Destined To Be

Choose Compassion Over the Stigma of Addiction on Destined to Be EP169

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Resources

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Families Against Narcotics

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Tim Grover

Is It Time to Invest in Yourself? - 168 Aug 10, 2021

Show notes

What does it mean to invest in yourself?

You have to pour into yourself to show up for other people. And it you keep putting it off, waiting until you get through the next season, the time will never come.

You will never put yourself first. You will never get out of your own way. And you will never have the life you want.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss the upcoming round of the 3-month Level Up VIP small group coaching program, explaining how it cultivates an environment of transformation where women truly want what's best for each other.

We describe how Level Up VIP is customized to what you're going through, who should sign up for the program and how it provides accountability and ongoing support.

Listen in for insight on building close friendships through a group like this and find out what to do if your partner is resistant to you investing in personal development.

Key Takeaways

The structure of the Level Up VIP small group coaching program for women

What you will get out of joining Level Up VIP

How Level Up VIP cultivates an environment of transformation

How the women in the program truly want what's best for each other

How the Level Up Hype Squads provide accountability and ongoing support

What it means to invest in yourself (and why it's crucial)

How the program is customized to what you're going through

Who should sign up for the Level Up VIP program

How being part of a group like this helps you network and build close friendships

What to do if you're partner is resistant to you joining Level Up

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Choose Compassion Over the Stigma of Addiction - EP167 Aug 05, 2021

Show notes

Many families try to hide the fact that they are struggling with addiction. But the only way to overcome drug abuse and alcoholism is to bring it into the light.

As of July 26, 2021, Jeremiah has 14 years of continuous sobriety. So, what did that journey look like? And how do you navigate being in a relationship with an addict?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we share our journey through addiction, explaining why Jeremiah's first four trips to rehab were unsuccessful and how connecting with others in AA helped him quit for good.

We offer advice for people in relationships with addicts, describing why you can't change an addict unless they want it for themselves, but you CAN set boundaries to stop enabling their behavior.

Listen in for insight around the best resources for addicts and their loved ones and find out how you can support Families Against Narcotics (FAN) and further their mission to promote compassion over the stigma of addiction.

Key Takeaways

How drinking and doing drugs made Jeremiah feel significant

When Jeremiah's addiction became unmanageable

Why Jeremiah's first 4 trips to rehab were unsuccessful

How relapse gave Jeremiah a new understanding of the disease of addiction

Why it's not your fault if you didn't realize someone you love is using

Why you can't change an addict unless they want it for themselves

What makes drug abuse and alcoholism a spiritual disease

The best resources for people struggling with addiction and their loved ones

How to set boundaries with an addict and stop enabling their behavior

FAN's mission to promote compassion > the stigma of addiction

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Families Against Narcotics

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Resources

Alcoholics Anonymous

The 12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous

Al-Anon

Brene Brown

The 6 Absolutes of the Oxford Group

How to Handle Energy Vampires - EP166 Aug 03, 2021

Show notes

Do you have people in your life that you've outgrown? People who weigh you down with negativity and steal your energy?

What can you do to neutralize these energy vampires—even if you can't cut them out of your life entirely?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss how to handle energy vampires, explaining how to change the direction of a negative conversation and why staying quiet gives people permission to gossip to you.

We weigh in on the power of noticing how people make you feel and describe how energy vampires can turn on you when you're no longer willing to cosign their negativity.

Listen in to understand how you give negative people the permission to deplete you and learn to set boundaries in a way that reduces the amount of time you spend with energy vampires!

Key Takeaways

How positivity makes energy vampires very uncomfortable

How to change the direction of a negative conversation with a pattern interrupter

Why not saying anything still gives people permission to gossip to you

The power in being aware of how certain people make you feel

Why nobody talks sh*t about somebody and feels good after

How to counteract energy vampires by coming at them with a passion for life

Why energy vampires turn on you when you don't cosign their negativity

What it looks like to invite the people you love to be part of your personal development journey

How to create a boundary to reduce the amount of time you spend with energy vampires

How YOU give energy vampires permission to deplete you

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Weird But True Book Series

Resources

The Reality Of Having Balance - EP165 Jul 29, 2021

Show notes

With many people, there is a hype around finding a sense of balance between all areas of life. Though, true balance isn't super attainable.

