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Accelerate Trust During and Beyond Divorce - Step 10 Sep 13, 2019

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(Listener Note: This is Episode #10 of this twelve-part series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order).

Step 10 discusses trust and tuning inward to access one of the greatest resources we have - our own inner, intuitive guidance and wisdom. There are people in our lives that we turn to for guidance and wisdom when we are faced with uncertainty and important decisions. This is very valuable. AND there are so many times when we hear another's advice and know it's just not right for us. There's no one who knows more about you, your situation, your values, your strengths and vulnerabilities than YOU.

Wouldn't it be great to know that you have inside you all the resources and wisdom you need to come up with the best course of action to take in any situation? The key lies in accessing more of your discernment process than the logical mind or gathering more and more data points.

Join us as we consider our intuition, what it is, how it shows up, what gets in the way of our accepting it as an important part of our thinking and decision making process, what is possible when we pay attention to it, and the consequences of ignoring the intuitive messages we receive. There is a lot of literature written about how to distinguish the voice of your inner guidance or intuition from the voice of fear, contraction, or your inner critic.

Learn ways you can distinguish the source of that voice in your head saying "Yes, let's do it!"...or "NO!!" Discover steps for cultivating your intuition so that it becomes a strength that you can learn to trust and rely upon.

Grab your FREE 12 Step Flash Guide at www.divorcerecoverylifeline.com

For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: wwwjbddivorcesupport.com.

Is Your Ex a Narcissist or Just an Asshole? Sep 10, 2019

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Narcissism used to be recognized as a mental disorder, according to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, or DMS, Manual. In the revised DMS-Five edition, narcissism will no longer be considered a mental disorder, prompting the question, "If my ex isn't a certifiable narcissist, is he/she just an asshole?" Are these labels one and the same?

Dr. Banschick breaks it down for us and explains narcissism as we once knew it. He then explains how one may not be a narcissist, but rather, a selfish, self-centered asshole. If you think you have been dealing with this type of person, this is a show for you.

For more information on Dr. Banschick, visit: www.TheIntelligentDivorce.com.

A Man's Guide to Divorce Sep 10, 2019

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In this episode, we discuss divorce from a man's point of view and our guest is David Pisarra, Esq., the founder and president of the Santa Monica, CA-based law office Pisarra and Grist as well as Men's Family Law and www.MensFamilyLaw.com established specifically for men to receive expert legal representation in divorce and custody proceedings while providing support programs and counseling designed to address their particular needs.

Topics in the program include:

4-Steps to protect yourself during your divorce
Domestic violence accusations
How to improve your chance of receiving equal custody of your children
Dealing with anger and moving on with your life
And much more.

A Woman's Guide to Divorce Sep 10, 2019

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Divorce is a stressful and unsettling situation. At minimum, a major relationship is ending, all sorts of your normal routines are upset, and along with the stress of transition are the legal hoops we have to jump through before things can be resolved. There are also volatile emotions that are frequently associated with divorce. Add all of these this together - and you have a difficult situation to deal with.

In today's program we feature issues that women face during a divorce and our guest is Dennis Zamplas, founder of The Law Firm of Victoria, dedicated to representing women only in divorce and other family law matters.

Topics in the program include:

Do men have an advantage over women in divorce
Does it matter who files for divorce first?
Can the wife move out of the house with her kids before the divorce is final?
Is it possible to have the husband ordered out of the home?
If the husband has existing debt, will that debt be shared with the wife after divorce
Child custody and parenting time
Spousal and child Support
What to do if your husband has had an affair
And much more

Overcome the Pain of Divorce - Step 9 Sep 09, 2019

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(Listener Note: This is Step #9 of this 12 step series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order).

It is normal to feel hurt, anger, blame and resentment while going through divorce. It is a devastating and traumatic transition, one that we all resist and that no one escapes without experiencing these painful feelings at some point in the process. Karen McMahon and Karen Basmagy discuss the pitfalls of living in resistance and the benefits of learning to accept what is.

When we feel stuck and overwhelmed, it is a red flag that we are resisting what is happening to our lives.

It sounds something like, "This isn't happening!", "I can't believe s/he is doing this!", "It wasn't supposed to be this way!", "This is all my/his/her fault". When we are in resistance, we remain stuck in blame and disbelief and unable to move forward. We unable to see our part in our dissolving marriage and unwilling to consider the possibility in life after divorce. Resistance adds more stress and tension into an already difficult situation.

The key to stepping into the possibility that your future holds is to learn to accept: accept the choices you made, accept the way your spouse behaves, accept that you marriage is dissolving and the divorce is happening.

By resisting, nothing changes except that it is harder and more stressful. By accepting, we begin to move through the hard time. Acceptance opens up choices and we can see more possibility with each decision we make. Acceptance enables us to channel our energy into what we do have control over. Listen in and follow the suggested action steps to help you move through your divorce.

