Intelligent Intoxication

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When You Seek Permission - Not Help Jan 23, 2024

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My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:

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There are times when we all reach out for “help” from others when what we are really seeking is the permission to trust ourselves and do what we need to do to have our own back.

I invite you to consider these questions:

When do you notice seeking permission to trust yourself?
What do you do or feel when permission is denied?
What do you deny yourself the permission to be or do?

To grab a copy of my book, click below:

Intentional Intoxication Book

I invite you to click on the link below to book a complimentary happy hour call with me.

I’d love to hear about you and offer you the help and support you might want.

Happy Hour Call With Terri

For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:

Intoxication Inventory

Here is a link to an on-line resource for counseling:

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Contribution Confidentiality Jan 22, 2024

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My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:

Get Your Copy Here

In my not-so-humble opinion, we are here to offer meaningful, impactful contributions to others. However, if you need attention or an audience for your contributions, you may be tipping into virtue-signaling.

I invite you to consider these questions:

When do you notice needing attention for your contributions?
If no one noticed your contributions, would you still offer them? Why or why not?

To grab a copy of my book, click below:

Intentional Intoxication Book

I invite you to click on the link below to book a complimentary happy hour call with me.

I’d love to hear about you and offer you the help and support you might want.

Happy Hour Call With Terri

For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:

Intoxication Inventory

Here is a link to an on-line resource for counseling:

Better Help

How To Protect Your NOs Jan 21, 2024

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My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:

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If you’re in the habit of saying YES even when you mean NO or NOT YET, changing this habit requires smalls shifts:

identify how YES or NO shows up in your body
tell yourself the truth about your YES or NOs
practice saying NO to things you aren’t:
- willing to do
- capable of doing
anticipate this feeling really uncomfortable
if you resist saying NO, get curious about what your brain is telling you might be the worst thing another person may:
- think
- feel
- say about you
once you’re in the habit of identifying and communicating your NOs to others, pay attention to how you respond when others don’t respect your NOs.
- do you give in?
- do you react?
- do you clarify your NO
  - “If you’d like me to deliver this for you, please have it on my porch by tomorrow morning by 8. If it’s not there when I leave at 8, I’ll assume you decided to handle the delivery yourself.”
  - If they deliver the item after you’ve already left, remind them of your initial boundary:
    - “If you’ll remember, I mentioned that I was leaving to deliver the items I had by 8. Please grab your item and make other plans as I’ve already gone.”

I invite you to consider these questions:

What might prevent you from protecting your NO?
How willing are you to accept that you are intentionally choosing to feel resentment or bitterness rather than discomfort if you don’t protect your NO?

To grab a copy of my book, click below:

Intentional Intoxication Book

I invite you to click on the link below to book a complimentary happy hour call with me.

I’d love to hear about you and offer you the help and support you might want.

Happy Hour Call With Terri

For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:

Intoxication Inventory

Here is a link to an on-line resource for counseling:

Better Help

What To Do If You're In Overwhelm Jan 20, 2024

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My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:

Get Your Copy Here

“Overwhelmed means an extreme level of stress, an emotional and/or cognitive intensity to the point of feeling unable to function… overwhelmed is about our narrative of emotional and mental depletion - there’s too much going on to manage effectively.”

“... doing nothing was the only way back for someone totally overwhelmed.”

“... mindful play, or no-agenda, non-doing time, is the cure for overwhelm… “

Brene Brown

I invite you to consider these questions:

How willing are you to prioritize non-doing?
What might prevent you from getting help when you’re overwhelmed?

To grab a copy of my book, click below:

Intentional Intoxication Book

I invite you to click on the link below to book a complimentary happy hour call with me.

I’d love to hear about you and offer you the help and support you might want.

Happy Hour Call With Terri

For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:

Intoxication Inventory

Here is a link to an on-line resource for counseling:

Better Help

"I'm Overwhelmed!"-Part 5 Jan 19, 2024

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My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:

Get Your Copy Here

If you are feeling overwhelmed, it’s likely that you feel that you have too much to do but have too little time.

I invite you to consider these questions:

Do you feel guilty for wanting what you want?
Do you feel frequently interrupted?
Do you feel constantly distracted?
Do you feel frequently exhausted or depleted?
Do you have too much stuff to manage, store, or take care of?
Do you feel like your to-do list gets longer and longer?
Do you feel like you’re buried or drowning?

To grab a copy of my book, click below:

Intentional Intoxication Book

I invite you to click on the link below to book a complimentary happy hour call with me.

I’d love to hear about you and offer you the help and support you might want.

Happy Hour Call With Terri

For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:

Intoxication Inventory

Here is a link to an on-line resource for counseling:

Better Help

"I'm Overwhelmed!"-Part 4 Jan 18, 2024

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My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:

Get Your Copy Here

If you are feeling overwhelmed, it’s likely that you feel that you have too much to do but have too little time.

