Disrupting Divorce: Conversations for Women

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EP45: Strategic Preparation Before Filing for Divorce with Kristie Dye Mar 08, 2019

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In the process of divorce, the most important part is the very beginning. If you're planning to leave your spouse because it's unfair, suffocating and toxic to stay in a relationship with him, then it's time to plot out your exit strategy.

Today, we have Kristie Dye who was married for 15 years until she got divorced. She'll be sharing helpful tips and strategies to make sure you are prepared before you leave your partner.

In This Episode We Discuss:

Kristie Dye's story with her narcissistic ex-husband
How Kristie handled being in an abusive relationship
Tips and strategies before you go through a divorce
Strategic exit plan ideas
Helping women understand their strength when children are involved
Managing narcissistic behavior
Abuse is far more than somebody hitting you
Why Kristie choose to have divorce
Being kind to yourself
Don't be afraid to ask for support
Knowledge is power

"Good parents give their children roots and wings"

The best thing that you can do as a mother for your children is showing them how they should be treated and how they are to treat others.

Resources Mentioned:

Necessary Endings by Henry Cloud

Kristie Dye

Email: kristiedye@yahoo.com

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EP44: Coming Home to Yourself with Liberty Wilson Mar 01, 2019

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When you lose touch with yourself, you lose yourself in the world. — Eckhart Tolle

Have you ever been in a relationship where you felt powerless, you lose yourself in the process? Don't do this, don't do that. Rules keep adding up one after another.

You're not happy anymore. You want to break free and be you again. But how do you do that when you have children, bills, rents, and life, in general, to think about?

In this episode, Liberty, a multipotentialite creative, maker, and an artist, shares her story on how she got out of a relationship where she didn't feel safe to make her own decisions without repercussions. Now, she's happier and more connected with herself as she makes art that gives people hope and inspiration.

Fill yourself with the hope that better days will always come as you listen to her story in today's episode!

In This Episode We Discuss:

Liberty's married life story with her strict husband
Women's tolerance for pain
How your identity is not tied to a person, object or even your career
The camaraderie of women who've gone through tough times
Setting your intentions through vision boards
Liberty's community of women
Gigs, real estate, and art
Being present and not losing yourself

"Be easy. Take your time, you're coming home to yourself." ~Nayyirah Waheed

Resources Mentioned:

Nextdoor - free private social network for your neighborhood community

Marie Kondo

A New Earth: Awakening Your Life's Purpose

Liberty Wilson

Artist, Creator & Multipotentialite

Website: https://www.libertyshea.com/

Instagram

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EP43: The Other Side of Pain, Heartaches, and Fear with Nancy Towle Feb 22, 2019

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There is so much trepidation for a woman going through divorce alone. Half of the battle is getting the right people in the right place at the right time. It's hard to trust anyone (even your attorney) - and it gets tough when you don't have the support of the ones you consider close to you.

Nancy Towle is a licensed health insurance agent with HealthMarkets insurance agency. She helps individuals and families find the best plan for their budget, providing objective guidance and solutions.

In this episode, Nancy shares her story about how she didn't have anyone to run to during the days of her divorce. She was a victim, trapped in a relationship where she was made to feel useless. But despite all of the hardship, Nancy managed to get through it. She's a great example of what it's like to be on the other side.

In This Episode We Discuss:

Getting the right people to help you navigate through the divorce process
The importance of having someone to support you in your battles
Opportunities can arise even in uncertain times
Nancy's journey from hopelessness to restoration
Having faith that everything's going to be alright

"You gotta take a chance. Do what you love and the money will come" ~Nancy Towle

Resources Mentioned:

Nancy Towle

Licensed Health Insurance Agent

HealthMarkets Agent info

(414) 687-1687 | West Allis, WI 53227

Social Media: Facebook

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EP42: Healing Heartbreaks through Stories with Monica Rodriguez Feb 15, 2019

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Science shows us that heartbreak and mourning have neurobiological evidence of stress similar to someone who's been tortured as a prisoner of war. In most studies, women have the highest rates of depression. To cope with pain, women adjust.

But how do you heal through all the hurt that you've experienced?

Monica Rodriguez is a licensed Mental Health Therapist and also the owner and founder of On Purpose Psyche. She is very passionate about helping people, fostering them to grow in their mental health.

In this episode, Monica shares the importance of a story - the idea of telling ourselves stories to help us navigate our way through life. We like to project and personify unto other people. But know that you are writing your own story. How you re-write it in order to be happy and live your purpose is up to you.

Monica is offering a FREE initial consult for listeners of Divorced Women Conversations Podcast.