Tim Grover talks about how when there is perfect balance, the scale says 0.0 which is basically nothing, so the reality of true balance is just an illusion.

What does working for a balanced life look like in an attainable aspect?

What actually makes sense for your specific life and your lifestyle?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we explore the idea of "balance" and what it looks like to find balance within, to set yourself up for success in each unique season of your life.

We touch on the importance of being in tune with your energy and give different aspects of finding your own balance, increasing the overall quality of you and your family's lives.

Listen in for insight on how to make sure your view of balance is attainable in your day to day life and what that might look like for you!

Key Takeaways

What true balance really means

How balance is to each their own

The importance of finding a sense of balance internally

What conversations that need to be happening within ourselves and with the people we love

How Jeremiah finds reflection helpful in setting himself up for balance in his day to day life

What we have learned on the importance of creating boundaries around balance, especially with family

Mallory's exercise on how to decrease busy work

The importance of knowing what season of life we're in, so we can communicate better and be more prepared

The quarterly exercise Jeremiah and Mallory do that saves them time

Why time is so important to make good use of

Prioritizing what is fulfilling and contributing to someone else's life around you in a positive way

Going with the flow in every season of life

Focusing on our energy in those seasons

Jemermiah's shift from reactive to proactive to deal with the unexpected

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Amy Ledin's Daily Agreement Cards

Resources

Tim Grover Conference

Andy Frisella's Power List

The Surrender Experiment by Michael A. Singer

How to Keep Intimacy Alive in Your Relationship After Kids - EP164 Jul 27, 2021

Show notes

Intimacy is more than sex. It's about connecting on a soul level.

And it's challenging enough to build true intimacy with your partner at the beginning of a relationship. But once you've had kids, making the time to prioritize your marriage can be even more difficult.

So, how do you create a deep level of intimacy with your person? And what can you do to keep that intimacy alive in your relationship after you've had kids?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we walk you through the five levels of emotional intimacy, explaining how to establish safe communication with your partner and feel comfortable sharing your opinions and beliefs.

We describe the level of trust you need to expose your feelings, experiences, needs and desires with your significant other, exploring how you unlock more sexual potential the deeper you get on the intimacy scale.

Listen in for insight on understanding how your partner needs to be loved and get our top tips for keeping intimacy alive in your relationship after kids.

Key Takeaways

How intimacy is defined as deeply knowing another person and connecting on a soul level

What differentiates intimacy from sex or romance

The 5 levels of emotional intimacy

Safe communication
Opinions and beliefs of others
Personal opinions and beliefs
Your feelings and experiences
Your needs, emotions and desires

How keeping our traumas in the dark makes us sicker

The shift from needing your partner's love to desiring it

Why it's crucial to make time alone to connect with your significant other

What to do if you and your partner lack a foundation of trust

How you unlock more sexual potential the deeper you get on the intimacy scale

Why knowing your partner's love language is a good starting point for creating intimacy

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Brene Brown's Netflix Special: The Call to Courage

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Resources

Love Language Quiz

The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle

Entrepreneurial Operating System for Business

The Shift from External Goals to Turning Inward - EP163 Jul 22, 2021

Show notes

Goal-setting seems pretty straight forward. You build a vision around what you want and then you take action.

But what if you're achieving goal after goal after goal so you don't have to feel? And what happens when you finally wake up to the trauma you've been repressing for years?

How do you approach goal-setting in a new way? How do you set intentions and stay fully present?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss why it's easy to set external goals but challenging to turn inward, describing the value of checking in with yourself often and ask if what you're working toward still feels good.

