Love and Life with Dr. Karin and Pastor Elliott

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Healing from Breakup or Divorce with Dr. Duana Welch Ep. 123 Jan 19, 2021

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Love & Life fan favorite, Dr. Duana Welch is back! In this episode, Dr. Welch shares the psych research on breaking up and moving on. Join us as we discuss how to:

Choose healing and peace even after the most devastating breakup.
Guarantee you’ll never get emotionally abused.
Convey your needs in relationships—even early on!
Recognize our attachment style and work with it as we heal.
Manage the clichés you’ll hear about heartbreak recovery and getting back “out there.”
Figure out if you’re “too picky.”
Stop worrying about being alone forever.

Dr. Welch merges relationship science with her personal journey of dating, marriage, and divorce. Join us to learn how to “love factually!”

Dr. Welch

Website: http://lovefactually.co/

Dr. Karin

Website: http://loveandlifemedia.com/

Instagram: @dr.karin

When We “Medicalize” Our Emotions: Beyond the DSM with Dr. Steven C. Hayes Ep. 122 Jan 12, 2021

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“More than one in four women take medication to treat a mental health condition” (Medco Health Solutions). Are 25% of us actually clinically depressed and anxious? Or, might diagnostic inflation be at work? Psychologist Dr. Steven C. Hayes speaks to this and more in his new book, Beyond the DSM: Toward a Process-Based Alternative for Diagnosis and Mental Health Treatment. Join us for a conversation about:

· The excessive biomedicalization of the human condition.

· How a DSM diagnosis may make us more passive and less responsible for our own emotional well-being.

· The notion of “having” a psychiatric illness vs. assessing the things we “do” and the feelings that show up for us.

· Debunking the “science” of mental illness.

· Why genes are NOT deterministic of our emotional and psychological functioning (spoiler alert: epigenetics).

· How meditation impacts our emotional state and our genes!

If you’ve ever wondered why it seems everyone “has” some sort of disorder nowadays, this episode is for you! We explore ways we can ALL move beyond the DSM and toward a more empowered approach to emotional and psychological health!

https://www.prnewswire.com/news-releases/the-mental-health-gender-gap-women-far-exceed-men-in-their-use-of-psychotropic-medications-as-utilization-increases-among-both-sexes-143297886.html

Dr. Karin

Website: loveandlifemedia.com

Instagram: @dr.karin

The Science of Hope: Why it Matters in Love & Life! Ep. 121 Jan 04, 2021

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I get asked about hope a lot:

· How can I stay hopeful when the dating scene is so bleak?

· How can I maintain a hopeful attitude after being ghosted yet again?

· How can I hold onto hope? All the good ones are taken!

Maintaining a happy, hopeful, positive attitude when you’ve been dating for a long time—way longer than you expected or wanted to—isn’t easy at all.

I’ve been there, felt that.

Over my 27 years of dating (from 15 until age 42 when I got married), there were definitely times when I thought it would be so much easier to just give up and resign myself to being single forever.

But I never gave up hope. And, I don’t want you to, either!

Research in psychology confirms hope makes a huge difference in our emotional—and even physical!—well-being.

Furthermore, hope is within our control! By practicing research-based strategies, we can cultivate and sustain a hopeful attitude despite the disappointments we are bound to experience.

Join me to learn the science of hope and the practices we can implement in order to enjoy its psychological benefits!

Citations:

Connors, C. (2017, June 1). The science of hope: World renowned psychologists explain its power. Medium. https://medium.com/the-mission/the-science-of-hope-world-renowned-psychologists-explain-its-power-b914dd0da631

Hardy, B. (2020, July 27). 8 Science backed ways to increase your hope. Forge. https://forge.medium.com/10-science-based-ways-to-increase-your-hope-430892caacb2

Dr. Karin

Website: loveandlifemedia.com

S5 Bonus: I’m Always Attracted to Bad Boys. Help! Ep. 120 Jan 01, 2021

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Ella has a history of dating bad boys, but she’s trying to turn this around! She listened to episode 63 with Ken Page, LCSW, bought his book, Deeper Dating, and is working on cultivating what Ken calls Attractions of Inspiration, as opposed to Attractions of Deprivation. But when she dates nice guys, she’s just not into them. She tries to give them a chance, but finds she’s bored and uninterested. In this mini Love & Life episode, I discuss how we can determine if we’re bored because we’re addicted to dysfunctional dynamics, or if we just haven’t met the right person yet!

