known as an unconventional therapist who worked out of the box, and when he built out a coaching team of his own, launched an entire movement to change the way we change.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Learn why mutual respect should be a foundation of your relationship.
How to address your partner in a non-blaming way for conflict resolution.
Why it's important to respond and not react in your relationship.
How to accept your partner for maximum relationship happiness.
Why self awareness is one of the most valuable tools in a successful relationship.
And much more!

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112: Don’t Make These Online Dating Mistakes Sep 13, 2017

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Megan Murray is the Senior Content Strategist and Editor-in-Chief at Zoosk, an online dating site and app. She splits her time between product management and writing and managing Zoosk's online publication, The Date Mix.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Learn the top tools and insights to navigate the world of online dating.
Find out how to send better messages to attract the right relationship match online.
The counterintuitive reason removing your online dating filters can help you find true love.
How to set up your online dating profile to attract the best partner.
Find out how to time your messages for maximum response rates and interaction.
Understand the biggest mistakes people make when online dating so you can avoid them.
And much more!

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111: Conflict Happens - Learn How to Deal With It Sep 06, 2017

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Dr. Bernard Golden, the founder of Anger Management Education in Chicago, has been a practicing psychologist for almost forty years. He is the author of Overcoming Destructive Anger: Strategies That Work, Unlock Your Creative Genius and Healthy Anger: How to help children and teens manage their anger.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Learn how you and your partner can manage your anger for a happier relationship.
Understand that unless you are the ultimate enlightened being, you will experience some form of anger in your life.
How to take a mental pause to scan your body and deal with anger appropriately.
Why keeping an anger log can help you manage knee-jerk reactions and unnecessary anger.
Using compassionate words with yourself and your partner to dissolve an angry situation.
Why the ability to apologize is a critical element in dealing with angry blowups.
And much more!

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110: Progress Over Perfection Aug 30, 2017

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Darlene Lancer is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and expert author on relationships and codependency. Shes counseled individuals and couples for 30 years and coaches internationally. Her books include Conquering Shame and Codependency, Codependency for Dummies, 10 Steps to Self-Esteem, How to Beat Perfectionism and many more.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

How unrealistically high standards can hurt your relationship.
Why becoming aware of self-talk and beliefs is important in dealing with perfectionism.
Learn the type of perfectionist you or your partner are in order to improve the relationship.
How to work with your inner critic.
Learn how you or your partner can become a healthy perfectionist that does not damage the relationship.
Why challenging your beliefs can be a valuable exercise in improving your relationship.
And much more!

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109: Stop Disagreements From Turning Into Fights Aug 23, 2017

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Jeremy Sherman, Ph.D., M.P.P. researches and writes about decision-making from the origins of life to everyday life. He has written over 1100 articles on practical decision-making for his Psychology Today blog: Ambigamy: Insights for the deeply romantic and deeply skeptical and has a book coming out with Columbia University Press this October: Neither Ghost Nor Machine, the emergence and nature of selves.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

How to avoid escalating a disagreement into a fight in your relationship.
Determining where the fight is coming from by asking, "Is it stemming from you, me or us?"
Mirroring your partner to help talk your way through a disagreement.
How going meta and thinking about how you are thinking can help resolve conflict in your relationship.
Why it's important to not become the 'judge' of the disagreement with your partner.
And much more!

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108: Is Facebook Damaging Your Relationship? Aug 16, 2017

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Dr. Zack Carter is an assistant professor of communication at Taylor University. His teaching and research efforts are conducted through the lens of social psychology. His areas of expertise are marriage fidelity, relationship development/management, the self, nonverbal communication, persuasion, social influence, and social media. Specifically, Dr. Carter is passionate about helping married couples, and those looking to marry, avoid blind spots in their communication with the opposite sex, face-to-face, online, and through texting, that could devastate their marriage relationship.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

How to monitor social media use for a healthy marriage or relationship.
Why online emotional infidelity can be just as damaging as an actual affair.
How 'carefronting', rather than confronting, your partner is a more productive way to problem solve.
Learn what Zach thinks about one-on-one friendships with the opposite sex when you are married or in a relationship.
Find out if you should create a joint Facebook account with your partner.
And much more!

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107: Rethinking Marriage Aug 09, 2017

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Vicki Larson is an award-winning journalist in the San Francisco Bay Area and Susan Pease Gadoua is a licensed therapist based in the San Francisco Bay Area and author of "Contemplating Divorce, A Step-by-Step Guide to Deciding Whether to Stay or Go" and "Stronger Day by Day: Reflections for Healing and Rebuilding After Divorce ." Together they wrote "The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels".

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Learn the many interesting alternatives to traditional marriage.
Why it's important to be clear on what you want in your marriage or relationship.
Why matching your expectations with your partner's is a key to a successful marriage.
Open marriages and how they can be structured.
Creating a contract for your relationship in order to find success.
And much more!

Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/107 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah

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106: How Embracing Vulnerability Strengthens Our Relationships Aug 02, 2017

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Dr. Lisa Firestone is the Director of Research and Education at The Glendon Association and Senior Editor for the mental health website PsychAlive.org. She is the author of numerous articles and chapters and the co-author of several books including Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice, Creating a Life of Meaning and Compassion, Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships and most recently The Self under Siege. Dr. Firestone is international trainer and speaker on: couple relationships, parenting, suicide, and violence prevention. She expert in the areas of suicide and violence and was involved in clinical training and applied research with her father Dr. Robert Firestone.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

How vulnerability will help your relationship by creating more intimacy.
Cultivating vulnerability in yourself and your partner.
Why it's important to ask for what you DO want rather than what you DON'T want.
How to get in touch with your real feelings underneath anger.
Creating an atmosphere of safety in your relationship to talk about feelings.
And much more!

Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/106 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah

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105: Dealing with Emotional Triggers and Thinking Separately Jul 26, 2017

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Dr. Ilene S. Cohen, Ph.D., is a psychotherapist and blogger, and teaches in the Department of Counseling at Barry University. Shes a regular contributor to Psychology Today, and her work has appeared in Psych Central and Tiny Buddha. Her practice is fueled by her passion for helping people achieve their goals, build a strong sense of self and lead fulfilling and meaningful lives.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Why commitment is the baseline and foundation of a relationship.
Why it's important to think separately from your partner in a relationship.
How to manage your own functioning and avoid trying to manage your partner.
Why we become emotionally triggered and how to deal with it.
How to take an objective approach to a triggered response.
Why it's important to not judge yourself for becoming triggered.
And much more!

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Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/105 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah

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