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Help! I am a Double Pursuer or Double Withdrawer. Understanding the Hidden Patterns of Emotional & Sexual Cycles Nov 02, 2026

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Why do so many couples feel like they are constantly speaking two different relational languages, especially when switching between emotional discussions and physical intimacy?

When partners occupy the same role, either as a double pursuer or a double withdrawer, across both emotional and sexual domains, it can amplify feelings of disconnection and mutual exhaustion. In this episode, we talk about unpacking these overlapping dynamics to replace reflexive blame with genuine curiosity, vulnerability, and grounded connection.

Main Talking Points:

Dual Dynamic Overlap
Empathy Bridge Gaps
Sexual Cycle Triggers
Responsive Desire Shifts
Curiosity Over Judgment
Regulated Disengagement Timing

True relational intimacy doesn't require moving at the same baseline pace; it relies on the shared willingness to slow down, listen beneath protective reactions, and appreciate the underlying bid for connection.

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Navigating Grief and Loss During The Holidays Oct 30, 2026

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Get education on how grief presents during the holiday season, prompts to explore your own grief experience, tangible tools for integrating grief during the holidays

An activity would be creating your own holiday grief web - helping clients create a visual representation and understanding of how the death of a loved one creates many other grief experiences that change the way we approach the holidays

Best suited for clients who have experienced the death of a loved one and may be feeling nervous about the upcoming holiday season or those wanting more tools to better navigate the holidays without a loved one.

Takeaways - gaining an understanding of how and why grief can be intensified during the holidays. Walk away with tools for integrating grief and your loved one into your holiday plans experience. Gaining confidence to create a plan for the holidays that best suits wherever clients are in their personal grief journey.

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A Better Way To Money Oct 29, 2026

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How to Identify & Heal From Toxic Abusive Relationships (TAR) with Dr. Jamie Star Oct 26, 2026

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How do you distinguish between standard relational friction and a truly toxic, abusive environment?

In this episode, Colter Bloxom and Cayla Bozovich sit down with Dr. Jamie Star, founder of the STAR Network, to unpack the critical differences between a partner's protective moves in a negative cycle and characterological patterns of abuse. Dr. Jamie shares his personal journey through relational trauma, breaks down how childhood attachment styles shape codependency, and offers a path toward reclaiming safety. By shifting focus away from diagnosing a partner and toward trusting your body's somatic wisdom, this conversation helps you replace blame and confusion with internal clarity and grounded boundaries.

Main Talking Points:

• Differentiating Relational Cycles

• Defining Toxic Dynamics

• Unpacking Childhood Trauma

• Trusting Somatic Signals

• Reparenting Through Consistency

• Regulating Emotional Safety

Healing from relational trauma isn't about fixing an unresponsive partner; it's about anchored self-awareness and cultivating environments where you feel consistently safe, seen, and supported. True recovery begins when you stop looking outward for validation and begin honoring your own internal boundaries.

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You Don’t See What I’m Carrying Oct 19, 2026

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How often do we judge a partner’s apparent inaction while feeling entirely overwhelmed by our own stress?

When everyday household friction erupts into an argument, the conflict is rarely about time management—it is a cry to have our unseen emotional burdens recognized. In this episode, we unpack the hidden internal loads partners carry and explore how shifting from quick assumptions to compassionate curiosity transforms relational strain into deep connection.

Main Talking Points:

Uncovering Invisible Emotional Loads
Assessing Individual Daily Capacity
Replacing Assumptions With Curiosity
Validating Unseen Relational Strain
Respecting Varying Nervous Capacities
Connecting Beyond Full Understanding

You do not need to fully comprehend every detail of your partner's internal struggle to offer meaningful relief. Relational safety grows the moment you pause, validate their experience, and acknowledge the weight in each other's backpacks.

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The Passion Triangle with Dr. Cheryl: QUICK ADVICE Oct 15, 2026

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The Difference Between Being Loved and Being Liked with Jonathan Van Viegen Oct 12, 2026

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Can a marriage survive when love remains, but genuine likability has eroded?

In this episode, marriage and family therapist and author Jonathan Van Viegen joins us to explore why restoring mutual likability matters far more than obsessing over chore division or endless interrogation. We unpack how shifting from scarcity-driven "needs" to open "wants"—and balancing radical maturity with forgiveness—can transform relational injuries into lasting connection.

Main Talking Points:

Loving Versus Liking
Curiosity Over Resentment
Radical Behavioral Maturity
Navigating Forgiveness Journeys
Eliminating "Why" Interrogations
Reframing Needs To Wants

Rebuilding a thriving partnership isn't about perfection or scorekeeping; it's about showing up with the willingness to choose each other every day. Real connection unfolds when you trade defensive interrogation for curiosity and work together toward mutual abundance.

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Jonathan Van Viegen’s Book: Choosing Us https://jonathanvanviegen.com/book

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Finding The One? Try Becoming The One: QUICK ADVICE with Monica Berg Oct 08, 2026

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Stop trying to “find the one” — focus on becoming the one.
A strong relationship starts with knowing yourself: your values, purpose, patterns, and who you want to become. The danger is expecting a partner or marriage to somehow complete your growth for you.
The right relationship should help you become more yourself, not less.
Monica’s Michelangelo vs. Golem distinction is probably the strongest concept in the episode: a healthy partner helps reveal a version of you that you also want to become. An unhealthy dynamic tries to sculpt you into the person they want you to be.
Relationship satisfaction has a lot to do with how we interpret our partner.
Early on, we naturally magnify the positive; later, we can start magnifying the negative. Healthy relationships require intentionally cultivating appreciation, challenging our assumptions, and reframing what’s happening instead of automatically concluding, “My partner is the problem.”

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The Fight Is Not About The Fight Oct 05, 2026

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Why do small everyday annoyances so easily turn into explosive arguments?

When couples get stuck in repetitive friction, the surface issue is rarely the real battleground. In this episode, we explore how superficial conflicts actually point to deeper emotional needs, and how stepping back allows you to move from defensive cycles into genuine connection.

Main Talking Points:

Underlying Relational Drivers
Power And Control
Closeness And Care
Respect And Recognition
Window Of Tolerance
Intention Versus Impact

True relational resolution isn't about winning an argument over surface logistics, but about creating enough safety to understand what is truly being triggered. When you look past the immediate friction, every conflict becomes an opportunity to deepen trust and mutual care.

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Why You Keep Having the Same Sex feat. Laurie Watson Sep 28, 2026

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Why do so many couples find themselves stuck repeating the same awkward sexual patterns or avoiding physical intimacy altogether?

True sexual connection isn't about forced perfection or quick mechanical fixes, but about building attachment security and communicating openly about your erotic mind. In this episode, Dr. Laurie Watson unpacks how to navigate desire discrepancies, tolerate vulnerability, and reframe sexual friction into deeper relational safety.

Main Talking Points:

Sex Therapy Beyond Mechanics
Tolerating Awkward Intimacy
Attachment In The Bedroom
Individuation Fueling Erotic Energy
Managing Desire Discrepancies
Debunking Common Sex Myths

Great sex doesn't require flawless performance, but rather the courage to tolerate anxiety, honor differences, and stay curious about one another. When you turn sexual friction into honest dialogue, awkwardness becomes a doorway to genuine connection.

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