Love and Life with Dr. Karin and Pastor Elliott

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The Abolition of Sex: Implications for Women’s Rights with Kara Dansky Ep. 245 Apr 20, 2023

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What is a woman? In the last several years, this question—which once would have seemed perfectly obvious to anyone—has become both perplexing and divisive.

Feminist Kara Dansky joins Love & Life for our first “Love & Life: Let’s Talk About It!” episode. We’re committed to open conversations—even about subjects that are currently considered taboo.

Kara and I consider the following questions:

What is gender vs. sex?
Does “gender identity” exist?
How should we compassionately respond to gender dysphoria?
Are children truly more likely to commit suicide if they aren’t permitted to transition or are suicide rates higher post transitioning?
In some cases, do men claim a trans identity in order to access women’s spaces?
What about men in women’s sports?
Is the trans movement homophobic?
Does the trans movement dehumanize women?
Is the trans movement related to transhumanism?
What is a woman?

We invite you to join us as we tackle this momentous subject. We share our thoughts with open minds and open hearts. Sponsor: Magic Mind: www.magicmind.co/lovelife Use code LOVELIFE20 for 20% off your order Kara Dansky

Website: https://www.karadansky.com/

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Twitter: @kdansky Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott Anderson Website: http://loveandlifemedia.com/ Empowered Dating Playbook: smarturl.it/EmpoweredDatingBook Instagram: @dr.karin | @pastorelliottanderson

Sibling Wound Convo with our Brother, Dr. Warren Anderson, Part 2 Ep. 244 Apr 13, 2023

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We pick up our Anderson Family Roundtable by sharing more on birth order—how we’ve seen it impact our personalities and also, how it’s influenced our choice of friends and significant others. We also revisit sibling woundedness—the intensity of the wounds but also, the hope and healing possible!

Specifically, we explore:

The birth order of virtually all Elliott’s best friends.

The birth order of my best friends.

The birth order of my boyfriends—but how this pattern was broken with Dan and why that’s a good thing!

Warren’s thoughts on friendships as an oldest child.

The sibling wounds we inflicted on each other and how we healed.

Redemption in sibling connections.

You’ll hear how Elliott morphed from problem child to pastor! And, I recount two profound memories where I felt affirmed by each of my brothers. Spoiler alert, I get emotional describing a time that Elliott started being nice to me (finally!) in middle school.

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Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott Anderson

Website: http://loveandlifemedia.com/

Empowered Dating Playbook: smarturl.it/EmpoweredDatingBook

Instagram: @dr.karin | @pastorelliottanderson

The Birth Order Effect with Our Brother, Dr. Warren Anderson Ep. 243 Apr 06, 2023

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Welcome to a “behind the scenes” episode of Love & Life! Elliott and I loop in our older brother, Warren, to discuss the influence of our sibling relationships on our development.

We begin by delving into how birth order impacts our personality traits. With 3 kids in our family we’ve had fun analyzing each other over the years and we do, in fact, possess many of the stereotypical traits of oldests, middles, and youngests. Elliott brings up a recent time where I was in charge of a gig we played together—spoiler alert: babies aren’t typically the best leaders!

We discuss Dr. Kevin Leman’s seminal work, The Birth Order Book: Why You Are the Way You Are. Warren explains that it’s “lonely at the top” and Elliott reminds him how bossy he is!

We examine our marriages in light of our spouses’ birth orders—which dynamics work well and which dynamics prove challenging.

Join us for a behind the scenes look at Anderson sibling dynamics! We hope our conversation provides a touchstone for you as you analyze how your sibling connections have influenced your current relationships.

https://birthorderguy.com/

https://www.ted.com/talks/jeffrey_kluger_the_sibling_bond

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Use code LOVELIFE20 for 20% off your order

Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott Anderson

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Empowered Dating Playbook: smarturl.it/EmpoweredDatingBook

Instagram: @dr.karin | @pastorelliottanderson

Is a Sibling Wound Impacting Your Relationships? Ep. 242 Mar 30, 2023

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When we consider our childhood, we typically think about our parents’ influence on our development. But what about our brothers and sisters?