In This Episode We Discuss:

Helpful advice and tips for women who are going through a divorce
The importance of a story
The things that women can do to be more aware of the flaws that they tell to themselves
Personifying your depression
The awareness of being aware
Myths and Archetypes
Embracing the story and Rewriting it your way
How can you rewrite your own story
When consciousness comes, it's always painful

"There is no birth of consciousness without pain" ~Carl Jung

Until you are fully conscious of something in your life, why you are doing something, why a typical pattern keeps happening for you, transformation can't take place!

Resources Mentioned:

Carl Jung - Swiss psychiatrist and psychoanalyst who founded analytical psychology

The Tale of Bluebeard

The Story of Persophone

Monica Rodriguez

Mental Health Therapist | Founder of On Purpose Psyche

+1 262-490-3894 | LinkedIn

On Purpose Psyche

405 E Forest St, Oconomowoc, Wisconsin 53066, US

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EP41: Closing costs, Interest rates, and How Mortgages Work with Penny Charlson Feb 01, 2019

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Shopping for a home is a huge and tough thing to do, especially when you're a single mom or someone who's going through divorce. You're considering to buy a home but everything should still be within your budget range, arming yourself with knowledge over financial things and having someone to simplify things for you is the best thing you do.

Penny Charlson is a Mortgage Loan Expert and a Branch Manager. She has 12 years of experience as a real estate agent and have been in the mortgage business for more than 20 years. She's experienced with many different loan programs including refinancing, purchasing, and other transactions with unique circumstances and special challenges.

In this episode, Penny shares her knowledge about everything you need to know in the mortgage industry. She helps her clients by doing all the maths and educating them carefully to have a good understanding of the process, allowing them to make the best decisions.

Special offer: Penny is offering $500 off of closing costs.

In This Episode We Discuss:

How interest rates and closing cost are interrelated
Being creative in finding options
What constitutes "a total debt"
Doing the maths to have better options that'll best suit your needs and situation
Credit reports and using Credit Karma
Having patience and taking the time to educate yourself
The importance of face-to-face meeting
Pre-approval process and how it all works
Knowledge + Experience = Confidence to make good decisions

"There's a solution to every problem"

Resources Mentioned:

Credit Karma

Penny Charlson

Mortgage Loan Expert | Branch Manager

Facebook

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EP40: Having Self-Compassion, Compassion, and Being Resilient in times of Adversity with Jennifer Van Rossum Jan 25, 2019

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Resilience is defined as the ability to bounce back after adversity. It's like the pinnacle of mental health. Being able to endure and be resilient at the same time is a tough thing to do. The wonderful thing is, resilience can be taught.

Jennifer Van Rossum is a licensed Psycho Therapist in private practice at Cornerstone Counseling. She provides therapy to both teens and adults. Offering resilience and mental strength training.

In this episode, Jennifer talks about what it means to be really resilient. Her goal is to provide creative outlets to deepen personal awareness and growth that leads to a flourishing life.

In This Episode, We Discuss:

What it means to be resilient
Inner strengths of compassion and mindfulness
Having self-compassion and compassion
Practical things people can do to develop that self-compassion skill?
Loving kindness and meditation
Boundaries
When we build self-compassion, we're recognizing our own self-worth
Resilience training plus mental strength lifehacks and Strategies
Life is hard but we can do hard!

"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf" —Jon Kabat-Zinn

Our problems are often times opportunities

Resources Mentioned:

Jennifer Van Rossum

Cornerstone Counseling

741 N. Grand Ave. Ste. 302 Waukesha, WI 53186|262-789-1191

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EP39: Staging Your Home with Susan Dakins Jan 18, 2019

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When you're in the midst of the divorce process, you're probably considering to sell your home. And if you want to sell it quick, you got to let home staging come in.

Susan Dakins is a Sales Specialist who's also an Accredited Buyer Agents, a Residential Specialist, as well as Senior Real Estate Specialists. From analyzing the market data on how much your home is worth to preparing your home for staging, she helps spouses and individuals who are planning to sell their home.

Not everything is going to be easy or simple. Stress is surely to come, but don't lose hope and stay optimistic! There will always be a way. For the women going through divorce, you've got a lot on your plate and you want people on your side who're experts in what they do and knows when to push and when to step back.

Susan Dakins is offering a 1 hour consultation in preparing and staging your home for sale, timing the market and what to expect every step of the way.

In This Episode We Discuss:

How to get your home 'showroom' ready
What are the repairs needed to be made for optimal return on investment (ROI)
Knowing what's the high-end, low-end, and what to expect before you start investing
Timing the market
How Susan and her team deals with an uncooperative spouse or partner
Additional costs to staging your home
Realtors are like therapist, they talk people off the ledge and put the facts back in the table

Success isn't about the money you make, it's about the difference you make in people's lives." —Michelle Obama

Resources Mentioned:

Tidying Up (Netflix Show)

Susan Dakins

Sales Specialist, Senior Real Estate Specialist

susandakins@gmail.com|(262) 894-0623

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EP38: Cash Flow: Pros & Cons of Purchasing a Rental Property with Alyona Caravella, ABR, CHBA, CHBS, RENE Dec 28, 2018

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Buying or selling a home is not an easy transaction but it could get smoother if you have someone to it for you. And having this resource could save you a lot of time, money, and energy.