We explain why you can't experience true transformation until you start processing your repressed feelings and share what we're learning about seeing vulnerability as a strength.

Listen in for insight on what to do if your partner lacks empathy, compassion and kindness—and learn how to navigate goal-setting and embrace rest while you're unraveling trauma.

Key Takeaways

How Jeremiah's approach to goals has shifted since his spiritual awakening

Why it's easy to set external goals but more challenging to turn inward

Mallory's advice on checking in with yourself often to ask if what you're working toward still feels good

Why we can't set goals from a low vibration or mindset of lack

How Jeremiah couldn't experience true transformation until he started processing his repressed feelings

How men and women experience and respond to feelings differently

Why it's crucial to listen and receive your partner's needs

What to do if your significant other lacks empathy, compassion and kindness

What we're learning about how empathy is the antidote to shame

What it looks like when a man is operating at the highest levels of masculine energy

Why vulnerability is a strength (despite what society teaches us)

How our relationship is thriving now that we're both willing to be vulnerable

How it's okay to not know your purpose and explore what lights you up

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Brene Brown's Netflix Special: The Call to Courage

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Resources

Brene Brown's TED Talk: The Power of Vulnerability

Entrepreneurial Operating System for Business

How to Navigate Pain and Still Show Up for Your Partner - EP162 Jul 20, 2021

Show notes

So, you're working through trauma. But you still want to be there for your significant other.

How do you initiate important conversations around the pain you're experiencing? And what do you do if your partner's evolution means they don't show up the way you expected?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we explain how a shift in beliefs changes the way you show up in the world, discussing the challenge we're facing in predicting each other's reactions through this season of awakening.

We share the inner work we're doing right now, describing how to find middle ground when you've always been all-or-nothing and what you can do to release the energy of resentment when your partner doesn't meet your expectations.

Listen in to understand the difference between codependency and a relationship where you both have space to grow and learn how to navigate pain—but still show up in a healthy way for your partner.

Key Takeaways

How a shift in beliefs changes the way you show up in the world

The difference between meditating on a vision vs. meditating to achieve inner stillness

Why we have to slow down in order to process painful trauma

The challenge we're facing around predicting each other's reactions in this season of change

Mallory's work around saying how she feels about things

How Jeremiah's focus has shifted away from externals as he learns to process emotions in a new way

The process of finding middle ground when you've been all-or-nothing

How to release the energy of resentment from your body

How to negotiate with your partner in a way that benefits you both

What to do if your partner isn't in a place to receive feedback

What differentiates codependency from a relationship where both have space to grow

How to initiate deep, meaningful conversations with your partner

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The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle

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Resources

5 Love Languages

The 4 Agreements

Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattle

Process Your Emotions, Deepen Your Relationships - EP161 Jul 13, 2021

Show notes

Is your ego keeping you from truly feeling your emotions?

Processing your trauma is a MUST if you want to grow to the next level. And if you have the tools to work through an awakening of this kind, it can serve to deepen your long-term relationships and cultivate a new kind of presence in your life.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we get real about how Jeremiah's awakening has shifted the way he expresses compassion, describing how listening to fix someone differs from truly honoring where a person's at.

We discuss what it looks like when a significant other is threatened by the changes you're making, challenging you to keep the lines of communication open and be open to your partner's evolution.

Listen in to understand how we're socialized to view emotional expression as weakness and learn what it really means to be present—acting from a place of kindness and love.

Key Takeaways

How listening to fix someone differs from honoring where they're at

The benefit of having the tools to process feelings of trauma

How the way Jeremiah expresses compassion has shifted through his awakening

Jeremiah's new understanding of what it means to be present

How we're conditioned to expect the people closest to us to react in a certain way (and what happens when that changes)

What it looks like when your significant other is threatened by change

Why we recommend you BE the change rather vs. try to sell your partner on it

How our relationship has improved by keeping the lines of communication open through this process

How men are socialized to view emotional expression as weakness

Jeremiah's focus on BEING and acting out of love and kindness

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