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120. Your Biggest Icks, Our Hottest Takes: Irrational Reasons to Dump Every Last One of ‘Em May 01, 2025

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Icks. We all have one, we all are one. Jess and Caroline read listener submissions that, quite frankly, are indefensible—but that’s the point. You can’t explain an ick. They talk about anything from men’s gross feet to people drinking full glasses of milk to someone bragging about eating a bunch of exotic fruit. Warning: you will cringe.

A few submissions lend to deeper conversations, like what we talk about and why, texting and communication woes, picky eaters, bad dates, and the weird phenomenon where men just don’t get the same icks women do. Buckle up, babies: you might recognize yourselves in some of these weird behaviors…

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119. Not for Revenge + Why Does No One Prepare Us for Adult Siblings? Apr 24, 2025

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Babies, let’s talk about relationships! But not just romantic relationships—Jess and Caroline are going deep on how families deal with conflict, hanging out with friends without your partner, and how siblings affect us. You heard it here first: sibling relationships, and not just birth order, are going to be the next pop psychology subject.

Plus: J and C read a listener submitted email about the selfishness spectrum, and they try to place themselves within these bounds. This leads to a deeper conversation on “deserving” good things, takeaways from being wronged, and ways to learn to love yourself. Besides that, expect some thoughts on cramps, women’s pain, and accidental amphetamines. You know how it is.

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118. Not for Blushing Brides + Spooky Stories About Hypnosis & Trauma Apr 17, 2025

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It's a kooky day in the neighborhood as Jess and Caroline bounce through topics from maintaining bangs to hating at a bridal fitting to blush trends and more. But don't let the topic list fool you; they get deep fast as they explore all the ways we tend to get in our own way in life. Why is it so hard to shake outdated, insecure, or self-deprecating versions of ourselves? Why can't we enjoy nice things?!

When it all seems futile and endless, Caroline's dad may just be able to save the day. She shares stories of how he's seen the mind-body connection come to life in his medical practice, and our hosts talk about times they've realized that stress and trauma have taken a physical toll. Finally, it wouldn't be a bippity bop episode if not for a few rejected jokes from Jess's running list. Laugh, okay?!?

This episode was produced by our hater, Caroline Winkler.

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117. Am I The Hater: Annoying Children, Demanding In-Laws, and Quiet Resentment Apr 10, 2025

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Ever wondered if you’re in the wrong? Jess and Caroline are talking through listener submissions for a new ~segment~ called “Am I the Hater?” to get to the root of each problem. They discuss asking your partner to give you gifts, wishing your friends hadn’t brought their kids to the party, and sharing your birthday with your mother-in-law.

Plus, they do some rapid-fire takes on a few submissions, like daddy-daughter dates, sidewalk etiquette, talking only about kids, girls-only events, second baby showers, and friends who have annoying friends. Can the phrase “no judgement” ever be fully true? Let’s find out.

This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse (⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@abinewhouse⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠). ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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116. Not for Rage Bait + The Real Reason Your Friends Never Take Your Advice Apr 03, 2025

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Hello babies! Have you ever flirted to get something you want? Jess starts the episode off talking about her trip to NYC and a flirting method she used to get her boyfriend on the flight back. This leads to a deeper conversation about seeing your partner flirt with someone else, how the cliches of “finding love” might be true, and advice for friends that actually works.

Plus, Jess and Caroline dive into different ideas about rage bait, food content on Instagram, Black Twitter, and what the young kids are up to. How do we deal with the internet as a part of our daily lives? It’s an eternal question, and one J and C are ready to tackle. Also, if you’re tracking how often J has been sick…we don’t want to know the result. Hugs!

This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse (⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@abinewhouse⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠). ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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115. Not for Bodily Horrors + How to Get More From Your Relationships Mar 27, 2025

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Well, there’s no easy way to say this: the episode just does start out with a lot of bathroom horror stories. But it’s human, babies!! You get it. Jess and Caroline talk about doctor’s office shenanigans, public bathroom woes, ancient Roman ways of using the bathroom, and a few of their own experiences where they didn’t quite make it, if you know what we mean.

