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What We're Getting Wrong About Raising Boys and Girls with Dr. Shefali Tsabary Sep 23, 2026

Something is happening to our children, and most of us are not paying close enough attention.

The algorithm is reaching them. Predators are reaching them. Drugs are reaching them through the phones we thought were keeping them connected and safe. And for many parents, the first time they realize what is happening is when it is already too late.

If you are a regular listener, you probably know how my son Sammy died. He bought a counterfeit pill laced with fentanyl from a dealer he met on Snapchat. I thought I had done everything I could to keep my home safe. I never imagined that a drug dealer could reach my son through his phone.

But that is the reality parents are facing now.

You may be doing everything you can. Monitoring social media. Limiting screen time. Talking to your kids about strangers, drugs, and online safety. But what happens when the algorithm is reaching them anyway? And what happens when it is reaching their friends, the kids they sit beside at school, play sports with, or spend the night with?

We cannot monitor every conversation. We cannot see every screen. And while all of this is happening, many of us parents are distracted too. We are busy. We are exhausted. We are scrolling.

So how do we raise conscious, grounded daughters and sons in a culture that is constantly competing for their attention?

Dr. Shefali Tsabary joins us on The Language of Love, and this conversation goes straight into the heart of that question.

Dr. Shefali is a clinical psychologist, New York Times bestselling author, and founder of the Conscious Parenting Movement. For decades, she has challenged parents to look at themselves before trying to fix their children. Now, she is taking on two of the biggest conversations in parenting today: what is happening to our girls, and what is happening to our boys.

Her response came in the form of two books, released at the same time and written in just five and a half months because she believes the moment demands urgency.

In this episode, Dr. Shefali explains why the algorithm targets children differently based on sex, and why it is so effective. We talk about why simply banning social media can give parents a false sense of security, why taking a teenager's phone away overnight can backfire, and what parents can do instead.

Her answer comes down to something that sounds simple, but is incredibly hard to practice: connection.

Real connection. The kind that requires us to put our own phones down, pay attention, and actually be present with our kids.

And then the conversation takes us somewhere many parenting discussions avoid.

We talk about the impossible messages we are sending our boys. Be strong, but do not be domineering. Be vulnerable, but do not appear weak. Be confident, but never intimidating.

Dr. Shefali explains why shaming boys does not teach them to become safer men. It can teach them to hide the very parts of themselves they need to understand.

We also talk about masculinity and femininity, and what it could look like to celebrate these qualities without turning them into rigid boxes. There is room for strength and softness, confidence and vulnerability, masculinity and femininity, and for the many ways those qualities can show up in our children.

This is a conversation about parenting, technology, identity, connection, and the kind of world we are creating for our kids.

And it starts with a question we all need to ask ourselves: Are we really paying attention?

In this episode, we talk about:

The force shaping your child right now that is not you, not school, and not the app you blocked
Why today's girls are the most powerful and the most fragile generation we have ever raised
The prison that traps girls before they even know they are in it
The impossible rulebook boys are handed, and what happens when they stop trying to follow it

The tiny daily act that rebuilds years of disconnection, and it is not talking
What mothers may be passing onto their sons without ever knowing it
The one thing every parent needs to stop doing tomorrow
The one thing Dr. Shefali says every parent needs to stop doing immediately

If Dr. Shefali’s work resonates with you, you can learn more about her, her two new books, Raising Conscious Daughters and Raising Conscious Sons, and the Conscious Parenting Movement at her website.

Her website also offers resources and tools for parents who want to go deeper, including guidance on conscious parenting, connection, and raising emotionally healthy kids. Whether you have daughters, sons, or both, her work meets you where you are and helps you begin with the most important relationship of all: the one you have with yourself.

For more resources, tools, and upcoming events, visit my website.

And if something from this conversation stays with you, I’d love to hear from you at languageoflovepod@gmail.com.

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Is it Intuition or Anxiety? Here’s How to Tell with Laura Berman Sep 16, 2026

You know that feeling when something inside you says, Don’t do this. Get out. Something’s wrong.

Sometimes that feeling is your intuition picking up on something before your conscious mind has caught up. But sometimes it’s anxiety. An old wound gets activated, your nervous system goes on high alert, and suddenly everything in you is saying danger even when you’re not actually in danger.

So how do you tell the difference?

A listener named Angel wrote in with this question, and it’s such an important one because once you’ve been hurt, especially in relationships, trusting your gut can get complicated. Maybe there have been times when your instincts were absolutely right. And there may have been other times when fear convinced you something terrible was happening when it wasn’t.

In this Language of Love Session, I talk about how I distinguish intuition from anxiety and, more importantly, what to do when you genuinely can’t tell which one you’re feeling.

One of the biggest clues is how the message arrives. Anxiety tends to be loud, repetitive and urgent. It wants an answer right now. Intuition is usually quieter and clearer. But when your nervous system is activated, even intuition can get tangled up with fear, which is why I don’t recommend making an important decision from that state.

I walk you through a few simple somatic practices to settle the fear enough that you can listen to what’s underneath it. I also show you how to begin learning your body’s own language of expansion and contraction, including a surprisingly easy exercise you can practice with something as simple as foods you love and foods you hate.

In this episode, I talk about:

How intuition tends to feel different in the body than anxiety
Why urgency is often a clue that fear has entered the picture
What to do when a gut feeling comes with a lot of anxiety
Three ways to regulate your nervous system before making a decision
How to “try on” a choice and notice your body’s response
What expansion and contraction can tell you
A simple exercise for learning what a yes and a no feel like in your own body
Why learning to trust yourself is a practice, especially if fear has been running the show for a long time

If you’ve ever thought, I know something feels wrong, but I don’t know if I should trust that feeling, this episode will give you a way to slow things down and get clearer about what your body is actually telling you.

If you'd like to ask a question or get some advice, email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com or leave a voicemail at drlauraberman.com to have your own question answered in a future session. And if you want to go even deeper into somatic work and regulating your nervous system, check out my book,Crying Out Loud, where I dive into even more techniques to help you come back to your body and trust yourself again.

Because you deserve to trust the voice inside you, but first, you have to learn which one is actually yours.

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Butterflies or Red Flags: How to Tell the Difference with Laura Berman Sep 14, 2026

Butterflies or Red Flags: How to Tell the Difference with Laura Berman

You meet someone and the chemistry is immediate. You can’t stop thinking about them. You’re checking your phone, rereading texts, analyzing what they said, and wondering when you’ll hear from them again.

It feels exciting. Maybe even a little intoxicating.

But is that chemistry? Or is your nervous system getting activated by something that feels very familiar?

In this Language of Love Bite, I’m talking about one of the easiest mistakes to make in dating: assuming that the intensity we feel around someone tells us something about how right they are for us.

Sometimes butterflies really are excitement and attraction. But sometimes what feels like incredible chemistry is uncertainty, anxiety, or an old attachment pattern getting stirred up. And that may also explain why a kind, consistent, emotionally available person can initially feel a little... boring.

So how do you tell the difference?

I’ll show you how to pay attention to what happens after the date, not just during it. Do you leave feeling grounded, open, and more like yourself? Or do you leave preoccupied, anxious, and trying to figure out where you stand?

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why butterflies aren't necessarily evidence that someone is right for you
How uncertainty can create an incredibly powerful sense of attraction
Why emotionally available people can feel less exciting when you’re accustomed to relational unpredictability
How to recognize the difference between attraction and nervous-system activation
What to notice in your body before, during, and after spending time with someone
Why curiosity is more useful than immediately deciding, “This must be my person”
The question to ask yourself when you find yourself becoming obsessed with someone

Chemistry matters. Attraction matters. But neither one can tell you whether someone is capable of building the kind of relationship you actually want.

And sometimes the person who doesn’t send your nervous system on a roller coaster deserves a second look.

If this conversation resonated with you, I’d love to hear from you. You can reach me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com or leave a voicemail at languageoflovepod.com.

Like to learn more about how to call healthy love into your life and be a match for it, check out my book Quantum Love

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You Have Everything You Wanted. So Why Don’t You Feel Okay? With Koya Webb Sep 09, 2026

What happens when you finally have the life you worked so hard for and you realize you’re not okay?

My guest Koya Webb knows this contradiction intimately. Koya is a globally recognized wellness leader, bestselling author, speaker and founder of Get Loved Up, whose work has helped people around the world build healthier, more connected lives. She’s spent years teaching yoga, meditation, movement and holistic wellbeing, working with major brands and bringing these practices to audiences around the world.

She had built a successful career doing work she loved. She was traveling, teaching and helping thousands of other people take better care of themselves.

From the outside, her life looked like it was working.

Behind the scenes, she was losing herself.

At one point, Koya was literally putting vodka in her green juice.

That image says so much about what we talk about in this episode. You can exercise, meditate, eat well and know all the “right” things to do and still use achievement, busyness and even wellness itself to avoid what’s happening inside you.

Koya shares what was really going on during that period of her life and the moment she had to admit that the way she was living wasn’t sustainable. Her book, Wellbeing Rituals, grew in part from what she learned: there’s a difference between doing things that look like self-care and actually knowing how to care for yourself.

And sometimes that means disappointing people.

We talk about people-pleasing and what happens when being loving, helpful and dependable slowly turns into ignoring your own needs. Koya opens up about learning to say no and what happened when people who were accustomed to getting a yes from her didn’t like it.

We also get into grief, emotional honesty and why some of the feelings we’re quickest to push away may be trying to tell us something important. Koya shares the rituals she uses to reconnect with herself, and I share some of mine too, including one that leads us into a pretty unexpected conversation about our bodies and what changes when we stop constantly trying to manage or fix them.

In this episode, we talk about:

How Koya built the life she wanted and still found herself struggling
The story behind the vodka in her green juice and what it finally forced her to recognize
The difference between practicing wellness and actually feeling well
How people-pleasing can slowly pull you away from yourself
What happens when you finally set a boundary and someone pushes back
Why the emotions we try hardest to avoid may have something important to tell us
Stress, nervous system regulation and how they affect the way we feel and connect
Koya’s CHBT method and seven areas of wellbeing
How to create rituals that actually support you instead of turning self-care into one more thing to accomplish

If your life looks good on paper but something inside you still doesn’t feel right, I really want you to hear this conversation.

You don’t have to wait until your life falls apart to pay attention to that feeling. And having a lot to be grateful for doesn’t mean you’re not allowed to admit that something is missing, hurting or needs to change.

Sometimes we get so busy building the life we think will make us happy that we forget to stop and ask ourselves:

Am I actually happy living it?

Connect with Koya on her website and Instagram, explore her Wellbeing Rituals tour, and check out Wellbeing Rituals: Science-Backed Practices for Sustainable Healing and Living to go deeper into the practices we discuss.

If you’d like to ask a question or get some advice, email languageoflovepod@gmail.com or leave a voicemail at languageoflovepod.com to have your own question answered in a future session.

And if grief or loss is part of your story, come find me on my other podcast, Crying Out Loud. I talk with leading experts, healers and people who have lived through profound loss about what grief does to our brains, bodies, relationships and sense of self, and what actually helps us find our way through it. You can find Crying Out Loud wherever you’re listening to The Language of Love.

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How Long Do You Keep Trying When Your Partner Won’t Change? Laura Berman Sep 02, 2026

What do you do when your partner keeps telling you they love you and want the relationship to work… but you’re the only one actually doing anything to make it better?

You’re the one bringing up what isn’t working. You suggest therapy. You initiate the hard conversations. You try to repair after a fight. You read the books, listen to the podcasts, work on yourself and keep giving them another chance.

And they say they hear you. They may even agree with you.

But then nothing really changes.

That’s the situation Sarah brings to me in this episode, and it raises a question I hear all the time in my practice: How long are you supposed to keep trying when someone says they want the relationship, but their actions tell a different story?

Because love does matter. But love alone doesn’t make a relationship work. At some point, your partner has to be willing to help create the relationship they say they want.

We talk about how to tell the difference between someone who genuinely wants to grow but is struggling, and someone who has gotten comfortable letting you carry the emotional weight of the relationship.

And then there’s the harder question: If you already know this isn’t enough for you, what are you actually afraid will happen if you leave?

For a lot of people, that’s where things get really interesting. We stay because we’ve invested years. Because we’re afraid of starting over. Because we hear a clock ticking. Because some part of us believes an unsatisfying relationship is still safer than the possibility of having no relationship at all.

In this episode, I talk about:

Why “I love you” has to be backed up by behavior
How to know whether your partner is actually willing to work on the relationship
Why you can’t do enough emotional work for two people
The role fear plays in keeping us in relationships long after we know something has to change
Why a clear boundary or ultimatum isn’t necessarily manipulation
What to say when you need your partner to understand that things cannot continue as they are
How to decide when you’ve tried enough

If you’ve been carrying your relationship and wondering how much longer you’re supposed to keep trying, I want you to hear this:

You don’t have to decide today whether you’re leaving forever.

But you do have to stop confusing someone’s intention to change with actual change.

At some point, you have to pay attention to what they’re doing, not just what they keep promising you they’re going to do.

If you’d like to ask a question or get some advice languageoflovepod@gmail.com or leave a voicemail at languageoflovepod.com to have your own question answered in a future session. And if you want to go even deeper, check out Codependent No More by Melody Beattie, because you deserve a love that shows up, not one that just talks a big game.

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Are You Choosing Them… or Waiting to Be Chosen? Laura Berman Aug 31, 2026

There’s a subtle moment in dating when everything can start to change.

At first, you’re paying attention to them. Do I like this person? Do I feel good around them? Are they kind? Interesting? Emotionally available? Do I want to see them again?

Then you start to really like them, and suddenly the focus flips.

Do they like me?

Now you’re checking your phone. Analyzing texts. Wondering why they took three hours to respond. Replaying the date and looking for clues. And without even realizing it, you’ve stopped deciding whether you want them and started trying to figure out how to make sure they want you.

That shift matters.

Because once being chosen becomes the goal, it’s incredibly easy to abandon your own experience. You can overlook how anxious you feel around someone, make excuses for behavior you don’t actually like, or become so focused on whether you’re enough for them that you forget to ask whether they’re enough for you.

And this doesn’t only happen while we’re dating. It’s one of the reasons rejection and breakups can hurt so much. Sometimes we’re grieving the person. But sometimes we’re also grieving the fact that they didn’t choose us, and those are two very different wounds.

In this Language of Love Bite, I’m talking about why we can become so consumed with being wanted, what attachment and old relationship wounds have to do with it, and the question I often ask people after a breakup that can completely change the way they see what they’ve lost.

Because yes, you deserve to be chosen.

But you’re doing some choosing, too.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How to recognize when you’ve shifted from getting to know someone to auditioning for their approval
Why uncertainty can make you obsess over texts, conversations, and tiny changes in someone’s behavior
The difference between actually wanting someone and wanting the validation of being wanted by them
Why rejection can hurt even when the relationship itself wasn’t right for you
The question I ask after a breakup that can change the story you’re telling yourself
How to notice what your own experience is telling you about a relationship
How to date without abandoning yourself in the process

Whether you have experienced dating anxiety yourself or love someone who has, this episode will help you understand what is really happening beneath the surface and offer practical, compassionate tools to move forward with confidence.

If this hits home, follow The Language of Love wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts. If someone came to mind while you were listening, make sure to share this episode with them. You can also email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com or leave a voicemail at languageoflovepod.com to have your own question answered in a future session.

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What Women Were Never Told About Sex, Hormones & Menopause with Maria Sophocles Aug 26, 2026

What if some of what you’ve been told about your sexual body, especially as you get older, is wrong?

For decades, women have gone to doctors with questions about disappearing desire, painful sex, orgasm, hormones, and changes they barely recognize in their own bodies. And too often, they’ve left without real answers.

Part of the problem is startling: many of their doctors were never adequately trained in female sexual health either.

My guest on this episode of Language of Love, Dr. Maria Sophocles, is a board-certified gynecologist, menopause specialist, sexual medicine expert, TED speaker, and author of The Bedroom Gap. She has spent more than 30 years caring for women and challenging a medical system that has historically treated female pleasure as an afterthought.

And there is a LOT we need to talk about.

Maria takes us inside the medical blind spots that have shaped women’s sex lives for generations, from the anatomy lessons that barely acknowledged the clitoris to the flawed hormone study that frightened millions of women away from treatment. We talk about why Viagra may have inadvertently widened the “bedroom gap,” what women should understand about testosterone, and why painful sex and loss of desire should never simply be dismissed as the price of getting older.

We also get into something I wish more women heard: your sexual life does not come with an expiration date.

Maria shares why some women are having the best sex of their lives in their 60s, 70s, and 80s, and tells the remarkable story of an 82-year-old patient who finally revealed a desire she had kept secret for six decades.

If you’ve ever wondered, What happened to my desire? Why does sex feel different now? Is this just aging? Why didn’t my doctor tell me any of this? This conversation is for you.

In this episode, we get into:

What “The Bedroom Gap” really is and why it affects far more than libido
Why so many doctors receive surprisingly little training in female sexual pleasure
How one deeply flawed study changed the conversation about hormone therapy for a generation
The unexpected way Viagra widened the sexual divide between men and women
What happens to estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone as women age
What women need to know about testosterone and why access remains so complicated
Why painful sex, low desire, and changes in orgasm deserve medical attention
Why so many women fake orgasms and what that can do to their relationships and sexual satisfaction
The surgery Maria refuses to perform and the pressure women feel to “fix” perfectly normal bodies
Why masturbation can be an important part of sexual health and self-care
How to talk to your doctor when you aren’t getting the answers you need
Why your best sex may still be ahead of you
The unforgettable 82-year-old patient who finally permitted herself to ask for what she wanted

This conversation is a reminder that women deserve more than being told to tolerate the changes in their bodies. We deserve information, options, pleasure, and the freedom to keep discovering our sexuality at every age.

To learn more about Dr. Sophocles and her work, visit her website and pick up a copy of The Bedroom Gap. She's also available on Audible, and she recommends buying an extra copy, one for yourself, and one for your doctor.

If something in this conversation sparked something in you, don't stop here. My website offers more content, tools, and upcoming events to keep the conversation alive.

And if a reflection comes up, or you simply want to reach out, I'd love to hear from you. Find me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com.

This episode is for anyone who's ever wondered if it's too late to rediscover themselves and discovered the answer is no.

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Why your partner's porn use hurts so much with Laura Berman Aug 19, 2026

Few discoveries can shake your confidence quite like finding out your partner watches pornography.

Suddenly, it's easy to wonder if you're enough. You start comparing yourself to people on a screen, questioning your body, your desirability, and even your relationship. Even if your partner insists it has nothing to do with you, the hurt can feel very real.

But what if the greatest threat to your relationship isn't pornography itself? What if it's the story your mind begins telling you the moment you discover it?

In this Language of Love Session, I answer a question from Priya, who recently learned that her partner watches porn and doesn't know what to do next. She doesn't want to control his behavior, but she also can't ignore the insecurity, resentment, and self-doubt that have crept into their relationship and into their sex life.

Together, we'll explore why our brains are so quick to compare ourselves to impossible standards, what pornography does and doesn't necessarily mean in a relationship, and how to rebuild your sense of confidence regardless of your partner's choices. We'll also talk about when porn is relatively benign, when it may signal a larger issue, and how to have an honest conversation without shame, blame, or ultimatums. You'll learn:

Why discovering porn use can trigger such intense feelings of insecurity
The stories we tell ourselves that make the pain even worse
When pornography is relatively harmless and when it becomes a relationship concern
How comparison quietly erodes intimacy and self-confidence
What actually creates lasting sexual attraction in a long-term relationship
How to talk with your partner about porn without attacking or shutting down
Practical ways to rebuild your erotic confidence and feel desirable again

If this episode brings up a question of your own, email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com or leave a voicemail at languageoflovepod.com. Your question could be featured in a future episode.

And if you're ready to stop second-guessing yourself and start building a more secure, connected relationship, check out my book Sex Magic, take a look at Quantum Love, as well as my Quantum Sex Course available on my website. It's designed to help you break free from old patterns, strengthen intimacy, and create the kind of connection that doesn't depend on comparison or self-doubt.

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Why Trying Harder Makes Erections Harder (to Achieve) with Laura Berman Aug 17, 2026

You're with someone you're attracted to. Things are going well. You want to have sex.

And then your body doesn't respond the way you expected.

Within seconds, your mind starts racing.

What's wrong with me?

Why is this happening?

What is my partner thinking?

For many men, the erection )and whether it works or not) isn't the biggest problem. It's what happens next. The self-doubt. The panic. The pressure. The fear that it will happen again.

Ironically, those thoughts are often what keep the cycle going.

The truth is, erection difficulties are rarely just about attraction, masculinity, or even desire. More often, they're about what's happening in your nervous system. When your brain shifts from pleasure to performance, your body has a much harder time responding naturally.

And if you're the partner of someone who's experienced this, it's easy to assume they're no longer attracted to you. In reality, the opposite is often true. Performance anxiety can happen even in deeply loving, highly desirable relationships.

In this Language of Love Bite, I explain what's really happening in the brain and body during erection difficulties, why shame and pressure make the problem worse, and what you can do instead. I also share practical ways partners can help create safety, reduce anxiety, and strengthen intimacy, along with a simple practice you can begin using tonight to feel calmer, more connected, and more confident in the bedroom.

In this episode, you'll learn:

Why erection difficulties often have nothing to do with masculinity, attraction, or desire
How performance anxiety activates your stress response and interferes with arousal
What happens when your brain slips into "monitoring mode"
Why trying to force an erection usually backfires
The connection between chronic stress, nervous system overload, and sexual performance
How overstimulation can disconnect you from natural arousal
Why slowing down can improve intimacy and sexual response
What partners can do to reduce pressure and create emotional safety
A simple breathwork exercise to calm your nervous system in the moment
Practical strategies to rebuild confidence, trust, and connection without shame

Whether you've experienced erection challenges yourself or love someone who has, this episode will help you understand what's really happening beneath the surface and offer practical, compassionate tools to move forward with confidence.

If you're ready to go deeper, Sex Magic explores how to work with the body's energy in ways most people never learn, and my Quantum Sex course is built to help you create lasting confidence and connection, not just fix a moment.

For more tools, guidance, and support, visit healwithlaura.com.

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What the Kink Community Knows About Intimacy That Most Couples Don’t with Amanda Dames Aug 12, 2026

What if some of the people we think of as having the most unconventional sex lives are actually having some of the clearest conversations about intimacy?

Because kink is about a lot more than whips, handcuffs, or what happens in a dungeon. At its best, it requires people to talk openly about things many couples struggle to discuss at all: What do I want? What are my boundaries? What makes me feel safe? What am I curious about? What am I afraid to admit turns me on? And can I trust you with a part of myself I don’t show everyone else?

Those are intimacy questions. And you don’t have to have any interest in kink to learn from the answers.

On this episode of The Language of Love, I’m joined by Amanda Dames, known as The Kink Consultant. Amanda is a sexologist, Somatica-certified sex and relationship coach, podcast host, and former New York City dominatrix.

And her story is wild.

Amanda found her way into New York’s BDSM world almost by accident and eventually became a highly sought-after dominatrix working with powerful, successful men and women. People who spent their days being in charge would walk through her door desperate for something they rarely got anywhere else: permission to stop being in control.

Then Amanda’s own relationship to power took an unexpected turn. She met the man who would become her husband at a kink event, and the woman who had built a career being dominant discovered that, with him, she wanted to surrender.

But this conversation isn’t really about dungeons or labels. It’s about what Amanda learned inside that world that applies to the rest of us.

We talk about why so many of us hide our desires from the person we love most, how shame quietly follows us into the bedroom, and why feeling safe enough to say “this is what I want” can be an incredibly intimate act.

Amanda also shares practices from the kink community that I think many couples could benefit from, including negotiating desires and boundaries before sex, checking in during an experience, and having an “aftercare” conversation afterward about what felt good, what didn’t, and what you might want differently next time.

And we get into something even bigger: power.

Why can surrender feel so freeing for someone who carries enormous responsibility in the rest of their life? Why do some women crave the ability to soften and relinquish control while simultaneously fearing what that vulnerability requires? And what happens when you trust someone enough to show them a part of yourself you’ve been editing, hiding, or judging for years?

In this episode, we explore:

What “kink” actually means, and why it may be very different from what you imagine
What Amanda learned about human desire while working as a New York City dominatrix
Why powerful, high-achieving people can crave surrender behind closed doors
How Amanda went from being the one in control to discovering her own desire to submit
Why people hide fantasies and desires even in otherwise loving relationships
How to tell your partner what you want without making either of you feel pressured or ashamed
What the kink community gets right about consent, boundaries, communication, and trust
The before-and-after conversations that could transform sex for couples who have never set foot near the kink world
Why surrender and vulnerability require safety, rather than weakness
How to respond when your partner tells you something sexually that surprises you
What it takes to feel truly known by another person without editing yourself first

You may come to this episode because you’re curious about Amanda’s years as a dominatrix. But I think you’ll stay for a much more interesting question:

How much more intimate could your relationship become if you felt safe enough to tell the person you love who you really are and what you really want?

To learn more about Amanda and her work, visit her website. You can find her on Instagram where she shares daily insights on kink and relationships, and listen to her podcast, The Kink Consultant Podcast, for deeper explorations of desire, communication, and intimacy.

if you felt a spark from today's show, don't stop here. My website offers more content, tools, and upcoming events to keep the conversation alive.

And if a reflection comes up or you simply want to reach out, I'd love to hear from you. Find me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com.

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When Your Marriage Starts Feeling Like a Partnership Instead of a Love Story with Laura Berman Aug 05, 2026

One day you look up and realize you're running a great household together... but you don't really feel like a couple anymore.

You're getting the kids where they need to go. Managing work. Paying bills. Keeping life moving. You're a great team.

But somewhere along the way, your conversations became logistics. Date nights disappeared. Affection became routine. And even though you still love each other, the closeness that once came so easily feels harder to find.

The good news? It doesn't mean your marriage is broken. It means your relationship has been surviving instead of being nurtured.

In this Language of Love Session, I answer Jordan's question about what happens when couples slowly drift into feeling more like roommates than romantic partners. We explore why this happens to even healthy marriages, the biggest myth about staying connected during busy seasons of life, and the simple practices that help couples find their way back to each other before the distance grows too wide.

In this episode, you'll learn:

Why connection doesn't happen by accident in long-term relationships
The three kinds of time every couple needs and why most people only prioritize one
A daily habit that takes less than a minute but can completely change the emotional tone of your relationship
Why waiting until life "slows down" seldom works
How to stop talking only about schedules and responsibilities and start feeling like partners again

If your marriage has started to feel more practical than passionate, this episode will remind you that intimacy isn't something you find. It's something you create, one small moment at a time.

If this resonates with you, email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com or leave a voicemail at languageoflovepod.com to have your question answered in a future Language of Love Session. Make sure you check out Sex Magic to learn more about how to create more passion and intimate connection. And if you're ready to deepen your emotional and physical connection even further, check out my free Quantum Love course, available on my website.

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The Secret to Turning Her On (It's Not What You Think) with Laura Berman Aug 03, 2026

For generations, we've been told that women simply have lower desire than men. It's one of the most common assumptions about relationships, and it's one of the most misleading.

The truth is that women often experience desire differently. Understanding those differences can completely change the way you approach intimacy, attraction, and emotional connection.

In this episode, I unpack what actually helps women feel open to desire, why so many couples end up misunderstanding each other, and how small shifts in the way you relate can create profound changes inside and outside the bedroom. I also share one simple sentence you can use tonight that has the power to help your partner feel more emotionally connected and receptive.

Whether you're a man who wants a more passionate relationship, a woman who wishes her partner better understood what helps you feel desire, or you're simply curious about the science behind attraction, this conversation will change the way you think about intimacy.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why so many people misunderstand female desire

• How women's desire differs from men's and why that matters

• The role stress, hormones, emotions, and relationship dynamics play in attraction

• What creates the emotional safety that allows desire to flourish

• Why context has such a powerful influence on female arousal

• The subtle moments that build attraction long before anyone enters the bedroom

• The psychological and emotional experiences that many women find deeply arousing

• How to cultivate desire that feels lasting, connected, and authentic

• The needs many women long for but rarely know how to express

• One simple sentence that can help your partner feel more emotionally connected and open to intimacy

If you're ready to deepen the connection in your relationship, I invite you to explore my book Sex Magic and my Quantum Sex course. Together, they expand on the ideas we discussed today and offer practical ways to create more passion, intimacy, and emotional closeness. You'll find links to both in the show notes.you can always visit healwithlaura.com. And if this episode sparked a question, a reflection, or simply reminded you that you're not alone, I'd love to hear from you. Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com.

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The Love Blocks Keeping You Stuck in the Same painful Relationship Patterns with Sanaiyah Gurnamal Jul 29, 2026

Why do so many of us keep ending up in the same relationship with a different person?

You tell yourself this time will be different. You've grown. You've healed. And yet somehow you find yourself having the same arguments, chasing the same unavailable partner, or feeling the same familiar heartbreak.

The truth is, it's usually not about the relationship you're in. It's about the relationship patterns your nervous system learned long before you ever started dating.

In this episode of Language of Love Sessions, I sit down with relationship reinvention coach, two-time TEDx speaker, and host of the Project Loving Myself podcast, Sanaiyah Gurnamal. She says that shes helped more than 5,000 women uncover the unconscious patterns she calls "Love Blocks," and shares why we repeat the same relationship dynamics over and over and, more importantly, how to break free from them.

Together we explore why chemistry isn't always a sign of compatibility, how childhood experiences quietly shape the partners we're drawn to, why emotionally unavailable people can feel so irresistible, and what it actually takes to create healthier, more secure love.

If you've ever wondered why love keeps following the same script, this conversation may help you understand the story you've been living and show you how to begin writing a different one.

The five most common relationship patterns and how to recognize yours
Why familiarity is often mistaken for chemistry
How childhood experiences shape your adult relationships
Why emotionally unavailable partners can feel so compelling
How to identify your unmet needs and begin healing them
The difference between managing relationship problems and healing the patterns beneath them

If this conversation helped you recognize patterns you've been carrying into your relationships, you don't have to figure them out on your own. Understanding where those patterns come from is the first step toward creating healthier, more secure, and more connected relationships.

To explore your own relationship patterns, take Sanaiyah's free Love Blocks Quiz. You can also learn more through her book Project Loving Myself podcast, coaching resources, and additional tools at her website.

If you'd like to continue exploring the science of secure attachment, emotional intimacy, and lasting love, check out Quantum Love.

And if you have a relationship question you'd like me to answer in a future Language of Love Session, email languageoflovepod@gmail.com or leave a voice note here.

We explore:Ready to understand your relationship patterns?

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Is Your Partner's Phone Coming Between You with Laura Berman Jul 22, 2026

Technology has made it easier than ever to stay connected to everyone else. Ironically, it's also making it easier to disconnect from the person sitting right in front of us.

Most relationships don't unravel because of one dramatic betrayal. They change through thousands of tiny moments. A notification interrupts a conversation. One partner answers one more email before bed. Dinner is punctuated by scrolling instead of eye contact. Over time, those moments add up, sending an unintended but painful message: something else has my attention.

And attention is one of the clearest ways we communicate love.

When your bids for connection are repeatedly met with a glowing screen instead of your partner's eyes, it's easy to start wondering whether you're asking for too much. You stop telling stories because they never seem to hear the ending. You hesitate before reaching for their hand because they're already reaching for their phone. Eventually, you may begin to question your own needs instead of the pattern that's hurting your relationship.

In this episode, you'll learn:

I answer Layla's question about feeling like she's competing with her partner's phone for attention. Together, we explore why this dynamic feels so painful, what constant phone use is actually doing to our brains and relationships, and how couples can create healthy technology boundaries that foster closeness instead of conflict.

Because the goal isn't to get rid of our phones. It's to make sure they don't slowly replace the moments that build intimacy.

Why "phubbing" (phone snubbing) activates the same emotional pain as other forms of rejection.
How repeated interruptions quietly erode emotional safety and connection over time.
Why phones often become coping mechanisms for stress, boredom, anxiety, and difficult emotions.
A simple communication shift that helps your partner hear your experience without becoming defensive.
Practical boundaries that protect your relationship without becoming controlling.
Daily rituals that help couples reconnect and remind each other, "You matter more than my screen."

If you've ever felt invisible while the person you love was absorbed in their phone, this conversation is for you. Healthy relationships aren't built through occasional grand gestures. They're built in ordinary moments when we choose to be fully present with one another. Those moments may seem small, but over time they become the foundation of trust, intimacy, and lasting love.

If this conversation resonates with you, email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com or leave a voicemail at languageoflovepod.com to have your own question answered in a future session.

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The Real Reason Men Don’t Last Longer in Bed (And How to Fix It) with Laura Berman Jul 20, 2026

Are you worried about lasting longer in bed?

Or do you love someone who feels pressure to perform?

Most men think lasting longer is about willpower.

It's not.

The more pressure you put on yourself to stay in control, the more your body works against you. Anxiety takes over, your nervous system speeds up, and before you know it, you've crossed the point of no return.

What if lasting longer had nothing to do with fighting your body and everything to do with understanding it?

In this Language of Love Bite, I share simple shifts that help you work with your body's natural arousal, so you can feel more confident, more connected, and enjoy intimacy without the pressure to perform.

You'll discover how to stay in control naturally, without numbing yourself, distracting your mind, or relying on techniques that take you out of the moment.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

The hidden reason so many men lose control sooner than they'd like, and what to do instead
Why the harder you try to last longer, the more likely you are to work against your own body
The earliest signs your body gives before the point of no return, and how noticing them changes everything
The simple shift that can make sex feel better for both you and your partner while naturally helping you last longer
A 60-second technique that rewires your response in real time without killing the mood

If this hits home, you'll want to explore more.

Pick up a copy of Sex Magic to go deeper into how your sexual energy shapes everything—not just in bed, but in your life. And for the complete system, check out the Quantum Sex course

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What If Everything You Believe About Lasting Love Is Wrong? I Dr Sara Nasserzadeh Jul 16, 2026

We've been taught to believe that love is something you fall into. That when you meet the right person, you'll just know. The chemistry will be undeniable. The connection effortless.

But what if almost everything we've been taught about love is wrong?

In this episode of The Language of Love, I sit down with social psychologist, relationship expert, and author of Love by Design, Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh. For more than two decades, Sara has studied thriving couples across 40 countries to understand what actually creates lasting, fulfilling love. Her research challenges many of the myths we've grown up believing and offers a refreshing, evidence-based perspective on what makes relationships flourish.

One of the biggest takeaways? Lasting love isn't something you stumble into. It's something you intentionally create.

We explore why the butterflies we chase can sometimes be our nervous system responding to familiar patterns rather than genuine compatibility, why peaceful relationships can initially feel unfamiliar, and what it really takes to build a relationship that grows stronger over time.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Why love is built, not found

• The biggest myth about love that keeps people stuck in unhealthy relationship patterns

• Why intense chemistry isn't always a sign you've found the right person

• How your nervous system shapes who you're attracted to

• The difference between anxiety, excitement, and genuine compatibility

• Why healthy love can sometimes feel "boring" at first and why that's often a good sign

• The six essential ingredients Sara has found in thriving, long-term relationships

• How to cultivate attraction and intimacy long after the honeymoon phase ends

• A simple practice that helps couples feel more connected without saying a word

• Why your relationship patterns show up not only with romantic partners, but also with family, friends, and colleagues

• The powerful question that can reveal whether you're settling for the love you think you deserve

Whether you're dating, married, healing from heartbreak, or simply wanting stronger relationships in every area of your life, this conversation offers practical wisdom grounded in decades of research and real-world experience.

To learn more about Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh, visit her website and pick up a copy of Love by Design. If this conversation resonated with you, please share it with someone who could use the reminder that healthy love isn't about finding the perfect person. It's about creating the kind of relationship where both people can truly thrive.

To learn more about Dr. Sara's work, grab her book Love by Design or connect with her at her website. And if this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs to hear that love doesn't have to be a mystery. It can be a choice.

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Why Being "Low-Maintenance" May Be Ruining Your Relationship with Laura Berman Jul 16, 2026

Are you the "chill one"? The one who says yes to keep the peace? The one who goes along to get along... until you can't anymore?

You pride yourself on being easygoing. Low-maintenance. The one who never makes a fuss.

Until the resentment builds. Until your body is screaming inside. Until you finally explode over something small, and suddenly you're the bad guy.

Sound familiar?

You're not broken. You're not "too much." And you're definitely not alone.

In this session, I answer Kayla's question about what happens when being the "pleasant one" backfires. She's stuck in the classic people-pleaser cycle: say yes to keep the peace, feel used, then blow up in passive-aggressive frustration. Sound like anyone you know?

We unpack why so many of us- especially those who grew up in homes where love was conditional on being agreeable- learn to disconnect from ourselves just to stay connected to others. And why that strategy always backfires.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

The win-win mindset that saved my marriage (and can save yours too)- showing you how to stop resenting your partner and start actually getting your needs met

The massive difference between being easygoing and being highly accommodating (and why one is a superpower and the other is a ticking time bomb)
Why your body knows the truth before you do- and how to catch the early signals before you're emotionally flooded
The "Full Body Yes" practice that completely changed my own life (and why saying no can actually feel like expansion, not contraction)
How to set boundaries calmly and early- without the over-explaining, over-apologizing, or guilt that usually follows
Why people who benefit from your lack of boundaries will push back... and why that means you're finally doing something right

If you've ever felt like you're abandoning yourself just to keep everyone else comfortable- if you're tired of the resentment, the explosions, and the silent internal screaming- this episode will give you the language, the tools, and the permission to start setting boundaries without feeling like a monster.

If this hits home, you can email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com or leave a voicemail at languageoflovepod.com to have your own question answered in a future session. And if you want to go even deeper, check out Codependent No More by Melody Beattie

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How to Tell Your Partner What You Want in Bed (Without Killing the Mood) with Laura Berman Jul 06, 2026

Most people would rather fake it than ask for what they actually want in bed.

Not because they don't trust their partner, but because they don't trust their own words. They're terrified that speaking up will feel awkward or pressured, kill the mood, bruise an ego, or turn a hot moment into an awkward therapy session.

So they stay quiet. And stay unsatisfied.

But here's the hidden insight your partner is practically begging you to understand. They want to please you. They just don't know how, and you're not giving them a usable map.

In this Language of Love Bite, you'll discover why the timing of your request matters as much as the request itself, and why doing this in the middle of sex is a guaranteed fail. You'll learn a counterintuitive script that turns a potentially awkward conversation into a turn-on, because it reframes desire as collaboration, not criticism.

And if you stay to the very end, you'll get one single sentence you can use tonight. It's so warm and so inviting that it practically guarantees a "yes" without either of you feeling pressure.

This isn't about becoming a better communicator. It's about becoming a better lover, and giving your partner the gift of knowing exactly how to show up for you.

Whether you're the one struggling to speak up, or you're the one wishing your partner would just tell you what they want, this episode changes the dynamic for both of you.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

When is the ideal time to bring up sexual needs or adjustments with your partner
The three-step script that makes awkward conversations feel like foreplay
Why one sentence of appreciation unlocks more than any request ever could
The one sentence you can use tonight that practically guarantees a "yes"

Great lovers aren't born. They're built through curiosity, honesty, and a few words that land the right way.

If you're ready to stop hoping they'll "just figure it out" and start experiencing the connection you've been missing, this is your starting point.

Ready for more tools on erotic confidence and communication? Visit healwithlaura.com.

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When the Life You Built No Longer Fits with Stacey Lindsay Jul 01, 2026

One day you wake up and realize you've spent years building a life that everyone else applauds... and you're the only one wondering whether it still feels like yours.

It can happen after 40, but it isn't really about age. It's about reaching a point where you've checked all the boxes, met everyone else's expectations, and suddenly find yourself asking a different question: What do I actually want?

That moment can feel disorienting. It can also become the beginning of a much more authentic life.

In this episode, I sit down with journalist and author Stacey Lindsay to talk about her beautiful new book, Being 40: The Decade of Letting Go and Embracing Who We Are. Together, we explore why midlife often becomes a turning point, when women begin reevaluating relationships, careers, motherhood, beauty, ambition, and the roles they've spent years playing.

What I loved most about this conversation is that Stacey doesn't hand us another list of goals to chase. She offers something much more valuable: permission to question the stories we've inherited and the expectations we've been carrying for decades. We talk about why so many women feel restless in midlife, how perimenopause can become an unexpected catalyst for clarity, and why learning to trust yourself changes every relationship you have, including the one with yourself.

Whether you're approaching 40, well beyond it, or simply feeling called to live with greater honesty, I think you'll recognize pieces of yourself throughout this conversation.

In this episode, we discuss:

Why so many women begin reevaluating their lives during midlife
The hidden expectations that shape our identities without us realizing it
How perimenopause influences far more than our hormones
Why relationships, careers, and friendships often shift during this season
The difference between living from obligation and living from alignment
How our relationship with beauty changes as we grow into ourselves
Why are so many women redefining partnership, marriage, and success
The practice of self-mothering and learning to extend compassion inward
How to trust yourself when your life begins asking different questions

If you've been feeling restless, uncertain, or like you're outgrowing a version of yourself that once fit perfectly, I hope this conversation reminds you that you're not lost. You may simply be discovering who you were all along.

If today's episode resonated with you, I'd love to invite you to continue the conversation. Visit my website to explore more of my work, discover resources to support your own journey, and learn about upcoming programs and offerings.

And if this episode sparked a question, a reflection, or simply reminded you that you're not alone, I'd love to hear from you. Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com.

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Uneven Desire and What to Do About It Jun 24, 2026

The most common issue I see in relationships is uneven desire: One of you wants more sex, the other wants less.

And suddenly what used to feel simple starts to feel like a negotiation neither of you asked for.

Because now every “not tonight” carries meaning. And every initiation carries pressure.

But what if the real issue is not incompatibility…What if it is the way meaning gets assigned to desire differences that turns connection into tension?

In this Language of Love Session, I respond to Marcus, who is trying to navigate uneven desire in a loving relationship without creating pressure, rejection, or resentment on either side.

This episode is not about fixing libido.

It is about understanding what actually shapes desire in long term relationships and how couples unknowingly turn intimacy into a performance instead of a shared experience.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why desire differences are one of the most common and misunderstood challenges in long term relationships
How emotional connection, nervous system state, and stress quietly shape libido more than most people realize
The hidden dynamic that turns sex into pressure instead of invitation
Why “spontaneous desire” often disappears in real life relationships and what replaces it
A simple shift that helps couples rebuild safety, attraction, and emotional ease without forcing alignment
How to talk about intimacy in a way that creates understanding instead of defensiveness

This is not about one person needing to change their desire.

It is about learning how to create conditions where intimacy feels emotionally safe, physically possible, and mutually nourishing again.

Because desire does not thrive under pressure.

It thrives under connection, safety, and space to breathe.

If you want to go deeper into building secure intimacy and understanding relational patterns, check out Quantum Love, and to get your question answered in a future session, email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com or leave a voice note here.

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When Intensity Isn't Intimacy: How to Spot Emotional Manipulation Early Jun 22, 2026

Is it love or early manipulation?

At the beginning of a relationship, everything can feel intoxicating.

The attention. The intensity. The sense of being chosen.

But what feels like a deep connection can sometimes be something far more disorienting underneath it.

Because not all emotional intensity is intimacy.

And not all charm is safety.

What if the difference between emotional immaturity and narcissistic behavior is not as complicated as we have been told, but actually shows up in the smallest, earliest moments?

In this Language of Love Bite, I break down how to recognize the subtle patterns that reveal emotional safety or the lack of it long before things become confusing or painful.

You’ll learn:

The hidden difference between a healthy connection and an accelerated attachment that bypasses real intimacy
Why early “perfect understanding” can actually be a form of emotional data collection
How small boundary moments reveal more than big relationship milestones ever will
The quiet signs of emotional manipulation that often get mistaken for humor, passion, or chemistry
A simple real-life test that shows you how someone handles your emotional truth in real time

This is not about becoming hypervigilant in love.

It is about learning to trust the micro moments that most people overlook and realizing they often tell the full story early on.

Because the quality of your relationships is never determined at the peak of intensity.

It is determined in the smallest moments of response, respect, and emotional presence.

If you want to go deeper into understanding attachment patterns, emotional safety, and healing relational wounds, visit healwithlaura.com

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When the Life You Built Starts Speaking Back Jun 17, 2026

There comes a point in life when the roles you've spent years perfecting no longer fit the way they once did.

You’ve changed in a way that what once felt meaningful may suddenly feel draining. Relationships you've maintained for years can begin to feel one-sided. The goals that once motivated you may no longer inspire you. And underneath it all, there's often a quiet but persistent feeling that something inside is asking for your attention.

In this episode of The Language of Love, I sit down with Michelle Oravitz, practitioner of Chinese medicine and women's health expert, to explore what happens when midlife invites us into a new relationship with ourselves.

Together, we discuss the internal shifts that often emerge during this season of life, shifts that can show up as restlessness, irritability, emotional intensity, or a growing inability to keep performing versions of ourselves we've outgrown.

We talk about why so many women reach a point where external validation no longer carries the same power it once did, and how learning to listen to the wisdom of the body can reveal a deeper sense of clarity, authenticity, and purpose.

This conversation isn't about reinventing yourself.

It's about remembering who you've been beneath the expectations, obligations, and identities you've carried for years.

In this episode, you'll discover:

Why emotional intensity in midlife is often a signal, not a symptom
What your restlessness may be trying to tell you
How external validation can quietly shape your choices—and what happens when it stops working
The connection between body awareness, intuition, and decision-making
Why certain relationships suddenly feel exhausting or misaligned
How authenticity begins to replace performance as you grow older
The surprising overlap between desire, irritation, and inner knowing
What changes when you stop reacting to your life and start listening to it
Simple practices that help you reconnect with yourself and hear your own truth more clearly

If you've been feeling like something is shifting inside you even if everything looks the same on the outside this conversation offers language for a transition many women experience but few know how to describe.

Because some of life's most important transformations don't arrive with a dramatic announcement.

They begin as a whisper. And over time, become impossible to ignore..

For those drawn to embodied approaches to women’s health and midlife transition, Michelle Oravitz’s work in Chinese medicine offers a grounded way to reconnect with the body’s intelligence and navigate this next phase with more clarity and ease.

And if this episode is opening up questions about how you relate to yourself and others, explore Quantum Love as a next step toward understanding your emotional patterns and building deeper self-awareness in relationships.

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How to Get Out of Your Head During Sex Jun 10, 2026

Do you ever feel like you're observing yourself during sex instead of actually experiencing it?

Maybe you're wondering how you look. Whether you're pleasing your partner. Whether you're attractive enough. Whether you're doing everything "right."

Meanwhile, the very connection and pleasure you're longing for slips further out of reach.

If you've ever felt disconnected from your body during intimacy, you're not alone. So many people, especially women, have been conditioned to evaluate themselves from the outside rather than experience themselves from within. We become focused on how we're being perceived instead of what we're actually feeling.

In this session, I respond to Hannah, who finds herself caught in that cycle. Instead of being present with her partner, she's consumed by self-doubt, self-monitoring, and the fear that she somehow isn't enough.

What if the problem isn't that you're bad at sex?

What if you've simply learned to approach intimacy as something to perform rather than something to experience?

In this episode, we explore how to shift out of performance mode and back into your body so that sex can become a source of connection, pleasure, and presence.

In this episode you'll learn:

Why so many people slip into "performance mode" during sex
A simple way to move from thinking to feeling when you notice yourself spiraling
How to use physical sensations to bring yourself back into the present moment
Why slowing down often creates more pleasure, not less
How your breathing affects arousal, connection, and emotional safety
The surprising power of eye contact during intimacy
What to do when self-critical thoughts show up in the bedroom
How old wounds around rejection, shame, and not feeling good enough can impact your sex life
When deeper healing work may be helpful
A new way to think about sex: not as a performance to perfect, but as a practice of presence

If you've ever felt pressure to be desirable, impressive, or "good" in bed, this conversation will help you come home to yourself and rediscover what intimacy is really meant to feel like.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re watching yourself instead of actually feeling anything or if sex leaves you more anxious than connected, this episode will give you language, tools, and gentle practices to bring you back to your body and into real pleasure and connection.

If you'd like to learn more about building better love, check out Quantum Love, and to get your question answered in a future session, email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com or leave a voice note here.

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The Missing Step in Healing Your Attachment Style Jun 08, 2026

Have you ever found yourself reacting in a relationship and thinking, Why am I doing this again?

Maybe you've read the books. Taken the attachment style quizzes. You know you're anxious, avoidant, or somewhere in between. You understand where the pattern came from. And yet when you're triggered, all that insight seems to disappear.

You still send the text.

You still pull away.

You still shut down, chase, overthink, or panic.

Because awareness is important, but awareness alone doesn't create change.

Real healing happens when your nervous system begins to trust that you are no longer living in the conditions that created those patterns in the first place.

In this Bite, I walk you through what it actually takes to move toward secure attachment. Not by forcing yourself to behave differently, but by learning how to respond to your triggers with awareness, compassion, and new experiences that teach your brain and body a different way to love.

Whether you're trying to break lifelong relationship patterns, understand a partner whose reactions leave you confused, or simply learn how to feel safer and more secure in love, this episode offers a practical roadmap for change.

In this episode you'll learn:

Why understanding your attachment style is only the first step toward healing
How to recognize when your attachment system has been activated before it takes over
The difference between what your wounded self wants and what you actually need
How to pause long enough for your grounded adult self to step in
Simple ways to soothe your nervous system instead of relying on someone else to regulate your emotions
The hidden childhood beliefs that continue to shape your relationships today
Small "opposite actions" that help retrain your brain and build security over time
When attachment wounds may actually be rooted in deeper trauma
Three powerful questions to ask yourself in moments of activation that can change the course of a relationship

Secure attachment isn't something you're born with or without. It's something you can build.

One moment, one choice, and one new experience at a time.

If this episode had you thinking, “Wait, this is exactly what I do,” you are not alone. That is why I created Quantum Love to help you move from simply understanding your attachment style to actually changing the patterns that keep standing in the way of the love you want.

And I would love to hear from you. Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com or leave a voice note here.

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Rewilding: The Courage to Become Yourself Again Jun 03, 2026

For years, Jane Green looked like she had it all.

She was a bestselling author, a wife, a mother, and a woman who had built the kind of life many people spend decades chasing.

But beneath the success was a question she could no longer ignore:

Whose life was she actually living?

In this deeply honest conversation, Jane joins me to talk about the unraveling that led to her memoir Rewilding and the surprising freedom that can emerge when you stop trying to be who everyone else expects you to be.

We explore why so many women wake up in midlife feeling disconnected from themselves despite checking every box, how childhood wounds quietly shape our adult relationships, and why the loneliness many people experience isn't always about being alone. Sometimes it's about losing touch with who you really are.

This conversation is for anyone who has ever looked around at a life that appears successful on paper and wondered why something still feels missing.

In this episode, you'll discover:

Why high-achievers are often the most disconnected from their authentic selves
The hidden cost of people-pleasing and performing for approval
What loneliness is really trying to tell you
How childhood experiences continue to influence your relationships decades later
Why insight alone doesn't create lasting change
The surprising connection between your body, your emotions, and your sense of purpose
How midlife can become a powerful invitation to reinvent yourself rather than a crisis to survive
What it means to stop being who you've been taught to be and start becoming who you truly are

Whether you're navigating a major life transition, questioning old identities, or simply feeling a quiet pull toward something more authentic, this episode offers both insight and hope.

Because sometimes the life-changing question isn't "What should I do next?"

It's "Who have I become while trying to be everything for everyone else?"

If this conversation speaks to you, be sure to check out Jane's memoir, Rewilding, a powerful exploration of what happens when we stop performing and finally come home to ourselves.

For those drawn to lived transformation, her Rewilding Retreats in Morocco offer an immersive space to step away from noise and reconnect with what feels true when life is stripped back to essentials.

And if this episode is opening up questions about love, attachment, and relational patterns, explore Quantum Love as a next step toward building relationships from a more self-aware and connected place.

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Is it cheating... or not? May 27, 2026

Late-night texting. Deep emotional conversations. A level of intimacy your partner shares with someone else that they no longer share with you.

Nothing physical has happened.

But something inside you still says: this does not feel okay.

And that is where so many couples get stuck.

Because one person says, “Nothing happened.”

While the other feels like something already did.

So who is right?

And what happens when two people are operating from completely different definitions of loyalty, betrayal, and emotional boundaries?

Because trust rarely breaks all at once.

Usually, the definitions break first.

In this Language of Love Session, I respond to Chris, who is struggling to understand whether his partner’s emotional connection with someone else counts as cheating, and what to do when one partner sees harmless friendship while the other feels deeply destabilized.

This conversation is not about policing behavior or labeling every outside connection as betrayal.

It is about understanding what happens when emotional energy, secrecy, and intimacy begin shifting outside the relationship without clarity, agreement, or conversation.

Because emotional affairs rarely start with an intention to cheat.

They start with unspoken needs, blurred boundaries, and rationalizations that slowly erode trust over time.

What we explore in this episode:

Why emotional betrayal often hurts more deeply than physical betrayal for many people
How secrecy, emotional dependency, and private intimacy become warning signs long before anything physical happens
Why couples repeatedly fight about the same issue when they have never clearly defined what loyalty actually means to them
What it reveals when one partner feels hurt but cannot fully explain why, while the other insists they did nothing wrong
Why assumed boundaries quietly damage relationships more than openly discussed boundaries ever do
How to create clear agreements around emotional intimacy, friendships, texting, social media, and outside connections before resentment builds
The difference between controlling a partner and protecting the integrity of your relationship

If you have ever questioned whether something counted as cheating, felt uncomfortable with a partner’s outside connection, or struggled to explain why “nothing physical” still hurt so much, this episode will give language to an experience many people silently wrestle with.

Because trust is not only about what happened.

It is also about what was protected, prioritized, and emotionally shared.

If you want to go deeper into building clarity, connection, and secure love, explore Quantum Love. To submit a question for a future session, email languageoflovepod@gmail.com or leave a voice note here.

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Why Your Desire Disappeared (And How to Get It Back) May 25, 2026

What if low libido is not a problem to fix, but a message your body is trying to send you?

Most people assume desire disappearing means something is wrong.

Wrong relationship. Wrong attraction. Wrong body.

But what if that assumption is exactly what keeps people stuck?

Because desire does not disappear randomly. It responds. It shifts with stress, pressure, emotional load, exhaustion, and disconnection. When the system feels overwhelmed, shutting down can be a form of protection, not failure.

In this Language of Love Bite, we explore what it means when your body stops saying yes, and why the usual explanations about attraction often miss what is actually happening underneath.

This is not about fixing libido. It is about understanding what it is responding to in the first place.

And when that changes, the way you relate to desire starts to change too.

Why low libido may not signal loss of attraction, but a nervous system response to overload that most people overlook
Why desire often fades in moments where emotional, mental, or physical pressure quietly accumulates
What becomes possible when you stop interpreting shutdown as dysfunction and start reading it as information
Why attempts to “fix” libido can intensify disconnection instead of restoring desire
How your relationship to stress, safety, and emotional space directly shapes access to desire
The subtle shift that helps libido return without force, pressure, or performance

This is not about performance or pressure.

It is about learning how your system communicates through desire, and what changes when you stop overriding it.

Because libido is not just about attraction.

It is about whether your system feels safe enough to open.

If you want to deepen your connection to intimacy, desire, and pleasure, explore Sex Magic and my Quantum Love resources at Heal With Laura

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The Chemistry You’re Chasing Might Be the Problem May 20, 2026

What if the electric spark you feel on a first date is not destiny, but your nervous system recognizing something familiar, and not necessarily healthy?

That rush. That pull. That feeling that says, this is it.

Most of us have been taught to follow the butterflies, chase the spark, and assume intensity means compatibility.

But what if that chemistry has been pointing you toward the wrong people all along?

In this episode, I sit down with Amy Chan, founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp and author of Unsingle: How to Date Smarter and Create Love That Lasts, to explore what really changes when you stop treating chemistry as the ultimate signal and start asking what it is actually built on.

This conversation is not about abandoning attraction. It is about learning to see it clearly, so you stop confusing activation with alignment.

Because real change in love does not begin with choosing differently.

It begins with recognizing differently.

We explore what becomes possible when emotional safety is no longer dismissed as boring, and consistency is no longer overlooked simply because it does not feel like a spark.

What you will discover in this episode:

Why the early “spark” may be your nervous system recognizing a familiar pattern, not true compatibility
How inconsistency can become addictive, and why stability may feel strange when chaos has been your normal
Why calm connection can feel underwhelming at first, and how to tell the difference between boredom and emotional safety
How old relationship patterns keep repeating, even when you are aware of them
Why choosing based on chemistry alone can quietly lead you back into the same painful dynamics
How to begin recalibrating attraction so healthy love can finally feel exciting too

If you have ever found yourself repeating the same relationship pattern, feeling pulled toward unavailable people, or wondering why stability feels unfamiliar while intensity feels magnetic, this episode will help you understand what has really been driving your choices.

Because lasting love is not just about finding a different person.

It is about becoming someone who can recognize love differently.

Ready to date smarter? Amy's book Unsingle will help you break the cycle for good. Grab her free first-date and partner evaluation worksheets at missamychan.com/unsingle and follow her on Instagram @missamychan, and for deeper work on building secure, lasting love, explore Quantum Love

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She’s Not Pulling Away, She’s in Perimenooause May 13, 2026

What if the distance growing in your relationship is not about love fading… but about a transition neither of you fully understands yet?

Perimenopause is the often-overlooked phase leading up to menopause, when hormones like estrogen and progesterone begin to fluctuate, sometimes unpredictably. It can start in a woman’s late 30s or 40s and last for several years. And while it is commonly associated with physical symptoms, what many people do not realize is how deeply it can affect emotional regulation, mental clarity, energy, and intimacy.

For many women, perimenopause does not just change their bodies. It changes how they feel in their bodies, how they relate to themselves, and how they show up in their relationships.

Mood swings. Anxiety. Disrupted sleep. A drop in desire. A shorter fuse. A sense of disconnection from the person you used to be.

And for partners trying to make sense of these shifts, the confusion can quickly turn into hurt, tension, and emotional distance.

In this episode, I respond to Tessa, who feels caught between the emotional intensity of perimenopause and the fear of losing closeness with the person she loves most.

But this conversation goes far beyond symptoms.

It is about understanding what is actually happening beneath the surface and learning how to move through this season as a team instead of turning against yourself or each other.

We talk about the hidden relationship dynamics of perimenopause, why so many women feel unseen or dismissed in the medical system, and how couples can begin to reconnect with more compassion, clarity, and support.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

What perimenopause actually is and why so many women are caught off guard by it
Why hormonal fluctuations can impact mood, anxiety, sleep, and libido so dramatically
How these internal shifts can create misunderstanding and distance in relationships
How to talk about what you are experiencing without shame, blame, or defensiveness
Why many women leave doctor appointments feeling dismissed and what to do instead
Small but powerful shifts that can help you feel more supported, connected, and like yourself again

If you have ever felt disconnected from your body, misunderstood in your relationship, or afraid this season is changing who you are, this episode will help you make sense of what is happening and show you a more compassionate way forward.

If you'd like to learn more about building better love, check out Quantum Love, and to get your question answered in a future session, email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com or leave a voice note here.

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What Most Women Wish Men Understood About Desire May 11, 2026

What if the real secret to female arousal has nothing to do with technique… and everything to do with emotional attunement?

Most people approach intimacy from the outside in focusing on touch, performance, chemistry, and intensity without realizing the mind and nervous system often have not even arrived in the moment yet.

And that changes everything.

In this bite, I break down one of the most misunderstood dynamics in intimacy: why many women do not experience desire through pressure, performance, or escalation but through emotional safety, anticipation, presence, and feeling deeply seen.

This conversation challenges the rushed, goal-oriented approach so many people unknowingly bring into connection and reveals what actually creates attraction, tension, trust, and lasting chemistry beneath the surface.

Whether you want to deepen your relationship, better understand your partner, or reconnect with your own capacity for desire, this episode offers a perspective most people were never taught but instantly recognize once they hear it.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

The subtle shift that instantly changes someone from feeling pressured to feeling desired
Why slowing down often creates more attraction, chemistry, and emotional connection
The hidden role anticipation plays in building intimacy and sexual tension
What most people completely misunderstand about female pleasure and arousal
A simple touch technique that can transform the emotional energy between two people
Why emotional presence can sometimes create more intensity than physical touch alone

This is not about becoming “better” in bed.

It is about creating the kind of emotional and physical connection people deeply crave but rarely know how to build.

If you are ready to move beyond performance and start creating real emotional and physical connection, Sex Magic and the Quantum Sex Course offer powerful tools to completely transform the way you experience intimacy and desire.

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You Built the Life… But You Can’t Outrun Your Past May 06, 2026

You can do everything “right.”

Build the career. Earn the recognition. Create a life that looks successful from the outside.

And still feel like something inside never quite caught up.

Like one version of you built the life…and another version is still waiting to be seen.

In this episode, I sit down with Daria Burke, USA Today bestselling author of Of My Own Making and a business leader featured in Forbes, Vogue, and Women’s Wear Daily.

On paper, she built an extraordinary life.But beneath it, she was carrying a childhood shaped by poverty, addiction, and loss…until a single moment cracked open everything she had spent decades holding together.

We explore:

Why success often amplifies unresolved emotional patterns instead of fixing them
The hidden reason high performers feel disconnected even at the peak of achievement
Why insight alone does not create real change and what actually does
How trauma lives in the body long after the mind believes it has moved on
The cost of becoming “the one who made it out” and why it rarely feels like freedom
What it really takes to shift your relationship with your past without being overwhelmed by it
How healing begins in small, grounded steps when everything feels shut down

If you have ever thought, “I should be over this by now”…but something in you still feels stuck…

this conversation will meet you there.

Because healing is not about rewriting your past.

It is about changing how it lives inside you now.

And that changes everything.

If this conversation resonates, Daria’s book Of My Own Making goes deeper into her story and the path she took to rebuild her relationship with her past.

And if you want to apply these ideas in relationships, explore Quantum Love for practical tools to support that work.

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You’re Allowed to Love Again After Loss Apr 29, 2026

What happens when your heart begins to open again after loss… but guilt rushes in before desire even has a chance?

For so many people, the idea of loving again after losing a spouse or partner doesn’t feel freeing. It feels disloyal. Confusing. Even wrong.

In this session, I respond to a listener who is navigating that tender space between grief and possibility. She isn’t questioning her love for what she had. She’s questioning whether moving forward means leaving it behind.

And what unfolds is a deeper conversation about something many people carry quietly after loss:How do you stay connected to someone you’ve lost… while still allowing yourself to keep living?

Because healing doesn’t ask you to choose between honoring the past and opening to the future. But it can feel that way.

In this episode, we explore:

Why feeling ready for connection doesn’t mean you’re “done grieving”
The subtle emotional shift that allows you to love again without replacing what came before
Why guilt often shows up right at the moment your heart begins to reopen
How fear of judgment, from others or yourself, can quietly block the connection you actually need
What it really means to “choose life” after loss in a way that feels grounded and true
How to tell if you’re moving toward love from wholeness or from fear of being alone
Why learning to be with yourself is often what makes healthy love possible again

If you’ve ever found yourself wondering, Is it too soon? or Does this mean I’m letting go?… this conversation will meet you right there.

Because loving again after loss isn’t about replacing what you had.

It’s about expanding your capacity to carry love forward… without abandoning yourself in the process.

For deeper support through loss, healing, and rebuilding life after grief, make sure to get Dr Berman’s new book, Crying Out Loud: A Path Through Grief into a Life Reimagined, her web course Good Grief: Healing From Loss With Love and he grief podcast, Crying Out Loud (wherever you like to listen)

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Why Desire Fades in Relationships (And How to Bring it Back) Apr 27, 2026

If your sex life has slowed down… or feels like it disappeared altogether… it doesn’t mean the love is gone.

What it usually means is something far more common. Your body, your mind, and your relationship rhythms are out of sync.

And the good news? That can change.

In this episode, I break down why desire fades in long-term relationships, and what actually helps bring it back without pressure, shame, or forcing anything.

You’ll discover:

Why low desire is rarely about attraction and what’s actually driving the disconnect beneath the surface
The hidden nervous system shift that can shut down sexual desire even in loving relationships
Why emotional overwhelm and mental load quietly lower libido and the small shifts that begin to change it
What helps your body feel safe enough to want connection again instead of shutting down or pulling away
How couples can re-sync instead of drift apart
A simple 1-minute intimacy practice that reduces stress and helps reopen emotional and physical connection
How to rebuild closeness without pressure, performance, or needing everything to be fixed first

If you’re in a relationship where one of you wants more intimacy and the other feels shut down… this will help you understand what’s really happening underneath the surface and what actually helps bring you back together.

Because desire doesn’t disappear. It gets buried under stress, disconnection, and lack of support.

And it can come back.

For deeper work on intimacy, desire, and erotic connection, explore Sex Magic and Quantum Love.

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Coming Home to Yourself After Trauma (Without Losing Who You Are) Apr 22, 2026

What if healing isn’t about becoming someone new, but remembering who you were before you learned to silence parts of yourself just to feel safe, loved, or accepted?

So many of us move through life disconnected from our bodies, our truth, and even our sense of self. We stay busy. We show up. We hold it together. And yet underneath it all, something feels off.

In this episode, I sit down with Thema Bryant, a clinical psychologist, professor, and former president of the American Psychological Association, to explore what it really means to come home to yourself after trauma, grief, or years of putting yourself last.

Because even when something is over, it doesn’t always feel over. It lives in your reactions. In the ways you protect yourself before you even realize it. In what you avoid, what you shut down, and what you struggle to receive. Over time, these patterns quietly shape how you see yourself, how you love, and what you believe you’re allowed to need.

So what would change if you stopped running and started listening?

