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146. Not for Whole Foods + The Vibes Are Off at Girls Night, and We Know Why Nov 06, 2025

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Kooks, be honest: do you like Whole Foods? Jess and Caroline start out the episode with their complaints about the health food superstore, which then leads into a conversation about splitting chores with their partners, constantly coming up with new home design projects, and the overwhelm of always wanting to change your surroundings.

Then, Jess gives an exciting update: she’s deleted Instagram! The two talk about leaving social media behind, funny social media habits, and how much actual real-life social activities they’re balancing with their alone time. One social activity that’s off the table for them might surprise you. It’s an age-old way of gathering that isn’t quite hitting anymore…listen and let us know: do you agree?

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145. Hater Hour ft. My Fiancé Justin | A Feel-Good Hater Powwow Oct 30, 2025

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It’s Hater Hour up in here! But not just one hater; Caroline’s fiancé Justin is also joining the chat, and boy if he isn’t a sassy baby. The two start out by discussing some of Justin’s personal hates: the phrase “you’re allowed to feel that way” and people’s obsession with outer space. Then, a third hater joins: their cat, Whitley! They chat all about why they got the cat and what Whitley has meant to their lives so far.

But wait, there’s more! They dive into toxic patterns of people they used to date, feeling alive in relationships, and ideas about home renovations. And then some more complaints: air travel and lack of community. Are they all doom and gloom, though? You’ll just have to see!

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144. Am I The Hater: When Your Friend's New Relationship Is Ruining Everything Oct 23, 2025

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Hello to our haters and lovers! Though today, the haters are really shining. Jess and Caroline read through a few listener submissions for their series Am I The Hater? Topics include taking a roommate’s absence personally, pointing out a friend’s boyfriend’s babyface, and canceling on attending a wedding for a curious reason.

Of course, these questions turn into deeper conversations, where J and C ruminate on judgement replacing communication, learning who your friends really are, what acceptance really means, and the give/take process in relationships. If you’re the hater, we don’t want to be the lover, because these crazy behaviors belong to our type of people.

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143. Not for High School + Why Your Existential Crisis Keeps Coming Back Oct 16, 2025

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If you find yourself looking back at high school and wondering…what was that? You’re not alone. Jess and Caroline start out the episode ruminating on the universal feeling of trying to fit in while feeling very alone at pivotal ages in our lives. This conversation leads into a deeper thought spiral about insecurity, constantly seeking for meaning, and why organized religion isn’t always the answer.

Plus, J and C follow up on their homework assignment: were they able to not step in to save a potential awkward social situation? Could they not act over-the-top for the express purpose of making someone else feel validated? You’ll just have to find out.

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142. Not for Hard Work + Parasocial Relationships and the Perception of Authenticity Oct 09, 2025

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What’s up, kooks? Ever had a parasocial relationship? Us, too. Jess and Caroline discuss the creators they relate to, why those relationships are special, and why they’re kind of weird, too. Up next: a complaint! J has a weird retail experience, which leads the two to discuss the weird blame game people play, and how built-up resentment equals the end of customer service.

Then, they discuss motivation from another angle. It’s kind of a chicken/egg situation: does motivation come first, or does action come first and then motivation? They ruminate on the difference between motivation and momentum, and consider that passion may just be a part of the grind. Is it luck or hard work? Plus, ‘tis the season: C has been having some wedding-related nightmares…

P.S. Here’s the Peaking episode that Jess referenced on the fallacy of hard work.

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141. Not for Surprises + Why Your Impulse to Help Is Not Helping Oct 02, 2025

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Hi there, kooks! This week, Caroline and Jess have a surprise party to debrief on. C was shocked to discover friends and family—including J—at her parent’s house, and is honestly still recovering. J tells her side of events and then the two discuss feeling loved and the best ways to pull off that sort of surprise.

Then J reveals that she and her partner traded their traditional social roles at a party recently, and it made her consider again if she’s doing too much in her relationship(s). What are the ways we connect with people? What could a party be like if we didn’t try so hard to connect people? And what would life feel like if we knew the line between helping and harming the possible connections around us? C and J talk all things breaking codependency and then offer a little homework assignment to you: it’s easy, ostensibly—be baby.

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