Grab your FREE 12 Step Flash Guide at www.divorcerecoverylifeline.com

For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.Jbddivorcesupport.com.

Finding Happiness During Divorce Sep 07, 2019

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Is it possible to remain happy as you face one of the most challenging times in your life?

Our guest, Susan Pease Gadoua is the founder and Executive Director of the Transition Institute of Marin, specializing in meeting the needs of separating and divorcing men and women. We explore the importance of understanding your own needs, how to find your happiness, and the meaning of loving yourself. It's an enlightening and engaging conversation, tune in to learn how to find the power of happiness.

Topics in this program include:

The meaning of happiness
What it means to love yourself, to be open to loving and healthy relationships
Preparing yourself emotionally for a great relationship
Why people get stuck in relationship traps – and being with the same personality type
Avoiding the relationship trap mistakes and downfalls
The risk of a rebound relationship

A Judge's Verdict on the Bitter Realities of Family Court Sep 07, 2019

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Tug of War

A Judge's Verdict on Separation, Custody Battles, and the Bitter Realities of Family Court

There are many myths and misconceptions about what goes on in a Court Room. When it comes to justice, all too often couples are disappointed by the outcome – and end up with large legal bills, family drama which causes an all out war, and a resolution that leaves couples disillusioned. Our guest, Justice Harvey Brownstone, a sitting court judge, best-selling author, and host of Family Matters TV (http://www.familymatterstv.com/); helps us understand what really goes on inside the court room, and a judge's mind. Justice Brownstone has been called a maverick judge who is a pioneer that is unilaterally changing the public image of the judiciary. This honest and thought provoking interview will change the way you think about litigation, and how you work through the divorce process. We are fortunate to have Justice Brownstone share his thoughts and enlighten listeners as to what really goes on in Court, and what really matters.

Topics in this program include:

· The impact of litigation on the family

· What is really in your children's best interest

· The importance of a legal consultation

· A frank discussion about divorce, relationships and so much more

Heroin, Hurricanes, and Healing Sep 06, 2019

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Toni and Steve are back together after a 5-year break. Unfortunately, Steve has a cold, but that doesn't stop the duo from getting their new show off the ground.

More great shows to follow.

Practice Presence Throughout Divorce - Step 8 Sep 06, 2019

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(Listener Note: This is Step #8 of this 12 step series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order).

Divorce is a time of upheaval and chaos. Life as you've known it is changing daily in ways small and large. You are responsible for many to do's to manage the change. Exactly where all this change is leading is unknowable yet your mind is in overload attempting to predict your future or figure out the past. In Step 8 we discuss the importance of leading your head to where your feet are or, bringing yourself to and staying present in the moment.

It is an ingrained habit of mind to time travel to attempt to figure out the unknowable. When we get lost in reflections of the past or fears projected onto our futures we waste the present by disabling our ability to be effective in the one place that is real and where we have power, right here and right now.

Staying present in the moment eliminates the feelings of powerlessness that so many individuals experience during divorce. Easily accessible tools and effective practices are available to bring you back to, and keep you in present moment awareness. In this present moment that you are powerful to choose and take considered and strategic actions to navigate wisely and well through your divorce as well as the rest of your life.

Understand how you are intensifying that pain, how to begin minimizing it, and how to use present moment awareness to make your journey through divorce and beyond as easy and pleasurable as possible.

Grab your FREE 12 Step Flash Guide at www.divorcerecoverylifeline.com

For more information Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com.

Divorcing with Good Karma Sep 06, 2019

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Positive. Life-enhancing. Enlightening. Compassionate. These words are seldom associated with divorce. Words that typically come to mind are: Painful. Agonizing. Resentful. Bitter. Our guest, domestic relations judge and best-selling author Judge Michele Lowrance enlightens listeners how people can attain a positive outlook, achieve forgiveness, and move on with a mended soul (http://thegoodkarmadivorce.com/). Judge Lowrance has learned that there's a better way to handle divorce. So she came up with a plan to turn the negatives of divorce into positives. She explains the program in her book, The Good Karma Divorce: Avoid Litigation, Turn Negative Emotions into Positive Actions, and Get On with the Rest of Your Life.

Topics in this program include:

On court: An understanding what the court system can and cannot do – it can't rescue you, but perhaps it can encourage forgiveness.
On children: Ordinary parenting is not enough; parents need to adopt wisdom building skills for heroic parenting. Justice Lowrance asks: "What is more important for you to be right, or for your children to be happy?"
On forgiveness: In the beginning, you won't be ready to forgive. At this stage it is fine to let your emotions steep and give them room to breathe. Treat them like a flu that has to run its course. There is a necessary gestation period between anger and forgiveness.
Creating your soul searching party: developing your Personal Manifesto
The crucial things you have to know about having the "divorce conversation" with your soon to be former partner.

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