In this episode, we explore:

Why your body can still respond as if you’re in danger long after the moment has passed, and the simple shift that helps your nervous system begin to feel safe again
The subtle, everyday ways you disconnect from yourself, even when everything looks fine on the outside
A grounding practice to help you return to your body when you feel overwhelmed, numb, or shut down
How being “strong,” productive, or constantly busy can quietly keep you stuck in survival mode
What it actually looks like to tell yourself the truth in a way that creates relief instead of more overwhelm
What “coming home to yourself” means in real life, and how it transforms your relationships
How to stay open to love without abandoning yourself
Why some endings that feel like failure may actually be the beginning of reclaiming who you are

If you’ve been feeling disconnected, overwhelmed, or like you’ve lost parts of yourself along the way, this conversation will help you understand what’s happening beneath the surface and offer a gentler, more grounded path back.

Because healing isn’t about becoming someone else.

It’s about remembering who you are and giving yourself permission to come home.

Make sure to check out Dr Bryant’s books, Homecoming and Matters of the Heart for a deeper path back to yourself.

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When One of You Shuts Down and the Other Feels Rejected Apr 15, 2026

You’re trying to talk something through…and suddenly, one of you is gone.

One of you can’t find the words.Shuts down. Goes quiet.

And the other feels it instantly.

Rejected.Confused.Maybe even hurt… or angry.

And just like that, you’re no longer on the same team.You’re in a pattern.

Because when one person shuts down and the other reaches for connection, it can quickly turn into a cycle of withdrawal and pursuit that leaves both of you feeling misunderstood.

But what if that shutdown isn’t indifference…and the hurt you feel isn’t overreaction?

What if something deeper is happening beneath the surface for both of you?

In this deeply personal session, I respond to Bria, who finds herself shutting down during conflict and struggling to explain it to her partner without creating more distance.

This episode will help you understand what’s really happening in those moments and give you a new way to stay connected without overwhelming your system or your relationship.

What’s actually happening when one of you “goes blank” and the other feels pushed away
The hidden pattern that turns simple conflict into disconnection for both of you
How to explain shutdown in a way that builds understanding instead of distance
What each of you can do in the moment to interrupt the cycle before it escalates
A simple way to calm your nervous system and come back into connection
How to stay present in hard conversations without shutting down or pushing each other away

If you’ve ever felt yourself disappear in the middle of a conversation…or sit across from someone you love and feel like you’re losing them in real time…

This episode will help you understand the pattern you’re in and give you a way to move through it together, with more awareness, more compassion, and real connection.

In this episode, you’ll learn:If you’d like to learn more about building better love, check out Quantum Love, and to get your question answered in a future session, email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com or leave a voice note here.

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Your Sexual Energy Isn’t Just for Sex Apr 13, 2026

Your sexual energy isn’t just about sex.It’s the most powerful creative force you have.

It fuels your focus.Your confidence.Your ability to take action and move through the world with presence.

But most people unconsciously leak it… or only access it in the narrow context of sex.

What if you could harness that same energy and use it to feel more alive, more clear, and more in control of your life?

In this bite, I show you how to redirect your arousal into usable power, without needing a partner or release.

You’ll learn a simple daily practice that helps you feel more grounded, more focused, and more connected to yourself… so you stop moving through your day on autopilot and start showing up with intention.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

How to stop unconsciously draining your energy and begin circulating it through your body
A simple shift that turns sexual energy into creativity, clarity, and forward momentum
Why holding this energy changes how you feel in your body and how others respond to you
A 3–5 minute activation practice you can use anytime to reset your state

This is about more than desire.It’s about learning how to work with your energy so it supports the life you want to create.

If you’re ready to feel more turned on by your life, not just moments within it, this is a powerful place to start.

If you want to learn more about harnessing your sexual energy, make sure to read Sex Magic, and check out my Quantum Sex course to take your connection and pleasure to the next level.

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What To Do When You Know Something Needs to Change (But Don’t Exactly Know What or How) Apr 08, 2026

What if the life you’re living… isn’t actually the life you want?

Not because anything is “wrong.”But because something inside you is ready for more… and you haven’t quite trusted it yet.

In this episode, I sit down with Shannon Watts, founder of one of the largest grassroots movements in the U.S. and author of Fired Up, to talk about what it really takes to stop living on autopilot and start building a life that actually feels like yours.

Because the wake-up call rarely arrives as clarity.

It shows up as burnout.As restlessness.As that quiet voice that won’t go away.

And the real question becomes… what do you do with it?

In this conversation, we explore:

How to recognize when you’ve outgrown your life… and what to do next
The small, powerful shifts that move you from stuck to in motion (even without clarity)
Why motivation disappears right when things start to matter, and how to rebuild it
How to stop overthinking and start taking aligned action before you feel “ready”
What it actually takes to trust yourself and follow through, even when it’s uncomfortable

If you’ve been feeling that nudge… that pull toward something more… this episode will help you turn that spark into real momentum.

Because you don’t need to have it all figured out to begin.You just need to be willing to listen… and take the next step.

If this conversation lit a fire, don’t let it go out. Shannon’s book Fired Up shows how to take that spark and turn it into action. Explore her work and Firestarter University to see what you can start building today.

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How to Get Over Fear of Rejection in the Bedroom Apr 01, 2026

You love them, you're attracted to them, but the fear of hearing "not tonight" stops you from taking action or initiating intimacy. So you wait for them to make the first move. And then they feel undesired. Suddenly two people who love each other are trapped in a standoff, both feeling rejected, neither feeling seen.

In this Language of Love Session, I respond to Theo, who feels anxious initiating because of his fear of rejection. So he waits. It feels safer to avoid the risk. But over time, distance builds as his partner feels undesired. He feels on edge. And intimacy begins to feel heavy instead of connection.

At the heart of this conversation is the rejection trigger that can make initiation feel like emotional danger. When an old wound gets activated, “not now” can feel like “not you.” And unless you address that wound, it will quietly run your relationship.

We dive into:

Why “not tonight” can hit like a full rejection even when it’s not meant that way
The role each partner has to play in the intimacy initiation deadlock
How to recognize and heal a rejection wound (even if there was no major trauma)
Strategies that actually work that take the pressure off and guesswork out of the equation

Remember, if you have a question you’d like answered or want to be featured in a future session, email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com.

And if you’re ready to feel more confident initiating and more secure in your desirability, explore my free Quantum Sex course on my website to deepen connection and strengthen your intimate bond.

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The Truth About Performance Anxiety (And What’s Really Happening) Mar 30, 2026

Sex is one of the most vulnerable experiences you can have. You are naked, literally and emotionally. So how do you build sexual confidence? Most people think it comes down to performance, size, or stamina. But the truth is, most men lose confidence long before anything physical even happens. It begins in the mind.

In this Language of Love Bite, I break down the real roots of sexual insecurity and share a practical, neuroscience-backed path to building unshakable confidence. Most men believe confidence means never losing an erection or always knowing the right move. But that pressure to perform is exactly what shuts down your arousal response.

I explain why sexual insecurity is not a character flaw. It is a nervous system response. When you go into fight-or-flight mode during intimacy, your body literally cannot stay aroused. The solution is not trying harder. It is learning how to stay calm and grounded when you feel exposed or vulnerable.

I also explore the stories we tell ourselves after one bad experience. That mental loop of “I’m not good enough” or “She’s going to lose interest” quickly becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. I show you how to interrupt that pattern and replace it with a grounded, earned confidence so you stop abandoning yourself when things do not go perfectly.

I break down:

Why sexual confidence is about comfort with the unknown, not control
The connection between your nervous system and performance issues (erection loss, premature ejaculation, numbness)
Real signs of sexual confidence
What women actually find sexy (It’s not perfection, it’s presence)
The "pre-game grounding drill": a simple 5-breath practice to shift from pressure to safety
How to anchor small wins after sex to retrain your brain
The daily 3-minute mirror affirmation that rewires how you show up sexually
Why the most confident men are the ones who choose to show up with honesty and heart, over and over again

Don’t forget to visit my website and check out my free Quantum Sex course to take your connection and pleasure to the next level.

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Why Feeling Lost Might Mean You’re Becoming with Krista Williams and Lindsey Simcik Mar 25, 2026

What if the confusion you’re feeling right now isn’t a sign that you’re lost… but a sign that you’re evolving? What if the “in-between” isn’t something to escape, but something you’re meant to move through?

In this episode of The Language of Love Conversations, I sit down with Krista Williams and Lindsey Simcik, the powerhouse duo behind the top-rated Almost 30 podcast and co-authors of Almost 30: The Life You Want Is Coming. Together, they’ve built a global community helping women navigate growth, healing, and the messy, beautiful transition into deeper self-awareness.

In our conversation, we explore what it really means to go through a period of transformation… the kind where your old identity no longer fits, but your new one hasn’t fully formed yet. Krista and Lindsey share how their own journey began in their late twenties, feeling lost, disconnected, and unsure of their path, and how that uncertainty ultimately became the foundation for everything they’ve built today.

What I love most about this conversation is that it doesn’t try to “fix” the discomfort of being in transition. Instead, it reframes it. This isn’t a breakdown… it’s a becoming.

We talk about the Saturn return, the “dark night of the soul,” and the pressure so many people feel to have their lives figured out by a certain age. Krista and Lindsey challenge that narrative and offer a more compassionate, grounded perspective on growth, one that allows for uncertainty, emotional depth, and trust in the unseen.

We also dive into the realities of spiritual growth, including the trap of spiritual bypassing, and why true healing requires being with your emotions rather than avoiding them. They share powerful insights on learning to trust your body, developing discernment, and building a relationship with yourself that feels safe, honest, and grounded.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re behind, stuck, or questioning everything about your life, this conversation will remind you that you’re not off track… you’re right where you’re meant to be.

We dive into:

Why your late twenties (and beyond) can feel like everything is falling apart… and why that’s actually a good thing
The truth about Saturn return and how it initiates deep personal transformation
What the “pause” or “in-between” season really means and how to navigate it
How to build trust in yourself and in something greater than you

The difference between spiritual growth and spiritual bypassing
Why feeling your emotions is essential to healing (and why avoiding them keeps you stuck)
How to use your body as a guide for decision-making and discernment
The role of friendship and safe relationships in healing old wounds
Understanding codependency and how to reclaim your sense of self
Why you’re not behind in life… and how to release the pressure to have it all figured out

Remember, the life you want may not come from having all the answers. It may come from learning to trust yourself in the questions.

To learn more, check out Krista and Lindsey’s book Almost 30: The Life You Want Is Coming and explore their work through the Almost 30 website.

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When You Want to Want Sex… But Don’t Mar 18, 2026

What if mentally you want sex, you love your partner, you are attracted to them, but your body just will not respond? Arousal takes forever or does not happen at all. And the more pressure you feel, the harder it becomes.

In this Language of Love Session, I respond to Sabrina, who is sitting with a question so many women carry in silence. She loves her partner. She wants sex. But her body is not responding. She misses feeling turned on. She misses that spark. Now sex feels confusing instead of natural.

She asks what most women are afraid to say out loud. How do you reconnect with sex and pleasure when your body is not cooperating, without turning intimacy into pressure or performance?

The truth is, this is more common than you think. And it is not about trying harder. It is about understanding your hormones, strengthening your pelvic floor, deepening emotional safety, and removing the pressure that shuts desire down in the first place.

We dive into:

The hormonal shifts that can start as early as your mid-30s
How testosterone, not just estrogen, plays a critical role in desire
Why childbirth, perimenopause, and aging change your response
How pelvic floor strength, including Kegels, affects arousal and orgasm
How hormonal birth control and SSRIs like Zoloft and Prozac can sabotage desire
How stress, anxiety, overwhelm, and body image issues shut down desire
Why emotional connection is foundational to long-term sexual attraction
How to tell if it is a relationship issue or a general stress response
Why added stimulation, lubrication, and sexual aids are not cheating, they are smart
What changes after 40 and how to work with your body instead of against it
How vibrant, connected sex is possible your whole life

Remember, you are not meant to navigate your relationship or your sexuality alone. If you would like to be featured on the show or have a question you want me to answer, email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com. I would love to hear from you.

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The Real Reason Why Women Fake It in Bed Mar 16, 2026

How do you really know if a woman is faking it in bed, and what can you do about it?

Most women will admit they’ve faked an orgasm at some point. And the truth is, orgasmic behaviors like gasping, moaning, back-arching, dramatic reactions, even rhythmic contractions can all be performed. If all of that can be faked, how are you supposed to know what’s real?

In this Language of Love Bite, I break down the signs she may be faking it, why women do it, and how to shift from performative sex to intimacy that feels genuinely connected for both of you.

Most men don’t realize that when a woman fakes it, it’s rarely about manipulation. I unpack what’s really behind the “mercy fake.” It’s not about you being bad in bed. It’s about pressure, protection, and not knowing how to say no. But when faking becomes a pattern, real connection starts to erode.

I also explain how real arousal is usually responsive and fluid, not scripted. When her reactions don’t shift with what you’re doing, when she rushes you to finish, or when her body feels tense and she seems emotionally distant afterward, those are signals worth paying attention to.

I explore:

Why 75% of women (and honestly, probably more) have faked it
The biggest red flags that her responses are a performance
How real arousal sounds and looks compared to going through the motions
Body language signals that reveal disconnection
Why faking it is emotionally exhausting and what that looks like afterward
he one simple question that opens the door to honesty and better sex

If this resonates, follow Language of Love on your favorite platform, send your questions or topic ideas to languageoflovepod@gmail.com, and visit my website. Don’t miss 7 Days to Better Sex, a practical, transformative program designed to help you take the driver’s seat in your sex life, actively creating the passion and connection you’ve been craving.

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Ancient Traditions That Change How We Think About Sex with Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah Mar 11, 2026

What if sexual freedom isn’t something we need to fight for, but something we’re being invited to remember?

In this episode of The Language of Love Conversations, I sit down with Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah, one of Africa’s most influential feminist voices and the author of the powerful new book Seeking Sexual Freedom: African Rites, Rituals, and Sankofa in the Bedroom. Nana is also the award-winning writer behind The Sex Lives of African Women, and her work has sparked global conversations about pleasure, liberation, and the deeper truths women share across cultures.

In our conversation, we delve into her new book, which is part travel log, part cultural excavation, and part manifesto. Together, we explore African traditions around sexuality and pleasure that existed long before colonization and how those traditions challenge many of the stories women have inherited about desire and shame.

What I love most about Nana’s work is that she doesn’t frame sexual liberation as something women must rebel toward. Instead, she invites us to remember.

We talk about traditions like the “sex auntie,” communal rituals where women gathered across generations to share wisdom, and the importance of embodiment. Nana also shares how reconnecting with movement and our bodies can help us step out of shame and rediscover sensuality.

If you’ve ever felt disconnected from your body, burdened by shame you didn’t ask for, or curious about what pleasure might feel like if you could unlearn everything you were taught, this conversation is for you.

We dive into:

The meaning of Sankofa and how reclaiming the past can restore sexual freedom
How colonialism interrupted natural freedom, leading to modern shame, homophobia, and marginalization
The role of sex aunties (Senga) in guiding young women toward body confidence and pleasure without shame
Rituals and rites of passage that created safe spaces for learning about sex
Embodied practices like dance and movement as pathways to pleasure
How sexual confidence influences confidence in the rest of our lives
The trauma of female genital mutilation (FGM) and efforts to preserve cultural rites without harm
What sexual freedom actually feels like in the body
How we can all create new rituals for ourselves, our daughters, and our communities
Why intergenerational conversations about sexuality matter

Remember, sexual freedom may not be something we need to fight for. It may be something we’re being invited to rediscover.

To learn more, check out Nana’s book Seeking Sexual Freedom: African Rites, Rituals, and Sankofa in the Bedroom. You can also connect with her at darkoathewriter.com or on Instagram at @thesexlivesofafricanwomen.

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What to Do When Keeping the Peace Costs You Yours Mar 04, 2026

Have you ever kept quiet just to avoid ruining a good moment? Sometimes keeping the peace actually costs you your own peace. You stay silent to keep things calm, telling yourself it’s not worth bringing up. But the feeling doesn’t go away. It builds quietly, then spills out sideways over something small.

In this Language of Love Session, I respond to Naomi, who feels stuck in this exact cycle. She avoids hard conversations because she’s afraid of ruining a good day. But the resentment always comes back. Naomi wants to know: How do I bring things up without it turning into a fight? And how do I stop feeling guilty just for needing to talk about hard things?

As a recovering codependent, I know this pattern personally. And after years of working with couples, I can tell you this isn’t about being “too sensitive.” It’s often about a nervous system that learned early on that conflict equals danger. If you grew up around anger, neglect, gaslighting, addiction, or emotional volatility, advocating for yourself can feel terrifying, even when you’re safe.

We dive into:

Why growing up in certain environments makes it hard to claim your needs as an adult
How to tell if your partner’s annoyance is their trigger or actual mistreatment
The three part framework for bringing up anything: Feelings, Story, Solution
Why focusing on bodily sensations, not just emotions, changes everything
The importance of having a clear ask, not just dumping frustration
When the issue is not your delivery but your partner’s capacity for healthy love
How to recognize when you need professional support to break patterns that aren’t serving

If you always keep quiet just to avoid rocking the boat… and then find yourself blowing up later over something small, this session is a must-listen.

Don’t forget to explore the additional relationship resources on my website, along with the free Quantum Sex course designed to help you deepen emotional intimacy, embodiment, and connection with your partner and yourself.

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The Art of Being an Unforgettable Lover Mar 02, 2026

How do you become the kind of lover she brags about to her best friend? What actually makes someone unforgettable in bed? If you want to drive a woman wild (or you’re a woman who wants to share a guide for doing so with your partner) this episode is for you!

In this Language of Love Bite, we explore what women really remember and talk about when sex feels amazing. Because the truth is, being the lover she brags about has far less to do with performance, and everything to do with presence, generosity, and emotional intelligence.

This episode breaks down the subtle but powerful ways your energy, attention, and responsiveness shape the entire experience. From how you look at her, to how you listen to her body, to how you stay connected even after sex is over, these are the things that make intimacy linger in her mind and body long after the moment ends.

We explore:

The top three things women actually brag about after great sex
Why presence and eye contact can be more powerful than technique
How generosity builds desire and trust
The role of emotional intelligence in unforgettable intimacy
The 70/30 giving-to-receiving ratio that creates connection
How reading her body and adapting in the moment deepens pleasure
Why staying present after sex seals the experience emotionally

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The Key to Healing Anxiety (Hint: It’s Not in Your Mind) with Dr. Russell Kennedy Feb 25, 2026

In this powerful Language of Love conversation, I sit down with Dr. Russell Kennedy, The Anxiety MD, to completely rethink how we deal with anxiety. Russell is a neuroscientist, physician, and bestselling author of Anxiety Rx, and he shares his own story, from a chaotic childhood with a father struggling with severe mental illness to becoming a doctor who eventually burned out. A life-changing LSD experience showed him something incredible. Chronic anxiety is not a mind problem to fix with positive thinking. It is old alarm energy stuck in the body.

We dig into how childhood wounds, trauma, and constant uncertainty wire your nervous system to stay on high alert, why worry becomes addictive, and how your body can hold onto memories long after your mind has forgotten. Russell also talks about intuition, sensitivity, and spirituality in healing, and why reconnecting with yourself is one of the most powerful ways to calm fear.

Toward the end, I ask the question every anxious person I meet wants answered. When your body feels overwhelmed, how do you shift from alarm to safety? Russell shares simple, practical tools you can start using right away, tools that help your nervous system relax and bring you back to peace.

We explore:

Why anxiety is a body-based alarm, not a thought problem
The difference between anxious thoughts and somatic fear
How childhood trauma and separation shape adult anxiety
The dopamine worry loop and why anxiety feels addictive
The connection between anxiety, OCD, and unresolved grief
How somatic practices calm the nervous system at the root
Why reconnecting with yourself and something greater creates lasting healing

Remember, healing is not something you do alone, and it was never about fixing what was broken. To learn more about Dr. Russell Kennedy and his work, visit his website and explore Anxiety Rx, along with his accessible online program, Your Mind Body Prescription for Permanent Anxiety Healing.

If you’re looking for deeper support on your own healing journey, visit my website to explore resources like my Good Grief course and other tools designed to help you move through anxiety, loss, and emotional pain with love and grace. Let’s walk this path together.

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When You Keep Fighting About The Same Thing Feb 18, 2026

What happens when despite apologies given for something done wrong or after an argument, the same conflict keeps resurfacing again and again? The words are spoken, promises are made, and yet the hurt returns weeks later. Over time, “I’m sorry” can start to feel empty, leaving one or both partners feeling hopeless about whether real change is even possible.

In this Language of Love Session, I respond to Derek, a listener who feels stuck in this exact cycle. He and his partner apologize after fights, but nothing truly shifts, and the same emotional wounds keep reopening. Derek wants to understand what real repair looks like, how long it should take, and how couples can rebuild trust when apologies no longer feel meaningful.

We explore how couples can move beyond surface level apologies and into genuine emotional responsibility. This includes uncovering the hidden needs behind certain behaviors, learning how to interrupt destructive patterns in the moment, and creating practical plans that support real, lasting change.

We dive into:

Why apologies without behavior change do not rebuild trust
What real emotional repair looks like in healthy relationships
How unconscious triggers and past experiences fuel repeated conflict
Why good intentions are not enough to stop recurring arguments
How to uncover the emotional needs driving hurtful patterns
Practical ways to interrupt negative cycles in real time
When couples therapy can help reset the relationship and heal deeper wounds
How consistency, empathy, and accountability rebuild emotional safety over time

If you feel trapped in repeating the same fights, if apologies in your relationship feel hollow, or if you long for deeper healing and real change, this episode will help you see a new path forward.

If Derek’s story resonates with you, or if you have a relationship challenge you would like guidance on, I invite you to reach out. Your story could help someone else feel understood and less alone.

You can email your question to languageoflovepod@gmail.com to be considered for a future episode.

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Why the 5 Minutes After Intimacy Can Make or Break Your Relationship Feb 16, 2026

Even when the sex itself is good, what you do in the five minutes after sex matters far more than most men realize and it can be the difference between a woman feeling satisfied or craving you all over again.

In this Language of Love Bite, I’m talking about what happens after sex, why those moments matter so much, and how they shape whether intimacy deepens or quietly starts to fade. This is where emotional connection is built. It’s also where a lot of men, without realizing it, emotionally disappear.

I explain what’s really going on in the body and brain after orgasm, and why men and women often experience that moment very differently. While many men feel a natural drop in energy or focus, women often feel a strong pull toward closeness and connection. When that need is met, sex feels complete. When it’s not, even great sex can leave her feeling unsettled or alone.

I cover:

Why sex isn’t emotionally over when you finish
What most women actually need in the minutes after sex
Why many men pull away without realizing it and how that lands for her
How staying physically and emotionally present builds trust and desire
Simple ways to deepen connection after sex without saying much
A quiet, 30 second, wordless gesture that helps a woman feel seen, safe, and held

Don’t forget to visit my website, and grab my latest book, Sex Magic, packed with all kinds of tips and insights you won’t want to miss.

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Grief as Sacred Medicine with Bobbi Vogel Feb 11, 2026

What if grief is not something to get over, but something meant to open us? What if the pain you are carrying is not a sign of weakness, but a doorway into deeper love, truth, and healing?

In this powerful episode of The Language of Love Conversation, I am joined by Bobbi Vogel, a psychic medium, clairvoyant healer, and soul guide, for a sacred conversation about grief, loss, and the unseen support surrounding us.

We explore grief not as a problem to fix, but as medicine. An initiation that cracks us open so we can return to who we truly are. Bobbi shares what Spirit has been communicating about this moment in time, why so many souls are crossing over, how our loved ones continue to guide us, and why allowing grief, rather than bypassing it, is essential for both personal and collective healing.

This episode includes live readings and deeply moving moments with grieving parents and loved ones, offering real-time insight into how connection continues beyond the physical body. Bobbi speaks candidly about spiritual bypassing, soul agreements, and why our loved ones on the other side are not who they were in human form, but wiser, expanded guides devoted to our healing.

We explore:

Why grief is sacred medicine and how it opens us to healing
The danger of spiritual bypassing and turning pain into purpose too soon
How our loved ones continue to support us from the other side
What souls do after they leave the body and how roles reverse
Collective grief and why personal healing serves the whole
How to ask your loved ones for help and guidance
Twin souls, soul agreements, and unfinished business
Why grief brings us back to earlier wounds and how to heal them

If you are grieving the loss of a child, partner, parent, or loved one, or if you are carrying grief that goes beyond death, this conversation offers validation, compassion, and a reminder that you are not alone.

Remember, for private sessions with Bobbi Vogel, you can visit bobbivogel.com or find her on Instagram @bobbi.vogel. You can also explore my website for supportive resources, including the Good Grief course.

And if this conversation stirred something in you, I’d truly love to hear about it. You’re always welcome to email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com

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When You’re Lonely in a “Good” Relationship Feb 04, 2026

What happens when your partner is kind, loyal, and on paper seems like everything you should want, yet deep down, you feel unseen?

In this Language of Love session, I connect with Elena, a listener who reached out because she feels exhausted in her relationship. She is the one holding everything together, remembering birthdays, checking in emotionally, making plans, and keeping the balance steady. She does not want to villainize her partner, but she is tired of feeling loved for what she does instead of who she is.

In this session, I help Elena unpack why this dynamic is so common in long-term relationships and how it often is not about a lack of love, but a disconnect in how love is expressed and received. We explore how love languages shape our expectations, why resentment can quietly build over time, and how to ask for emotional support without turning the conversation into an argument about chores or who does more.

In this session, I dive into:

Why feeling unseen can slowly erode intimacy
Why this dynamic often emerges over time, especially after major life changes like having children.
How love languages influence what makes us feel cherished
Why loving your partner the way you want to be loved can miss the mark
How to clearly articulate your needs and desires
Practical ways to ask for support, romance, and appreciation in ways that actually land
When it might be time to consider short-term couples therapy to reset your relationship's trajectory positively.

If Elena’s story resonates, if you feel like the emotional anchor in your relationship or long to feel more deeply known, I want to hear from you. Your story could help someone else feel less alone.

You can email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com to share your question for a future episode. For additional support, I encourage you to explore other helpful resources, including The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman, which offers insight into how we give and receive love differently. You can also visit my website, where you will find expert-approved resources and my free Quantum Sex course designed to help you deepen connection with your body, your partner, and your pleasure.

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What Women really Need to Feel Turned On Feb 02, 2026

Do you know the brain is a woman’s main sexual organ? So how do you unlock her mind before you try to turn on her body? Because even when everything seems “right,” she still might not be in the mood.

In this Language of Love Bite, we’re talking about why emotional and psychological safety are the real gateways to female arousal. Because if a woman doesn’t feel seen, connected, and at ease, her body simply won’t follow no matter how much effort you put in physically.

I break down how women experience desire differently than men, why stress and emotional disconnection shut down arousal, and how engaging her mind first can completely transform your sexual experience and sex life together. You’ll also hear the exact kind of compliments that actually build intimacy (hint: it’s not just about her looks), simple ways to check in before initiating touch, and how to create anticipation long before you’re in the bedroom.

And yes, I share one powerful sentence you can say right before intimacy that helps a woman relax, trust, and truly open to pleasure.

This isn’t about techniques or performance. It’s about presence, attunement, and making her feel safe enough to let go.

We explore:

Why women are turned on mentally before they’re turned on physically
The difference between spontaneous and responsive desire
How emotional safety unlocks deeper arousal
What compliments actually turn women on and why surface praise often misses the mark
How to use “mental foreplay” to help her unwind instead of perform
Subtle texts and energetic cues that build desire throughout the day
One simple line that communicates trust, care, and connection before sex

If you’re ready to deepen intimacy and experience sex as truly connected and expansive, explore my free Quantum Sex course. It’s designed to help you elevate pleasure and create deeper emotional connection.

For a deeper dive, my book Sex Magic invites you to reimagine desire, intimacy, and self-worth, transforming sex into something conscious, sacred, and deeply nourishing. Sex should feel like coming home to yourself.

You can also take the free quiz on my website to uncover what may be blocking intimacy and explore 7 Days to Better Sexto start actively creating the passion and connection you desire.

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Living as an Empath in an Overwhelming World with Dr. Judith Orloff Jan 28, 2026

Do you leave social gatherings feeling utterly drained, as if you've absorbed everyone else's stress, sadness, or tension? Do you find yourself constantly over-helping or trying to "fix" others, only to end up exhausted? Or do everyday stimuli like bright lights, loud noises, or scratchy fabrics overwhelm you in ways others simply don't understand?

If these resonate, you may be navigating life as a highly sensitive person, an empath, or both.

In this episode of The Language of Love Conversations, I sit down with Dr. Judith Orloff, a UCLA-trained psychiatrist, empath, and New York Times bestselling author. Known as the "godmother of the empath movement," she beautifully bridges science, intuition, and energy medicine. Her acclaimed books include The Empath’s Survival Guide, The Genius of Empathy, Emotional Freedom, and her new children’s book, The Highly Sensitive Rabbit.

We explore what it truly means to be an empath (and how it differs from being highly sensitive), why empaths are frequently misdiagnosed with sensory processing disorder, and why this growing wave of sensitive souls is precisely what our world needs right now. Dr. Orloff shares her personal journey growing up in a medical family that dismissed her intuitive gifts and how she learned to honor them instead of suppressing them.

This empowering conversation covers practical tools to protect your energy, set heart-centered boundaries, and thrive without closing your heart. We discuss raising empathic children in an overwhelming world, the connection between unacknowledged sensitivity and issues like addiction or autoimmune conditions, and simple daily practices like breathwork, earthing, grounding, visualization, and energetic cord-cutting (when you're truly ready).

We dive deep into:

The true meaning of being an empath vs. a highly sensitive person
Different types of empaths and their unique experiences
Why empaths are often misdiagnosed (with anxiety, depression, sensory processing issues, or physical illness)
The profound gifts of empathy
How emotional and physical energies get absorbed and how to release them
Essential boundaries, grounding, and shielding techniques
The power (and caution) of energetic cord-cutting
Why there are more empaths today than ever before, including links to trauma and the rise of "adult-onset" empaths
Raising empathic and highly sensitive children and why they need space to thrive
How empathic children may soon lead the world
Spotting empathic traits in kids (even though all children have some empathy)
Coping with overwhelm through addictions vs. healthier self-care paths
Empaths in relationships: avoiding love-bombing, narcissists, and learning to voice your needs
Five essential daily practices to stay grounded as an empath

If you’re feeling drawn to Judith’s work, explore her classic The Empath’s Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People (with its invaluable self-assessment quiz) and her empowering new children’s book The Highly Sensitive Rabbit, a tender story to help young sensitive hearts feel seen and strong.

Connect with Dr. Judith Orloff at drjudithorloff.com for blogs, workshops, her empath support newsletter, and more resources on intuition and energy healing.

Looking for more insight? Check out these powerful reads: The Genius of Empathy by Judith Orloff and Quantum Love.

And if you’re craving even more guidance, be sure to visit my website, where you’ll find free resources tailored to support your unique journey.

Are You an Empath? Take Dr. Judith Orloff’s 20-Question Self-Assessment

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When You’re Not Fighting, But You’re Drifting Apart Jan 21, 2026

Sometimes relationships don’t fall apart, they just grow quiet.

You’re still together, still functioning, still sharing a life, but something feels off. The conversations are. The connection feels thinner. And even though nothing is “wrong,” you miss the closeness you used to feel.

In this Language of Love Session, I answer a question from a listener who feels disconnected from her partner. They don’t fight, but they don’t really talk anymore either. Conversations feel polite and surface-level, and when she tries to go deeper, he shuts down or changes the subject.

I talk about why this kind of emotional distance is so common, especially in long-term relationships, and why trying harder to have the big conversation can sometimes create more distance instead of closeness. I also share what I’ve learned, both professionally and from raising boys, about how many men experience closeness, conversation, and emotional safety differently than women do.

In this session, I share:

Why emotional distance can happen even when there’s no conflict
How technology and distraction quietly interfere with connection
Why face-to-face deep talks can feel overwhelming for some partners
How side-by-side connection can open the door to better conversations
The role play, lightness, and silliness can play in rebuilding closeness
Why sex can sometimes lead to emotional intimacy, not the other way around
How to rebuild connection before tackling the bigger relationship questions

This session is a reminder that connection often returns when there’s less pressure and more room to just be together again.

Don’t forget to visit my website and explore the resources there. They’re all designed to help you create deeper, more fulfilling love in your life. You can also take the free quiz, “What Do You Really Want in Love?” It’s a great way to get clear on what your heart’s truly looking for.

And if you have a question or want to be part of a future Language of Love session, just email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com

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Why “Not in the Mood Tonight” is More Than What it Seems Jan 19, 2026

When your partner says she’s “just not in the mood,” it’s easy to hear it as rejection. But what if it’s not about you at all? What if “not in the mood” is actually a signal about what’s missing long before you ever get to the bedroom?

In this Language of Love Bite, we flip the script on low desire. I’m breaking down exactly why she’s not in the mood and how to shift that dynamic quickly, without pressure, manipulation, or guessing games. Because for most women, desire doesn’t disappear for no reason. It shuts down when her system doesn’t feel ready.

We explore:

Why “I’m not in the mood” is rarely about sex itself and what it’s really signaling.
The 3 things women need to feel to access desire (and what happens when one is missing).
How true foreplay begins outside the bedroom, in everyday moments of appreciation.
The exact words to use to initiate without pressure and create emotional safety.
One transformative move to try when she says no.

If this episode gives you a new perspective, make sure to follow the Language of Love podcast on your favorite podcast platform. Want to continue the conversation? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com and tell me: What do you think puts someone out of the mood faster than anything else?

And if you’re ready to go deeper, visit my website and explore resources designed to help you build better sex, deeper connection, and the relationship you truly want.

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The Telepathy Tapes & A Mother's Journey Beyond Loss with Libby Ingram Jan 15, 2026

In this special Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Libby Ingram, a speech therapist, grieving mother, and a central voice from the groundbreaking podcast The Telepathy Tapes. Libby shares the extraordinary story of her son, John Paul, a non-speaking autistic man with a genius level intellect, a deep telepathic connection to his peers, and a mission that continued even after his physical passing.

Together, we step into the world of spellers, non speaking individuals who use letter boards to communicate. Libby helps us see a reality where these souls are not disabled, but differently abled, operating from a place of deep spiritual awareness. She describes how John Paul and his friends met daily on “The Hill,” a metaphysical gathering place where they shared knowledge and prepared for a purpose the world had not yet caught up to.

Libby also talks about the ways communication never stopped, through numbers, songs, red roses of protection, and even a life saving pause at a traffic light. Her story reminds us that grief and joy are not opposites. They walk side by side, with our loved ones still very much present, cheering us toward life.

We explore:

What The Telepathy Tapes reveal when told through a mother’s lived experience
How spelling unlocks intelligence hidden behind motor and sensory challenges
Why non-speaking autistic children are deeply aware, connected, and conscious
The metaphysical meeting place known as “The Hill” and how children connect there
What telepathy looks like when it’s lived, not theorized
How connection continues after death through signs, numbers, and symbols
Why certain messages from loved ones arrive again and again
How signs before a passing only make sense once you look back
What it means to hold grief and joy at the same time without betraying love
Why death doesn’t end love, it changes how love speaks

Remember to explore the full depth of this story by listening to The Telepathy Tapes podcast, and connect with Libby on Instagram or through her community for resources on spelling and communication methods. You can also explore The Grief Healing Collective for ongoing support, workshops, and the upcoming Love Mama Retreat. And if you need a direct line, email anytime at languageoflovepod@gmail.com. Your story matters.

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The Bedroom Mistake Men Make Without Realizing It Jan 07, 2026

Most men don’t realize that the biggest mistake they make in bed has nothing to do with size, stamina, or technique. It is something far simpler and far more powerful. And it is the one mistake that quietly turns a woman off, shuts her body down, and keeps you from being the lover she dreams about.

In this Language of Love Bite, I break down the number one mistake men make in bed and how to fix it starting tonight. It is the difference between sex that feels rushed, mechanical, or pressured, and sex that feels electric, safe, intimate, and unforgettable.

You will learn why focusing on performance instead of connection sends a woman into her head, why she stiffens or pulls back even when you are doing everything right, and how presence rather than perfection is what actually turns her on. I share what women truly crave: a man who is tuned into her breath, her body, her pace, and her emotional temperature, not someone who is trying to win at sex.

I reveal how slowing down, literally cutting your rhythm and your touch in half, becomes the most erotic reset you can offer her. You will learn why softer warm-up touch ignites trust in her nervous system and how one simple question, What kind of touch do you want tonight?, instantly boosts her desire.

We explore:

Why performance pressure shuts her body down
How connection rather than technique predicts her satisfaction
The micro cues in her breath, sounds, and movement that guide you
The dance between slowing down, tuning in, and following her lead
Why safety opens her body more than any bedroom move
The exact warm-up touches that turn on her nervous system
The simple after sex shift that makes her feel cherished
How the way you stay afterward matters more than how you move during sex

And at the end, I share the bonus tip most men never think about. The post-sex moment that tells her, without a single word, that this was not just sex. It was connection. That is the moment she remembers. That is the moment she comes back for.

If this Language of Love Bite inspires you, follow the show on your favorite podcast platform or email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com.

You deserve to feel confident, connected, and deeply in sync with your partner. You’ve got this.

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The Psychic Navigator with John Holland Dec 31, 2025

Why does intuition feel normal, but psychic still makes people squirm? Why are so many of us feeling more sensitive, more aware, more affected by the world than ever before?

Something is shifting. People aren’t just asking for answers anymore. They’re asking about their soul, their abilities, their inner knowing. Is consciousness changing, or are we finally paying attention?

In this episode of Language of Love, I sit down with John Holland, one of the most respected psychic mediums of our time and a true pioneer in spiritual communication. For more than three decades, John has helped people understand intuition, mediumship, and the ongoing relationship we continue to have with our loved ones after physical death.

We talk about how human consciousness is changing and why people are no longer just seeking answers about the future. More and more, we are asking questions about our soul, our purpose, and our own intuitive abilities. John has a beautiful way of making these experiences feel grounded and accessible, while still honoring how sacred they are.

We also talk openly about grief, including the loss of a child, shared death experiences, and deathbed visions. John explains why no one ever crosses over alone and how communication does not end when the body dies. It simply changes form. Signs, synchronicities, numbers, sensations, and quiet knowings become the new language of love.

John shares why mediums are not meant to be a permanent bridge, but more like a jumper cable. They help us remember that every one of us has the ability to access guidance, connection, and love from the other side. At the end of the episode, he offers five simple and practical ways to strengthen your intuition, tools you can begin using right away to trust what you feel and sense.

This conversation is both comforting and empowering. It is a reminder that grief does not disconnect us from love, and intuition is not something we have to learn. It is something we remember.

We explore:

Why intuition and psychic ability are natural to all of us
How and why collective consciousness is changing.
The difference between intuition, psychic ability, and mediumship
How loved ones communicate after death through signs and synchronicities
Shared death experiences and deathbed visions explained
Why no one ever transitions alone
How grief softens when we understand the soul continues
The role of mediums and why you do not need one forever
How sensitivity can be both a gift and something to learn how to manage
Five ways to strengthen your intuitive connection
Why love does not end with death, it changes how it speaks

Remember, your intuition is simply the language your soul uses to speak to you. If you feel called to explore and develop those gifts more deeply, you can dive into John’s books, including The Psychic Navigator, or join his intimate Soul Community. You can also connect with John on his Website or Instagram to stay up to date with his work.

And if you’re walking a path of grief or healing, you don’t have to do it alone. The Grief Healing Collective offers ongoing support, and you’re always welcome to reach out by email at languageoflovepod@gmail.com. Your story truly matters.

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Why Some Breakups Hurt So Much More Than Others Dec 24, 2025

Have you ever gone through a breakup so painful it made you question who you even are? The kind that leaves you replaying every moment, wondering what went wrong, and feeling like a stranger in your own skin? When love ends and your identity goes with it, how do you start again?

In this Language of Love session, I answer a heartfelt question from Heather, who writes in after a devastating breakup that shattered her sense of self. She’s stuck in a loop of rumination and regret, trying to figure out how to stop looking back and begin moving forward.

We talk about how some breakups don’t just end relationships; they awaken old pain that’s been waiting beneath the surface. I explain why trauma “loves an open door,” how grief and loss can resurface long after we think we’ve healed, and why true recovery starts with rediscovering who you are beyond anyone else.

We dive into:

How old trauma gets triggered by new loss
The difference between self-esteem and self-worth
Why your sense of self must come from within, not from your partner
The power of trauma-informed therapy in heartbreak recovery
What the Runaway Bride movie can teach us about self-discovery
How to figure out “what kind of eggs you like,” literally and metaphorically
Why being centered in your worth changes who and what you attract
How heartbreak can become the doorway to your most authentic self

If you’ve ever lost yourself in love, this episode will remind you that healing isn’t about finding someone new; it’s about finding you.

And if you have a question or want to be part of a future Language of Love session, just email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com

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How to Make a Woman Crave You Without Saying a Single Word Dec 22, 2025

Did you know you can make a woman crave you without saying a single word? Really so much of attraction has nothing to do with pickup lines, fancy outfits, or trying too hard. It’s your presence. Your energy. Your body language. It’s the way you walk into a room and the way you feel in your own skin. Confidence speaks long before your mouth ever does.

In this Language of Love Bite, I reveal how to make a woman crave you without saying a word. This is not about pickup tricks or performance. It is about the deeper masculine signals a woman feels the moment you enter a room. From the way you breathe to the way you hold your posture and your gaze, these subtle shifts create desire without effort.

You will learn how breath grounds your confidence, how stillness becomes a turn on, how eye contact creates micro tension, and the one shift almost no man knows that instantly makes you more magnetic. You will also learn how to flirt without touching her at all by using mirroring, energy projection, and true presence.

I explore:

The way women sense your energy before they ever look at you
How slow, grounded breathing signals calm confidence and inner control
Why moving with stillness pulls her in more than trying to impress
The one second eye contact rule that builds tension she feels in her body
How to flirt without touching her through subconscious mirroring
The power of filling the space between you with sensual energy
How chasing weakens attraction while presence strengthens it
The subtle embodiment shift that makes her crave you without a single word

The secret is simple. When you are fully in your body, she feels safe, seen, and drawn in. Presence is the most erotic language a man can speak without ever using his voice.

If you liked this Language of Love Bite, follow the show on your favorite podcast platform. Questions or comments? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com

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How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want with Alexandra Solomon Dec 17, 2025

Why is it that the person you love most can also trigger the fears you thought you left behind? What if your partner’s most irritating habit isn’t really about them at all, but a faint echo from your childhood still asking to be healed? And what if that same repetitive fight about laundry or tone of voice isn’t a sign something’s wrong but actually a sacred doorway, a classroom, for your deepest growth?

In this episode of The Language of Love Conversations, I sit down with Dr. Alexandra Solomon, clinical psychologist, Northwestern professor, author of Taking Sexy Back, host of the Reimagining Love Podcast, and the beloved voice behind Relational Self-Awareness. As two “talking doctors” who have been married for a combined 52 years, we ditch the theory and dive straight into the real, messy, sacred work of modern love.

We explore why today’s relationships demand so much more from us than past generations ever had to navigate, and why true intimacy now requires a “soul to soul” connection rooted in deep self-awareness.

We also delve into:

The surprising reason relational self awareness is the real heartbeat of modern love
How childhood wounds secretly script your adult conflicts without you knowing
Whether some healing must happen alone or can truly happen inside the relationship
How to tell when it’s a trigger… and when it’s genuine emotional danger
What to do when a partner can name their wounds but refuses to change the pattern
The exact moment your trigger gets activated and how to catch it in real time
The hidden story your emotional pain is trying to tell you
Why tone is often louder than words and how it shapes safety
Alexandra’s go to regulation tools for coming back to calm fast
How shorter, slower conversations create deeper intimacy
The power of conscious pauses to stop spirals before they start
How to truly witness your partner’s feelings so they feel seen and safe
Why certain tones feel like danger and how to talk about it without blame
Fast, body based tools to steady your nervous system in the middle of conflict
How to offer a real, repair focused apology that actually rebuilds trust
What it really means to be a relational leader and how to step into that role
Alexandra’s five micro moments that instantly strengthen connection and bonding

Remember to check out her groundbreaking book, Taking Sexy Back, for a deeper dive into moving from performance to presence in love and life.

You can also explore my book,Quantum Love, for the science and spirituality behind using energy to transform your relationships.

For workshops, teachings, and her wonderful podcast Reimagining Love, visit alexandrasolomon.com.

Find Alexandra on Instagram @dralexandra.solomon for daily wisdom.

And if this conversation opened something in you, if you saw your own “relational ghost” in our stories, I’d love to hear about it. Email me anytime at languageoflovepod@gmail.com. Your story matters.

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How to Live and Love Again After Loss Dec 10, 2025

When someone you love dies, people tell you to “move on,” but what does that even mean? How do you move forward when your heart still feels stuck in yesterday?

In this Language of Love session, I answer a question from Susan, who lost her partner a year ago and still feels like she’s just going through the motions. We talk about why grief has no timeline, why some hearts feel it more deeply than others, and how to begin healing not by letting go, but by learning to hold love differently. Because grief isn’t something to get over, it’s something to move through.

We explore:

Why there’s no “right time” to stop grieving
How to move through pain without getting lost in it
Why feeling your feelings is the only way to release them
The six pillars of grief healing and how they can support you in your journey
Why your loved one’s energy never disappears, it simply changes form
How to stay connected to someone you’ve lost through love, not longing
What it means to become a more awakened version of yourself through grief

If you’ve ever felt pressure to “get over it,” this episode will remind you that healing is not about forgetting. It’s about remembering differently.

Remember to visit my website and explore The Grief Healing Collective, a community designed to support your healing with resources, practices, and connection. You can also check out my Good Grief Course for deeper guidance on navigating loss with compassion and understanding. And if you’d like to send your questions or join a future Language of Love session, reach out at languageoflovepod@gmail.com, I’d love to hear from you.

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Five S*x Magic Secrets to Become a Magnetic Lover Dec 08, 2025

Why is it that some men leave an imprint on a woman’s body, her heart, her energy, her memory, and sometimes even her soul… while others are forgotten by morning? What if the only difference is that the unforgettable ones have mastered powerful sex magic secrets, not the basic bedroom tips everyone already knows?

In this Language of Love Bite, I dive into sex magic, not porn magic, not pickup tricks, but the real energetic, emotional, spiritual practices that turn sex from mechanical into magnetic.

I break down the five sex magic secrets that give you more control, more depth, and more connection than any technique ever could. From breathing that expands your arousal instead of cutting it short, to intention-based touch that opens her body and her trust, to the one move most men skip that opens her body and her soul like nothing else. You really can’t afford to miss that bonus move.

I explore:

Why sex isn’t just an activity but an energetic transaction that imprints you on her body, mind, and memory
The shocking reason you should stop “releasing” your orgasm energy/sperms aimlessly and start harnessing it like fuel
How circulating your sexual energy turns you into the man who feels powerful, magnetic, and impossible to forget
Why presence is the real aphrodisiac and how women can sense it before you even touch them
How your breath secretly controls your arousal, your stamina, and the depth of the connection
The hidden power of intentional touch that opens her body and unlocks her trust
Why orgasm isn’t the finish line but a doorway to deeper pleasure, insight, and intimacy
The heart to heart connection move she will never forget and the one most men don’t even know exists

Let me know in the comments which one of these secrets you are trying first. And if you want to go even deeper or learn more about sex magic, check out my bookSex Magic. Have comments or questions? You can always reach me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com

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The Girl Who Baptized Herself with Meggan Watterson Dec 02, 2025

In this episode of The Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with theologian and author Meggan Watterson, whose books Mary Magdalene Revealed and The Girl Who Baptized Herself have transformed the way countless people understand Christ, the Divine Feminine, and their own inherent worthiness.

Meggan opens up about her own spiritual journey as a child, having profound experiences of divine love that her secular, feminist upbringing couldn't explain. She shares how her first encounter with the traditional New Testament literally made her break out in hives, a visceral reaction to the missing feminine essence she intuitively knew belonged there.

We explore the Gospel of Mary Magdalene and the Acts of Paul and Thecla, texts that were deliberately excluded from the Bible, and how they reveal a Christianity that was originally subversive, egalitarian, and empowering for women. Meggan explains how these texts teach us that heaven isn't a destination after death, but a state we can access now, in these very bodies.

We get into the beautiful, practical concept of the "mind of the heart" or the "spiritual eye of the heart," the internal compass that guides us to our truth when the thinking mind fails. Meggan shares a simple, powerful "three breaths" practice that anyone can use to access this inner wisdom, even in the busiest moments of life.

We explore:

How patriarchal erasure shaped our spiritual inheritance and why reclaiming feminine texts matters
The radical teachings of the Gospel of Mary and why Jesus chose to reveal them to a woman
Thecla’s story and why her three days of silence mirror a modern spiritual awakening
The difference between the inner critic and the authentic voice of the soul
Why our worth is inherent, not earned
How childhood wounds shape our patterns of choosing unavailable love
The seven stages of spiritual transformation and how they unfold in real life
What it means to embody divine love in the physical body
How to access the mind of the heart and connect with the Beloved within
The simple three-breath practice that anyone can use to return to their inner truth

Remember to check out her latest book, The Girl Who Baptized Herself,a profound reimagining of Thecla’s hidden gospel.You can also explore Mary Magdalene Revealed to discover the seven powers and the heart-centered teachings Jesus entrusted to Mary.

For workshops, retreats, and upcoming teachings, visit megganwatterson.com. Find Meggan on Instagram and LinkedIn for her latest writings and teachings.

And if this conversation opened something in you, I’d love to hear your story. Email me anytime at languageoflovepod@gmail.com.

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When One Partner Wants More, What Do You Do? Nov 26, 2025

Are you worried and feeling tension in your bedroom because of very different sex drives? You want to address it, but the last thing you want is for either of you to feel rejected or pressured. How do you solve uneven desire?

In this Language of Love session, I answer a question from Ashley, who writes in about her and her partner’s very different sex drives. It’s one of the most common struggles I see in couples, and one that can actually bring you closer when you understand what’s really going on.

We talk about why sex drive naturally changes over time, how the early infatuation stage gives way to the sweeter (but calmer) attachment phase, and what it takes to keep intimacy alive when spontaneous horniness disappears. Because it’s not about waiting for fireworks, it’s about choosing connection.

We explore:

Why almost every couple experiences uneven desire at some point
What really happens when the infatuation phase fades
How to source desire from connection, not just horniness
Why scheduling sex doesn’t make it mechanical, it makes it happen
How hormones, stress, and medical issues can quietly affect libido
Why quickies count (and how to make them meaningful)
When to see a sex therapist and why earlier is always better
How to rebuild closeness before addressing the “sex part”
Why trauma changes the approach to intimacy and how to honor that
The simple truth: sex is the glue that keeps romantic love feeling alive

If you’ve ever wondered how to keep desire alive when you and your partner aren’t on the same page, this episode is your gentle reminder that it’s not about doing more. It’s about being more open, more aware, and more intentional.

Remember to visit my website to explore resources and take the quiz “What Do You Really Want in Love?” I’m always here to help you love and be loved better. You can send your questions or join a future Language of Love session at languageoflovepod@gmail.com

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Manual Stimulation The Way Women Really Want It! Nov 24, 2025

So many guys think they have manual stimulation all figured out, but most are still doing it in a way that leaves her less than thrilled. The truth is, manual stimulation is not just a warm-up before penetration. When you know how to use your hands or her hands with the right rhythm and presence, it can be one of the most powerful ways to give her mind-blowing pleasure.

In this Language of Love Bite, I am breaking down exactly how to take fingering from awkward to amazing. We will talk about the build-up most men skip, how to find and stimulate the clitoris and G-spot without rushing, and the one golden rule that will completely change the way she experiences your touch. Plus, I will give you a simple rhythm-training exercise you can practice at home that makes your hands smoother, steadier, and way more confident in bed.

We cover:

The biggest mistakes men make when fingering (and how to avoid them)
Why slowing down makes everything hotter
How to sync clitoral and G-spot stimulation for maximum impact
The golden rule of fingering that most men forget
A finger rhythm exercise you can try tonight to instantly improve your touch

It’s not just about technique. It is about patience, presence, and paying attention to her body. When you do it right, your hands alone can bring her to orgasm.

If you are ready to step up your game, check out my book Sex Magic for even more step-by-step practices to deepen intimacy and pleasure. And do not forget to subscribe to the Language of Love podcast for more bite-sized tools to totally transform your love life.

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Choosing Wholeness Over Goodness with Elise Loehnen Nov 19, 2025

What if being a “good partner” has been quietly costing you your aliveness? We’ve been taught to shrink, to please, to perfect, to wear the mask of goodness so well that we forget what it feels like to truly be. We keep trying to be the “good partner,” the perfect child, the devoted spouse, the reliable coworker, all while losing touch with the fire that makes us feel alive.

In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Elise Loehnen, author of Choosing Wholeness Over Goodness, to explore how centuries of conditioning have shaped women into believing their worth depends on how selfless, small, and compliant they can be. Elise’s work builds on the success of her bestseller On Our Best Behavior, but this time she offers a guide for transformation that takes you from awareness to real, embodied change.

We dive deep into shadow work and the ways women unconsciously inherit narratives that limit their freedom, from “I shouldn’t need help” to “I’ll only be loved if I make life easy for everyone else.” Together, we explore how to spot these stories, name them, and finally release them.

We explore:

Why being “good” often means abandoning your true self
How inherited stories from culture and family silently shape your choices
The difference between worth and value and why it changes everything
What the “core process” reveals about fear, control, and the desire to be needed
How to distinguish facts from stories and reclaim your power
The real currency of abundance and how to break free from scarcity thinking
How to recognize your personas, from the overfunctioner to the pleaser, and set them free
Why self-care isn’t indulgent but sacred maintenance for your aliveness

Remember to check out Elise’s new book Choosing Wholeness Over Goodness: A Process for Reclaiming Your Full Self. You can also tune into her podcast Pulling the Thread or join her Substack community for more reflections on living fully and authentically. Want to connect with her? Visit her website or find her on Instagram. And if this conversation moved something in you, I’d love to hear it, share your thoughts or story at languageoflovepod@gmail.com.

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Sex, Energy, and the Science of Staying in Love Nov 12, 2025

When was the last time you felt completely alive with your partner, not because of what you did, but because of how connected you felt? No new toys, no faraway trips, no clever tricks. Just presence. Just energy. Just the spark that comes from truly seeing and being seen.

In this Language of Love Session, I sit down with Rachel, a listener and student of Sex Magic, who joined one of my live events in New Jersey and left with a notebook full of questions and a heart full of curiosity. Together, we explore what really fuels passion after the honeymoon fades. It’s not dopamine or novelty, but the deeper vibrational energy that connects two people soul to soul.

We explore:

Why true intimacy starts with awareness, not more techniques
How to tell the difference between dopamine-fueled excitement and deep energetic connection
How curiosity can dissolve judgment and open your heart wider
What to do when one partner feels the energy instantly and the other doesn’t (yet)
How to hold your vibration without taking on someone else’s emotions
The concept of the Quantum Love Map and its relevance to vibrational matching
Why we attract emotionally heavy people and how to stop being their anchor
How raising your frequency naturally transforms your relationships
Simple Sex Magic practices to clarify desire and realign with what you truly want
The importance of being in a high energetic state during sex to enhance the manifestation process.

This conversation is for anyone who’s ever looked at their partner and wondered, Can we ever feel that spark again? The answer is yes, but it doesn’t come from doing more. It comes from being more: more present, more attuned, more alive. Passion never really dies; it just waits for you to come back home to your body, your energy, and your heart.

And if this episode lit something up in you, keep the flame going. Grab your copy of Sex Magic and explore the free meditations and tools at healwithlaura.com. I’d love to hear your story or your question for our next book club, just send me an email at languageoflovepod@gmail.com

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How to Have Sex Again After a Long Dry Spell Nov 10, 2025

Let’s be honest, every long-term relationship has seasons where sex gets pushed aside. Between changing bodies, kids, work stress, money stress, and just plain exhaustion, months can slip into years without intimacy. So what do you do when you want sex again, but it feels awkward, foreign, or even impossible to bring up?

In this Language of Love Bite, I walk you through how to gently break the silence, rebuild emotional closeness, and take small but powerful steps back into an erotic connection with your partner. You will see that reigniting passion is not about pressure or performance, it is about safety, communication, and rediscovering each other in a playful, sensual way.

We discuss:

Why passion fades in long-term relationships (and how resentment sneaks in)
The role of emotional safety and non-sexual touch in reawakening desire
How to use “sensate focus” to rebuild intimacy step by step
The surprising power of non-demand kissing to spark erotic energy
A sensual awakening ritual you can try tonight to gently reignite connection
When and how to seek support from a certified sex therapist (AASECT.org)

Desire is never truly gone, it is just waiting for permission to return.

If you want to go deeper into creating sacred, satisfying intimacy, check out my bookSex Magic for step-by-step practices to awaken erotic pleasure and deepen connection. And do not forget to subscribe to the Language of Love podcast for more bite-sized tools to transform your love life.

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Love, Loss, and the Goal of a Lifetime with Nikki Mark Nov 05, 2025

What do you do when everything you’ve built, everything you’ve believed in, suddenly means nothing, and all that’s left is heartbreak, silence, and the question, “How do I go on?”

In this profoundly moving episode of The Language of Love Session, I sit down with author, mother, and speaker Nikki Mark, whose journey through unimaginable loss became a blueprint for healing, transformation, and connection across worlds.

In 2018, Nikki had lost her 12-year-old son, Tommy. Doctors had no answers, only silence. But what followed wasn’t the end of their story. In the depths of grief, Nikki began to experience undeniable signs, powerful dreams, and moments of connection that defied logic but spoke directly to the heart.

With no spiritual background to lean on, Nikki did what she knew best: she treated herself like a startup. One small step each day toward two goals: survive for her younger son, and honor her older one. From that resolve grew Tommy’s Field, a community soccer space dedicated to play, healing, and love, and a new mission to transform grief into purpose.

In this Conversation, we explore:

How to find meaning when life makes no sense.
The powerful “conversation” that foretold her son’s passing and the signs that followed.
What it means to “treat yourself like a startup” and rebuild a life from the ashes.
The role of dreams, signs, and synchronicities in grief healing.
The connection between generational trauma and soul contracts, and how healing yourself can heal those who came before you.
What it really means to “keep playing” when your heart is broken.
The choice that changes everything: choosing life again.

If you’ve ever wondered whether love really continues beyond this world, or how to live again after loss, Nikki’s story is living proof that we can find grace even in grief and purpose where we once saw only pain.

To learn more about Nikki’s work, visit nikkimark.com and read her book Tommy’s Field: Love, Loss, and the Goal of a Lifetime.

And if you’re ready to take your next brave step toward healing, visit lauraberman.com to explore The Good Grief Course, a heart-centered journey that helps you transform pain into peace and reconnect with the love that never ends.

If this conversation touched your heart, I’d love to hear your story. Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com. Your healing, your heart, and your voice matter.

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Breaking the Cycle: How to Stop Having the Same Fight Over and Over Again Oct 29, 2025

Did you know that if you keep leaving relationships because you’re tired of having the same arguments, you’ll probably end up having those same fights in the next one too? It doesn’t always mean you’re not compatible. Most of the time, it simply means there’s something still needs healing.

In this episode of The Language of Love Sessions, I answer a question from a listener named Carrie. She wrote in because she and her partner keep fighting in circles. Same argument, same frustration, and she’s starting to lose hope that things will ever change.

I get it. It’s exhausting. But what I’ve learned after decades of working with couples is that repeating arguments aren’t just about who’s right or wrong. They’re often a mirror showing us the patterns and pain we haven’t yet healed. Our relationships have this beautiful way of bringing up the stuff that’s ready to be worked on if we’re willing to look at it.

In this session, I talk about:

Why you keep finding yourself in the same kind of fights
How to take responsibility for your part in the pattern
The difference between incompatibility and unhealed wounds
How to turn conflict into a chance for connection instead of disconnection
Why doing your own healing work changes every relationship you have

If you’ve ever thought, “Why does this always happen to me?”, this episode is for you. Because real change doesn’t start by finding someone new. It starts by getting curious about yourself.

If you’d like me to answer your question on the show, send me an email at languageoflovepod@gmail.com or leave me a voice note at speakpipe.com/languageoflove.

Remember, love isn’t about avoiding conflict. It’s about learning from it, healing through it, and growing together.

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Is This the Best S*x Position Ever for Women? Oct 27, 2025

Some people swear by the 69 position, others love the comfort of missionary, some can’t get enough of doggy style, and plenty enjoy the view with reverse cowgirl. But here’s the real question… But there is one position that actually makes you feel the most connected, the most turned on, and the most satisfied.

In this Language of Love Bite, I break down what science, anatomy, and thousands of real women have shared about the most reliable position for her pleasure. Imagine it’s simpler than you think, and with just a pillow and some mindful adjustments, it can go from average to unforgettable.

We discuss:

Why only 20–25% of women orgasm from penetration alone
The role clitoral stimulation plays in reliable pleasure
How a simple pelvic angle shift transforms missionary into the most effective position
Why emotional safety and nervous system calm are essential for orgasm
The benefits of chest-to-chest contact, oxytocin release, and eye contact
How to use your hands (or hers) for clitoral stimulation during penetration
The secret sauce for creating connected, simultaneous orgasms

If you want to take this deeper, check out my book Sex Magic for a full guide to creating erotic intimacy that feels sacred and deeply satisfying. And don’t forget to subscribe to the Language of Love podcast so you never miss a bite-sized tip to level up your love life.

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Letting Go, Letting Love, and Learning to Stay Open with Jennifer Pastiloff Oct 22, 2025

We all carry invisible chains: beliefs like "I’m not enough," "I’m not ready," or "What if I fail?" The real cage isn’t the world around us; it’s the story we’ve been told about who we’re allowed to be. Because freedom doesn’t come from trying harder, proving more, or fitting into someone else’s mold, it comes from letting go.

In this Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Jennifer Pastiloff, author and speaker, whose new book Proof of Life explores the powerful act of reclaiming permission to exist fully in your own body, voice, and life. After years of self-doubt, shame, and self-abandonment, Jennifer shares how healing began with learning to speak her truth out loud. We dive into Jennifer's journey of self-discovery, which was shaped by moments of struggle, loss, and personal awakening.

In this Conversation, we explore:

How to recognize your “inner asshole” and stop believing its lies
Why speaking your truth out loud is where healing begins
What “heart-sight” means and how to listen to it
The trap of “when I get there, then I’ll be happy”
How making bad art can actually set you free
Why finding your “I got you” people changes everything
The lesson grief teaches us about living now, not later

If you've ever struggled with shame or felt disconnected from yourself, this conversation is a beacon back home.

Remember to check out Jennifer’s book,Proof of Life: Let Go, Let Love, and Stop Looking for Permission to Live Your Life, now available on Amazon. For her intimate, life-changing retreats, visit jenniferpastiloff.com/ and email her directly @jenniferpastiloff.com to apply, she loves hearing from people who are ready to show up fully and authentically. You can also find her on Instagram and Substack.

And if this conversation moved you, I’d love to hear your story. Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com

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Why You Keep Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Partners Oct 15, 2025

Have you ever wondered why you keep ending up in the same kind of painful relationship almost like you’re tuned to a certain frequency that keeps pulling you toward emotionally unavailable partners?

In this episode of Language of Love Session, I answer a heartfelt question from Sarah, a listener who wrote in asking: “Why do I keep attracting emotionally unavailable people, and how can I heal whatever inside me is drawing me to these relationships?”

We explore how the energy you carry, your vibration, and your earliest experiences all play a role in who you’re drawn to and why. I also share how healing practices like somatic experiencing and Internal Family Systems therapy can help shift your frequency so you attract partners who are truly capable of love and connection.

We explore:

Why emotionally unavailable partners feel so familiar (and why it’s not just “bad luck”)
How childhood patterns set the vibration for the partners we’re drawn to later in life
Ways somatic therapy helps release unconscious patterns stored in the body
How Internal Family Systems therapy rewires your inner world for healthier love
Why “butterflies” aren’t always passion, they may be your nervous system picking up on an old, unhealthy frequency

This is all about learning how to change your vibration so you stop repeating painful cycles and open yourself up to safe, supportive love.

For resources on somatic experiencing, visit the Hakomi Institute or traumatherapy.org for more on this powerful mindfulness-centered approach to healing.

Have a question you’d like me to answer on the show? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com, leave a voice message or question at SpeakPipe.com/LanguageofLove or connect with me on social media @DrLauraBerman.

For more support, visit my website for expert resources and don’t forget to check out my newest book,Sex Magic.

And if you’re navigating betrayal or struggling to rebuild trust, share your story with me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com for a chance to be featured in a future episode. Your journey could be exactly what someone else needs to hear.

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Can’t Stay Present During Sex? Here’s Why Oct 13, 2025

How often do you find yourself zoning out during sex? One moment you’re fully present, the next, you’re mentally sorting laundry, overanalyzing your stomach, or wondering if your partner is actually enjoying it. It happens. A lot.

In this Language of Love Bite, I break down why this happens, what’s going on in your nervous system and why even a hint of unease can make it so hard to stay turned on. I also share a quick, powerful exercise from my book Sex Magic to help you reconnect with your body. It takes less than three minutes, and you can do it solo or with a partner.

In this Bite, you will discover:

Why your brain checks out during sex
How anxiety hijacks arousal and how to reclaim it
A quick way to come back into your body
How to shift from pressure to sensation
A simple 3-minute exercise (from Sex Magic) to snap back into your body, quiet your mind, and shift from pressure to pleasure

Ready to unlock deeper pleasure and power? Grab your copy of Sex Magic and dive into transformative insights that awaken your sensual energy. While you're there, don’t miss out on the free Quantum Sex Course designed to elevate your intimacy levels.