In this episode, Alyona shares how being a realtor allowed her to be in complete control of everything. Helping her achieve financial freedom, self-esteem, and good financial acumen.

Alyona Caravella is a realtor at RE/MAX and has been in the real estate industry since 2009. Helping families and individuals buy or sell a home. She's also an accredited buyer's agent and an expert in real estate negotiation. She helps anybody from start to finish - from planning to getting the resources ahead of time so her clients can enjoy ease and take charge of their cash flow and finances.

In This Episode We Discuss:

Alyona's story on becoming a realtor
Her experience being a landlord
Tips for women who are planning to dive into the real estate industry
Who you hire can make or break a business
What is a Potential Rental Area?
The pros and cons of becoming a landlord
What you can control as a landlord
Why buying an investment property is better than renting
Education & Planning is the key to successful rental income and investment
Stay ahead, plan ahead - Alyona Caravella

For every action, there's an equal and opposite reaction (Newton's Law)

When it comes to rentals and investment properties, there's as many plusses as there's minuses.

Resources Mentioned:

Research rental pricing and trends in your area on https://www.craigslist.org/ or https://www.rentometer.com

Access all state approval legal docs on https://wilegalblank.com

Neighborhood Services in Milwaukee County https://city.milwaukee.gov

Report cards for different types of schools or districts:

https://dpi.wi.gov/families-students/data/report-cards

RE/MAX

Alyona Caravella, ABR, CHBA, CHBS, RENE

Real Estate Agent

Re/Max

alyona@soldwisconsin.com

414.520.7780

Connect with her on LinkedIn Instagram Facebook

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EP37: FMLA and its relation to Divorce with Lindsay Lloyd Dec 21, 2018

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A lot of women struggle with juggling and balancing together their work and family especially when they're going through a divorce. In order to cope with such situation, it's really important to educate yourself on the rules, laws and guidelines in order to better navigate through an intimidating and complex process such as divorce.

Lindsay Lloyd is an HR Consultant Veteran with 15 years of experience on her hands. She's the owner of Leave Solutions, a company that provides FMLA services for companies when it comes to their employee leave admin without compromising the employee's experience.

She's very passionate about empowering women that are in the workplace. Providing them great tools to help them handle some of their work leave concerns. She does not only help companies but she also offers help and advice to people who have individual questions when it comes to FMLA.

In This Episode We Discuss:

What is FMLA and hoe does it relate to Divorce?
Requirements and qualification for an FMLA Leave
The benefits of EAP (Employee Assistance Program)
Health Insurance and Medical Benefits
The QDRO Process and splitting of accounts
Lindsay's insights on a woman who's on her husband's health insurance
Taking a loan doesn't hide the money, it's still on record and it's still gonna be a part of those total assets.
Asking your HR about certain stuff as you start to go through the divorce process

Having a good relationship with the HR department can be really helpful whether it's your employer or your spouse's employer.

Resources Mentioned:

COBRA Insurance

Lindsay Lloyd PHR, CEBS

HR Consultant | FMLA Consultant & Trainer

Email: Lindsay@leavesolutions.com | LinkedIn

Leave Solutions LinkedIn

Leave Solutions

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BONUS: Inhaling Light, Love, Life, and Joy - A 12-Minute Heart-Centered Meditation with Susan Pokorny Dec 19, 2018

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Today's episode is a BONUS! Christmas is a few days away. It's a great time where you get to reconnect with friends and love ones. But it can also cause you stress at the same time which shouldn't be.

Susan Pokorny is a wellness trainer with a focus on mind-body health. She's the owner of Pure Home and Body, and the best-selling author of the book Two Inches of Wool. She's also a certified yoga instructor since 2001 and is very passionate about trauma-sensitive yoga.

In this episode, Susan is going to share some heart-centered meditation that is very helpful in dialing down your stress hormones that arises when you are under high-intensity stress. Give your mind and body a break today. Feel better and meditate. Share it with the people around you too, and you'll feel better wherever you go.

In This Episode We Discuss:

Heart Meditation
Breath patterns and Inhaling light, love, life, and joy
How your body responds to stressors
Focusing on positive thoughts that feeds happiness to your soul
You have a choice with how your body is going to respond to the stresses around you

Resources Mentioned:

Book: Two Inches of Wool: The Simple Art of Self Care

Susan Pokorny

Wellness Coach

Pure Home and Body

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