Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman

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The Naked Truth Nov 27, 2023

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In this Language of Love Bite, I'm going there. We are talking about the impact of pornography on our love lives.

One of the main concerns I discuss in this episode is the accessibility of porn to young people. With the internet being so readily available, it's easier than ever for children and teens to stumble upon explicit content. It turns out that newer research is demonstrating porn can have a profound long-term effect on the developing brain, impacting one’s ability to get aroused without using it. Another issue we are covering is the addictive nature of porn. It's not uncommon for individuals to become hooked on watching porn, spending hours upon hours consuming it.

We also get into the ways porn is being misused as a poor form of sex education, setting couples back who have a skewed perception of what pleasurable sex looks and feels like. This can lead to a distorted view of what constitutes a healthy sexual relationship, as porn often portrays unrealistic scenarios and expectations.

I’m also sharing:

Why porn is not all bad, and how it can be used in a healthy way
The digital distortion of porn and how it affects how your brain perceives what it sees
How porn can negatively affect your dopamine levels
The misrepresentation of sexual relationships by porn
The pressure on women to engage in activities influenced by porn
Why porn is not a substitute for intimacy

If you or someone you know is struggling with the impact of porn on their relationship, I encourage you to seek professional help — a therapist who specializes in sex addiction can provide guidance and support in navigating these complex issues.

Also, if you’re looking to heighten the intensity and connection in your sex life, don’t forget to check out my Seven Days to Better Sex program!

Visit my website to explore my range of books and courses on love, sex, and relationships, and be sure to tune in regularly to the Language of Love podcast for thought-provoking discussions and invaluable advice aimed at helping you love and be loved better.

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Finding Magic in the Missing with Kelsey Chittick Nov 22, 2023

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The biggest fear for many of us is losing someone we love; of facing unexpected tragedies that change the course of our lives forever. For comedian and author Kelsey Chittick, her worst fear became her reality, and it tested her resilience, shattered her world, and ultimately transformed her.

In today’s Language of Love Conversation, we dive into Kelsey's personal journey of grief and healing after the sudden loss of her husband, NFL veteran Nate Hobgood-Chittick. She opens up about her experiences with loss, anxiety, and even her spiritual exploration during this challenging time. She also shares her unique approach to parenting while dealing with grief, which is truly transformative and inspiring. We also get to chat about her incredible book “Second Half: Surviving Loss and Finding Magic in the Missing.”

We break down:

The profound impact of losing loved ones and finding strength in the face of grief
The physical and emotional toll of grief on an individual
The spiritual side of grief that opens us up to connecting with the other side
Finding joy and happiness again after loss

This one is a conversation that will give you deep insights into dealing with loss, personal growth, and finding joy even in the midst of pain.

You can connect with Kelsey on Instagram and also visit her website to stay updated with her latest content and projects. And don't forget to check out her book, Second Half: Surviving Loss and Finding Magic in the Missing. It's definitely a must-read!

My course, Good Grief: Healing From Loss with Love, is packed with insights and practical tips to help you navigate the journey of grief and loss. And, on December 2nd, I will be holding a live in-person event, Good Grief Day, at Hermosa Beach, CA along with amazing healers and teachers who will shine a light and guide us in our grieving journey. Tickets are limited so make sure you grab yours!

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Breaking Free from Shame Nov 15, 2023

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In this Language of Love session, I have a chat with Trina, who has been through some really tough times in her past relationships, facing big losses and struggles. She opens up about the toxic relationships and challenges she's been dealing with as she tries to rebuild her life.

I emphasized how important it is for Trina to take the time to be single, rebuild and move deeper into love and accept herself before thinking about jumping into a new relationship. It's like building a strong foundation for a house - if you rush past this phase of post-relationship healing, you just make the same mistakes again and again. I suggest that she goes on a journey of self-discovery and self-love, one that's all about what she wants, not what others expect. After all, loving ourselves and understanding our own worth is the first step toward attracting the love we truly deserve.

In this episode, we’re diving into:

The concept of vibrational frequency and how embracing our divine feminine power can attract the right kind of partner into our lives
The impact of deep-rooted traumas and subconscious fears in our interpersonal relationships
The importance of having a support system and holding oneself accountable
Why setting boundaries is a vital component in healthy relationships

Be sure to explore Calling in the One by my good friend Katherine Woodward Thomas! It's a fantastic resource for anyone looking to prepare themselves for love.

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Why Is Grief Misunderstood? Nov 14, 2023

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Welcome back to another Language of Love Bite! I'm here to dive into a topic that often gets misunderstood: grief and loss.

The truth is that everyone's grief journey is unique. There's no one-size-fits-all timeline for healing. So, if you're going through it, remember to be gentle with yourself and allow yourself the space to feel and heal.

Now, let's talk about the importance of emotional support during this time. It's crucial to have a strong support system in place - friends, family, or even a therapist who can provide that safe space for you to express your emotions. And don't forget about somatic experiencing techniques! These can help you release any trapped emotions in your body and promote healing from within.

