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EP 22: We Do Service Dec 10, 2018

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As Gandhi once said "The best way to lose yourself is in service to others." Service & community involvement was a way we initially connected in our relationship and continues to be a value we share together. In this episode, we share where our passion for service comes from, what issues we care most about, and how we continue to lean in to leadership roles in our community. Music "Sunny" by Bensound.com.

What We Talked about in this Episode:

Where our passion for service comes from
- For Ashley, volunteer and philanthropy weren't words that were used regularly by her parents but everything was about gratitude
- - Thank you cards for the holidays were written on Christmas Day
  - Her parents helped her understand that there are people who are less fortunate
  - Excess wasn't a thing, toys & games that were still very loved would be donated
  - In high school, volunteering was a way to get out of the house but she slowly learned in importance
- For Billy, service was important at an early age came from his mother's work as a social worker
- - He would work at senior centers with her or deliver Meals on Wheels with parents
  - His Catholic education plays a role in this because the faith is rooted in social justice
What issues we are most passionate about
- We don't volunteer to just volunteer, we want to make an impact
- Education & learning is at the center of many of our commitments
- We love seeing others grow and develop into leaders
How service continues to be a way we come together
- How service initially brought us together
- How we know when the other person's skill set is more needed for each of our commitments
Our desire to serve on a board together
How you should always gain something some service
- You should be gaining a new relationship, a new perspective, or a positive feeling
How we have learned to lean in to leadership roles
- The key for both of us has been to identifying gaps and filling them
- Simply showing up shows commitment
- Being out in the community and understanding other people's problems

EP 21: Changing Relationships Dec 03, 2018

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Coming together in our marriage meant a shift in priorities. We became more intentional with how we spent our time and WHO we spend our time with. It isn't fun, but many friendships shifted or even ended. In this episode, we talk about the different types of friendships that changed as we came together in our relationship and the reminder we give ourselves when we notice our friends' shifting priorities. Music "Sunny" by Bensound.com.

What We Talked about in this Episode:

The conversation that inspired this episode
- Ashley's intern sought advice for managing current friendships that she feels will not last after college
What type of friend's we are in friendships
- Ashley is the instant BFF - makes good friends quickly, but fizzles
- Billy struggles to know the difference between friend and acquaintance, but keeps friends for a long period of time
Friendships that changed as our relationship together grew
- The friend out of convenience - For Billy this was the single buddy. Once they met their significant others, the relationship came to a natural end
- The toxic friend - For Ashley, this was a close friend that was always difficult to manage. the time and energy was no longer worth it when also balancing a relationship
- The longtime friend - For Billy, this was his childhood best friend. Values were so far off after nearly 25 years that it just became difficult.
The book that provided clarity on some of these friendships
How conflict in friendships comes down to unclear expectations
The reminder we give ourselves when we notice friends shifting priorities

EP 20: How We Travel Nov 26, 2018

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We're coming to you from Philadelphia this week! We love traveling together. This is our 11th trip of 2019 and we still have one to go (Hawaii you're next!). We often get asked… "How do you all travel so much?". On this week's episode, we are sharing our travel tips from where we book flights, to our favorite airlines, and what we do in a new city. Music "Sunny" by Bensound.com.

What We Talked about in this Episode:

All the things you can do in Billy's favorite city… Philadelphia, where this episode was recorded
How our dream list DOES NOT shape our travel plans for a year
- Our travel picks us, based on deals and cheap flights
The three places we go to every year
Our favorite websites and apps for finding great deals
- Escape ATX and Cheap DFW, there are sister sites for other cities
- Kayak app, explore map and what places are affordable
- Hopper app, to monitor flights and the best time book
The two airlines we try to book all flights on maximize points
- Southwest Airlines is our BFF
- American is a favorite too
How we spend on time when we travel
- Food/restaurants dictate our schedule
- Strive to come back energized and ready to return home
- We kick off trips by asking for recommendations on Facebook
- We don't pre-pick a lot of restaurants
- We love to wander around cities and explore neighborhood
- Relaxing! Especially at a spa
- Stay up to date on work

Episode 19: We Do Gratitudes Nov 19, 2018

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It's turkey-time. The Thanksgiving holiday has us reflecting on 2018 and all that we are thankful for this year. We start off by saying what we are thankful for in each other and in our relationship. As we move on to other things, you'll hear some more of our shared gratitudes. We believe that leaders must have an attitude of gratitude and we try to model that in this episode. Be sure to count your blessings this year! Music "Sunny" by Bensound.com.

