Love and Life with Dr. Karin and Pastor Elliott

Latest Episodes:

5 Love Languages Extended: Elliott’s Additional Love Languages Ep. 235 Feb 23, 2023

Show notes

We're wrapping up our series on Dr. Chapman's 5 Love Languages with a couple more I've developed over my 30+ years working with couples—challenge and presentation!

1. Challenge: How we challenge each other in a committed romantic relationship—to be the best version of ourselves, in relationships, career, family, and faith—is critical mortar solidifying or weakening, your love language wall. Research shows one of the main reasons marriages break down is boredom! But couples who commit to challenging one another via encouragement and exhortation toward growth and development, strengthen their intimacy and keep their connection exciting!

2. Presentation: How we present our partner to others displays how we view him/her. Furthermore, when we’re married, our spouse is a representation of us at all times. How partners present each other to family, friends, and community is another enormously important language that allows the other five love languages to thrive or be denied. Listen to learn how challenge and presentation interact with the 5 Love Languages and please let us know your thoughts!

Quizzes, Resources, & more: Website: https://5lovelanguages.com/ Chapman, G. (1992, 1995, 2004, 2010, 2015). The 5 love languages: the secret to love that lasts. Northfield Publishing.

Pastor Elliott's Love Language Assessments (based on the work of Dr. Gary Chapman): https://www.dropbox.com/sh/793lofijjenc7qe/AAC2Ve_MiXMpx97YfH9pHebLa?dl=0

Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott Anderson

Website: http://loveandlifemedia.com/

Empowered Dating Playbook: smarturl.it/EmpoweredDatingBook

Instagram: @dr.karin | @pastorelliottanderson

5 Love Languages: Physical Touch Ep. 234 Feb 17, 2023

Show notes

We’re kicking off Valentine’s Week with a series on Dr. Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages. We’ll be devoting an episode to each love language and rolling them out every day this week.

Even if you’re familiar with Love Languages, this series is for you! We’re taking a broad approach to them by including their influence on our friendships and family relationships, in addition to our romantic partnerships.

Elliott & I discuss the following:

Fascinating research behind the power of touch.
Don’t all men have physical touch as their top love language?
The importance of pacing physical touch as your intimacy develops and how this relates to hookup culture.
How men and women experience touch differently based on our differing physicalities.
Repairing physical touch after infidelity.
Attachment styles as they relate to physical touch.

Elliott shares stories of the impact of Love Languages from his 30+ years of working with couples. Join us today and throughout the week for a deep dive into the influence of Love Languages on every relationship in your life!

Quizzes, Resources, & more:

Website: https://5lovelanguages.com/

Chapman, G. (1992, 1995, 2004, 2010, 2015). The 5 love languages: the secret to love that lasts. Northfield Publishing.

Pastor Elliott's Love Language Assessments (based on the work of Dr. Gary Chapman): https://www.dropbox.com/sh/793lofijjenc7qe/AAC2Ve_MiXMpx97YfH9pHebLa?dl=0

Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott Anderson

Website: http://loveandlifemedia.com/

Empowered Dating Playbook: smarturl.it/EmpoweredDatingBook

Instagram: @dr.karin | @pastorelliottanderson

5 Love Languages: Acts of Service Ep. 233 Feb 16, 2023

Show notes

We’re kicking off Valentine’s Week with a series on Dr. Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages. We’ll be devoting an episode to each love language and rolling them out every day this week.

Elliott & I discuss the following:

Why acts of service in partnership may feel harder to receive for people who were single for a long time.
How acts of service are critical to couples in crisis recovery.
The vulnerability inherent to giving and receiving acts of service.
How to communicate which acts of service you desire and why it’s important you do so!

Quizzes, Resources, & more:

Website: https://5lovelanguages.com/

Chapman, G. (1992, 1995, 2004, 2010, 2015). The 5 love languages: the secret to love that lasts. Northfield Publishing.

