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Discovering Infidelity - Navigating Divorce Sep 04, 2019

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We are discussing the tender topic of discovering infidelity today and with us is C.J. Grace, author of "The Adulterer's Wife: How to thrive whether you stay or not." During today's show we'll support you to look at three aspects of confronting infidelity so you will understand how to give yourself the space to get clear before taking action about staying, leaving, or kicking your spouse out. We will also share tools to help you heal from the hurt and design your path forward so that regardless of your eventual choice, you'll emerge more confident and clear in yourself and capable of creating a future of your design

C.J. shares a few of the gems in her book which is a perfect resource to "tease apart the emotional knots you're experiencing, step back to view your situation with some distance, and understand the what and why of your options - she provides all with the perfect amount of irreverent humor and wisdom."

For more information on Karen McMahon and Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.JourneyBeyondDivorce.com

Child Support If You're Not Married Sep 03, 2019

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Today, many couples choose to live together without being married and have a child together. The question becomes, what happens if you split up? Will you have to pay spousal and child support as if you were a married couple?

Attorney, Henry Gornbein helps sort through the legal questions in what used to be referred to as a "common law" marriage and guide you through the process.

For more information on Henry, visit: https://www.lippittokeefe.com

For more information on Henry's Gracefully Greying TV show, visit: https://www.nrmstreamcast.com/lifestyles-page/gracefully-greying/

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Rekindle Confidence During Divorce - Step 7 Sep 02, 2019

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(Listener Note: This is Step #7 of this 12 step series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order).

Everyone divorcing has a particular version or story of what happened to their marriage and why. This story is usually from a singular personal perspective, yours. Your spouse has another story, also singular and personal. Unless your spouse is truly delusional, both stories have a basis in truth yet neither encompasses a whole truth.

In Step 7 Karen and Lisa explore the concept of "story" as differentiated from "what actually happened". They provide practices and skills that allow you to become aware of your story as only one of a number of versions so you can begin to own your part in the unfolding and unraveling of your marriage with compassion and understanding.

As you begin to question your story and look at other ways of interpreting the personalities and events involved, there is a freedom to recognize your role in what happened. By stepping out of your story and beginning to own your role you open up the possibility of learning and growing through understanding rather than being frozen in place by judgement.

Explore ways to detach from your story, free yourself from being a victim of circumstances, recognize and change behaviors that have not been working for you, find acceptance and forgiveness for both yourself and your imperfect companion, and enjoy a broader range of choices and options that lay hidden behind your story. Simply, you will meet the perspectives and tools that will allow you to grow and heal through your pain.

Grab your FREE 12 Step Flash Guide at www.divorcerecoverylifeline.com

For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com.

Conscious Living During Divorce: The Key to Positive Change Sep 01, 2019

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In this episode of Divorce Recovery, Divorce/Life Coach, Shelley Stile teaches us how not to distort the reality of our situation.

When we are living our lives in a state of true awareness wherein we are truly conscious of our actions, we can free ourselves from reactive, self defeating behavior and realize our personal best. Unfortunately, although we may think that we make conscious decisions; in reality our unconscious mind impacts our behavior. Our actions are therefore not truly under our control. We can learn to recognize the unconscious, that part of our mind that has great power over much of our actions without us even being aware of its existence. In doing so, we can diminish its power over us.

When we live on a conscious level, we are as alert to what is happening as a deer in the woods who hears something unknown. We insure that our actions, our decisions, our communications are not influenced by the myriad filters we apply to life. We don't look through rose colored or black glasses; we choose to look through crystal clear ones that do not distort reality.

In this program we learn how to recognize when we slip into unconsciousness, thereby training ourselves to be more and more conscious of what is really happening. We free ourselves from, doing the same things over and over again. We learn from our heightened sense of awareness. We begin to see things differently, in a much more objective and clear way.

Dealing With His Wife's Affair - Dan's Story Pt. 1 Aug 31, 2019

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In this episode of Beyond Infidelity we welcome Dan, a man who survived his former wife's affair and today lives a life that he describes as "extremely satisfying and full of adventure".

In this podcast Dan bravely shares his recovery story, highlighting the things he did that he found helpful as well as what to avoid. All this in hopes that you may benefit from Dan's journey and as a result experience less pain and recover more quickly.

For more on David Feder, visit: wwwCloseConnections.ca

Impact of Social Media Indiscretions and Text Messages During Divorce Aug 30, 2019

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New communications technology has changed the way many divorce cases are tried these days.

Prior to the internet with its chat rooms and pornography, social media websites, such as Facebook, and cell phones with text messaging, proving a partner's infidelity or financial indiscretions was a difficult task.

Today, it's quite common during a divorce to subpoena the contents of a spouse's computer, cell phone records and text messages. You've probably heard of politicians and celebrities being brought down, in part, by what was discovered in their email, text messages or internet browsing history.

In today's program, family law attorney, Henry Gornbein, and I discuss the fall-out of today's technology and address how the discovery of this information can affect a marriage and, ultimately, a divorce.

We'll take a look at this from a legal perspective pertaining to your right to privacy, and we'll provide strong advice regarding the use of this new communications medium during a divorce.

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Divorcing with Teenagers Aug 30, 2019

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Divorce is never easy, and divorcing with children of any age makes it that much more difficult.

Most information on divorce where children are involved is directed to families with younger children. This program takes a look at the challenges of divorcing when your children are in their teens and twenties.

Psychologist Dr. Larry Friedberg is our guest and provides helpful insight for parents going through divorce with older children.

Topics Include:

How Custody Issues Change as Kids Grow Older, Dealing with Your Kids' Anger and Resentment, Co-Parenting, Understanding How your Kids are Feeling, Why Communicating with Your Ex is Critical, and more.

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Escape the Battle of Divorce - Step 6 Aug 30, 2019

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(Listener Note: This is Step #6 of this 12 step series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order).

I keep getting stuck in what was. 2 tools to shift your gaze from the rear view mirror to the front windshield during divorce. With Karen McMahon and Sheila Knopp.

It is both normal and easy to label ourselves and / or our spouse as bad or wrong during divorce. We can live in regret or with rose color glasses as we keep our eyes glued to the rear view mirror. Our judgement of the past, which is often unconscious thought behavior, locks us into the hurt and pain that we so deeply want to escape.

Explore a new practice of Curiosity. Consider what might happen if you didn't firmly believe you knew everything… the why and how, and the motivation or thought behind every action.

While our judgement keeps us stuck in old thought patterns that add to our suffering, curiosity opens the possibility for new learning, growth and healing. Consider how letting go of your judgement of the past enables you to embrace the possibility of the future.

Grab your FREE 12 Step Flash Guide at www.divorcerecoverylifeline.com

For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com.

The Power of Forgiveness during Divorce Aug 30, 2019

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Forgiveness is a miraculous act that serves as a release valve that propels us forward into a new life after divorce. To forgive is to be truly free, to be unencumbered by the past. The problem or challenge with forgiveness is that it is very difficult and oftentimes near impossible for us to go there, especially if we are leaving an abusive relationship of some sort. How can we forgive really bad behavior? How can we forgive someone who has wronged or betrayed us?

There are two important elements of forgiveness: what it is and what it gives to us. Forgiveness is the ability to let go of blames, resentments, upsets and negative emotions we hold against a particular person. In order to achieve forgiveness, we go through a process that begins by separating the person who we are forgiving from their behavior. We do so because forgiveness does not mean that we condone someone's bad behavior. We don't.

Here is the greatest gift of all: self-forgiveness. By forgiving someone else, you also forgive yourself. You can stop beating yourself up. You can see your own inner child who desperately needs your love and compassion, not your constant judgment and criticism. You can return to state of wholeness. You can have the freedom and power to create your best life possible.

Join Shelley Stile in this episode of Divorce Recovery on Divorce Source Radio and learn how forgiveness can move you towards a healthier and happier new you.

Personality Disorders and Affairs Part 1 Aug 30, 2019

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David Feder returns with another episode of The Anatomy of An Affair on Divorce Source Radio to discuss personality disorders and affairs.

Many people suffer some form of personality disorder whether it be Borderline Personality or Narcissistic Disorder, Bipolar, or one of the many other types of mental illnesses that affect an individual's ability to form healthy relationships.

Some of these illnesses can even be the direct cause of a partner straying and becoming unfaithful. David explains how mental illness might play out during an affair and provides advice for the hurt partner dealing with the fallout.

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