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Live Purposefully Post Divorce - Step 12 Sep 20, 2019

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(Listener Note: This is Episode #12 of this twelve-part series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order.)

Step 12 is the final and most exciting Step as we explore the unlimited possibility life offers when we intentionally create each step of our journey with a willingness and desire to engage fully - utilizing all our gifts, talents, skills and passion.

With each completed effort we joyfully surrender the outcome, having faith that whatever it is, it is the perfect and only next step for us. Upon that outcome being either in-line with our desired goal or different, we assess, integrate what we have learned, recalibrate our plans and re-engage.

This is the practice of SESI. SET your intention, ENGAGE 100%, SURRENDER the outcome, INTEGRATE your experience and lessons and begin again. We expect the unexpected. We are comfortable with change. We embrace all learning opportunities. We are fully alive, fully engaged and fully responsible. No worries. No regrets. Only the present moment and the belief in ourselves and in unlimited possibility.

Grab your FREE 12 Step Recovery Guide at www.divorcerecoverylifeline.com

For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.JourneyBeyondDivorce.com.

Check out our Next Series: Navigating Divorce - The Logistics with Journey Beyond Divorce!

The Anatomy of an Affair Sep 20, 2019

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Our guest, Emily Brown, is Director of Key Bridge Therapy & Mediation Center in Arlington, VA. (http://www.affairs-help.com/); works with couples, individuals, and families regarding the underlying issues in marriage, divorce, and betrayal. An extramarital affair is one of the most painful experiences that couples face, and one of the greatest challenges for helping professionals. Whether you are seeking assistance in your personal life or you are professional seeking information to better help clients, this is the show that provides the wisdom and guidance so many need. Emily is the author of Patterns of Infidelity and Their Treatment, and Affairs: A Guide to Working Through the Repercussions of Infidelity, and numerous articles on affairs.

Topics in this program include:

An in-depth look at the 6 different Affairs
How to rescue a marriage if there has been an Affair
Affair recovery: the process and insight
Debunking the myths and misconceptions about Affairs
Rebuilding trust
How to talk to your children about the Affair

Toxic Post Divorce Relationships Sep 19, 2019

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Our program deals with Toxic Post Divorce Relationships.

In this program, psychologist Dr. Larry Friedberg discusses how to deal with an unreasonable and angry ex. For some couples, divorce means the end of a relationship and they learn to move on with their lives in a healthy way for themselves and their children.

Then there's the group we're going to talk about today where for one or both partners of a divorce, the relationship and past problems continue and in some cases become even more toxic then when they were married. The sad part of this is for those with children. Children have had enough to deal with through the divorce process and if even one of the divorced partners chooses to continue the fight, it's their kids that are forced to pay the price.

How it Feels To Be Single... Again Sep 18, 2019

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Toni and Steve are back with another fun and enlightening episode of what it's like being single... AGAIN! Can you relate?

Topics include: 9/11 - A day we will never forget, Bad Ex's, Steve's new clothes and much more. Enjoy! Visit our Facebook page at: www.Facebook.com/BeingSingleRadio.com.

Overcoming Hurdles After an Affair Part 1 Sep 18, 2019

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Either you or your partner had an affair and you've made the decision to stay together. Yes, you can stay together and settle for a relationship that is OK, or with the help of David Feder who is an expert in treating infidelity, you can survive infidelity, rebuild your relationship and thrive.

In this episode of BEYOND INFIDELITY David Feder begins a 2-part review of some of what he coins, the common "recovery hurdles" that can interfere with the process of rebuilding your relationship after an affair.

Tune in to learn about what you should avoid so that you and your spouse can rebuild and have an extraordinary relationship. It begins here.

For more information about David Feder, go to closeconnections.ca, or you can speak with him by calling 416-315-5107.

Embrace the Unpredictable During and Beyond Divorce - Step 11 Sep 16, 2019

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Step 11 challenges you to utilize all you have learned in the previous ten steps to design and move towards your ideal post divorce life now, regardless of if you are pre, in the midst of, or post divorce. Put it together to create a more encompassing perspective and begin to experience life as an unpredictable adventure that you have the power to influence profoundly. By assuming full responsibility for your life, you can engage with a creative freedom and use your power to direct yourself towards the life you desire.

Receive a powerful navigation tool, the MIFR, which is both a broom and a life compass. It allows you to sweep your mind clean of old ways of reacting using Mindfulness to analyze any reaction before you take action. Using Inquiry to correct your course of action through Focus, and finally navigate to destinations of your choosing by Reframing your perspective.

The MIFR allows you to take action in ways supportive of your goals, sweeping away perspectives and actions that have undermined your success in the past.

Grab your FREE 12 Step Flash Guide at www.divorcerecoverylifeline.com

For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com.

Learning from Past Mistakes and Moving On to Healthy New Relationships Sep 15, 2019

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In episode #3 of Beyond Divorce, Susan Pease Gadoua discusses Not Missing the Lessons from Past Relationships & How to Not Make the Same Mistakes - Regardless of what went wrong in the marriage or past relationships, YOU were part of the equation.

The "stories" we have about what went wrong in past relationships are revealing as to where our unhealed wounds reside. If you don't work on healing them, they will show up in the next relationship too!

This program will help you better understand and identify patterns that may not have served you in past relationships and suggests how to do your inner work so that you can avoid these behaviors from resurfacing again in future relationships.

Learn the three reasons why people are attracted to each other and stay together
Learn the three dynamics at work in steering the relation-ship
Learn the three steps in breaking unhealthy relationship dynamics
Learn better communication skills and how not to shut your partner out
And much more

Claiming Responsibility and Taking Back Control of Your Life Sep 15, 2019

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If you find yourself stuck in a state of blaming your ex for most of the problems in your relationship, this program will help you understand how to take responsibility for your part of what went wrong in your relationship thus allowing you to take back control of your life.

Once you have moved into acceptance of your life, you can concentrate on moving on after divorce. Moving on means connecting with what is now important to you. Moving on means discovering what you truly want from life, what makes you come alive and brings you joy.

This episode of Divorce Recovery with Shelley Stile will help you become empowered, confident and enthusiastic to move on. You will learn to take full responsibility and control of your life and transform it into something wonderful and new.

Surviving a Narcissist Sep 14, 2019

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In this episode of The Intelligent Divorce with Mark Banschick, M.D., we discuss needy and clingy personality types. Have you been with this type of person or was it you that displayed these traits?

Neediness Pushes People Away: When the relationship is no longer in the "whirlwind romantic" stage, you may feel the need to cling too much in order to maintain what you had. "What's wrong?" "I feel like you are not there." Anxiety occurs because you sense a change, but you may be responding to something completely normal. It's a burden to have to deal with a clingy lover. "Everything is fine." Will you just stop it?" The irony is that as you push your concerns forward, you partner may just decide it is too much to deal with.

And if you're the clingy person and you are involved with a narcissist, this can turn explosive. There is no shame to admit that you are too clingy. And there are usually good reasons why you became that way; like anxieties in early childhood. Good relationships are worth a lot, so if you've got a tendency to be too needy, do something about it. Work on overcoming the wounds of the past, and make better relationships in the future.

While it's fine to test the temperature of a relationship, be aware that your neediness may undermine a stable bond between you and your partner. And, if you are that partner, you may want to listen to this show and have some empathy. There's a lot that can be done to keep your love fresh, with the help of counseling.

For more on Dr. Mark Banschick, visit: www.TheIntelligentDivorce.com.

Reducing Conflict During Divorce when a Spouse has a Personality Disorder Sep 14, 2019

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Our guest, William A. ("Bill") Eddy is an attorney, therapist and mediator, and the President of the High Conflict Institute based in Scottsdale, Arizona. (http://www.highconflictinstitute.com/). Bill helps us understand what personality disorder is and how to get along with someone who is narcissistic, has a border line personality disorder, or is a persistent blamer. They aren't just difficult people, they're the most difficult people. They file lawsuits, file complaints against professional licenses, gather negative advocates to support their position, cost employers lots of time & money, disrupt & distract, find a target of blame, and convince everyone that its never their fault!

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