Pastor Elliott's Love Language Assessments (based on the work of Dr. Gary Chapman): https://www.dropbox.com/sh/793lofijjenc7qe/AAC2Ve_MiXMpx97YfH9pHebLa?dl=0

Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott Anderson

Website: http://loveandlifemedia.com/

Empowered Dating Playbook: smarturl.it/EmpoweredDatingBook

Instagram: @dr.karin | @pastorelliottanderson

5 Love Languages: Receiving Gifts Ep. 232 Feb 15, 2023

Show notes

We’re kicking off Valentine’s Week with a series on Dr. Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages. We’ll be devoting an episode to each love language and rolling them out every day this week.

Elliott and I explore the following:

How to give gifts in the early days of a relationship.
Values which lay at the root of gift giving.
If your love language is gifts, are you inherently materialistic?
How our family of origin influences our feelings about giving and receiving gifts.

Quizzes, Resources, & more:

Website: https://5lovelanguages.com/

Chapman, G. (1992, 1995, 2004, 2010, 2015). The 5 love languages: the secret to love that lasts. Northfield Publishing.

Pastor Elliott's Love Language Assessments (based on the work of Dr. Gary Chapman): https://www.dropbox.com/sh/793lofijjenc7qe/AAC2Ve_MiXMpx97YfH9pHebLa?dl=0

Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott Anderson

Website: http://loveandlifemedia.com/

Empowered Dating Playbook: smarturl.it/EmpoweredDatingBook

Instagram: @dr.karin | @pastorelliottanderson

5 Love Languages: Quality Time Ep. 231 Feb 14, 2023

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We’re kicking off Valentine’s Week with a series on Dr. Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages. We’ll be devoting an episode to each love language and rolling them out every day this week.

Elliott and I explore the following:

How to negotiate time—even in the early stages of your relationship. I share an example from when Dan and I were first dating and I was late to pick him up from the airport!
Why couples need to understand the values beneath their conception of time and how sometimes, you share the same values, but express them differently.
How to approach your partner with a request for more time. Spoiler alert—words of affirmation come in handy!
How the family life cycle impacts your navigating of quality time.

Quizzes, Resources, & more:

Website: https://5lovelanguages.com/

Chapman, G. (1992, 1995, 2004, 2010, 2015). The 5 love languages: the secret to love that lasts. Northfield Publishing.

Pastor Elliott's Love Language Assessments (based on the work of Dr. Gary Chapman): https://www.dropbox.com/sh/793lofijjenc7qe/AAC2Ve_MiXMpx97YfH9pHebLa?dl=0

Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott Anderson

Website: http://loveandlifemedia.com/

Empowered Dating Playbook: smarturl.it/EmpoweredDatingBook

Instagram: @dr.karin | @pastorelliottanderson

How “Words of Affirmation” Level Up EVERY Relationship in Your Life! Ep. 230 Feb 13, 2023

Show notes

We’re kicking off Valentine’s Week with a series on Dr. Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages. We’ll be devoting an episode to each love language and rolling them out every day this week.

Elliott and I explore the following:

Why Words of Affirmation may be the most important love language!
How to express Words of Affirmation even if you’re not someone who feels comfortable sharing your emotions.
The difficulty of receiving Words of Affirmation when we don’t feel confident or self-assured—and how to learn to receive them despite our insecurities and woundedness.
How to give Words of Affirmation to ourselves—and why doing so is a gift to our current or future partner!

Quizzes, Resources, & more:

Website: https://5lovelanguages.com/

Chapman, G. (1992, 1995, 2004, 2010, 2015). The 5 love languages: the secret to love that lasts. Northfield Publishing.