Dr. Karin

Website: loveandlifemedia.com

S5 Bonus: How Do I Get His Attention? Ep. 119 Dec 31, 2020

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Mandy struggles with something so many of us can relate to—the guys she doesn’t care for are into her, while the guys she wants don’t seem to be interested. In this mini Love & Life episode, I share the science of flirting from Dr. Duana Welch’s book, Love Factually for Single Parents and Those Dating Them. Learn 6 research-based ways to signal your interest in a guy, while remaining, what Dr. Welch calls, “high status.”

S5 Bonus: Is He Manipulating Me? Ep. 118 Dec 30, 2020

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In this third mini Love & Life episode, I answer Pam’s question about how to know if a guy is manipulating her. She recently went on a first date with a man who led with smarmy and inappropriately suggestive conversation. When she bristled, he asked her if she wasn’t comfortable with her body. He then went on to say that he’d absolutely need to test drive the car before buying. Join us as I discuss my thoughts on how she responded and on such talk in general. Spoiler alert: if you think you’re being manipulated, you probably are.

Dr. Karin

Website: loveandlifemedia.com

S5 Bonus: When Should I Meet His Kids? Ep. 117 Dec 29, 2020

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In this second mini Love & Life episode, I answer Theresa’s question about when she should meet her bf’s kids. He’s protective of his children and doesn’t want to introduce them to her too soon (which is great) yet because of this, she doesn’t want him to get into the habit of just crashing at her place—because she wants to be properly courted (which is wise). Join us as I share my thoughts on this dicey topic, made even more sensitive because children are involved.

S5 Bonus: How Can I Be Supportive When My Friends Complain Nonstop About Their Bad Relationships? Ep. 116 Dec 28, 2020

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In this mini Love & Life episode, I answer Kelly’s question about how she can find a way to support her friends even though they’re making unhealthy decisions in their relationships. I share 3 options for how to love our friends even when we hate some of their choices.

S5 Bonus: I’ll Be Wearing a Dress Every Time I Leave the House in December. Here’s Why. Ep. 115 Dec 01, 2020

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Human trafficking is an unfathomable and horrific atrocity. We feel so helpless; we don’t know what to do or how to combat it. Thankfully, there are organizations working on the front lines. And, allof us can make an impact by supporting their efforts to save lives. Talitha Baker, chair of the board of Dressember joins me to share how Dressember raises awareness and funds to fight human trafficking. I’ll be pulling together a team and wearing dresses throughout December. I hope people will ask me why, so I can encourage them to support Dressember and its mission to rescue those enslaved by trafficking.

To donate to my team please click here: https://dressember2020.funraise.org/fundraiser/karin-anderson-abrell?fundraiserPrompt=1675387

Dr. Karin

Website: loveandlifemedia.com

S5 Bonus: Finding Gratitude to Find Joy (Even While Living with Chronic Illness) Ep. 114 Nov 23, 2020

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Recently, I asked my newsletter community if anyone wanted to share an encouraging and empowering story on the podcast. Quin Taylor (one of my former students from Chicago State University) answered the call, agreeing to speak about living with a chronic illness. She describes how intentionally focusing on gratitude allows her to maintain a positive, empowered perspective in the midst of daily physical challenges. Quin shares:

· How to move from grieving the life you were “supposed” to live to celebrating the life you’re “purposed” to live!

· How to avoid wallowing in bitterness because, as Quin puts it, we can stay stuck in bitterness but “nothing really changes.”

· Her powerful mantra—“I declare and decree today will be amazing. Amazing things are happening to and for me and I will do amazing things!”

· The freedom of falling in love with your authentic self—even when that entails a chronic illness.

Quin describes herself as a “gratitude enthusiast!” Join us to up your gratitude game this Thanksgiving!

Dr. Karin

Website: loveandlifemedia.com

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