What We Talked about in this Episode:

What we are grateful for in our relationship
- Ashley is grateful for Billy constantly promoting and recognizing accomplishments aka being her Director of PR
- Billy is thankful for Ashley's empathy and desire to understand others, it encourages Billy to do the same
- Ashley is thankful for Billy's help and support with her sister's upcoming wedding
- Billy is grateful for for Ashley calling him in his BS and balancing him out
- Ashley is grateful for Billy being a good spirit about her annoying habits, like forgetfulness
- Billy is thankful for Ashley working with him on his lack of intimacy
- Ashley is grateful for Billy always being a driver, and Billy is thankful for Ashley embracing it
- - We would not have our podcast without Billy's little push
Other gratitudes
- Our parents, they truly are our best friends!
- Other family relationships improving
- Healthier eating habits thanks to doing the Whole30 diet
- - Helped us knock some bad habits, and eat a little better
- Our travels, especially the FOUR trips we got to do this year with family
- Careers we love and are deeply passionate about
- Billy is ESPECIALLY thankful for the Philadelphia Eagles winning the Super Bowl
- - Also, the maturity in our relationship that allowed Billy to go, and Ashley to stay home
- and immensely thankful to all of you, our listeners!!

Episode 18: Stepping Up and Leaning In Nov 12, 2018

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We're getting vulnerable as we discuss our struggles to see ourselves as the leaders as others see us. Billy first struggled with identity when he started his business and hired his dad (who he also shares a name with!). Ashley's struggle with identity came when we first got married. We now embrace our roles as leaders in our community but have moments of weakness when Imposter Syndrome sneaks in. We share the ways we have overcome this and how we continue to step up/lean in as leaders. Music "Sunny" by Bensound.com.

What We Talked about in this Episode:

How Ashley struggled with identity early in our relationship
- Ashley moved to Austin, TX for Billy and early on was being introduced or recognized by others as Billy's significant other
- Billy didn't always understand but encouraged her to get out and create her own identity
- Through new jobs, Ashley found more of her identity because they pushed her out in the Austin community
Billy reflects on similar situations with struggling with identity
- When he started his business, he sold his dad to clients and hid behind him
- On the rare occasion they work with clients together now, Billy still defers to his dad despite both being seen as leadership experts
- Also, as the youngest of 4 siblings Billy often had to live up to great expectations from teachers
- The comparisons served as motivation to be his best unique self
How Imposter Syndrome snuck in years later for Ashley
- Ashley struggled with accepting public recognition for her leadership in Austin
- It was hard to hear encouragement from her mom and Billy, but a colleague motivated her to think "if you aren't recognizing yourself as a leader, what is the example you are setting for everyone else who looks up to you?"
Billy's turning point in his leadership journey
- At a young age, Billy was asked to put together a board of young professionals for a local university
- Now thinks back, and says "Ok, he believed in me, that means I can handle pretty much anything"
How leaders need to continue to step up
- Embrace the leadership roles others put you in
- Recognize the voices that are missing from the conversation and invite them in
- As leaders, we need to build up other leaders
- Stop finding reasons to say no, and just say YES

Episode 17: We Do Love Languages Nov 05, 2018

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To celebrate our 7th anniversary, we dig into the results of our love languages assessment. In the Gary Chapman book, The 5 Love Languages describes the ways people speak and understand emotional love. We talk through our top languages (and least prominent languages) and laugh through our discussion of examples we find in our relationship. Music "Sunny" by Bensound.com.

What We Talked about in this Episode:

We wish each other a Happy Anniversary
- We're celebrating seven years at the the release of this episode
We dive into The 5 Love Languages
- Free assessment
- Gary Chapman book
Billy's top love language: Acts of Service
- He scored a 9 out of 12
- How Billy shows love this way
- Billy recognizes ways Ashley does this, that really appreciates
Ashley's top love language: Physical Touch
- She scored a 12 of 12, meanwhile Billy scored a 0
- Ways this is shown in our relationship
- - our bedtime routine
  - walking together
  - "redoing" hugs and kisses
What love language is both our #2
Our 5th (and lowest) love language

Episode 16: Inspiring Duos - Heath and Alyssa Padgett Oct 29, 2018

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In this episode of I Do, We Do, we interview our second duo, Heath and Alyssa Padgett. Heath and Alyssa are full-time RVers who have been living and working on the road for almost five years. We chat with them about how they work together and compliment each other with their different styles. We also hear about their travels and favorite spots. Music "Sunny" by Bensound.com.

About Heath and Alyssa Padgett:

Heath and Alyssa have been married since May of 2014. After graduating college and working in jobs that they weren't too crazy about, Heath and Alyssa knew that they wanted to jumpstart their marriage and careers into something that they were more passionate about. Together, they wanted to establish a time to be more creative so that they could put their passion for writing and video to use. Four days after their marriage, they hit the road in an old RV, left their jobs, and have been in business with their own start-up at heathandalyssa.com interviewing travelers and hosting their annual RV Entrepreneur Summit for almost five years now. Not only do their travels include all fifty states of the U.S., but international places like New Zealand, Australia, French Polynesia, and Canada are included as well. Although they are currently residing in Texas, they're still operating their successful start-up.