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Safe in Love: Building More Secure Relationships with Jessica Baum Oct 08, 2025

Why does it always seem like déjà vu when it comes to your love life? Ever catch yourself wondering, “Why does every guy I date end up cheating, no matter who he is?” Or maybe you’re on the flip side thinking, “Why does every woman I date always seem to have anger issues?” It’s almost like you’re stuck in a dating loop, attracting the same person in a different body. But why does this keep happening?

In this Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with therapist and relationship expert Jessica Baum, author of new book Safe, to explore why our love lives so often play out like déjà vu. Jessica takes us far beyond attachment labels like “anxious” or “avoidant.” She reveals how our parents’ nervous systems wire our own from infancy, shaping the way we connect, attach, and seek safety. Those early wounds often live in our bodies as sensation, surfacing later when a partner pulls away, rolls their eyes, or simply doesn’t show up the way we need.

If you’re ready to stop repeating old patterns, this episode is your first step.

We explore:

Why traditional attachment labels don't tell the whole story and what does.
How to tell the difference between your "thinking" left brain and your "feeling" right brain.
The surprising reason you keep attracting the same type of partner (and how to break the cycle).
Why "triggers" are actually invitations for healing and how to reframe them.
How memory is stored not just in your mind, but in your gut, heart, and muscles.
What it truly means to heal in a relationship, and why you can't do it alone.
The subtle signs your nervous system is scanning for to answer, "Are you with me?"
A powerful, real-life example of rupture and repair between a parent and adult child.
Practical steps to start creating safety within yourself and your relationships.

Remember to check out Jessica’s other books, including Anxiously Attached. And don’t forget to preorder your copy of Safe, coming out on October 28. It’s the manual your relationships have been missing. As a special gift for listeners, she’s offering free bonuses, including a deep-dive healing blueprint and a rare interview with her mentor. You can find her at jessicabaumlmhc.com and on Instagram @jessicabaumlmhc

If you want to share your own love story, I’d love to hear it. Send me an email at languageoflovepod@gmail.com. Want to know what you really want in love? Take the quiz now.

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When They Are “Checking All The Boxes” but You’re Still Not Sure Oct 01, 2025

What happens when everything looks good on paper, yet your heart keeps whispering that something’s missing? You love your partner. Nothing’s really wrong. And still, you can’t shake the feeling that maybe you’re settling, or maybe you’re expecting too much.

In this Language of Love session, I respond to an anonymous listener who’s been with their partner for several years. The relationship checks all the boxes, but a nagging sense of absence lingers. Is it a red flag, or just fear keeping them from leaning all the way in?

In this session, we talk through:

Why “something missing” can mean very different things, and how to tell which applies to you
The hidden danger of making excuses for a partner’s shortcomings
How unhealed wounds, depression, or anxiety can disguise themselves as relationship doubts
Why the only way to experience real love is to risk heartbreak

If you’ve ever second-guessed your relationship and wondered whether it was intuition or insecurity talking, this conversation will speak directly to your heart.

And if this resonates with your own story, I’d love to hear from you. Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com, your experience could help others feel less alone.
Want more tools for navigating love and intimacy? Visit my website and check out my latest book, Sex Magic, for a deeper dive into building authentic, lasting connection.

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What Do Fantasies Really Mean? Sep 29, 2025

Ever wondered what sexual fantasies really mean? Is there something deeper to them?

In this Language of Love Bite, I unpack what science and symbolism tell us about fantasies, and how they’re often a mirror of your true desires.

If you want to take this deeper, check out my book ⁠Sex Magic⁠ for a full guide to creating erotic intimacy that feels sacred and deeply satisfying. And don’t forget to subscribe to the⁠ Language of Love podcast⁠ so you never miss a bite-sized tip to level up your love life.

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Mapping Out Life’s Journey with Spirit by Your Side with MaryAnn DiMarco Sep 24, 2025

We all long to feel connected to our loved ones after they have crossed over. That ache to speak with them again never really goes away. But is it possible to make that conversation real? Can it be instinctual, natural, like you're just talking to someone beside you?

In this Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with psychic medium and spiritual teacher MaryAnn DiMarco to explore the unseen support surrounding us. MaryAnn shows how connecting with spirit guides isn’t reserved for the gifted; it’s something every single one of us can do. Talking with her feels like being handed a secret key to a whole new world, one where guidance shows up in the middle of everyday chaos, not just in moments of perfect stillness.

MaryAnn shares her own journey of learning to trust her intuition and explains how our guides, angels, and loved ones work together to support us. We dive into why so many of us feel blocked, how to tell the difference between our own thoughts and true guidance, and what happens when we finally stop forcing and start trusting the path that’s meant for us.

Here’s a sneak peek…

The difference between guides, angels, and loved ones on the other side
Why guidance often sounds like your own voice
How to know when it’s intuition speaking or just fear
What to do when life feels stuck or off-track
How your guides can help you manifest what you want
Ways to reconnect with loved ones who have passed
The surprising role your guides play in healing old wounds
Why you don’t need to be psychic to receive powerful guidance

If this episode resonates with you, I invite you to explore more of what MaryAnn DiMarco has to offer at maryanndimarco.com You can follow her journey on Instagram and Facebook, and if you’re feeling called, pick up one of her books or preorder her newest one, The Guide(s).

If you’ve had a sign, a spiritual moment, or something meaningful you'd like to share, I’d truly love to hear from you. Feel free to reach out at languageoflovepod@gmail.com.
And if you're navigating loss, take a look at the Good Grief Course. It’s a gentle, structured path through grief designed to help you move forward while still honoring your connection. You don’t have to do this alone.

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How to Break Free from Inhibitions & Open Up About Your Desires Sep 17, 2025

Have you ever felt too shy or embarrassed to talk about your sexual needs, even with a partner you trust? This episode might be for you! In today’s Language of Love Session, I’m answering a question from a listener who’s struggling to open up about her desires and fantasies.

Maybe you received messages growing up about what’s “appropriate” or things you witnessed that made you feel ashamed of your desires… I’ll walk you through how to start untangling those beliefs and embrace your sexuality with confidence.

I also talk about how to communicate your sexual needs with your partner, even when it feels awkward or cringey. It’s all about creating a safe space to have that conversation, and I’ll give you some tips on how to open up without feeling embarrassed or ashamed.

In this session, we’ll cover:

Why sexual inhibitions often come from external sources, not you
How to identify and release shame-based beliefs around sex
How to start the conversation with your partner about trying new things in the bedroom
How to communicate your desires in a positive, low-pressure way

You deserve to have the sex life you want, free of shame and judgment. Whether you’re in a relationship or not, learning how to talk about what you want and exploring your desires is key to a fulfilling, beautiful sex life.

If you have a question or want to share your story, I’d love to hear from you. You can always email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com, and I’m here to support you as you learn how to love and be loved better.

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What to Do When You Love Your Partner But Don’t Feel Turned On Sep 15, 2025

Like it or not, attraction can dim even in the brightest, most loving relationships. Maybe you're loyal. Maybe you care deeply. Maybe you've built a life together. But that spark? It flickers. And when it does, you're left with questions, guilt, maybe even shame. It’s heavy, confusing, and painfully human.

In this Language of Love Bite, I break the silence around why you may not feel attracted to your partner anymore and guide you back to the root of your own erotic energy. Because when desire fades, it’s not a sign of failure… It’s a call to deeper awareness and reconnection.

We explore the four core reasons attraction fades and why this doesn’t mean the relationship is doomed. And I also guide you through a gentle, powerful embodiment practice called the Pleasure Mirror Practice, a ritual designed to help you reconnect with your own sensuality, aliveness, and desire, from the inside out.

Here’s what you’ll hear in this episode:

Why attraction naturally ebbs and flows in long-term love
What unspoken resentment does to desire
How safety and routine can dull erotic energy
What happens when you disconnect from your own sensuality
How nervous system trauma or stress can suppress arousal
How to do the Pleasure Mirror Practice to reignite your erotic energy

If you want support with intimacy, sexual connection, or rediscovering your own sensual fire, check out my free Quantum Sex course on my website, and my book Sex Magic. Because true attraction isn’t something you lose, it’s something you learn to consciously recreate.

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Someday, Now: Grief Doesn’t End, It Evolves with Tembi Locke Sep 10, 2025

Raising a child while carrying the weight of grief after losing your husband is no easy task. Learning to love again, knowing that loss is always a possibility, adds another layer of complexity.

In this Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with the incredible Tembi Locke, actor, advocate, and New York Times bestselling author of From Scratch, which many of you may know as the hit Netflix series she co-created. Tembi’s newest project, Someday, Now, is a fully immersive audiobook that completely moved me.

We talk about her journey through grief, caregiving, and parenting after the loss of her beloved husband Saro. How do you keep going when the person you planned your future with is no longer here? Tembi shares how her grief has transformed over the years, what it was like to raise her daughter while healing herself, and how she still feels her husband’s presence in everyday life, from hummingbirds outside her window to cherished memories in Sicily.

We dive into:

How grief evolves over time and why it never really ends
The surprising ways caregiving prepares (and fails to prepare) you for loss
What no one tells you about the physical exhaustion of grieving
The best ways to support a child on the grief journey
The quiet ways our loved ones continue to guide us after they're gone
Why so many of us are grief-illiterate and what we can do about it
What it means to show up for others in grief, even when words fall short
How becoming an empty nester stirred up old wounds and new revelations
What it really takes to open your heart to love again after devastating loss

What makes this conversation so special is how honest Tembi is. She doesn’t shy away from the messy truths about the physical toll of grief, the emotional fatigue of caregiving, and the quiet courage it takes to choose love again. Whether you're grieving, supporting someone who is, or simply wondering how to keep going when life breaks your heart this one is for you.

Want more from Tembi?

Explore Someday, Now and her memoir From Scratch at her website.

Follow her on Instagram: @tembilocke or LinkedIn.

And if you’re on your own healing journey, I’d love to invite you into myGood Grief Course, a safe space filled with tools, practices, and support to help you grow through loss.

If this conversation touched you, I’d love to hear from you. Share your story or a sign you’ve received at languageoflovepod@gmail.com.

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How to Come Back to Your Body After Trauma Sep 03, 2025

Why does something that happened years ago still show up in the bedroom today? Why can you trust your partner completely, and still feel yourself pull away the moment intimacy begins? And why, when all you want is closeness, does your body react as if it’s still living in the past?

In this Language of Love Session, I respond to two heartfelt listener questions that touch on some of the most vulnerable parts of our intimate lives.

The first comes from Renee, who shared that after experiencing sexual trauma years ago, she still finds herself freezing or dissociating during intimacy even with a partner she deeply trusts. I talk about why this happens, why it’s actually a normal and adaptive response, and the steps you can take to reconnect with your body.

The second question comes from Angel, who admitted she’s always been shy about talking about sex, even though she has desires and fantasies she wants to explore. I offer concrete strategies for starting those vulnerable, exciting conversations with a partner in a way that feels safe and empowering.

In this episode, you’ll hear me share:

Why dissociation during intimacy is a normal trauma response and how healing begins
Somatic practices that can help you stay grounded in your body
Gentle ways to reintroduce intimacy after trauma
A three-column exercise to let go of shame and reclaim your desires
How to talk to your partner about fantasies and needs without fear

If you’d like me to answer your question on a future episode, email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com

Don’t forget to check out: The Courage to Heal by Ellen Bass and Laura Davis, the Hakomi Institute for locating Somatic Experiencing therapists, and traumahealing.org, which offers a full directory of practitioners.

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Why the End of the Honeymoon Phase Should Excite You Sep 01, 2025

What happens when the honeymoon phase ends? That early period in a relationship, full of excitement, ease, and constant attraction, doesn’t last forever. Most people assume that this means the excitement is over and they are stuck with a lackluster intimate life. But the end of the honeymoon phase can mark the start of the real love story.

In this Language of Love Bite, I explain why the end of the honeymoon phase is actually one of the best things that can happen in your relationship. Did you know that couples who are keeping their sexual connection alive for 20 or 30 years aren’t just relying on heat alone? They’re learning to cultivate it intentionally and with ongoing practice.

I also guide you through a powerful, heart-opening practice called the Desire Memory Ritual. It’s perfect for long-term couples who want to reconnect with their erotic roots, reignite attraction, and let those feelings flow through them once again.

Here’s what you’ll hear in this episode:

Why the honeymoon phase ends and what it does
What your brain is doing during and after that phase
How couples stay connected over the long term
Why being present matters more than trying harder
How attraction changes over time
How to do the Desire Memory Ritual

If you want help with intimacy and sexual connection, check out my free Quantum Sex course on my website, as well as Sex Magic. And always remember: true connection begins when we stop performing and start seeing each other, soul to soul.

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Autism as a Unique Expression of Light with Suzy Miller Aug 27, 2025

In this episode of the Language of Love Conversation, I welcome Suzy Miller, a former pediatric speech pathologist whose world was turned upside down when a nonverbal four-year-old boy named Riley communicated with her telepathically.

Riley revealed a stunning truth: he needed Suzy’s help to integrate his “light body” with his physical form. This encounter launched Suzy on a journey to redefine autism not as a deficit, but as a superhuman ability, a different way of being that holds a mirror to our own unhealed energies and invites us into a more authentic, heart-centered existence.

Together we explore:

How those on the spectrum act as mirrors, reflecting the unacknowledged emotions of those around them
Why many people with autism struggle with being fully “in their bodies” and what that means energetically
The mismatch between their high vibrational frequency and the dense conditioning of our physical world
How so-called “problem behaviors” can be understood as communication and energetic processing
Practical tools like the Blue Sphere technique for releasing heavy emotions and raising your vibration
Ways parents, teachers, and loved ones can authentically connect with these extraordinary beings

Suzy’s work is a beautiful call to action for parents, educators, and all of us to shift our perception, embrace deeper authenticity, and learn the language of energy and love.

Want to go deeper?

Explore Suzy’s book, AWESOMISM!:, and her incredible resources at SuzyMiller.com.

Have a story about neurodiversity or awakening? I’d love to hear from you! Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com.

For more tools to support your journey of connection and growth, visit my website and explore my courses, including the Good Grief program to help you stay connected to those you love, both here and beyond.

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Is Wanting More in the Bedroom a Betrayal? Aug 20, 2025

What if the thing you crave most is the one thing you can’t say out loud? You love your partner. The sex is good. But there’s more inside you—a desire you’ve never voiced. Not because it’s wrong… but because you’re terrified of what might happen if you do. Will they judge you? Will they feel like they’re not enough? Could it change everything?

In this Language of Love session, I connect with Kelly, who’s been married for five years and loves her husband deeply. Their sex life? Pretty solid. But there’s a part of her that wants more. She has desires she’s never shared—and she’s terrified that voicing them might hurt his feelings or make him think he’s not enough.

So what do you do when you want to grow sexually with your partner, but you’re afraid it could backfire?

In this session, we talk through:

Why it’s not a great idea to talk about fantasies in the middle of sex (and when to do it instead)
How to open up these conversations in a way that feels safe, honest, and even exciting
The “Fantasy Box” game I love recommending to couples who want to spice things up together
How to find creative middle ground when your fantasies don’t totally match

If you’ve ever held back something in the bedroom because you didn’t want to rock the boat, you’re going to feel seen in this one.

And if Kelly’s story sounds a little like yours, I’d love to hear from you. Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com—your story could help someone else feel less alone.

Want more tools for connection and pleasure? Head over to my website, and check out my latest book, Sex Magic, for a deeper dive into unlocking spectacular intimacy.

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Do You Really Want Sex Or Are You Just Trying to Feel Okay? Aug 18, 2025

When that desire for sex hits hard, like I need this now, have you ever paused and thought… is this really about sex? Or is it something else? A need to feel safe? Held? Less alone?

In this Language of Love Bite, we’re talking about the kind of sex that doesn’t always come from turn-on, but from a deeper part of us that’s craving regulation. Because the truth is, your nervous system plays a much bigger role in desire than most of us realize.

We talk about how your body might be reaching for sex not out of passion, but as a way to self-soothe and how to gently tell the difference. I also share a simple body-based practice you can use anytime to check in with yourself and get really honest about what you’re actually needing in the moment.

This isn’t about shame. It’s about choice. And giving yourself the chance to have sex that feels nourishing… not just numbing.

We explore:

Why your body might crave sex when it’s actually craving safety
How past experiences shape the way we reach for intimacy
The subtle signs you might be using sex to regulate your emotions
A go-to somatic practice (“Body Yes / Body No”) to check what’s really going on inside
How to shift from survival sex to sacred, satisfying connection

Ever had sex and felt more empty afterward?

You’re not alone and there’s nothing wrong with you.

There’s just more going on beneath the surface.

If you’re ready to explore the deeper layers of your intimacy, grab my book Sex Magic, a powerful invitation to challenge everything you’ve been taught about your sexuality and self-worth.

Because sex should feel like coming home to yourself, not like you’re trying to fill an invisible gap.

Want to uncover what’s holding you back in bed and beyond?

Take the free quiz on my website to get clarity and personalized insights into your intimacy blocks.

And while you're there, don’t miss 7 Days to Better Sex, a practical, transformative program that helps you get in the driver’s seat of your sex life, actively creating the passion and connection you truly desire.

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Grief, Healing and Evidence of An Afterlife with Liz Entin Aug 13, 2025

Liz Entin didn't believe in an afterlife. She wasn’t spiritual, and she avoided thinking about death. That changed after she lost her father. His death didn't just bring grief, it sparked a search for answers.

In this episode, Liz shares how that search led her into quantum physics, reincarnation research, and mediumship. We talk about how she went from skeptic to believer after encountering evidence she couldn’t ignore. She even tested psychics using fake names and burner phones, trying to confirm or debunk what they said.

Liz is the author of WTF Just Happened?!: A Sciencey-Skeptic Explores Grief, Healing, and Evidence of an Afterlife and the host of the WTF Just Happened?!podcast. What makes her story unique is that it’s based on firsthand experiences and real evidence, not blind faith.

Liz discusses:

The moment she realized life after death couldn’t be dismissed
The University of Virginia’s reincarnation studies that shifted her perspective
Her secret tests of mediums with Google Voice numbers, fake names, and burner emails
The signs and synchronicities that changed everything for her
How she accidentally gave her own mediumship reading
How afterlife awareness shifts the grief journey

Liz’s story is about more than loss. It’s about discovering something deeper in the wake of tragedy. If you’ve ever questioned what happens after we die, or if you’re hoping for a sign from someone you’ve lost, this episode is for you.

Want to learn more about Liz?

Check out her books, her podcast, and her grief-meets-science salons at wtfjusthappened.net

Follow her on Instagram: @wtf_just_happened_

And if you’re curious about your own healing, I invite you to explore my Good Grief Course. It's filled with tools, practices, and support to help you connect and grow through loss.

If this episode touched your heart, or if you have a story or sign to share, email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com. We’re in this together.

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Sex on the First Date: Bold Move or Big Mistake? Aug 06, 2025

So the date’s going really well. The drinks are flowing, the laughter is effortless, the chemistry? Off the charts. One thing leads to another... and you sleep together.

Now you’re lying in bed, wondering: Was that a mistake?

Should you have waited? Does having sex so soon make you seem less serious—or just honest about your desires? Can it create real connection, or does it shut the door before anything deeper begins?

In this Language of Love Session, I respond to a heartfelt question from Susie, who finds herself second-guessing her decision to have sex on the first date. I explore the emotional landmines of modern dating—especially in a world of ghosting, dating apps, and conflicting advice.

You will learn:

Why dating apps have changed the rules—and how to protect your heart
How delaying sex can reveal true intentions (without playing games)
What oxytocin does to your brain (and why it matters after sex)
The truth about “earning” intimacy—and how it builds mutual respect
Why your sexuality is a gift, and how to share it with intention
When first-date sex does work—and what to watch for if it doesn’t

If you’ve ever second-guessed sleeping with someone too soon—or felt like you gave too much too fast—this one’s for you. And if someone disappears after sex, I explain why that says everything about them, not you.

Have your own story to share or a question for Dr. Berman? Email languageoflovepod@gmail.com. You might hear it featured in a future session.

For more on navigating intimacy and dating with confidence, visit my website or check out my newest book, Sex Magic.

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5 Things High Desire Women Secretly Wish Their Partners Knew Aug 04, 2025

We hear so much about low libido, but what about the women who feel alive with desire, who crave connection and intimacy, and don’t always know where to put all that energy?

If that’s you, I see you. If you love a woman like that, listen closely.

In this Language of Love Bite, I dive into what high desire women secretly wish their partners knew. You’re not too much. You’re not too needy. Your sensuality is sacred and it deserves to be honored, not dimmed.

I share five powerful truths that can shift how we understand desire, along with a beautiful, simple 5-minute eye-gazing ritual to help you reconnect without pressure, agenda, or words. Just presence. Just being seen.

I talk about:

Why desire isn’t just physical: it’s energetic and emotional
How initiating sex is often a bid for closeness, not control
The heartbreak of dimming yourself to make others comfortable
Why presence matters more than performance in bed
How your desire, fully expressed, becomes a gift to the relationship

Whether you’re a high-desire woman or you love one, this episode is here to remind you:

Your sensual energy isn’t something to fix.

It’s a power to honor.

If you’re craving tools that blend intimacy, healing, and pleasure, grab Sex Magic, because true connection begins when we stop performing and start seeing each other, soul to soul.

And don’t forget to visit my website to explore 7 Days to Better Sex, a transformational program designed to put you in the driver’s seat of your sex life, actively creating the passion you crave and deserve.

Because this isn’t about fixing yourself… it’s about reclaiming your power.

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Dying to Be Me: Love and Truth from the Other Side with Anita Moorjani Jul 30, 2025

Have you ever lost someone you love and found yourself wondering… where did they go? Are they still near? Can they feel me?

In this episode of Language of Love Conversations, I’m joined by Anita Moorjani. A bestselling author and globally respected speaker, Anita has been a guiding light for me and for many who have walked through grief. When I lost my mother 12 years ago, her book Dying to Be Me helped me feel less alone and more connected to something beyond this life.

Anita’s story is nothing short of miraculous. After a four-year battle with cancer, her body shut down completely. Doctors declared she wouldn’t make it. But during a 30-hour near-death experience, Anita crossed over into what she describes as the most loving, peaceful, and joy-filled space imaginable. There was no pain. No fear. Just pure freedom.

And yet, she could still feel her family’s sorrow. She wanted so badly to comfort them, to let them know she was okay. She was in a much better place now, but had no body, no words. What she experienced during that time challenged everything she’d ever believed.

In this episode, Anita opens up about what she saw on the other side and how even the soul of her estranged father met her in love. What she learned changed her life. It just might change yours, too.

We talk about:

Anita’s experience with cancer, death, and healing
What she learned about love, forgiveness, and who we really are
How your loved ones keep supporting you after they’re gone
Why you don’t have to keep grieving to show your love, and how healing helps you and them
How her father’s spirit helped her live without fear
Ways you can raise your energy to connect with those who have passed
What spirit looks like, if it has a body, and if it changes over time
How her healing affected the doctors and medical staff
Advice for those who lost a partner and wonder if it’s okay to love again
What instant manifestation looks like after death
Why some disturbing dreams aren’t messages from loved ones, and how real messages come through
Anita’s thoughts on reincarnation and soul plans and the 360-degree tapestry of life
The three main truths she learned on the other side
Why life can feel like a video game with more going on behind the scenes

If Anita’s story speaks to you, you can read her book Dying to Be Me. or visit her website.

You can also find her on LinkedIn and YouTube. There’s a Sedona retreat coming soon for those interested.

If you’re grieving, you don’t have to go through it alone. Check out the Good Grief Course on my website for support and guidance.

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Same-Sex Fantasies: What Do They Mean? Jul 23, 2025

What do same-sex fantasies really mean? You’re in a loving, heterosexual relationship. You feel close to your partner—emotionally and physically. And yet… your imagination is taking you somewhere unexpected. Somewhere that involves desire, intimacy, and sex—with the same gender.

In this episode of Language of Love Session, we dive into this very experience through Chelsea’s story. She’s been with her male partner for years. Their bond is strong. The love is real. But lately, her mind has been drifting. Recurring sexual fantasies about women have started popping up—quietly, insistently, and powerfully.

She hasn’t acted on them. She doesn’t want to end her relationship. But she can’t help but wonder:

“Does this mean I’m gay or bi? Or are same-sex fantasies just… fantasies?”

This session unpacks what fantasies are really about—why they don’t always match our lived desires, and how you can explore them without fear or shame. You don’t need a label to ask the question. You’re allowed to be curious.

If you’ve ever wondered what your fantasies might mean—or if they mean anything at all—this one’s for you.

We explore:

Why same-sex fantasies are far more common than you think (especially for women)
What the Kinsey Scale can teach you about the fluidity of sexual desire
How to separate fantasy from identity—and why they don’t always need to match
Why you don’t have to act on a fantasy for it to be meaningful, fun, or real
The difference between curiosity, confusion, and true longing

And if you’re exploring new territory in your mind or your relationship, I’d love to hear from you. Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com—your story could help someone else feel more seen. Visit my website or dive into my latest book, Sex Magic, for a transformative look at pleasure and self-discovery.

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How Your Attachment Style Shapes Your Sex Life Jul 21, 2025

You know that weird knot in your stomach when your partner doesn’t text back? Or that moment when, after an argument, you just totally shut down? What if I told you those little patterns don’t just mess with your relationship—they sneak into your sex life too?

In this Language of Love Bite, we’re getting real about something we all bring to the bedroom but almost never talk about: your attachment style.

I’m talking about how the way you love is literally the way you touch. Whether you’re anxious, avoidant, secure, or somewhere in between, those patterns show up in bed—and not always in ways you expect. This isn’t about slapping a label on you. It’s about freeing you. Because once you get what’s really going on, you can change the script—and finally experience the kind of intimacy your body and heart have been starving for.

Here’s what uncover together:

Why anxious attachment can make sex feel like a test you’re scared to fail—and why rejection hits like a gut punch.
Why avoidant attachment might have you pulling away from closeness, even when you’re totally turned on.
How disorganized attachment turns desire into a confusing, scary mix—often tied to old wounds you didn’t even realize were still there.
What secure attachment really feels like—being safe, present, and emotionally connected during sex.
And the one powerful question that reveals your true sexual attachment needs—and opens the door to healing

Whether you're over-giving in bed, emotionally checking out, or somewhere in the middle, this episode offers a mirror—and a map. Your patterns aren’t permanent. With awareness, your attachment style can evolve. And sex? It can become a space of deep healing, not just habit.

Want to go deeper? Grab my bookSex Magic for body-based tools that rebuild trust, safety, and sacred connection.

Feeling seen by this episode? Share your story: Email languageoflovepod@gmail.com

Because how you love… is how you touch.

And you deserve to feel safe enough to surrender.

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How to Sense, Hear & Communicate with Loved Ones on the Other Side with Rebecca Rosen Jul 16, 2025

The truth is, death doesn’t sever bonds. Love doesn’t end with a last breath. And if you’ve ever longed for one more moment, one more word, one more chance to say I love you… This might change everything.

In this powerful episode, I sit down with my dear friend Rebecca Rosen, a celebrated evidential medium and soul guide, for a live, unfiltered session that bridges worlds. Together, we explore how grief, while devastating, can also become a doorway, not just to healing, but to a connection far deeper and more enduring than you ever thought possible.

Like so many of you, I’ve wrestled with the ache of loss, and I’ve also seen how that ache cracks us wide open to experiences that defy logic but speak straight to the soul. The truth is, our loved ones aren’t gone. They’re speaking… just in a different language. And once you learn how to hear them, you’ll realize they’ve been with you all along.

We dive into:

Why mediumship isn’t reserved for a “special few,” and that we all have the gift of intuition
How grief, trauma, and even daily stress can block your ability to connect—and how to shift it
The difference between the 3D, 4D, and 5D realms (and how to access higher guidance)
What the Akashic Records are and how they can reveal messages from your soul family
How to spot signs from your loved ones and strengthen your trust in their presence
Simple practices to raise your vibration, heal energetically, and create "heaven on earth"
The truth about soul contracts, soul groups, and why even loss can serve your spiritual growth

If you’ve ever doubted the whispers of your heart, this conversation will awaken you to a love that never dies. Press play. Open your mind. And prepare to meet them again, for the first time.

P.S. Don’t miss Rebecca’s What’s Your Heaven?—a breathtaking guide to finding peace now, not just in the afterlife. Visit her website or Instagram for more inspiring resources.

Your story matters. Have you received a sign? A dream? A message you can’t explain? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com—your experience could be the proof someone else needs to believe.

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Stop Asking for Romance - Do This Instead Jul 09, 2025

Does your partner feel more like a roommate than a lover lately? You’re definitely not alone—and you’re not wrong for wanting more.

In this Language of Love Session, I help Shauna, who’s been with her partner for three years. She misses the early days—the surprise love notes, spontaneous date nights, the simple act of hand-holding. Now? It feels like they’re stuck in a routine, more like roommates navigating a to-do list than lovers sharing a life. She’s tried dropping hints, even having honest conversations, but nothing seems to shift. Her question: How do I ask for more romance without making him feel like he’s failing?

Together, we dig into why passion so often fades in long-term relationships—and how to revive that spark with intention, not pressure.

You’ll learn:

Why the “infatuation phase” ends—and what comes next in a healthy love story
The sex-romance stalemate: what it is and how it silently sabotages connection
How to give your partner a roadmap to romance (without it feeling like a chore)
Why men and women often feel loved in very different ways—and how to bridge the gap
How emotional and physical intimacy feed each other in a lasting relationship
What role sexual availability plays in inspiring affection—and how to talk about it
The subtle ways your own behavior might be discouraging romance (and how to shift it)
When to seek couples therapy—and why it’s not just for marriages in crisis

Plus, I share a simple, powerful communication strategy that invites your partner into deeper connection—without shame, blame, or ultimatums.

If you feel stuck in a routine that no longer feels like love, this episode is your invitation to begin again.

Have a question about your own love life? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com to be featured in a future episode—or even join me live on the show.

Looking for tools to deepen your connection and reignite your passion? Head over to my website for expert-backed resources designed to help you heal, grow, and thrive in your relationships. Explore my 7 Days to Better Sex program and take my free quiz to discover what you truly want in love.

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Why Does Sex Leave Me Feeling So Alone? Jul 08, 2025

You just had sex… and now you feel worse." The bodies were close, the chemistry was there, maybe even fireworks. But now you're lying there, staring at the ceiling, wondering why do I feel so damn empty? Maybe there was no emotional spark, just physical contact—and now you're caught in the afterglow of regret. You’re not broken. You’re not alone. And no, you’re not crazy for wanting more than just skin-on-skin.

In this episode of Language of Love Bite, we’re talking about lonely sex—why it happens, how to spot it, and how one honest sentence can shift everything. It’s raw. It’s real. And it might just save your next connection from becoming another ghost in your bed.

We're going deep on:

Why sex doesn’t automatically equal intimacy – How physical closeness can still leave you feeling disconnected
The “maintenance sex” trap – When sex becomes transactional (and why quickies aren’t the problem)
Why emotional foreplay matters – Especially for those with responsive desire or “feminine” energy
How past trauma or dissociation can creep into the bedroom – Leaving you feeling alone even when you’re not
The one sentence that can transform your connection – A simple invitation to bring hearts (not just bodies) closer

Feeling disconnected even in a sexually active relationship? You’re not the only one. Share your story: Email languageoflovepod@gmail.com—your experience could help someone else feel less alone.

Craving a deeper connection? Grab my book Sex Magic for tools on sacred intimacy.

Because you deserve sex that makes you feel whole—not hollow.

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A Space in the Heart with Larry Carlat Jul 02, 2025

What happens when the worst thing you can imagine… actually happens?

When Larry Carlat’s son, Rob, died by suicide, it shattered his world. Yet from that profound heartbreak emerged something unexpected: deep connection, renewed purpose, and a love more powerful than he ever imagined possible.

In this raw and deeply moving Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Larry Carlat—writer, father, and an unexpected guide through grief. His book, A Space in the Heart: A Survival Guide for Grieving Parents, weaves memoir with grounded wisdom, offering solace not just for bereaved parents, but for anyone navigating the loss of a loved one.

But Larry isn't your typical grief expert. He didn't seek out groups. Spirituality wasn't his starting point. He wasn't even sure he believed in an afterlife—until grief cracked him wide open, leading to an extraordinary journey.

Together, we explore:

Losing his son Rob—and the love that outlived him
How Larry went from a “lone wolf” to grief coach, group leader, and friend to fellow grievers
The healing magic of community, even for guys who never thought they’d talk about their feelings
Psychedelic journeys and psychic mediums—how Larry reconnected with Rob on the other side
Why grief is one of the most potent paths to spiritual awakening
What men need (but rarely ask for) when they’re in pain—and how Larry is creating safe spaces for them to cry, connect, and heal
The truth about guilt, shame, and the choice to live again—even after unimaginable loss

Larry’s story is a vital reminder: we don’t have to "move on" to move forward. Joy and sorrow can coexist. If you’re grieving or supporting someone who is, this conversation offers a beacon of hope and understanding.

If this episode speaks to your heart, there’s more support waiting for you.

A Space in the Heart: A Survival Guide for Grieving Parents is a powerful read for anyone navigating the impossible.

For men navigating grief, check out Larry’s work at griefforguys.com or reach him at lcarlat@gmail.com.

Curious about connecting beyond loss? The Grief Healing Collective offers live sessions, resources, and community. Start with my Good Grief Course for practical tools.

If you’ve felt your loved one close or want to, this episode is for you.

Share your story: languageoflovepod@gmail.com

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Discover the Magic That Rekindles Passion Jun 25, 2025

Are you looking for more ways to spice things up in the bedroom? We’ve all heard the usual—lingerie, toys, candlelit date nights, maybe even a threesome. But have you ever wondered if the real magic has been there all along, just waiting for you to try? What if feeling more, instead of doing more, is what really lights the fire? Curious to find out?

In this special Language of Love Bite, I dive into something that’s not just my newest obsession—it’s the subject of my brand-new book: Sex Magic.

The truth is, the pandemic—and everything that came after it—opened my eyes. I started seeing more and more people, whether in monogamous or non-monogamous relationships, desperately looking for ways to spice things up. And while the desire was valid, the strategies? Often risky. I heard from couples exploring threesomes, opening their relationships, chasing novelty in ways that were threatening the very foundations of their connection.

But what if I told you that there are powerful, beautiful, time-tested ways to bring that spark back—and they’ve been around for thousands of years? That’s where Sex Magic comes in.

In this episode, I share:

Why traditional advice on “spicing it up” only goes so far
What the ancient traditions of Tantra, Taoism, and Kundalini can teach us about modern intimacy
How to move sexual energy through your whole body—and even beyond
A ritual you can use to manifest your desires during orgasm (yes, really)
How sex magic can create emotional intimacy, spiritual connection, and even…miracles

Whether you're solo or partnered, curious or all-in, this episode is your invitation to explore a whole new dimension of pleasure, connection, and personal power.

Want to take it further? When you grab your copy of Sex Magic, you’ll also receive bonus tools:

My Quantum Sexweb course
A beautiful Sex Magic Ritual Journal
A live initiation replay to help you get started

Visit drlauraberman.com/sexmagic to learn more.

And if you try these practices or manifest something juicy, I want to hear from you! Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com—your story might inspire someone else to claim their magic.

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The Intimacy Freeze: What No One Tells You About Sexless Relationships Jun 23, 2025

Have you ever looked across the room at your partner and thought, “When did we become roommates instead of lovers?” Maybe you’re still affectionate, still loving—but the sexual connection? Practically nonexistent. If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone.

In fact, nearly 1 in 5 marriages are considered “sexless,” but that doesn’t mean your spark is gone for good.

In this Language of Love Bite, we’re diving deep into the real reasons couples stop being intimate—and exactly how to rebuild your sex life step-by-step, even if it’s been months (or years). By the end of this episode, you’ll know exactly what to say to your partner—and how to start feeling sexy together again.

In this episode, we’re breaking down:

The top 3 culprits behind sexless relationships (it’s not just stress!)
Why emotional safety is the real aphrodisiac
The exact words to use when you want to bring up the lack of sex—without it getting awkward
The sensual (not sexual) ritual that jumpstarts physical intimacy without pressure
A proven sex therapy technique called sensate focus that helps you reawaken desire
The gentle roadmap from no sex… to next-level pleasure

If conversations feel too loaded, find a certified sex therapist via AASECT.

Don’t miss out on 7 Days to Better Sex —a game-changing guide designed to bring more passion and connection into your relationship. Plus, take my Free quiz to discover new ways to strengthen your bond and take your relationship to the next level. And be sure to check out my newest book, Sex Magic, to take your sex life to an entirely new level. You can also check my video on Rebuilding Connection in Relationships

Have a love language success story or a challenge you’re facing? I’d love to hear from you! Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com —your story might just inspire others in a future episode.

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Truth, Trauma and Transformation with Dr. Frank Anderson Jun 18, 2025

Ever feel emotions that don’t seem to belong to you? Like you're carrying pain that started long before you were born? What if the things you’re struggling with—sexual trauma, shame, fear of being seen—aren’t just yours... but inherited?

In this Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Dr. Frank Anderson, a renowned trauma psychiatrist who’s helped countless people heal—but had to take his own journey first. Frank’s new book, To Be Loved: A Story of Truth, Trauma and Transformation, blends memoir with a trauma healing guide. But before he could write it, he had to live it. He grew up disconnected from his body, afraid to show who he really was, and deeply shaped by generations of silence and suppression.

In this episode, we go deep into:

How trauma hides in families for generations—and how to spot it in your own
Why intellect and “having it all together” often hide emotional chaos
How hiding his identity became a form of survival—and how he found the courage to be fully seen
What it really means to feel inherited pain, not just analyze it
Coming out, breaking patterns, and embracing truth—on every level
The life-changing magic of combining IFS with somatic healing
And how you can start breaking cycles, too

This is more than a conversation. It’s an invitation—to feel, to face what’s been buried, and maybe, to be the one in your family who finally sets it all down.

Learn more about Dr. Frank Anderson’s work, including his new book To Be Loved: A Story of Truth, Trauma and Transformation, on his website and socials and register for his events.

Also make sure to check out the Grief Healing Collective for a community of like minded people, amazing resources on grief healing, and live healing sessions and events. You can also check out my Good Grief Course.

Have your own story about breaking the cycle? I’d love to hear it—email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com

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It’s Just Porn, But Why Does It Hurt So Much? Jun 11, 2025

So… your partner watches porn. Does that mean they’re cheating? Or is it just harmless fantasy? If you’ve ever asked yourself this—or felt a pit in your stomach after finding out—this episode is for you.

In this Language of Love session, I answer a powerful question from a listener named Karen. She just found out her boyfriend watches porn regularly, and she’s not sure how to feel. Hurt? Angry? Insecure? Betrayed?

Here’s the thing—this isn’t just about porn. It’s about trust. Boundaries. Feeling seen and safe in your relationship. And we’re going there.

In this episode, we get into:

Why watching porn doesn’t automatically mean someone is cheating
When fantasy crosses the line into a problem
What porn does to the brain—and why so many people got hooked during the pandemic
How too much porn can mess with intimacy (like, seriously mess with it)
Why it’s totally normal to feel triggered or rejected—and how to talk about it with your partner
The difference between emotional safety and sexual shame—and how to move through both
Real tips for navigating conversations around porn, self-pleasure, and trust

Remember to visit my website to take a free quiz and explore 7 Days to Better Sex. It’s not about right or wrong—it’s about discovering what’s true for you. I’m here to help you gain clarity on what you want, what feels right, and how to bring more honesty and connection into your relationships.

And if you’ve ever felt alone in your struggles, know this: you’re not. So many of us are navigating the same questions.

Got something on your mind? A story or question you'd like to share? I’d love to hear from you. Email me anytime at languageoflovepod@gmail.com.

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The One Question That Could Make or Break Your Relationship Jun 08, 2025

They say love is enough—but is it really? What if one simple question could reveal whether your relationship is built for long-term growth… or destined to quietly fall apart?

In this Language of Love Bite, we explore the subtle but powerful force that separates short-lived connection from lasting partnership: mutual inspiration. This isn’t about how often you laugh together or whether you share a Spotify playlist. It’s about whether you feel proud of who you’re becoming with this person—and if your future selves are being shaped by love, not stifled by it.

You’ll also learn a 2-minute reflection exercise (called “The Mirror Test”) that just might change the way you look at your relationship forever. Let’s dive in!

What You’ll Learn:

The one question that can predict whether your relationship is built to last
Why growth—not just chemistry—is the real glue in long-term love
Key signs your partner supports your evolution (and red flags they might not)
How admiration and inspiration fuel deeper connection
Simple ways to check in on growth—monthly rituals, vision sharing, and more
How to use journaling to reinforce love, even in small everyday moments
“The Mirror Test”: A quick exercise to assess who you’ve become in this relationship—and who you’re becoming

Because true love doesn’t just feel good. It helps you grow.

Want to see how your relationship is really doing? Start with my free quiz and explore 7 Days to Better Sex, a gentle path toward more connection, honesty, and intimacy.

Got a question or a story to share? I’d love to hear from you at languageoflovepod@gmail.com

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The Sacred Wait: When Desire Meets Devotion with Sohale Sizar Jun 04, 2025

What does it mean to wait for love—not out of fear, but from deep, spiritual conviction?

In this extraordinary Language of Love Conversation, we meet Sohale—a man who, at 32, has never been physically intimate with another person. Not because he’s afraid of love, but because he reveres it. For Sohale, sex isn't casual—it's sacred. A union of energy, soul, and spirit. And he’s been saving himself for that.

But the story doesn’t begin (or end) there. It started in childhood—with a mystical calling, a boundary-crossing pediatrician, and a little boy who learned to transform trauma into prayer. And it continues today—as Sohale navigates the modern dating world with ancient longing, tantric wisdom, and unwavering faith that the right soul will meet him where he stands.

Here’s What We Cover:

How a sexually abusive pediatric exam shaped Sohale’s sensuality—and his lifelong relationship with spirit
How Sohale discovered fusing sexual energy with prayer from a young age
How gratitude (and a simple email trick) became the emotional lifeline in his darkest hours
The unexpected power of tantric self-practice—and how it helped him heal
What it means to look for a partner not just with a body, but with a soul attuned to divinity

Try Sohale’s Soul app—where spontaneous gratitude meets spiritual practice. Whether you're drawn to Sufism, Tantra, Kabbalah, or Kriya Yoga, there’s a 30-day soul path waiting for you.

Use code: 30DaysOnMe at https://www.bringsoul.life/

Got thoughts? Stories? Or a tantric soulmate for Sohale? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com

And if this moved you—share it. Healing becomes sacred when we do it together.

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Is It Still Love If Touch Feels Like a Risk? May 28, 2025

Love after trauma isn’t just about passion—it’s about patience. The quiet moments between kisses, the hesitation in a held hand, the unspoken fear that lingers in intimacy… These are the places where love is tested—and where it can be rebuilt.

In this Language of Love Session, we return to Brian and Stacey’s raw, unfolding story. If you’ve been with us, you know: this isn’t just about sex. It’s about two hearts trying to find safety in each other—while wrestling with the ghosts of their pasts.

(If you’re new here, make sure to listen to my past sessions with Brian and Stacy to learn about the heartache, the fights, the small victories that brought them here.)

So what happens when healing almost feels within reach? When the arguments soften, the warmth returns… and then—out of nowhere—the old pain rushes back in?

Here’s What You’ll Take Away:

“I want to, but I can’t”—why this conflict is more common than we admit (and how to move through it)
How childhood wounds whisper in adult intimacy—and how to quiet them
When even loving touch feels like pressure—and how to rewrite that story
Why watching porn together became a bridge, not a wall
The moment a simple kiss became the bravest act of all
How couples accidentally retraumatize each other—and how to stop
The shift that helped Stacey reclaim her body—and her voice
Why Brian is learning that patience isn’t passive—it’s love in action

Want to feel safe in your own skin—and in your partner’s arms? Start with my free quiz and then delve into 7 Days to Better Sex. If you're navigating deeper wounds, explore EMDR therapy or dive into the Drama Triangle—because real love shouldn’t reopen old scars. Your story isn’t over. In fact, the most healing chapters may be just ahead.

Questions or thoughts? I’d love to hear from you: languageoflovepod@gmail.com

And if this episode moved you, share it. Healing is contagious when we do it together.

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Why Your Soulmate Isn’t Who You Think May 26, 2025

What if everything you've been told about love...is wrong? That magical moment when you'll meet "The One"—the perfect partner who completes you, understands you effortlessly, and makes love feel easy forever. But what happens when the fairy tale doesn't come true? When the spark fades and you're left wondering: Did I choose wrong? Is my real soulmate still out there?

The real question isn't "Have I found my perfect match?"—it's "Am I with someone worth growing with?" Because the most powerful love stories aren't about finding—they're about building.

In this explosive Language of Love Bite, we get into:

Is finding "The One" a myth or a real possibility
The 3 non-negotiables that matter more than chemistry or shared hobbies
The #1 predictor of long-term success
The must-ask question before committing to someone
Monthly "growth check-ins"—how thriving couples stay aligned
When to walk away

Take my free quiz to get a clearer picture of what you’re really looking for in love. And make sure to check out my newest book, Sex Magic, which will take your sex life to the next level whether you are single or in a relationship!

Got any questions? Feel free to email us at languageoflovepod@gmail.com. And hey, love grows when we learn together—so share this episode and let’s spread the love!

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Turning Temptation into Transformation with Mark Walberg May 21, 2025

What if the role you’ve played your whole life—the one that made people love you, trust you, applaud you—was actually the thing keeping you from yourself?

In this moving Language of Love Conversations, I sit down with Mark Walberg—not the Ted movie star, but the television host known for his charm, wit, and steady presence on hit shows like Antiques Roadshow and Temptation Island. After watching this season of Temptation Island for the first time, I was stunned. Despite having no clinical training, Mark intuitively held space for confessions, breakdowns, and deep self reckonings,— guiding the cast through their fears, blind spots, and emotional blocks with incredible insight and timing. He was doing a better job than lots of therapists I know! I had to understand where that wisdom came from.

Mark didn’t disappoint. In this Language of Love Conversation, he pulls back the curtain and shares his own journey, from the pressures of fame to the private unraveling that brought him to his knees, and eventually to a place of radical honesty. We talk about the fear of feeling, the cost of emotional suppression, and how it’s never too late to come home to yourself.

Here’s a sneak peek…

The surprising lessons Mark learned about love while hosting Temptation Island
How a successful career became a hiding place—and what it took to step out of it
Why approval from the crowd can’t replace real connection
The childhood wounds he carried into adulthood—and how he finally began to face them
What happens when you stop numbing and start feeling
The role his wife played in calling him back to himself
How fatherhood cracked him open in the best (and hardest) ways
Why vulnerability might just be the most courageous thing a man can offer

Remember to follow Mark Walberg’s continuing story on his website and socials. Also make sure to check out the Grief Healing Collective for a community of like minded people, amazing resources on grief healing, and live healing sessions and events. You can also check out my Good Grief Course.

Got thoughts? Stories? Or a revelation of your own? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com!

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Meet Yourself In Truth with Janne Robinson May 14, 2025

Do you ever feel like your life no longer fits you? Like you’re walking around in a version of yourself that you’ve outgrown—but you're not sure what the next version looks like?

In this powerful Language of Love Conversation, I’m thrilled to welcome back poet, author, and truth-teller Janne Robinson to the show. Together, we explore what happens when you hit that inner wall—when you're stuck, misaligned, or playing house in a life that no longer feels like your own.

We dive deep into Janne’s journey from living a life that looked good on paper but felt soul-crushing, to courageously claiming her truth and starting over twice.

We explore:

Why “not this” is often the first clue—and the most sacred invitation to begin again
What to do when your partner isn’t growing with you—and how to honor love even in letting go
The radical power of one honest conversation to change the entire energy of your relationship
How your body speaks the truth before your mind is ready to hear it
The emotional and physical toll of living in misalignment—and why your soul won’t let you fake it forever
How shame keeps us silent—and how your truth can set not just you, but others, free
Why having a guide who’s walked the hard path before you changes everything
And why love that grows with you, not around you, is the rarest, richest love of all

Ready to begin your own truth-telling journey?

Join Janne’s free 10-day experience, Meet Yourself in Truth, starting June 2nd—a sacred space for live coaching, community, and the gentle unraveling of what no longer serves you.

Connect with Janne on her website and join the waitlist for her upcoming book Truth Is Your Medicine. You can also follow her on Facebook and Instagram for updates and don’t forget to visit my website for expert-backed resources to help you heal, grow, and thrive in your relationships.

Have you left behind a life that no longer fits—or are you still standing at the edge, unsure what’s next? I’d love to hear your story. Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com to share your journey and be considered for a future episode.

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Renegade Grief: How to Grieve Out Loud in a World That Wants You Silent with Carla Fernandez May 07, 2025

What does it mean to grieve in a world that tells you to move on? How do you find light in the darkest corners of loss, and can grief—often seen as a burden—become a source of connection, creativity, and even transformation?

After losing her father at just 21 years old, author Carla Fernandez became a "renegade griever," defying societal norms and creating a space where grief could be shared, honored, and even celebrated.

In a culture that often shies away from death and discourages open expressions of sorrow, Carla chose a different path. Her journey led to the birth of her book Renegade Grief and a global community called The Dinner Party, that has touched the lives of over 20,000 young adults navigating the complexities of loss.

In this powerful Language of Love Conversation, Carla joins us to share her story and the lessons she’s learned from sitting at the tables of countless grievers. If you’ve ever felt isolated in your grief or struggled to find a safe space to express your pain, this episode is for you.

Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode:

How grieving "outside the lines" can transform pain into power with Carla’s concept of Renegade Grief.
How a simple potluck dinner evolved into The Dinner Party, a global lifeline for thousands navigating loss.
The healing power of rituals to stay connected to your loved ones.
How society lost its way with grief and why reclaiming communal grieving practices is essential.
Find out the most healing words you could ever hear in grief
The mysterious world of grief dreams and what they might reveal about your connection to those you’ve lost.
How to channel grief into meaningful action without bypassing the emotional work it requires.

Looking for support in your grief journey? The Dinner Party connects you with others who get it—find a table near you at thedinnerparty.org.

Carla’s book, Renegade Grief, is a must-read for navigating loss with courage and creativity.

Need practical ways to honor your loved ones? From altars to grief quests, Grief Rituals offers meaningful ways to process your emotions. Remember to visit Carla’s website for more. Also make sure to check out the Grief Healing Collective for a community of like minded people, amazing resources on grief healing, and live healing sessions and events. You can also check out my Good Grief Course.

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The Real Reason You’re Stuck in the Same Fight (Again and Again) Apr 30, 2025

Do you ever feel like your relationship is stuck in a loop? The same fights, the same frustrations, the same silent distance—even though you both want things to be better.

Here’s the truth: Your partner’s baggage fits yours perfectly. The work isn’t to change them—it’s to unpack your own while holding space for theirs.

In this raw and revealing Language of Love session, Brian and Stacey lay bare their struggle—blame, withdrawal, and the aching fear of not being enough. Stacey is fighting to reclaim her voice after trauma, wondering if her needs even matter.Brian admits he’s been avoiding effort, hiding behind the excuse of being “too busy.”

Their story is your story. The tiny misunderstandings that explode into disconnection. The love that’s there but buried under frustration. The desperate hope that things could be different—if only they knew how.

If you've ever felt invisible in your relationship, used "busyness" as an excuse to avoid hard conversations, wondered why affection feels like a battleground, or found yourself trapped in the blame-defend-withdraw cycle, this episode will leave you breathless—and give you the tools to break free.

Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode:

Why “I don’t have time” is often code for avoidance—and how to fix it
The silent killer of relationships: unspoken expectations around affection
How just 10 minutes of intentional time can rebuild connection
The Drama Triangle (Victim, Villain, Hero)—and how to step off it
How to ask for love without triggering defensiveness
Why childhood wounds keep replaying in your relationship—and how to stop them
Non-sexual touch: The secret to rebuilding emotional safety
How to hold space for both love and frustration (yes, it’s possible!)

Ready to Heal?

Take my free quiz and start 7 Days to Better Sex to transform intimacy today. For deeper trauma work, explore EMDR and the Drama Triangle—because love shouldn’t hurt this much.

Your story isn’t over yet. Let’s rewrite it together.

Got questions? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com

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Tiny Relationship Rituals That Bring Back the Spark Apr 28, 2025

Have you ever felt like the spark between you and your partner has… well, fizzled out? Like, maybe you’re sitting on opposite ends of the couch scrolling through your phones instead of actually talking ? Or worse, you’ve started avoiding conversations because they feel too heavy or awkward? Trust me, you’re not alone.

What if I told you that fixing this disconnect doesn’t require hours of deep talks, expensive date nights, or some grand romantic gesture? What if all it takes is just five minutes a day?

In this Language of Love Bite, we’re diving into why disconnection happens—and more importantly, how you can fix it faster than you think. By the end of this episode, you’ll have an easy-to-follow ritual that will reignite intimacy and bring you closer than ever before.

Here’s what we dive into:

The 3 most common stealth disconnection culprits
A powerful 60 second technique that will maximize your connection
How to turn mundane moments into micro-connections
The "gratitude hug" that doubles as relationship armor against stress
Active listening tricks that make your partner feel truly heard
The heart-to-heart hold ritual that synchronizes your emotional wavelengths

Don’t miss out on7 Days to Better Sex—a game-changing guide designed to bring more passion and connection into your relationship. Plus, take my Free quiz to discover new ways to strengthen your bond and take your relationship to the next level. And be sure to check out my newest book, Sex Magic, to take your sex life to an entirely new level. Your love life deserves this!

Have a love language success story or a challenge you’re facing? I’d love to hear from you! Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com —your story might just inspire others in a future episode.

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When Grief Becomes Your Greatest Teacher with Devi Brown Apr 23, 2025

What happens when your world falls apart—and you’re left standing in the wreckage, asking, “Who am I now?”

In this moving Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with the wise and radiant Devi Brown to talk about grief, trauma, surrender, and the surprising strength we find in our most broken moments. Devi shares how a series of devastating events—including the death of a dear friend, the end of her marriage, and the unraveling of long-held identities—sent her into a deep spiritual reckoning during the pandemic. Yet what emerged was a new, more rooted version of herself, one anchored in faith, self-worth, and radical presence.

Devi opens up about how she learned to stop resisting pain and instead, soften into it—finding not only healing, but beauty and transformation. We talk about faith (even when you're not sure what you believe), the difference between self-worth and self-esteem, and why it's okay (and necessary!) to fall apart.

She also shares tools from her new book Living in Wisdom, including daily practices to reconnect with your body, spirit, and sense of purpose, even in the depths of sorrow.

Here’s what we explore:

Why trauma often comes in layers—and how grief can open the door to deeper healing.
The difference between surrender and giving up.
What it means to have a relationship with God (even if you weren't raised with one).
How to recognize the sacred in everyday “tiny joys.”
The difference between self-esteem and true self-worth.
How meditation can help you move through pain and connect with divine guidance.
The practical power of mudras, breathwork, and daily ritual to restore your soul.
Why being present with your pain increases your capacity for joy.

You can connect with Devi on her website or LinkedIn, and don’t forget to grab a copy of her book Living in Wisdom for even more insights and inspiration.

If this episode resonated with you, I’d love for you to visit my website and explore the Good Grief course—it might be just what you need right now.

And if you’re looking for a supportive and healing community of grieving souls, join us at the Grief Healing Collective platform. We’re in this together.

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Can You Ever Truly Rebuild Trust After Infidelity? Apr 16, 2025

How do you move forward when trust shatters in an instant? When the person who vowed to stand by you crosses a line that feels impossible to uncross?

Here we are with another Language of Love session as I connect with Chelsea, a listener navigating the aftermath of her husband's infidelity.

Chelsea's husband confessed to drunkenly making out with another woman at a bachelor party a year ago. Since then, he's been attending therapy, practicing radical transparency, and working to rebuild trust. Yet Chelsea still struggles with obsessive thoughts: Will I ever truly move past this?

In this session, we deep dive into:

Why betrayal cuts so deep and how a single act of infidelity can trigger old wounds from past relationships or childhood
How to create a level of transparency that is crucial in rebuilding trust
The "continuum of cheating" and its implications
How our bodies can tell us the truth before our minds catch up

If Chelsea's story resonates with you - if you're navigating the painful aftermath of betrayal or struggling to rebuild trust - we want to hear from you. Your experience could help others feel less alone.

Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com to share your story for a future episode where I give you my advice. For additional support, visit my website where you'll find expert-approved resources to help heal and strengthen your relationships. And make sure to check out my newest book, Sex Magic: Take Your Body, Mind and Relationship to the Next Level with Spectacular Intimacy

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Lost in Translation: Are You Speaking Your Partner's Love Language Wrong? Apr 14, 2025

Are you loving your partner the way they need to be loved? In this Language of Love Bite, we tackle the subtle mistakes that might be undermining your efforts to love your partner well. Whether it's distracted quality time or misunderstood acts of service, these miscommunications can leave both partners feeling frustrated and disconnected. But here's the good news: with a few simple adjustments, you can start loving your partner in ways that truly land.

If you're new to love languages, make sure to check out our previous episode where we break down all five languages in detail. And stick around until the end of this episode, where I share one powerful question that can transform how you show up for your partner.

Here’s what we dive into:

Why generic compliments often fall flat (and what to say instead)
How technology is secretly sabotaging your relationship
The "foreplay" question that delights partners
How to use physical touch in a way that fortifies connection
How to give gifts that truly touch their heart, without breaking the bank
The one simple question that will tell you exactly how your partner wants to be loved

Remember to check out my free Love Languages Quiz to discover your primary love language and start improving your relationship today. Remember, love isn't just about what you give - it's about how it's received. And make sure to check out my newest book Sex Magic: Take Your Body, Mind and Relationship to the Next Level with Spectacular Intimacy.

Got a love language success story or struggle? Email us at languageoflovepod@gmail.com - we might feature your story in a future episode. And don't forget to share this with someone who's trying to love their partner better, because we all deserve to feel loved in ways that truly resonate.

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Connecting with Loved Ones Beyond the Veil with Maureen Hancock Apr 09, 2025

Your loved ones, even after passing, are still with you, guiding you, and sending signs of their presence. In this Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Maureen Hancock, a renowned medium, holistic healer, and comedian. For decades, Maureen has been helping people heal from grief by bridging the gap between this world and the next.

After surviving lead paint poisoning, a near-death experience, and a serious car accident, Maureen discovered her unique gift to communicate with the spirit world. But Maureen’s work goes beyond delivering messages from the other side—she helps people reframe their grief, teaching them that love never dies and their loved ones are always near.

In this episode, we explore:

How Maureen’s near-death experiences opened her to the spirit world
The role of humor in healing and why laughter is a powerful tool for raising your vibration
What life is like on the other side—do our loved ones continue to grow and have “jobs” in the spirit world?
How to recognize signs from spirit and feel their presence in your daily life
The power of raising your vibration to receive messages from the other side
The importance of self-care and grounding to stay connected to your intuition and spiritual guidance

If this conversation opened your heart or got you thinking, why not dive deeper? Check out Maureen’s upcoming events and courses on her website, or join her for a live Zoom session to experience her incredible healing energy in real time. You can also follow her on Facebook or explore Helping Parents Heal for even more support.

Got a question or a story about connecting with a loved one in spirit? We’d love to hear it! Send us an email at languageoflovepod@gmail.com, and be sure to visit my website for tools like the Good Grief Course to help you stay connected with those you love.

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Can Love Survive the Shadows of the Past? Apr 02, 2025

Can love truly heal the wounds of the past? It’s a question many of us ask ourselves when past traumas creep into our relationships, casting long shadows over the love we’re trying to build. For Brian and Stacey, one of the amazing couples who come on the show to get support, this question isn’t just philosophical—it’s a daily reality. How do you rebuild trust when intimacy feels like a minefield? How do you show affection when touch triggers painful memories? And can love, no matter how strong, truly heal the wounds of the past?

In this Language of Love Session, we dive deeper into the emotional rollercoaster of Brian and Stacey’s relationship. Will they find a way to bridge the growing distance between them, or will past traumas continue to pull them apart? If you’ve been following their journey, you know this is a story filled with raw emotion, vulnerability, and the struggle to heal. If you’re new, buckle up—this is a journey you won’t want to miss. And if you would like to come on the show to get some support, make sure to email us at languageoflovepod@gmail.com

Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode:

How past sexual trauma can distort feelings of love and connection
Why physical affection can feel both comforting and threatening
The double bind of wanting closeness but fearing intimacy
How to create non-sexual physical touch that fosters connection
The importance of tuning into your partner’s emotional needs
Practical tools for building warmth and trust in a relationship
How to navigate the Drama Triangle without blaming each other
The power of pausing and shifting energy during conflicts
Why avoiding each other can feel safer—but isn’t the answer

Check out my free quiz and 7 Days to Better Sexto start improving intimacy today. Healing and connection are journeys best taken with the right tools. For trauma recovery, tools like EMDR and the Drama Triangle can be incredibly helpful.

Got questions or stories to share? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com—and don’t forget to share this episode, because love is a journey we take together.

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The 5 Mistakes That Could Be Sabotaging Your Intimacy Mar 31, 2025

Are you unknowingly sabotaging your relationship? Are you caught in a cycle of recurring arguments, wondering why the spark that once brought you together feels like it’s slipping away? The truth is we often blame our partner for the growing distance between us, convinced they’re the one creating tension—when in reality, it might be the subtle, unnoticed mistakes we’re both making.

In this Language of Love Bite, I dive deep into the five common mistakes that could be quietly eroding the connection between you and your partner. I also reveal simple, actionable tips to turn things around and reignite that spark. Plus, stick around until the end for a transformational question you can ask your partner tonight that could change everything. Ready to uncover what’s been holding you back? Let’s get started!

Also, don’t miss out on the 7 Days to Better Sex program and the Free quiz, What Do You Want Out of Love? — both designed to guide you on your journey to deeper connection and fulfillment.

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How to Menopause with Tamsen Fadal Mar 26, 2025

Did you know menopause comes with 34 symptoms—yet most women are never told what to expect? Instead, they’re left guessing, struggling, and wondering if it’s all just in their heads.

In this episode of The Language of Love Conversations, I sit down with Tamsen Fadal, Emmy Award-winning journalist and menopause advocate, to get real about what’s happening to our bodies and why so many women feel unprepared. Her new book, How to Menopause: Take Charge of Your Health, Reclaim Your Life, and Feel Even Better Than Before, is changing the conversation—because menopause isn’t the end. It’s a new beginning.

Tamsen shares her personal journey through menopause, from the initial confusion and misdiagnosis to becoming a leading voice in the menopause movement. She discusses the societal stigma surrounding menopause, the flawed research that silenced a generation of women, and how she’s working to change the narrative.

If you or someone you love is going through menopause, or you’ve ever felt dismissed, confused, or alone in your menopause journey, this episode is for you. Tamsen’s story is one of resilience, advocacy, and hope, and her message is clear: you can feel better than ever before.

We dive into:

The truth behind the Women’s Health Initiative study that misled an entire generation about hormone therapy
How to recognize perimenopausal symptoms—because it’s not just hot flashes!
The 34 symptoms of menopause and why so many women go undiagnosed
What doctors should be asking you (and how to advocate for yourself if they don’t)
Hormone therapy: who it’s for, who it’s not for, and what the latest science says
Non-hormonal strategies for managing menopause—nutrition, strength training, sleep, and stress management
How menopause affects your sex life (and what you can do about it)
The cultural stigma around aging and how we can redefine what it means to thrive after 40

If you're ready to take control of menopause, pre-order Tamsen Fadal’s book, How to Menopause: Take Charge of Your Health, Reclaim Your Life, and Feel Even Better Than Before today.

For deeper insights, watch The M Factor, her must-see documentary on menopause. Join the conversation—follow Tamsen on Linkedin, visit her website and connect with a community breaking the silence on menopause.

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Work Spouse: Office Joke or Relationship Threat? Mar 18, 2025

The "work spouse" dilemma – why is this modern trend causing so much tension in relationships? You’ve likely heard the term before… It's that coworker who knows your partner’s schedule better than you do, the one who grabs a meal with your partner before a big meeting, or the person your partner vents to when work gets overwhelming.

In this episode of Language of Love Session , I dive into a listener’s question about this emotionally charged topic: the concept of a "work wife" or "work husband." Heather, one of our listeners, shares her discomfort with her husband calling a female coworker his "work wife," even though their relationship appears purely professional. Heather finds herself torn between feeling overly sensitive and wanting to protect the trust and boundaries in her marriage.

Here’s what we’ll dive into:

Why titles like "work wife" can carry ah emotional weight—and why they can actually be a threat to your relationship.
How to validate feelings of jealousy or insecurity without letting them take over.
The importance of open, honest communication when addressing sensitive topics.
Practical strategies for expressing your feelings without placing blame or creating defensiveness.
The emotional risks of developing close workplace friendships—and how to maintain healthy boundaries.
Why emotional intimacy with colleagues can sometimes overshadow your primary relationship—and how to prevent it.

Also, don't miss out on the 7 Days to Better Sex program and my free quiz,What Do You Want Out of Love? — both designed to guide you on your journey to deeper connection and fulfillment. Happy exploring!

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The Secret Ingredient to Better Sex? It’s Not What You Think… Mar 17, 2025

How many times have we overlooked the little moments that make our relationship special? The gentle touches, the inside jokes, the quiet ways our partner shows they care. It’s so easy to focus on what’s missing that we forget to appreciate what’s already there. But here’s the secret: gratitude isn’t just a feel-good idea—it’s a powerful force that can reignite passion, deepen your connection, and completely transform your love life.

In this Language of Love Bite, I pull back the curtain on how gratitude works like a love potion for your relationship. I show you how a simple “thank you” releases oxytocin—the bonding hormone—and creates a ripple effect of connection, intimacy, and yes, even better sex. Plus, I share a game-changing daily practice and a heartfelt exercise that leaves your partner feeling seen, cherished, and deeply loved.