Pastor Elliott's Love Language Assessments (based on the work of Dr. Gary Chapman): https://www.dropbox.com/sh/793lofijjenc7qe/AAC2Ve_MiXMpx97YfH9pHebLa?dl=0

Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott Anderson

Website: http://loveandlifemedia.com/

Empowered Dating Playbook: smarturl.it/EmpoweredDatingBook

Instagram: @dr.karin | @pastorelliottanderson

How to Move Through Loneliness at Valentine’s Ep. 229 Feb 09, 2023

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All of us face loneliness. We need to acknowledge and move through loneliness to be empowered and encouraged in our relationships.

Last week I gave a message on loneliness at Judson University and we wanted to share it with you.

There are three universal circumstances that automatically generate loneliness. I used the acronym TFL (tackle for loss for you football fans) for these 3 life conditions:

Transitions
Fear
Loss

Loneliness is inherent to these 3 conditions and therefore, it's an unavoidable aspect of life; but we can abate it and even make peace with it.

Loneliness is especially challenging during Valentine's week—whether we're single and wishing we weren't or we're feeling lonely in the context of our romantic relationship.

Our team at Love and Life and the Love & Life community are here to help you throughout Valentine’s and beyond!

Elliott Anderson

Work with Elliott, Books, & More: https://linktr.ee/pastorelliottanderson

Dr. Karin

Website: http://loveandlifemedia.com/

Empowered Dating Playbook: smarturl.it/EmpoweredDatingBook

Instagram: @dr.karin

Single is the New Black:

Audiobook Audible: smarturl.it/SITNB-Audible

iTunes: smarturl.it/SITNB-iTunes

Why am I Always in Unhealthy Relationships? with Diyana Dimitrova Ep. 228 Feb 02, 2023

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For this week’s episode I wanted to share my recent appearance on “Perspective of the Mind or how to get unstuck when you feel stuck

with Diyana Dimitrova”.

In this episode we cover:

What does it mean healthy and unhealthy relationship?
Why so many people are in unhealthy relationships?
How to recognize a deal breaker from the normal ups and downs in a relationship?
How can we cope with fear of loneliness?

Please considering checking out Diyana’s podcast here: https://anchor.fm/diyana-dimitrova

Dr. Karin

Website: http://loveandlifemedia.com/

Empowered Dating Playbook: smarturl.it/EmpoweredDatingBook

Instagram: @dr.karin

Single is the New Black:

Audiobook Audible: smarturl.it/SITNB-Audible

iTunes: smarturl.it/SITNB-iTunes

Gen Z Responds to Technology and Relationships! with Callie Conner, Gen Zer Ep. 227 Jan 26, 2023

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Boomers, Gen Xers and Millennials remember a world without social media and cell phones but for Gen Z, technology has always been a ubiquitous part of their existence.

So, I was curious as to how Gen Z would respond to our series on technology and relationships.

Do they have any similar frustrations?
What do they make of the modern dating landscape as it relates to technology?
How are their friendships impacted?
Do they feel technology’s influence on their mental health?

Former Love & Life guest and my BFF, Miriam Conner, said her daughter, Callie, had listened to our series and had some thoughts she was willing to share.

Join us for a Gen Zer’s response to phones, technology, and relationships. Callie and I cover the questions above and more!

https://www.therobinreport.com/a-growing-segment-of-gen-z-is-so-over-social-media/

https://flatheadbeacon.com/2022/12/23/the-luddite-club/

Dr. Karin

Website: http://loveandlifemedia.com/

Empowered Dating Playbook: smarturl.it/EmpoweredDatingBook

Instagram: @dr.karin

Single is the New Black:

Audiobook Audible: smarturl.it/SITNB-Audible

iTunes: smarturl.it/SITNB-iTunes

How to Keep Phones from Sabotaging Your Relationships! with Elliott Anderson, M.A. Ep. 226 Jan 20, 2023

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When did you last spend time with someone without a phone in your hand or on the table?

It’s probably been a while . . .

And while phones absolutely enhance our lives and provide the ability to connect with people across the globe, they can also detract from our IRL relationships.

In today’s episode, Elliott and I continue our conversation on phones and relationships by considering the following question: Does social media make you happy?

We explore the following and much more!