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How I Reclaimed My Sanity, Self Esteem and My Life after My High Conflict Divorce Jul 20, 2020

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While navigating divorce, fear of the unknown often drives us to replace our uncertainty with a catastrophic worst case scenario about our future. However, our greatest fears rarely come true. Today's session is designed to provide you with hope and encouragement as you hear one woman's journey from fear and overwhelm to a post divorce life that is very different from what she feared.

Tune in as she shares the struggles she faced with her narcissistic ex, and how while he never changed, she changed so much that she rarely feels anxiety around interactions with him. Elle shares how she is living a peaceful and joyful life in spite of the fact that she has been divorced for 8 years, co-parenting / parallel parenting her school age child with his dad (and has many years left to go before her child is emancipated). Elle shares specific tools and strategies she received from coaching that you too can use to minimize the stress and tension in your situation.

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The Vital Role Forgiveness Plays in Healing with Gayle Reed Jul 07, 2020

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The psychological impact of living with a HCP crushes your self esteem often leaving you, the spouse insecure, reactive and bitter. Dr. Gayle Reed shares how forgiveness is a healing balm for the spouse of the HCP. She explains the traumatic impact of verbal and emotional abuse and the psychological defenses you use to manage the resulting anger, pain and confusion.

While forgiveness seems to be for the HCP, it is actually for you, the spouse. Forgiveness is not condoning, accepting, excusing or denying the abuse. Gayle takes us through a 4 phase process that helps you to uncover the impact of unforgiveness, examine the benefits of choosing forgiveness, begin the journey to forgive and the healing that journey invites and ultimately, how forgiveness, healing and growth is the cornerstone for finding meaning in the struggle with the HCP.

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How to Heal from Codependency (SLDD) Jun 23, 2020

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Today's episode is dedicated to your healing journey. Those of us who marry HCPs have our part in the dysfunction as we discussed in episode 2 - Divorcing A Narcissist: The Personality Disorders and Dysfunctional Dance of High Conflict Marriages.

We are excited to have Ross Rosenberg with us again today to share deeply effective strategies for healing from codependency, a self love deficiency disorder. Ross speaks passionately about how vital it is to heal trauma from childhood to gain the self love that was 'robbed' from your childhood.

As the spouse of the HCP, the promise for your future lies in keeping the focus on your healing and in changing behaviors that have not benefited you. If you struggle with this,we are here to support you.

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High Conflict Divorce: MAGIC Words that Get You What you Want from a Narcissist Jun 08, 2020

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As we began discussing in our last episode, communicating with a high conflict personality (HCP) is often frustrating and fruitless, and leaves us feeling angry, exhausted and unheard.

Today's episode offers a unique and powerful approach to communicating with a narcissist that enables you to protect your interests without conflict or drama! This strategy neutralizes combative and emotionally charged power struggles and inspires the narcissist to cooperate. (Get ready to take notes!)

Special guest Lindsey Ellison, is the author of Magic Words, a relationship coach and founder of Start Over Coaching. As a result of struggling to communicate with her narcissist ex-spouse and support her clients to do the same with theirs, Lindsey brilliantly applied her experience from her previous marketing career to design a simple yet powerful 5 step strategy to get you what you want from a narcissist.

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divorce conflict, high conflict personality, narcissist, journey beyond divorce, karen mcmahon, megan hunter, andrea larochelle, divorce negotiations, divorced life, divorce advice, divorced dad, divorced mom May 20, 2020

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Today's powerful episode gives you the strategies and tools needed to communicate more effectively with your spouse's high conflict personality. You have been struggling with criticism, deflection, blaming and black and white thinking. You have doubted your own version of reality, lost your self esteem and tried time and again to reason with your spouse to no end. What you didn't know was that communicating with a HCP requires a very different approach.

HCPs do not respond to logic. Their brains are wired differently which is why your reasoning was fuel to the fire of conflict you were trying to put out. You continually get hooked into his/her reality, react is frustration or discouragement with nothing changing

Today's guests, Megan Hunter and Andrea LaRochelle are experts in high conflict disputes and explain why your reasoning approach has not worked and what you need to do to communicate more effectively with the HCP in your life. Learn about the EAR and BIFF approaches that will forever change the way you interact and coparent with your HCP.

Divorcing a Narcissist - How To Protect Your Children May 05, 2020

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You kids have been experiencing conflict throughout the marriage, even if you think you have 'hidden' it from them. Now that a decision has been made to divorce, tensions will only rise. It is all the more important to focus on protecting your children now while navigating a high conflict divorce.

Deciding when, how and what to tell the kids about the divorce is just the beginning. Figuring out how to parent in the 'in between' while still living together is another sensitive topic that needs to be handled carefully. Then there is the possibility that you or your spouse may blame, criticize or bad mouth the other to the kids. This is always harmful to them and we discuss what you can do to minimize the damage.

Finally, the money earning parent may want to increase his/her time with the children. We discuss the importance of honoring and maintaining as much 'normalcy' as possible for your kids and handling any change with caution and clear communication, so they understand what is happening and why. Parenting post divorce may be equally challenging. Tune in to hear options for decision making and shared parenting time that puts the kids first.

Divorcing a Narcissist - How To Protect Your Children May 04, 2020

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Divorcing a Narcissist - Essential Legal Guidelines for Navigating a High Conflict Divorce Apr 21, 2020

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Entering the legal process of any divorce feels frightening and overwhelming. For those entering high conflict divorce, the fear and confusion is escalated due to years of living in a dysfunctional marriage and the complexities involved when divorcing a high conflict personality.

There is often a greater need to be in the court system due to the power imbalance in the relationship, the lack of transparency of one spouse, and the intimidation and bullying that repeatedly derails negotiations. For the high conflict divorce, it can be enormously valuable to take advantage of the court's ability to control the pace of the legal process, require a net worth statement and other financial documentation and include additional experts to help with custody and spousal support and asset distribution.

Today's episode is filled with vital information on how to hire the right attorney, what to expect throughout the process, the do's and don'ts of communicating with your high conflict spouse and the vital importance of setting realistic expectations around custody and finances. Information is power, today's show will empower you to navigate your divorce with greater clarity and confidence.

Divorcing a Narcissist - Strategies for Regaining Your Sanity Apr 07, 2020

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Living with a narcissist is 'crazy making'. Understanding your role in the ongoing insanity is vital in order to create lasting change. In order to navigate your divorce effectively and strategically and emerge confident and renewed, it is essential that you keep your focus on that which you have power over...your thoughts, feelings and behavior.

Today's episode invites you into a 'coaching experience' where we validate your reality of fear and uncertainty, of your self esteem and confidence having been chiseled away in your dysfunctional marriage. Tune in to access powerful strategies to begin to feel confident and empowered. Learn how futile many of your efforts of engaging with your spouse have been and how to let go of those behaviors. Receive new ways of thinking and being that lead you through your divorce with greater calm and clarity and invite you into a new and immensely more pleasing life experience.

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Divorce During Coronavirus Mar 24, 2020

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COVID-19 is impacting our lives in many ways. For many of our listeners, this virus is affecting their plans to divorce, or how they might be dealing with a past divorce.

Topics in the program include:

Filing for divorce during our current Covid-19 situation
How to deal with visitation during these times
Financial implications of divorce at the current time
Could current spousal support orders be modified if your ex's income changes due to loos of work
And more

Join Steve Peck and attorney, Henry Gornbein for answers to these and other questions regarding the legal side of divorce during the coronavirus outbreak.

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