But, most importantly, here's something interesting to consider: what if our relationships continue even after death? Obviously it’s not the same, and we’d do anything to have our loved ones with us. But wd are all made of pure atomic energy, and energy can’t be created or destroyed. It can only change form. We can learn to connect to our loved ones’ energies, even after their beloved bodies are no longer here.

In this bite, I dive into:

The importance of emotional support and professional help in navigating grief
Somatic experiencing techniques like breathwork and grief yoga as tools for healing
Incorporating mindfulness practices to rewire the brain and prevent trauma from becoming the default mode
The idea that relationships don't end when someone dies, and ways to stay connected with loved ones through energy

I encourage you to keep an open mind when it comes to these concepts. It's okay to question and explore new ideas. And if you're interested in diving deeper into this topic, I've got just the thing for you! My course, Good Grief: Healing From Loss with Love, is packed with insights and practical tips to help you navigate the journey of grief and loss. And, on December 2nd, I will be holding a live in-person event that will be uplifting and inspiring, Good Grief Day, at Hermosa Beach, CA along with amazing healers and teachers who will shine a light and guide us on our grieving journey. Tickets are limited so make sure you grab yours!

Grief is a natural part of life, and it's okay to feel it. Just know that you're not alone. Take care of yourself, and remember to be kind to yourself throughout this process.

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The Love Storm with AnnaLynne McCord Nov 08, 2023

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In today’s Language of Love Conversation, I have a very special guest with me, AnnaLynne McCord! AnnaLynne is not only a talented, well-known actress, but a passionate advocate for survivors of trauma and a fierce supporter in the fight against sex trafficking. She shares her personal experiences of trauma and how they affected her life (and sexuality), as well as her incredible work in supporting survivors. We also talk about the importance of mental health and self-love. AnnaLynne emphasizes the need to break the cycle of abuse and how crucial it is to address the root causes of mass violence and radicalized religion. One thing that stood out to me was her vision for a movement called Love Storm. It's all about spreading love and healing to those who have been through unimaginable pain.

AnnaLynne also gives us some insight into her new film, "Condition of Return". It's a thought-provoking movie that explores the consequences of trauma and the dangers of blind faith. It's a must-watch for anyone interested in understanding the complexities of trauma and its long-lasting effects.

I'm so grateful to have this conversation with AnnaLynne. Her passion and dedication to making a difference are truly inspiring. So, grab a cup of tea, sit back, and get ready to be moved by this incredible discussion. Let's dive in!

In this episode, AnnaLyne and I explore:

The importance of embracing uniqueness and not being afraid to be different
The power that can be found in recognizing and integrating the parts of ourselves that carry shame from the past.
Why true peace starts within ourselves and extends to our surroundings
AnnaLynne's involvement in fighting human trafficking and modern-day slavery
How to break the cycle of abuse and underreporting of sexual abuse
The impact of trauma on sexual preferences

You can connect with AnnaLynne on Instagram! Don't forget to explore The Love Storm website for guidance on ending sex slavery.

Check out The Map of Consciousness and Power vs. Force by David Hawkins for deep perspectives on consciousness and human behavior. Bessel van der Kolk's The Body Keeps the Scoreis also an essential read for understanding trauma's impact.

Lastly secure your tickets for Good Grief Day: Healing from Loss with Love happening in December at Hermosa Beach, CA for a day of profound healing, guided by me and some incredible healers and teachers!

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Rocky Roads to Climax Nov 01, 2023

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Welcome to another Language of Love Session! I’ve got a truly engaging conversation lined up for you. But first, let me pose a thought-provoking question: Have you ever felt that the path to reaching an orgasm has become rocky?

Meet Marla and Ken, a couple in their 60s, deeply in love. Here's the deal: they've been facing challenges reaching climax, and it's been putting a strain on their love life. Marla often takes the initiative, but Ken feels he isn't fully satisfying her.

No matter how passionate a lover you are, age can throw in a few curveballs, like changes in hormones and blood flow. So hang tight, because this is one session you won't want to miss!

In this episode, we’re diving into:

The importance of open communication and discussing intimacy issues with your partner
Why men often avoid addressing problems related to sexual performance
How a lack of sexual intimacy can impact other aspects of the relationship, leading to emotional disconnection
Ways to be intimate without the sole focus on reaching climax
The magic of spending just 15 minutes each week on kissing, cuddling, and deep conversations to build emotional intimacy

Don't forget to take a look at my books, Real Sex for Real Women and Loving Sex, as well as my program, Seven Days to Better Sex, which you can find on my website along with the rest of my books and courses on love, sex, and relationships. Be sure to tune in regularly to the Language of Love podcast for thought-provoking discussions and invaluable advice aimed at helping you love and be loved better.

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The Art of Kissing Oct 30, 2023

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A kiss is so much more than a fleeting expression of affection. It's a silent language that can speak volumes, not to mention plays a huge role in maintaining healthy long-term attraction in love.

This Language of Love Bite is all about the power of a simple kiss. I shed light on the often-overlooked importance of kissing in intimate relationships. I also introduce the concept of non-demand kissing and a kissing practice that you can try with your partner to heighten your connection and intimacy.