What We Talked about in this Episode:

We asked Heath and Alyssa to share their similarities and differences and how their difference complement each other
- "We have a lot of the same interests"
- - we love making videos
  - we love writing
  - we are very creative
  - we both are very entrepreneurial
- "We have common values in what we want to pursue in life, what 'work' looks like, and what 'meaning' looks like, but I think how we carry out those values in our work/job is polar opposite"
- - Heath is more the dreamer whereas Alyssa is more of the doer and the one in the details
  - - "she makes sure that everything we say we're going to do gets carried out"
    - "she's very much like the organizer of our annual RV Entrepreneur Summit, but it was my idea to start the conference"
- "I think it's been very helpful how we're different, because it bleeds over areas where I know I'm not as good"
- - "We have very different shopping habits"
  - - Heath always wants to buy and shop for all the nicest, shiniest, and finest things
    - Because Alyssa is very frugal, she reminds Heath to be frugal
We asked Heath and Alyssa to share their personality assessment results
- They shared their Enneagram results
- - "Worst case scenario is that we could be workaholics, but we're known to be a 'power' couple based on Enneagram results"
- They shared their StrengthsFinder results
- - Heath's strongest strength was Optimism
  - Alyssa recalls her strongest strengths were Responsibility and Input
- They shared their Love Languages results
- - Alyssa's most dominant love language is Acts of Service
  - Heath's most dominant love language is Quality Time
- We share our Love Language results
- - Ashley's most dominant love language is Physical Touch followed by Quality Time
  - Billy's least dominate love language style is Physical Touch (he scored a 0)
We asked Heath and Alyssa to share their story of what inspired them to start working together to build their business together
- Necessity
- They both like to spend time together and want to spend time together as much as possible
We asked Heath and Alyssa to share their greatest collaboration story or when they feel they collaborate very well together
- They said when it comes to planning their annual RV Entrepreneur Summit that's when they feel they really collaborate well
We asked Heath and Alyssa what a typical day is like when they are together
- Heath Wakes up
- Heath brings Alyssa coffee
- "Heath is a big reader and journaler so we both start our day off reading"
- Alyssa likes to do yoga or go outside and maybe walk
- Usually 9:30 - 10 we'll start our work day by putting on headphones and give each other space for our work
We asked Heath and Alyssa what life in an RV is like and asked them to share the benefits of living in an RV
- Life has been different living in an RV throughout the years
- - Year 1: "We were living life with constant adventure, spontaneousness, a lot of uncertainty" (since they took the risk of leaving their first jobs)
  - Year 2: "Living in an RV is really cheap."
  - - "We stayed in one place and started paying down debt and started growing our business"
We asked them to share their travel recommendations
- Heath recommended New Zealand
- Alyssa stayed in the US and said Grand Teton National Park

Episode 15: The Time Management Myth Oct 22, 2018

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In this episode of I Do, We Do, we are talking all things time management! Or really self-management because time is finite and can't be managed. For us, and many millennials, there is no work/life balance - the lines between the two are blurred. We share the many ways we blur the lines and how we manage to stay organized. Music "Sunny" by Bensound.com.

What we talked about in this episode:

Time management myth
- There is no such thing as time management
- Time is finite, so it is impossible to manage
- But we can manage ourselves
Millennials and work/life balance
- Our generation (Millennials) are blurring the lines between the two
- Work life and personal life are intertwined
- How technology plays a (positive) role in this
The different ways work and life are integrated for us
- Working from home
- Our podcast
- Ashley's sister - at one point she was a sister, an employee, AND a roommate
- Our social life!
- Our travels
How do we manage ourselves?
- Ashley utilizes:
- - Her bullet journal helps keep everything organized in one place
  - Time blocking creates more hours in the day by m
- Billy utilizes:
- - A written planner, more recently the macbook stickies
- Together we use:
- - Google
  - - We share our Google calendars
    - Google Drive allows us to access documents from any computer, or mobile device
  - Actual face to face communication
- We are going into further detail over on our blog
- - Check out Our Morning Routines

Episode 14: Becoming Bashley - Careers Oct 15, 2018

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In this episode of I Do, We Do, we go waaaay back! We talk about how our nickname, Bashley came to be. Then we chat about how we each made our first dollar. Spoiler alert… We made our first buck in way different ways. Ashley babysat and Billy was a professional speaker (at 7!). We discuss the rest of the jobs we each have had over our lives and get all the way to the present. We also share some lessons learned from all those jobs. Music "Sunny" by Bensound.com.