I invite you to consider these questions:

- Do you indulge in too much screen time?

How willing are you to take a break?

What might prevent you from doing so?

- Do you stay busy in order to prove that you’re productive?

To whom are you trying to prove?

- Do you feel inadequate?

When do you notice trying to prove that you’re enough?

- Do you feel desperate to boost your self-esteem?

What must you finally achieve in order to like who you are?

- Do you try to manage different circles of friends/acquaintances?

Do you need more time alone?

Are you saying YES to invitations when you really want to say NO?

To grab a copy of my book, click below:

Intentional Intoxication Book

I invite you to click on the link below to book a complimentary happy hour call with me.

I’d love to hear about you and offer you the help and support you might want.

Happy Hour Call With Terri

For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:

Intoxication Inventory

Here is a link to an on-line resource for counseling:

Better Help

"I'm Overwhelmed!" -Part 3 Jan 17, 2024

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My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:

Get Your Copy Here

If you are feeling overwhelmed, it’s likely that you feel that you have too much to do but have too little time.

I invite you to consider these questions:

Do you feel like you have time to spend with friends?
- What might prevent you from prioritizing connection?
Do you feel stressed about things going on in the world?
- Which one thing can you focus on and make a real impact?
Do you people-please (lie) to others?
- What will others think, feel, or say about you if you say NO?
Do you rescue others or anticipate what they need?
- What are you avoiding in your own life by doing so?
Do you lack enough alone or quiet time?
- How willing are you to spend time in nature?
Do you feel stuck in bad habits?
- What benefits are you getting from indulging in the habit:
  - escape?
  - something to look forward to?
  - a distraction?
  - numbing of emotions?
Do you feel hopeless in regard to starting new habits?
- How willing are you to ask for help?
Do you feel terrified to make decisions?
- Do you have evidence in your decision-making style?
Do you judge your physical appearance?
- How willing are you to take a break from social media?

To grab a copy of my book, click below:

Intentional Intoxication Book

I invite you to click on the link below to book a complimentary happy hour call with me.

I’d love to hear about you and offer you the help and support you might want.

Happy Hour Call With Terri

For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:

Intoxication Inventory

Here is a link to an on-line resource for counseling:

Better Help

"I'm Overwhelmed!"- Part 2 Jan 16, 2024

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My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:

Get Your Copy Here

If you are feeling overwhelmed, it’s likely that you feel that you have too much to do but have too little time.

I invite you to consider these questions:

Do you have too many chores to do at home?
- Can you hire them out or delegate to others?
Do you feel stressed about money?
- Ask yourself: “Is this a WANT or a NEED?”
Do you feel burdened by all of the self-care you should be doing?
- Pick one self-care habit and practice it.
Do you feel burdened by the activities or social lives of your children?
Do you feel buried by the expectations of others?
- Ask yourself:
  - “Am I willing to say YES?”
  - “Am I capable of saying YES?”
Do you feel weighed down by your own expectations?
- How willing are you to manage your Inner Critic voice in your mind?

To grab a copy of my book, click below:

Intentional Intoxication Book

I invite you to click on the link below to book a complimentary happy hour call with me.

I’d love to hear about you and offer you the help and support you might want.

Happy Hour Call With Terri

For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:

Intoxication Inventory

Here is a link to an on-line resource for counseling:

Better Help

"I'm Overwhelmed!"- Part 1 Jan 15, 2024

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My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:

Get Your Copy Here

If you are feeling overwhelmed, it’s likely that you feel that you have too much to do but have too little time.

I invite you to consider these questions:

Do you have too much on your plate professionally or personally? If so, consider this advice: “Only do what only you can only do.” (Sandra Yancey)
Do you think you’re too busy?
Do you try to balance everything instead of prioritizing what really matters?
- Essentialism by Greg McKeown
Do your thoughts begin with “I should… “?
- Try saying “I could… “ instead.
Do you think about how you are lacking in comparison to others?
- Be mindful of spending too much time on social media.
Do you get anxious about your future?
- Ask yourself: “Am I safe now?”
Do you have too many things to accomplish at work?
- Be honest with yourself and colleagues regarding your capacity.
Do you feel responsible for the emotions of others?
- Ask yourself: “Is this mine?”

To grab a copy of my book, click below:

Intentional Intoxication Book

I invite you to click on the link below to book a complimentary happy hour call with me.

I’d love to hear about you and offer you the help and support you might want.

Happy Hour Call With Terri

For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:

Intoxication Inventory

Here is a link to an on-line resource for counseling:

Better Help

Hemorrhaging Time, Energy, Or Money Leaves You Blah Jan 14, 2024

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My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:

Get Your Copy Here

It is normal and common to feel blah in January as you grapple with post-holidays exhaustion and unrealistic expectations for how you’d feel once the new year arrives.

Feeling “blah” can be the result of hemorrhaging our limited time, energy, and financial resources.

I invite you to consider these questions: