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138. Hot Takes Only: Bachelorette Parties, Breastfeeding, and Toilet Humor Sep 11, 2025

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Feeling spicy? Perfect, because Jess and Caroline are ready to serve up a few hot takes. They discuss baristas complimenting you, tipping culture, sci-fi movies, toilet humor, oreos in water (!), motorcycles, and coed bachelorette parties and baby showers.

But they don’t stop there! In fact, these topics are merely entries into a world of even deeper hot takes. They dive into their confusion about cities and states, breastfeeding rumors, scary movies, best pantry snacks, and yes, Jess tries once more to get more info about Caroline’s new cat. Will she reveal anything? You’ll just have to find out.

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137. Not for Sound Baths + The Real Reason You Feel Inexplicably Drained All the Time Sep 04, 2025

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Y’all! It’s time for the dumb phone update everyone’s been waiting for. Caroline and Jess talk through C’s transformative experience of being somewhat off the grid. They discuss all things phones and social media, from graphic design meant to keep you online to deleting social media to what they’re doing instead of scrolling.

This conversation leads to deeper conclusions about being committed to having a life full of peace, and J ruminates on a random day out that led her to feel more alive than she has in a long time. They discuss the point of life, planning less, and letting boredom happen. Slow down babies! And warning: you’re gonna want to toss your phone after this one.

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136. Hot Not Bothered Summer: Dealing with Rejection, Dating Droughts, and Friends Who Don’t Get It Aug 28, 2025

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Welcome to the last Hot Not Bothered episode! Jess and Caroline tackle some difficult WHATADOs, answering questions about how to date after trauma, how to approach being the only one in your friend group who’s dating, and how to accept being “too much” in the dating world.

Plus, they talk about being wingmen, how to know if a relationship is good, themed get togethers, and the secret to letting loose and meeting people in public. Also, you don’t want to miss Jess’s stellar Office reference. I feel God in this podcast, what about you?

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135. Not for Living in Your Head + Breaking the "Is He Mad At Me" Cycle Aug 21, 2025

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Babies and gentlemen, boy have Jess and Caroline got a hack for feeling better! They talk about achieving small tasks, writing down your moods, and how both can help with ongoing crises.

Then, they dive into a listener submission asking about how to deal with all the emotions and panic of dating. They discuss relationship anxiety, the age-old question of “is he mad at me?” and what it actually means to “be yourself” around your partner. Plus, a continuation of the conversation around balancing work and life. Are they father villains? You can decide.

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134. Not for Phone Addiction + The Weird Reason We’re Not Drinking Aug 14, 2025

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Who’s ready to complain? Perfect, because Jess and Caroline start us right off with some complaints about gym tours, canceling memberships, and getting yourself motivated to go back to the gym after a little hiatus. This turns into a deeper conversation about emotionally regulating with food and alcohol, and how connection is the antidote for addiction.

Then they follow-up on a few subjects left hanging. What ever happened to Caroline’s “dumb phone”? And how have the shorter hangs and phone calls with friends been going lately? They ruminate on good topics for spending time with friends and, of course, the best Yasso flavors.

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133. Hot Not Bothered Summer: Red Flags Worth Staying For (Politics? Dating History? Kinks?) Jul 31, 2025

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In this episode, Jess and Caroline unpack the “red flags” that might not be red flags at all — or at least, not dealbreakers. What if your date has never been in a serious relationship? What if they voted differently than you in 2016? What if there are some glaring differences? The girls get into the nuance of context, the difference between patterns and one-offs, and how to tell if you’re seeing a warning sign or just someone’s humanity showing. Spoiler: not every flag requires a full evacuation. Some just require a little more digging.

Whether you’re a walking green flag or proudly toxic with a spreadsheet, this one’s for anyone who’s tired of pretending we’re all dating in a vacuum. Let’s talk about when it’s okay — maybe even wise — to stay.

This episode was produced by Caroline Winkler and Abi Newhouse.

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132. Love Letter: When to Get New Friends + Spiraling About the Return of Skinny Culture Jul 24, 2025

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In this post-birthday solo episode, Jess is a changed woman. She shares the hacks she used to get the most of her time off, and one in particular might rock everything you've ever known about her.

Then she turns to listener-submitted complaints, covering everything from boob sweat to body image. Jess has been having a lot of personal reactions and reflections when it comes to the recent online movement that thinner is better (#Skinnytok), and she unloads them all in this episode - not because she has answers, but because she deeply relates to those of us who feel the pressure to lose weight for special events and look small for other people's approval. If that conversation isn't for you today, feel free to skip ahead to 21:55.

Jess also gets her hands dirty with two friendship-related whatados, which both seem more complicated than they really are once she breaks them down. When to chalk it up to negativity and impose boundaries? When to compromise vs. when to speak your mind? She has opinions.

Plus, labubus and The Bachelor, and a very special announcement that her first podcast - Peaking - is back! Find it on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and more to support Jess beyond this space.

This episode was produced by your lover, Jess DeBakey.

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