But that’s not all! Stick around for some thoughts on keeping up conversation when running into an acquaintance randomly, a sales approach to good conversations, and a tiny barn owl update. Plus, J and C commiserate over bad avocado toast, check out their recent Google search histories, and provide some ideas about the type of energy they bring into their romantic relationships. You’ll like it, we promise.

This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse (⁠⁠⁠⁠@abinewhouse⁠⁠⁠⁠). ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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114. Not for Therapy Speak + Behind the Scenes of a Hater Engagement (!!!) Mar 20, 2025

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Your hater and lover are back together again! After debriefing on the past two week’s episodes featuring friends, Caroline and Jess shift into how their families would fare in the apocalypse, give an update on their thoughts on knitting, talk Caroline’s approach to marketing on YouTube, and dive into Caroline’s recent engagement (!!!).

Plus, they get deep on how being annoyed is the price you pay for community and how boundaries can actually foster a relationship. Weaponized therapy speak, however, is NOT the way to maintain relationships, and an example from Love is Blind solidifies that idea. A little catchup on White Lotus and Severance rounds out the episode of a podcast that, despite some of the more recent episodes, is not a podcast about pop culture. Happy to be back together again, kooks.

This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse (⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@abinewhouse⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠). ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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113. Love Letter: How to Forgive and Forget in Friendship + Keeping Dating FUN in Your 30s | ft. My BFF Ekaette Obot Mar 13, 2025

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Jess has told us the greatest stories about her best friend Kae, and now finally, Kae joins for a Love Letter episode! The two discuss maintaining their friendship over a 15-year period, navigating friendship struggles, and giggle a lot about their many experiences along the way.

They also dive into dating in your 30s, and how to enjoy being single along the way. Kae talks a bit about her career in law, tells a story that justifies her fear of birds, and answers a few hot takes that take us, of course, into the world of reality television. Kisses! Stay til the end for an a cappella surprise!

Support Kae at https://life-span.org/ or @lifespan_il on IG.

This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse (⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@abinewhouse⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠). ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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112. Hater Hour: Overcoming Imposter Syndrome, Leaving Mormonism, and Making Adult Friendships | ft. Prince Abi Our Editor! Mar 06, 2025

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It’s about time we had another Hater Hour…and in this episode, Caroline is joined by Not For Everyone Editor Prince Abi! They’ve got lots to say about listener submissions, including discussions about freelancing, working together while maintaining their friendship, building a life post-religion, making meaningful adult friend groups, and navigating romantic partnership dynamics.

Plus, they read their first DMs to each other, answer a few hot takes, reminisce on a shared traumatic experience, giggle a lot, and compliment each other profusely. Will Abi finally admit she loves Caroline? You’ll just have to see.

You can find Abi at the following:

Post-Mormon/fashion blog: ⁠abinewhouse.substack.com⁠

IG: @abinewhouse

Podcast she created: We're Here

This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse (⁠⁠⁠⁠@abinewhouse⁠⁠⁠⁠). ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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111. Not For Yapping + Navigating Core Differences with Your Partner Feb 27, 2025

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It’s time for a new segment! Introducing Am I The Hater, a take on Reddit’s famous Am I The Asshole threads, where listeners write in about moments where they can’t tell if they’re in the wrong. Jess and Caroline talk through a submitter’s conundrum of talking too much when a partner is not in the space to hear it. They dive deep into believing your partner loves your quirks, learning to express your needs, and the times they almost broke up with their own partners.

Plus, have you ever created a soap opera out of your own life? Like, that hot guy on the plane was for sure looking at you, right? C discusses a scenario where someone is for sure jealous of her relationship, J brings up the excuses parents make for their babies, and they finally found a solution to their sleep troubles. Let’s flirt, babies!

This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse (⁠⁠⁠@abinewhouse⁠⁠⁠). ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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