Recent research in developmental psychology suggests we’ve been overlooking the profound impact our siblings have on us—not only on our childhood experiences, but also our adult relationships.

As siblings ourselves, Elliott and I have lots to say about this topic!

We discuss the unique bond brothers and sisters share and the woundedness that can occur due to sibling rivalry and competition. And, we consider several research studies along with Jeff Kluger’s book, The Sibling Effect.

Finally, Elliott offers recommendations for how to heal from sibling wounds and how to approach your brother or sister to discuss the pain in efforts to move toward reconciliation.

https://www.ted.com/talks/jeffrey_kluger_the_sibling_bond?language=en

Younger and older siblings contribute positively to each other's developing empathy
The effect of siblings on children's social skills and perspective taking

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Use code LOVELIFE20 for 20% off your order

Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott Anderson

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Instagram: @dr.karin | @pastorelliottanderson

Sexual Wounds: How to Identify Them and How to Heal Ep. 241 Mar 23, 2023

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In part 2 of our conversation about sexual wounds, Elliott and I discuss how you can identify a sexual wound—whether you’re wondering if you’ve been wounded or perhaps your partner has.

Elliott shares the two main ways sexual wounds manifest—in hyper-sexual behavior or hypo-sexuality.

We wrap up our conversation with tangible steps to take to help you or your partner heal from sexual wounds.

Join us for Part 2 of our Sexual Wound series to discern if past sexual woundedness is impacting your current sexual expression—and if so, how to find healing and hope.

Sponsor:

Magic Mind: www.magicmind.co/lovelife

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Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott Anderson

Website: http://loveandlifemedia.com/

Empowered Dating Playbook: smarturl.it/EmpoweredDatingBook

Instagram: @dr.karin | @pastorelliottanderson

Sexual Wounds: How They Impact Our Relationships Ep. 240 Mar 16, 2023

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In today’s hypersexualized culture, it’s difficult to avoid abuse or pain regarding our sexuality. Therefore, to some degree, most of us suffer from a sexual wound.

Specifically, sexual wounds occur when physically intimate bonds are created outside of a committed monogamous partnership.

Sexual wounds result from:

Hook ups
Paid sex
Adultery
Sexual abuse/molestation/incest
Rape
Pornography

Furthermore, sexual wounds can also occur within a committed, monogamous partnership when the expression of sexuality is not free, open, enjoyed, and fulfilling.

Join us for Part 1 of our Sexual Wound series to discern if past sexual woundedness is impacting your current sexual expression.

Sponsor:

Magic Mind: www.magicmind.co/lovelife

Use code LOVELIFE20 for 20% off your order

Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott Anderson

Website: http://loveandlifemedia.com/

Empowered Dating Playbook: smarturl.it/EmpoweredDatingBook

Instagram: @dr.karin | @pastorelliottanderson

Mind, Body, Spirit: A Holistic Approach to Love & Life Ep. 239 Mar 14, 2023

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On Love & Life, we’re all about THRIVING in every realm of love and life!

This sounds great, of course. But it also sets a very high bar—which can, admittedly, feel daunting and overwhelming.

Elliott and I are here to help! As Elliott moves from Love & Life “fan favorite guest” to co-host, he’ll provide expertise based on over 30 years of counseling individuals and couples. He also brings his pastoral wisdom and experience.

By collaborating, we’ll broaden the scope of our content—because ultimately, we can’t thrive in love and life unless we nourish our mind, body, and spirit.

So, while Love & Life remains focused on our relationships and flourishing therein, we’ll incorporate other key concerns related to our mission: Providing conversations grounded in psych research, psychotherapy, and Biblical truth to help us thrive in love and life!

Join us to hear more about our mission and vision in this week’s episode!

Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott Anderson

Website: http://loveandlifemedia.com/

Empowered Dating Playbook: smarturl.it/EmpoweredDatingBook

Instagram: @dr.karin | @pastorelliottanderson

Am I Putting Up Walls and Sabotaging My Pursuit of Love? Ep. 238 Mar 09, 2023

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More questions keep coming in so Elliott and I recorded another Q&A episode for you!

“Helene” has been on at least 75 dates over the last 5 years. She’s frustrated that the guys she’s into never pursue her while the ones she’s not attracted to want to date her. She’s concerned that maybe now she’s putting up walls after so much disappointment.
“Janey” says she matched with a guy on a dating app 2 years ago. She asked him a question and he responded, but then she never responded back. She thought he was out of her league. Recently she saw him on another dating app and she wants to message him. What should she say?
“Linda” wants to know our best advice for an engaged couple as they plan for marriage.

Join us to hear our thoughts on these questions. Click the link in the show notes below if you’d like us to answer a question for you!

Ask Elliott and me a question here!

Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott Anderson

Website: http://loveandlifemedia.com/

Empowered Dating Playbook: smarturl.it/EmpoweredDatingBook

Instagram: @dr.karin | @pastorelliottanderson

How Can I Trust Men Again After Infidelity, Lies, and Drug Use? Ep. 237 Mar 07, 2023

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When we’ve been on the dating scene for a while and endured so much heartache, how can we believe good men still exist?

It’s so easy to give up hope, but we don’t want to become bitter or demoralized!

In this Q&A episode, Elliott and I answer your questions:

“Valerie” wants to know how she can possibly trust men again after her boyfriend of 6 months broke up with her right after her miscarriage of their baby.
“Sarah” has been in 3 long term relationships and each time she caught her partner lying about debt, infidelity, and drugs. She worries she’ll never be able to meet a man of integrity.
“Maggie” recently got back together with her ex who used drugs recreationally when they dated before—which is why she broke up with him. He says he’s left that lifestyle behind but she still wonders if she’ll ever be able to fully trust him.

Join us to hear strategies for healing and rebuilding hope and trust.

Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott Anderson

Website: http://loveandlifemedia.com/

Empowered Dating Playbook: smarturl.it/EmpoweredDatingBook

Instagram: @dr.karin | @pastorelliottanderson

How Am I Doing? The Importance of Deep Self Knowledge with Psychotherapist Dr. Corey Yeager Ep. 236 Mar 02, 2023

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How often do you ask yourself, “How am I doing?” If you're like most of us, the answer may be–not often enough! Detroit Pistons psychotherapist, Dr. Corey Yeager, invites us to ask ourselves this very question. His new book, “How Am I Doing? 40 Conversations to Have with Yourself” provides thought provoking prompts for deeper self knowledge–of who you’ve been and who you intend to become! I highlighted some of my favorite quotes from Dr. Yeager’s book and asked him to elaborate on them. Specifically, we explore: The importance of being sure you’re the one writing your story! Listening to your inner voice and monitoring your self talk. Growing up, Dr. Yeager heard things like, “Don’t become someone your family wouldn’t recognize!” How do we honor our family of origin while still resonating with our authentic selves? The tension between “Making the right choice” vs. “Making the choice right!” The impact of untruths we tell ourselves! Dr. Yeager’s definition of True Freedom and the heavy responsibility inherent to freedom. How we can frame our pain and struggles as gifts! How “personifying” your relationship with anxiety provides you with control over what feels uncontrollable Dr. Yeager’s book digs deep yet remains accessible to all–no matter where you are in your journey toward self discovery! Dr. Corey Yeager Website: https://doctorcoreyyeager.com/ Dr. Corey Yeager's Book - "How Am I Doing?": https://www.amazon.com/How-Am-Doing-Conversations-Yourself/dp/1400236762 Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott Anderson Website: http://loveandlifemedia.com/ Empowered Dating Playbook: smarturl.it/EmpoweredDatingBook Instagram: @dr.karin | @pastorelliottanderson

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