We uncover:

Why gratitude is the ultimate aphrodisiac (yes, really!)
How focusing on the good stuff can rewrite your relationship story
A simple, daily gratitude hack that takes less than a minute but works like magic
The power of gratitude dates—and how they can bring back the butterflies
A heartfelt exercise: writing a love letter that will leave your partner speechless

And if you’re ready to take your love life to the next level, I’ve got something special for you. Head over to my website and check out my free course on Quantum Sex. You’ll learn how to unlock full-body orgasms, use sex magic to manifest your dreams, and connect with your partner on a deeper, more intimate level.

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A Love Story in 250 Questions with Lindsay Jill Roth Mar 12, 2025

Is your hesitation—your fear of being fully seen—actually keeping you from the deep, lasting connection you crave?

In this episode of The Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Lindsay Jill Roth, award-winning producer and author of Romances and Practicalities: A Love Story (Maybe Yours) in 250 Questions.

Lindsay isn’t afraid to tackle the tough stuff. We dive deep into the role of religion in relationships, the stigma around dating divorced people, and why so many of us shut down love before it even has a chance to grow.

She also takes on a challenge so many career-driven women face—hitting their 40s, finally ready to settle down, only to realize that most of the men they’re meeting are already dads. How do you navigate that? How do you avoid getting stuck in this situation in the first place? And most importantly—how do you move forward without settling for something that isn’t right for you?

We’re diving into:

Why so many people feel lost in love—even with endless advice at their fingertips
The hidden ways we sabotage our relationships without realizing it
How asking the right questions can transform how we connect with a partner
The surprising link between communication and attraction (yes, talking can be sexy!)
Why those “butterflies” you feel might actually be a red flag
The tough topics we avoid—like religion, divorce, and long-term compatibility
Why we’re too quick to write people off early in relationships (and what we might be missing)
How self-awareness and personal growth shape who we attract
The key to building emotional safety, trust, and deeper intimacy

Want more from Lindsay? Connect with her on Instagram and check out her book Romances and Practicalities: A Love Story (Maybe Yours) in 250 Questions for even deeper insights.

Remember to check out my Quantum Sex Course for next-level intimacy and connection. And as always, let’s keep having these conversations about love, sex, and relationships—because even though it’s still a taboo topic, it’s one we need to be talking about.

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When Love Feels Like a Tug-of-War: Breaking the Cycle of Conflict Mar 05, 2025

Are you stuck in the same argument over and over again? It starts with something small—an offhand comment, a last-minute plan, or a simple misunderstanding. Before you know it, you’re in yet another argument, saying things you don’t mean, feeling unheard, and wondering, how did we get here again?

In this episode of The Language of Love Session, we check in with Brian and Stacey, a couple who love each other deeply but keep getting stuck in frustrating fights. Their latest? A basketball game invitation that—on the surface—seemed harmless. But for Stacey, it wasn’t just about the game. It was about priorities, commitment, and feeling like she mattered.

Here’s where things got messy: Brian had already skipped their usual weekly sporting activity together. So when he jumped at the chance to go out with a friend instead, Stacey felt like she was coming in second. A simple, innocent decision spiraled into yet another heated argument.

But here’s the real issue—it wasn’t about basketball. It was about unspoken fears, emotional triggers, and the stories we tell ourselves when we feel hurt.

In this episode, we’re breaking it all down:

Why small decisions can feel like big betrayal
How unspoken fears and insecurities sneak into your conversations and turn them into battles
The power of pausing before you react
How to recognize when you’re stuck in the Drama Triangle—and what to do about it
The art of making your partner feel heard without silencing your own needs

If you’ve ever felt stuck in the same frustrating arguments, wondering why your partner just doesn’t get it, this episode will shift your perspective. Want to go deeper? Check out my Quantum Sex Course for relationship-transforming tools.

Got a love dilemma of your own? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com, and don’t forget to share this episode with someone who needs it. Because love isn’t defined by the big moments—it’s built in the small ones.

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Get Your Sexual Energy Flowing Mar 03, 2025

Did you know that your sexual energy isn’t just about what happens between the sheets? It’s the fuel that powers your confidence, your creativity, and that magnetic glow that attracts others and makes life feel exciting. But here’s the kicker—it’s easy to lose sexual energy, especially when emotions like guilt, shame, or stress build up, they act like roadblocks, keeping that energy stuck. The good news? You can turn it back on.

In this Language of Love Bite, I’m sharing how to break free from energy blocks that shut down your sexual centers, and wake up your full-body vitality. We dive into deep breathwork, hip-opening movement (yes, your hips hold way more power than you think), and one game-changing daily practice that will keep your sexual energy flowing effortlessly.

In this episode, we cover:

Why sexual energy is the key to confidence, joy, and creativity
How trapped emotions like guilt and shame block your energy flow
A simple breathwork technique to instantly boost sexual energy
The surprising role of hip movement in unlocking your passion
A powerful daily practice that will supercharge your arousal and vitality

And if you’re ready to take your pleasure and connection to the next level, visit my website check out my free course on Quantum Sex—where you’ll learn to expand your sexual response, manifest through sex magic, and experience deeper intimacy.

Your energy is your power. Let’s unlock it together.

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Dive into Your Akashic Records with Daniela Gil Feb 26, 2025

There are whispers of a place—an unseen archive where every thought, every decision, every soul’s journey is etched into existence. Some call it the Akashic Records, an infinite library beyond time and space, containing the secrets of the past, present, and even the future.

In this episode of The Language of Love Conversation, I’m joined by Daniela Gil—an intuitive healer, psychic, and guide known as the “psychic’s psychic” and “healer’s healer.” She works with the Akashic Records, plant medicine, and spiritual transformation, helping people connect with their divine essence.

Daniela shares her journey as a highly sensitive child, the challenges she faced with mental health and addiction, and how plant medicine helped her reclaim her gifts. We explore the healing power of sacred plants and how they deepen our connection with ourselves, Pachamama (Mother Earth), and the divine.

Whether you're curious about the Akashic Records, plant medicine, or finding your path to healing, this conversation will leave you inspired.

In this episode, Daniela and I explore:

The Akashic Records and how they can guide us
The role of Wachuma, Ayahuasca, and Dieta in spiritual healing
Overcoming fear, building faith, and living in love
Soul contracts, twin flames, and the deeper nature of relationships
Daniela’s journey from struggle to spiritual awakening
The transformative power of facing death and embracing change

If you’re feeling drawn to Daniela’s work, you can connect with her on Instagram and explore all that she offers on her website. Daniela also hosts transformative retreats in Peru, where she works with sacred plants like Wachuma and Ayahuasca to guide deep healing and spiritual growth. And if the Akashic Records intrigue you, she also offers courses and mentorship programs to help you access and understand this powerful source of wisdom.

Looking for more insight? Check out these powerful reads: The Map of Consciousnessby David Hawkins and The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk.

And if you’re craving even more guidance, be sure to visit my website, where you’ll find free resources tailored to support your unique journey.

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The Silent Stigma: Herpes and the Fear of Disclosure Feb 19, 2025

For far too long, sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) have carried a heavy weight of stigma—whispers behind closed doors, silent fears, and the crushing anxiety of disclosure and the rejection that might follow. Many people would rather avoid dating altogether than face the possibility of judgment. But should a diagnosis really hold that much power over your life? Should it define your worth, your relationships, or your future?

In this Language of Love Session, I’m responding to an email from Claire, a listener who recently received a herpes diagnosis. Claire’s feeling overwhelmed by shame and fear about her dating future. She’s worried she’ll never find love and is unsure how to share her diagnosis with potential partners.

Here’s the truth: A herpes diagnosis does NOT make you undateable. In fact, 1 in 4 people have herpes, and 80% of them don’t even know it! The stigma around STDs, especially herpes, creates unnecessary shame. But at the end of the day, herpes is just a manageable skin condition—one that can be effectively treated with medication.

In this episode, I dive into:

The prevalence of herpes and why the stigma needs to end
Why herpes doesn’t define you: You are so much more than your diagnosis, and the right person will see that.
How to manage outbreaks and reduce transmission risk
The best way to disclose your diagnosis to a potential partner

If you need any help or advice, you can email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com and you can also get a chance to join me on Zoom for a one-on-one session. I’d love to hear from you!

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Why Their Phone Gets More Attention Than You (and How to Change That) Feb 17, 2025

Are you beginning to feel like your partner’s phone is becoming the third wheel in your relationship? Are you tired of being "phubbed"—that unsettling mix of phone and snubbed? You’re not alone. In this Language of Love Bite, we explore how to reclaim connection in your relationship without starting World War III.

In this episode, I delve into the science of disconnection, revealing how our phones trigger dopamine responses similar to addictive substances. But this isn’t just about the tech—it’s about finding solutions that strengthen intimacy and foster connection.

Discover small but powerful ways to unplug, reconnect, and bring joy back to your shared moments. Plus, I share some proven practical tips and daily rituals that foster intimacy.

Here’s what I cover:

Understanding the neurological impact of constant screen use.
How to identify tech’s impact on your relationship, from decreased eye contact to “parallel play.”
Simple, actionable strategies to combat tech addiction

If you’re ready to create meaningful change in your relationship, tune in to this episode of The Language of Love. And don’t forget to check out my free course, 7 Days to Better Sex, and Quantum Sex, which offers tools to enhance intimacy and connection even further.

Subscribe to the podcast and start reclaiming the love you deserve.

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The Wisdom of Jacob’s Ladder with Jacob Cooper Feb 12, 2025

What if our worst moments are actually an opportunity to shift into a deeper connection with ourselves and everyone and everything around us?

In this episode of Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Jacob Cooper—author, therapist, and someone who’s experienced a life-changing near-death experience (NDE)—to explore how we can maintain this connection beyond the physical. Jacob’s story is incredible. At just three years old, he experienced an NDE due to whooping cough (Pertussis), and it completely reshaped his understanding of life, death, and the eternal nature of the soul.

Through his experience, Jacob has come to realize that our loved ones who have crossed over are still with us—watching over us, guiding us, and helping us grow. There’s no true separation between us and them; the bond remains, even in the afterlife. Jacob shares how, through surrender, we can tap into the spiritual wisdom and love that our departed loved ones send us from beyond.

In this conversation, Jacob also explores the role of past lives, the deep soul contracts we share with those we love, and how we can recognize and nurture relationships with our soul family—both here and on the other side. We also dive into the importance of living in the present moment, remembering that we’re eternally connected to love.

Here’s a preview of what we talk about:

How Jacob’s NDE at three years old opened his eyes to the eternal nature of the soul
How our departed loved ones continue to watch over us and send us messages from the other side
The role of past lives and soul contracts in our current relationships
How to feel the presence of your soul family and deepen these connections
Why embracing the present moment helps us align with the boundless love of spirit

If you’re looking for more on this journey, Jacob’s books The Wisdom of Jacob’s Ladderand Life After Breathtake you on a powerful exploration of his NDE and the wisdom he uncovered. It’s a beautiful reminder that death isn’t the end, and our loved ones are never really gone.

For more guidance and resources on your own spiritual journey, be sure to visit my website—it’s packed with tools to help you stay connected to the love and wisdom of the other side!

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Why Do We Keep Having the Same Fight? Feb 05, 2025

Did you know that most arguments in relationships aren’t really about what they seem? That fight about the trash? The dishes? Being late? It’s rarely about the actual issue—it’s about something deeper. Feeling unheard. Feeling unappreciated. Feeling disconnected.

In this Language of Love Session, we continue to follow Brian and Stacey as they navigate the challenges of trust, intimacy, and emotional connection. Brian feels like he’s doing everything right—planning dates, showing affection, making an effort—yet the intimacy still isn’t there. Stacey, meanwhile, struggles with past trauma and the weight of expectation, making it hard for her to fully engage. We confront the hidden emotions and unspoken fears that keep them stuck in the same frustrating cycle.

What’s inside this episode?

How past traumas influence trust and intimacy in relationships
Why taking sex off the table can help rebuild emotional and physical connection
The importance of non-sexual touch in fostering intimacy and trust
How to navigate the "Drama Triangle" (victim, villain, hero) in conflicts
Practical strategies for shifting out of conflict and into connection
The role of appreciation and physical affection in healing relationships
How to create a culture of safety and understanding in your partnership

Don't forget—love is a journey best taken together. Whether you're healing from past traumas, deepening intimacy, or improving communication, every step forward is one you don’t have to take alone. Explore powerful tools like EMDR and the Drama Triangle for trauma recovery, or dive into transformative resources likeConscious Loving by Gay and Katie Hendricks. Want to go even deeper? Read my book Quantum Love. You can even check out my Quantum Sex Course.

Have questions or stories to share? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com, and don’t forget to share this episode—because love is a journey we take together.

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Can Your Relationship Survive Betrayal? Here’s How to Make Sure It Does Feb 03, 2025

The headlines are buzzing, and let’s face it, Ariana Grande and Ethan Slater’s story feels like a drama we didn’t ask for. Relationships in the spotlight are hard enough, but throw an affair into the mix, and it’s like watching a reality show unfold in real time. And then there’s Ethan’s wife—cue her powerful essay in The Cut, where, as a therapist, she lays bare the raw pain of betrayal and the chaos of their breakup.

But let’s step back for a moment. This isn’t just celebrity gossip. Infidelity doesn’t care if you’re famous—it can happen to anyone. The real question is: how do you safeguard your relationship from falling into the same pitfalls?

In this episode of The Language of Love Bite, I dive into the tough but necessary conversation about “affair-proofing” your relationship. Inspired by the recent headlines, we explore what it takes to build trust, connection, and intimacy in any partnership—whether you’re under the spotlight or not.

Here’s what we cover:

Why infidelity is often about disconnection, not bad intentions.
Emotional check-ins and the simple questions that keep your bond strong.
How intentional intimacy can reignite the spark.
Why protecting your relationship starts with clear boundaries.
The “Love Audit,” a weekly ritual to rebuild and maintain intimacy.

And don’t miss the golden rule I share that every couple should follow to affair proof their relationship!

If you want to strengthen your bond or avoid future bumps in the road, this episode is full of practical tips to help your love grow. And don’t forget to check out my YouTube videos for more ideas on keeping that spark alive in your relationship!

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From Grief to Healing: Staying Connected with Those We’ve Lost with Meghan Riordan Jarvis Jan 29, 2025

What if grief isn’t just about loss, but about staying connected to those who’ve passed on?

Have you ever wondered if your loved ones are still with you after they’ve gone? What if there’s a way to feel their presence and find healing through that connection? Grief can be a painful, overwhelming journey, but it’s also one that can offer profound moments of connection across the divide between this world and the next. So, how do we bridge that gap and keep the bond alive?

In this heart-to-heart conversation on The Language of Love, I’m joined by Meghan Riordan Jarvis, a trauma therapist and author of Can Anyone Tell Me?. Meghan shares her own transformative experiences with grief, including the loss of her parents, and how these personal moments of sorrow shaped her work as a therapist. Together, we dive into grief from a holistic perspective—exploring how it affects us emotionally, physically, and spiritually, and how we can stay connected to those we’ve lost, even beyond this life.

In this episode, we cover:

Grief and Afterlife Connections: What if grief doesn’t have to mean letting go?
Spiritual Practices for Healing
The role of trauma therapy in processing grief
The impact of unresolved childhood trauma on adult grief
Differences in grieving processes based on the nature of loss
Why does grief feel so heavy, both emotionally and physically?
How do we build resilience when grief feels overwhelming?
Why is it so important to talk about grief openly?

Remember, healing through grief is a personal journey, and there’s always more to learn and explore. For deeper insights and ongoing support, be sure to connect with Meghan Riordan Jarvis on her website and LinkedIn, where she shares more about her work and offers valuable resources for navigating grief and trauma. If you're looking for guidance, Megan's book Can Anyone Tell Me? answers some of the most frequently asked questions about grief.

Also, if you’re looking for more guidance on your own grief journey, check out my Good Grief Course on my website. It’s designed to help you process loss and find healing through practical steps and spiritual connection.

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Caught in the Act: What to Do When Your Kids Walk In on You Jan 22, 2025

What do you do when your child accidentally walks in on you and your spouse during an intimate moment? It’s one of those unexpected situations that can leave you feeling flustered and unsure of how to respond.

In this Language of Love session, a listener, Kim, reaches out to me after experiencing one of those “mortifying parenting moments” when her 8-year-old son walked in on her and her husband during an intimate moment. Kim’s reaction? Shock, followed by a quick hug for her son and an attempt to smooth things over. But now she’s left wondering: Should she bring it up? Pretend it didn’t happen? Or use this as an opportunity to talk about the “birds and the bees”?

During this session, we explore how these awkward moments can actually become teachable ones. While it’s natural to feel embarrassed, it’s also an opportunity to model healthy relationships, intimacy, and communication. After all, parents are their kids’ first and most important teachers about love, boundaries, and values.

Here is what we tackle:

The importance of modeling love and intimacy for your children.
How to talk to kids about puberty and the basics of reproduction in a way that’s age-appropriate.
Using family values as a foundation for these conversations.
Why these “awkward” moments can set the stage for lifelong healthy attitudes about sex and relationships.
The critical role of ongoing, open communication with your kids.
The confidence and security kids gain when they feel informed about their bodies and emotions.

Remember, it’s not about having “the talk” once and checking it off the list—it’s about fostering a conversation that evolves as your child grows. So the next time a parenting curveball comes your way, don’t panic—lean into it. You’ve got this!

If you have a question or a situation you’d like me to address, you can email me at LanguageofLovePod@gmail.com or visit LanguageofLovePod.com to join me on the show. See you next time!

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How to Last Longer in Bed: The Guys Edition Jan 20, 2025

Let’s be honest—everyone wants to last longer in bed, right? So, what’s the secret to going the distance and keeping your partner satisfied? Can you really improve your stamina, or is it all just wishful thinking? The truth is, there are some simple tips and tricks you can apply to not just last longer, but also make sure your partner is definitely getting the pleasure she’s looking for. Ready to level up in the bedroom?

In this Language of Love Bite, we're tackling a topic that’s on the mind of many men but not often discussed openly: how to last longer in bed. Whether you're trying to improve your stamina or just looking to enhance your performance, this episode provides practical tips and techniques to help you last longer, satisfy your partner, and close that orgasm gap.

You will discover:

How to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles
Different tips and tricks for better control and longer duration in bed
Use of desensitizing products for enhanced performance
Benefits of masturbation before intercourse
Importance of maintaining a healthy weight for sexual performance
Alternative intimacy techniques to reduce pressure

And if you find yourself inspired by this episode, be sure to check out my Quantum Sex courseon my website. It's packed with even more tips, techniques, and insights to help you take your sexual performance and intimacy to the next level.

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Seeing the Signs From Our Loved Ones with Elizabeth Boisson Jan 15, 2025

Losing a child is an unimaginable pain—one that breaks you open in ways you never thought possible. When I lost my son Sammy, my world shifted in an instant. Sammy was my light, my joy, and his absence left a void that words can’t capture. Yet, in the depths of that sorrow, I began to uncover something profound: a path not just to survive the loss but to carry his love forward. Sammy’s spirit guides me, teaching me that even through the greatest heartbreak, there’s room for connection, growth, and purpose.

In this episode of The Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Elizabeth Boisson, a remarkable woman who turned her grief into a global movement. Elizabeth, the co-founder of Helping Parents Heal, shares her deeply personal journey of losing two of her children and how she found healing by helping others navigate similar heartbreak.

We explore:

The powerful ways our loved ones in spirit remain connected to us
How our spiritual connections with our dearly departed loved ones can be a source of comfort and strength
Methods and practices for staying connected with loved ones in spirit, including meditation and writing
Insights into shared death experiences and soul plans
The challenges of discussing grief and finding supportive connection

I hope this conversation moves you as deeply as it moved me. Don’t forget to connect with Elizabeth on LinkedIn for more wisdom and insights into transforming grief into hope.

If you’re navigating the difficult journey of loss, I invite you to explore my Good Grief course, available on my website, where you’ll find tools and guidance to support your healing. Additionally, Helping Parents Heal offers an incredible community and resources for those seeking comfort and connection.

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Conscious Loving: How to Break the Cycle of Resentment and Build Connection Jan 08, 2025

In this episode of The Language of Love Session, I continue to guide Bryan and Stacey through the ups and downs of their relationship, tackling key issues like communication, trust, and appreciation. If you haven’t tuned into their journey yet, be sure to catch up on our previous sessions—it’s a story you won’t want to miss.

This week, things got a little bumpy. Both Bryan and Stacey found themselves in a tug-of-war, each trying to be "right," which only created more distance between them. As we dive deeper, we uncover how past traumas are still influencing their relationship today. The good news? Both Bryan and Stacey are committed to showing more appreciation for one another, hoping to create a more balanced and loving partnership.

Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode:

The ways past trauma impacts trust issues
Why showing appreciation is a game-changer for deeper connection
How each partner’s unconscious energetic state shapes the relationship
How to balance between masculine and feminine energy in love
Simple ways to express gratitude and acknowledgment
Real-life examples of supporting and standing up for your partner
How to build a culture of appreciation for long-term growth

Remember healing and connection are journeys best taken with the right tools. Ready to deepen intimacy? Check out myQuantum Sex Course or readConscious Lovingby Gay and Katie Hendricks. For trauma recovery, tools like EMDR and the Drama Triangle can help. Got questions or stories? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com, and don’t forget to share this episode—because love is a journey we take together.

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The Kissing Game: How to Fine-Tune Your Techniques Together Jan 06, 2025

When was the last time you had a kiss that truly took your breath away? Not just a peck on the cheek or a quick smooch in passing, but a kiss so meaningful it sparked something deep inside?

If it’s been a while, you’re not alone. For many couples, kissing tends to fade into the background of a long-term relationship. But here’s the good news—it doesn’t have to. In this Language of Love Bite, I’ll show you how to bring the magic back with eight key tips that will make you a better kisser. And yes, there’s even a playful game to help you and your partner rediscover the joy of kissing together.

What you’ll discover in this episode:

Why does kissing fade in relationships, and how can you reignite the spark?
What does it take to set the perfect mood for a memorable kiss?
How can you fine-tune your technique to make every kiss unforgettable?
The little things to up your kissing skills that make a big difference.
A simple, fun game to uncover what you and your partner love most about kissing.

But wait—did you know that kissing isn’t just about physical connection? It actually boosts emotional intimacy and can even affect hormone levels! Who wouldn’t want to unlock all that potential with just one kiss?

Looking to deepen intimacy and connection in your love life, or even elevate your personal understanding of relationships? My free course on Quantum Sex is a fantastic place to start—it’s designed for anyone, whether you're single or partnered. Enjoy!

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Beyond Anxiety with Martha Beck Jan 01, 2025

In this episode of The Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Martha Beck—bestselling author, life coach, and one of the smartest women Oprah Winfrey knows (I agree!). Martha holds three Harvard degrees and her latest book,Beyond Anxiety: Curiosity, Creativity, and Finding Your Life’s Purpose, is a powerful guide to moving past anxiety.

In this episode, Martha and I dive into what she has discovered is the key to resolving anxiety. She explains how shifting from the “anxiety spiral” to a “creativity spiral” can transform our stress into joy and growth. She even helps me work through some of my own anxieties to show how you can do the same. Through personal stories and insights, we uncover how creative expression can turn anxiety into fulfillment and connection.

Here’s a sneak peek of what we talk about:

How creativity serves as a catalyst for personal growth and emotional healing
The effects of staying calm on individual wellbeing and enriching relationships
The concept of "quantum love" and its transformative impact on emotional bonds
Strategies for overcoming different forms of fear and anxiety
The vital role of community and shared experiences in the journey toward healing

Don't miss out—grab a copy of Martha’s book Beyond Anxiety: Curiosity, Creativity, and Finding Your Life’s Purpose! You can also connect with her on her website, LinkedIn, or Instagram. And while you're at it, explore my website for exclusive courses tailored to help you thrive!

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What’s the Secret to Overcoming Trauma in Love? Dec 25, 2024

What do you do when your relationship feels stuck in a cycle of disconnection? Do you ever feel like no matter how hard you try, you and your partner just can’t sync up? Perhaps past trauma is creating invisible walls, or the pressures of daily life are slowly pulling you apart. How can you break through and rebuild trust and intimacy when life keeps throwing curveballs?

In this Language of Love session, I’m thrilled to welcome back Stacey and Brian. It’s been about a month since we last checked in with them, and I’m excited to see how things have evolved. There’s a lot to unpack today, and we dive deeper into the underlying issues driving their tension and explore how they can start showing up for each other in more meaningful ways.

Here is what you’ll learn in this episode:

Why “disconnected intimacy” is a relationship red flag
How small changes build big trust
Why aligning on decisions is crucial and how to avoid undermining each other.
How financial stress impacts emotional and physical connection—and what to do about it.
Communication hacks, conscious loving tips, and the importance of stepping back during heated moments.

Remember, healing and connection are journeys best taken with the right tools. Ready to deepen intimacy? Check out my Quantum Sex Course, or explore must-reads like Conscious Loving by Gay and Katie Hendricks and The New Rules of Marriage by Dr. Terrence Real. For trauma recovery, tools like EMDR and the Drama Triangle that I teach about in Quantum Love can be transformative. Have questions or stories? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com, and share this episode—because love is a journey we take together.

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Why Every Couple Needs Sex Toys in Their Bedroom Arsenal Dec 23, 2024

Did you know only 30% of women reach orgasm through intercourse alone? For women over 40, changes in nerve function, sensation and arousal sexual aids and devices are even more valuable for enhancing pleasure and connection.

Have you ever felt unsure about how to introduce the idea of using a sex toy in your relationship? Or maybe you're curious about how they can bring more excitement and deeper connection for both of you? If so, you're in good company! In this Language of Love Bite, I’m sharing tips to make the conversation easy, fun, and natural—so you can explore new ways to enhance your intimacy together.

In this episode, I cover:

When to introduce the topic of sex toys
How to bring it up without awkwardness or insecurity.
Reframing sex toys as tools as a complement to your bond, not a replacement of your partner.
Fun ways to explore toy options together
My personal picks for couple-friendly toys that fit seamlessly into your intimate moments.

Ready to take the next step? Explore my exclusive line of sex toys designed to deepen intimacy and connection in your relationship.

For more expert advice on love, sex, and relationships, follow the Language of Love Podcast. And if this episode sparked new ideas for you, follow me on your favorite podcast platform and visit my website for even more tips to help you love and be loved better.

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A Course in Miracles: Staying Connected to Loved Ones After Loss with Pam Grout Dec 18, 2024

In this powerful episode, I sit down with best-selling author, Pam Grout, to explore the profound journey of healing, love, and loss—and to discuss how, even in the darkest times, we can discover light and meaning.

Pam and I share a bond beyond our love for quantum physics and a belief in manifestation. We've both faced unimaginable losses: We both lost both our parents as well as a child. I lost my son Sammy, while Pam lost her daughter to a sudden aneurysm. We’ve walked through the pain of these losses and emerged with a sense of grace connection that feels almost otherworldly. We both agree that “lost” doesn’t feel quite right—our loved ones are gone, yet we still feel their presence, like gentle echoes guiding us forward.

Pam shares how completing A Course in Miracles after her daughter’s passing became a sanctuary and source of resilience, as writing has been for both of us. Together, we discuss how our work—whether through writing, teaching, or supporting others—has been shaped by these experiences.

Tune in to explore:

How our beliefs shape our reality and how to manifest with purpose
The healing power of daily gratitude
Signs and symbols that connect us with loved ones who’ve passed
Ways to cultivate appreciation in relationships and savor life’s precious moments
How to embrace difficult emotions to find clarity and peace

Make sure to explore the E-Squared experiments on YouTube and dive into Pam’s insightful books:, E-Squared, E-Cubed, A Course in Miracles, and God Doesn't Have Bad Hair Days. You can also connect with Pam on her website for more inspiration. And don’t forget to check out all my courses and books on my website.

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When a Narcissist Wants Back In: What to Consider Dec 11, 2024

They swept you off your feet, showered you with affection, and made you feel like the center of their world—until they didn’t. Now, just when you thought you were done, they’re back, promising that they’ve changed and insisting that this time will be different. But can someone who left you feeling confused and used really transform that quickly?

That’s exactly what Sarah, one of our listeners, is dealing with in this Language of Love Session. She broke up with her toxic ex, only for him to return with flowers, apologies, and promises of change. It’s hard not to get pulled back in, right? One minute he’s manipulative and unsupportive, and the next he’s sending heartfelt letters.

So, what’s really going on here? Is change possible, or is this just another round of love-bombing?

In this Session, we dig into:

How to recognize signs of narcissistic and emotionally abusive behavior
What are the signs they’ve really changed?
The toxic cycle of abuse, and why it can create “trauma bonds” that are hard to break
Stockholm syndrome and its effects on relationships
Why real change takes time—and how to spot real commitment to growth
The importance of therapy for both partners in a healthy relationship
Setting boundaries to protect yourself and move forward

Send your questions to languageoflovepod@gmail.com or visit my website to join the conversation—I’d love to have you on the show! Plus, check out my freeQuantum Sex Course to elevate your sexual response.

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Is One Love Enough for a Lifetime? Dec 09, 2024

Why, in a world full of endless choices, do so many of us search for that one person to share a life with? Is it loyalty, comfort, a desire for deep connection—or maybe the thrill of choosing one person out of billions, saying, “You’re my person,” and truly meaning it?

But here’s the real question: can one person meet all your needs? Or maybe you've wondered why monogamy can feel so challenging at times, even when it’s deeply fulfilling?

In this episode of The Language of Love Bite, we’re diving into the heart of monogamy—the highs, the lows, and everything in between. We explore why this relationship style resonates so strongly with some and feels complex for others. How do you keep that connection alive after years together? What happens when jealousy creeps in or your needs shift over time? I share practical tips on rekindling passion, communicating openly without fear, and tuning in to your true desires.

If you’ve ever questioned whether monogamy is your path, or you’re just looking for ways to strengthen your relationship, join me for an open and eye-opening journey into love, loyalty, and keeping that spark alive. And while you’re here, don’t forget to check out my free Quantum Sex course on my website—it’s packed with insights to deepen your connection!

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Before We Go: Redefining End-of-Life Connections with Dr. Shoshana Ungerleider Dec 04, 2024

Talking about the end of life isn’t exactly everyone’s favorite topic, but it’s one of the most important conversations we can have. Not only does it give our loved ones clarity and peace, but it also creates a pathway to stay connected—even after they’ve crossed over. Caregivers know this better than anyone; they lean into these talks because they understand how much they matter. So, maybe it’s time we stop avoiding the tough stuff and start having the conversations that truly count.

In this Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with the incredible Dr. Shoshana Ungerleider to explore how to deepen our connections with loved ones—even after they’ve crossed over. Shoshana gets personal, sharing her journey of walking alongside her father during his final chapter. She opens up about how caregiving reshaped her relationships—not just with her dad, but with herself and her husband, who stepped into a caregiving role in unexpected and beautiful ways. We dive into the emotional complexities of caregiving, the impact of family dynamics during illness, and how these experiences inspire her groundbreaking work in palliative care and end-of-life issues.

Here’s a taste of what we explore:

Why honest conversations about end-of-life care can transform tough moments into meaningful ones
The difference between palliative care and hospice care
How terminal illness impacts family relationships in surprising ways
The importance of informed decision-making in end-of-life situations
What cultural attitudes about death and dying reveal—and how to rethink them
Reshaping how the media portrays end-of-life and caregiving

Remember to stay connected with Dr. Shoshana Ungerleider on LinkedIn or through her website to follow her groundbreaking work in transforming how we approach life’s transitions and end-of-life care. Don’t miss her insightful podcastBefore We Go, where she explores profound and meaningful conversations about living and dying well.

For additional inspiration, visit End Well, where you’ll find thought-provoking videos and tools designed to help navigate life’s most profound moments with intention and grace.

Looking for more support on your journey? Visit my website to explore resources like myGood Grief course and other transformative tools to help you heal, grow, and connect. Let’s walk this path together.

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Are You and Your Partner Out of Sync in the Bedroom? Nov 27, 2024

So, what do you do when your sexual energy levels just don’t match up? One partner might be feeling a bit neglected or even a little angry, which can create some serious tension in the relationship.

In this episode of The Language of Love Session, I’m bringing you an intimate counseling session with a brave duo, Brian and Stacey. They’re tackling some tough intimacy challenges, and their story is one that many of you might find relatable. Stacy has faced some significant sexual trauma, which understandably affects her ability to connect intimately with Brian. Meanwhile, Brian is craving that physical affection and deeper sexual connection. But here’s the twist: Stacy often feels discomfort and even a splash of anger in those intimate moments.

Here’s what we cover:

The power of and ways to validate one another’s other’s feelings
How trauma can affect your intimate life and what to look out for
The idea of creating “green zones” for intimacy—safe spaces where partners with a trauma history can engage sensually at their own pace
When it might be a good idea to hit pause on sex for now to rebuild trust and comfort
The role trauma therapy can play in healing, including some powerful techniques like somatic experiencing and EMDR to aid healing

I’d love to hear from you! If you have questions, stories, or just want to chat about this episode, email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com or visit my website. Let’s keep the conversation going!

Also, whether you’re in a relationship or not, check out my free Quantum Sex course. It’s designed to enhance your sexual response and help you achieve full-body orgasms, use sex magic, and deepen your connection with your partner. Plus, if you or someone you love has a trauma history, the book I recommended was The Courage to Heal.

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Why Sex is the Best Medicine for Body, Mind & Soul Nov 25, 2024

Did you grow up feeling like sex was a taboo topic to discuss—something mysterious, maybe even a little forbidden? Most of us did, which can make it easy to see sex as a "guilty pleasure" rather than what it really can be—a natural, healthy and beautiful part of life. But here’s where things get interesting: turns out, a satisfying sex life does a whole lot more than bring pleasure.

In this Language of Love Bite, I am breaking down all the juicy, science-backed reasons why sex is a win for your body, mind, and spirit. We’re going way beyond the basics here—it turns out, sex is pretty much a health and happiness booster!

And if you’re ready to take things even further, check out my freeQuantum Sex courseon my website. I’ll guide you through full-body orgasms, sex magic, and deeper connections. It’s all there, waiting to add a little magic to your love life!

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The Reinvention Formula with Craig Siegel Nov 20, 2024

Is your inner critic throwing a party, and you’re not invited? We’ve all been there! It’s easy to get caught in a loop of limiting beliefs that keep you from living your best life. But what if I told you that the key to breaking free is simply a mindset shift away?

In this Language of Love Conversation, I have an amazing conversation with Craig Siegel—renowned motivational speaker, performance coach, and bestselling author of The Reinvention Formula, a Wall Street Journal and USA Today bestseller. Craig’s journey is nothing short of inspiring—from a high-flying career on Wall Street to becoming a global force for personal transformation through his podcast, The CLS Experience, and his impactful keynote speeches. His mission? To help people crush their limiting beliefs and step into their most authentic selves.

We dive deep into the power of personal reinvention, exploring how it’s never too late to make meaningful changes in your life. Craig opens up about his own transformation and shares brilliant insights on how he left his limiting beliefs behind to pursue his true calling.

Here’s what we explore:

Why personal reinvention is possible at any stage of life
Overcoming limiting beliefs and clearing out mental “files”
How self-discovery and journaling can challenge old patterns
How to align your passions with your true purpose and take messy action toward your goals
The role of faith and spirituality in growth
Balancing positivity with acknowledging your emotions
How the COVID-19 pandemic sparked introspection and transformation for so many

Be sure to grab a copy of Craig's book The Reinvention Formula for powerful insights and inspiration! You can also connect with him through his website or follow him on Instagram for even more guidance on your journey.

Visit my website for transformative courses like the Good Grief course. Remember, you’re never alone on this path.

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Do You Just Need to “Relax” or is Something Else Making Sex Hurt? Nov 13, 2024

That’s one of the questions we explore in this Language of Love Session, as I dive into a letter from a listener, Veera, who’s grappling with some common and tricky troubles with intimacy, body image, and self-worth. Veera’s been feeling discomfort and even bleeding during sex with her new partner. She’s wondering, “Is this just because I’m getting older, or are we not a good match?” Veera’s partner suggests she should “relax” through intoxication, which is definitely not the best approach.

If you’ve ever questioned whether you’re worthy of love (You absolutely are), you’ll want to stick around and hear my advice.

We cover it all:

What’s going on with your body when estrogen levels dip
Simple fixes for dryness and discomfort during sex
How to have honest, healthy conversations about intimacy
Why mindfulness during sex beats numbing out
How self-deprecating humor can reveal what we really think about ourselves

And as always, if you have any questions, send them to languageoflovepod@gmail.com, or visit my website to join the conversation. I'd love to have you on the show!

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Into the Realm of Tantric Sex Nov 11, 2024

Long-term relationships can feel a bit routine at one point, and a craving for an extra spark often arises in most couples. In this episode of Language of Love Bite, I’m thrilled to take you on a journey into the captivating realm of tantric sex. This practice is all about harmonizing body, mind, and spirit to forge a sacred bond with your partner that not only intensifies physical pleasure but also enriches your emotional connection.

Tantric sex offers a wonderful opportunity to deepen intimacy by harnessing spiritual and energetic vibrations. I share some exciting techniques, including the "yab yum" position and the art of "soul gazing" that can help you and your partner connect like never before. We also explore the incredible benefits of tantric sex, from alleviating anxiety to enhancing your overall sexual health.

In this Bite, you'll discover:

Key benefits that come with embracing Tantric practices
Techniques to explore and enhance your intimate experience
Embracing inclusivity in Tantric practices
Practical ways to circulate sexual energy
A sneak peek into my upcoming book focused on Sex Magic

And if you find yourself inspired by this episode, be sure to check out my Quantum Sex courseon my website, and mark your calendars for my forthcoming book, Sex Magic, launching in May 2025. These resources will serve as your ultimate guides to transforming your love life into an adventure filled with deep, soulful intimacy.

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The Awakened Way with Medium Suzanne Giesemann Nov 06, 2024

Losing someone we love is a heartbreak like no other. When I lost my son Sammy, it felt like a piece of me went missing, but that wasn’t the end of our connection. In fact, since he crossed over, I’ve felt his presence in the most unexpected ways. Turns out, love has a way of sticking around—even when we are no longer here in physical form.

In this deeply moving Language of Love Conversation, I’m thrilled to chat with Suzanne Giesemann, a spiritual teacher, evidentiary medium, and author. After the loss of her stepdaughter, Susan, Suzanne began a whole new journey as a spiritual medium, discovering that the bonds we share don’t fade—they just change channels. She even shares her “Sip of the Divine” meditation, a practice that’s helped countless people, including me, turn pain into purpose and keep those we love close at heart. So, if you’re curious about keeping that connection alive or just need a little comfort, this episode is one you won’t want to miss!

Here’s a glimpse of what we explore:

Signs that indicate that our loved ones are still with us after they've passed
How we can find growth through grief and turn pain into purpose
Ways of connecting with the spiritual realm
“Soul plans” and why they matter
How gratitude can help us bridge spiritual connections

Don’t forget to pick up a copy of Suzanne’s book, The Awakened Way, and explore her website for even more insights. You can also connect with her on Instagram, Facebook and YouTube for updates and inspiration. Looking for extra support on your own healing journey? Visit my website for resources like Good Grief Courseand more transformative tools!

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In Law Dramas? Then Listen to This One! Oct 30, 2024

Even when we love our in laws, we all also love our space, right? But what do you do when your mother-in-law starts showing up unannounced like she’s got her own set of keys?

In this Language of Love session, I dive into a challenge so many couples face: how to set healthy boundaries with in-laws. Shannon, one of my listeners, writes in to share her frustrations about her mother-in-law's frequent, unannounced visits since moving close to her husband’s hometown. While she appreciates her mother-in-law's help, it’s starting to affect her personal space and her relationship. Shannon's husband doesn't see an issue, and she’s unsure how to navigate this tricky situation without hurting anyone's feelings.

We tackle:

Why it’s your partner’s job to set boundaries with their family
How to lovingly ask for space without causing tension
The importance of being a united front in your marriage
Simple steps for creating healthy boundaries that honor both relationships
Why it’s okay to say no to unannounced visits and still maintain a loving connection

If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by a well-meaning but over-involved family member, this episode is for you. And remember, the most important relationship in your family is between you and your partner—it’s the foundation for everything else.

I also share my own experiences with grief and how it’s transformed my life, offering insights and resources from my Good Grief course, available on my website.

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Why Is Sex Painful? Let’s Talk About It Oct 28, 2024

Have you ever wondered why something meant to be pleasurable can sometimes feel uncomfortable or even painful? In this Language of Love Bite, I tackle an important issue we don’t discuss nearly enough—pain during sex. This common experience affects up to 75% of women at some point in their lives, but the good news is that you don’t have to just live with it. There are real reasons behind it, and more importantly, real solutions!

I walk you through the top causes of painful sex, from dryness and pelvic floor issues to more complex conditions like endometriosis. By the end of this episode, you gain the tools and knowledge to address the pain and rediscover pleasure.

We break down the different types of sexual pain and explore what triggers them. Whether it’s hormonal shifts, skeleton-muscular issues , or underlying medical conditions, I provide tips and treatments to help you take back control and enjoy intimacy without discomfort.

In this Bite I share:

Common causes of sexual pain
The role of hormonal changes in causing vaginal dryness and discomfort
Vaginismus and how involuntary muscle contractions make intercourse painful
Various medical conditions like endometriosis and interstitial cystitis that can lead to sexual pain
Effective treatments such as pelvic floor physical therapy, hormone therapy, and medical evaluations
Why using the right lubricants can make all the difference
Need for medical evaluation to identify underlying issues

Struggling with pain during sex? You don’t have to suffer in silence. Explore APTA (American Physical Therapy Association) to find pelvic floor therapists. Want to deepen your connection with your partner? Check out my course on Quantum Sex to learn how to elevate your love life.

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Creating and Cultivating True Soul Friendships with Sah D’Simone Oct 23, 2024

Have you ever met someone and felt an instant connection, like you’ve known them forever? Isn’t it amazing how some people seem to resonate with your very soul? That magical feeling isn’t just coincidence; it’s what we call a “soul friend,” and trust me, it’s more enchanting than you might think!

In this episode of The Language of Love Conversation, I’m excited to sit down with the incredible Sah D'Simone—meditation teacher, artist, and bestselling author of Spiritually Sassy. Together, we’re diving deep into the power of community and connection. But here’s a thought: can you really grow without a support system? Sah introduces his transformative "SAH Method," focusing on somatic activated healing, and shares insights from his latest book, Spiritually We: The Art of Relating and Connecting to the Heart.

Here’s what you can expect from this enlightening conversation:

The magic of soul friends and how they help us grow
Why social media can’t replace real, meaningful connections
Sitting with discomfort and why ‘cancel culture’ doesn’t help
How vulnerability and somatic healing practices make us stronger
The link between emotional well-being and physical health
How loneliness impacts personal growth and relationships
Tips for deepening your connections with others
The importance of radical honesty and authenticity in friendships
How to start meaningful conversations that lead to real connection

Make sure to grab a copy of Sah’s new book! You can also connect with Sah through his website or find him on Instagram for more inspiration and insights.

Looking for more support on your healing journey? Head over to my website for courses, including the popular Good Grief course. Remember, you’re never alone in this journey.

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After Baby: How to Rekindle the Spark Oct 16, 2024

Postpartum sexuality—how often do we actually talk about it? Probably not enough. You’re healing, emotions are high, and intimacy might feel like a distant thought. Meanwhile, your partner might be quietly wondering how to approach it too. So, how do you bring up such a sensitive topic without making it feel like walking on eggshells? And how do you open up when you’re still figuring things out yourself?

In this episode of The Language of Love Sessions, I tackle a heartfelt question from a listener, Jessica, a listener who’s six months postpartum and trying to navigate intimacy in her marriage after a traumatic birth. I offer some compassionate advice on how to communicate openly with her husband and emphasize that honesty and vulnerability are key.

Don’t forget to check out my website for personalized courses like “Quantum Sex,” designed to support your unique journey.

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Unpacking the Hidden Impact of Trauma Oct 14, 2024

We’ve all been there—life throws us a curveball, and we’re left dealing with trauma. And as much as we’d love just to hit the "ignore" button, trauma has this sneaky way of creeping into our relationships.

In this Language of Love Bite, I dive into the deep end of trauma. We're talking all kinds here—sexual, physical, emotional, rejection, humiliation, abandonment, and betrayal trauma. It's a lot, I know, but recognizing these traumas is the first step to healing.

Here is what we explore:

A deeper understanding of sexual trauma and common misconceptions about consent
The many faces of emotional abuse and how it shows up
How trauma impacts your self-worth, trust, and intimacy
Why professional support is key to recovering from trauma

Be sure to check out TraumaHealing.org, where you can find a list of somatic experiencing therapists in your area, and start exploring the support you deserve. Visit my new platform, Grief Healing Collective, for resources designed to help you release grief and loss in a nurturing, transformative environment. Also, don’t forget to check out my website for courses, products, and books that will help you in the realm of love and healing.

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Confessions of a Midlife Muse with Dr. Amanda Hanson Oct 09, 2024

A lot of people, especially women, still freak out about a few gray hairs or a new wrinkle. So, why not flip the script?

In this episode of The Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with the "Midlife Muse," clinical psychologist, speaker, and author Dr. Amanda Hanson, to dive into the tricky subject of aging—especially for women. Society pushes us to stay forever youthful, but Amanda’s here to remind us that aging can be a beautiful spiritual journey filled with wisdom. Why should our looks stay frozen in time while everything else changes?

Together, Amanda and I encourage women to stop chasing unrealistic beauty standards and embrace their own unique beauty. It’s time to age on our own terms, with more self-love, a little humor, and a community of women who lift each other up!

Here is a sneak peek of what we talk about:

Unrealistic expectations regarding women's appearances as they age
The impact of societal pressures on self-image and self-worth
What’s behind the normalization of cosmetic procedures among younger women
The manipulative marketing tactics of the beauty industry and their implications
The importance of self-love, self-respect, and confidence in aging
The influence of family dynamics and childhood experiences on perceptions of beauty
Strategies for cultivating self-awareness and fortitude in the face of media consumption
The disparity in how aging affects women compared to men in various industries

Check out Amanda’s work on her website! Also, visit my website for more resources such as books, courses, and products aimed to help you learn to love and be loved better.

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Confessions of the Heart: How to Share Your Past Without Fear Oct 02, 2024

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you’re unsure how to come clean with your partner about something from your past? It’s uncomfortable, right?

In this episode of The Language of Love Sessions, one of my listeners, Sasha, finds herself in a tough spot—she’s not sure how to come clean to her partner after being less than honest about her sexual history. We’ve all had moments where telling the truth feels scary, right? How do you face that kind of conversation? I help Sasha navigate the importance of being open and real with her partner. After all, isn’t love about embracing each other’s pasts, imperfections and all? We also discuss how self-worth and emotional growth can create a deeper, more genuine connection.

In this session, we cover:

The importance of honesty in relationships
How to approach difficult conversations about past sexual history
The implications of hiding personal information from a partner
Discussing emotional and psychological aspects of past relationships
Affirmation of self-worth beyond sexual history

Are you ready to explore deeper connections and transformative experiences? Visit my website for personalized courses like 'Quantum Sex' and more, each thoughtfully crafted to support your unique journey.

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What it Takes to Build and Maintain Trust in Relationships Sep 30, 2024

Trust issues are the sneaky villains behind many relationship troubles. Those past betrayals and broken promises make it hard to open up again. But here’s the bright side: rebuilding trust isn’t just about fixing what’s broken; it’s about turning old wounds into a fresh start. In this Language of Love Bite, I give my advice on how to build trust in relationships, especially for those dealing with past betrayals or trust issues from their upbringing.

Remember to visit my website where you can explore my diverse collection of books and courses on love, sex, and relationships. Don't forget to tune in regularly to the Language of Love podcast for insightful discussions and expert advice designed to help you love more deeply and be loved more fully.

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Finding Meaning After Loss with David Kessler Sep 25, 2024

Are you grappling with the profound weight of grief and wondering if you'll ever find your way through? Have you ever felt overwhelmed by the idea that healing from loss should follow a straightforward path, only to be met with the unpredictable twists and turns of your emotions?

In this episode of The Language of Love Conversation, I’m chatting with the incredible David Kessler—one of the world’s top experts on grief and loss. With his decades of experience and six impactful books under his belt, David brings a wealth of wisdom to our conversation.

We explore how grief isn’t this neat, linear process but rather a winding, sometimes messy road. David’s insights remind us that acceptance isn’t a single moment but a continuous journey, and finding meaning often comes from those small, everyday moments rather than grand gestures.

We also have a real talk about the importance of community and support, especially how connecting with others who get it can be a total game-changer. David’s new companion workbook is a treasure trove of practical tips and exercises to help process grief and find light in the dark. Plus, we touch on tackling those tricky feelings of guilt and shame, with David guiding me through some eye-opening exercises.

Here is a sneak peek:

Personal experiences with grief, particularly the loss of a child
The non-linear nature of the grieving process
Importance of finding meaning after a tragedy
Emotional complexities and stages of grief
The role of community and support in healing
Challenges of managing practical matters during grief
The impact of guilt and self-blame in the grieving process
The societal perceptions and stigma surrounding prolonged grief

Don’t forget to explore Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Griefworkbook. Also, check out prolongedgrieftalk.com and the Tender Hearts Grief Support Group.

Visit my website for additional grief courses, including the 'Good Grief' course. Remember, you’re not alone in this journey.

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How to Approach “The Talk” with Your Growing Kids Sep 18, 2024

Many parents feel uneasy when it comes to talking to their kids about sex—it’s a tricky subject, and you’re not alone if it makes you uncomfortable. But the question is: when’s the right time to start? Should you bring it up before they hit adolescence or wait until they’re teenagers?

In this Language of Love Session, I’m chatting with Linda, a listener who recently found herself knowing she needs to have the long-overdue “talk” with her 16-year-old daughter, but she’s torn. How do you start that kind of conversation without sounding judgmental or making it super awkward? We dive into how to navigate these critical conversations with care, respect, and a little bit of humor—because, let’s face it, we all need a bit of that when it comes to talking about sex with our kids!

In this session, we cover:

The importance of early conversations about sex with kids
My tips and tools for how and what to cover in sex ed with your kids
Effective approaches for parents to address sexual health and safety
Creating the kind of dialogue with kids that keep them confiding in and talking to you
Empowering children to understand their sexual desires as part of healthy sexuality

My book, Talking to Your Kids About Sex: Turning “The Talk” Into a Conversation for Life is an invaluable resource for having those important discussions with your kids. Also, be sure to visit my website for tailored courses like “Quantum Sex” and others that are designed to meet your needs.

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What Really Excites a Woman Sep 16, 2024

We’ve all heard debates about what really excites a woman intimately — whether it’s the clitoris, kisses, nipples, or other sensations. But what if I told you the real secret might surprise you?

In this Language of Love Bite, I dive into how to excite the vagina and keep the passion alive in ways you might not expect. I explore some of the best exercises and tips that can work wonders and add an extra spark in the bedroom. I also share a little something you might not have considered that can play a huge role in arousal, building that emotional connection and setting the stage for deeper pleasure. Ready to discover what really makes a difference?

Remember to visit my website and unlock your free Quantum Sex course, designed to help you elevate your sex life to new heights!

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Briefly Perfectly Human with Alua Arthur Sep 11, 2024

One of the few absolute truths for every one of us is that death is inevitable, yet it’s a taboo topic that many of us avoid discussing. But can planning for your own death actually bring peace of mind and even make you live a more fulfilling life?

In this eye-opening episode of The Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Alua Arthur—a New York Times bestselling author, death doula, and founder of Going with Grace. We dive into those often avoided but unavoidable topics: death, dying, and grief. Drawing from her book Briefly Perfectly Human, she reveals how confronting our mortality can actually lead to a richer, more intentional life. Tune in to discover why facing these tough topics can be transformative and how a death doula plays a pivotal role in navigating the end of life with grace and meaning.

Let’s dive in and learn:

What does a death doula do?
The nine contemplations on death
How to use grief as a catalyst for growth
The vision of a peaceful death and practical preparations
Communication dynamics between the dying and their loved ones
Accepting the reality of mortality through meditation

Remember to explore Briefly Perfectly Human by Alua Arthur for even more insights. You can follow Alua on Instagram and LinkedIn, or visit her website to stay updated on her latest projects. Also, don’t forget to check out my website for courses and books tailored just for you.

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Unpacking the Love Map: How Childhood Experiences Influence Adult Desires Sep 04, 2024

Ever felt like your past is casting a shadow over your love life? Childhood experiences, including trauma, are intricately woven into the nature and the challenges we face in relationships.

In this Language of Love Session, I delve into a heartfelt email from Muhammad, a courageous 21-year-old man from Iran. He’s grappling with his sexual orientation and OCD, sharing his attraction to abusive middle-aged men and connecting it to the emotional wounds inflicted by his abusive father. We tackle these heavy topics together, exploring the concept of the "love map"—a psychological framework that reveals how our past, particularly trauma, influences our romantic desires.

Here’s what we explore:

The impact of childhood trauma and abusive parental relationships on emotional well-being
The connection between OCD and unmanaged anxiety
The "love map" concept and how early experiences shape our attractions
Understanding a "vandalized lovemap" and its effects on sexual desires and relationships
Distinguishing between healthy and harmful relationships
The importance of self-discovery and fostering healthy relationship dynamics

Don't forget to visit my website for customized courses like 'Good Grief,' 'Quantum Sex,' and more. Let’s embrace our authentic selves and make every moment count!

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The Surprising Benefits of Scheduling Sex Sep 02, 2024

What if we’ve got it all wrong that the best sex is spontaneous? Could planning for intimacy actually light up a new spark in your relationship? With work stress, bills, and endless errands already filling our calendars, isn’t it worth a shot to see if scheduling sex might just be the secret to keeping the flame burning bright?

In this Language of Love Bite, I’m diving into and vouching for a topic that might raise a few eyebrows: scheduling sex! Yes, you heard me right. While surprise moments can be thrilling, regular, planned encounters can also work wonders. Listen in to hear my tips on how to make scheduled sex exciting and add a little extra magic to your routine.

Remember to visit my website and access my free Quantum Sex course if you’re looking to take your sex life to the next level. Also, check out my video on building desire on YouTube!

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Living a More Connected Life with Radha Agrawal Aug 28, 2024

I think we can all agree we are in an epidemic of loneliness. Most of us are craving deeper relationships, a genuine sense of belonging, and a community that feels like home.

In this episode of "The Language of Love Conversation," I sit down with Radha Agrawal, a nine-figure entrepreneur and community-building expert. Together, we delve into the art of forging meaningful connections and share powerful strategies for cultivating relationships that truly matter. We also get into how storytelling, rituals, and even a bit of aesthetic magic can transform your community? Radha brings these insights straight from her book, Belong: Find Your People, Create Community, and Live a More Connected Life. Collaboration and the strength of community can help us overcome life’s toughest challenges.

Here’s a sneak peek of what you’ll discover:

The crucial role of social connections in our lives
The growing epidemic of loneliness and its impact on mental health
Practical strategies for fostering meaningful friendships
The idea of "FYF" (Fuck Yes) friendships
The CRAWL method for community building
How social media can facilitate real-life connections
The importance of aligning personal values and interests in building community
Navigating the friendship life cycle and overcoming challenges
How rituals can foster a deeper sense of belonging
The transformative power of storytelling in creating supportive networks

Don’t miss out—check out Radha’s book,Belong: Find Your People, Create Community, and Live a More Connected Life, for even more awesome tips. Connect with her on her website, LinkedIn, or Instagram. And while you’re at it, swing by my website for courses made just for you!

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Reaching New Heights in Intimacy Aug 21, 2024

In this Language of Love Session, I’m excited to catch up with Marla and Ken, a couple who turned their love story around and are now absolutely glowing. Having embraced Quantum Love, they’re reaching new heights in intimacy. They both share how the guidance and homework I gave them helped create a nurturing, affectionate space between them, and deeply transformed their connection. We get into all the tips and tools that work. It’s amazing how these small, thoughtful gestures can make such a significant difference!

Here is what we explore:

How to cultivate emotional connection for greater intimacy in relationships
How to stop external stressors from sabotaging your love life
Easy tips to improve communication with your partner
The role of compassion and understanding as relationship game-changers
How to explore personal histories with generosity

If you missed previous episodes, now’s the perfect time to catch up and get the full picture of Marla and Ken’s inspiring journey.

Remember to check out my complimentary course on Quantum Sex! Unlock new levels of sexual response and experience a transformation like never before. Head to my website for all the details.

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The Most Powerful Skill You Can Learn For Your Relationship Aug 19, 2024

There’s an art to listening to your partner in a way that will change everything in the energy between you.

In this Language of Love Bite, I dive into why listening matters so much in relationships. Truly listening—without interrupting or planning your next witty comeback— can work wonders for intimacy and trust. In addition to advice and guidance on the art of listening, I share some of my own story as I used to be a terrible listener, always thinking of my return argument, instead of really tuning in. That is until I tried this one quirky hack. Tune in to find out what it is!

Remember to visit my website and explore my free Quantum Sex course—an opportunity to elevate your intimacy to the next level!

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Shadow Work: How Facing Your Inner Demons Can Set You Free with Kristan Sargeant Aug 14, 2024

Have you ever felt shocked at how strongly you react to something? Feeling stuck in the same patterns you know don’t serve you? Well it may be your Shadow at work. And understanding your shadows leads to transformation and sets you free. The path to that freedom lies in the parts of yourself you've been ignoring.

Joining me in this Language of Love Conversation is the amazing business consultant and psychotherapist Kristan Sargeant. Together, we dive into a fascinating conversation about the shadow—those hidden parts of ourselves shaped by societal pressures and intense experiences. It’s incredible how these buried aspects can impact our lives in unexpected ways.

Kristan breaks down the whole concept of Shadow, explaining how it forms and why it's so important to bring it out into the light. We even do a mini shadow session with a my producer, Sam! Kristan also shares some of her own personal insights and gives tips on how to build a relationship with your shadow for some serious personal growth and transformation.

This is what we explore:

What is shadow and shadow work?
Practical steps for engaging with the shadow to stop negative patterns
How to negotiate with your shadow and consistently show up for it
The importance of shadow wisdom

Remember to check out The Tools: 5 Tools to Help You Find Courage, Creativity, and Willpower--and Inspire You to Live Life in Forward Motion by Phil Stutz and Barry Michaels for insights on Shadow work. Follow Kristan on Instagram, LinkedIn or visit her website for her latest projects. Also, remember to visit my website for courses and books designed for you and more.

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Unmasking Your Inner Child: The Key to Authentic Living Aug 07, 2024

They say the secret to deeper, more authentic relationships might be hidden in your childhood. What if the love languages you speak today are echoes from a younger version of yourself?

In this Language of Love session, I’m reconnecting with Carmen, a caller I advised on the show nearly two years! Time really does fly, doesn’t it?

Carmen has been on quite a journey since we last spoke. Remember when she was grappling with hiding her personal values from her partner and dealing with people-pleasing and codependency? It’s a struggle many of us can relate to, seeking validation from others while keeping parts of ourselves hidden. For Carmen, that meant concealing her spiritual beliefs from her partner—a recipe for tension in any relationship!

Fast forward to today, and Carmen’s life is buzzing with change. She’s moved to a new town with her partner, left her decade-long job, and embarked on a new career path. Quite a whirlwind, right? On top of that, her father, who struggles with alcoholism, is coming to visit.

In this session, we dive into these major transitions and explore how Carmen can stay true to herself amid it all.

Let's delve into what we uncover:

Carmen's journey of self-discovery and embracing her spirituality
The impact of upbringing on self-expression and fear of judgment
The power of self-acceptance and being authentic in personal growth
The emotional rollercoaster of opening up and being vulnerable
What "soul retrieval" is and how it heals past traumas
Transitions in life and the associated fears and pressures
How working with our inner child can ease fears and boost self-love
Why a supportive environment is key for being vulnerable

I recommend Teal Swan’s book The Completion Process and her course on revisiting and healing those parts of ourselves we often resist—the inner child work, if you will. After all, the inner child is often the first step in spiritual awakening.

Remember to visit my website for tailor-made courses like the "Good Grief" course, "Quantum Sex," and more. Let’s embrace being unapologetically authentic and make every moment count!

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How to Fight For Love Aug 05, 2024

Let's be real—every couple has their moments. Fights are just part of the deal in relationships. Having healthy disagreements and working through them in a respectful way can actually make your bond stronger.

In this Language of Love Bite, I bust the myth that happy couples never fight. I'm all about how fighting can be good—if you do it right. I share easy tips on staying calm when things heat up, understanding what’s really bugging you both, and communicating effectively.

Let’s break down:

Why fighting can actually be healthy for love
How to build relationship resilience through disagreements
The steps to a healthy resolution
The importance of calming your nerves before a fight
Practical tips to regulate your nervous system
How to find clarity when emotions are running high
Three questions that can help you see things more clearly

And once your fight is lovingly resolved, take your sex life to the next level and dive into Quantum Sex on my website for game-changing insights and techniques. Don't miss out on unlocking your full potential!

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The New Rules of Attachment with Dr. Judy Ho Jul 31, 2024

Did you know that your self-talk could be the sneaky culprit affecting your relationships more than you think? Maybe you've found yourself stuck in a relationship rut, scratching your head, wondering why things just aren't clicking with your partner. What if the secret to unlocking those mysteries might just lie within you and your partner's attachment style?

In this Language of Love Conversation, I’m joined by the amazing Dr. Judy Ho, a triple board-certified neuropsychologist and author of “The New Rules of Attachment.” Her book is full of insights into how our attachment styles shape, well, pretty much everything we do.

Attachment styles are essentially the blueprints that guide how we connect with others, pursue our dreams, and see ourselves. They influence everything from our love lives to our careers and even our self-perception. Dr. Judy breaks down the four main attachment styles and we chat about how they often have their roots in our childhood experiences.

We discuss:

Why it is important to know your attachment style
How negative self-talk is everywhere these days and what it's doing to our mental well-being
The connection between always expecting the worst and your attachment style
The influence of childhood experiences on attachment styles
Strategies for healing and re-parenting oneself to develop a secure attachment
The magic of self-compassion and why validating your feelings is key
The impact of cultural expectations on women and the need for self-permission to prioritize their own needs
The practice of embracing mistakes with humor and self-compassion

Remember to check out Dr. Judy's book, “The New Rules of Attachment!” Also, follow Dr. Judy on Instagram for insights and find free resources on her website. And as always, you can check out my books and courses that can help level-up your love life on my website.

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Is Stress Taking a Toll on Your Relationship? Jul 24, 2024

Ever felt like stress could be the invisible third wheel in your relationship? It's not just you. Stress has this uncanny ability to seep into our lives like an uninvited guest at a party—especially when it comes to relationships.

In this Language of Love Session, we catch up with Marla and Ken. Since our last chat they have been on quite a journey together through some major stresses, and they are learning to accept each others bids for connection which resulted in discovering a new hobby! It has not only led to “sprouting” some beautiful blooms, but also deepened their connection.

Marla opens up about her experiences with hormone therapy and the hurdles she's faced during intimate moments. But here's the kicker: with a bit of guidance on from me and a positive mindset, they're tackling these challenges head-on. It's clear these two are committed to not just surviving but thriving in their relationship journey.

For those who might have missed our previous episodes, I highly recommend going back and checking them out to get the full context of Marla and Ken's journey. It's been an enlightening experience, not just for them but for all of us listening in. So many of you tell me you’ve been learning along with them.

So, let's delve into how things have been progressing since our last conversation including:

How to recognize stress triggers in relationships
The overall impact of stress on relationships
Role kf hormone therapy in relationships and intimacy
Exploration of self-stimulation and overcoming resistance
Importance of approaching challenges with an open mind and curiosity

Don't forget to explore my complimentary course on Quantum Sex! Discover how to elevate your sexual response to new heights. Visit my website for more details.

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Do Women Really Want a Good Guy? Jul 22, 2024

Why does it seem like the nice guys finish last? Women say they want one, but they always seem to go for the bad boy in the end.

In this Language of Love Bite, I uncover the truth about why women often find themselves captivated by the so-called "jerks," leaving nice guys in the dust and overlooked in favor of these "bad boys." It's not about advocating for guys to mistreat women, but rather understanding the complexities of attraction.

I am exploring:

The complex interplay of psychological and emotional factors in relationships
Women's past trauma and its impact on relationship preferences
The discrepancy between women's stated desires and their actual attraction
Women's self-worth and self-esteem affecting their acceptance of love and kindness
Guidance for nice guys to assert their opinions, desires, and boundaries in relationships

If you're ready to elevate your love life, check out my website, the Seven Days To Better Sex Life and Quantum Sex for game-changing insights. Don't miss out on unlocking your full potential!

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Parenting a Struggling Child with Kristina Kuzmic Jul 17, 2024

The saying goes, “A parent is only as happy as their least happy child.” While this may be a bit of a codependent edict, it’s true that when your child is struggling with anxiety, depression or in any other way it takes a deep toll on the family system. And as parents we try everything we can think of to help, but often those efforts don’t create any substantive change.

In this episode of the Language of Love, I welcome back my good friend Kristina Kuzmic, a writer, creator, and mother, to discuss her new book, I Can Fix This and Other Lies I Told Myself While Parenting My Struggling Child. If you're a regular listener, you'll likely recall our in-depth chat in 2023 about her book 'Hold On, But Don't Hold Still,' where we explored personalized parenting and supporting our children through mental health challenges.

Today, Kristina shares her journey of parenting Luca, her son who battled depression, ADHD, and anxiety. At a certain point he became suicidal and a danger to himself and others. Kristina’s journey and the amazingly authentic way she shares it is inspiring and instructive.

We have a heart-to-heart chat about the importance of empathy and connection over trying to fix or control their struggles. She shares important and effective lessons she learned the hard way about how to best to support our kids through their toughest times.

Kristina and I deep dive into:

What it takes to parent children who are struggling
Kristina's backstory that led her to write her book
Why we should embrace empathy over control with struggling children
The ways our Children's struggles require that we address our unhealed parts
The importance of self-care for parents to better support struggling children
Redefining “good motherhood”

Check out Kristina's new book, I Can Fix This and Other Lies I Told Myself While Parenting My Struggling Child, as well as her previous bestseller, Hold On, But Don't Hold Still, for valuable insights. Follow her on LinkedIn, Website, Facebook, or Instagram for updates on her projects. And don’t forget, you can visit my website for helpful courses and resources designed for you.

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Unleashing Your Inner Strength: Healing After Narcissistic Abuse Jul 10, 2024

Have you ever thought about what it's like to live under the same roof with someone who once promised to love and protect you, but now subjects you to a relentless storm of emotional jabs, verbal assaults, gaslighting and manipulation?

Welcome back to another Language of Love Session. Today, I'm chatting with Mia, who's on a journey of healing and self-discovery after leaving an emotionally abusive relationship with a narcissist. We're diving into her journey of self-discovery and navigating the challenges of sharing space with her ex while sorting out the drama of divorce.

Setting boundaries is a big part of our conversation today—so crucial for reclaiming your confidence after a rough patch. I'm reminding Mia (and you, too!) about the power of letting those pent-up emotions out. It's like clearing out your closet—you've got to make space for the new by letting go of the old!

Here is what we explore:

The emotional toll of narcissistic relationships
How to recover from codependency and reclaim your own truth (again and again)
The steps to leaving an abusive relationship
Expressing and releasing emotions in a safe and non-destructive manner
Encouragement to allow oneself to feel and release sadness without suppression
Creating a safe space for holding your own boundaries
Importance of ongoing support and guidance during the transition out of the relationship

Remember, if you're going through a tough time, swing by my website for resources and courses. Let's tackle this healing journey together and come out stronger!

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Seven Keys to Building Sexual Confidence Jul 08, 2024

Are you ever uncertain about your sexual confidence? Whether it's feeling self-conscious with your partner or nerves about your first time, rest assured, you're not alone. No matter your level of experience, I'm here to help you feel more comfortable with your sexuality.

In this Language of Love Bite, I dive into a topic that many people shy away from discussing—sexual confidence. Strengthening your sexual confidence can greatly enhance both your mental well-being and your relationships. It might feel like opening Pandora's box, but fear not! I'll guide you through how to cultivate that crucial sexual confidence, unveiling the seven keys to mastering it. I'll reveal what it takes to bring your A-game to the bedroom, leaving your partner craving more. Get ready to feel empowered and equipped with everything you need to excel between the sheets!

Looking to spice up your sex life? Start by prioritizing open communication, experimenting with the fantasy box technique, joining my Seven Days to Better Sex program, and exploring Quantum Sex. Visit my website to learn more about how you can reignite the passion and create a deeply fulfilling sex life with your partner.

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Embracing Sacred Ceremony with Cynthia Ruiz Jul 03, 2024

We can add so much to our existence in this modern world by tapping into the ancient traditions that have so much to teach us. When it comes to grief and loss, rituals can provide opportunities for profound healing, connection and community.

Cynthia Ruiz, a professor, bestselling author, executive coach, and leadership expert joins us in this Language of Love Conversation to explore the transformative power of sacred ceremonies and rituals in today's busy world. Her latest book, “Sacred Ceremony and Rituals for Today's World,” is a cornerstone for our discussion. Drawing from her Cherokee heritage, Cynthia illuminates the purpose and practice of sacred ceremonies, a cornerstone of human experience across cultures and time. These rituals, she explains, are not just relics of the past but vital tools for personal growth and healing in our contemporary lives.

Here is what we unravel:

Importance of self-protection rituals and protecting one's energy
Significance of rituals and ceremonies in Native American culture
The importance of incorporating sacred ceremony into everyday life
Elements involved in creating a sacred ceremony
Use of the four elements - fire, water, earth, and air - for release and cleansing
Letting go of toxic relationships and making room for positive energy

Cynthia's wisdom is readily accessible in her book “Sacred Ceremony and Rituals for Today's World,” You can also connect with her on LinkedIn, Facebook, or Website. Visit my website to explore courses designed to enhance your relationships.

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Menopause, Stress, and Sexual Desire Jun 26, 2024

It’s time for another Language of Love Session where I get to sit down with one of my listeners and help them with their love life. I love these episodes because each time you ask your questions (and I give the answer), I know we are helping 100s of thousands of other people with the same query!

In this episode I’m helping Mary who, like way too many of us, has been living in a sexless marriage with her husband for some time. Much of her low desire is due to the daily grind and work-related stress, but was compounded by premature menopause in her thirties. If you are struggling in a sexless relationship or with low desire, listen in for important tips and tools for addressing the symptoms from a mind, body and relationship perspective.

In this episode I help Mary unravel:

Challenges in sexual relationships due to menopause and work-related stress
Effects of stress on men's sexual desire and decline of testosterone with age
Importance of understanding hormonal changes and their impact on sexual health
Practical suggestions for improving sexual communication and exploring alternative approaches to intimacy
Options for improving sexual response and desire, particularly for women
Insurance coverage for treatments such as testosterone replacement and locally delivered estrogen
Reassurance about the normalcy of reduced sexual activity in long-term relationships
The importance of maintaining a strong emotional connection in a relationship

Join us on this journey to better understanding and improving our intimate lives. Visit my website to explore courses designed to enhance your relationships.

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Losing Sammy: A Very Personal Update on My Grief Journey Jun 24, 2024

What if the most impossible loss turns out to set you free in ways you couldn’t imagine?

What if instead of going through loss you could grow through it?

What if you become a more self-actualized, tapped-in and tuned-in empowered version of yourself, because of what you’ve been through (not in spite of it)?

What if love really lives forever and you can learn to continue a relationship with your loved ones on the other side?

What if you didn’t have to go through terrible loss alone or struggle to find the right kind of support or community who understands?

These are questions I couldn’t imagine having, much less answering over three years ago when my son Sammy was killed. Grief became my unwelcome companion, but strangely, it also became my greatest teacher. Healing from loss is messy, unpredictable, and deeply personal. Now, I'm on a mission fueled by passion—to help others like me find their own paths through grief and toward spiritual renewal. Join me as I share my story, the hard-won lessons, and how we can all navigate the stormy seas of grief with grace and resilience.

This is what we explore:

The transformative power of allowing oneself to fully experience and process pain
The interconnectedness of grief and spirituality
The importance of embodiment, nature exposure, spirit connection, tribe, creative expression, and cognitive thinking in the grief healing journey
The therapeutic value of creative expression and cognitive thinking in understanding the stages of grief
My personal journey of grief and the resources and programs I offer for individuals seeking support and guidance

For those in need of more support and guidance, check out the Good Grief course on my website along with other resources and programs aimed at assisting individuals through their grief journey. Remember, grief is not merely a destination but a transformative journey.

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Sovereign Love with Dene Logan Jun 19, 2024

What does it take to achieve true harmony in our relationships? Regardless of your gender or sexual identity or role in your relationships, understanding the balance of masculine and feminine energies is crucial for intimacy, connection and personal power in love.

In this Language of Love conversation, I have a heart-to-heart with therapist and author, Dene Logan. Dene’s new book, “Sovereign Love,” delves into finding the perfect mix of masculine and feminine energies in our relationships. We discuss the challenges of navigating societal expectations, especially for moms juggling responsibilities and managing dynamics within their relationships.

We explore the question of how we can lean on each other in love without losing ourselves and how we can work as a team with our partners to heal what isn’t working in love. It's all about getting to know yourself, embracing what makes us different, being real with each other, and keeping that spark alive while staying true to yourself.

We unpack:

Reclaiming healthy masculine and feminine energies in love and partnership
Balancing masculine and feminine energies in work and home life
Societal norms and their impact on relationships
Challenges faced by couples, particularly in the context of motherhood
Embracing interdependence in relationships
The vulnerability and authenticity that lies within communication

Check out Dene's book, "Sovereign Love: A Guide to Healing Relationships by Reclaiming the Masculine and Feminine Within," for more insights, and tune into her podcast, “Cheaper Than Therapy” too! As always, visit my website to explore my available courses to improve your relationship.

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Hormone Therapy and the Path to Renewed Passion Jun 12, 2024

In this episode of the Language of Love Session, I continue my conversation with Marla and Ken, a couple I've been helping to understand the hurdles they've faced and the strides they've made in enhancing their emotional and physical intimacy.

We delve into the details of their physical intimacy and sexual relationship. Ken opens up about his struggle with sexual energy and desire, which he feels is lacking, describing it as "flat." Although his testosterone levels have been normal in past tests, we get into how misleading the wide range of “normal” is, and how important it is to have results read by someone who’s really trained in anti-aging medicine and hormone therapy. I also cover the important role testosterone plays, not only for sexual desire but also for overall well-being, and we discuss various hormone replacement options.

Marla shares her perspective as well, and together we reflect on how Ken's recent retirement might be influencing his energy and motivation. I advise them to consult with a specialist in sexual medicine to address these concerns, with the hope of enhancing their relationship.

Here is what we explore:

Importance of initiating physical intimacy in the relationship
Emphasis on sensual and erotic touch to strengthen the connection
Retirement and its impact on confidence and sense of purpose
Testosterone therapy and its potential impact on sexual energy and general well-bein

Remember, the journey to rekindling intimacy is both personal and universal. Check out my website for books and courses like Quantum Sex to improve your sex life, along with many others.

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Size Matters... or Does It? Jun 10, 2024

In this Language of Love Bite, I'm diving into a topic that seems to be on a lot of men's minds: penis size. I know it's a sensitive subject, but it's important to talk about the concerns and misconceptions that surround it.

Let's get one thing straight: the myths about what's considered "average" size are pervasive. I came across a study that really puts things into perspective—50% of men weren't happy with their size, yet a staggering 80% of women were actually content with their partner's size. This discrepancy shows that the pressure men feel is often internal and not based on the reality of their partners' satisfaction.

I want to caution you against making comparisons to what you see in pornography. Porn is not real life, and it's certainly not a benchmark for your own body. And when it comes to treatments that promise to increase size, please be wary. There are countless products and procedures out there, from penis extenders to surgery, but they come with limited benefits and significant risks.

I want to reassure you that in most cases, your size is more than adequate. What's truly important in a sexual relationship is technique and the emotional connection you share with your partner.

Remember, if you're seeking to elevate your sex life, visit my website and explore my course on quantum sex.

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Unleashing the Power of Emotional Parenting with Cassidy Callan Jun 05, 2024

As parents, we play a critical role of being a safe container for our children's emotions. It's so important for us to understand that our kids need us to be their emotional anchors. And let's be honest, that's not always easy. It means we have to do the hard work of unlearning some of our own past conditioning so we can better co-regulate with our little ones.

In this episode of The Language of Love, I'm joined by the wonderful parenting coach Cassidy Callan. Together, we're diving into the intricate world of parenting, with a special focus on emotional intelligence. Cassidy is here to offer some invaluable advice on how to handle those inevitable emotional outbursts. She's a pro at guiding parents on the importance of grounding, empathy, and validation. It's not just about managing the outbursts—it's about understanding them and using those moments as opportunities for connection and growth.

We're also going to emphasize the significance of being present and empathetic. I can't stress enough how modeling emotional regulation is key. Creating a nurturing environment is essential for children to develop their emotional intelligence. Our kids learn from watching us, so it's up to us to show them what it looks like to handle emotions in a healthy way.

We explore:

Creating a safe and empathetic environment for emotional expression and regulation
The impact of parents' emotional state on children
Collaborative and cooperative parenting
Supporting children's emotional development and nurturing their unique abilities and gifts
The challenges of regulating emotions in public settings
Validating and empathizing with children's emotions

Be sure to check out my website for my courses, books, and products that can help you love and be loved better.

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Finding Balance in the Wake of Cancer May 29, 2024

In this Language of Love Session, I have the privilege of reconnecting with Victoria, a courageous soul navigating the turbulent waters of her relationship after her partner's cancer diagnosis. Her story is one of love, resilience, and the quest for balance amidst life's unexpected challenges.

Victoria's experience is a reminder of how illness can transform not only the life of the person diagnosed but also that of their partner. She bravely shares her frustrations about feeling lost in the role of a caretaker, a sentiment that many can relate to. The balance between supporting a loved one and maintaining one's sense of self is delicate and often difficult to achieve.

Here's a sneak peek of what we discuss:

Victoria's struggles in her relationship after her partner's cancer diagnosis and treatment
The intricate balance of healing and growth within a relationship affected by illness
The complexities of confronting uncertainty and the allure of looking for answers externally
The importance of open communication and seeking professional help

Remember that relationships are a dance of give and take, especially in times of crisis. It's through our challenges that we often find our greatest strengths and learn the most about ourselves and our partners. Don't forget to check out my website for courses designed to improve your sex life and relationships!

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The Five Secrets to Capture Your Partner's Heart May 27, 2024

Do you find yourself in a place where you feel less attractive or irresistible to your partner? You're not alone. It's a common challenge that many people face in their relationships. The good news is that there are strategies and actions you can take to become truly irresistible to your partner.

In this Language of Love Bite, I share some golden nuggets to make you absolutely irresistible to your partner. Together, we dive into these transformative insights that can sprinkle some magic into your relationship. From cherishing your independence to keeping that flame of desire alive with little gestures of love, each tip is like a spark igniting deeper connections and joy.

As we journey through the importance of loving yourself, looking after your appearance, and daring to explore new adventures together, a path unfolds. It's not just about spicing things up for a moment; it's about nurturing a love that's lasting and electrifying. With these simple yet powerful principles of independence, desire, appearance, exploration, and self-love, you will be on your way to crafting a relationship that's irresistibly beautiful.

Remember, if you're seeking to elevate your sex life, visit my website and explore my course on quantum sex.

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The Kitchen Healer with Jules Davis May 22, 2024

Did you know your kitchen is like a special sanctuary where you can nourish your body and soul, and even find a way to cope with loss and grief through cooking?

In this Language of Love Conversation, I'm joined by the amazing Jules Davis, also known as the Kitchen Healer, and the author of “The Kitchen Healer: The Journey to Becoming You.”

Jules and I talk about how cooking and food aren't just about filling our bellies but also key ingredients in self-care, personal growth, and nurturing our emotional health. Jules has some incredible insights on the power of cooking with intention and how being mindful in the kitchen can transform the whole experience. As for me, I'm sharing a bit about how I have had to redefine my own relationship with food over the years. It's been a path of discovery, not just about what I'm eating, but also understanding my deeper hungers – those emotional needs that we often try to satisfy with a snack or a meal.

Together, we’re challenging some of those traditional views on nourishment. We are all about embracing a more nurturing, expressive, and yes, delicious approach to cooking and eating. So, let's get ready to stir the pot and spice things up in this episode!

Curious about what's on the menu? Here's a sneak peek:

Jules’ expertise as the Kitchen Healer and her work on women's healing
The concept of nourishment and its connection to emotional well-being
Recognizing cooking as a meditative and nurturing practice
The emotional and spiritual dimensions of cooking
Slowing down and creating intention around nourishing oneself
Nourishment beyond just food, encompassing connection, love, and passion

Don't forget to explore Jules Davis' book, The Kitchen Healer, to discover how turning on the fire in the kitchen and in your life can bring you freedom. Connect with her on Facebook, LinkedIn, and Instagram or Website. Also, If you are going through grief, please remember to visit my website to explore my good grief course because no one should go through grief alone.

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Navigating the Tides of Intimacy May 15, 2024

In this Language of Love Session, I catch up with the amazing couple, Marla and Ken, who have been married for 38 years, to discuss the challenges and triumphs of maintaining intimacy in a long-term relationship.

If you have been following Ken and Marla's journey, you're probably eager to hear about their progress. And if you're new to their story, I highly recommend catching up on their previous episodes—it's been quite a ride!

Marla and Ken open up about their emotional highs and lows, including the impact of losing a close friend and struggles with finding the right therapist and committing to daily connection exercises. We also delve into their struggles with self-criticism and their pursuit of joy within their partnership. So, let's dive right in and see how things have been unfolding since our last session.

We discuss:

Challenges in expressing love and connection in the relationship
Importance of foundational activities for maintaining a strong connection
Suggestions for building physical and emotional intimacy
Identifying specific actions to nurture emotional bonds and self-care

Don't forget to explore my free course on Quantum Sex! It's designed to elevate your sexual experience to new heights. Simply visit the homepage of my website to get started. Until next time!

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Exploring the Peaks of Female Pleasure May 13, 2024

Are you tired of the same old snooze fest in the bedroom? Are you craving a wild, spine-tingling adventure that will leave you breathless and begging for more? Well, my friend, you've come to the right place!

In this Language of Love Bite, I'm excited to dive into a topic that's both fun and informative. I'm going to share with you my insights on five sexual positions that women find enjoyable. We also get cozy with spooning, discussing the intimacy it brings to your connection with your partner. And let's not forget the Yab Yum and Cat Technique – I explain how these positions can enhance your connection and really activate the G-spot.

Let’s dive in!

I'm all about experimentation and finding what works best for you and your body, so visit my website for all my courses, books, and products that will definitely heighten your pleasure. I even have a course on quantum sex to help you explore further!

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The Path to Liberated Love with Mark Groves and Kylie McBeath May 08, 2024

Imagine having a blueprint for love that empowers you to design the kind of love that fulfills you, lifts you up, and sets you free.

In this Language of Love Conversation, I’m sitting down with two remarkable guests. Joining me is Mark Groves, a human connection specialist and founder of Create the Love, and Kylie McBeath, a certified health coach and host of the Journey Home podcast. Together, they form a powerhouse couple who have co-authored the book “Liberated Love.”

Mark and Kylie introduce us to the concept of liberated love, a term that encapsulates a commitment to truth, transparency, and honoring each other's individual paths in a relationship. This approach to love is about not trying to fix or control one another but rather supporting each other's growth and authenticity.

Their personal journey, which they candidly share, took them from a phase they refer to as relationship 1.0—a time marked by unconscious dynamics and codependency—to a transformative period they call the sacred pause. This mutual uncoupling allowed them to embark on a journey of self-discovery and growth, which eventually led them back to each other, ready to begin relationship 2.0, a renewed and more conscious partnership.

Here is what we unpack with Kylie and Mark:

The concept of “liberated love” and its principles
The significance of the “sacred pause” in relationships
An exploration of codependency in relationships
Recognition of blind spots and masks in relationships
Self-awareness, healing from codependency, and personal growth before entering new relationships
Intergenerational patterns and societal influences in shaping beliefs about relationships

Check out Liberated Loveby Mark Groves and Kylie McBeath. Whether you're single, in a relationship, exploring a transition, or seeking growth, this book is for you. You can also find Mark on Create the Love and Kylie on Instagram for more inspiring content. Also, do not forget to check my website for more resources to take your intimacy to the next level.

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Near-Death Experience Insights on Love and Being with Anita Moorjani May 01, 2024

In this episode of Language of Love, I am featuring another session from the Good Grief Day event, and this time we have speaker and author Anita Moorjani. Anita's story is nothing short of miraculous. She was grappling with end-stage cancer, her body riddled with tumors, and she was on the verge of what seemed like an inevitable end. But it was in this moment of extreme physical depletion that Anita experienced something extraordinary—a near-death experience that would change her life forever.

She also explores the significance of joy in our lives and the comforting idea that our departed loved ones are still with us in some form. During the Q&A segment, she offers her perspective on what the afterlife might hold for controversial figures, discussing the notion of personal growth beyond the traditional view of eternal punishment.

We explore:

Cultural conditioning and societal expectations impacting Anita's illness
Anita's miraculous recovery and the importance of finding joy and uplifting energy
Communicating with deceased loved ones and the signs they send
Addressing the belief that grieving may keep loved ones trapped
The choice to operate from the highest version of oneself

Please remember to check Anita's website to learn more about her latest projects. Don't forget to grab a copy of her book "Dying to Be Me" for more insights. You can also connect with her on LinkedIn. As usual, you can visit my website for more amazing resources and courses.

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The Hidden Impact of Trauma on Love and Relationships May 01, 2024

In this Language of Love Bite, we're going to dive deep into a topic that's both incredibly personal and universally relevant – the five common types of trauma and how they impact our love lives and relationships.

As a sex and relationship therapist, I've seen firsthand how trauma can really shake the foundation of our self-worth and trust. We're talking about sexual trauma, physical trauma, emotional trauma, and those gut-wrenching experiences of rejection, humiliation, abandonment, and betrayal. Each one of these can leave scars that might not be visible to the eye but can be felt deeply in the heart.

I want to walk you through how these traumas can hinder us, and how they can make us put up walls where we should be building bridges. It's about understanding that when we're hurt, our instincts tell us to protect ourselves, sometimes to the point where we might push away the things we desire most – connection, intimacy, and love.

But here's the thing – and this is so important – healing is possible. I can't stress enough the value of trauma-informed therapy. Techniques like somatic experiencing can be game-changers, helping us to reconnect with our bodies and process those deep-seated emotions that we've been carrying around.

If you’re struggling, don’t hesitate to seek professional help. It's not a sign of weakness; it's a step towards recovery. And I want you to know that you're not alone in this. We're in it together, and I'm here to support you on your journey towards healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Remember to visit my website for tips on revitalizing your sex life: prioritize open communication, try the fantasy box, take my “Seven Days to Better Sex” course, and explore “Quantum Love.”

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The Impact of Trauma in our Body with Dr. Sara Gottfried May 01, 2024

Did you know that 50 million Americans have some form of dysregulated immune system? But here's the catch - you may not even realize that you are one of them. Perhaps you've been given a diagnosis that you don't fully understand or have been told that you have an autoimmune disorder. The truth is, it's not just a medical issue, it's also an emotional one.

In this Language of Love Conversation, I'm excited to be joined by Dr. Sara Gottfried, a Harvard-educated medical doctor, scientist, researcher, and author of four New York Times best-selling books.

We dive into the connections between trauma, autoimmune diseases, and how our bodies keep everything in check. We are chatting about how trauma can throw our systems out of whack, messing with our immune system and sometimes leading to autoimmune issues. Dr. Gottfried is here to shed light on why catching these autoimmune diseases early is so crucial, especially when the signs can be pretty vague.

In this conversation, we break down:

The connection between trauma and dysregulation in the body
The pine system and its role in responding to trauma
Understanding autoimmune diseases and the immune system
Potential treatments for autoimmune conditions

To learn more about Dr. Gottfried's latest projects and to read her latest book, Hormone Cure, visit her website. Explore the connections between trauma, autoimmune diseases, and how our bodies keep everything in check.

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The Most Heartwarming Messages from Beyond with Susan Grau Apr 17, 2024

This Language of Love episode is a special one! I'm sharing another talk from my Good Grief Day event, and this time I’m featuring the incredibly gifted medium and author, Susan Grau. She has an extraordinary ability to connect with the other side, and she reached out to our audience members, delivering messages that are sure to touch the heart.

During the event, Susan brought comfort offering apologies, expressions of love, and even signs from their departed loved ones. They’re truly powerful moments, and you can feel the love reaching out from beyond. It's moments like these that remind us of the unbreakable bonds of love.

As we delve into these connections, I can't help but relate to the profound sense of grief that comes with losing someone we love. I've been there, and I understand how hard it is. But I also know the solace and closure that can come from feeling that connection to our loved ones who have passed on. It's a reminder that love transcends all, even death.

Be sure to check out my website for my online course, Good Grief: Healing from Loss with Love, for more guidance and support on your healing journey. And, remember to grab a copy of Susan’s book “Infinite Life, Infinite Lessons.” Happy reading!

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The Art of Synchronized Satisfaction Apr 15, 2024

Have you ever imagined how you can achieve simultaneous orgasms with your partner? Many people find it challenging to experience this together. However, some techniques can be employed in your sex life to achieve this shared climax.

In this episode of the Language of Love Bite, I dive into a subject that is often whispered about in the corners of our most private conversations: the art of achieving simultaneous orgasms with your partner.

I explore:

How to achieve simultaneous orgasms with a partner
The importance of individual and mutual orgasms
The beauty of incorporating oral stimulation alongside self-stimulation
Significance of open communication and intuition during sexual exchanges
The stepwise approach to practicing simultaneous orgasms
The differences in time to reach orgasm for men and women

Don't forget to visit my website and explore the free Quantum Sex course. It will help you elevate your sexual response to new heights.

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The Definitive Guide to Menopause with Dr Louise Newson Apr 10, 2024

If you or a woman you love is in her 40s or beyond, this episode is for you! Going through menopause can feel like walking through a big, confusing and uncomfortable maze with no guidance. The good news is there is help and guidance available!

In this Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Dr. Louise Newson, a renowned medical expert on menopause and author of "The Definitive Guide to the Perimenopause and Menopause," to unravel the complexities of menopause, perimenopause, and hormone therapy. Our conversation is not only enlightening but also deeply personal, as we delve into the evolutionary context of menopause and the myriad of symptoms and treatments associated with this life stage. We chat about the incredible benefits of hormone therapy, and yes, that includes vaginal hormones. It's all about finding what works for you because, let's face it, every woman's journey is unique. Personalized treatment? Absolutely essential.

This episode is all about empowering you with knowledge and compassion because navigating menopause is a journey that no woman should have to walk alone. Let's get informed and support each other every step of the way.

Here is a summary of what we unpack:

The evolutionary context of menopause
The different symptoms and treatments associated with menopause
The misdiagnosis of menopausal symptoms as depression
The impact of menopausal symptoms on sexual desire and intimacy
A holistic approach to menopause care and caution against sensationalized or over-medicalized approaches

Remember to check out Dr Louise Newson’s book, The Definitive Guide to the Perimenopause and Menopause, for more insights. You can also visit her website or connect with her on LinkedIn.

Additionally, don't forget to explore my brand new course that aims to unleash the passion within and help you enjoy a better sex life.

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How to Transform Grief into Growth with Biet Simkin Apr 03, 2024

This episode of the Language of Love is a special one! I’m thrilled to share with you the beautiful talk Biet Simkin gave at our Good Grief Day event. Biet is a spiritual teacher and musician whose life story is a profound testament to the resilience of the human spirit. She shares her journey of healing and takes us through her powerful breathwork practice (make sure you aren’t driving or operating heavy machinery when you do it!).

Biet opens her heart to us, sharing her personal narrative of navigating through the darkest valleys of loss and emerging into the light of purpose and spiritual awakening. She speaks candidly about her descent into depression and self-destructive behavior, a tumultuous period exacerbated by the vibrant yet chaotic New York City art scene. The story takes a heartbreaking turn when she recounts the unimaginable loss of her infant daughter to sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS). That tragedy was only compounded by the subsequent deaths of her father and the loss of her home. It's at her breaking point that Biet surrenders to a higher power, marking the beginning of her transformation. She leads us in a grief meditation and discusses her unique breathwork technique. I have personally experienced the benefits of breathwork and can't wait for you to try it.

You will learn:

Biet’s personal story of loss; her struggles with depression, substance abuse, and grief, and how it transformed her
Biet's insights on grief and leading the audience through a grief meditation exercise
Recommendations for practicing breathwork at home
Personal stories of loss and healing shared by the audience

I invite you to join us on this journey. Whether you're seeking solace, understanding, or a new perspective on your own path of healing, this episode is for you.

Don't forget to visit my website for my grief course. Check out Biet Simkin's book, "Don't Just Sit There!: 44 Insights to Get Your Meditation Practice Off the Cushion and Into the Real World." It's amazing! For updates on Biet Simkin's latest projects and to connect with her, visit her website or reach out on LinkedIn.

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The Secrets to Female Orgasm Apr 01, 2024

Did you know that most women fake their orgasms? It's a shocking reality that brings to light the underlying issues surrounding female pleasure. However, amidst the discussions on faking orgasms, there's a lesser-known side to the story. What happens when a woman actually cannot reach an orgasm?

This Language of Love Bite is all about a topic that is both captivating and incredibly important for women – achieving orgasm. I acknowledge that it can sometimes be a difficult subject to discuss, but let's have an honest conversation about it. Understanding our bodies is essential, and this includes becoming comfortable with self-stimulation. Ultimately, it's about being self-aware, right?

Here is a glimpse of what I unpack:

What happens when a woman can't reach orgasm
The common causes for an orgasm, or difficulty or inability to reach orgasm
The most common myths about women reaching orgasm
Importance of self-exploration and understanding one's body
Why many women fake orgasm
The guilt and shame around sexuality
The impact of attention deficit disorder on orgasm
The lack of enough foreplay among couples
The physiological aspects that influence a woman's ability to orgasm.
Debunk the myth that mutual orgasm is the ultimate goal
The significance of intimacy and connection in sexual satisfaction

Please remember to visit my website where you can find my free course on Quantum Sex. This course is designed to help you enhance your sexual response and experience full-body orgasms. It will also teach you how to use sex magic to manifest your dreams and establish a deeper sexual connection with your partner.

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Love and Translation with Sangita Patel Mar 27, 2024

Can love truly transcend language barriers? Is it possible for two souls to connect in the absence of a shared vocabulary? These questions have puzzled philosophers, poets, and love-struck individuals for centuries.

In this Language of Love Conversation, I am thrilled to be joined by Sangita Patel, Canadian TV personality from Love and Translation, to discuss the complexities of finding love across language barriers. Love and Translation is a social experiment reality show where American men and women, who don't speak English, try to form connections without a common language. The women have translators, but the men must use nonverbal cues, engaging in activities like eye gazing and smelling competitions to see if love can grow without words.

We dive into:

Nonverbal communication and cultural differences in relationships
The impact of hormonal contraceptives on attraction
Importance of maintaining emotional and physical connection in relationships
Importance of communication and affection in relationships, and especially in parenting
The power of nonverbal communication and the potential for love to transcend linguistic and cultural boundaries

Remember to watch the Love and Translation show to discover more about Sangita's work. Follow her on LinkedIn, Instagram, and Facebook to learn more about her projects. And don't forget to visit my website for a free 30-day challenge that will elevate your intimacy to the next level!

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Hormonal Imbalances: The Invisible Culprit Mar 20, 2024

In this episode, we're continuing our conversation with Ken and Marla, who have been kind enough to share their intimacy journey with us. If you've been following their story, you know that we've been exploring some of the challenges they've been facing in their relationship, particularly around intimacy and sexual health.

For those who might have missed our previous episodes, I highly recommend going back and checking them out to get the full context of Ken and Marla's journey. It's been an enlightening experience, not just for them but for all of us listening in.

Now, picking up from where we left off last time, Marla was opening up about her struggles with a lack of sexual response, which she suspects might be linked to hormonal imbalances. And Ken has been dealing with low energy and sleep problems, which can certainly take a toll on intimacy.

I want to stress the significance of hormones in sexual health. They play such a crucial role, and it's important that we don't overlook them. It's not uncommon for sleep issues and low energy to be connected to hormonal imbalances, and identifying any issues there is vital for overall well-being and, by extension, Ken’s relationship with Marla.

So, let's dive in and see how things have been going since our last conversation.

In this episode, we’re diving into:

Marla's concerns about her lack of sexual response and arousal
Ken’s struggles with low energy levels and poor sleep quality
The role of estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone in sexual response and overall well-being
Marla's previous experience with hormone replacement therapy and concerns about family history of breast cancer.
Recommendations for personalized hormone therapy and regular monitoring
The potential risks and side effects of hormone therapy

Remember to check out my free course on Quantum Sex. It's going to teach you how to take your sexual response to the next level. Just go to my website’s homepage. Until next time!

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The Art of Cultivating Soul Friendships Mar 18, 2024

Welcome back to another Language of Love Bite!

This week we explore a topic that resonates deeply with many of us: the making and maintaining of soul friendships.You know, those deep, meaningful connections that just light up your life?

I'm going to share with you the emotional healing necessary to make room for these kinds of friendships. We'll also chat about why knowing your worth and setting boundaries isn't just good for you, but it's essential for nurturing healthy, soulful friendships.

I've got some stories from my own life to share, too, because let's face it, we've all been there when a friendship ends. It's tough, but I'll give you some tips on how to handle it with grace and how to spot the real deal soul friends in your life.

Try out any of my guided meditations to ground your system and regulate your energy, and then check out my book Quantum Love for a deeper dive into this topic.

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My First Ever Interview with a Spirit Guide with Riz Mirza Mar 13, 2024

In this Language of Love Conversation, I'm chatting with Riz Mirza. He may look like a heavy metal rocker (he is by the way), but he’s also a trance-medium psychic channel. We dive into the supernatural (and even spooky) stuff is a part of our natural world that we don't always see. Riz says that thanks to the limitations of our 5 senses, most of us have filters on that only let us catch a glimpse of all the info out there.

Riz opens up about his own story, how he went from pushing away his psychic abilities to totally embracing (and yes rocking) them. He's all about embracing that sensitivity and the strength it brings. And me? I'm sharing some of my heartache and messages I’ve been receiving since loosing my son.

Plus, get this – In addition to a mediumship reading with some wild messages from my departed son, Sammy, Riz channeled a spirit named Red Eagle and I interviewed him!! I’ve never interviewed a spirit guide before. It was wild. He's passing on messages about the state of the world, how to move through these crazy times, and giving a sense of validation that was so comforting. Listen in, it's going to be an incredible show!

In this episode, Riz (and Red Eagle) and I dive into:

Understanding the limitations of human perception and processing of information
The concept of suspending disbelief and being open to new ideas
Why hope actually may work against you.
How to find joyful navigation through chaos
Dealing with grief and finding meaning in loss
Mediumship and channeling as tools for healing and connection with loved ones
The power of sensitivity and self-expression
Overcoming judgments and living authentically
The transformative potential of navigating loss with grace

Be sure to connect with Riz on Instagram and his website to delve deeper into his work. You'll find a wealth of content and insights waiting for you.

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Overcoming Trauma Reactions in Relationships Mar 06, 2024

In this Language of Love Session, we continue our conversation with Ken and Marla, a couple who has been going through some sexual struggles, and we really got into the nitty-gritty of how stress and trauma can mess with your love life.

Ken's been feeling super stressed and it's been hitting their intimacy hard. He's distracted, tired, and just not in the mood, which has been causing some tension between them. Marla, on her end, is experiencing PTSD symptoms in response to Ken’s anger, even though it’s not directed at her. This is not at all uncommon for those with a trauma background. But the dynamic is making her pull away and shut down emotionally. It's like they're stuck in this loop where they just keep triggering each other.

So, I suggest they try somatic experiencing therapy. It's a game-changer for understanding and dealing with trauma responses. And one big thing I emphasized was the need to separate their actions from their reactions. It's not easy, but it's so important for healing and moving forward together.

I'm confident that this session will not only provide you with a deeper understanding of the complexities of trauma in intimate relationships but also arm you with practical guidance to face similar challenges head-on. Remember to check out my recommended books The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma and Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma and let's keep growing together.

Keep pushing forward, and don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it. Here's to healing and growing stronger together!

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Healing from Friendship Breakups Mar 04, 2024

Welcome back to another Language of Love Bite!

Today, I want to share something deeply personal and universally relatable – the often-overlooked pain of friendship breakups. I totally get how losing a friend can feel just like you've lost a member of your family, and with everything going on with the pandemic, those feelings are even more intense.

I'm opening up about my own experiences with losing friends and I'm right here with you, guiding you through those complex emotions. We're going to talk about how to pick yourself up and build that resilience to move forward. It's all about looking inward, reflecting on the friendships we've had, and being brave enough to make new connections.

But here's a heads up – trying to get closure from that former friend might not be the best move. It can actually set you back on your healing journey. So, let's navigate this together and find our way to a place of peace and new beginnings.

I talk about:

Friendship breakups and grief that can bring
Impact of pandemic on friendship breakups
Complex emotions during the grieving process
Navigating loss with grace and resilience
Guidance on navigating the aftermath of friendship breakups
Importance of self-reflection and identifying valued qualities in friendships
Accessing new, more aligned connections to emerge
Practical advice and support for individuals navigating friendship breakups

Have you experienced the pain of loss and found it difficult to cope and heal? If so, I invite you to visit my website and explore the resources available, including a grief course that may help you navigate through your journey of healing.

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Diary of a Human Lie Detector with Annie Särnblad Feb 28, 2024

You ever wonder if someone is telling the truth? It turns out each of us can be a human lie detector! There's no magic involved, only science. It's all about understanding the language of micro facial expressions. By paying attention to small changes in a person's face, we can uncover the truth and strengthen our relationships with others. Whether it's picking up on tiny expressions to see if someone’s into you, understanding the hidden meaning behind a friend's smile, or determining if someone is telling you the truth, knowing the language of facial expressions can make all the difference.

In this Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Annie Särnblad, a global speaker and certified expert in the Facial Action Coding System (FACS), to learn all about the art of reading micro expressions.

Annie's journey into the realm of facial expressions is as personal as it is professional. Stemming from a childhood marked by abuse, she developed a heightened sensitivity to non-verbal cues as a survival mechanism. This hyper-awareness evolved into a passion for understanding the subtle signals conveyed through our facial expressions, particularly microexpressions—those fleeting, involuntary movements that can betray our true feelings.

We break down:

Annie's personal and professional background in understanding facial expressions, especially microexpressions
The universality of facial expressions across different cultures and languages
How to read micro expression to identify genuine emotions and building trust
Physiological connections to facial expressions, such as the link between disgust and sense of smell
Challenging misconceptions about empathy in individuals with autism
The importance of cultural awareness and considering cultural variations in non-verbal communication
The significance of non-verbal cues in creating authentic connections in various types of relationships

Check out Annie’s book “Diary of a Human Lie Detector: Facial Expressions in Love, Lust, and Lies.” You can also visit her website and follow her on LinkedIn and Instagram to learn more about her work.

Make sure to visit my website to check out my books on love, sex and relationships and explore my available courses. Tune in regularly to The Language of Love for great discussions and thought-provoking conversations with accomplished individuals and experts offering invaluable advice on how to love and be loved better.

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The Body as the Boss Feb 21, 2024

In this Language of Love session, I sit down with Regine, a listener facing the dual challenges of a partner with PTSD and her journey through grief and caregiving. She's navigating the delicate balance between her social desires and her partner's need for solitude due to PTSD. It's a dance many couples know all too well – the push and pull of togetherness and independence. This has put a strain on their relationship, as Regine longs for shared social experiences and support, especially after the loss of her son and the emotional toll of caring for her mother with Alzheimer's. We also touch on something incredibly profound – the connection between our bodies and our emotional well-being. Regine shares her journey of caregiving and personal loss, and together, we discuss the transformative power of tuning into our bodies to find healing and peace.

We deep dive into:

Life's fragility and the desire to cherish every moment
The roles of victim and villain in relationship dynamics
The importance of understanding love languages in a relationship
The importance of having a supportive community outside the relationship
The impact of grief and loss on relationships
Finding the middle ground and compromising in relationships
Why you should be listening to your body and use your heart as a compass

Don't forget to check out my website for helpful meditations on the Quantum Love page that can assist you with your relationships. Take a look at the list of available meditations and see which ones resonate with you.

Also, if you are a mother who has lost a child in any way, join my retreat for grieving mamas at 1440 Multiversity in Santa Cruz, California. Experience healing, community, and workshops with experts like David Kessler and Paul Selig. Visit 1440.org for more information and join us in the beautiful redwoods for four amazing days.

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Overcoming Codependency Feb 19, 2024

Have you ever found yourself constantly prioritizing the needs of others while neglecting your own? Do you get anxious when those you care about are anxious or angry? Do you find arguments leave you contorted, desperately seeking forgiveness and acceptance from your partner? If this sounds like you or someone you love, its time to confront the possibility that you may be trapped in the clutches of codependency.

This Language of Love Bite, I dive into the complex world of codependency, its roots, its effects on our relationships, and the path to healing. The origin of codependency can be traced back to traumatic childhood experiences, such as being raised by an addict, a narcissist, or enduring emotional or physical abuse. These early life challenges often lead to "parentification," where children assume the emotional and sometimes physical responsibilities of caring for their parents, setting the stage for codependent behaviors later in life.

Despite the challenges, I acknowledge the positive aspects of codependency, such as the innate desire to give and receive love. Join me in exploring these insights further and taking the steps toward healing and growth.

In this Bite, I explain:

Codependency as an addiction and a lifetime of recovery
The role of traumatic childhood experiences in developing codependency
Codependents' fear of abandonment and susceptibility to toxic partners
The struggle to discern authentic love from manipulation
The positive and manipulative elements of codependency
How to heal from codependency through inner child work and setting boundaries
The challenges codependents may face when setting boundaries and standing up for themselves

Remember, if you're looking to enhance both your love life and sex life, whether you're in a relationship or not, I highly recommend checking out my free course on Quantum Sex.

Additionally, if you're seeking to break free from codependency, there are some valuable resources I suggest exploring. Co-dependents Anonymous is a great program that can provide the guidance you need. Another excellent resource is Melodie Beattie's influential book, "Codependent No More."

These resources can offer invaluable insights and support on your journey towards personal growth and independence.

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Breaking the Cycle of Intergenerational Trauma with Dr. Mariel Buque Feb 14, 2024

What if I told you that your ancestors' traumas could be actively influencing your life today? What if the pain they endured, generations ago, could still shape your relationships, behaviors, and even your DNA? It's a thought-provoking concept, isn't it? Welcome to the world of intergenerational trauma.

In this Language of Love Conversation, I am excited to be joined by Dr. Mariel Buque, a Columbia-trained mystic psychologist, professor, sound bath meditation healer, and intergenerational trauma expert. Dr. Mariel brings a wealth of knowledge to our discussion, which centers around her new book, “Break the Cycle: A Guide to Healing Intergenerational Trauma.” Together, we dive deep into the heart of what it means to carry emotional burdens from our past and how we can liberate ourselves and our future generations from these invisible chains.

Here's a glimpse of what we discuss:

The impact of healing from intergenerational trauma on family dynamics and relationships
The energetic perspective and the impact of past family members on our lives
How to handle family members who resist or deny their trauma
The concept of “parenting back, parenting forward” and intergenerational re-parenting
Seven key areas for fostering growth and healing from intergenerational trauma
The potential consequences of anxious-attachment parenting
How to impart legacies to future generations and learn to apologize to our kids

Remember to check out Dr. Mariel’s book, Break the Cycle: A Guide to Healing Intergenerational Trauma, for more tools, techniques, suggestions, and guidance on intergenerational trauma.

Also, if you are experiencing grief, know that you are not alone in this journey. Consider checking out my course, Good Grief: Healing from Loss with Love, on my website for additional support and guidance.

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A Journey of Exploration and Connection Feb 07, 2024

In today's episode we’re continuing our journey with Ken and Marla, a couple I've been helping to boost their intimacy. Their story is like so many others. Marla has been opening up about her shyness around masturbation, and I've got to say, I'm proud of her for being so honest. Ken has been amazing, too—totally supportive of Marla's journey into self-exploration.

I always tell people how crucial masturbation is for your personal health and really getting to know your body. It's a game-changer, especially for your sex life together. I've recommended a vibrator that I think could be a great fit for Marla, and I'm all about them experimenting to find out what feels good.

And it's not just about those intimate moments in the bedroom. Ken and Marla have been finding ways to connect in their everyday lives, which is just beautiful. They're on this path to achieving orgasm together during sex, and let me tell you, they're making some fantastic progress.

Here is a glimpse of what we explore:

Ken and Marla's relationship update and experiences with intimacy
Incorporating a vibrator into sexual activities
Guidance on enhancing physical intimacy
Ken and Marla's efforts to maintain physical connection
Prioritizing Marla's pleasure during intimate moments
Recommendations for exploring new ways of intimacy
Masturbation and its role in understanding one's body and enhancing comfort
Advice on using a specific vibrator and experimenting with different options
The importance of consistent physical intimacy and building intimacy in different moments
The goal of achieving an orgasm during a sexual encounter and inspiring others through their journey

This episode is a big one because it's not just their story—they inspire so many others dealing with the same issues. Stick with me, and let's see where their journey takes us next!

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Monogamy Ain't Natural Feb 05, 2024

Lifelong monogamy can be quite a challenge in our world today. We're living longer, our needs are evolving, and there are so many different factors at play. You see, we humans are kind of wired to be what you could call "serially monogamous." It's like we're designed to form temporary relationships for the purpose of raising children. And interestingly, this ancient instinct still seems to influence our modern relationships. Just look at the stats – divorce rates tend to spike when the youngest child is about 2 or 3 years old. It's a complex topic that's worth exploring, and that's exactly what we'll do in this Language of Love bite.

While monogamy may not be our natural state, it's a choice that many of us make for various reasons. Whether it's for the sake of raising children, maintaining stability, or simply because of personal preference, monogamy requires effort and commitment. But with the right approach, it's a choice that can lead to fulfilling and lasting relationships.

Visit my website to explore my range of books and courses on love, sex, and relationships, and be sure to tune in regularly to the Language of Love podcast for thought-provoking discussions and invaluable advice aimed at helping you love and be loved better.

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Taming Your Inner Critic with Neal Allen Jan 31, 2024

We all grapple with an inner critic, incessantly whispering that we're not good enough or worthy of success and love, fostering a cycle of self-criticism. What if we could tame this relentless voice, breaking free from its grip and embracing our authentic selves? The good news is, we can.

In this Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Neal Allen, the author of Better Days: Tame Your Inner Critic. Neal takes us on an enlightening journey exploring the human psyche and the often-ignored superego. He shares his expertise on how the inner critic develops, its intentions, its impact on our lives, and fantastic strategies for recognizing and dealing with it. Taming the inner critic isn't just about finding peace; it's a path towards something more profound, something spiritual.

We unpack:

How to recognize and address the inner critic's impact on our lives
The role of compassion in understanding the inner critic
The paradox of perfection and productivity
The "Peter Pan Kid" analogy
The connection between releasing the inner critic and experiencing moments of grace and divine presence

Make sure to visit Neal Allen's website to learn more about the great work he does. You can connect with him on social media too, like Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter(X) for updates. If you want to improve yourself and conquer that negative voice inside you, you should definitely read his amazing book "Better Days: Tame Your Inner Critic.

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The Struggle with Self-Sabotage Jan 24, 2024

Have you ever found yourself caught in the complicated dance of self-sabotage, where the haunting echoes of past trauma manifest as destructive behavior, over using substances and withdrawal from the world? In this Language of Love Session, Pamela opens up about her struggles with self-sabotaging behavior and past trauma, including excessive drinking and withdrawing from people due to past abuse.

In this episode, we’re diving into:

Maintaining self-love and overcoming self-sabotaging behavior
The impact of past trauma on self-perception and behavior
The importance of acknowledging and speaking about past trauma
The role of somatic experiencing therapy in healing trauma
The physical symptoms and coping mechanisms associated with unresolved trauma
Finding peace, love, and happiness within oneself

Remember, the journey toward self-love and healing is a continuous process, but with the right tools and support, it is indeed possible.

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Healing Your Inner Child Jan 22, 2024

Welcome back to another Language of Love Bite! This week I'm going to explore the concept of inner child work and how it can heal past traumas and improve relationships. So, what exactly is inner child work? Well, it's all about connecting with those wounded parts of ourselves that were hurt during our childhood. These parts often carry unresolved emotions and traumas that can impact our adult lives and relationships.

One key aspect of inner child work is recognizing that these emotions are just parts of us, not our entire being. By understanding that these wounded parts are separate from our true selves, we can approach them with compassion and create space for healing.

Embark on a journey of healing and self-discovery as we explore the transformative power of inner child work. Let's heal our inner wounds and nurture healthier relationships. Check out Richard Schwartz's book, No Bad Parts, along with my course, Good Grief: Healing from Loss with Love.

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Harnessing Joy Through Life’s Great Labors with Brandi Sellers Jackson Jan 17, 2024

Heart aches and and heart breaks will happen for each of us—trust being broken, losing someone we love, or wounds from the past—can shape our lives in significant ways. But the good news is that we can grow through adversity into even better versions of ourselves.

In this Language of Love Conversation, I have the honor of hosting the incredible Brandi Sellers-Jackson. Brandi, a masterful storyteller, birth and postpartum doula, and the creative force behind "Not So Private Parts," joins me to discuss her profound new book, "On Thriving: Harnessing Joy Through Life's Great Labors." We dive deep into the heart of trauma, infidelity, grief, and the powerful journey of healing.

We unpack:

The four “labors”: relationship, mental health, grief and loss, and feeling bothered
The path to and power of finding gratitude even in the darkest times
The impact of childhood trauma on adult relationships and mental health
The concept of re-parenting oneself for healing from childhood trauma
The courage it takes to harness self-intimacy and truly know oneself
The strength it takes to move forward after betrayal

Remember to check out Brandi’s book, On Thriving: Harnessing Joy Through Life's Great Labors, and to connect with her on Linkedin.

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Rewriting the Dating Myths with Damona Hoffman Jan 10, 2024

Are you tired of hearing the same old advice about love and dating? Are you finding it difficult to navigate the dating world, or finding love in a world of swipes, catfishing and ghosting?

If you are looking for love and want some advice that will change your whole dating game for the better, tune into this episode of Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Damona Hoffman, a celebrity dating coach and author of "F the Fairy Tale: Rewrite the Dating Myths and Live Your Own Love Story". In our conversation, we debunk the common myths about love and dating and how these misconceptions can hinder the process of finding love.

We talk about:

The common myths and misconceptions about finding love
Understanding the concept of "butterflies" in relationships
The importance of curiosity and attraction in dating
Mindful dating and finding partners on a similar level of awareness
Exploring different avenues for dating, including online dating, setups, and communities

For more insights and advice from Damona, check out her podcast,Dates and Mates, and her book, F the Fairy Tale, which offers hope and actionable advice for navigating the challenges of modern dating. You can find more information about her book and testimonials from satisfied readers on her website, damonahoffman.com.

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Infinite Life, Infinite Lessons with Susan Grau Jan 03, 2024

In this episode, I have the pleasure of sitting down with my lovely friend Susan Grau, an incredible intuitive medium who has gained international recognition for her work. We'll be diving into her new book, Infinite Life, Infinite Lessons, as well as exploring her journey and the fascinating experiences she's had along the way.

Susan's story is truly remarkable. She has faced and overcome immense challenges which helped her to discover her intuitive abilities and connect with the other side. She believes that there is hope in eternal life and love and that by understanding our own experiences, we can find healing and growth.

We explore so many fascinating topics including how to connect with loved ones on the other side, how to tell the difference between spirit guides and passed loved ones who are coming through, and so much more. Susan sheds light on how to recognize the constant support available to us from the angelic realms and how to invite it more actively into our lives.

I hope you're as excited as I am to delve into this conversation with Susan Grau. Her wisdom and experiences are sure to inspire and enlighten us all.

Susan and I dive into:

How Susan's near-death experience made an impact on her perspective on life
Susan's early childhood experiences with intuitive abilities
Susan's experiences as a medium and helping others through grief
How to connect with the other side and find hope in eternal life and love
The difference between spirit guides and loved ones who have passed away
How to develop a strong connection to our divine and intuitive skills

Remember to grab a copy of Susan’s book Infinite Life, Infinite Lessons. Happy reading!

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The Secrets to a Sizzling Sex Life Dec 27, 2023

It’s time for a follow-up session! In a previous Language of Love Session, Marla and Ken opened up about their struggles with intimacy. Ken's performance fears and feelings of inadequacy had led to a dwindling sex life.

This week, we’re doing a follow-up session, and I continue my work with Marla and Ken to spice up their love life. And guess what? They're on a roll! I gave them some homework, you know, the fun kind – daily hugs and weekly heart-to-hearts. And guess what? It's working like magic!

Marla and Ken are like my relationship rockstars. They've been sharing how these little exercises have turned up the heat and brought them even closer. Can you believe it? Hugs and chats, people – that's the secret sauce!

I gave them a virtual high-five for sticking to it. I mean, commitment level: expert! But you know me, always looking for ways to level up. So, I threw in a few more suggestions to keep the love train chugging along.

We got into a cool chat about communication and trust – the real MVPs in any relationship. They're totally vibing with the idea and are all in to keep the good vibes flowing. It's like they've unlocked a new level of emotional and sensual connection.

So, there you have it – Marla and Ken are the dynamic duo, taking on the world one hug at a time. Can't wait to see what other relationship adventures we'll embark on together

This journey with Marla and Ken has been a testament to the power of open communication, commitment, and the willingness to work on a relationship. Their story serves as an inspiration for couples facing similar issues, reminding us all that with the right guidance and effort, we can rebuild and strengthen our relationships.

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Debunking Big O Myths! Dec 25, 2023

It’s time for another Language of Love Bite! Let’s delve into the heart of human connection, breaking down barriers, and challenging long-standing misconceptions surrounding one of the most intimate aspects of our lives.

In this episode, we shed light on a topic that's been shrouded in myths for far too long. Join us as we navigate the landscape of pleasure, discussing and debunking the top five orgasm myths that have lingered in our collective consciousness for years. From the misconceptions about how women reach orgasm to the truth behind vibrators and the surprising revelation that men are not immune to faking it— we're leaving no stone unturned.

Let’s continue to explore, learn, and debunk myths about our love lives. Keep the conversation going, and remember, there's no such thing as a silly question when it comes to love and intimacy.

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Healing Dependency on Crisis and Chaos with Dr. Scott Lyons Dec 20, 2023

Did you know there’s such a thing as Drama Addiction? Today in the Language of Love Conversation, I'm joined by Dr. Scott Lyons, and we're tackling this intriguing topic. From genetics and biochemistry to environmental triggers, we're exploring the roots of this addiction, often linked to trauma and a need to fill emotional voids. Picture drama addicts as thrill-seekers, creating chaos to dodge anxiety and boredom. The catch? This addiction doesn't just affect individuals; it's a relationship wrecking ball.

Dr. Scott and I discuss the unsettling impact of drama addiction on connections and share strategies for breaking free. We're big on self-awareness and somatic experiencing as tools to understand and overcome this addiction. By addressing the root causes head-on, we believe in fostering effective recovery.

While these techniques are helpful, it's important to address the core issues and underlying causes of drama addiction. When looking for a clinician or support for drama addiction, I suggest seeking someone who specializes in trauma and addiction. A clinician who is trained in somatic experiencing can be very effective in treating drama addiction.

Here is a sneak peek at the episode:

Drama addiction and its prevalence in our culture
Explanation of drama addiction as unnecessary turmoil and intensification of emotions
The connection between drama addiction and trauma, dissociation, and filling a void
Characteristics of drama addicts, such as focusing on external stimuli and seeking chaos
Dynamics of drama addiction in relationships and the role of co-regulation
Discussion on drama addicts as energy vampires and fear of intimacy
Importance of recognizing and breaking the addiction cycle of drama and stress
Strategies for breaking the addiction cycle, including observing reactions and exploring underlying feelings and needs
Techniques for managing drama addiction, such as the "step back" and "taking the silverware back" techniques

Visit Dr. Scott's website to learn more about the cool stuff he does. Take a look at his book "Addicted to Drama: Healing Dependency on Crisis and Chaos in Yourself and Others" by Dr. Scott Lyons. You can also connect with Dr. Scott on LinkedIn.

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Power, Culture, and Love's Dance Dec 13, 2023

This week, I’m sitting down for a Language of Love Session with a listener who's dealing with some serious relationship hurdles. Picture this: cultural clashes, power struggles, and a partner who's not exactly a cheerleader for her spiritual journey.

Theresa reached out to me for advice on navigating cultural differences and power dynamics with her husband. It turns out that her husband isn't very supportive of her spiritual pursuits and often blames her for their son's misbehavior. Not an easy situation to be in, right?

In this episode, we’re discussing:

Why sticking to traditional gender roles and gender expectations in a relationship doesn’t always work
The importance of staying true to your passions and beliefs even if they differ from your partner's
How to deal with a partner's critical behavior with healthy conflict resolution and boundaries
The challenges of navigating new dynamics and expectations after having children
How a relationship can impact a child and why it's crucial to provide a healthy relationship model for them

Remember, you deserve to be in a relationship where you're supported and respected. Don't be afraid to prioritize your own happiness and growth. You've got this!

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Reigniting The Spark Dec 11, 2023

Let’s dive into a topic that many couples can relate to: bringing back that spark when sex starts to feel predictable. We all know that at the beginning of a relationship, everything is new and exciting. But as time goes on, it's natural for things to become a bit routine. So, how can we inject some much-needed excitement back into the bedroom?

It's all about shifting our mindset and energy during intimate moments. It's about being fully present, letting go of any distractions or worries, and truly immersing ourselves in the experience. When we approach sex with this kind of intention and focus, it can lead to mind-blowing connections and experiences. And with a little effort and creativity, you can reignite that fire and create a passionate and fulfilling sex life with your partner. Listen in for some of my tips that you can try out with your partner!

Check out my Seven Days to Better Sex program! It’s a fantastic resource that provides you with practical tools and exercises to help you reconnect on a deeper level, perfect for couples who want to reignite their passion and take their sex life to the next level.

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Out Of Your Mind, Into Your Body with Annmarie Chereso Dec 06, 2023

The idea of “masculine” and “feminine” goes way beyond gender. We all have masculine and feminine within us, we just lean in one direction or another. The energies of the masculine is more directive, organized and containing. The feminine is more emotional, creative and flowing.

In this Language of Love Conversation, I'm joined by my good friend, transformational coach AnnMarie Chereso. Together, we're exploring the intriguing dynamics of masculine and feminine energies within relationships. AnnMarie, with her expertise in guiding personal transformations, is here to offer valuable insights into how understanding and balancing these energies can significantly influence the quality of our connections with others. AnnMarie's wisdom promises to shed light on the mysteries surrounding these energies, providing a thoughtful perspective on navigating relationships with heightened awareness and deeper connection.

We unpack:

The transformative power of choosing love over fear and how it can positively impact your relationships
How tuning more deeply into your feminine energy as a woman can bring balance and harmony to your love life
Why receptivity is crucial in creating fulfilling and meaningful connections
How your romantic partnerships can become powerful tools for personal growth and healing
Steps you can take to move out of fear, especially in relationships

If you're ready to unlock the secrets of masculine and feminine energies and create a love life that's truly fulfilling, check out AnnMarie’s courses on her website!

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When Roots Become Toxic Nov 29, 2023

Welcome back to another Language of Love Session! In this episode, I chat with a caller from Australia, Fatima, who is currently going through a tough divorce and grappling with a challenging relationship with her narcissistic mother. Fatima opens up about her struggles with codependency and anger regulation, which she believes are deeply rooted in her traumatic upbringing. I offer her guidance on setting clear boundaries with toxic individuals, including her mother, to protect her emotional well-being and create a healthier environment. Additionally, I discuss the importance of seeking therapy to address unresolved trauma, gain a deeper understanding of herself, and develop effective strategies for managing codependency and anger.

We discuss:

How unresolved childhood trauma can affect an individual’s parenting style
The importance of self-preservation and creating distance from toxic individuals
The “splitting” behavior and manipulation tactics used by borderlines
How to use somatic experiencing for trauma recovery

Remember, if you're going through a difficult time, it's important to seek help and support. You don't have to face these challenges alone. Reach out to a therapist, counselor, or trusted friend who can provide guidance and a listening ear. You deserve to live a happy and fulfilling life, and with the right support, you can achieve it. I also recommend you check out Codependent No More by Melody Beattie.

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The Naked Truth Nov 27, 2023

In this Language of Love Bite, I'm going there. We are talking about the impact of pornography on our love lives.

One of the main concerns I discuss in this episode is the accessibility of porn to young people. With the internet being so readily available, it's easier than ever for children and teens to stumble upon explicit content. It turns out that newer research is demonstrating porn can have a profound long-term effect on the developing brain, impacting one’s ability to get aroused without using it. Another issue we are covering is the addictive nature of porn. It's not uncommon for individuals to become hooked on watching porn, spending hours upon hours consuming it.

We also get into the ways porn is being misused as a poor form of sex education, setting couples back who have a skewed perception of what pleasurable sex looks and feels like. This can lead to a distorted view of what constitutes a healthy sexual relationship, as porn often portrays unrealistic scenarios and expectations.

I’m also sharing:

Why porn is not all bad, and how it can be used in a healthy way
The digital distortion of porn and how it affects how your brain perceives what it sees
How porn can negatively affect your dopamine levels
The misrepresentation of sexual relationships by porn
The pressure on women to engage in activities influenced by porn
Why porn is not a substitute for intimacy

If you or someone you know is struggling with the impact of porn on their relationship, I encourage you to seek professional help — a therapist who specializes in sex addiction can provide guidance and support in navigating these complex issues.

Also, if you’re looking to heighten the intensity and connection in your sex life, don’t forget to check out my Seven Days to Better Sex program!

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Finding Magic in the Missing with Kelsey Chittick Nov 22, 2023

The biggest fear for many of us is losing someone we love; of facing unexpected tragedies that change the course of our lives forever. For comedian and author Kelsey Chittick, her worst fear became her reality, and it tested her resilience, shattered her world, and ultimately transformed her.

In today’s Language of Love Conversation, we dive into Kelsey's personal journey of grief and healing after the sudden loss of her husband, NFL veteran Nate Hobgood-Chittick. She opens up about her experiences with loss, anxiety, and even her spiritual exploration during this challenging time. She also shares her unique approach to parenting while dealing with grief, which is truly transformative and inspiring. We also get to chat about her incredible book “Second Half: Surviving Loss and Finding Magic in the Missing.”

We break down:

The profound impact of losing loved ones and finding strength in the face of grief
The physical and emotional toll of grief on an individual
The spiritual side of grief that opens us up to connecting with the other side
Finding joy and happiness again after loss

This one is a conversation that will give you deep insights into dealing with loss, personal growth, and finding joy even in the midst of pain.

You can connect with Kelsey on Instagram and also visit her website to stay updated with her latest content and projects. And don't forget to check out her book, Second Half: Surviving Loss and Finding Magic in the Missing. It's definitely a must-read!

My course, Good Grief: Healing From Loss with Love, is packed with insights and practical tips to help you navigate the journey of grief and loss. And, on December 2nd, I will be holding a live in-person event, Good Grief Day, at Hermosa Beach, CA along with amazing healers and teachers who will shine a light and guide us in our grieving journey. Tickets are limited so make sure you grab yours!

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Breaking Free from Shame Nov 15, 2023

In this Language of Love session, I have a chat with Trina, who has been through some really tough times in her past relationships, facing big losses and struggles. She opens up about the toxic relationships and challenges she's been dealing with as she tries to rebuild her life.

I emphasized how important it is for Trina to take the time to be single, rebuild and move deeper into love and accept herself before thinking about jumping into a new relationship. It's like building a strong foundation for a house - if you rush past this phase of post-relationship healing, you just make the same mistakes again and again. I suggest that she goes on a journey of self-discovery and self-love, one that's all about what she wants, not what others expect. After all, loving ourselves and understanding our own worth is the first step toward attracting the love we truly deserve.

In this episode, we’re diving into:

The concept of vibrational frequency and how embracing our divine feminine power can attract the right kind of partner into our lives
The impact of deep-rooted traumas and subconscious fears in our interpersonal relationships
The importance of having a support system and holding oneself accountable
Why setting boundaries is a vital component in healthy relationships

Be sure to explore Calling in the One by my good friend Katherine Woodward Thomas! It's a fantastic resource for anyone looking to prepare themselves for love.

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Why Is Grief Misunderstood? Nov 14, 2023

Welcome back to another Language of Love Bite! I'm here to dive into a topic that often gets misunderstood: grief and loss.

The truth is that everyone's grief journey is unique. There's no one-size-fits-all timeline for healing. So, if you're going through it, remember to be gentle with yourself and allow yourself the space to feel and heal.

Now, let's talk about the importance of emotional support during this time. It's crucial to have a strong support system in place - friends, family, or even a therapist who can provide that safe space for you to express your emotions. And don't forget about somatic experiencing techniques! These can help you release any trapped emotions in your body and promote healing from within.

But, most importantly, here's something interesting to consider: what if our relationships continue even after death? Obviously it’s not the same, and we’d do anything to have our loved ones with us. But wd are all made of pure atomic energy, and energy can’t be created or destroyed. It can only change form. We can learn to connect to our loved ones’ energies, even after their beloved bodies are no longer here.

In this bite, I dive into:

The importance of emotional support and professional help in navigating grief
Somatic experiencing techniques like breathwork and grief yoga as tools for healing
Incorporating mindfulness practices to rewire the brain and prevent trauma from becoming the default mode
The idea that relationships don't end when someone dies, and ways to stay connected with loved ones through energy

I encourage you to keep an open mind when it comes to these concepts. It's okay to question and explore new ideas. And if you're interested in diving deeper into this topic, I've got just the thing for you! My course, Good Grief: Healing From Loss with Love, is packed with insights and practical tips to help you navigate the journey of grief and loss. And, on December 2nd, I will be holding a live in-person event that will be uplifting and inspiring, Good Grief Day, at Hermosa Beach, CA along with amazing healers and teachers who will shine a light and guide us on our grieving journey. Tickets are limited so make sure you grab yours!

Grief is a natural part of life, and it's okay to feel it. Just know that you're not alone. Take care of yourself, and remember to be kind to yourself throughout this process.

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The Love Storm with AnnaLynne McCord Nov 08, 2023

In today’s Language of Love Conversation, I have a very special guest with me, AnnaLynne McCord! AnnaLynne is not only a talented, well-known actress, but a passionate advocate for survivors of trauma and a fierce supporter in the fight against sex trafficking. She shares her personal experiences of trauma and how they affected her life (and sexuality), as well as her incredible work in supporting survivors. We also talk about the importance of mental health and self-love. AnnaLynne emphasizes the need to break the cycle of abuse and how crucial it is to address the root causes of mass violence and radicalized religion. One thing that stood out to me was her vision for a movement called Love Storm. It's all about spreading love and healing to those who have been through unimaginable pain.

AnnaLynne also gives us some insight into her new film, "Condition of Return". It's a thought-provoking movie that explores the consequences of trauma and the dangers of blind faith. It's a must-watch for anyone interested in understanding the complexities of trauma and its long-lasting effects.

I'm so grateful to have this conversation with AnnaLynne. Her passion and dedication to making a difference are truly inspiring. So, grab a cup of tea, sit back, and get ready to be moved by this incredible discussion. Let's dive in!

