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Turn Toward Anxiety to Heal! with Psychotherapist Linda Ruvalcaba Ep. 113 Nov 02, 2020

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According to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, anxiety disorders affect 40 million adults (18.1% of the population). The ADAA asserts, “anxiety disorders are highly treatable, yet only 36.9% of those suffering receive treatment.” Psychotherapist Linda Ruvalcaba understands anxiety—both from a clinical perspective and from personal experience! She endured anxiety’s terrifying grip after a horribly painful breakup. Anxiety permeated her life—the physical symptoms and intrusive thoughts not only made it difficult for her to focus on personal concerns, they also impaired her ability to work with her therapy clients. She realized avoiding anxiety only reinforced its hold on her. She could no longer run away; she needed to lean into it. Join us to hear how Linda found healing by facing anxiety head on—and as a bonus, she found herself!

Linda Ruvalcaba

Website: https://www.latinxtherapistsactionnetwork.org/linda-ruvalcaba

Dr. Karin

Website: https://loveandlifemedia.com/

Rewire Your Brain to Heal from Trauma! with Neuropsychologist Dr. Rhonda Freeman Ep. 112 Oct 26, 2020

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We’ve all been there—we got knocked down and we’re trying our best to recover but we feel stuck. We find it hard to feel happy. We sink into depressed moods. We’ve lost our joy and even worse, we wonder, can I ever get back to my former self? Well, according to neuropsychologist, Dr. Rhonda Freeman, we absolutely can! Join us to learn how to:

· pivot away from ruminating thoughts—which psych research shows are related to depression.

· activate the regions of your brain that will bring you healing and peace post trauma!

· journal in a manner that activates your prefrontal cortex—and why this is imperative.

· get your brain to think rationally again by quieting the limbic system and activating the frontal lobe.

· rewire your brain to get it back to its “pre-trauma” balance.

We say it every week on Love & Life, “Take charge of your thoughts. Take charge of your life!” And now, thanks to Dr. Freeman, we see the neuroscience behind why taking charge of our thoughts is so powerful and does, in fact, rewire our brains—allowing us to take charge of our lives!

Dr. Rhonda Freeman

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Dr. Karin

Website: http://loveandlifemedia.com/

When Close is Too Close: Enmeshment and Differentiation with Mary Beth Somich, LPC Ep. 109 Oct 05, 2020

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According to Family Systems theorists, our family of origin’s expectations for connectedness and separateness influence—and, at times, may impede—our ability to carve out and cultivate an independent identity and authentic sense of self. Clearly, our family of origin impacts us beyond childhood—in terms of our friendships, work relationships, and certainly, our romantic connections. Mary Beth Somich, LPC joins me to discuss the construct of enmeshment, how we can differentiate from an overly close family system, and why we absolutely need to in order to thrive in love and life!

Mary Beth Somich

Website: yourjourneythrough.com

Free Quiz: Is Your Family Enmeshed? https://view.flodesk.com/pages/5f16de5959b56b0026662110

Dr. Karin

Website: loveandlifemedia.com

Take Charge of Your Negative Thoughts, Part II: Techniques from REBT Ep. 108 Sep 28, 2020

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According to psychologist Albert Ellis, “People don’t just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness.” And, specifically, it’s irrational thinking that contributes to our “upsetness.” As the founder of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), Ellis encourages us to identify our irrational beliefs, challenge them, and replace them with rational beliefs. He asserts—and research substantiates—that by doing so, we can greatly reduce negative emotions. Join me to learn another approach from cognitive therapy for taking charge of your thoughts! I share my personal experience with the power of REBT—including a specific time when a hidden irrational belief was making me miserable and how I uncovered it, disputed it, and found my joy again!

Dr. Karin

Website: loveandlifemedia.com

S5 Bonus: Top 5 Things Single Women Hate to Hear Ep. 107 Sep 23, 2020

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If you’re single, your love life (or lack thereof) is fair game. Friends, family members, and even random strangers provide “solutions” to your “problem.” Or, they interrogate you, determined to uncover the hidden reason you aren’t coupled up—even if you’re perfectly content sans partner! In this Love & Life bonus episode, Debbi Rice of Single and Amazing, Leslie Kaz of Single Girl Bliss, and I discuss the top 5 asinine comments single women hear. Join us for some single girl commiserating and lots of laughs! We’re here for you!