Try the four-time-a-day, ten-second kiss practice for a week, and let me know how your experience goes! You might be surprised at the power of this simple yet impactful gesture.

Don’t forget to check out my Seven Days to Better Sex program for more practical strategies and tips to spice up your sex life!

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Conscious Grieving with Claire Bidwell Smith Oct 25, 2023

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Grief, in its myriad of forms, touches us all at some point in our lives. And when it comes, it can often bring along an uninvited guest: anxiety.

In this Language of Love Conversation, I talk with author and grief therapist Claire Bidwell Smith. When Claire was in her early twenties, she lost her parents, which deeply impacted her life. After her she began having panic attacks, Claire decided to learn more about grief-related anxiety. In fact, we now know that the kind of anxiety experienced with grief is a very unique sort.

In this conversation, Claire and I unpack:

Grief-related anxiety, its unique manifestations, and how it differs from typical anxiety
The different ways different cultures create space for grief
Why it is important to allow oneself to fully experience and release emotions in the grieving process
The transformative nature of grief and the ways it can impact on every aspect of a person's being
Different kinds of losses and their ability to change us and lead to a pared-down version of ourselves
The importance of being present for someone in their pain without needing to have all the right words or solutions
How to maintain a strong connection to loved ones who have passed away and find ways to honor their memory

If you or someone you love is going through grief right now, or you've been there before, you're going to find this conversation really eye-opening. So, let's dive in!

Remember to check out Claire Bidwell Smith's website to learn more about her work, especially her online support group retreats and podcast. You can also connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. Don't forget to preorder her new book, “Anxiety: The Missing Stage of Grief,” and grab her other titles like “The Rules of Inheritance” and “After This: When Life is Over, Where Do We Go?” Plus, stay tuned for her upcoming release, “Conscious Grieving: A Transformative Approach to Healing from Loss.”

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Remembering Love in Tender Times with Cleo Wade Oct 18, 2023

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Life can be a rollercoaster, often catching us off guard. But what if I told you that there's a way to turn these moments, both good and bad, into something truly valuable? It all starts with the incredible power of self-love, learning from life's twists and turns, and the art of setting boundaries to find inner peace.

In today’s Language of Love Conversation, I'm so excited to have a chat with New York Times bestselling author and poet, Cleo Wade. Cleo’s work dives deep into themes like love, hope, and resilience. And today, she gives us a sneak peek into her brand-new book, Remember Love: Words for Tender Times.

We cover some really inspiring topics in our chat. Cleo shares her thoughts on self-love and personal growth – two things we could all use a bit more of in our lives. We also talk about how all relationships naturally evolve and sometimes need to be shed, just like a snake sheds its skin.

In this episode, Cleo and I deep dive into:

The power of self-love and its role in vulnerable moments
The idea of turning life experiences into life lessons
The importance of setting boundaries and letting go for personal freedom and peace
The significance of emotional wisdom and its role in personal growth
Why shedding relationships is part of personal growth
How to recognize and break free from codependent tendencies
How childhood experiences shape our understanding of love and approval
The power of poetry to unite people from different walks of life
The dynamics of love as a collaborative effort, challenging the notion of one-sided devotion
The art of effective conflict resolution through the transformative power of apology and humility
Why rebirth is a transformative phase and requires care and support
How to overcome self-doubt and take steps towards growth

If you're interested in preordering Cleo Wade's latest book, Remember Love: Words for Tender Times, you should visit her website. You can also grab some of her other fantastic books like Heart Talk: Poetic Wisdom for a Better Life, What the Road Said, Heart Talk: The Journal: 52 Weeks of Self-Love, Self-Care, and Self-Discovery, Where to Begin, and more. And don't forget to stay connected with Cleo on Facebook and Instagram!

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The Journey of a Wounded Healer Oct 11, 2023

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Therapists are people too! And just like anyone else, therapists have their own unique struggles, fears, and insecurities.

In this Language of Love Session, I speak with therapist and PhD candidate, Mary, who opens up about her money fears and shame. In this session, we explore:

Mary's recent experience of fear and shame around money and finances
Dispelling the notion that therapists should be perfect and have it all figured out
The concept that therapists as wounded healers (the desire to heal our own wounds drives us to become healers ourselves)
Strategies for healing and integrating different parts of ourselves, including self-talk and mindfulness practices
The concept of physiological and energetic responses to triggers
Grounding and calming the nervous system during acute moments of agitation
Trust and faith in relation to overcoming scarcity
The importance of daily spiritual practice and connecting with a higher self and guidance
Cultivating coherence and peace within oneself to attract positive experiences and manifestations
The value of staying grounded, calming our nerves, building trust and faith, and having a daily spiritual routine.

Remember to take a look at my book Quantum Love for some fascinating insights. In the book, I show you how our emotional states can actually impact our energy levels, and this has been scientifically proven. It affects what we attract into our lives and how people around us respond. It's pretty mind-blowing stuff!

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