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144: Mindful Sex is Mind Blowing Sex Apr 25, 2018

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Want to learn how practicing mindfulness can lead to better sex? Instead of thinking about the emails you need to respond to or the kid's lunches that need to be packed — think about the amazing orgasm you're about to have! Sex with your partner should be incredible, and mindfulness can help with just that. Listen and learn for a better sex life full of passion, connection and mindfulness.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

How to put your head and body in the same place to practice mindfulness.
Practicing mindfulness in daily life so it's easier to do in the bedroom.
Understanding the myths surrounding female pleasure to help improve your sex life.
Century's-old vibrators and how women have been using them for years to improve their sex life.
Communicating about sex in your relationship.
How to avoid 'spectator sex' so that you can be more present for real amazing sex.
And much more!

Dr. Laurie Mintz is a professor at the University of Florida, where she teaches the Psychology of Human Sexuality. She is also a licensed psychologist in private practice, and the author of two books, both aimed at empowering women sexually: A Tired Woman's Guide to Passionate Sex and Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters--And How To Get It.

Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/144

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143: Navigating the In-Laws Apr 18, 2018

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You can choose your friends, but you can't choose your family! There's a reason this cliche exists, but it doesn't have to be that way. Going over to the in-laws doesn't have to be the excruciating experience it is for so many. Listen to today's episode to learn how to navigate the minefield that is family! Whether it's getting along with the in-laws or your own family, this is the episode to help you end the family discomfort.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

The culture shock we experience when interacting with a new family.
Being supportive for your partner when visiting your own family.
How to be proactive in cultivating or fixing your relationship with the in-laws or other family members.
Managing expectations during family visits.
Steps to offering an olive branch to end old family feuds.
How to have honest communication about family.
And much more!

Robert Taibbi has served as adjunct professor at several universities. He provides trainings nationally and internationally in the areas of relationship issues, family therapy, brief therapy and clinical supervision. He has 44 years experience, is the author of 11 books, 300 articles, and is a contributor to PsychologyToday.com.

Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/143

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142: Jealousy In The Modern Relationship Apr 11, 2018

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Jealousy is a common feeling that many of us have or will experience. With the pervasive use of the internet flooding our brains with sexual images, past lovers and other temptations, jealousy is an important issue to address in relationships. Learn how to deal with your own or your partner's jealousy in today's episode.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Understanding the difference between emotional and sexual jealousy and how each sex may experience them differently.
How to talk about jealousy with your partner.
The importance of 'striking when the iron is cold' when communicating about sensitive relationship issues.
Online emotional infidelity and how it can hurt your relationship.
And much more!

Dr. Suzanne Degges-White is a professor and chair of the Department of Counseling, Adult and Higher Education at Northern Illinois University in DeKalb. She is a licensed counselor and has experience working with couples and families dealing with concerns related to communication difficulties, developmental transitions, addiction, and abuse. Suzanne’s academic research explores transitions and development over the lifespan with a strong focus on intimate family relationships and friendships. Her Lifetime Connections blog on PsychologyToday.com explores relationships in families and friendscapes.

Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/142

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141: Emotional Habits Apr 04, 2018

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We've all felt the need to blame our partner for something going wrong in the relationship. Why do we retreat to negative emotional habits so easily? Dr. Steven Stosny explains how our toddler brain takes over and can cause us to react with blame, denial and avoidance during conflict. Listen to today's show to avoid falling into that trap, and learn how to better react to improve your relationship.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Learn why we retreat to our 'toddler brain' of emotional reactivity and how to avoid this.
How to create new positive emotional responses that will benefit your relationship.
The importance of communicating at least 5 positives for every negative communication.
How to prevent defensiveness from your partner and communicate in the most productive manner.
Focusing on how you want to feel to help create the emotional changes you need.
And much more!

Steven Stosny, Ph.D., is the founder of CompassionPower. His current book is Empowered Love and he has published over five others. He has treated over 6,000 clients for various forms of anger, abuse, and violence. He has appeared on “The Oprah Winfrey Show,” “The Today Show,” “CBS Sunday Morning,” many CNN shows, and in the New York Times, Washington Post, U.S. News & World Report, WSJ, Esquire, Cosmopolitan, O, Psychology Today, USA Today. He has taught at the University of Maryland and at St. Mary’s College of Maryland. His blog on Psychologytoday.com. has nearly 12 million views.

Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/141

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140: How To Keep The Spark Alive Mar 28, 2018

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Intimacy is an area of our relationships that can often be overlooked, especially if you've been together for a long time. The spark does not have to fade! There are simple and easy steps to take to create more intimacy and have more satisfaction in our relationships.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Why checking in with your partner on a daily basis is a profoundly simple way to greatly improve your relationship.
How to create and maintain the new and novel feelings we have early in our relationships.
Understanding and communicating our attachment styles to help create more intimacy in our relationship.
How our attachment styles can be changed for the better.
Learning the different intimacy needs of your partner and how to communicate your own needs.
And much more!

Tim Cole is an Associate Professor at DePaul University where he studies how differences in people’s need for intimacy can lead to a betrayal of trust. He’s also the author of Broken Trust: Overcoming an Intimate Betrayal.

Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/140

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139: Avoid These Common Sex Life Pitfalls Mar 21, 2018

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There can be many areas in our lives and relationships that can cause frustration and disappointment. Your sex life shouldn't be one of them. Learning how to communicate your needs and desires, understanding your partner's sex drive and confronting sex life negativity are just a few ways to prevent some of the common troubles many couples run into. Listen to today's show to prevent these common sex life pitfalls from wreaking havoc on your relationship.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Learn how to talk about sex, your desires and fantasies with your partner.
Avoid getting distracted during sex and become more present for a better experience.
Navigate the desire discrepancies in your relationship. Do you or your partner want to have sex more often? There are ways to compromise around this!
Understanding your partners sex drive and what 'gets their motor going'.
Confronting any negativity surrounding your sex life.
And much more!

Jessa Zimmerman is a licensed sex therapist whose work focuses on helping couples who have a good relationship but who are avoiding sex because it's become stressful, negative, disappointing or pressured. She teaches, coaches, and supports people as they go through her 9-phase experiential process that allows them real world practice in changing their relationship and their sex life. She is the host of the Better Sex podcast and will be releasing her first book later this year.

Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/139

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138: You Have The Power To Change (Yourself & Your Relationship) Mar 14, 2018

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Creating the change you want in your relationship starts with one person: YOU! Don't wait around for your partner to change (hint: you won't be able to change them on your own anyway). Listen to today's episode and use these actionable tips to get your relationship out of a rut or to take it from good to great!

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Learn how to pay more attention to your partner with some simple exercises.
How to express gratitude toward your partner to help your relationship flourish.
Honoring the differences between you and your partner to keep everyone happy.
Prioritizing your time together for maximum relationship happiness.
How to express love in small ways. It's the little things that add up.
And much more!

Dr. Kathy McCoy is a psychotherapist and award-winning journalist and author of more than a dozen books including the recently published "We Don't Talk Anymore". She is a contributing writer for PsychologyToday.com and has been a frequent guest on national television including numerous appearances on The Today Show and two on Oprah.

Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/138

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137: Managing Anxiety to Improve Your Relationship Mar 07, 2018

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Feeling anxious? Anxiety can manifest itself in many ways that prove detrimental to our own personal health, as well as our relationships. That sense of uneasiness, worrying about the future and the general demands of life are all forms of anxiety. Don't let anxiety bog you down and negatively affect the relationship with yourself and your partner any longer!

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

How anxiety can manifest as reactivity to your partner and how to change this to responsiveness.
Why some anxiety can be good and how to best channel this energy.
Becoming aware of your anxiety and taking steps to manage it.
How to slow things down rather than approaching everything with a sense of urgency.
How anxiety lives in the body and the physiological responses we can create to cope with our anxiety.
And much more!

Dr. Denise Fournier is a mindfulness-based psychotherapist and coach in Miami, FL. Through her practice, Evergreen Therapy, she works with individuals and couples using an approach that blends modern research and Eastern philosophy. In addition to her work with clients, Denise is also an adjunct professor at Nova Southeastern University and a regular contributor to the Psychology Today.

Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/137

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136: Empowering Your Partner Feb 28, 2018

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One of the benefits of being in a relationship is helping your partner become their best self. We can achieve this by empowering our partner through words of affirmation, validating their feelings and many other simple exercises. Listen to today's show to learn how to help your partner become the best version of themselves!

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

How creating a 'best self' nickname for your partner can give them a huge boost and benefit your relationship.
Validating your partner to help them heal childhood wounds.
The importance of assuming your partner wants to come through for you.
Creating an affirmation of your deepest desires that you can live into.
Acting as if you're having an affair with your partner.
And much more!

Dr. Diana Kirschner was a frequent guest on The Today Show and starred in a PBS TV Special on love. She is the best-selling author of Love in 90 Days and 30 Days to Love: The Ultimate Relationship Turnaround Guide. Dr. Diana has helped thousands all over the world to find passionate lasting love. Her free Dating Tips & Relationship Advice newsletter is available at lovein90days.com.

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Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/136

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135: Coping With Your Partner's Annoying Behaviors Feb 21, 2018

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We all have weird pet peeves that our partner's seem to always break the 'rules' on. Chewing too loud, not squeezing the toothpaste out of the tube correctly, leaving dirty clothes on the floor....the list goes on. These little things can create conflict in a relationship, especially over time. Listen to today's show to learn how to communicate with your partner, and not let small things annoy you.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

How to step back and ask ourselves why we're having little fights, and what's really going on underneath.
Why every communication is a negotiation with our partner that we must understand.
The importance of active listening and validation in communication with your partner.
How to deescalate an argument so that it can be more productive for your relationship.
Decompressing to help manage communication when you or your partner is stressed.
And much more!

David Ludden is a professor of psychology at Georgia Gwinnett College in Altanta. He is the author of the textbook "The Psychology of Language: An Integrated Approach." His also maintains the blog "Talking Apes" on the "Psychology Today" website. Much of his writing focuses on the role of communication in building and maintaining relationships.

Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/135

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