Leslie Kaz

Website: lesliekaz.com

Debbi Rice

Website: singleandamazing.com

Dr. Karin

Website: loveandlifemedia.com

I Stopped Seeing Singlehood as Something "I Needed to Fix" with Shani Silver Ep. 106 Sep 21, 2020

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It’s National Unmarried and Single Americans Week! To kick it off, I’ve invited Shani Silver, host of A Single Serving podcast, to share how she moved from complaining about dating to championing the single life! According to Shani, “I came out of a hole and I know the way out of the hole. I want to tell other people that it’s possible.” Here are a few more gems of wisdom from my conversation with Shani:

· “Enjoying a single life—not as a consolation, but as ‘on par’ with life in partnership—is entirely possible. I know this because I’m living it.”

· “It is 100% possible to love your single life and want a relationship at the same time. Both of those things can coexist.”

· “I decided that what was meant for me was going to connect with me. And it was not going to be because I was fighting to find it. Because I had fought to find it for a decade and I didn’t. So that method didn’t serve me. Maybe just relaxing and letting go and living life will connect me with who I’m meant to be with anyway.”

Join us for a celebration of empowered single living!

Shani Silver

Website: shanisilver.com

Dr. Karin

Website: loveandlifemedia.com

Grieving the Life You Thought You’d Have: The Radical Stepmoms Ep. 105 Sep 14, 2020

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When life doesn’t play out as planned, we experience loss—of expectations, hopes, and dreams. And, as with every loss, we grieve. But how do we grieve something we never had in the first place? Christina and Genet of The Radical Stepmoms podcast join me to discuss just that—grieving the life they thought they’d have, while still embracing and cherishing the life they do have. At some point (or many points!) in life, we all find ourselves stepping into roles and realities we didn’t anticipate. Join us to learn strategies for navigating these uncharted waters.

Radical Stepmoms

Website: radicalstepmomspodcast.com

Dr. Karin

Website: loveandlifemedia.com

Top 5 Traits to Look for in a Partner! Ep. 104 Sep 07, 2020

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I often get asked, “What we should be looking for when dating? Which qualities indicate a person will be a committed, solid, loving partner?” Recently, I came across a framework by psychiatrist Dr. Stephen Marmer describing emotional maturity. As I examined the model, I was struck by how the characteristics of maturity mirror those qualities we need in a romantic partner—if we’re hoping for a lasting, loving, secure connection. Dan joins me to discuss these 5 traits and how we’ve experienced them—and in past relationships, not experienced them! We wrap up the episode answering a listener’s question about how to differentiate between her intuition and inner critic.

Citation: https://www.prageru.com/video/its-time-to-grow-up/

Website: loveandlifemedia.com

Can I Find Love Over 40? Love & Life Q&A! Ep. 103 Sep 01, 2020

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It’s time for another Love & Life Q&A! In this episode, I answer two questions I recently received. One listener asks how she can possibly maintain hope for finding love; she’s over 40 and feeling demoralized and worries she’ll never meet her person. Another listener wonders if she can salvage a relationship that’s gone off course. After seeing a guy for a couple months, she asked the proverbial, “What are we?” question. They argued and now he’s stonewalling her. She asks me, “What can I do to get him back? I really like him!” I wrap up the episode by sharing details on how to join the Love & Life book club and Love & Life support groups I’m rolling out this fall!

Website: loveandlifemedia.com

Attachment Styles and Dating with Dr. Duana Welch Ep. 102 Aug 24, 2020

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We are kicking season 5 off with Dr. Duana Welch to discuss attachment styles and dating!

Have you ever experienced the following?

· You felt an initial spark, but got turned off when he/she came on too strong.

· Someone ghosted you after what you thought was the beginning of a very happy relationship.

· You found yourself bored by someone who is stable and kind.

If so, your attachment style may have played a part!

According to developmental psychologists, the bond you form with your primary caregiver in childhood sets the tone for the way you connect to others in adulthood. Dr. Duana Welch, author of Love Factually: Attachment Style Dating Made Easier, explains the difference between Secure, Anxious, and Avoidant attachment and the pros and cons of each—spoiler alert, there are positives to anxious attachment!—along with how an understanding of our attachment style can help us get the love we desire!

Dr. Duana Welch

Website: lovefactually.co

Dr. Karin

Website: loveandlifemedia.com

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