What We Talked About in this Episode:

We each share how we made our first dollar, essentially what our first jobs were.
- Billy was actually a professional speaker. He made his first speech at 7 and made $20. He then spoke throughout his entire childhood well into college earning money for most of those speeches. He learned a ton from this experience.
- Ashley started babysitting at 12 and continued into college. This is how she made the most money before getting her first jobs out of college. She learn a lot of teaching through this experience and it confirmed her passion for youth and education.

Ashley's Job History

Babysitting - Age 12-23
A brief 2 week stint in retail in high school - listen to the episode in for this story!
Four internships in college including one with TCU Athletics working in media and marketing. The others we in non-profits which helped groom her for her career.
First job out of college was at Big Brothers Big Sisters as a Programs and Events Specialist. This was as an Americorps Vista and it was a 12 month commitment.
She moved to Austin after this position ended for Billy and her official career in education began.
She worked in Admissions at Concordia University Texas.
She then moved on to Fundraising and Development at San Juan Diego Catholic High School.
She wrapped up her MBA and switched jobs again staying in Development this time at the Hispanic Scholarship Consortium (her current employer).
She was then named Executive Director and still holds that role.

Billy's Job History

Professional Speaker - Age 7 to present
Target - Age 17 (seasonal position) - He learned about collaboration and also became quite frustrated in this brief role.
Meals on Wheels - Age 18-19 - He worked as an Assessor going into the homes of elderly making sure they were still eligible for meals. He created a simpler system that allowed him to spend less time on paperwork and more time with people. His mom worked at Meals on Wheels for 20+ years. This role continued to build his heart for service.
Student Worker - Age 19-20 - He did admin work in the School of Humanities at St. Edward's University. He shared an interesting story about how this position ended.
Assistant Publicist - Age 21 - Worked for a book publicity company and learned how to promote authors. This helped him with his own books. He also booked an interview with the New York Times for an author which no other intern ever really did.
Home Depot - Age 20-21 - Worked as a Cashier and won Cashier of the Month. Learn a lot about how many people did not take work seriously. Turned down a promotion.
Promotions Associate for promotions company working with brands like Starbucks - Age 21
Marketing Manager - Age 21 - Managed marketing and publicity for new author and for a leadership development company.
At 21 in his last semester of college he started SOS Leadership, his current company and they have been going strong ever since. The continue to evolve and recently celebrated their 10 year anniversary. SOS helps companies get better results through people.

Episode 13: We Do a Dreams Discussion Oct 08, 2018

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In this episode of I Do, We Do, we each share and discuss 10 new dreams and work them out together in order to add to our official combined Dream List. In a previous episode we discussed goal setting and how dreaming is the first step, but many have reached out to us with issues coming up with dreams. Hopefully hearing us go through this process will show you just how simple it is.

Music "Sunny" by Bensound.com.

What We Talked About in this Episode:

We each share and discuss our 10 dreams

Ashley's Dream List

See the Northern lights
Take a trip with both sets of parents... and pick up the tab
Take an immersion trip into a cultural trip (like SBE)
Learn Spanish
Make a large philanthropic gift somewhere
Own property = (i.e. owning a building downtown, a chunk of land, etc.)
Have an impact on education policy; provide a lot of testimony like policy change locally, at the state, or national level
Speak to a large group of people (thousands)
Make a career change for the challenge
Host an international exchange student

Billy's Dream List

Live in Center City Philadelphia
Go to the Kentucky Derby
Live in another country
Write a novel (wrote 4 business leadership related books)
Star in a musical
Own a Philly sports team
Make a 6 figure donation
Play a basketball game in the Palestra arena in Philadelphia
Have a beer with Chase Utley
Run for political office
- "We talk a lot about our problems, we complain a lot about our problems, but rarely will people step up and do something to put a stop that problem.'

Added to Combined Dream List

Take a vacation with both sets parents... and pick up the tab
Spend a significant amount of time in another country to culturally immerse ourselves
See the northern lights
Go to Kentucky Derby
Learn Spanish
Speak to a large crowd together → turn into a goal
Make a 6 figure gift
House an international student

"Have an open-mind. Be excited for your partner's dreams. Push them. It's okay to question them a little bit, but don't tear them down right away."

Ashley is motivated by Will Smith's recent YouTube video, because he preaches the importance of how you should do things that scare you so that you'll grow

"If you can be disciplined and write down everything you truly want to do and discuss it with your partner, it leads to a lot of "ah-hah" moments."

"It's not about whether you need more of in life, because you should be happy with who you are and where you are. This is about whether or not you want something more and if you want more then you really are searching for growth."

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