In this episode, AnnaLyne and I explore:

The importance of embracing uniqueness and not being afraid to be different
The power that can be found in recognizing and integrating the parts of ourselves that carry shame from the past.
Why true peace starts within ourselves and extends to our surroundings
AnnaLynne's involvement in fighting human trafficking and modern-day slavery
How to break the cycle of abuse and underreporting of sexual abuse
The impact of trauma on sexual preferences

You can connect with AnnaLynne on Instagram! Don't forget to explore The Love Storm website for guidance on ending sex slavery.

Check out The Map of Consciousness and Power vs. Force by David Hawkins for deep perspectives on consciousness and human behavior. Bessel van der Kolk's The Body Keeps the Scoreis also an essential read for understanding trauma's impact.

Lastly secure your tickets for Good Grief Day: Healing from Loss with Love happening in December at Hermosa Beach, CA for a day of profound healing, guided by me and some incredible healers and teachers!

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Rocky Roads to Climax Nov 01, 2023

Welcome to another Language of Love Session! I’ve got a truly engaging conversation lined up for you. But first, let me pose a thought-provoking question: Have you ever felt that the path to reaching an orgasm has become rocky?

Meet Marla and Ken, a couple in their 60s, deeply in love. Here's the deal: they've been facing challenges reaching climax, and it's been putting a strain on their love life. Marla often takes the initiative, but Ken feels he isn't fully satisfying her.

No matter how passionate a lover you are, age can throw in a few curveballs, like changes in hormones and blood flow. So hang tight, because this is one session you won't want to miss!

In this episode, we’re diving into:

The importance of open communication and discussing intimacy issues with your partner
Why men often avoid addressing problems related to sexual performance
How a lack of sexual intimacy can impact other aspects of the relationship, leading to emotional disconnection
Ways to be intimate without the sole focus on reaching climax
The magic of spending just 15 minutes each week on kissing, cuddling, and deep conversations to build emotional intimacy

Don't forget to take a look at my books, Real Sex for Real Women and Loving Sex, as well as my program, Seven Days to Better Sex, which you can find on my website along with the rest of my books and courses on love, sex, and relationships. Be sure to tune in regularly to the Language of Love podcast for thought-provoking discussions and invaluable advice aimed at helping you love and be loved better.

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The Art of Kissing Oct 30, 2023

A kiss is so much more than a fleeting expression of affection. It's a silent language that can speak volumes, not to mention plays a huge role in maintaining healthy long-term attraction in love.

This Language of Love Bite is all about the power of a simple kiss. I shed light on the often-overlooked importance of kissing in intimate relationships. I also introduce the concept of non-demand kissing and a kissing practice that you can try with your partner to heighten your connection and intimacy.

Try the four-time-a-day, ten-second kiss practice for a week, and let me know how your experience goes! You might be surprised at the power of this simple yet impactful gesture.

Don’t forget to check out my Seven Days to Better Sex program for more practical strategies and tips to spice up your sex life!

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Conscious Grieving with Claire Bidwell Smith Oct 25, 2023

Grief, in its myriad of forms, touches us all at some point in our lives. And when it comes, it can often bring along an uninvited guest: anxiety.

In this Language of Love Conversation, I talk with author and grief therapist Claire Bidwell Smith. When Claire was in her early twenties, she lost her parents, which deeply impacted her life. After her she began having panic attacks, Claire decided to learn more about grief-related anxiety. In fact, we now know that the kind of anxiety experienced with grief is a very unique sort.

In this conversation, Claire and I unpack:

Grief-related anxiety, its unique manifestations, and how it differs from typical anxiety
The different ways different cultures create space for grief
Why it is important to allow oneself to fully experience and release emotions in the grieving process
The transformative nature of grief and the ways it can impact on every aspect of a person's being
Different kinds of losses and their ability to change us and lead to a pared-down version of ourselves
The importance of being present for someone in their pain without needing to have all the right words or solutions
How to maintain a strong connection to loved ones who have passed away and find ways to honor their memory

If you or someone you love is going through grief right now, or you've been there before, you're going to find this conversation really eye-opening. So, let's dive in!

Remember to check out Claire Bidwell Smith's website to learn more about her work, especially her online support group retreats and podcast. You can also connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. Don't forget to preorder her new book, “Anxiety: The Missing Stage of Grief,” and grab her other titles like “The Rules of Inheritance” and “After This: When Life is Over, Where Do We Go?” Plus, stay tuned for her upcoming release, “Conscious Grieving: A Transformative Approach to Healing from Loss.”

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Remembering Love in Tender Times with Cleo Wade Oct 18, 2023

Life can be a rollercoaster, often catching us off guard. But what if I told you that there's a way to turn these moments, both good and bad, into something truly valuable? It all starts with the incredible power of self-love, learning from life's twists and turns, and the art of setting boundaries to find inner peace.

In today’s Language of Love Conversation, I'm so excited to have a chat with New York Times bestselling author and poet, Cleo Wade. Cleo’s work dives deep into themes like love, hope, and resilience. And today, she gives us a sneak peek into her brand-new book, Remember Love: Words for Tender Times.

We cover some really inspiring topics in our chat. Cleo shares her thoughts on self-love and personal growth – two things we could all use a bit more of in our lives. We also talk about how all relationships naturally evolve and sometimes need to be shed, just like a snake sheds its skin.

In this episode, Cleo and I deep dive into:

The power of self-love and its role in vulnerable moments
The idea of turning life experiences into life lessons
The importance of setting boundaries and letting go for personal freedom and peace
The significance of emotional wisdom and its role in personal growth
Why shedding relationships is part of personal growth
How to recognize and break free from codependent tendencies
How childhood experiences shape our understanding of love and approval
The power of poetry to unite people from different walks of life
The dynamics of love as a collaborative effort, challenging the notion of one-sided devotion
The art of effective conflict resolution through the transformative power of apology and humility
Why rebirth is a transformative phase and requires care and support
How to overcome self-doubt and take steps towards growth

If you're interested in preordering Cleo Wade's latest book, Remember Love: Words for Tender Times, you should visit her website. You can also grab some of her other fantastic books like Heart Talk: Poetic Wisdom for a Better Life, What the Road Said, Heart Talk: The Journal: 52 Weeks of Self-Love, Self-Care, and Self-Discovery, Where to Begin, and more. And don't forget to stay connected with Cleo on Facebook and Instagram!

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The Journey of a Wounded Healer Oct 11, 2023

Therapists are people too! And just like anyone else, therapists have their own unique struggles, fears, and insecurities.

In this Language of Love Session, I speak with therapist and PhD candidate, Mary, who opens up about her money fears and shame. In this session, we explore:

Mary's recent experience of fear and shame around money and finances
Dispelling the notion that therapists should be perfect and have it all figured out
The concept that therapists as wounded healers (the desire to heal our own wounds drives us to become healers ourselves)
Strategies for healing and integrating different parts of ourselves, including self-talk and mindfulness practices
The concept of physiological and energetic responses to triggers
Grounding and calming the nervous system during acute moments of agitation
Trust and faith in relation to overcoming scarcity
The importance of daily spiritual practice and connecting with a higher self and guidance
Cultivating coherence and peace within oneself to attract positive experiences and manifestations
The value of staying grounded, calming our nerves, building trust and faith, and having a daily spiritual routine.

Remember to take a look at my book Quantum Love for some fascinating insights. In the book, I show you how our emotional states can actually impact our energy levels, and this has been scientifically proven. It affects what we attract into our lives and how people around us respond. It's pretty mind-blowing stuff!

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When She Has Low Desire Oct 09, 2023

What do you do when she’s not in the mood, but you are? Thirty percent of women under the age of 59 suffer from low libido and that number continues to increase after the age of 60! But it’s not just older women who experience low desire. Younger women struggle too due to stress, exhaustion caring for young children, depression, body image, and a host of other issues, younger women can experience low libido too.

On this Language of Love Bite, we’ll discuss low sex drive in women and uncover the variety of issues that are at the heart of the matter. When sex is working in a relationship it’s just one part of it. But when sex isn’t working, it can definitely take a toll on the connection between you. We’ll discuss ways to understand and overcome low desire with the goal of bringing the passion back where it belongs! If your bedroom has been lacking, tune in to this episode!

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Dr. Laura Berman

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Unlocking the Mysteries of Sacred Contracts with Caroline Myss Oct 04, 2023

Have you ever wondered about the deeper meaning of life or the purpose behind our existence and the journey of our souls? If so, you're not alone. Many of us ponder these, seeking guidance and understanding.

Caroline Myss, renowned author, speaker, and spiritual teacher sat down with me during this week’s Language of Love Conversation to discuss the intriguing concept of sacred contracts, the different levels of consciousness, and the unexpected power that can be found in love and integrity.

During our conversation, Caroline and I dive into:

The concept of sacred contracts and its relation to different levels of consciousness
The role of archetypes in our lives and how they influence our choices and manifestations
The cosmic dynamic of life and the predetermined nature of our entry and exit points
The transformative power of love and the need for a bio-spiritual ecological evolution
Why collective participation in awakening and supporting others is crucial through Global events we’ve all been experiencing
The stages of inner self-development and the importance of moving beyond narcissism
The wounded healer journey and the significance of discernment in personal growth
The power of intuition and the consequences of ignoring it
The importance of integrity and the normalization of lying in society
The impact of honesty and the consequences of not being truthful in relationships

Please feel free to access Caroline's workshops by downloading them or exploring her upcoming autumn schedule on her website. Additionally, you can find her books, "The Anatomy of Spirit" "Sacred Contracts," and others available for purchase on Amazon.

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In the Mood for Love Sep 27, 2023

We’re back for another Language of Love Session, where I speak to listeners like you and give my expert advice. In this session, I sat down with someone who's been a longtime listener and has been following my advice ever since my days on Oprah. She reached out to me for guidance, and her story is bound to hit close to home for many of us. Picture this: she escaped a five-year marriage that felt more like a chore than a fairytale. But now, she's in a sizzling new relationship, sparks are flying and things are heating up for her in all the right ways. The twist? Her partner's got a case of the “low desire and low testosterone blues” and she's grappling with feelings of rejection and neglect. Together, we explore the complexities of reigniting intimacy and desire.

In this episode, you will learn about:

How stress and anxiety can negatively affect sexual desire in men
The different physical, emotional, hormonal and medical factors that can create difficulty with male sexual response and sensation
Why low desire does not necessarily mean they are no longer attracted to you
The importance of having a “cost-benefit analysis” in a long-term relationship
How men often dismiss sexual issues because it emasculates them and the steps you can take to address the problem

Remember, issues of sexual desire are common in relationships and can be tackled with open communication and professional help. If you are looking for a sex therapist, you can find a clinician near you by visiting the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists website at https://aasect.org/.

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Pushing the Limits of Monogamy Sep 25, 2023

The world is changing on so many levels, including a pretty seismic shift in which many of us are defining relationships. Most of us grew up in a society where monogamy was the unquestioned expectation in love. But now, more and more individuals and couples are pushing against those expectations and exploring non monogamy or polyamory.

On this Language of Love Bite, we dive headfirst into this topic covering the things you should know if you’re like to explore polyamory:

-What is polyamory and what forms can it take?

-Tips on how to navigate a non monogamous relationship

-Common pitfalls you may encounter

- How to tell if this lifestyle is right for you.

If you’re curious and feel like you and your partner might be ready, take some time to listen to this episode before making this important life and relationship decision.

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Dr. Laura Berman

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I'm Not a Mourning Person with Kris Carr Sep 20, 2023

One of the hardest things any of us will ever do is say goodbye to someone we love. This is something wellness leader and best selling author, Kris Carr, knows all too well.

On this Language of Love Conversation, we discuss her newest book, I’m Not a Mourning Person, where she chronicles her long goodbye to her beloved father who passed away from pancreatic cancer after a several year battle. This is a powerful conversation so be sure to tune in.

In this episode we discuss:

The fact that grieving for a loved one often begins long before they’re gone and comes in a variety of forms.
The power of training your eyes to see the presence of the energy of the one you lost and not simply living with their absence.
How losing it or having a meltdown can actually be a good thing.
Understanding that there truly is a difference between dying and leaving.
Why finding the courage to have conversations about dying is necessary.
strategies for having the often hard, but always necessary, end of life conversations with loved ones that can help you move through their passing.
The power of (and when to) begin assuring your loved one that it’s ok to let go.

Resources and Links

Dr. Laura Berman

Kris Carr

About Kris Carr

Kris Carr is a New York Times bestselling author and wellness leader who’s been thriving with stage IV cancer for more than 20 years. Over these past two decades, she’s learned some big lessons about how to take care of herself, live life to the fullest and continue making an impact in the process. She is a true champion of people, and she is honored to have shaped and impacted the lives of millions throughout the world.

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The Caregiver's Turn Sep 13, 2023

Most people know or love someone who’s a cancer survivor. But it’s not just the cancer patient who survives and hopefully recovers from this kind of medical trauma. Caregivers, while they didn’t have to personally weather the life-threatening illness and its treatment, they did so by proxy, holding the patient up emotionally, physically and logistically while still managing and usually repressing their own fears and exhaustion.

Most caregivers put their own needs, and even their lives, on hold when their loved ones are suffering or undergoing treatment. And then, when the worst is over and it’s time to move forward, it’s not just the patient who must recover. The caregiver needs and deserves time, grace and support to do so as well. This journey can be especially complex in the case of romantic relationships as it becomes necessary to shift out of caregiver and patient roles back to partners and lovers…

In this Language of Love Session, I have a follow up chat with a listener, Veronica, whose boyfriend has now finally finished cancer treatment. Against all odds, he’s now in remission. But instead of the celebration she was expecting, Veronica finds her life remaining on pause as she waits for her love to come back to the relationship they were building at the time of his diagnosis. Instead of excitement about enjoying their lives after their harrowing year, he’s been depressed, angry and distant. And Veronica is feeling resentful and abandoned.

In this episode we discuss:

The ways medical trauma compares to other kinds when it comes to healing.
Steps one can take to assist and inspire a loved one to move forward when the worst is over after trauma.
Some of my own struggles I had as a cancer survivor when my treatment was finally over and my caregiving husband was ready for me to come back to life.
How the caregiving journey can be an opportunity to learn to hold our own peace (or even happiness) in the face of those we love remaining stuck in frustration and sadness.
What’s realistic to expect from a partner after a traumatic illness, and when it may or may not be time to throw in the towel.

If you’ve been a caregiver or you love one, you will get so much from this healing conversation!

Resources and Links

Dr. Laura Berman

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The Trouble with Faking It Sep 11, 2023

Have you ever faked the “Big O?” If so, you aren’t alone! Studies have shown that the majority of women, and even a large proportion of men have faked it…regularly! But, even if it’s a “mercy fake” (because your partner is trying so hard and you know it’s just not happening but you don’t want to make them feel bad) is it really a good idea ? What happens when you find out that your partner has been faking? What kind of fracture does that create and how do you repair that? And what happens if you’ve been the one faking it, but you’re now tired of not receiving the pleasure you desire. How to let your partner know the truth? Finally, what’s standing in the way of your “Big O” pleasure and how can you have more of them?

I’m answering these questions and many other juicy ones on this episode of Language of Love Bite!

Resources and Links

Dr. Laura Berman

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What’s Your Relationship Magnetics Pattern? with Robert Ohotto Sep 06, 2023

Take a moment to look at the circle of people closest to you. They are there because you energetically attracted them into your world. We’re all living, breathing magnets. Understanding your unique relationship magnetics puts you in the driver's seat when it comes to creating the love life you most desire.

On this episode of Language of Love Conversation, I talk with the amazing Robert Ohotto, one of the foremost voices in psycho-spirituality, about understanding our unique relationship magnetics, where they come from and how to change them in service to creating a healthy and fulfilling love life. Robert shares how to harness the relationship abundance magnet that thrives inside each of us.

In this episode, we’ll discuss:

How to cultivate acceptance as a key to changing relationship magnetics patterns that don’t serve us.
The keys to breaking the cycle of being codependent (and how codependency affects your relationship magnetics)
How to use relationship magnetics to call the love in you most desire
How to navigate and shift relationship magnetics to a more positive place in an existing relationship
The importance of separating from (unconsciously) identifying as a victim so we don’t carry forward the magnet for trauma
Preparing for the ways your life (including your circle) will change when you shift out of negative relationship magnetics

Resources and Links

Dr. Laura Berman

Robert Ohotto

About Robert Ohotto

Robert Ohotto is recognized as a trailblazing presence within the field of psycho-spirituality, multi-sensory development, and human consciousness. Robert’s popular radio show, “Soul Connexions Radio”, is currently one of the most listened to and downloaded podcasts on iTunes. He has been featured by Fortune Magazine for his work as an Intuitive Strategies with Fortune 500 Companies and numerous times on Oprah Radio. He is highly sought after for his dynamic lectures, intuitive consultations, and unique astrological expertise. His leading-edge work challenges the conventions of mind-body-spirit paradigms by integrating intuitive perception, archetypes, and life cycles.

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Breaking the Hold of Parent-Child Codependency Aug 31, 2023

Parent-child relationships can be loaded at every age, especially when there is codependency involved. This can lead to complicated and draining dynamics that last well into adulthood.

In this Language of Love Session, I speak with a listener who also happens to be my college roomate, Maryanne!. Maryanne is stuck in the cycle of trying to navigate a co-dependent relationship with her aging mother who is entering dementia and impossible to emotionally satisfy. For years she has struggled with this situation, feeling compelled to drop everything and put her own needs aside to be there for her mother. Now that Marianne’s father (and her mother’s caretaker) has passed away, the burden of emotionally caring for her mom has fallen solely to a Marianne. And her mother’s endless need for soothing and company is taking over Marianne’s life. In this Language of Love Session, we’ll talk candidly about how Marianne’s past relationship with her parents is impacting her current relationship with her mother. I give her direction on how to finally set boundaries, stand up for her inner child who still longs for an advocate, and begin embracing the life (and peace) she deserves. If you’re a child and find yourself struggling to set healthy boundaries with your own aging parent(s), tune in as this show is just for you! You can still be a wonderful child and caretaker to aging parents without losing yourself in the process.

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Dr. Laura Berman

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When You (Or Your Partner) Can’t Communicate Aug 28, 2023

Communication is an important part of any relationship and crucial to building and sustaining a lasting, long-term relationship where you and your partner are connected and passionate allies in love.

In this Language of Love Bite, will help! We’ll discuss:

The three reasons why people refuse to communicate: humiliation, societal constraints, and disassociation.
Methods for making your partner feel comfortable expressing their feelings.
How to create a judgment-free zone between you.
Difference between most men and women in their communication needs.
Getting clear on how you want to be supported in sharing feelings with your partner.
Identifying the cues of the body to understand what you (or your partner) are feeling.
Embodiment tools for facilitating emotional expression.

If you want better emotional intimacy in your relationship, longing for your partner to share more, or struggling in your communication, this episode is for you!

Resources and Links

Dr. Laura Berman

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Moving Through Loss with Barri Leiner Grant Aug 23, 2023

Every one of us has experienced loss at some point, whether it is the loss of a loved one, a relationship you thought would last forever, a pet, or even a job. Loss is inevitable, and with loss comes grief. Grieving is one of the hardest and quite honestly, most misunderstood parts of life. But here’s the thing, when you find the strength to work through the process, a new more powerful version of yourself emerges.

On this episode of The Language of Love, I sat down with Barri Leiner Grant. Barri is the Founder of The Memory Circle, an organization that helps those who have lost a loved one through the power of writing. We discuss the healing power of writing and the role it plays in helping us move to the next phase of life. If you’ve lost someone and find yourself mired in the muck of grief, unsure of how to move forward, pick up a pen and pad and listen as Barri shows us how to write your way through it!

In this episode, we’ll discuss:

Grief is not just limited to the loss of a loved one or family member.
Embracing the ways that loss can define and redfine you.
Make time for and be willing to tend to your grief garden.
The power of words to help heal us.

Resources and Links

Dr. Laura Berman

Barri Leiner Grant

About Barri Leiner Grant

Barri Leiner Grant is a certified grief coach (ICF) and founder of The Memory Circle. Born from a desire to make the grief cycle a shared experience, The Memory Circle is a place to gather, remember, and celebrate those we lost and love. As a coach, Barri helps facilitate and explore ways to remember and reflect on loss in both one-on-one sessions and grief support groups. Her passion for helping others share their grief stories became a personal mission when her mother, Ellen Jane died of a brain aneurism in 1993 at just 50 years old. Barri also works with firms of all sizes to develop best practices and policies around bereavement leave and employee grief support.

1. CONNECTING

Automatic writing prompt:

Get quiet and ask...

What would you have me know?

Allow the words to pass through you to the page.

2. DELIGHTS

Create a journal of delights. Prompted by The Book of Delights by Ross Gay

At the end of the day, write down 10 things that have delighted you.

The Book of Delights, by Ross Gay

https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-book-of-delights-essays-ross-gay/12566058?ean=9781616207922

3. Adapted from Julia Cameron’s morning pages.

MOURNING PAGES

Three long hand pages upon waking.

The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron

https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-artist-s-way-30th-anniversary-edition-julia-cameron/6665657?ean=9780143129257

4. The Quad Exercise as share by memoirist Dani Shapiro

Divide the paper in four with a big plus sign...

Upper left quadrant.

Seven things you saw.

Upper right quadrant:

Seven things you did.

Lower left

One thing you heard.

Lower right

And a doodle that represents the day.

Dani Shapiro’s Slow Motion

https://bookshop.org/p/books/slow-motion-a-memoir-of-a-life-rescued-by-tragedy-dani-shapiro/9024419?ean=9780061826696

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Your Body is Your Beauty Aug 16, 2023

More people than ever before are struggling with body image issues as they compare themselves to the endless stream of perfect, filtered and photo edited images of what seem to be perfect bodies that confront them on social media.

In this Language of Love session, I speak to Laura. Laura is a mother of four who is dealing with the recent diagnosis of MS as well as the lingering physical scars of a Cesarian Section. The scars the surgery left behind are adversely affecting her body image, causing her to shut down from Sex with her partner. Listen in as I help Laura unpack her body image struggles , confront the misconceptions she’s been carrying, and begin to have a new conversation with her body and herself that’s rooted in love and appreciation for the miraculous vessel it truly is!

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Dr. Laura Berman

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Trust and Faith Aug 14, 2023

Trust is an essential part of loving someone. Once it’s gone, once that trust has been breached, it can be hard to regain. In some instances, losing trust in a partner can spill over into your future relationships. When this happens, finding love, the kind of love where you and your partner can flourish and grow becomes difficult to attain.

On this Language of Love Bite, we’ll discuss the issue of trust, how it can conjure up old wounds and the importance of getting to the root of a betrayal. Falling in love is a wonderful thing, but trusting the one you love makes it all the more incredible. If you’ve been betrayed and find yourself looking to put the pieces together and want to start down the path of trusting and loving again, this episode is for you!

In this episode, we’ll discuss:

Why we tend not to want to lose whoever it is we fall in love with
A past that is filled with abandonment and the role it plays in love and trust
How to rebuild trust once it’s been broken
The importance of understanding and healing the why behind the breach
Why rebuilding trust is a team effort

Resources and Links

Dr. Laura Berman

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The Love Thief with Arielle Ford Aug 09, 2023

Have you ever felt a calling in your heart or mind that you just really don’t want to answer? You know, the kind of nudge that just won’t go away despite all your efforts to ignore it? More often than not running, hiding or pushing it away just doesn’t do the trick because in truth, that calling is probably part of your higher, divine purpose.

On this episode of The Language of Love, I speak with renowned author Arielle Ford. Arielle is a woman who made her name writing non-fiction advice books on love. That is, until she started feeling called to write a fictional story she had zero interest in writing! Her journey to ultimately answer the call resulted in The Love Thief. Arielle and I discuss the journey that led her to write this story of healing and redemption, the miracles and manifestations that made it impossible not to write it, and the lessons she wants every reader to take from this book, including powerful lessons on narcissism, codependency, mother-father wounds, spiritual awakening and so much more. If you’ve been running or hiding from a calling in your own heart, or if you just want a great beach read, Arielle and her story will inspire you.

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Dr. Laura Berman

Our Guest

Arielle Ford is a leading personality in the personal growth and contemporary spirituality movement. For the past 30 years she has been living, teaching, and promoting consciousness through all forms of media. She is a celebrated love and relationship expert, author, speaker, and is the co-creator and host of Evolving Wisdom’s Art of Love series. Her mission is to help women Find Love, Keep Love and Be Love.

Arielle Ford

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Unleash Your Magic with David Lion Aug 02, 2023

What if I told you that living inside of each one of us is the ability to create pure magic? I’m not talking about pulling rabbits out of hats or making people dissapear; I’m talking about the kind of magic that allows you to heal from past traumas and live the abundant life you’ve always hoped for!

This week on the Language of Love, I welcome David Lion. David is a hypnotist and magician who has mastered the art of healing and manifestation. Today, David and I will dig deep to help you unlock the door that leads to your magic. We’ll also spend time discussing some personal challenges I have been facing as he offers valuable insights that can help you too deal with your past and help lay a foundation for your incredible future!

In this episode you’ll learn:

How to build a two-way co-creative relationship with spirit
The value of parents who support magic in their children
The balance of not losing who you truly are as you try to become who you think want to be
The multiple ways authenticity can the door to connection
The two stations each of us has in our consciousness and how to access them in service to magic

Resources and Links

Dr. Laura Berman

David Lion

About David Lion

David Lion is a renowned hypnotist who is passionate about helping others find the clarity they need to live life to the fullest. He offers direction and guidance that speaks to the heart and resonates deeply within your soul. From energy healing to spiritual guidance, he truly believes that there is magic living inside of each of us and that impossible is simply a mindset waiting to be changed.

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This Too Shall Pass Jul 26, 2023

Loss in life comes in a lot of different shapes, sizes, and forms and each one of us will experience multiple losses over a lifetime. And how we process those losses makes all the difference.

In this Language of Love Session, I get into the loss of the empty nest, when our children leave home. I spend time with Charisse, who is facing the loss of her youngest as he prepares to go to college. She’s struggling as it is, but also feeling pulled deeper into grief because this loss is triggering old losses that are now coming to the surface. We get into the complexities of the “empty nest,” how to navigate the complexities of that loss, and what to do when old losses are triggering and complicating new ones.

In this episode you’ll learn:

Understanding loss in whatever way it manifests
How new losses can trigger old ones
How to transition as our children leave home, remaining their parent, but also learning how to become their friend.

Dr. Laura Berman

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Perception Isn’t Always Reality Jul 24, 2023

There’s this long-held and much belief that all narcissists are evil people bent on destruction who take pleasure in delivering pain. And that pain is often delivered to vulnerable and meek codependents who are viewed as meek, sweet souls whose sole purpose in life is to please others. But what if I told you that while on the surface, they seem totally different, operating from completely opposite ends of the spectrum narcissists and codependents are actually opposite sides of the same coin?

On this episode of Language of Love Bites, we’ll discuss the similarities between narcissists and codependents and how they originate from the same place. Chances are we’ve all dealt with one at some point in our lives and understanding why they behave in a certain way could help us, help them, and in the process, help our relationships. There’s a lot to unpack here including some of the myths out there about codependents and narcissists!

Resources and Links

Dr. Laura Berman

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The Art of Listening to Your Body with Kayla Osterhoff Jul 19, 2023

Men and women aren’t alike. This statement sounds simple enough, but for far too long, women have been asked to live, work, and grow in a world that is set up for men. The truth is throughout the month a woman’s hormonal cycle is changing in very subtle ways that impact her energy, focus and mood. This isn’t a bad thing at all. But when we learn to work with our hormonal cycles, life gets so much easier and much more productive.

In this Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Kayla Osterhoff, a renowned Neuropsychophysiologist who understands the importance of recognizing the unique needs of a woman and her body. She has dedicated her life to helping women to get in touch with themselves, manage the various physiological phases, and unleash the power each stage offers. If you’re a woman or someone who loves one, this episode will inspire you to make some small changes that make a huge difference!

In this episode, we’ll discuss:

The importance of understanding your body’s biorhythm
The four phases of physiological shifting.
Why PMS is actually a symptom of being out of alignment with your biorhythm.
How to hack your biorhythm for more consistent peace, power, and productivity.

Resources and Links

Dr. Laura Berman

Kayla Osterhoff

About Kayla Osterhoff

Kayla Osterhoff is a globally recognized women’s health expert, lauded for her groundbreaking research and insights. She is dedicated to helping women the world over to get in touch with their bodies and teach them how to manage the various phases. Her innovative, forward-thinking approach has been throughout the world and resonates with females of all generations and stages of life

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And a Child Still Leads You Jul 12, 2023

Do you ever find it hard to express love to your partner? You know you love them and how important they are in your life, but for some reason, you can’t bring yourself to express it out loud. In most cases, it’s not the present that’s holding you back … it’s your past, specifically the things you experienced as a child.

In this Language of Love session, I spent time speaking with Connie. She loves her partner, but can’t express it to them. She grew up in a home where trauma was a constant companion, leading her to emotionally shut down to feel safe. We get into her past, revealing the little girl who still resides inside the grown woman, too scared to love out loud. And we begin charting a course for healing.

In this episode, we’ll discuss:

The many ways the expression of love is modeled (or not) in our families growing up.
The lingering effects of a childhood without reciprocal love on difficulty with attachment.
How being raised by an addict affects self expression in love and fosters insecure or avoidant attachment.
The path to healing attachment wounds

Resources and Links

Dr. Laura Berman

Additional Resources

You’ve tried and tried, but you’re not getting the answers you need. Here’s the good news, the world is full of valuable resources. If you’re looking for someone specializing in Talk Therapy or Family of Origin of Family Addiction Issues, visit Psychology Today (www.psychologytoday.com), to find a provider in your area. If you’re interested in Somatic Healing, visit Trauma Healing (www.traumahealing.org) or Hakomi Institute (www.hakomiinstitute.com). Both of these websites will guide you to resources near you.

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Help, I’m Catching Feels… Jul 10, 2023

Friends with benefits…it’s common in our dating vernacular now. A friendship where sex happens and no commitment beyond friendship. It can seem modern and cool and a great idea. But I find in most cases, one person is benefiting while the other person is (probably secretly) hoping it’ll turn into more.

On this Language of Love Bite I discuss the hidden costs of being a friend with benefits and why it may not be as beneficial as it appears to be on the surface. Intimacy is one of life’s most pleasurable experiences and one we all deserve. But when the clothes come off, the lines can often become blurred. There are so many things to consider before embarking on this kind of relationship journey … So let's talk about it!

Resources and Links

Dr. Laura Berman

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Tough Times Don’t Last, Tough People Do with Steven Washington Jul 05, 2023

Regardless of whether or not we’re brave enough to admit it, most of us have been addicted to one thing or another during our lifetime. When it comes to this topic, drugs and alcohol are the first things that come to mind, but you’d be surprised to learn there are so many more. You’d be even more surprised to learn what these addictions really represent.

In this Language of Love conversation, I sit down with Steven Washington as he discusses his experiences with addiction and his journey toward recovery. Steven is a movement master and also the author of Recovering You: Soulful and Mindful Movement For Overcoming Addiction. Join us today as we discuss the importance of connections, the power of touch, self-care and much more. If you’re serious about understanding your addiction and charting a course for recovery, you’ve come to the right place.

Resources and Links

Dr. Laura Berman

Steven Washington

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Springing Back Into Action Jun 28, 2023

Dating can be a challenging proposition no matter which stage of life you find yourself walking through, but especially if you’ve been out of the game for some time. Setting standards and knowing what you’re looking for in a mate are critical steps.

In this Language of Love session, I spend time with Mary, a woman trying to navigate the often-complicated dating terrain to find her person. The challenge she faces is she thinks she knows what she wants, but I help her realize she’s actually focusing too much on what she doesn’t want! Listen in as I walk her through the process everyone should get clear on if they are seeking to manifest the love they most desire.

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Dr. Laura Berman

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How to Heal the Father Wound Jun 26, 2023

Fathers play such an important role in the life of all children, but especially their daughters. Whether he knows it or not, how a father treats his daughter determines if she’s fortified and ready to take on the world, or carrying unhealed wounds affecting all areas of her life as an adult. If your relationship with your father was lacking, less than ideal or has left you wounded, it’s time to start healing.

In this Language of Love Bite, I discuss the father wound and how it can impact a woman, her relationships and life choices. It doesn’t have to have been an abusive relationship. A fathers’ neglect, criticism, indifference or abandonment can also create trauma that all too often goes unaddressed. I’ll also cover the signs of a father wound, and how you can recognize them. Lastly, I’ll help you begin walking down the path toward healing, leading to you becoming the best version of yourself!

In this episode you’ll learn:

Why parent (in particular father) relationships are the foundation for life relationships
How healing begins with recognition but doesn’t always lead to rejection or confrontation
How to learn to stand by your truth and not be afraid to re-parent yourself

Resources and Links

Dr. Laura Berman

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Honey, Baby, Mine, Laura Dern and Diane Ladd Jun 21, 2023

For most of us, we avoid the hard conversations. And if we have them, we wait until the end is near to sit down, ask questions and get the answers we need before saying our final goodbyes. But the truth is we don’t have to wait until we are about to loose someone to clear the air. Those hard conversations can actually be the beginnings of beautiful new chapters of life.

In this Language of Love session, I speak to renowned actress Laura Dern. We’ll discuss the new book she recently completed with her mother, the legendary Diane Ladd entitled, Honey, Baby, Mine: A Mother and Daughter Talk Life, Death, Love (and Banana Pudding).Listen in to our heartfelt, insightful, & eye opening conversation about hope, honesty and the important conversations we shouldn’t wait to have. Because healing only comes with being brave enough to get honest with those who’ve hurt us, especially our loved ones. I hope you are as inspired by this conversation as I am.

Resources and Links

Dr. Laura Berman

Laura Dern

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Nick Cannon: The Mother of All Fathers Jun 14, 2023

Unless you’ve been living under a rock for the last few years, you’ve probably heard the name Nick Cannon. From his courageous health battle to his career that continues on a seemingly endless ascent, to the multitude of children he’s fathered through several different women, everyone has an opinion. He’s one of the most enigmatic figures in entertainment, an undeniably incredible talent … and an even more incredible person!

In this Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Nick as he dispels myths, exposes us to some of the life and love lessons he’s learned along the way, and sets the record straight. We talk about the children and how to the outside it appears reckless, but to him, it’s the manifestation of a vision that at the time it was revealed, even he didn’t quite understand.

Nothing is off limits as we dive deep into his views on parenting, relationships, and the role past trauma plays in his current life. You’ve read the clippings and heard all the gossip, but today you’ll hear from the man himself as I get candid with the one and only … Nick Cannon!

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Nick Cannon

About Nick Cannon

Actor, comedian, musician, television and radio personality, Nick Cannon is a man who knows no limits. He’s a source of energy and one whose indelible, creative imprint can be seen etched all across the entertainment world. As he continues evolving and unveiling new layers of his brand, he remains committed to opening doors for those that follow while championing their efforts to make their dreams become reality.

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Can you heal yourself with Quantum Energy? with Tom Paladino Jun 07, 2023

I am very excited about this week’s Language of Love Conversation because we are talking about something that I have always been curious to explore and learn more about. It is a very exciting form of alternative healing that is known to improve health and vitality.

Scalar energy researcher, Tom Paladino, is joining me today to talk about how scalar light therapy can be used in healing the body and mind.

What’s scalar light you ask? Well listen in as Tom elaborates on how scalar light therapy works and how it can be used to improve human health and vitality. It’s a fascinating new holistic approach to healing that I will be learning about alongside you. This week on Language of Love. This is one episode you don’t want to miss.

https://www.scalarlight.com/

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Grow Your Soul and Call in Fuller Love May 31, 2023

If you long for soul filling love or care about someone who does, this episode is for you!

When you commit to personal growth, you come to love the person you flourish into. And if you’re looking for love, you’ll be much more likely to attract in the kind of love you most desire. After all, the more healed and whole you are, the more you are a magnet for others who are the same!

This Language of Love Session, I talk to listener Kathleen about how to navigate the path to the best version of yourself, even while finding beautiful love along the way. We’ll discuss projecting the right energy, living in the right frequency, and a few things you can start doing right now to attract the love you deserve.

In this episode you’ll learn about:

Discovering what language is your body speaking
The Accidental Alpha Woman Syndrome and the fine line between power and control.
How your energy is your best date outfit.
If you want to attract masculine, ways to build up your feminine to attract.

Resources and Links

Dr. Laura Berman

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Collateral Damage: The Hidden Cost of Revenge May 29, 2023

Have you ever wished harm on another person? Someone who did you wrong in some form or fashion?

Maybe it’s an ex, a co-worker, or a neighbor who crossed you. The truth is most everyone has felt this

way a time or two. But have you ever thought about the cost of vengeance?

In this Language of Love Bite, we’ll uncover the hidden costs of vengeance, fury, anger and what they

can potentially cost you. There’s a healthier way to express your disdain for a situation or a choice that

doesn't align with your core values or desires. It doesn’t cost you anything and allows you to feel

complete. Listen to this episode to learn more!

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The Language of Love for great discussions and thought-provoking conversations with accomplished

individuals and experts offering invaluable advice on how to love and be loved better.

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Who Do You Think You Are? with Joe Dispenza May 24, 2023

So many of us struggle with low self worth. But, if you’re not happy with the person looking

back at you in the mirror, you can actually change everything by changing your thoughts,

especially your habitual thoughts.

This week on The Language of Love, I’m so excited to share with you my conversation with Dr.

Joe Dispenza. He is revolutionizing the hearts and souls of millions with his teachings around

making what seems impossible, possible through the focused power of thought. In this

conversation we discuss how the mind, and memories from our past can affect our health even

shape our reality. The truth is an amazing life is waiting for each of us. It just requires a shift of

mind.

In this episode, we’ll also discuss:

● How to change your mind to change your health for the better.

● The power of using daily reminders of the person you want to be

● Key question to ask yourself that changes everything in your dating life.

● How to end addiction to negative thoughts

Visit my website and check out my books on love, sex and relationships. Be sure to tune in

regularly to The Language of Love for great discussions and thought-provoking conversations

with accomplished individuals and experts offering invaluable advice on how to love and be

loved better.

Dr. Joe Dispenza

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Ready, Willing, but Unable May 17, 2023

Sex … it gets easy with marriage, right? In a perfect world, this is how things work, but our world is far from perfect, and those imperfections often follow us into the bedroom. As much as we’d like to think otherwise, when you “put a ring on it” you won’t necessarily spontaneously release any predisposed inhibitions you have around sex.

This week, our Language of Love Session dives into this topic with a listener who is ready, willing, but unable to enjoy sex with her husband due to core inhibitions she didn’t realize she was still carrying. I help her get to the root of her aversion to being sexual and share insights and tools that will get her and her sex life back on track.

In today’s episode you will learn:

How to find the missing piece of your sex life.
How to come back to your body and stay there for true intimacy and pleasure.
When and how outside help can make all the difference
Ways to make intimacy feel safe.
How to build a better sex life without making sex feel like work.

Sex is one of the most pleasurable experiences life has to offer. If you find yourself stranded at a bedroom impasse, the good news is that help is available.

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Should You Give Your Daughter a Vibrator? May 15, 2023

Yes, you read that right! On this week’s Language of Love bite, we are talking about whether you should give your daughter the power to take her pleasure into her own hands. I first brought this up a long time ago on the Oprah Winfrey Show and while Oprah agreed with me, Gayle King and much of America didn’t.

This episode, I elaborate explicitly on why teaching your daughter self-stimulation has long-term benefits to her safety, self-advocacy, and ultimate sexual and romantic pleasure and satisfaction. Listen in as I talk about how giving your daughter a sex toy can positively affect her sexual development.

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Finding Your Own Magic with Anna Kloots May 10, 2023

Have you ever found yourself bending over backward to please others and losing sight of your own needs and desires?

Anna Kloots, bestselling author and content creator, is joining me today during Language of Love’s conversation to discuss how you can cultivate your inner relationship with a fear of the unknown, the beautiful process, and finding your own magic. She talks about how to thrive in unknown scenarios and create new comfort zones.

Anna's journey of self-discovery and self-love is a true testament to the power of resilience and hope. She sheds light on the idea that the problems we experience in love aren’t about giving away too much of ourselves to someone, but about not knowing our true worth and thus giving it to the wrong people who can’t or won’t reciprocate.

Listen in as Anna shares the lessons she’s learned through her own journey of heartbreak that woke her up, led her back to her own magic, and allowed her to manifest the beautiful life and love of her dreams.

If you’ve been struggling to claim your worth or take that big leap your soul is calling you to make, this episode will inspire you to go for it all.

Visit Anna’s website, and check out her upcoming book My Own Magic: A Reappearing Act releasing May 16th, and follow her to check out the amazing journeys she’s on.

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Stop Accidentally Attracting Narcissists May 03, 2023

Ever wonder why you are always drawn to partners who have the same personality traits? Some people call it having a type, I call it being a frequency match for a certain kind of character or quality. Depending on the type, this can be a good thing, a bad thing or a very bad thing.

In this Language of Love Session, I talk with a listener named Kim. She has been in a toxic narcissistic-codependent relationship for 4 years and she’s seeking guidance on whether or not she should throw in the towel.

In this episode you’ll learn:

How to reach the calm and presence necessary for an honest conversation
The two tipping points of pain that ultimately allow us to leave a toxic relationship
How much narcissists and codependents actually have in common (hint: codependents can be gaslighters too!)
A roadmap for healing successfully with action items

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Why Men and Women are Sexually Different May 01, 2023

On this week’s Language of Love bite, we are talking sexual relationships and how men and women approach sex from different angles. Guys and gals, young and old, whether you are single, married or it’s complicated, if you love sex, this episode is for you!

Listen to this short and pointed discussion (pun intended) as I explain why we are the way we are. Why men are so focused and driven? Why women are so amazing at multi-tasking? And how you can enjoy your sex life to the fullest despite the difference in approach. At the end of this Language of Love Bite, I will tell you some things you can do to attend to those differences, so be sure to listen to the whole episode!

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Building the Faith Muscle with Bobbi Vogel Apr 26, 2023

This week on Language of Love Conversation, I am joined by my friend and Clairvoyant Healer, Bobbi Vogel and our conversation goes deep! I am very excited to share her wisdom on the Language of Love. Listen in as Bobbi tells of the near death experience that was the catalyst of her awakening. She shares the secrets she’s discovered for building Faith as a path to healing the body and mind. And we even take some of your questions live, on the topic of faith, connecting with our deepest selves and unlocking our fullest potential.

Learn more about Bobbi on her Instagram page or website, Etheric Medicine.

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My Husband Is Addicted to Porn, Not Me Apr 19, 2023

Like it or not, this is a very common issue couples face. One in five men suffer from low desire, and one of the most common causes is that they are investing too much sexual energy and time into watching porn.

On this episode of Language of Love Session, I am speaking with Isabel whose husband has a porn addiction. I explain to her why her husband is being unresponsive to sex, the reasons behind his immense fascination to porn and more importantly, some of the things they can do as a couple (I assign her homework!) to counter that.

If you are wanting your partner to be less on his laptop and more on you, listen to this Language of Love session!

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Closing the Orgasm Gap Apr 17, 2023

One of the biggest bedroom complaints I get from couples is around closing what I call the Orgasm Gap. It takes the average man seven and a half minutes to get there and the average woman 20! On this week's Language of Love bite, we are packing into 10 minutes everything you need to know about sex, orgasms, and how to close the gap so you can both get the pleasure you deserve. Whether you are a man or woman, young or mature, single or in a relationship, you are going to love this one.

From practical tips that you can implement immediately to specific products that you can use that actually work, we are closing the orgasm gap today and it’s all happening on this week’s Language of Love Bite. Be sure to listen in and share with someone you love!

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Agape Love is at the Center of Health, Healing, & Inclusion with Glodean Champion Apr 12, 2023

Life coach, light worker, and author Glodean Champion joins me for this week’s Language of Love Conversation. We talk about a myriad of topics relating to gender identity, race, self-acceptance, and more. All these topics are tackled in her recent fictional book, Salmon Croquettes. We also explore how her trip down south during the Black Lives Matter protests shaped her understanding of love, and how it helped her remember that she is a beacon of light in this world!

In this Conversation, Glodean and I discuss:

How to become a leader by using unconditional love
The three lessons Glodean learned from her trip to the South during the BLM protests
Powerful lessons from upbringing as an adopted child of a single mother
Glodean’s TEDx Talk on her suicidal thoughts and how one town saved her life.

Visit Glodean’s website for more information on her career, mission, and leadership resources. You can also read her beautiful debut novel Salmon Croquettes and listen to her TEDx Talk!

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Finding Humility Apr 05, 2023

This Language of Love session is very special to me because I am joined by my college roommate and bestie since the 1980s, Dana Lathrop. The two of us reminisce a bit (including recounting some of the crazier antics we got up to in our youth). But we also dig into the issue of humility; is it ever real? Is it required for social acceptance? Is there something wrong with you if you have too much or too little humility?

If you struggle with self promotion, celebrating your accomplishments out loud or claiming your gifts, this episode will definitely inspire you.

Dana is definitely someone who is committed to humility. Dana is a very talented and accomplished artist, but she is uncomfortable stepping into the spotlight. In this week’s Language of Love session, I help her identify where that is coming from and more importantly, what she should do about it.

Join me as we tackle this topic from our differing perspectives; why is it important to sometimes toot your own horn? Is it ok for someone to be their own cheerleader? Is false humility worse or better than honest pride?

Learn more about Dana Lathrop’s art on her instagram page

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What’s Your Number? To Tell or Not to Tell? Apr 03, 2023

Should you tell each other your “number” in a new relationship?

In this Language of Love Bite we are tackling this age old question: How many sexual partners have you had? I’m helping you navigate through this conversation with your partner and, even more importantly, understand the implications of even asking the question in the first place! The asking (and the answer) both can have far reaching implications for the future of your relationship.

I’m always here helping you love and be loved better! So make sure to visit my website and check out my books on love, sex and relationships. Be sure to tune in regularly to The Language of Love for great discussions and thought-provoking conversations with accomplished individuals and experts offering invaluable advice on how to love and be loved better.

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Finding Magic in the Mess with Dr. Neeta Bhushan Mar 29, 2023

On this week’s episode of the Language of Love, I am sitting down with wellness and emotional health advocate Dr. Neeta Bhushan, the author of the acclaimed book, That Sucked Now What? At a very young age Neeta experienced the loss of her brother and both her parents, leading her into a spiral of grief, an abusive relationship and struggles with codependency.

In this conversation, we talk about the ways that magical moments that can grow out of our deepest pain, as well as the many powerful strategies Dr Neetha shared to “sit with the suck” in order to move through it and thrive.

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Healing Trauma with Somatic Therapy Mar 22, 2023

On this week’s episode of the Language of Love session, I sat down with Amanda who’s going through some heavy life changes and is struggling with organization and clarity. A veteran of the armed forces and a recovering alcoholic, Amanda is a fighter, an abuse survivor, and a mom with two beautiful children. She’s seeking some help putting her life back on track. In this session, we talk about:

How somatic therapy can be beneficial for Amanda in her recovery from sexual and emotional trauma.
Looking to her kids for motivation and how her healing can give her children a better life.
How to build trust and a relationship with your body.
Specific action steps that I lay out, the A, B and C to healing from trauma and abuse.

This must-listen episode is a very emotional one, as Amanda recalls the abuse and trauma she has endured. Listen as I share specific action steps she can take to heal, and lay out a path that she can follow to reach full recovery.

Mentions:

You Are Not Crazy, You Are Just Ascending by Dr. Laura Berman

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The Keys to Helping Kids Thrive Through Divorce Mar 20, 2023

If you are a child of divorce, or a parent going through it, this episode is for you!

Let’s face it. Divorce is never easy, especially when kids are involved. But the key to surviving it, and more importantly helping children thrive through it, comes down to the parents’ behavior… specifically around coparenting.

In this Language of Love Bite we get into the crucial things parents must focus on to help their kids move through a divorce as unscathed as possible, including my #1 indicator that predicts how children are going to manage through the process.

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The Journey to Self-Love & Self-Discovery Through Creative Expression with IN-Q Mar 15, 2023

Songwriter, poet, speaker, and bestselling author IN-Q is joining me on this week’s Language of Love Conversation to discuss the process of self-exploration through art and the journey to transformation and self-love. Through Inquire Within, his recent book, he shares the role that poetry has played in his life as he’s walked through a life of grief, joy, fear, love, and everything in between.

In this Conversation, we unpack:

How to move beyond fear to fully express our authentic selves
Ways art can be a path to self discovery
The fact that everyone is a poet of some sort and how to begin your own creative expression
When you know your own creative expression is complete

Visit IN-Q’s website, follow him on Instagram, and check out his book, Inquire Within, for more information on his story as an artist and the storytelling workshops that he holds for individuals around the globe.

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Navigating Finances as a Couple Mar 08, 2023

Money. Sex. Kids. Religion. These are four big kahunas that can make or break a relationship. On todaysLanguage of Love Session I’m speaking with Victoria about money issues coming up in her relationship.

Navigating finances can be a minefield for relationships. Moving in is one thing, but sharing expenses is quite another. In this Language of Love session, I sit down with Victoria who reports she and her boyfriend are struggling with different view on spending. Listen as I talk to her about financial burden

sharing and how each partner can accommodate the other person’s spending and saving preferences

while still honoring their own.

It’s all about meeting in the middle. Can you create space and grace to support each other’s different

desires to spend or save money? Be sure to listen to this week’s Love session to find out!

Visit my website and check out my books on love, sex and relationships. Be sure to tune in regularly to

The Language of Love for great discussions and thought-provoking conversations with accomplished

individuals and experts offering invaluable advice on how to love and be loved better.

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Life and Love After Herpes Mar 06, 2023

Even though 1 in 4 people have Herpes, 80% of those who have it don’t even know it! Yet despite how common it is, I still find that a diagnosis with Herpes sends people reeling, all too often fills them with shame, and even keeps them stuck in unhealthy relationships they would otherwise leave if they didn’t feel like “damaged goods.”

In this Language of Love Bite I’m getting into it with you; the precautions to take to prevent transmission , ways to bring it up in a new relationship and methods to manage it. Most of all we get into the fact that this is simply a skin condition and not a death sentence for your love or sex life!

Are you ready to learn how to protect yourself and the ones you love, release the shame and step into your sexual power? Well this episode is for you!

Visit Dr. my website and check out my books on love, sex and relationships. Be sure to tune in regularly to The Language of Love for great discussions and thought-provoking conversations with accomplished individuals and experts offering invaluable advice on how to love and be loved better.

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When Our Childhood Wounds Wound our Children: The Parenting Map With Dr. Shefali Mar 01, 2023

Whether you are a parent or not, this episode is going to open your eyes! This week on Language of Love, I sit down with one of my faves, Dr. Shefali. She is a renowned author, psychologist, and parenting expert. Her book The Conscious Parent really changed my life. Now we sit down to talk about her newest endeavor, The Parenting Map.

In this episode we get into it all, including:

All the unconscious ways our own wounds play out in our parenting style
The specific ways our triggers in adulthood actually developed in childhood and how we can stop the cycle with our own kids
How our attempts to raise “successful” and “happy” kids is actually misguided
The secret guilt I’ve been carrying about a mistake I made with my son Sammy

Do you want to know how you can be there for your kids in a more fulfilling, meaningful, and loving way that will serve them and aid in their development? This episode is for you!

Make sure to check out Dr Shefali’s website and grab a copy of her new book The Parenting Map: Step-by-Step Solutions to Consciously Create the Ultimate Parent-Child Relationship.

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Experiencing a New Level of Healing with Gabby Bernstein Feb 22, 2023

Today’s episode is a special one as my guest today is someone with whom I share both a professional and personal connection. Gabby Bernstein is a New York times bestselling author with 8 books. She is also a motivational speaker and host of the “Dear Gabby” podcast. Her latest book, Happy Days, is her most personal work to date. Gabby shares her healing journey after recovering traumatic memories of sexual abuse

In this week’s Language of Love Conversation, Gabby takes us along on her deep and personal journey of healing, sharing with us the resources she discovers that have helped her heal, and the tough lessons she learned along the way. We even get into an event we co-facilitated and I (lovingly) confront Gabby about a hurt I suffered at her hands close to a decade ago!

If you are someone or love someone who’s suffered any kind of trauma, this is not an episode to miss!

In this LOL Conversation we talk about:

The difference between “Big T” Trauma and “little t” trauma
The surprising secret Gabby shares about the difference between the Gabby on-stage and Gabby in her personal life
The 2 major events that were the catalysts that launched Gabby into a major AFGE (Another Frickin’ Growth Experience)
How to feel safe enough in your own body to go deeper into therapy
Strategies for facing trauma head on while being supported in your healing

Visit Gabby Bernstein’s website and check out her latest New York times best seller book, Happy Days: The Guided Path from Trauma to Profound Freedom and Inner Peace. You can also watch her on her podcast Dear Gabby.

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Friendship is Your Stepping Stone to Romance Feb 15, 2023

We’re back with another Language of Love session! In this episode, I chat with a 40-something-year-old listener who wants to find love but feels an aversion to dating. She’s never dated and never been physically intimate with someone.

As we explore some of her childhood and current attitude toward men, we unpack the things that might have landed her where she is today. I also break down some tools to begin practicing to open her heart to love vulnerability, like fostering your friendships first!

In this session, we discuss:

How our parents’ marriage can deeply affect our perception of love and care
What we are really craving in the search for emotional and physical intimacy
Why friendship can be a wonderful stepping stone to romance
How vulnerability and open heartedness with our pets can heal some of the wounds blocking us from love
The power of somatic experiencing in healing our blocks to love

If you’re curious about somatic experiences, check out the Hakomi Institute or Somatic Experiencing International for more information.

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When You want to Go But Your Partner Threatens to Hurt Themselves if You Do! Feb 13, 2023

Have you ever been in a relationship where your partner has threatened to hurt themselves if you leave?

Unfortunately, this is a surprisingly common situation that I hear from a lot of you. In today’s Language of Love Bite, I want to equip you with a few tools to navigate a situation with someone who is either genuinely at risk or might be using suicidal thoughts as emotional blackmail. The tips I outline will hopefully give you some comfort and peace when navigating a stressful situation such as this.

In this Bite, I explore:

What emotional manipulation looks like
The important difference between Suicidal thoughts/ideation vs. a suicidal plan
How to spot some of the red flags in someone at risk
Steps to take to leave the relationship in a way that leaves your partner protected.

If you’re afraid that your partner is going to hurt themselves and don’t know what to do, call a clinician, 1-800-273-8255, or dial the suicide hot line 988. Erring on the side of caution will give you the peace of mind that you need. No matter what happens, remember that no one is entitled to hold you emotional (or any kind of) hostage.

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Breaking Down Barriers to Healthy Love with Stefanos Sifandos Feb 08, 2023

What is healthy love, and what can stand in the way of achieving it?

Transformational relationship coach Stefanos Sifandos is joining me for this week’s Language of Love Conversation to discuss the characteristics of healthy love and the five barriers that can stand in the way. He also shares his own journey from childhood trauma to struggling in relationships and the turning points in his life that led to healing.

In this episode, we dive into:

The turning point in Stef’s life that led to healing
The 5 Blocks to Love
When to throw in the towel in love
Divine femininity vs divine masculinity
The qualities of a healthy relationship

Stefanos Sifandos and his wife run a Breathwork for the Feminine event every month, but he also has a variety of coaching options for those looking to take that first step toward opening their heart to love. You can also follow him on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube to stay up-to-date on his work!

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Healing from Assault & Abuse in a Relationship Feb 01, 2023

TRIGGER WARNING: This episode includes references to sexual assault and abuse.

This week’s Language of Love Session is with a listener facing a devastating situation in her marriage. After recently sustaining sexual abuse by her husband, this listener and I sit in this heartbreaking situation together as she considers her next move in this marriage. We also discuss trauma she has not yet healed from and how she carries it with her every day.

If you’ve experienced assault or abuse, please know that those experiences are not your fault. You are deserving of safety, respect, and solid boundaries.

In this Session, we break down:

What assault is at its core
The ways narcissistic partners hurt us
How trauma in childhood informs our romantic choices
How to begin moving forward with somatic therapy

If you’re interested in finding a somatic therapist in your area, visit Somatic Experiencing International or The Hakomi Institute. For information and resources regarding sexual assault, visit RAINN.

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Female Ejaculation: Real or a Myth? Jan 30, 2023

This week’s Language of Love Bite is all about female ejaculation. Some people believe it’s a myth, so I’m breaking down that misconception in today’s episode! A common belief is that your body releases urine when you orgasm, but that is not the case. There is a specific compound found in male and female ejaculation, and today, I want to talk about what’s actually happening in our bodies when we experience this.

In this Bite, I break down:

The difference between male and female ejaculation
The process of retrograde ejaculation
A few tips to ejaculate when you orgasm

You can always reach me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com or leave me a voicemail if you have any questions!

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Parenting in the Darkest Seasons with Kristina Kuzmic Jan 25, 2023

How do we manage negativity and misery while still finding things to be grateful for? How do we pass these skills on to our children?

Kristina Kuzmic, writer, creator, and mother, is joining me today during today’s Language of Love Conversation to discuss personalized parenting for our children, how we can support them through their mental health struggles, and how to combat insecurity and uncertainty with grace. She is a big believer, as am I, in the power of authenticity and vulnerability in developing close relationships and unity.

She also unpacks her journey through her current profession, her early projects, the impact of her Wednesday Night Dinners, how she fosters gratitude through her “Yeah, but…” game, and her son’s dark season of depression.

In today’s episode, we discuss:

Why there is no “one size fits all” model for parenting
The subtle ways we label our children
Reframing traits that are categorized as “negative”
The power of authenticity
The impact of focusing on the things you CAN do
The “Yeah, but…” Game
Why shame is the shittiest motivator
Encouraging our children to prioritize their mental health
Parenting children who are struggling

Visit Kristina Kuzmic’s website, check out her book, Hold On, But Don’t Hold Still, and watch her YouTube video with her son to learn more about how they moved through that challenging and scary season.

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Assessing Your Inner Child’s Wants & Needs Jan 18, 2023

What does it mean to shift a relationship that’s just not working? How do we reestablish independence and access our gifts while carrying childhood trauma?

This listener and I are breaking down these questions and assessing the state of her marriage in today’s Language of Love Session. It’s not uncommon for some people in long-term relationships to feel like their independence is tied to the presence of a partner – we almost revert to a child-like sense of ourselves. But we must teach our inner child to speak up for their wants and needs, so tune in to discover the valuable tips I offer this listener!

In today’s Session, we explore:

The state of her marriage
The trauma we carry into our relationships
Reestablishing independence as adults
How to integrate the wants and needs of our inner child into our lives
Why a somatic therapist can help
Releasing generational trauma
How our souls choose our family of origin
Tips to cultivate connection and access our gifts

We have to work through our fear and resistance to move toward love and intimacy. Check out my website for more information on how you can begin this journey!

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Why Do Women Fake Their Orgasms? Jan 16, 2023

OK, let’s be honest. How many of you have faked or known someone who regularly fakes orgasms?

If you’re in this boat, I get it. There are plenty of reasons women fake it, and I’m shedding some light on these motivators in today’s Language of Love Bite. Whether it’s a presumed act of mercy, you haven’t had an orgasm before, or you’re unsure how to replicate the orgasm you experience on your own, I want to help you reach a point where you can be honest with your partner.

In this Bite, I’m explaining:

The mercy fake
The stages of an orgasm
How to tackle shame as the secret orgasm killer
Why some women don’t advocate for their pleasure
Ideal ingredients for sexual pleasure
How best to tackle it with your partner if you’ve been faking it!

Remember that orgasms and arousal depend on several different factors. If you’re not reaching an orgasm every time you have sex, that’s completely normal! But pleasure is your birthright. Let go of those expectations and enjoy the process!

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How to Ground Yourself When The World Around You Seems Crazy with Christina Lopes Jan 11, 2023

It can seem like the world is going a little crazy these days. Everything is in an upheaval around the world, and in our personal lives.

Christina Lopes, the author of Walking With the Masters and spiritual healer, is chatting with me during this week’s Language of Love Conversation to discuss her wild ride through a spiritual awakening. Christina shares much of the wisdom she gained in her journey including how to ground yourself during times of chaos.

During our Conversation, Christina and I dive into:

The divorce crisis and out of body experience that began her spiritual awakeningHow our tendency to keep busy negatively affects our sense of equilibrium
Christina’s Kundalini awakening (along with what the hell that means), and the rising of what she experiences as a Dynamic Feminine Force of Consciousness
The limitations of the Western medical system to explain so many of the physical experiences that come with spiritual awakening
The powerful thing that happens when you actually ask your spirit guides for help
The importance of protecting your energy and finding play

Visit Christina Lopes’ website to learn more about her journey, spiritual awakening, and healing. You can also watch her videos and read her wonderful new book Walking With the Masters!

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Raising Boys as Sensitive and Intuitive Humans with Justin Baldoni Jan 04, 2023

If you are raising a man, identify as a man or love a man this episode will mean the world to you! I know it means the world to me as a mom of 3 boys and a wife of one man.

In today’s Language of Love Conversation, actor, director, author, and father Justin Baldoni unpacks how this question motivated him to write his recent book, Boys Will Be Human. Justin shares the insights and clarity he wishes he had been given as a young man. We connect over our experiences as parents as we struggle through trying to

help our own children become the people they’re destined to be.

In this conversation, we break down:

How social pressure and our own unconscious conditioning can act as a barrier to helping our boys grow into healthy men
Tips for teaching boys to move through feelings rather than ignore or hide them
How to tackle bullies and bystanders who squelch our boys’ creativity and self expression
The unexpected effects Porn has on developing brains and how the idea of sexual consent plays out in boys’ sex education.

Check out Justin’s podcast, Man Enough, and be sure to read his book, Boys Will Be Human, with your kiddos!

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Discovering Wholeness Through Healing with Dr. Gabor Maté Dec 28, 2022

I’m beyond excited to welcome Dr. Gabor Maté to this Language of Love Conversation. As an author, physician, and renowned addiction expert, Gabor has spent years working to break down societal norms and traditional ideals about the connection between trauma and illness. His book, The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, & Healing in a Toxic Culture, explores the relationship between and influences of mind and body.

Together we get into the many ways our current physical and mental health is rooted in childhood.

In today’s Conversation, we talk about:

Ways in which our mind and body are interconnected
The unique ways stress impacts women’s physical health
Why ‘no’is crucial to physical health
How to understand the feeling of guilt and what it means
The gifts of sensitive children and why society doesn’t always recognize them
How healing is the natural movement toward wholeness
Two different kinds of pain

Check out Dr. Gabor Maté’s website for more information on his career, books, and courses available. They are chock-full of valuable information regarding addiction, ADHD, trauma, mind/body, and more.

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There's Hope in the Unknown Dec 21, 2022

This week, I’m sitting down for a Language of Love Session with a listener that’s currently navigating a divorce and feeling like the world before her is pretty unclear. As she fights to trust her own instincts and desires, I offer her some helpful techniques to hold on to her clarity in the face of external pressure and doubt.

Her story is a good reminder that we have to honor our truth in the face of great pain, change, and divine timing. We also discuss the power of therapy and working through childhood trauma in uncovering the possibilities that are available to us after loss.

In this episode, we’re diving into:

The reasons why a marriage ends
Deal breakers in a relationship and unmet expectations
Families of origin and the shadows that follow us into adulthood
Understanding divine timing and living in the present
The importance of inner child work and assessing what our inner child wants
How to claim what you want for your life

Remember, you don’t need a reason to want what you want. You are the author of every chapter of your life, so find your peace, open your imagination, and forge your path!

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Why The Lens You View Life Through is Everything Dec 19, 2022

This Language of Love Bite is all about the lens through which we view our world and our reality! Everyone has a unique perspective on life, but how does yours influence your emotions, your energy, and your state of being?

During this episode, I share some thoughts on how our view of the world and our reality can shape our feelings and perspectives on, well, everything! Beyond this, I offer some tips to reprocess, regulate, and ground yourself when you’re feeling stuck in a certain narrative.

This week, I highlight:

How the lens through which we view the world is unique to us
The impact of preconceived narratives on our relationships
Why we have to avoid spiritual bypassing
Clearing our lens to live in love

We all attract that which matches our frequency, so pay attention to the lens that colors your world. When you clear your lens, you might find that you’re more able to lead with love, and the door to greater joy and positivity in your life opens!

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Reframing Love, Sex, and Potential Partners with Biet Simkin Dec 14, 2022

After our vibrant and memorable introduction at an Association for Transformational Leaders event, I knew I had to have Biet Simkin on the podcast for a Language of Love Conversation. She’s a meditation, breathwork, and spiritual teacher that believes in the power of meditative practices and wrote a book called Don’t Just Sit There! During our chat, Biet shares her unusual upbringing, her journey into music industry and celebrity she found there, her struggle with addiction, and then her return to Fourth Way work.

Biet also unpacks how we can reframe things in the dating world and reframe our understanding of soulmates, falling in love, and what it means to genuinely invest in relationships.

In this episode, Biet and I dive into:

How death presenting itself in early in life changed Burt’s journey and led her to be the spiritual leader she is today
What the “Fourth Way”is, and how you can use it to bring a spiritual perspective into your daily life
How failure can serve us in achieving our true potential
What's really happening when we fall in love
The surprising way that seeing potential your partner as a child can serve us
How to use the power of sex energy
The keys to nurturing a monogamous, long-term relationship

Visit Biet Simkin’s website for more information on her guided meditations and spiritual direction, check out her book, Don’t Just Sit There!, to learn about the power of meditation and breathwork, and follow her on Instagram to stay up-to-date on her practices and events.

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Finding Support and Boundaries in the chaos of cancer Dec 07, 2022

How do we love our partners through some of the scariest seasons of our lives?

In this Language of Love Session, I chat with a listener juggling a newer relationship with a partner that was recently diagnosed with colon cancer. After watching my loved ones walk through cancer and moving through my own cancer journey, I know the ups and downs of this experience well. In this open-ended season of life, we discuss how this listener and their partner can navigate this illness together, how to build a foundation for their relationship through this diagnosis, and how cancer offers us an invitation to grow spiritually and emotionally.

Today, this Language of Love listener and I unravel:

How cancer forces us to grow through intense stress and fear
Embracing the challenge as a couple rather than forgoing all boundaries
How to encourage healthy regulation in yourself and your partner
Accepting your partner’s flaws and missteps
The importance of defining what you will and will not do
How to find clarity in the chaos

The bottom line? Ask for help, and remember that this is not all on you. Your partner is still your partner even though the dynamic is shifting, and support for a caregiver is just as important as support for the individual battling cancer.

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Your Life is a Result of Energetic Frequency Dec 05, 2022

Welcome back to another Language of Love Bite!

This week I’m taking a few minutes to talk about frequencies, manifestations, and how the two are related. We’re all like human tuning forks, which means that sometimes our moods can be brought up or down just by being near others. This experience is very human, but I want to help you learn how to adjust, maintain a higher frequency, and attract abundance with a few of my tried-and-true tips.

In this episode, I’m sharing:

How your frequency and ability to manifest your desires are related
The different levels of frequency and how they relate to your mood and the moods of others
Why holding your own energetic frequency is necessary to reach your desires and manifestations
Tips to raise and maintain your frequency
How to create room for sadness, loss, anger, frustration, etc. and then move beyond

Try out any of my guided meditations to ground your system and regulate your energy, and then check out my book Quantum Love for a deeper dive into this topic.

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The Power of Our Past Lives with Ainslie MacLeod Nov 30, 2022

Have you ever had that inkling that your past life may be affecting your present moment?

During this week’s Language of Love Session, past life psychic, spiritual teacher, and author Ainslie MacLeod and I are unpacking reincarnation and the basics of past lives. We break down the relationship between the body and soul, how learning about our past lives can set us free, and how our past lives impact our ability to love. Ainslie also reveals his journey to this profession, his recent book, The Old Soul’s Guidebook, how he refined his psychic ability, and how he came to know the spiritual guides that instruct him.

In this conversation, Ainslie Macleod and I discuss:

The Basics: What is a past life? What does it mean?
The healing power and purpose that can come with learning about your unique past life
How Ainslie developed his psychic connection in the early days of his profession
The concept of twin flames and how misconception can fortify toxic relationships
The experience of losing my son and how that devastation helped me foster stricter boundaries
The thread between death, grief, teaching, and healing

Visit Ainslie MacLeod’s website to learn more about his psychic journey, services, and recent book, The Old Soul’s Guidebook: Who You Are, Why You’re Here, and How to Navigate Life on Earth.

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Moving Through Grief Nov 23, 2022

In this language of Love Session, I’m talking with a divorced woman named Liz who lost the son she shares with her ex-husband. We talk about the prolonged grief she is experiencing and how it is impacting her current relationship and causing mixed emotions about her ex. While Liz has unique issues in her relationships, the impact of her grief and feeling torn between two people is very relatable to many of my listeners.

In this Language of Love Session, we unpack several of the common challenges Liz is facing, including:

How to avoid getting stuck in the middle of the grieving process, begin to heal and learn to live your life without guilt
How prolonged grief can can calcify and become part of your fiber if ignored
The type of grief therapist I recommend to help move through your pain in a healthy way
How to manage relationships and mixed emotions that may surface in the face of unexpected loss
How to sort out feelings when you feel torn between two lovers, especially when you’re in the middle of healing from a traumatic loss

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Quantum Sex Nov 21, 2022

The number one question I get from couples is: How do we spice up our sex life? So in this episode of Language of Love Bites I’m diving into the secret to creating the intensity and connection we all crave; Quantum Sex. It’s a system I developed to teach couples how to channel their sexual energy and create an even more exciting, intense sex life than they imagined was possible.

In this episode I explain:

How to use your body's energy, your physical sensations, your atomic energy, and your conscious awareness to enhance arousal
The difference between feminine and masculine sexual energy
How to create a deeper heart centered connection with your partners
How to use visualization to channel your sexual energy to your partner
The power of the “Pink Sparkly Vagina” technique

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Never Argue with a Dead Person with Manhattan Medium, Thomas John Nov 16, 2022

As most of you know, I believe we’re all psychic. But in this episode of the Language of Love, I’m talking to a professional psychic medium who has a lot to teach us all!

Known to his fans and celebrity clients as the, ‘Manhattan Medium’, Thomas John and I talk about his new book, Never Argue with a Dead Person: True and Unbelievable Stories from the Other Side. He shares thoughts on whether he thinks people have trouble crossing over to the spiritual side as well as ways being psychic has shaped his life, including:

How his psychic and medium abilities developed
What it was like growing up psychic in a home filled with skeptics
How to choose a medium that’s right for you
Does he believe there are such things as evil spirits?
What role he thinks Covid has played in our spiritual evolution

Thomas John even did a reading on me! He connected with several of my loved ones on the other side, including my sweet son, Sammy. One relative he contacted, and called out by name, left me speechless.

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Little White Lies Nov 09, 2022

Are little white lies in love ok? If your partner omits details or information, is it a warning sign that you should run for the hills? In this Language of Love Session, I’m talking with a listener who has some concerns about lies in love and how to determine if they are deal breakers for your relationship. I also go into how your past plays into the problems you face in your current relationships and how you may unknowingly be contributing to the issue.

In this Session, we talk about:

How to identify whether past wounds are seeping into your current relationship
The importance of setting the stage, identifying boundaries and getting the changes you want to see in your relationship
Recognizing codependent behavior and how to manage it
Identifying how easy you make it (or not) for someone to be honest with you
A 90-Day exercise to reset and prove that you can both change your habits to create healthier communication and a more trusting bond between the two of you

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Genital Self Image Matters Nov 07, 2022

In this Language of Love Bite, I’m talking about female genital self-image. Just like our bodies, women’s vaginas and vulvas come in all different shapes and sizes. And, we get caught up in how we think our vulvas should look based on images we see portraying them.

Did you know that I have researched genital self-image (and published results in a scientific journal)? How you feel about the shape and appearance of your genitals directly affects how willing you are to be sexual with someone! The truth is, your vulva is PERFECT the way it is. I’m truly concerned with how many women feel self-conscious about how their vaginas look and are going under the knife to change the shape, size, and appearance of their genitals, to make them tighter or more desirable.

I’m not telling women they are wrong for wanting these surgeries, but as a medical professional, I want to make sure women understand the risks and complications that can happen as a result of nipping and tucking down there from a physical as well as emotional standpoint.

In this episode I address:

The WHY behind your need to change the appearance of your genitals. Did someone make a comment about it being “too loose” or not attractive that left you feeling self-conscious?
Physical Changes you don’t expect like sensations during sex that may change
The anatomy of your vagina, your vulva, g-spot and how it all really works … and how your vagina can adapt to different size penises.
I also give you exercises to strengthen your vaginal muscles. Which you need to do whether you have surgery or not.

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Finding Your Cup of Happy With Joss Stone Nov 02, 2022

This episode is so meaningful to me! Today I am interviewing Joss Stone, one of my favorite singers and a truly amazing human being. She is such a soulful, thoughtful, and wise woman, and she has so many powerful tips about how we can stay happy even in this crazy world. Joss is best known for her beautiful music but she is a deeply inspiring person who hosts a podcast called “The Cup of Happy,” which is filled with lovely advice about how you can get the most out of your life and create more peace and joy in your daily life.

Today, Joss and I will talk about:

• Her podcast “The Cup of Happy:” What she has learned from leading researchers and philosophers about how to create more peace and happiness in your daily life

• The difference between having fun and being happy

• How she dealt with the loss of her baby and the pain of the miscarriage

• Welcoming her rainbow baby

• How she balances her career goals and creative urges with the day-to-day life of motherhood

• Making decisions that feel right for you while still keeping in mind the needs of other people in your family and on your team

• Creating peace for yourself and leaning into your ‘full body yes’

Give it a listen and let me know what you think! I know you will fall in love with Joss the same way I have.

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How to Save Your Marriage When You Have Outgrown Your Partner Oct 26, 2022

Today on “The Language of Love,” I am sitting down for a ‘Sessions’ episode. This is where I get to sit down and do a real-time session with a caller just like you!

Today I am speaking with a caller who says that she has found that she is growing away from her husband. Although she deeply loves her husband, she is finding that they just aren’t connecting the way they used to. She feels herself being called to a more soulful, meaningful existence, and she is being pulled out of her comfort zone into a place of magical transformation and self-growth. But while this can be a beautiful space of healing and wisdom, it can also be frightening and uncomfortable, especially if your partner isn’t on that same wavelength with you.

My caller says that her husband very much wants things to stay at the ‘status quo.’ He doesn’t want to see their relationship change or his wife grow into new directions. So what do you do when this happens? Can one partner ‘ascend’ to a higher state of consciousness and healing while the other partner stays in their comfort zone and clings to their old ways? How do you keep your marriage tight and intimate when you feel like you and your partner are vibrating at completely wavelengths?

This is a very important episode because this is an issue that is coming up more and more lately among my clients. As I discuss in my new e-book about Ascension, many people are undergoing massive spiritual transformations right now. As a result, their relationships are changing and they are moving away from people and situations that no longer serve them. But if you deeply love your partner and don’t want to lose that relationship, how can you safeguard that bond when you are no longer on the same energetic frequency? Tune in right now to hear my advice!

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You Aren't Crazy You're Just Ascending! Oct 24, 2022

Have you been experiencing mysterious and unexplained physical, mental, and emotional symptoms over the past few years? Have you gone to doctors and specialists who, perhaps along with family and friends, are telling you it’s all in your head? Have you heard of Ascension Syndrome? In this Language of Love Bite, I’m giving you some answers that will help it all make sense. Ascension Syndrome is impacting all of us.

I am so fascinated by Ascension Syndrome and want to help as many people as possible understand what’s happening in the world right now. So, In this Love Bite, I share what I learned through my research for my new eBook, You're Not Crazy, You’re Just Ascending, a guidebook where I share advice from renowned experts, guided meditations, and other tools to help you stay centered in this mass awakening.

In this episode you’ll learn:

-what ascension is, how it’s impacting you and why this is actually a magical time

-why spending time in nature is so beneficial and helps keep your mood and body healthy

- simple ways you can keep your own energetic frequency at a higher level to create more ease in the chaos. .

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Dr. Drew Calls In! Oct 19, 2022

I am so excited about today’s episode of “The Language of Love”! I am sitting down with the one and only Dr. Drew! I have known Dr. Drew for 25 years, and I remember sitting in his audience in “Loveline” way back in the 90’s and just being amazed at how deeply intuitive and wise he was (and still is).

Dr. Drew and I are talking about one of the topics that make me geek out the most: Intuition! Our brains are only able to process a tiny percentage of the information that we are being exposed to at any given moment. Our brains have evolved this way to help ensure our survival: To give us the most pertinent information and filter out everything else. But, here’s the thing: If you are an intuitive person, you likely may sense or feel these ‘hidden’ messages all the time.

It wasn’t until very late in my career that I realized I had these intuitive powers I could use to help really elevate my clients’ healing. I began tapping into all the signals the universe had been sending me my whole life, signals I have learned to ignore or dismiss because they weren’t easily explainable or ‘rational.’ But in learning more about quantum physics, I found that these experiences actually are deeply rooted in science and what we know to be true about the universe. Einstein himself said “The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant.”

On this episode you will learn:

• How to engage in ‘whole-body listening’ and really cue in what is happening around you, even beyond the words you are hearing

• How to start paying attention to your ‘inner perceivers’ and start picking up on more of the information around you

• Ways to use your intuition to improve your love and sex life

Listen to this very special episode and let me know what you think!

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Is Your Partner a Narcissist? Here's What You Need to Do Oct 12, 2022

Today on “The Language of Love,” I am sitting down to talk to a woman who says she is struggling in her long-term marriage. As the mother of 3 young kids, my caller says that she is beginning to examine her past and her current relationship and now realizes that she is co-dependent. As a child, her father was emotionally available and displayed narcissistic behaviour, and her mother always had to keep him happy and calm in order for the house to run smoothly. As a result, my caller also learned to fill this role of being a people-pleaser, always seeking to keep the peace and hide her own needs.

Now, in her marriage, my caller says that she is tired of having her boundaries ignored and her emotional needs go unmet. Although she loves her husband dearly, she feels like she has minimized her own needs and go along with whatever he wants, even if it makes her unhappy. She is stuck in a pattern of placating him and always putting him first when she doesn’t feel that same support from him.

These emotions have come to a head lately as she recently lost her mother and is not feeling supported by her husband in her grief. So what should she do? Is her husband a narcissist and is such a diagnosis even useful?

On this episode I teach listeners:

• How our early family systems shape the roles we take on in life (like being a people-pleaser or hiding our own needs to make other people happy)

• How the universe offers us soul-mates that will encourage us to face these unhealthy patterns

• What to do when you and your partner are stuck in a negative loop of fighting, silent treatments, and unspoken resentments

• Why I think we are all a little narcissistic deep down…and why that is okay

Check out this episode and let me know your thoughts!

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This is the Biggest Lie We All Believe about Men and Sex Oct 10, 2022

I come across a lot of misconceptions about sex and sexual desire in my work as a sex therapist. But perhaps one of the most harmful of them all is about men and sexual desire. Most people believe that men should always be in the mood. We expect men to have much higher desires than women, and that they are always ready and up for sex. This is such a harmful misconception.

It is actually incredibly common for men to struggle with low desire, for many of the same reasons that women struggle with low desire sometimes. Medications can impact desire (like anti-depressants) as can hormones (such as low testosterone). Illness, stress, fatherhood, relationship issues, and financial issues can also wreak havoc on a man’s libido.

Unfortunately, treating male sexual desire can be very complicated. Many men don’t seek help until low desire has been going on for months or even years. They are ashamed to talk to their doctor because we often associate sexual desire with virility and ‘manliness.’ Hence men often feel emasculated if they aren’t in the mood for sex.

In this episode of “The Language of Love,” you will learn:

• The common causes for male sexual desire and why low desire in men may be on the rise in our current economic climate

• What people can do to support their male partner when low desire becomes an issue

• How to talk about male sexual desire in a way that is more compassionate

• Tips and tools for increasing desire that you can start implementing in your bedroom tonight

• How to safeguard your bond when sexual connection is off the table

Listen to the episode and let me know your thoughts! If you are a man struggling with low desire, I am here to say: This is normal and not shameful. You are still a man even if you don’t feel in the mood for sex all the time or if you are currently experiencing low to no desire. But, there are many things you can do to start building up your desire again, and I am here to help!

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Don't Text Your Ex with Nick Viall Oct 05, 2022

Is The Bachelor’s Nick Viall ready to pop the question to his girlfriend of two years, Natalie Joy? Why does he think he was so unlucky in love TWICE on The Bachelorette? And what is his hopeful versus grateful list? I’m covering all of that and more in my heartwarming, inspiring, and really honest Language of Love Conversation with former reality star, Nick Viall.

He is dishing about it all from looking for love in front of the camera – to healing from being cheated on by his ex-fiance. We talk about how, for many years, Nick’s ego and insecurities led to the decisions he made in his relationships and how he learned to recognize when he was fighting for love versus fighting to continue to be in a toxic relationship. We discuss how he learned to put his own ego in check when it comes to dating.

We also talk about Nick’s new book “Don’t Text Your Ex Happy Birthday,” where he shares the best advice he’s picked up in his dating life through the years. And Nick answers whether he thinks you can really be friends with your exes.

In this conversation, we talk a lot about Nick’s new love, what he's learned through that relationship, how it's different from his past relationships, and what the future might hold. He shares how keeping a hopeful vs. grateful list helps remind him of all the wonderful things about his relationship. We also get the skinny on the Bachelor Nation and whether or not it’s realistic to expect an engagement on the show.

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Seeing Beyond 3-D with Lee Harris Sep 28, 2022

I am so excited about this episode of “The Language of Love”! Today I am honored to sit down for an intimate and meaningful chat with Lee Harris. Lee Harris is a transformation teacher and energy intuitive who is known around the globe for his inspirational wisdom. Every time I get the chance to talk with Lee, I walk away with some profound bit of knowledge or awareness that I didn’t even realizing I was looking for.

Today, Lee and I are talking about how we can travel past viewing the world in ‘3D density,’ which might sound like a complicated term, but it simply means that when we are locked into viewing the world in 3D (rather than 4D or 5D), we lose our ability to see beyond our perspective. The world feels tight and constricted. We are operating out of a sense of ego, out of a need to control the decisions and thoughts of other people in order to make ourselves feel safer.

This episode will teach you:

• How to have harmonious and even productive conversations with people who have completely different viewpoints than you

• How to shift out of 3D glasses and to begin viewing the world in a multi-layered, multidimensional way

Harris and I also speak about how grief and trauma can deeply shape us, and how everyone around us has a unique story of loss and pain. Learning about people’s past can be crucial in understanding their core story and how inspirational the lives of ‘ordinary people’ can be.

But it is only by stepping out of our 3D worldview that we can begin to see beyond the superficial and begin to understand the beautiful truths of the universe. Are you ready to get started?

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Tune in and let me know what you think!

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How to Hold Your Own Energy: A Recovering People-Pleaser Calls In Sep 21, 2022

Today on “The Language of Love,” I am doing a ‘Sessions’ episode! This is when I get to sit down with a caller just like you and do an in-depth session with them about anything and everything related to sex, love, soul, and more.

This week, I am talking to Carmen. Carmen is struggling to recover from a lifelong problem with people-pleasing. Carmen has set the intention to live her life differently and stop putting herself on the bottom of her to-do list. The problem now is that when she is with her family, her friends, or her romantic partners, she can slip into her old people-pleasing behavior or worry that she is harming her loved ones by not catering to them enough.

I talk to Carmen about how people-pleasing can lead us to ‘accommodate’ other people’s energies. We instantly switch to their energy frequency because we want to be on the same page as them and because people-pleasers have the instinctive, ingrained need to put their own needs and energies underneath that of everyone else around them. As a recovering people pleaser, she is learning how to ‘hold’ her own energy, which can be a difficult skill to master at first, especially if you have spent your whole life switching to other people’s energy.

So how can you learn to hold your own energy rather than accommodating everyone else’s energy? And what happens when your personal changes lead your loved ones to resist or push back against your transformation? Listen to this episode to hear my advice for Carmen, and for you!

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The Surprising Reason You Can't Let Go Of Your Past Sep 19, 2022

Do you ever feel like you are being haunted by your past? If so, you need to tune into “The Language of Love” to hear how you can heal your wounds so that you can finally let the past go.

We all experienced trauma as children, even if you fortunately didn’t have hugely disturbing experiences like sexual assault, physical abuse, or extreme poverty in your childhood. I call these kind of traumas “Big T” traumas, because they’re easily identifiable to all of us as areas of pain and terror.

However, there are also “little t” traumas, traumas that aren’t as easily identified as wounds. These events might include an overly critical parent, religious fear-mongering, bullying at school, weight struggles, learning difficulties, and sibling rivalry, just to name a few.

All of these experiences impact our self-worth, our beliefs about ourselves, our beliefs about how we should be treated, and about how the world works. They may not feel as worthy of healing and attention as other major wounds like abuse, but this kind of thinking only allows your ‘little t’ traumas to bury deeper into your psyche and bleed into all areas of your life.

That shame and embarrassment you feel about being gentle with your past wounds is in fact PART of your wound talking: If you feel like your pain isn’t serious enough or that you’re being too sensitive or that you don’t have the ‘right’ to feel upset about something that happened 20 years ago, guess what? That’s your core wound talking. Your core wound that tells you that you aren’t strong enough or that your pain isn’t worthy of tenderness or that other people have it worse than you, so you should just ‘get over it’….these are all messages we got from our family systems when our pain triggered them. They weren’t able to address our needs so they shamed us for having them: Now we as adults do the same thing. But we can change the pattern. This isn’t about wallowing in the past, it’s about healing it so we can finally move on.

If you can’t bring attention and tenderness to these parts of you that need healing, you will forever be dominated and controlled by your past. You won’t be able to expertly manifest your dreams and work towards your goals, because your energy is being sapped by these invisible wounds that just won’t heal. Listen to this episode to find out how you can begin to let go of the past right now.

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Embracing the Erotic Creature in You with Sheila Kelley Sep 14, 2022

What does it mean to embrace yourself as an erotic creature? Why is sexual empowerment still such a taboo for so many women? How can you awaken your sensuality, eroticism, and emotions in order to discover who you are and how you approach love – and life?

On this episode of “Language of Love,” I’m joined by body whisperer, speaker, and actress Sheila Kelley, who’s helping women reconnect to their vitality, sensuality, and true selves through an embodiment and movement practice called S Factor.

Started when Sheila realized as a young woman that she had “no idea who she was as a sexually empowered woman,” S Factor helps women heal their body’s relationship with society and celebrates the feminine essence within all of us.

In this episode, you’ll learn about:

The five different feminine powers we all possess
How to discover your unique type
The power of getting out of your head and into your body’s full erotic expression

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Healing Your Deepest Wounds: Why You Can't Let Yourself Be Loved Sep 07, 2022

When we talk about abusive relationships, we tend to focus on physical abuse. That is why leaving a purely emotionally abusive relationship that doesn’t have any physical abuse can be very confusing. If you don’t have a black eye, is it abuse? If he doesn’t push you down or slap you, is it abuse? If she doesn’t throw things at you or put her hands around your throat, is it abuse?

YES. Even if your partner never lays their hands on you, emotional abuse is STILL abuse. Emotional abuse is incredibly damaging and traumatic. Even after you leave the relationship, emotional abuse leaves its mark. It shakes your view of yourself and it threatens your ability to visualize a better future for yourself. It keeps you stuck in a pattern of being wounded and unable to move forward to healing.

Today on “The Language of Love,” I am talking with a woman who bravely left an emotionally abusive relationship. Now, she is looking for ways to heal, but also for ways to co-parent with her ex.

During our discussion, we uncover that my caller routinely finds herself in relationships in which the other partner is the one holding all the cards. She always feels more invested in relationship or as though she is an embarrassment to her partners. She was made to feel demanding or nagging, and as though she has unforgivable flaws that she has to hide or modify if she wants her partner to tolerate her.

I can tell that this is a core wound that is stemming from her childhood, and we peel back the layers of her relationships to find out when these patterns first began in her life. Throughout our discussion, we also talk about how she can heal from her abusive past and effectively co-parent with the ex who tried to destroy her self-worth.

Be sure to tune in to hear my advice, and then share your thoughts with me on social media.

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Are You Settling Instead of Searching for Your Soulmate? Sep 05, 2022

This week on “The Language of Love,” I am doing a “Bite” episode. These are my short and sweet episodes in which I distill my best sex, love, and relationships advice into concise, actionable steps. These episodes are less than 10 minutes long so they are perfect for those times when you are running short on time but still want a boost for your mind, body, and soul.

For today’s “Bite” episode, I am addressing one of the most common questions I get asked as a relationship therapist: How do I know if my partner is ‘the one’?

Many times, people stay with partners that don’t necessarily tick all of their boxes, but being with someone is better than being alone. Does this sound familiar? If you have every stayed in a relationship that is far from ideal just because you would rather be with someone than be alone, then you need to listen to this “Bite.”

On this episode, you will learn how to:

• Find out if your romantic choices are being driven by fear or by a need to find someone to ‘complete’ you

• How to lean into your intuition to see if you are really in love or if you just don’t want to be alone

• Discover your key childhood wounds that might be playing a role in your fear of being alone or not having a partner

• Stand in your own power and feel complete on your own, whether you are with a partner or you are single

Give this “Bite” episode of “The Language of Love” a listen and then reach out to me on social media to let me know your thoughts! Have you ever stayed in an unhappy relationship just because you are afraid of being alone? Do you ever fear that you are settling just so you don’t have to be single? Reach out to me and let me know your thoughts!

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Talking to the Dead wtih Rebecca Rosen Aug 31, 2022

Today, on “The Language of Love,” it’s me and Rebecca Rosen teaming up to talk about people who have passed on…and how we can continue to connect with our loved ones even after they have transitioned out of this realm. Rebecca is an internationally acclaimed medium who has helped countless people communicate with the spirit world and exchange messages with people who are no longer here in physical form.

As soon as one of my friends told me about Rebecca, I instantly knew I needed to connect with her right away. It was as if something just called me to reached out to her right away, and Rebecca had the same experience with me. After seeing me on television one day, she told her husband that she knew I would reach out to her one day…and she was right, I did!

Since we connected, Rebecca has been receiving messages from my son Sammy. Sammy died a little over a year ago, and throughout my grief process, I haven’t been fully ready to connect with him in spiritual form. My pain was so raw and overwhelming, that I wasn’t able to be in a space where I could receive messages from him. But now, I am in a space where I can enter a spiritual relationship with him.

As a medium, Rebecca serves as a neutral conduit that can help people connect to their loved ones who have passed on, and ever since I opened myself up to the possibility of receiving these messages, Rebecca says that Sammy has been a very persistent communicator with her.

On this episode, you will learn how you can open yourself up to these messages from the spiritual realm and why Rebecca says we ALL have the ability to be a medium. So how can you start getting messages from your loved ones who have moved on? And how can we become ‘soul-partners’ with those people we have so deeply loved and tragically lost in this lifetime? Listen to find out…and to hear what Rebecca says that Sammy has been saying to her for the last several weeks.

You can find Rebecca Rosen’s beautiful books such as “What the Dead Have Taught Me About Living Well” and “Awaken the Spirit Within: 10 Steps to Ignite Your Life and Fulfill Your Divine Purpose” on Amazon here.

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Married to a Narcissist: Can You Save a Marriage on the Brink? Aug 24, 2022

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” I am talking with a caller about her struggles with low libido throughout her life. As we discuss her low desire, I uncover what I find to be troubling abuse in her current marriage.

For reasons she didn’t quite understand, my caller never felt deep desire for her husband, even before they got married. She always assumed she just had low desire, or that she might have trouble feeling passion because of the negative messaging she received about sex as a child.

But, over time, she realized it was simply that she didn’t feel desire for her husband in that way. Finally, they made the decision to divorce, and she moved on to a new marriage…this time with her ‘soulmate’ who was her old high school sweetheart.

Although the intimacy and desire are there with her old flame/current husband, the trouble is that her husband becomes quite volatile during arguments. From yelling to name-calling to physical altercations, he is very defensive and easily angered. He lashes out, sometimes pushing her or covering her hand with his mouth. Is this abuse? And what should my caller do to protect herself and save her marriage? And should she try to save her marriage when things are so destructive between them? Listen to this episode to find out and hear my advice.

During these “Sessions” episode of “The Language of Love,” I am able to talk callers just like you about their sex, love, and relationship issues. If you want a chance to talk to me live on-air about your issues, reach out to me on my social media accounts or email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com

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Why You Need to Befriend Your Shadow Side Aug 22, 2022

Today on “The Language of Love,” I am doing a “Bites” episode! These are my quick, informative little episodes that I created for those times when you don’t have time to listen to a whole podcast but you need a little boost and inspiration during your day.

For this “Bite,” I am talking about something that I think is so, so important: Befriending your own shadow. All of us have a shadow. And this shadow doesn’t have to be a negative thing. Our darkness is what can help us to reveal our light. Our wounds can be our way of healing the world.

But if we aren’t aware of our shadows, if we don’t embrace and befriend our shadow sides, guess what happens? That shadow side is what drives the bus. As they say in recovery, ‘our secrets keep us sick,’ but I would take that one step further and say it’s the secrets we keep from ourselves that keep us sick. If there are parts of you that you find shameful or unlovable, and you try to hide them away and ignore them, that only gives them more power. That gives your shadow side an insidious environment of shame and fear in which to grow.

When we befriend our shadow side, we take back some of its power. We put our whole selves back in the driver’s seat, instead of letting fear and shame drive the bus. But, that being said, befriending your shadow side is not just about taking back control. I truly believe our shadows are here to serve us. I know this might be difficult to accept or even consider, but if you look deeply within and ask yourself how that shadow side has served you in your life, you might be shocked to see that there was a true purpose and even a protective energy in this shadow side.

Listen to this “Bite” to get my take on how we can begin to befriend our shadow and why it is so important to do so!

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Human Design with Erin Claire Aug 17, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I am joined by Erin Claire. Erin is a human design expert. Human design is based on your time, date, and place of birth, and it offers you a roadmap and operating model that can help you learn more about yourself and how you can be most effective in love and life.

Unlike astrology, which is predictive, human design isn’t meant to tell you your future. And human design doesn’t just rely on your natal chart. It combines things like your chakras, your energy, and other philosophical and spiritual systems. It’s a very in-depth system and a tool that you can use to help amplify your life.

Using a powerful algorithm, the concept of human design is an incredibly interesting way to get to your where you came from, who you are, and where you are being pulled to. On this episode you will learn:

• What human design is and how it can be relevant or useful to you

• What are the 5 main human design types

• How you can get your own human design reading

• Understanding the meaning of your human design result

• How your human design result will attract certain people into your field

• Discovering your ‘full body yes’ and using your body’s intuition to learn how to prioritize yourself

• Why holding your own boundaries is not just good for you, but good for everyone around you

As you listen to this episode and learn more about the human design types, you are probably going to find out your result right away. Get your free report on the human design website here.

If you have ever wondered about what makes you tick or how your unique energy system can impact your life, this is a must-listen episode.

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How to Heal Your Inner Wounded Child Aug 10, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I am sitting down for a very special Sessions conversation. During Sessions, I get to talk to real listeners just like you and give them personalized, real-time advice to help address all of their questions about sex, love, and relationships.

Today I am speaking with Mary. Mary reached out to me after seeing a post I made on social media about the wounded child that can often lives within many of us. If you have trauma in your past (who doesn’t?) and you haven’t fully addressed and processed that trauma, you might too have an inner wounded child who is crying out for attention and healing.

Mary shares with me some of the things that deeply traumatized her as a child, including how her mother would prioritize men over raising her children. Mary still carries that trauma with her into her own romantic life and beyond. I help her to understand how she can meet her inner wounded child and help that child heal.

If the concept of an inner wounded child sounds familiar, here are some signs that you might have an inner wounded child:

⧿ Fear of abandonment and/or the belief that no one will ever stay with you if they see the ‘real’ you

⧿ Problematic boundaries: You let people walk all over you and reveal all your deepest secrets and vulnerabilities right away…or the flip side, you never truly let people in, even those who have known you for years

⧿ You are ashamed of expressing your own emotions: People with a traumatic or troubled childhood may have learned that it was important to hide their fear or sadness or anger from the adults in their lives, and this behavior can carry on into your own adulthood

⧿ You never trust anyone. You have a subconscious (or conscious) suspicion of everyone, even you: You struggle to trust your own judgement or believe your own recollections of events.

⧿ Conflict avoidant: You run from conflict and bury your head in the sand when people mistreat you or those you love. You want to stand up for yourself but you don’t have the tools or resources to do so.

Listen to this episode and let me know your thoughts!

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How to stop being a 'people pleaser' in the bedroom Aug 08, 2022

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” I am doing a “Bites” episode! These are my short-and-sweet episodes in which I answer listeners’ most pressing questions.

For this “Bite,” I tackle a question from a viewer who wants to know how to deal with people-pleasing in the bedroom. Being a people-pleaser might sound like a good thing, but it is often very self-destructive for the person who is being the pleaser. They often give up their boundaries and their truth in order to satisfy the needs of everyone around them, and as my caller points out, this can even occur inside the bedroom too.

So what happens if you are stuck in people-pleaser mode in the bedroom, or if your partner displays this behavior during intimacy? How can you ensure that BOTH of you are feeling valued and respected, and that each of you are truly enjoying sexual pleasure instead of just going through the motions or faking orgasms?

In my own experience as a sex therapist, I have found that people who struggle with people-pleasing behaviors and codependent behaviors often have a very hard time being honest about how they really feel and what they really want. They are so used to saying “It’s okay” or “I’m fine” that they end up becoming truly isolated from what is happening inside of them. It’s easy to see how truly problematic this can be for sexual pleasure! If you are not comfortable asking for what you want, or if you don’t even know how to tune into your own body and pay attention to what is happening for you (instead of trying to feel how your partner might be feeling or wondering what they might be thinking or needing from you), it’s going to be super hard for you to get to a place where you can have fulfilling, passionate sex.

So what can you do? How can you move on from people-pleasing behavior and become more vulnerable and connected in the bedroom? Tune in right now to listen to my advice for this caller.

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How to Lean Into Your Intuitive Intelligence with Sonia Choquette, and Sonia and Sabrina Tully Aug 03, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I am sitting down with Sonia Choquette. Sonia is a spiritual teacher and visionary guide, as well as the author of multiple New York Times bestsellers. Her latest book “Trust Your Vibes (Revised Edition): Live an Extraordinary Life by Using Your Intuitive Intelligence” is a crash course for anyone who wants to tap into their inner wisdom and call in their higher guides.

Also joining us are Sonia’s two daughters. Like their mother, these women are also highly gifted and talented, and they have also recently written a book together. Called “You Are Amazing,” this self-help book is meant to help readers trust their inner magic and discover their true power.

In this episode, you will learn:

• What is the ‘sixth’ sense and how can we allow ourselves to be spiritually informed, even if we don’t fully trust the whole process

• Understanding ‘intuitive intelligence’ and realizing that the purpose of this intelligence is to help us move forward and advance our gifts

• The different ways we experience intuition and how this can be unique to each person

• Learning to hear and trust your angels and spiritual guides

• How to act on your intuitive guidance in a way that will build confidence and self-worth

If you have ever struggled to trust your own mind or believe in your own truth, this is a very powerful episode that can help you to realize how much intelligence your spirit really has. You have an internal guide inside of you that wants to help you achieve your soul-work, and you have angels and spirits around you that want to connect with you and help you to fulfill your mission here. We just have to get out of our own way and learn how to connect with this intuitive intelligence.

Take a listen and let me know your thoughts!

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Codependency and Narcissism: Breaking the Cycle Jul 27, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I am doing a “Sessions” episode! These are some of my absolutely favorite episodes because I get to sit down with listeners like you and offer my real-time advice on your love, sex, and relationship questions.

For today’s session, I am talking to a caller named Lisa. Lisa is struggling with issues with her partner, who she believes could be a narcissist. Lisa’s partner has kept her trapped in a toxic marriage (over 18 years) in which he has threatened her with financial consequences or alienating their kids if she leaves him. Although Lisa is desperate to leave, she is frightened to exit the relationship.

Lisa is a self-described codependent who has always struggled with expressing her needs and standing up for herself. Although she reports that her childhood was relatively happy, as I explain to her, codependency is not a trait we develop in adulthood. It’s a trait we establish in childhood as a way to survive and cope in our family systems. In discussing her childhood with Lisa, we discover that her mother and father had a similar marriage to the one Lisa now finds herself in. Her mother spent her life serving her father and ensuring that his every need was met, and now Lisa finds herself in a similar situation.

On this “Sessions” episode, I delve into codependency and the fundamental wound which can lead to codependency. I also reveal how codependency and narcissism can be two sides of the same coin. Although this might sound shocking, people who struggle with codependency can often have shades of narcissism, just as people who struggle with narcissism can also have shades of codependency.

Tune into this episode of “The Language of Love” to learn more about what causes codependency and why I feel it is related to narcissism. Check out the advice I have for Lisa about leaving her marriage and healing her fundamental wounds, then shoot me your opinions on social media! I love to hear from you: And, remember, you too can do a “Sessions” episode with me if you email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com or private message me on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram.

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Dating after Divorce: When Should Your New Partner Meet Your Kids? Jul 25, 2022

On today’s “The Language of Love,” we are doing a “Bites” episode! These “Bites” are short, pithy, bite-sized takes that are based on questions listeners like you send into me.

For this episode, I am talking about love after divorce. Dating after divorce can be really tricky, not only because you and your ex might still be raw and dealing with your own complicated feelings, but also because we know that our kids are watching us and being impacted by every decision we make. As parents, our love lives don’t occur in a vacuum. Our kids are being influenced by our romantic choices, and they will use our relationships as a model for their own romantic relationships when they become adults. So, it’s no wonder that so many parents get really stressed about dating after divorce or dating as a single parent in general.

No wonder concerns about dating after divorce are some of the most common questions I get from clients, friends, acquaintances, and more. We all want the best for our children, especially when we are going through something traumatic like divorce. On this episode of “Bites,” you will learn:

• When is the right time to start dating after divorce

• How should you introduce your kids to a new partner

• How can you deal with feelings of jealousy or insecurity when your ex starts dating someone new and bringing them around your kids

• How to co-parent in a conscious, informed way even when going through something as difficult as divorce and shared custody

• Making sure that your new partner is the right fit for your family and a safe person to bring into your family home

The good news is that it is truly possible for you to find love again after divorce, and for your kids’ lives to be positively impacted by you bringing a new partner into your life who is a wonderful role model. Divorce is far from the end of your love life, even if you are a parent. Listen to this “Bites” episode to get all my best advice for dating after divorce!

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Radical Confidence with Lisa Bilyeu Jul 20, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I am joined by Lisa Bilyeu. Lisa is the cofounder of Quest Nutrition, a billion-dollar corporation which produces health-conscious meals and snacks. She is also the President of “Impact Theory” and the host of “Women of Impact,” a web series you can find on YouTube or listen to online. On her show, Lisa interviews women who have overcome massive difficulties and tragedies in order to make their dreams come true.

I adore Lisa’s new book “Radical Confidence,” and I have recommended it to so many of my girlfriends. If you haven’t read it yet, be sure and grab a copy, because it is truly transformative and inspirational. Whether you are struggling to feel confident in your career, in your romantic life, or just in general, her book will inspire you to live authentically and chase after your wildest dreams.

On this episode, I talk with Lisa about what inspired her to write this book and what she wants readers to take from it. You will learn:

• How to overcome disappointment and keep showing up, even when you aren’t seeing the results you desire

• How to stop ‘acting from your trigger’ and instead lead your emotions, rather than being led by them

• How to create a game plan that is practical and solution-based, so that you don’t get stuck in a cloud of anger or bitterness

I found this episode so inspiring and full of really actionable advice that you can begin applying to your life right now. If you’re in the need of a boost of motivation, this episode is for you!

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When You Fear Success: Getting Out Of Your Own Way Jul 13, 2022

It’s time for another one of our ‘sessions’ on “The Language of Love”! On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” I am doing a session with a caller named Martha. Martha shares with me a story that I think will sound very familiar to many of you: Whenever she sets a goal, she has lots of energy and motivation at first, but then she quickly finds herself getting ‘stuck’ and not having anymore forward momentum.

I talk to Martha about how she can un-stuck and achieve her goals, particularly from an energetic standpoint. How can you align your energy so that you are attracting the success and abundance you desire? And why is it that we find ourselves winding up in dead-end situations where we can’t accomplish our dreams no matter how much we try?

In speaking with Martha, I also find that she tends to choose men who don’t support her dreams and actively desire her success. I believe this is one of her primary wounds: Not that she has a fear of failure, but a fear of success!

Does this sound familiar? Tune in and listen to my advice for Martha and join us as I do a grounding exercise that helps her to unlock the secret pain that is keeping her stuck in these dead-end relationships and unable to get her business up and flourishing.

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Sex after Baby: How to Find Your Sexual Pleausre Again After Giving Birth Jul 11, 2022

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” I am doing another “Language of Love Bite.” That means I answer your questions and tackle the most common issues I hear during my work as a sex, love, and relationship expert.

So what’s today’s Language of Love Bite all about? Sex after baby! How can you reclaim your sexual pleasure after you give birth? There are many issues which can arise after giving birth, even if you have a normal and healthy pregnancy and birth. Creating life takes a massive toll on a woman’s body, from her hormones to her sleep to her stress levels. So it is no wonder that many people struggle to find their pleasure again in the bedroom if they have a newborn at home.

This is especially true if you are breastfeeding. While breastfeeding is natural and wonderful, it also can do a number on a woman’s hormones: In order to make breastmilk, women’s bodies essentially have to shut off their estrogen, which can mimic what happens to the female body during menopause. Even if you don’t breastfeed, it can still take a few months for your hormones to return to normal after you welcome a new baby into the world, as new moms have much lower estrogen in the following months after giving birth.

Here is the good news: There are many things you can do to safeguard your sexual pleasure and enhance your intimacy, even if you have a little one at home and even if you’re still breastfeeding. Listen to this Language of Love Bite to get all of my best advice for how new moms and dads can reclaim their sexual pleasure and learn how to enjoy sex again, even when they have a newborn and limited time and energy. Give this episode a listen and then let me know your thoughts!

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Writing Love Letters to the Universe With Sarah D Little Jul 06, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I sit down with Sarah D. Little. Sarah is a dear friend of mine. She is a beautiful, passionate writer who knows firsthand how painful trauma and loss can be. Sarah has an amazing story that I know will inspire and empower all of you.

Sarah has dealt with everything from heartbreak to depression to financial loss to suicide attempts. Sarah shares with me how her love for literature, writing, and the work of authors like Cormac McCarthy helped her to endure even as her life seemingly unraveled. You can watch Sarah’s YouTube channel called Love Letters from Sarah to learn more about her origin story.

Her history is painful, but relatable. From being cheated on by her partner to losing her beautiful home and garden, Sarah has endured so much turmoil and heartbreak, but has come through with her soul and her purpose intact. After losing her relationship and all of those external things which made her feel strong and protected, Sarah had to turn within and find her own power and talent in order to survive.

Sarah is living proof that there is nothing that we cannot live through, nothing that we are not strong enough to endure. And, most importantly, that our pain can often deepen our creative expression and our purpose here. Her story is truly poetically beautiful and inspiring, and I am so honored to have such a strong and powerful friend. She has taught me so much about how to live with appreciation and strength, even when it seems like everything has been taken away from you.

If you have ever struggled with depression, loss, or thoughts of suicide, I urge you to listen to this episode and listen to how Sarah dealt with her pain and not only survived, but thrived.

You can find Sarah's Youtube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC2xtHp-0DTZ2fGFPLa4PswA

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Overgiving and Control Issues: Why People-Pleasing Can Often Stem from A Desire to Hide Ourselves and Fix Other People Jun 29, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I am doing a session with a caller who says she’s afraid of abandonment and builds walls to protect herself. In her friendships and romantic relationships, she has trouble letting people in, and she believes this fear stems from past trauma. However, she is ready for a change: As a lifelong people pleaser who tends to overextend herself, my caller says that she often gives, and gives, and gives, until she gets emotionally exhausted and resentful and chooses to end the relationship.

Does this sound familiar to you? It certainly does to me. As a recovering people pleaser, what I have come to realize is that sometimes we actually are givers because it’s a way for us to maintain control over the relationship. It makes us feel like we have agency and we can protect ourselves, because we think we are choosing to be the bigger person and sacrifice the most in the relationship. But in the end, all our needs go un-met, because we have chosen to never express them.

By not admitting our needs or asking for love, we are protecting ourselves in a little bubble of isolation. We make a conscious choice to be a giver, but in such a way that it also prevents us from being a receiver. Love is supposed to be a two-way street, whether we are talking about platonic or romantic love. When we choose instead to make it a one-way street and not allow ourselves to make space for people to give to us in return, it is often a symptom of past trauma or energetic blockage.

So how can my caller learn to bring down her walls and start allowing herself to receive as much love as she gives? Listen to this episode for my advice to her and then share your thoughts with me on social media!

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How to Get Your Partner to Show Up for You in the Way You Most Desire Jun 27, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” we are doing another episode of “Language of Love Bites.” These extra-special short episodes are meant to be direct, simple, and to the point, so you can easily apply my advice to your love life and start seeing results right away.

For this installment of my “Language of Love Bites,” I am talking about how you can get your partner to show up for you in the way you desire. I often get questions with these theme for my callers and clients, and even strangers on the street. They want to know how they can get their partner to behave differently or show up for them differently than they currently are—maybe they want their partner to be more romantic, to be more passionate, to be more helpful around the house, or to be more patient and joyful.

On this “Bite,” I reveal how you can start to see this shift, not by changing your partner, but by changing yourself. The secret to getting more of what we want from our partner is to bring more of that energy into the relationship ourselves. This might sound complicated or as though I am asking you to do all the work, but I am not: In fact, I am asking you to do LESS work. Because instead of trying to fix, manage, or control your partner’s energy or state of mind, you fully step into your power and instead just focus on your own energy.

Let me explain how to go about this so you can start enjoying this meaningful shift in your relationship right away. Listen to this episode to understand what I mean and how you can master the art of creating the energy you want in your relationship.

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Calling in the One with Katherine Woodward Thomas Jun 22, 2022

I am so honored on this episode of “The Language of Love” that I get to sit down with Katherine Woodward Thomas. Katherine is not just a New York Times bestselling author, master teacher, and a marriage and family therapist: She is also a dear, dear friend and someone I often turn to for advice and support.

If you have ever heard the term ‘conscious uncoupling’ (made popular a few years ago when Gwyneth Paltrow when she divorced her partner Chris Martin), you know Katherine. “Conscious Uncoupling” is one of her most beloved books and truly a game-changer when it comes to how to approach breakups and divorce.

Her latest book “Calling In the One” is a must-read for anyone who is looking for love, or anyone feeling as though they don’t have the passion and romance in their life that they so deeply desire.

On this episode, Katherine and I get a chance to talk about some of my favorite things. Here are some crucial life lessons you will learn in this episode:

• Resigned to Loneliness: Learning how to hold the possibility for love even when you are dating in what feels like a ‘meat market’ and are feeling bitter and hopeless after fruitless online dating

• Overcoming the Four Main Obstacles to Love, including your ‘False Love Identity’

• Healing Your Past Wounds: Finding your ‘source fracture’ story which has lodged into your identity and made you feel unlovable and ‘not good enough

• Feeling it, Not Thinking it: How somatic experiencing can help you ‘feel’ the love you deserve

• Getting Free from the Past: How to recognize and release old stories and wounds

• Becoming Future-Focused: Learning how to lean into your evolution and your possibility for powerful growth

I am so excited for you to tune into this episode. Give it a listen and let me know your thoughts!

One more thing! Are you interested in becoming a love coach and helping others call love into their lives? Or maybe you want to learn for yourself! My dear friend and wonderful teacher and therapist, Katherine Woodward Thomas is inviting us all to a free 90-minute webinar to learn more about calling in the ONE!

https://webinars.kwt.online/lb-coaching-sacred-calling

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The Resurgence of Feminine Energy with Christina Lopes Jun 15, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I sit down with one of favorite people: Christina Lopes. Christina is a former clinician who is now a spiritual teacher and healer. Christina bridges together science and spirituality to help people heal their lives and unlock their true potential.

On this episode, I talk with Christina about how the universe is evolving right now and how our global consciousness is changing. Due to the pandemic and other social and cultural crises happening across the world, many of us are going through what is being called “Ascension,” and if you don’t know what is happening, it can be very overwhelming and confusing.

That is why I am so excited to sit down with Christina and talk about some of these very important things, like:

• Ascension: What is going on in the universe right now and what are the symptoms of “ascension”? How do you know if you are going through ascension and how can you get the most of this experience?

• Synchronicity: Is it is a coincidence or is your soul trying to receive a message from the universe? From feathers to special numbers to patterns, many of us receive messages in the form of synchronicity (even if we don’t realize it!) Christina helps explain what synchronicity is all about and how we can lean into these experiences, even if we don’t fully believe or understand what is happening.

• Entering (and Exiting) the Void: Why do some of us experience a ‘void’ in which we feel like our lives are stagnant and not moving forward, no matter how hard we are trying to create a shift? This stage can sometimes be known as a “Void,” and it can even happen after a spiritual awakening. What is the point of the “Void” stage and how can we learn from it?

• Following Your Joy: Why you should follow your joy, and how you can lean into your intuition and soul’s wisdom when you are faced with challenging decisions. If you lead with joy and what makes your soul happy, you’re going to find abundance that goes far beyond material things (but it can often be quite fruitful on that level as well!).

Listen now to learn more about these topics and so much more!

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All for Love with Matt Kahn: Learning How to Hold Space Jun 08, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I am joined by Matt Kahn. Matt is an empath, speaker, healer, and bestselling author of books like “Whatever Arises, Love That” and “The Universe Always Has a Plan.” I love Matt’s work and I am a HUGE fan of his books. That is why I am so honored and grateful he is sharing his brilliance on “The Language of Love.”

Today, we will learn about:

• Your “Third Eye”: Is there really such a thing as a third eye and what the heck is it?

• Trusting Your Visions: Matt shares his history of connection with the unseen world and how he has received messages from Source. How can you learn to trust messages from your angels or higher beings?

• Channeling Your Intuition: We all have spiritual gifts and we all have the ability to tap into the unseen and receive messages from the beyond. Yet, many of us don’t know how to trust that process or get of our own way. How can you start accessing this power and letting yourself be comfortable with the mystery of the unknown?

• Holding Space: How can you learn to be more compassionate and patient with the people in your life who are acting out or behaving poorly? How can you hold space for another person’s pain while still honoring your own right to be treated well? Matt teaches us how we can stand up for ourselves without getting caught in an argumentative back-and-forth with our loved ones that often goes nowhere.

• The Unconscious Masculine: Why our inner protector can actually block our path of transformation, and how we can switch into the part of our minds that does not speak from pain or fear. Matt illustrates how we can move beyond a predator-prey mindset and stop taking sides and getting stuck in our own narratives.

• How to Access Your Empath Abilities: Matt is a true empath can deeply feel and sense other people’s pain. If you are an empath as well, it’s important to learn how to use your abilities and also how to ground and protect yourself from low vibrational energy that could be destructive.

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Afraid to Be Loved Jun 01, 2022

On this special episode of “The Language of Love,” I am doing what I love the most: Talking directly with listeners just like you about their sex, love, and relationship issues and offering real-time advice to help them learn how to love and be loved better. (And, yes, you too could be selected for these special “Language of Love” sessions…just reach out to me on social media or send me an email to languageoflovepod@gmail.com).

For this episode, I sit down with a woman who is struggling with a fear of abandonment in her romantic relationships. Although she has been divorced for many years, she has struggled to find lasting love in the following years. She recently ended a long-term relationship in which she was left broken-hearted when her partner left her for someone else. This is an ongoing pattern for my caller, and she says that she is constantly in ‘service mode’ with her partners and that she is always trying to get love by giving, giving, giving…but she never is able to receive.

As I explain to this lovely caller, our greatest fears can often become our strongest magnets. Due to the childhood trauma of being abandoned by her biological father, I could instantly see that she was recreating this same trauma again and again by picking partners who would make her feel not good enough and then inevitably leave her, often for another woman.

So how can my caller break this cycle and learn to open her heart to the love she so desperately desires and deserves? Listen to this “Language of Love” session to find out!

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How To Manifest Love May 30, 2022

Manifesting has been a buzz word for decades now. Many people think they know what it means to manifest and how to go about it, but the truth is that you may be going about it all wrong. On this special “Love Bites” episode of “The Language of Love,” I reveal why many people approach manifesting the wrong way, and how to change it. If you're trying to manifest the love life you desire, you need to stop thinking about what you want and instead start thinking about how you want to feel.

Yes, manifesting all comes down to getting aligned with the emotions you want to experience in your love life. Emotions are energy in motion, and the universe is fueled by energy. All of our experiences are created by energy, so if you want to create more passion and romance, you need to get your energy in the right place. But how? Listen to this episode to find out and start manifesting your dream love life now!

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Coming Back to Life with Stephanie Arnold May 25, 2022

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” I sit down with Stephanie Arnold. Stephanie has an incredibly powerful story which she shared in her international bestseller, “37 Seconds: Dying Revealed Heaven’s Help—A Mother’s Journey.”

The title of the book comes from Stephanie’s real-life experience in which she died for 37 seconds. That’s right: She died and came back to life, and what she learned in those 37 seconds is so unforgettably powerful. I am so honored to speak with her today and learn what dying taught her, and I think you will find it to be so uplifting and informative.

You will learn about:

• The truth about your ‘sixth sense’ and how it can save your life

• What scientists, medical experts, and philosophers have learned from studying clinical death (a.k.a. ‘near-death experiences’)

• Stephanie’s premonition that she was going to die, and how she learned to advocate for herself after her fears were not taken seriously by her medical team

• What Stephanie saw and heard when she died

• How you can key into your sixth sense and tap into your divine intuition

Stephanie’s story is so important for all of us to hear, especially those of us who have trusting our own truths and advocating for own safety. Learning how to apply this wisdom may end up literally saving your own life, but also help you learn how to deeply connect with the powerful source within you and make your days more meaningful and magical. Listen now and share your thoughts with me--I love to hear from my listeners!

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Why Orgasm Equality Matters with Dr. Mintz May 18, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I sit down with Dr. Laurie Mintz. Dr. Laurie is a sex therapist and a professor who has written two amazing books about sexual pleasure: “A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex” and “Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How to Get It.”

I was thrilled to sit down with Dr. Laurie because we have a lot in common: Like me, she originally was going to school for psychology, but when she became her studies, she realized that there was a huge lack of focus on sexual pleasure. Also like me, she grew up in a house where sexuality was not a shameful topic or something to be afraid of, and so she was innately comfortable tackling these topics with her clients and being a trailblazer in what was then a very new field.

On this episode of the “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laurie and I will help you discover:

• What Orgasm Equality Means (Hint: It’s the exact opposite of the Orgasm Gap)

• Why Orgasm Equality Can Lead to Gender Equality Outside the Bedroom as Well

• How Women Can Begin to Find their Orgasmic Power

• Why I Believe that We Won’t Have Political Equality for Men and Women Until We Can Have Orgasm Equality in the Bedroom First

If you’re struggling with orgasm or any love, sex, and relationship issues, please reach out to me. I would love to help you begin your journey to feeling more empowered in the bedroom. Send your questions here or reach out to me on social media (Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, or TikTok), or email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com.

You can also leave me a voice message on Speakpipe, or book a private appointment with me at Appointments@LauraBerman.com.

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Size Queens, Faking It, and Fantasies: I Take Your Calls Live! May 11, 2022

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” I am taking YOUR calls and giving love, sex and relationship advice live on the air.

First up, I talk to a caller who wants to know if it is normal for a man to fantasize about other women when he is being intimate with his partner. Is it okay to think about other people during sex or is that a form of betrayal and infidelity? And, if you need to think about someone else during sex in order to achieve orgasm, is that a red flag that you aren’t with the right person or your relationship is stale? Listen to the episode to find out my advice on what to do if your mind wanders during sex.

Next, I talk to a woman who says her husband doesn’t know what he is doing in the bedroom. Although he is a wonderful partner in many ways, he doesn’t have much experience. So, she’s been faking orgasm for years. How do you STOP faking orgasm once you have been doing it for so long, and how can you explain your subterfuge to your partner without hurting their feelings? And, more importantly, how can you teach a man how to pleasure you so that you both get to enjoy sex and have your needs met?

Then, I speak with a man who is worried about the size of his penis and wants to know if there is a safe way to make your penis bigger. After comparing his penis to the penises of men he’s seen in porn, he is wracked with insecurity that he is too small and that he will be rejected if he gets close to a woman. Listen to this episode to find out:

• Does size really matter?

• How can a man with a smaller than average penis be confident in the bedroom?

• And why porn can ruin your perception of actual intimacy

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Cheryl Strayed Talks about Her "Inner Terrible Someone" And Learning to Love Fear May 04, 2022

I am so excited about today’s episode! I finally got to sit down and interview Cheryl Strayed, one of my favorite authors and a true inspiration for so many. Cheryl, of course, is the NYT best-selling author of “Wild,” which was later made into a beautiful Oscar-nominated movie.

Cheryl and I have known each other for years, and I have always been a massive fan of her work. Cheryl has a hilarious anecdote about the first time we met, which you will have to listen to the episode to hear, but let me just say, it ends with Cheryl asking me: “Laura, do I make you sick?”

HA! Not at all, girl.

This led us to talking about your “ITS”! This is Cheryl’s name for your “inner terrible someone,” that voice in your head that always offers up the cruelest self-criticism and narrates the worst possible version of scenarios. Sadly, we all have that “inner terrible someone” who is quick to heap on the shame, doubt, fear and self-loathing that keeps us from accessing our true worthiness and our true mission here.

On this episode you will learn:

• How Cheryl silences her inner critic when she’s writing and creating, and how other creative folks can use her wisdom to welcome their inner critics without fear

• How to access the wise, true, loving voice inside of yourself (yes, I promise, it is there! And it is longing to be heard and listened to by you)

• How we can heal from our negative thoughts while realizing that our “inner terrible someone” can also be a catalyst for growth and curiosity about ourselves

• How you can learn to love fear instead of repelling it, and how our “ITS” are a valuable way to connect with other people

Take a listen to this very special episode and let me know what you think!

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Every Rose Has its Thorn Apr 27, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about one of her favorite topics: How our emotional wounds impact the way we love and receive love in our relationships.

Dr. Berman explains that most of us are carrying “thorns” within our souls from our earliest experiences onward. These include not only our own thorns, but the thorns of unworthiness that our family also passed down to us. Many families carry a legacy of unworthiness that they unintentionally pass down generation to generation.

On this episode you will learn:

• How to identify your thorns and trace their origins

• How to identify common thorns in your family line and connect them back to your present struggles

• How to learn your partner’s thorns and find how your thorns may complement or exacerbate each other’s pain

• How to undo these stories of unworthiness, and how to reclaim our birthright of love and forgiveness.

• How our thorns often give us the greatest possible opportunity for growth and meaning here on this earth

Most importantly, says Dr. Berman, we don’t have to be ashamed of our thorns or wish them away. In fact, our thorns are often the places where we can find the most light and purpose, provided we are willing to excavate those wounds and do the soul-work needed to heal these hurts.

“Healing from these thorny stories will not be simple,” says Dr. Laura Berman. “It is often the work of a lifetime. But, here’s the amazing thing: Our thorns can often end up being our secret superpower.”

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Talking Masculinity with Justin Baldoni Apr 20, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down for an intimate talk with Justin Baldoni, best known for his role as Rafael Solano on “Jane the Virgin.” Baldoni is also a director (“Five Feet Apart” and “Clouds”) and a podcaster (listen to “The Man Enough” podcast here).

Solano is also the author of “Man Enough: Undefining My Masculinity,” an engaging and daring exploration into what it means to be a ‘man’ in today’s society, and how we are failing boys and men in many ways.

On this episode, you will learn:

• Why the term ‘toxic masculinity’ can be harmful

• How the definition of manhood has shifted in the last few decades, leaving many men struggling to find role models or clear examples of the kind of man they want to be

• How dangerous gender roles can be when it comes to young boys who are encouraged to never cry or ask for help

• How we can create gender equality without demonizing men or masculinity

• How you can find your own definition for masculinity

• Why women seem to be attracted to a certain type of masculinity, and how we can reconfigure our desires so that we don’t always go for the ‘bad boys’

Check out Justin Baldoni’s Man Enough book here, and keep an eye out for his new guide for middle-schoolers which will be published soon!

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Romance In a Post-Covid World Apr 13, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about how Covid has changed the way we date and the way we connect the people around us. Now that Covid sanctions are lifting in many places and we are almost entering a ‘post-pandemic’ lifestyle, Dr. Berman has great advice for anyone looking to heal and to find love after a long, lonely 2 years of isolation.

On this episode you will learn:

• How the pandemic has changed us on a deep level, even if we are not fully aware of it

• How the hidden blessing of the pandemic was that it led people to find what wasn’t working in their life (whether it was their job, their marriage, etc.) and led them to branch out in new and exciting ways

• How many people are dealing with emotional and physical changes related to the pandemic, and how we can lean into that discomfort and learn from our experiences

• How the pandemic also led many of us to fear human touch and companionship, leaving many people “touch-starved” and longing for cuddling and affection

• How you date again in a post-Covid world without forgetting all the important lessons you learned during the pandemic

Listen now for Dr. Berman’s timely advice about love in the time of Covid.

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Learning Radical Self- Acceptance with Tara Brach Apr 06, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with psychologist and bestselling author Tara Brach. Brach is an incredible thought-leader in the field of radical self-acceptance, emotional healing, and Buddhist mediation.

During their special talk, Brach explains to listeners how you can deepen your practice of self-love and self-acceptance so that you aren’t just working around the edges of unconditional love and surrender, but that you are living and nurturing that state of mind on a moment-by-moment basis.

After you have listened to this episode, you will know how to:

• Embark on a journey of self-love that goes so much deeper than our culture’s current understanding of self-care and self-esteem

• Begin a meditation practice that will be accessible, enjoyable, and a natural part of your daily life

• Identify unhealthy thought patterns that undermine your ability to wholly love yourself and accept your whole being

• Heal and release toxic family programming that is keeping you from accessing your real power

If you liked this episode, you can check out Tara Brach’s books Radical Self-Acceptance, Radical Compassion, and Trusting the Gold: Uncovering Your Natural Goodness to help you as you continue your journey of loving and healing yourself.

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The Truth About Triggers Mar 30, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about triggers. You’ve probably heard the words “triggered” or “trigger warning” a lot in recent years. And, for good reason: As a nation we are becoming more aware of mental health battles and the importance of being compassionate and supportive when it comes to people’s ‘triggers,’ i.e. those hidden trauma wounds that can be opened up by certain conversations or experiences.

But in this episode, Dr. Berman challenges everything you *think* you know about triggers. She will teach listeners:

• The difference between being triggered and simply being irritated or upset.

• The value of paying attention to our triggers. While we have a knee-jerk reaction to run away from pain or discomfort, Dr. Berman says that our triggers often hold our deepest opportunities for growth and healing.

• Realizing that we sometimes use “triggers” as an excuse to avoid difficult conversations or moving out of our comfort zones.

• How we can learn our partner’s triggers and navigate those tricky waters as we support them without forcing them to accept help or healing before they are ready.

Make sure to tune into this timely episode so you can learn the truth about triggers and how you can better control as well as learn from your ‘trigger’ points.

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How to Heal Your Heart with Katie and Gay Hendricks Mar 23, 2022

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with Katie and Gay Hendricks. This husband-and-wife duo have transformed the lives of thousands of people with their iconic self-help books, including their New York Times bestseller “Conscious Loving: The Journey to Co-Commitment.”

In this episode you will learn:

• How to identify and break negative thought patterns that are keeping you from finding love

• How to find healing and purpose even when the world feels chaotic and dangerous

• How to communicate with your partner in a way that resolves fights rather than amplifies them

• How you can influence your partner’s behavior with nothing more than your own energy

Listen now to hear this inspiring interview with self-help gurus Katie and Gay Hendricks!

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This Common Self-Esteem Issue Can Ruin Your Sex Life Mar 16, 2022

Have you ever thought about how your body image might be impacting your sex life? Most people don’t realize that the thoughts we have about our bodies can actually inhibit or even prevent us from being able to enjoy sex or reach orgasm.

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman connects the dots between body image and sex, explaining why the pressures of our current society have complicated sexual pleasure for the average person.

After listening to this episode, you will know:

• How porn has warped our ideas of how naked bodies should look

• How negative beliefs about our bodies and genitalia can poison our pleasure in the bedroom

• That even men can greatly suffer from poor body image, especially when it comes to the size of their penis or how long they can last in the bedroom

• How to begin to release your negative self-talk and create an environment of a compassion and self-love in the bedroom

• How studies have shown that our feelings about our genitals and sexual pleasure can prevent women from reaching orgasm

Sexual pleasure often starts in the mind, so if you want to amplify your intimacy, we often need to begin by addressing our expectations and beliefs about ourselves.

To talk to Dr. Laura Berman about your sex, love, or body image issues, contact her on social media or send her an email at languageoflovepod@gmail.com

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Maria Menounos and the Caregiving Crisis Mar 09, 2022

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” media mogul and television star Maria Menounos joins Dr. Laura Berman for an intimate talk about healing, transformation, and whole-body health.

Menounos is a cancer survivor who battled brain cancer alongside her mother. She shares how her mother’s brain cancer deeply impacted her life, and how the diagnosis completely shifted her focus and changed her career.

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” you will learn:

• How caregiving can be depleting and demanding, and how you can lose yourself entirely as you devote yourself to caring for your sick loved one

• How women, in particular, can lose their passion, their wellness, and their power as they selflessly care for both their aging parents and their young children

• How caregivers often forgo their own medical appointments and their own health because caregiving take everything out of you

• How the Covid-19 crisis left so many people struggling to care for their sick loved ones without any support or assistance for themselves

• How you can recapture your lost identity and find space for joy, peace, and even sex even during times when you are holding the weight of the world on your shoulder

• How grief can come in waves and leave you feeling guilty, or lost, or even empty after your caregiving role has been taken away and your loved one is gone

• How you can look to the universe for support and resources even when you’re at your lowest

• How you can lose your faith and struggle to feel your loved one after they are gone

This episode will teach you how to find light even in your darkest moments and begin to build joy and magic and passion in your life. Listen now!

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How to Get Over Your Ex Mar 02, 2022

Heartbreak is often an unavoidable part of dating and falling in love. Even the strongest relationships will sometimes falter and fail, leaving us broken-hearted and wondering how we can ever get over the pain and move on.

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman will teach you how to get over a breakup the RIGHT way, so that you can gain wisdom from the experience and move forward to new relationships without bringing baggage or having the same issues in the future:

• Learn how long you should wait after a breakup before you start dating again

• Find out why ‘sex with the ex’ can be so traumatic for you on a emotional and energetic level

• Discover how to energetically ‘release’ your ex so that you don’t feel as entwined with them

• Examine your role in the relationship’s breakup

• Find out why you may have a pattern of picking partners who routinely let you down

Often our romantic partners trigger our most deep-seated wounds, and when we break up, these wounds can feel very raw and overwhelming. In this episode, Dr. Berman will teach you how to honor that pain and grieve the relationship, WITHOUT clinging to the past and getting stuck in the ‘What if’s’?

If you have any questions for Dr. Laura Berman about love, sex, or life, reach out to her on her social media pages or send a email to languageoflovepod@gmail.com

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Beyond Sorrow: Nick Cannon Speaks about Life after His Son's Death Feb 23, 2022

It’s time for Part 2 of Dr. Berman’s intimate chat with television superstar Nick Cannon. On Part 1 of this special interview, Dr. Berman and Nick talked about everything from monogamy to sex toys to how Nick’s fear of germs keeps him going back to his baby mamas instead of finding new partners.

But, on this second installment, Nick and Dr. Berman tackle something much deeper and darker: The loss of Nick’s infant son, Zen, and how he is coping with that grief. Zen died of a brain tumor in December 2021 when he was just five months old. Since then, Nick has grappled with every parent’s worst nightmare: Losing a child. It’s a nightmare Dr. Berman knows well, as she also lost her son in 2021.

On this episode you will learn:

• How Nick and Zen’s mother have celebrated their son’s short life

• How you can stay connected to lost loved ones even after they are gone

• How you can present with grief without being overwhelmed by the waves of sadness and anger

• Why grief is such an important process that has so much to teach us about love and life

• How you can become better resourced to deal with your own grief

You can always reach out to Dr. Laura Berman on her social media pages or by emailing languageoflovepod@gmail.com with any questions or comments.

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Nick Cannon Opens Up About His Love Life Feb 16, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with television personality Nick Cannon. As you may know, Dr. Berman has appeared on “The Nick Cannon Show” multiple times, both to help him recover from the grief of losing his infant son, as well as to help him explore the idea of temporary celibacy. Nick’s love life has been very complicated as he has multiple on-and-off relationships with the mothers of his children, and he comes to Dr. Berman seeking some clarity and direction around his romantic future.

Nick has fathered 7 kids with four different women, and now he is expecting his 8th child with former Wild ‘N Out colleague Bre Tiesi. While many have been critical of Nick’s decisions, he has made the intentional choice to be more conscious about his love life and the choices he makes when it comes to sex. There’s just one problem: Due to his fears about STIs and unsafe sex, he prefers to be intimate with the women he knows and trusts (the mothers of his children), but this inevitably leads to jealousy and anger.

“I just don’t feel like monogamy is healthy,” Nick confesses. “I feel like that gets into the states of selfishness and ownership.”

Nick says that in all of his relationships, he expects that the woman will eventually get tired of his ‘sh*#” and leave him, which Dr. Berman encourages him to explore. Could it be that his fear of being left or discarded is contributing to his fear of monogamy and true, lasting commitment?

“I am the guy that your mom warned you about,” he admits. “I am a better friend and companion, then I am boyfriend, relationship, husband, all of those things.”

In the end, Nick says his ultimate goal is to the best father he can be, and to continue maturing and learning on his journey though love and life.

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How to Turn Up the Heat this Valentine's Day...Even if You're Single! Feb 09, 2022

Love is in the air! Whether you are single or coupled up, Valentine’s Day offer us a special opportunity to pause and celebrate love, romance, and passion. On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman will teach you how you can make this V-Day your most memorable yet, even if you normally approach the day with dread.

On this episode you will discover:

• Why Valentine’s Day is so much more than just a “Hallmark holiday”

• What gift(s) your partner REALLY wants for Valentine’s Day – surprise, it’s not necessarily jewelry or lingerie!

• The best date night ideas for V-day that are affordable and approachable for couples of all budgets

• How you can use Feb. 14 as an invitation from the universe to deepen your bond with your partner

• How to celebrate YOURSELF this Valentine’s Day, whether you are single or with a partner

Listen in to this special Valentine’s Day episode and get ready to make this Feb. 14 as passionate and magical as you desire.

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Having Sex After Baby: Yes, Birth PTSD is Real! Feb 02, 2022

"On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about Birth PTSD. This is a rarely discussed topic that impacts men and women alike.

“Going through labor and delivery is a massive experience that can take a physical, emotional, and spiritual toll,” says Dr. Berman. “Even if you had a ‘normal’ birth (using the word normal loosely, as all births are different and special in their own way), you might find that you are having a hard time getting back into sex. Once the doctor gives you the green light to have sex again, you might find that one or both of you are having a hard time getting back to your old sex life.”

That’s because, says Dr. Berman, your sex life likely won’t ever be exactly the same…and that’s okay.

“Sex after childbirth is different, and that doesn’t have to be a bad thing at all. On the contrary, many parents can find that their sex lives will deepen and improve over the years, but often times there is also a period of adjustment where one or both of you may struggle to get back into the saddle,” says Dr. Berman. “Men are often nervous or even frightened to have sex with their partners after they have given birth, especially if they witnessed their partner giving birth. They may be afraid of hurting their partner, and they may even fear that they won’t be able to satisfy her.”

Dr. Berman also says that new moms often struggle with feelings of discomfort or shame around their bodies after childbirth, especially if they had a difficult labor.

“If you didn’t feel respected or safe during labor, or you felt as though you ‘failed’ in some way to deliver in the manner in which you hoped, you might no longer trust your body as you once did,” says Dr. Berman. “You might have feelings of resentment or anger about the way your birth was handled and you might be afraid to feel vulnerable or exposed after that experience.”

Dr. Berman talks about therapy can help to heal trauma and what couples should do if they are struggling from birth PTSD.

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Healing through Yoga with Paul Denniston Jan 26, 2022

On this very special episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with her friend and yoga expert, Paul Denniston. Author of the groundbreaking book “Healing through Yoga,” Denniston has personally helped Dr. Berman through the grief of her son’s death and showed her ways that yoga can help us to channel, heal, and process our deepest wounds.

Denniston is the founder of Grief Yoga and has built his practice around the five fundamental keys of healing: Awareness, Expression, Connection, Surrender, and Evolution. With each of these stages, yoga positions and meditations can help you to further your spiritual practice and unblock energy channels so that you can live your most fulfilling, love-filled existence.

In this episode, Denniston and Dr. Berman also talk about how anger can actually be one of our greatest teachers, and how tapping into our anger in a healthy way can help to free us from unwanted experiences and negative thought patterns. While we often run away from anger or try to deny its existence, Denniston and Dr. Berman both share how the expression of anger can be revolutionary for both personal and collective healing.

“We all need to share our stories. Being heard is one of the most fundamental needs of human beings,” says Dr. Berman. “And that includes anger. Grief can bring up so much anger, and I have times where I just need to beat a cushion with a bat, or scream into a pillow, and paint angrily until I can move that emotion through me. We need to honor our anger and give it freedom to move and be expressed.”

In his book, Denniston shares over 75 meditations and yoga positions that can help even beginner yogis tap into the connection between the body and the spirit. With yoga, we can train our bodies to be more resilient, more present, and more able to withstand the ebbs and flows of life.

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How to Increase Desire in the Bedroom Jan 19, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” sex therapist Dr. Laura Berman talks about the trouble with mismatched libidos and why so many couples struggle to establish complementary sex drives.

“One of the most common issues my clients have is that one partner wants more sex than the other,” says Dr. Berman. “Generally, this is an issue that presents early on in a relationship, but over time the issue grows and grows…as does the resentment.”

Dr. Berman explains that mismatched libidos can often trigger a vicious cycle, a cycle which couples may not even be aware of or realizing that they are perpetuating.

“Here is what often happens: The partner who keeps getting turned down for sex becomes resentful and insecure. They start to pull away, sometimes intentionally, sometimes unconsciously. The pet names and romance and affection start to disappear. As these things fall by the wayside, the sex drive only continues to plummet and both partners grow apart bit by bit. This is why mismatched libidos can end up derailing your entire marriage, if the issue is left untreated.”

So what can couples do?

In this episode, Dr. Berman explains how you can naturally increase your libido, such as by doing something dangerous together.

“If you go on a roller coaster, or go skydiving, or even just watch a scary movie together, it can increase adrenaline and dopamine which will mimic that excitement you first felt for each other when you began dating,” says Dr. Berman.

Dr. Berman also discusses how couples can start to find moments for spontaneity and create more eroticism and novelty in the bedroom.

“You can have the sex life of your dreams,” says Dr. Berman. “But you’re the one responsible for making that happen. It won’t just occur overnight, and you have to be willing to get of your comfort zone and really challenge yourself to take ownership of your sexuality.”

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The Truth about Manifesting Your Desires: A Conversation with Maureen Riley Jan 12, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with intuitive consultant, life coach, and mindfulness-based psychotherapist Maureen Riley. Dr. Berman has been a longtime client of Maureen Riley, and she reveals that Riley’s wisdom and intuition has helped her deeply.

Riley is committed to teaching people how to unlock their own potential and get out of their own way. If you’re starting 2022 with a list of daring resolutions and hopes for the New Year, this is a must-listen episode that will teach you what you need to know in order to make your resolutions a reality.

“Imagine being able track back to the hidden source of what’s blocking you while you simultaneously access the power within that unlocks, opens and shifts you into a new reality- one that’s aligned with your Wholeness, well Being, and Source of inner guidance,” Riley states. “Once activated, this energy and intelligence can repair your health, put your life into alignment with your true purpose and then, by sacred law, activates your personal stream of abundance. Imagine having what it REALLY takes to re-ignite and flourish, trusting yourself and life again.”

On this episode, Riley explains what manifesting really is, and challenges some of the misconceptions people may have about manifesting and how to apply it your own life.

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Here's What Your Partner Really Wishes You Would Do in the Bedroom Jan 05, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about what men and women really want in the bedroom. Do men and women really have such vastly different needs and desires in the bedroom? Is it true that men have much higher libidos than women, or that women can’t have sex without getting emotionally attached?

Dr. Berman gets real about these intimacy questions and more, first explaining what truly makes a person desirable in the bedroom. And believe it or not, it has nothing to do with how big your breasts are or how long you can last during sex.

“Think back to the best sex you’ve ever had,” says Dr. Berman. “The sex that made you feel the most turned on, desired, and powerfully connected to your partner. What made that sex so amazing? It probably had nothing to do with your partner’s penis size or whether or not they had a 6-pack or double D cups. It was probably about the emotional connection and the excitement you felt at being seen and loved and treasured for exactly who you are, and being able to give that same unconditional love back to your partner in return.”

So knowing that passionate sex is more than skin deep, how can you apply this wisdom to your sex life right now to make yourself an even better sex partner?

“Don’t assume that your partner wants what you want,” says Dr. Berman. “Be willing to stay open and curious about what things might make your partner feel desired and turned on. Ask questions. Pay attention. Don’t make it all about your assumptions or what your past partners might have liked. And, even if you have been with your partner for a long time, their tastes or desires might have changed. Sex needs to be ongoing conversation we are having if we want to ensure that both partners are getting their needs met.”

Listen to this episode to learn more about how you can become a better partner in the bedroom.

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After Death: How to Connect With Our Lost Loved Ones with Susan Grau Dec 29, 2021

On this very special episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with Susan Grau. Have you ever wondered it means to be a medium, or have you ever felt as though you have a ‘sixth sense’ or an ability to see or feel people who are no longer here? Then this episode is for you:

Susan Grau is an Internationally recognized Intuitive Medium, Life Path Intuitive, Life Coach, & Hypnotherapist / Past Life Regressionist. Susan is known for bringing her genuine, benevolent, and down-to-earth style to her clients and sessions. Susan works with the spirit world using her “Clair Senses” as a means to communicate with your loved ones. She has been offering her professional and spiritual services to the public for over three decades.

“You are made of light. You are good, kind, and filled with the spiritual beauty of the afterlife. Never forget where you came from. Never allow anyone to make you feel less than what you are. Always know your value. You are from the light,” says Susan.

On this episode, Dr. Berman talks with Susan about the near-death experience she had when she was 4 years old. Susan says she didn’t see bright lights or the traditional light at the end of the tunnel, but she had an incredible experience in the afterlife that she shares with Dr. Berman in this thrilling episode.

Dr. Berman also shares how she has been able to connect with her son Sammy and her mother after their deaths, and how she uses her deep pain as a gateway to creating these incredible channels of connection.

If you have ever wondered about the afterlife or how to cope with grief or the loss of your loved ones, this is an episode that will bring you enlightenment and comfort.

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Stop Making this Mistake in the Bedroom Dec 22, 2021

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about the most common mistakes that people make in the bedroom. How can you create passion and meaningful sexual intimacy even when you have been together for years? How can you make sex special on a regular weeknight when the kids are down the hall and there are still dirty dishes in the sink?

From understanding the different ways that men and women approach sexual pleasure to getting in touch with what you really want in the bedroom, Dr. Berman explains that the most fulfilling and passionate sex is often born out of self-knowledge and a willing to go beyond the surface.

“When we think of exciting sexual encounters or passionate hookups, we tend to imagine a very Hollywood image of what that kind of sex looks like. We picture a couple stumbling home from their date night or a night out at the bar, pulling each other’s clothes off as they trip down the hallway and then land in bed together. The sex feels very spontaneous and unplanned,” says Dr. Berman.

“But what I have found throughout my years as a sex therapist is that the best sex really happens when couples consciously do the work necessary to make uninhibited, whole-hearted sex possible. It’s not about a drunken hookup where you’re struggling to pull off each other’s close as fast as possible. It’s about slowing down, feeling what’s really happening inside, and knowing that you are safe enough and loved enough to show your whole self.”

Dr. Berman explains that this type of sex is also so special because it requires no preparation or extra window dressing.

“You don’t need the lingerie or the date nights or the candles,” says Dr. Berman. “Those things are wonderful and special, but if you’re having conscious, whole-hearted, enlightened sex, or some form of conscious physical connection (even if it’s just for 10 minutes), that means more than a whole night of bells and whistles without any emotional depth or real intimacy.”

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A Conversation about Love, Divinity, and Meaning with Neal Allen and Anne Lamott Dec 15, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down for an intimate conversation with husband Neal Allen. Neal Allen is a coach and writer who studies and practices traditional and contemporary spiritual paths. His book “Shapes of Truth: Discover God Inside You,” is one of Dr. Berman’s favorite new books and she is eager to share how you can apply the deep wisdom within this book to your life.

Neal Allen will help listeners discover how to find the divinity within, including what divinity means and how even a non-believer can connect with a deeper meaning and purpose. Allen explains how his time at the Hameed Ali's Diamond Heart group helped to awake him to the false stories about himself and his reality that he had been stuck in, and how he was able to ‘burn down his house’ discover how to see the many colors of divinity within them.

“There are 35 colors that you can find within yourself,” says Allen. “And each of them has to do a way in which you are divine.”

Allen explains what these colors mean and how you can learn to find your colors in yourself and in others.

During the episode, Dr. Berman also gets a chance to speak with Neal Allen’s wife Anne Lamott. Anne Lamott is the New York Times bestselling author of “Bird by Bird,” “Help, Thanks, Wow,” and “Stiches.” She is also a public speaker and writing teacher, and one of Dr. Berman’s favorite writers.

Lamott talks to Dr. Berman about dating when you’re middle-aged, and how one should approach the process of looking for love. How do you know when he’s “the one” or when he just ticks most of your boxes?

“Hold out for the person you would want to be best friends with, even if they aren’t going to your romantic partner,” says Lamott.

You can find Neal Allen’s “Shapes of Truth: Finding the Divinity Within” on Amazon.

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How to Have More (and Better) Orgasms Dec 08, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman discusses one of the most common issues she sees in her sex therapy practice: Mismatched libidos.

“Whenever one partner has more desire than the other partner, you’re looking at a powder keg,” says Dr. Berman. “It may not seem so at first. But as one partner keeps saying ‘no’ and the other partner keeps dealing with that rejection, over time it can really become an explosive situation.”

Dr. Berman says one of the main reasons mismatched libido can lead to divorce is because lack of sex often leads to lack of physical intimacy and then lack of emotional intimacy as well.

“When sex falls by the wayside, what often happens is that cuddling, kissing, hand-holding, and snuggling often go away too,” says Dr. Berman. “A woman may reject being cuddled or getting massaged because she fears it is going to lead to sex, and if she’s not in the mood, she may just want to shut down any physical intimacy altogether.”

Dr. Berman says that when cuddling and physical touch disappear, then romance tends to follow suit.

“Then, the pet names disappear and the little signs of affection, like bringing home flowers or going on date nights or making her a special dinner just to surprise her,” says Dr. Berman. “His needs are getting met in the bedroom so he can’t meet her needs outside the bedroom. It becomes a vicious circle.”

Dr. Berman says it’s not just women who suffer from low libido, but men as well.

“When men have low desire, it presents differently from women,” says the sex therapist. “Oftentimes, stress or shame or fear of performance issues can lead a man to avoid sex. If he is struggling with erectile dysfunction, he may try to avoid sex because it is humiliating for him. Or if he is out of work or not able to provide for his family, I find that this kind of stress also leads men to shut down in the bedroom. When men feel stressed or emasculated, they often cope by turning to porn and masturbation instead of wanting to connect with their actual partner in the bedroom.”

So what can couples do to address mismatched libidos and ensure that both sex and romance stay alive in their relationship? Listen to this very important episode of “The Language of Love” to find out!

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Loving Consciously with Lee Harris Part 2 Dec 01, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman continues her conversation with the transformative author and energy guide, Lee Harris. (See the previous episode for Part One of her interview with Harris).

In this episode, Dr. Berman and Harris talk about how you can heal from a breakup and find self-care. What does self-care really mean? Is it about splurging on a massage or taking a hot bath with expensive bath bombs? Or is there more to self-care than meets the eye? Harris and Dr. Berman look beyond the commodification of self-care and our current understanding of how self-care often means external things (like shopping or going on vacation), and how self-care can actually be much deeper than that.

Harris suggests spending 10 minutes a day with yourself, and how this simple, easily applied practice can totally overhaul you whole day and our whole mood. The truest form of self-care is about being with yourself, honoring yourself with your whole awareness and consciousness. And then without judgment or condemnation or allowing anyone else’s needs or desires overtake you, you sit for that 10 minutes and honor what is happening right now inside of you. It’s a small but powerfully significant way to change your life.

“If you are trying to recover from something or replenish yourself, place a hand on your heart and say to yourself, “I give myself my own love.” It is a powerful statement. I give myself my own love. Some of you will feel it going through the hand back into the heart recycling what it is you send out. A lot of love escapes your body from this point, so send it back in. The heart is a magnet when it is full,” writes Harris.

Later in the episode, Harris and Dr. Berman talk about how our challenges and setbacks actually hide our most important invitations from the universe, and how our darkest times can offer us the chance for finding the true light within.

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Listening to Your Spirit Guides with Lee Harris Part 1 Nov 24, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with energy expert and transformation guide Lee Harris. Harris is the author of “Energy Speaks: Messages from Spirit on Living, Loving, and Awakening,” and on today’s episode, he talks about how we can get in tune with our energy and help use our consciousness not only to heal ourselves but to heal the world.

Harris explains to Dr. Berman how we can better raise boys and help them to get in touch with their emotions. Since our society encourages men to be stoic and never cry or show weakness, many boys grow up being unable to cope with or even identify their emotions.

On this episode, Harris shares his important insights on raising emotionally healthy boys, but also emotionally healthy kids in general. How can you better tap into your child’s emotions? How can you parent in a conscious, vulnerable way? These questions are so complex, but the answers are already within us, if we can just let our egos and expectations get out of the way our intuition and our inner wisdom.

When we connect to the source of unconditional love and our true power, we can parent in a way that allows our children to break free from painful family patterns, even those that may have existed in our family legacy for generations.

“The heartbreak of this planet is healing. It may not seem so, but it is. Heartbreak is healing on a planetary level. That is why hearts are breaking. So, lead with your hearts both for yourself and for others,” says Harris. “Where you share your love with others, you lead with your hearts. None of you acknowledge yourselves enough for this. And where you lead with your hearts, you the lead the way for others to open their hearts.”

Don’t miss this insightful episode!

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What Men Want in the Bedroom (And What They Don't) Nov 17, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about what men really want in the bedroom, and why men seem to have higher desire than women when it comes to intimacy.

Dr. Berman reveals that the most common issue that she sees in her clients is the fact that men want more sex than their partners, and how those mismatched libidos can wreak havoc on your relationship. When sex falls by the wayside, it can lead to less affection, less physical touch, and less romance in general. When a woman doesn’t want sex, she may brush off her partner if he tries to cuddle her or kiss her, because she thinks “Oh no, he is just going to want sex, and I don’t even want to go there right now.” Or maybe she even feels guilty accepting affectionate touch since she isn’t ‘keeping up her end of the bargain’ and being the passionate, hands-on partner that she knows her partner wants her to be.

Yet the more these things disappear (the cuddling, the hand-holding, the pet names, the snuggling under the sheets) in a relationship, the more her desire will continue to plummet as well because she needs these forms of affection to help fuel her libido. So, it becomes a vicious cycle in which less sex means less romance, and less romance means less sex, and in the end, both partners end up feeling very isolated and disconnected.

Dr. Berman’s advice for couples is simple: Start by being honest about the fact that you each have different levels of desire, but make room for the possibility that this can change in the future. Every sex life has ebbs and flows, so even if you are not currently where you want to be in the bedroom, make room for the possibility that this can change and that you and your partner have the power to create the passion, fulfilling sex lives you both desire and deserve. Listen to today’s episode of “The Language of Love” to hear Dr. Berman’s best sex tips for couples struggling with mismatched libidos.

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Embracing Your Wild: Janne Robinson and the Secrets to a Liberated Life Nov 10, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with Janne Robinson, a feminist beat poet, speaker, and visionary. The two women talk about life, love, trauma, open-heartedness, and finding ‘the one.’

How do you know when you have found your forever soulmate? And how do you know when you have found someone who is just here temporarily to help you deepen your journey and continue your soul-work?

They also delve into the idea of “you spot it, you got it” and how you can claim those parts of yourselves that might scare you or even trigger. How can you claim your ‘wild’ and embrace your shadow-self? Robinson explains that most of us constantly live in a state of conformity, always trying to blend in and achieve concrete milestones in order to prove our worth.

Robinson also talks about the feelings of jealousy and inferiority that can plague us when we don’t feel as ‘enlightened’ or as ‘free’ as other people around us who are living consciously and seemingly fearlessly. She explains that the best way to get over that envy is to actually spend time with those we admire and wish to emulate, because it will help to draw out that energy and what we wish to create in our own lives.

They also talk about body wisdom and how you can tap into your body’s innate needs and desires. How can movement and physical activity help us unlock our self-worth and intuition? How can you ‘be in the body’ even when you are dealing with deep grief and trauma, and are frightened to face those feelings buried within you.

“If we must have milestones—mine will be measured by how much joy I have collected at the end of each day and how often in this life I have truly, deeply, opened,” writes Robinson. “Seek, see, love, do.”

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Love Yourself to Heal Yourself Nov 03, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about self-love and how self-love can help to heal the world. She tackles the difference between self-esteem and self-worth, explaining that self-esteem is conditional. Self-esteem is often based on other people’s perceptions of us and that external validation, such as whether you can perform well enough or achieve enough in the world’s eyes. Only then can you have pride in your accomplishments and feel confident in yourself.

But, as the sex therapist explains, self-worth is completely different. It is totally unconditional love that you never have to compete for or earn.

“Self-worth is ultimately, at its core, the understanding that you are worthy of abundant love, simply because you exist. You don’t have to do anything or be anything, you’re actually perfectly imperfect exactly as you are and perfectly lovable exactly as you are. You are the unique, one-of-a-kind expression of spirit,” says Dr. Berman.

So how can you begin to establish self-love? What are some ways you can create a self-love practice that will help you to elevate your energy and receive the abundance you deserve? And, for parents, how can you create a household in which self-love radiates throughout the family and your children feel loved and celebrated by you simply for existing?

Dr. Berman also talks to a caller who wants to know how she can support her adult child who is going through a difficult time. How can parents of adult children help to model self-love and encourage their children to make smart decisions without being a helicopter parent?

A caller also asks Dr. Berman about how to overcome childhood abuse and self-destructive coping mechanisms that are interfering with his ability to establish healthy self-love in the present and create positive relationships. How can you build self-love when your childhood was traumatic?

Listen to Dr. Berman’s advice on self-love and how to create it on her this newest episode “The Language of Love.”

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Getting Your Head Out of the Sand: A Talk with Marianne Williamson Oct 27, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with internationally acclaimed author and lecturer Marianne Williamson.

Dr. Berman’s grief journey following the death of her son Sammy has been greatly illuminated and shaped by Williamson’s past works, such as “A Return to Love” and “Tears to Triumph,” so sitting down for an interview with such a beloved soul-guide has been a longtime plan of hers.

In today’s interview, Dr. Berman and Williamson talk about this incredibly difficult time that we are living in, and how crucial it is for us to stay present and engaged, rather than hiding our heads in the sand. How can you find your voice and help to promote peace and integrity when you just want to hide away from the ugliness of the world?

Williamson says we must start acknowledging our own power and refusing to be silenced.

In particular, Williamson believes that empaths and spiritually-minded people have a huge responsibility right now in helping to heal the world. She urges listeners to find a way to overcome the ‘overwhelm’ and tap into their amazing powers, because sitting by idly will only lead to further spiritual and physical destruction of our country and climate.

“The effects of love are maximal,” says Williamson. “We [need to] stop disengaging from the political system.”

Dr. Berman and Williamson also talk about ‘The Course in Miracles,” which Dr. Berman is working through and which Williamson narrates for the audiobook. Listen to this inspiring episode and let Dr. Berman know your thoughts on Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook.

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Ecstatic Dancing Oct 20, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about her newfound hobby, Ecstatic Dancing. This unique form of dance is often misunderstood, and many people may not even know about this amazing, transformative form of body movement. So, together with Robin Parrish (Co-Founder and Managing Director of Ecstatic Dance LA), Dr. Berman discusses what ecstatic dancing is really all about, as well as how she has been using ecstatic dancing to cope as she moves through her grief journey after her son’s death.

Ecstatic dancing isn’t about learning choreography or having the best rhythm: It’s about leaning into the changing waves of our lives, and learning how to dance and move with these ups and downs. Ecstatic dancing is all about listening to the wisdom of your body, and moving through any fears or doubts as you embrace the music within you.

Ecstatic dancing has been said to lead to feelings of ecstasy or pure joy, and whether you do it alone in your backyard or with a group of friends or fellow dancers, you may find that this dance feels meditative, rejuvenating, or that it promotes feelings of serenity. In fact, ecstatic dancing has its roots in religious rituals that reach back thousands of years into human history. Listen to today’s episode to hear about the benefits and history of ecstatic dance, and how you can start grooving like Dr. Berman.

Click here to learn more about Robin Parrish and Ecstatic Dance LA.

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Kicking Ass in a Corset with Andrea Kayne Oct 13, 2021

Today on the “Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down for an intimate talk with Andrea Kayne. Andrea Kayne is a leadership coach and an author who recently wrote “Kicking Ass in a Corset: Jane Austen’s 6 Principles of Living and Leading from the Inside Out.”

Kayne draws insights and life lessons from the works of the 18th-century novelist. Austen’s classics like “Emma” and “Pride and Prejudice” are as rich with meaning now as they were then. Yes, surprising as it may sound, these centuries-old books have a lot to teach us about self-knowledge, intuition, and learning to trust and embrace your power.

In this episode, Dr. Berman and Kayne talk about what it means to know yourself, how to release old habits and self-defeating beliefs, and how to come really know and LOVE yourself, flaws and all.

Whether you are an Austen lover or someone simply to find your purpose, this episode is a must-listen!

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Losing Sammy Part 3 Oct 06, 2021

On today’s extra-special episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman brings us up-to-date on the latest in her son Sammy Chapman’s case. As many of you know, her 16-year-old was fatally poisoned by fentanyl earlier this year. In the months following, Dr. Berman and her husband Sam Chapman (along with their sons Ethan and Jackson) have seen their world turn upside down as they try to grieve while also advocating for real, impactful legislative change that will ensure no other child falls victim to these online drug dealers and no other family has to suffer as theirs has.

In today’s “Losing Sammy, part 3,” Dr. Berman reveals what her life has been like since the loss of her son, how she laid him to rest, how grief has impacted her marriage, and how her and her husband’s differing views on the after-life have sometimes left them struggling to understand each other’s motivations.

Tune in for this very important episode to learn how even during your most painful and heart-wrenching time, you can still consciously create Quantum Love.

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Debunking Sex Toy Myths Sep 29, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about the history of sex aids, from primitive sex toys to the invention of the first vibrator. From G-spot stimulators to dilators to penis rings, there are so many sex aids which you can use to improve your connection with yourself and your partner(s). As Dr. Berman explains, the sex aid industry has really changed in the last 2 decades: Now sex aids are female-friendly and easily found online or in cozy boutiques, rather than in scary dimly-lit rooms at truck stops.

So how can you find out which sex aid is right for you? Which sex is best for single folks or for use during intercourse? Dr. Berman gives her top tips to help you shop smart when you enter the world of sex aids.

Then, she talks about how you can introduce sex aids into their relationship. What should you do if your suggestion of using a sex aid offends your partner or makes them jealous? It’s not uncommon for men to feel insecure when women want to bring vibrators or sex toys into their relationship, so how can you suggest sex aids without making your man feel like he is being replaced?

Dr. Berman also challenges common sex toy myths, like the idea that you can get addicted to your vibrator or that vibrators are dangerous to your genitals or sexual response.

Tune into this episode of “The Language of Love” to get your FAQs about sex toys answered.

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Should You Get Back Together with an Ex? Sep 22, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about Bennifer and whether or not it’s ever a good idea to get back together with an ex. Getting back together with an ex is extremely tempting, and for some, the urge can even feel downright addictive. If you’re going to get back together with an ex, you have to really make sure that you’re doing so in a conscious, intentional way. You need to be willing to examine what you did to contribute to the breakup in the first place, and what steps you both need to take to ensure that you don’t make the same mistakes this go-around.

Next, Dr. Berman talks to couples who have been stuck at home together for a year and a half due to Covid. After so much togetherness during the pandemic, how can you and your partner start to bring more magic and passion back into your relationship? If you are feeling more like roommates and less like lovers, don’t despair: There are ways you can reignite the flame after this difficult year.

Then, Dr. Berman talks to a woman who recently broke up with her longtime partner. He says he still loves her and misses her, but he claims he needs time to ‘find himself’ and have time alone. How can you move on from a ex-partner who still isn’t fully letting you go? When do you determine that the relationship is completely unsalvageable and quit taking your ex’s calls?

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What is Sexual Healing? Sep 16, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about ‘sexual healing,’ and what that term means to her. How can you use sexual intercourse to elevate your energetic consciousness and use sexual pleasure as a tool to help you heal your life?

Then, Dr. Berman talks about another kind of sexual healing: Healing physical issues in the bedroom which prevent people from enjoying intimacy. From lack of desire to erection issues to painful sex to an inability to reach orgasm, there are many common sexual complaints that can complicate your experience in the bedroom. However, there are also many tools that can help you overcome these issues and create the sex life you desire.

Dr. Berman also addresses how you can heal from past sexual trauma. In many cases, people with a history of sexual abuse may struggle to feel safe in the bedroom and avoid sex altogether, or they might use sex in a self-destructive way and have unsafe sex or make promiscuous choices even if they really aren’t wanting to do so.

As Dr. Berman explains, being ‘sex positive’ doesn’t have to mean that you have to be ready to have threesomes or be ready to swing from the chandeliers: You can still be conservative about your fantasies or desires, but you are nonjudgmental and realize that sex is an important and healthy part of being human.

And, if you are single, how can you initiate sexual healing when you don’t currently have a partner? Dr. Berman talks about how you can use self-stimulation as a tool for healing.

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The Body Keeps the Score: How Trauma Can Impact Our Physical Forms and Sexual Pleasure Sep 09, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about the most common challenges that couples report. She reveals that the top complaint that partners have is uneven desire when one partner has a higher libido than the other, and how that can lead to trouble throughout their relationship. She says one issue is that even though many women struggle with some form of sexual dysfunction, whether that is lack of desire, difficulty reaching orgasm, or pain during intercourse, the medical community has only just begun to put attention into addressing female sexual pleasure. Hence, while men can turn to options like Viagra or Cialis, women are left with few, if any options, for improved sexual response, and most are too ashamed to even raise the issue with their doctor.

So, what should women with low desire do? First, Dr. Berman says women need to go to their doctor for a hormone panel as well as to investigate whether any medications they are on may cause sexual side effects (popular prescriptions like anti-depressants and hormonal contraceptives can have downsides in the bedroom). After investigating possible physical causes and troubleshooting possible solutions, Dr. Berman says she would also want to delve into a woman’s past and look at issues like body image, past sexual trauma, sexual shame related to religious or cultural upbringing. Our bodies can carry cellular trauma which can be passed on genetically and Dr. Berman explains that unless we get in touch with our physical selves and where we might be carrying tension or dis-ease, we won’t be able to fully release, whether we are in or out of the bedroom. Hear her reveal how she uses somatic therapy to tap into her physical body and how you can start ‘being in body’ right now.

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Learning to Love without Conditions: A Conversation with Don Miguel Ruiz, Jr. Sep 01, 2021

On today’s episode of the “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with guest Don Miguel Ruiz, Jr. The world-renowned Toltec spiritual teacher and New York Times best-selling author of books like “The Five Levels of Attachment” recently hosted a shaman retreat which Dr. Berman attended, and on this new episode, they sit down to reconnect and reflect on love, healing, and living wholeheartedly and consciously even during this difficult time.

Don Miguel Jr. (son of Don Miguel Ruiz, author of "The Four Agreements) recently wrote a groundbreaking book titled “The Seven Secrets to Healthy Happy Relationships,” and as he explains to Dr. Berman, the foundation of all of these secrets is unconditional love.

“The difference between conditional and unconditional love, to me, is that conditional love only sees what it wants to see, and unconditional love is willing us to see life as it is, it is willing us to see the whole,” says Don Miguel.

Don Miguel and Dr. Berman then delve into communication and the common issues that arise between couples, such as fights about money, parenting, sex, and other stressors. How can one apply the wisdom of unconditional love to rise above these arguments and instead approach their relationship in a more wholehearted and enlightened way? How can unconditional love be applied to these situations in a real, applicable way that couples can use in their daily lives?

Don Miguel shares his wisdom and his tips for couples who are seeking to build a healthier and happier marriage, and how people can ‘defuse their triggers’ and learn to separate these arguments from their love for one another and the security of their relationship as a whole. Listen to his life-changing advice now!

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Different Words, Different Worlds: Male and Female Communication Aug 25, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about how communication is a muscle that couples have to learn to exercise throughout their relationship. She explains that many of us operate under the assumption that our partners can read our minds and hear our inner monologue, thereby understanding our motivations and our needs as we move throughout the day. But, she warns, our partners often understand our inner lives much less than we actually imagine, which leads to misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and unnecessary arguments.

Then, Dr. Berman talks about the difference between the way men and women communicate, and how this can lead to issues between male partners and female partners. Dr. Berman explains that when men communicate, they often have a competitive stance, looking for subtle or not-so-subtle ways to ‘one-up’ each other or be the alpha dog in the room. On the other hand, when women communicate, they generally seek out opportunities for connection rather than competition. Hence, they are not aware of the fact that when they talk to their male partner about a household issue such as forgetting to empty the dishwasher, he is already primed and prepared to be in that defensive stance due to male communication patterns. Hence, even the criticism can feel like an attack on his very character or even his worth, which is why a simple complaint about dishes can blow up into a massive argument.

Next, Dr. Berman talks about how communication in the bedroom is positively crucial, especially when it comes to women speaking up about what turns them on and what they need from their partners when it comes to sex.

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Sexual Shame & The Myth of the Perfect Labia Aug 17, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about sexual shame and why so many people are uncomfortable talking about sex. Why is something so natural and so fundamental to the human species so taboo in our culture? And how can we start to break down those barriers and normalize human sexuality?

Next, Dr. Berman talks about how aging can impact our bodies and our sexual response. Although there is no such thing as a ‘sexpiration date,’ and older people can desire and benefit from sexual intimacy even in their golden years, the truth is that as we age, our sexual response can become complicated.

Your genitals will change in appearance as you age, but this doesn’t have to be a source of shame or low self-worth. Many women may be tempted by the idea of ‘vaginal rejuvenation,’ especially as they age and notice changes to their labia, but these operations come with lots of potential downsides.

Not only are these vaginal rejuvenation surgeries totally unnecessary, but Dr. Berman says they can actually harm the nerve-rich tissue in your labia and actually detract from your sexual pleasure in the future as well as cause physical pain and dryness.

The bottom line is that genitals come in all different sizes and shapes, and it’s time we start empowering women to love and cherish their vulvas rather than judge or critique them.

“What’s most attractive to men is that sense of confidence and comfort that a woman has in her own body and her sexuality,” Dr. Berman says. “They are not analyzing the length of your labia or how they’re sticking out or not sticking out.”

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Quantum Love Aug 11, 2021

On this episode of "The Language of Love," Dr. Laura Berman talks about the meaning of Quantum Love and how to implement Quantum Love principles in your own life, both inside and outside the bedroom. Scientific discoveries over the past 25-50 years have established that at our core, we are all pure energy. Our bodies have an energetic frequency that is always shifting and changing as a result of our thoughts and feeling states. That energy doesn’t stay within our bodies, but emanates out, impacting everyone around us, most especially our romantic partners.

Dr. Berman says that couples are like human tuning forks, constantly matching one another’s frequency. You and your mate are constantly entraining your energy to one another. Most of this happens outside conscious awareness, but not when you are practicing Quantum Love. In this episode, Dr. Berman teaches you how to consciously take charge of your body’s energetic frequency so that your partner matches to you; your wants, your desires, and the love you want to experience. You have everything you need to create the love life you desire right here, right now.

After you listen to this episode, go to Dr. Berman's website to find her Guided Quantum Love Meditations that will help you get grounded and open your heart so you can create the love you deeply desire and deserve.

Find Quantum Love on Amazon.

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Beyond Bullying: Jeffrey Marsh and the Power of Radical Self-Love Aug 05, 2021

On today's episode of "The Language of Love," Dr. Laura Berman sits down with Jeffrey Marsh. Marsh is an LGBTQ+ activist and social media personality known for their uplifting videos on TikTok. The genderqueer, genderfluid nonbinary author was dubbed "the internet's most beloved anti-bully," and on this episode, Marsh lives up to their reputation as one of the most inspiring and educational voices in the LGBTQ+ community. Marsh is a visionary who coaches people to learn to love and accept themselves, especially the parts of themselves that might feel wrong or flawed, or unlovable.

Dr. Berman sits down with Marsh to discuss everything from gender identity to pronouns to what it really means to live a fully authentic life. Marsh explains how they are able to live so bravely even in a world that can sometimes feel so filled with hate. As Marsh discusses their traumatic experiences with bullying as a child, Dr. Berman digs into the topic of childhood bullying from her perspective as a mom who struggled with watching her own kids being bullied.

Dr. Berman asks Marsh how parents can better support their children when they're enduring bullying, as her own efforts to intervene were often not successful. When school can feel like a warzone, it can lead kids to make tragic choices that can have devastating consequences. Marsh explains what they think parents should do to protect their kids and also how to teach kids to stand in their own power even as they're being judged and mocked for their differences.

Don't miss this inspiring episode that will educate, uplift, and empower you on your journey to wholehearted living.

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The Danger of Dead Bedrooms Jul 27, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about the very real danger that comes from ‘dead bedrooms.’ As she explains, the longer you go without sex, the more difficult it is to reawaken that desire and save that sexual connection. From physical concerns like the decline of sexual response and atrophy in the genital region to the emotional valley that can grow between couples when sex falls by the wayside, Dr. Berman explains why it’s so important to get the flames going in the bedroom, because once that fire is doused, it becomes that much harder to reignite once again.

Next, Dr. Berman talks about how older women can grow into their sexual prowess as they age. She explains that while older men can be seen as ‘debonair’ or getting better with age, older women tend to be seen as unattractive or simply not seen at all. She explains why this myth is simply false and why sex can be enjoyable and life-affirming for baby boomers and beyond, and how to deal with common issues like vaginal dryness and body image issues as they arise. She explains how older women can lean into their wisdom and embrace life and sexuality both during and after menopause. “I’m really interested in helping women understand what a powerful, innervating, freeing and exciting time this can be,” she says about life after menopause.

If you have a question for Dr. Berman you can send a voice message to her on Speakpipe or send an email to languageoflovepod@gmail.com. She might answer your question on the next podcast!

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Why Vulnerability is So Sexy Jul 21, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about demisexuality. This term is used to describe someone who only feels an attraction to someone after they have built an emotional connection with them. In other words, they generally don’t feel attraction to celebrities or attractive people they see walking down the street: First, they need to get to know a person before desire develops.

In a similar vein, Dr. Berman discusses arranged marriages and whether it is possible to create a sexual connection with someone you only meet on your wedding day. What happens if the person standing at the altar isn’t physically attracted to you, or vice versa? Is there a way you can build desire and attraction if the feelings aren’t there, or if they have diminished over time? Additionally, how can you build an emotional connection when someone when you feel completely distanced from your partner?

Next, Dr. Berman talks to a woman who discusses how the lockdown has changed her dating behavior. How was love changed post-pandemic? Dr. Berman acknowledges how being in quarantine has led to us feeling awkward and a bit uncomfortable with eye contact. Moving out from behind our screens and back into the real world can feel very daunting, and lead to feelings of vulnerability and uncertainty. How can we ease back into social activities and find our groove again, after so many months of being shut up at home with Zoom as our main social contact?

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Surrendering to your partner, Long-distance relationships, & Spiritual Transformation Jul 14, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about the experience that catapulted her into a spiritual transformation, and ultimately led her to write her book “Quantum Love.” Dr. Berman discusses how the science of energy and the way energy moves in the body led her to deepen her practice as a sex therapist and focus her practice on ‘sex, body, and soul.’

Then, Dr. Berman talks to a woman who wants to know whether long-distance relationships are worth entertaining when the person lives thousands and thousands of miles away. How can you build an energetic connection with someone when they live many time zones away? She also talks with a man who has a history of long-distance relationships who says he struggles with giving himself self-care during his alone time, and finding a way to acknowledge his own worth and sexuality after being solo in the Covid shutdown for so long.

Dr. Berman talks with a woman who says she struggles with ‘masculine energy,’ and feeling like she is too aggressive or domineering with her partners. She feels like she takes on a position of power in her relationship in which she’s always deciding where they eat, what they do, and how they connect with each other. Dr. Berman advises she tries a ‘surrender date,’ in which she intentionally hands over power to her partner and he gets to decide everything on date night. He can pick the outfit she wears, the jewelry she puts on, the route they take to dinner, the place they eat and even what she orders! Essentially, she goes ‘cold turkey’ when it comes to giving up her dominant side and lets her partner completely take the reins.

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Waiting for 'The One' Jul 07, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman tackles the concept of a ‘new normal’ and the fundamental invitation the pandemic offered each of us: The opportunity to go inward and begin prioritizing connection over distraction, and quality over quantity when it comes to our relationships.

For many of us, the pandemic has put a pause on our sex lives. On today’s episode, Dr. Berman talks to a woman who says she hasn’t had sex for a year… and now has decided she wants to wait to have sex until she meets ‘the one.’ She is hesitant to be intimate with a partner too early because she knows it will create feelings of attachment even if the partner isn’t right for her or if the partner isn’t seeking a relationship. So how can she manage her feelings of desire while patiently waiting for ‘the one,’ and how can she explain to her dates that she isn’t going to be open to hookups or casual sexual connection?

Dr. Berman also talks about how masculine and feminine energy can impact our desire in the bedroom and the way we sexually respond to our partners. Many women are multi-taskers who have a difficult time letting go and being wholly present in the bedroom, as they are worried about the dirty dishes in the kitchen sink or the presentation they have to give at the office the next day. Dr. Berman discusses the concept of ‘choreplay’ and how being a more engaged and helpful partner around the house can create space for women to feel more relaxation and desire, leading to more sexual pleasure for both partners!

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Putting Love First, Even During Traumatic Times Jun 30, 2021

On today's episode of the "Language of Love," Dr. Laura Berman talks to a woman who wants to know how she can prioritize and nurture her relationship, even as she is dealing with the great trauma and terror of knowing that many of her loved ones are across the world living in a very dangerous situation. She wants to know: “How can you maintain physical and emotional intimacy when you are terrified for your family members who are living in a warzone?”

Dr. Berman’s advice is applicable for anyone who is grappling with loss and fear during this time of social upheaval. Prioritizing our love lives and maintaining intimacy can feel impossible and even shallow when there is so much pain all around us, but Dr. Berman helps reveal how safeguarding our bond and nurturing our relationship needs can actually serve us and helps us be of service in return.

Next up, Dr. Berman talks to a woman who wants to know how to tell when she is ready to date after a breakup. When is it time to put yourself back out there, especially as we slowly nudge our way out of the pandemic? How do you deal with feelings of anxiety and trepidation about dating again after heartache?

Then, Dr. Berman talks to a woman who asks what you should do when you and your partner have differing viewpoints on the virus. If one of you is pro-mask and pro-vaccine, but the other is afraid of the jab or is ready to stop wearing a mask and social distancing, how can you bridge that divide and ensure that you find a fair compromise that keeps you both feeling safe and respected?

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The Beautiful No and Beyond - Sheri Salata Jun 23, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with one of her dear friends Sheri Salata. Salata was an executive producer for “The Oprah Show” as well as the president of the Oprah Winfrey Network and Harpo Productions. Since leaving Oprah, Salata began to focus more intentionally on her own personal growth and leaned into the power of ‘the beautiful no.’

What is the beautiful no? Salata says that her people-pleasing nature and her desire to excel in her career and her personal relationships led her to struggle with setting boundaries and saying no, whether it was to opportunities or favors or constantly giving to those around her. Like many people, especially women, Salata says she struggled with codependence and was unable to prioritize her own needs and emotional health. This left her always feeling unfulfilled and disconnected from her own self-worth.

On this episode, Salata and Dr. Berman talk about Salata’s book “The Beautiful No,” and what led her to finally grow into the power of no and learn to not only be comfortable setting boundaries, but for it to come naturally and easily, without feelings of guilt or regret. This is an episode that is a must-listen for anyone who ever struggles with setting boundaries or putting themselves first!

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How to Get More Sex in Your Relationship Jun 16, 2021

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Berman talks live with callers on Clubhouse and gives real-time advice on sex, love, and relationships.

First, she helps a woman in a long-term relationship who says things have slowed down in the bedroom. Dr. Berman explains why ‘scheduled sex’ can actually be very beneficial in both re-igniting passion as well as increasing libidos that may have stalled once the honeymoon phase ended.

Next, Dr. Berman has an impromptu’s couples’ session with a young entrepreneur and his girlfriend who says their hectic schedules keep them from finding time to connect and enjoy their relationship. Dr. Berman explains how they can find ‘bite-sized’ intimacy throughout the day and ensure that they are prioritizing each other even as they pursue their career goals.

Later, Dr. Berman helps a man who spent years stuck in a sexless marriage. Since he wasn’t getting his needs met, he focused all of his energy into his work and let his sexual side disappear. After getting divorced, he wound up finding another partner who was also not able to meet his sexual needs due to her obsession with her phone.

Using her intuition and clinical training, Dr. Berman is able to peel back the layers on this caller’s pain and trace his trauma back to rejection from his mother in his childhood. “I think a big part of the answer is in you doing that healing work so that you stop attracting in and being attracted to women who withhold love, connection, acceptance, approval, intimacy from you. And in one way or another, you keep calling that into your life,” she explains.

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Radical Awakening with Dr. Shefali Tsabary Jun 09, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with one of her favorite writers and thinkers, Dr. Shefali Tsabary. They discuss Dr. Shefali’s latest book “A Radical Awakening,” and what she wants women to know about stepping into their power as well as owning the fact that they are often unconscious co-creators of their own suffering.

Together Dr. Berman and Dr. Shefali break down the differences between men and women and how institutions like marriage can contribute to these power imbalances. Dr. Shefali offers actionable tips on how women can begin to lean into their feminine gifts and awaken to their true power.

They tackle the idea of how rigid social expectations and an obsession of success and wealth has led to generations of suffering and disconnect. How can we get back to our true source and find lasting peace and worth, while still achieving our goals, and while still loving and parenting and living in a way that aligns with our core values?

Listen in to hear this powerhouse of a speaker and author share her deep wisdom with Dr.

Berman on this must-listen episode.

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Should You Be Friends with an Ex? Jun 02, 2021

On today’s episode of the “Language of Love,” Dr. Berman is talking sex, love, and relationships with callers on Clubhouse.

First, Dr. Berman helps a woman in a 16-year relationship who is feeling like the stress of the pandemic is finally taking its toll on her marriage. She says that while she is a very intuitive and sensitive person, her partner is much more stoic and pragmatic. He often talks to her in a cold tone or in a way she finds hurtful, but when she points this out to him, he doesn’t really understand what she is talking about. How can a sensitive partner help their spouse understand that their tone and body language can come across as rude or aggressive even if that is not their intention?

Next, Dr. Berman helps a woman who wants to know if it is ever okay to be friends with an ex. What do you do if you want to stay friends with an ex-partner, but your current partner thinks it is inappropriate?

Then, Dr. Berman helps a man who was suffering in an abusive relationship for years before he reached out for help. Although we may not realize that men can be victims of abuse and harassment, this caller’s story proves that women aren’t the only ones who can be abused by their intimate partners. Although the abusive relationship has now ended, the ex is still stalking him and trying to harm him. What can he do to protect himself, and how can we better support male victims of violence?

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Martha Beck and the Way of Integrity May 26, 2021

On today's episode of the "Language of Love," Dr. Berman sits down with the acclaimed author, coach, and speaker Martha Beck. Known as "Oprah's life coach," Beck's thought-provoking wisdom has helped thousands of people learn how to lean into their self-worth and carve out a life that is meaningful and joy-inducing.

Martha Beck (who authored "The Way of Integrity" and "Finding Your Own North Star") is one of Dr. Berman's personal favorites. On this episode, Beck talks to Dr. Berman about how to "get into integrity," and what integrity means when it comes to love, sex, and relationships.

Beck also talks with Dr. Berman about the Dark Wood of Error, which is a place many of us might be right now, without even realizing it. How can you tell when you are in the Dark Wood of Error, and how can you get out of it?

Listen in to find out what Martha Beck has to say and how her wisdom can help you to fulfill your life's purpose and find the love you deserve.

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How to Get Out of the Friendzone May 19, 2021

On this episode of the “Language of Love,” Dr. Berman talks to a woman in a 35-year relationship. Now that their kids are grown and out of the house, she and her husband are struggling to connect and figure out their new relationship as partners outside of their roles as parents. How can empty-nesters lean into their new freedom and figure out their identities as lovers outside of being parents and teammates in raising a family?

Next, Dr. Berman talks to a woman who wants to know how to figure out if a new partner is sexually compatible before you even enter the bedroom. If your kink is BDSM, how do you find a partner who shares the same desires? What is the right way to broach your kink to new partners, and how soon is too soon? Dr. Berman weighs in.

Then, Dr. Berman tackles the subject of “friends with benefits.” How can you get your friend to view you in a more romantic light, and is there really such a thing as the ‘friendzone’?

Dr. Berman also gives advice on how to ‘shoot your shot’ to a divorcee who is dating for the first time since her marriage ended, and is struggling to figure out how to put herself out there and meet guys without seeming desperate or being too forward. Should you wait for a guy to approach you, or do men like it when women are assertive and ask them out? Dr. Berman reveals what she thinks and gives advice to daters who are scared to put themselves out there.

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The Truth about Death, Loss, and the Taboo of Grief with Anita Moorjani May 12, 2021

On this very powerful episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Berman talks to Anita Moorjani about the loss of her son Sammy and how her grief makes people uncomfortable. If you have ever lost someone you love or you are struggling to cope with grief, this is a must-hear episode that will bring comfort and clarity to your grief journey.

Moorjani has a unique perspective on death and dying, as she had a near-death experience in which she almost died from terminal cancer, only to be brought back to life and make a miraculous full recovery. (You can read about this amazing journey in Moorjani’s book, “Dying to Be Me,” which is one of Dr. Berman’s favorite books).

Having been to the ‘other side,’ Moorjani offers her wisdom and perspective about what happens we die and what we can do here in the present to cope with loss. And is it possible to find connection with people who have passed on, to communicate with those who are no longer with us in physical form? Moorjani thinks we can, but we have to be sure that we are vibrating at a high frequency and in a space of lightness and openness in order to be able to receive these messages from our loved ones.

Dr. Berman also delves into how difficult these past weeks have been. “Grief isn’t a straight line,” she says, explaining that while she had been previously feeling peace and comfort, she has lately been struggling with great despair. With Moorjani’s help, Dr. Berman explores these new depths of loss and offers guidance and light to anyone listening who may be dealing with the same pain and trauma.

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When Sex is in the Way of Love May 05, 2021

On today’s unique episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Berman talks about what to do when sex gets in the way of love. Yes, while normally Dr. Berman addresses issues like lack of libido or lack of sexual pleasure, today she is talking about what happens when TOO much sexual pleasure gets in the way of the love you want.

First, Dr. Berman helps a woman who says that she is tired of men who seem to only view her as a sexual object. While she dates a lot and has no problem meeting men, she says that she is constantly dealing with guys who are too overtly sexual at first and don’t seem interested in her beyond sexual gratification. How can she attract a man who is actually interested in a relationship and not just hooking up? How can you create a dating profile that is flirty and fun, while still making it clear that you are only looking for monogamy and serious relationships, not casual sex?

Next, Dr. Berman helps a man who is dating a woman 20 years his junior. While their sex life is fantastic and he is having a great time, he is tired of his friends and family assuming that he is just her sugar daddy and that this isn’t a real relationship. How can he get people to take their relationship seriously, and what should he do about the fact that she is currently in financial distress and could use his monetary support? Is it ever possible for May-December relationships to last, especially when there is a power imbalance and one person has all the money, while the other has the youth and beauty? And what do you if your friends aren’t respectful of your romantic choices or don’t take your younger partner seriously?

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The Empath's Survival Guide with Anita Moorjani Apr 28, 2021

Have you ever been told you are too sensitive? On today's episode of "The Language of Love," Dr. Laura Berman talks with the incomparable Anita Moorjani, author of "Sensitive is the New Strong” about what it means to be highly sensitive. What careers are best suited for highly sensitive? How can you tell if you are highly sensitive or if your child is?

Dr. Berman and Anita Moorjani also discuss the difference between being an empath and being highly sensitive. Turns out they are not the same thing, and it is very important for people to realize the difference between the two, especially if they suspect that they might have empath qualities.

Although being an empath can be very powerful and very meaningful, it also comes with risks, especially if you aren’t aware of how to harness your empath abilities. Empaths take on the emotions and energy of other people around them, literally experiencing their sorrow and anger and fear as if it is happening to them. So empaths can very easily become ungrounded and lose their connection to their own energetic state and therefore become unable to access their own personal power. And many times empaths struggle with codependency and a need to ‘fix’ other people, believing as Dr. Berman says, “If you need me, you won’t leave me.”

Learn how empaths can tap into their unique strengths without falling prey to these common pitfalls on this special episode of “The Language of Love” with Anita Moorjani…and stay tuned for part two of Dr. Berman’s interview with Moorjani coming soon!

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Breaking Down Barriers to Sexual Pleasure Apr 21, 2021

On today's episode of "The Language of Love," Dr. Berman helps people who are facing physical roadblocks on their journey to sexual pleasure, in particular women who are suffering the loss of desire and arousal due to menopause.

Dr. Berman first helps a woman going through menopause who is dealing with unpleasant symptoms like rashes after intimacy and difficulty reaching orgasm. She says she feels as though her clitoris is difficult to find and that things are dry and uncomfortable down there. Is diminishing estrogen causing her rashes and dryness? How can older women protect their sexual health when faced with these unique challenges? And how can you talk to your doctor about these sexual symptoms in a proactive way without feeling embarrassed?

Next, Dr. Berman helps a woman with lichen sclerosis who has extreme pain and discomfort during sex. Around 1 in 80 women suffer from lichen sclerosis, but it is most common among middle-aged and elderly women. This inflammatory condition can be very painful and it often takes a toll on a woman’s sex life. Is there any way to preserve sexual pleasure when pain makes you afraid to be touched? And how can she help her partner feel loved and desired even when sexual intimacy sometimes has to take a back seat due to her condition?

Even when sexual challenges can complicate your ability to reach orgasm or achieve pleasure, on this episode, Dr. Berman shows that is still possible to find treatments and options that can help to support your journey back to sexual wellness. Often this will require treatment, sex therapy, or talking to your doctor, but as Dr. Berman reveals, with small mindful changes, you can continue having passionate sex even as you age or face medical conditions. Most importantly, however, you have to continue communicating with your partner, and seek ways to keep that physical connection and romance alive, even when sexual intimacy isn’t always possible. There is no such thing as a ‘sexpiration’ date, as long as couples are willing to keep prioritizing sexual pleasure and working together to create great sex.

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Mismatched Libidos Apr 14, 2021

This episode of "The Language of Love" is all about mismatched libidos and what to do when you and your partner don't have the same level of desire. Mismatched libidos are one of the most common issues that couples face and it often leads to the end of relationships, so this very special episode can be invaluable in helping to preserve your marriage and your sexual pleasure.

First, a woman asks for help restoring her lost libido, as her sex drive tanked after she began anti-depressants. Anti-depressants are notorious for sexual side effects, yet they are invaluable in treating depression and anxiety. Luckily, it is possible to continue taking your medications without sacrificing passion and pleasure. Dr. Berman offers advice for how to sex-proof your relationship even when you are taking SSRIs and other psychiatric medications, as well as how to talk to your partner about your decreased libido and help them to still feel loved and desired even when you are not in the mood.

Then, a caller reaches out because her husband is rarely interested in sex, and when they do have intimacy, he seems distracted and stressed out. She is eager to have more sex, but not if he is doing so out of duress and his heart isn’t really in it. But could it be that his history of ED is making him scared to have sex? Dr. Berman discusses how erectile dysfunction can make men afraid to engage in intimacy, even if they actually desire sex because they fear appearing less masculine or displeasing their partner. Over time, this becomes problematic because the less sex you have, the more accustomed you will be to not having it, decreasing your libido and harming your sexual response.

So how can this couple get their sex life back on track and help to decrease his fear of performance issues?

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Living Your Most Authentic Life In and Out of the Bedroom Apr 07, 2021

On today's episode of "The Language of Love," Dr. Berman helps listeners find out what may be holding them back from living their most authentic life, inside and outside the bedroom. From gender identity to sexual fantasies to finding love, Dr. Berman helps listeners create their most passionate and fulfilling lives with vulnerability, honesty, and daring.

Dr. Berman first talks to a woman who fantasizes about watching her partner have sex with other women (known as a cuckquean fantasy, or cuckold fantasy when the genders are reversed). Why does she have this fantasy and should she act on it in real life, such as by having a threesome? Is it ever a good idea to invite another person into your bedroom, and why does she want to see her husband pleasuring another woman?

Next, Dr. Berman hears from a transgender caller who wants to transition but is afraid to take that first step. Should she take that leap and start living full-time as a woman, even if it leads to the heartbreaking end of her marriage, or is there therapy that can help reverse gender dysphoria? Should she risk everything to live as a woman, or continue staying in the closet and keeping her true desires a secret?

Last, Dr. Berman hears from a caller who is looking for her soulmate but is beginning to feel frustrated by her experiences dating online. How you can stay patient while waiting for love? How do you strike that balance between letting go of control and unrealistic expectations while also being proactive when it comes to finding love?

Dr. Berman gives her best advice for how to navigate dating, especially online dating and dating during a pandemic. It is possible to actively search for love without feeling incomplete or desperate? How can you find wholeness even when you are single and everyone around you seems happily coupled up?

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Finding and Keeping Passion in Long-term Relationships Mar 31, 2021

Is it possible to be monogamous for life? In this episode of "The Language of Love," Dr. Berman talks about whether or not monogamy is truly sustainable.

Next, Dr. Berman helps a caller who says her husband wants her to talk dirty, but she doesn't know how to get started. How can a 'good girl' tap into her naughty side without feeling inauthentic or as though she is playing a porn star role?

Dr. Berman then helps a woman who says she and her longtime partner struggle to "get past the silliness" in their relationship in order to get to the sexiness. How can lovers continue to find passion and excitement when they are also best friends who love to clown around with each other?

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Quantum Love (and a Dash of Quantum Sex) Mar 24, 2021

In today's episode, Dr. Berman talks about the energetic shift which changed her parenting style for good and how this "Quantum Love" practice also helped her son Ethan tap into his powerful empathy without losing his own boundaries. After writing a groundbreaking book about the concept of Quantum Love 4 years ago, Dr. Berman reveals how her profound grief over the recent loss of her son Sammy has renewed and deepened her practice of Quantum Love...And she explains how listeners can learn to access these life-changing benefits, starting right now.

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Talking to Your Kids about Sex Mar 17, 2021

In this important episode, Dr. Berman gives tips to listeners on how they can raise sexually healthy kids. With so many teenagers having unlimited access to porn thanks to the Internet, Dr. Berman explains what parents should teach their kids about porn and why today’s porn can be so dangerous, especially for teenagers who are still forming their sexual desires.

First, a woman writes in asking Dr. Berman for help after her 9-year-old accidentally walked in on her husband giving her oral sex. What can these parents do to help ensure their child isn’t ‘scarred’ by this embarrassing incident?

Next, Dr. Berman helps a parent who wants to know if it is okay to let her teenage daughter have her boyfriend stay the night. Is it okay to accept your teenager being sexually active or does that set a poor parenting standard?

Dr. Laura Berman's website: https://drlauraberman.com/

The Language of Love Podcast: https://drlauraberman.com/pages/the-language-of-love

*Please note: this episode was recorded before the heartbreaking death of Sammy Chapman, Dr. Berman’s son. For resources to help you talk to your kids about the dangers of prescription pills and synthetic drugs, click here.

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Losing Sammy Part 2 Mar 10, 2021

In Losing Sammy Part 2, Dr. Berman draws back the curtains on her recent ‘grief retreat’ to the redwood forest. Rather than run from the terrifying emotions, Dr. Berman talks about how she intentionally stepped into that darkness and let faith guide her as she went heart-first into that fathomless pain.

From somatic therapy to grief yoga to breathwork, she sunk into her most primal and terrifying feelings about the loss of her son. She talks about how the process not only helped her to start wrapping her arms around some of her grief but also re-introduced her to her childlike connection to the spirit world and the unseen.

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Sex Therapy 101 Mar 03, 2021

Have you ever wondered if you could benefit from sex therapy? On today’s episode of the “Language of Love,” Dr. Berman explains who really needs sex therapy and when sex therapy is the most productive.

First, Dr. Berman helps a 43-year-old woman who says sex hurts lately and she isn’t becoming lubricated like she used to.

Dr. Berman also gets an email from a lesbian who has recently begun dating a transwoman. However, her new partner still has male genitalia--which makes this lifelong lesbian uncomfortable because she has never interacted with a penis and has no desire to do so.

Finally, Dr. Berman takes a voice message from a man who says his libido has disappeared lately and he is feeling rundown and out of sorts--could it be low T?

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Am I Normal? Feb 24, 2021

In today’s episode of the “Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman is tackling questions from listeners who are worried “Am I normal?”

First, we hear from a listener who worries that her rape fantasies make her a ‘bad’ feminist. Dr. Berman explains why rape fantasies are so common and why they happen, and what women are really fantasizing about when they fantasize about rape.

Next, Dr. Berman helps a divorced man who is newly into wearing women’s panties. He has also been gotten into ‘forced feminization’ fantasies in which he is compelled to dress as a woman. Now he is wondering if this means he is transgender or just into cross-dressing.

Hear Dr. Berman tackle these and other embarrassing sex questions on this episode of “Am I Normal?”

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Losing Sammy Feb 17, 2021

In today’s very raw but very necessary episode, Dr. Berman discusses the recent passing of her 16-year-old son Sammy. She explains what happened that tragic night, why she decided to share it with the media, and how she has been coping during this whirlwind. She also reveals how the outpouring of support from her family and friends and even strangers have caused her to confront one of her core childhood wounds: Her inability to accept help or emotional caretaking from others due to a subconscious fear of being a burden.

But she says she has discovered: “Letting others help me helps them. When I allow myself to be comforted and supported, I offer my loved ones the opportunity to be comforting and supportive. And that truly is a gift...for both of us.”

Please join Dr. Berman’s Facebook group Parents for Safer Children or help spread her fundraiser for the Organization for Social Media Safety. This national nonprofit is the first consumer protection organization solely focused on making social media a safer place for everyone, especially for the most vulnerable like our kids.

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Valentine's Day Blues Feb 10, 2021

In today’s episode, Dr. Berman helps a husband who says his sex life has totally tanked due to the pandemic—between kids and online school and constant togetherness, he says intimacy has fallen by the wayside and his wife feels more like his roommate than his sexual partner.

But, first: Dr. Berman gets a voicemail from a woman who is scared that her adult daughter is being pressured into sex by her online boyfriend before she is ready. Dr. Berman explains how to gauge when it is the ‘right’ time to have sex, and how people can navigate physical intimacy when we live in a world of masks and social distancing.

And what to do about the Valentine’s Day blues? Dr. Berman helps a woman who says she is dreading Valentine’s Day because her partner always disappoints her on this day of romance.

Listen in for all of Dr. Berman’s advice and write languageoflovepod@gmail.com with your own questions, or leave a voice message for the sex therapist here. Shy? Don’t worry! You can be anonymous.

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The Language of Love Trailer Feb 06, 2021

Introducing The Language of Love, a weekly podcast where America's top sex, love, and relationship expert, Dr. Laura Berman, shares her compassionate, humorous, and no-nonsense advice: answering listener questions and interviewing thought leaders and experts on relevant topics. Dr. Berman is ready to help you create the fulfilling and passionate love life you deserve, regardless of your relationship status, gender, or sexual orientation. Are you ready to get started?

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