Destined To Be

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Resources

Dean Graziosi

Jim Fortin's Free Trainings

Arete Syndicate

The 12 Steps

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk, MD

Kyle Depiesse on Destined to Be EP175

Jake Woodard on Masculine and Feminine Energy

Entrepreneurial Operating System

Traction: Get a Grip on Your Business by Gino Wickman

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz

Strategic Coach

Who Not How: The Formula to Achieve Bigger Goals Through Accelerating Teamwork by Dan Sullivan with Dr. Benjamin Hardy

Dan Sullivan on Gap vs. Gain

Helping Men Level Up & Become the Leaders They Want to Be - EP178 Jan 04, 2022

Show notes

While there are a lot of personal development groups for women, it's harder to find programs that help men deepen their relationships with themselves and become the leaders they want to be.

And that's why we're launching Men's Level Up VIP, a three-week Facebook Live training experience designed to help men decide what they really want and transform their lives.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we're back from our holiday hiatus to discuss the programs we're offering in the new year and share our commitment to providing transformational coaching experiences.

We describe how men will benefit from Level Up VIP, explaining how it's designed to help them take the first steps toward a life of purpose and impact.

Listen in for insight around the 'all or nothing' mindset that keeps you from achieving your goals and find out how to be a part of our supportive community of men and women committed to leveling up our personal and professional lives!

Key Takeaways

How and why the premise of Destined to Be evolved in the second half of 2021

Why we're offering a Men's version of the Level Up VIP program

Why we recommend doing personal development in a small, intimate group

Why there's such a stigma for men around vulnerability as weakness

How the Men's Level Up VIP program will help you know yourself at a deeper level and become the leader you want to be

How the 'all or nothing' mindset keeps us from reaching our goals (and what to do about it)

Our commitment to providing transformational experiences where you embody the ideas we're teaching

The value in joining a community where you're not judged for your BIG dreams

How to overcome the money story that you can have time or money—not both

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Resources

The 12 Steps

Gary Vaynerchuk

Jim Kwik

To Drink, Or Not to Drink - EP177 Oct 07, 2021

Show notes

We're on vacation at an all-inclusive resort right now, surrounded by overindulgence. And when other people find out that we don't drink, they often justify the fact that they're making a different choice.

But here's the thing: You're an adult, and you don't need our permission. If you're happy with your decision to have an adult beverage or two, more power to you.

If, on the other hand, you're unhappy with the way you feel when you drink or you're curious what life would be like without alcohol, you can change the story you're telling yourself and replace drinking with a healthier habit.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we explore what it looks like to temporarily push down the feelings you don't want to deal with by drinking, overeating, scrolling the internet—or any other unhealthy habit.

We describe how the people you surround yourself with influence your behavior and explain how to eliminate the scarcity mindset that leads to overindulgence.

Listen in for insight on deciding whether your current habits support the person you want to become and learn how to get clear on what you want out of life and replace the habits that are holding you back!

Key Takeaways

Why you don't have to justify your decision to drink (provided you're happy with that choice)

Why we bring our healthy habits with us on vacation

How to eliminate the scarcity mindset that leads to overindulgence

How the people you surround yourself with influence your behavior

What it looks like to push down the feelings you don't want to deal with via alcohol, overeating, etc.

How the 12-Step Program served as Jeremiah's introduction to personal development

What to do if you're struggling with alcohol or curious what life would be like without it

How to decide if your current habits support the person you want to become and replace the habits that are holding you back

Why it's challenging to get clear on what you want when your mind is fuzzy

How you can't get to the next level by doing the same sh*t over and over

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Move Past Addiction, Change Your Thoughts & Transform Your Life on Destined to Be EP008

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Resources

Addiction: Obsessions of the Mind That Overpower the Body on Destined to Be EP054

Choose Compassion Over the Stigma of Addiction on Destined to Be EP167

Exploring the Way Trauma Shapes Us on Destined to Be EP175

The 12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous

Mallory's Level Up VIP Program

A Strong Man's Guide to Supporting a Successful Woman - EP176 Sep 30, 2021

Show notes

My powerhouse wife, Mallory, just keeps achieving higher levels of success. And before my awakening this past summer, that success scared me.

I saw her growing independence as a threat. If I wasn't the provider in our marriage, where did my worth come from?

Patrick Kennedy, Johnny Elsasser and Mark Gustafson are all in committed relationships with extremely successful women entrepreneurs. So, how are they growing stronger as men while they support their partners' dreams?

On this episode of Destined to Be, Pat, Johnny and Mark join me to discuss the difference between being a provider and being of service to your significant other, describing how a true king provides his partner with a sense of safety—regardless of who brings in more money.

We explain what differentiates codependency from an interdependent relationship, sharing what it looks like to hold space for your partner and how to respond when she puts her work first.

Listen in for insight on navigating the masculine energy of a powerful woman and learn how to do the inner work it takes to stay connected with your partner and grow together.

Key Takeaways

The AHA moment when Pat realized he needed to grow to stay connected with his wife

What women can do to introduce their partners to personal development

The difference between being a provider and being of service to your partner

How a true king provides his partner with a sense of safety (regardless of who makes more money)

Johnny's insight on navigating the masculine energy of a powerful woman

What differentiates codependency from an interdependent relationship

Mark's advice on not taking it personally when your partner puts her work first

Johnny's challenge to men to do the inner work and evolve to support your partner's dreams

Pat's insight on what it looks like to hold space for your partner

The 3 questions Mark asks himself before he speaks up (i.e.: his verbal 'unsend' button)

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Pat on Instagram

The House Kennedy on Instagram

The Path of Curiosity Podcast

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Johnny on Instagram

Johnny's Website

The Art of Masculinity Podcast

Connect with Mark

Mark on Instagram

Samantha on Instagram

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Patrick & Jenn Kennedy on Destined to Be EP087

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Resources

Johnny Elsasser & Taylor Simpson on Destined to Be EP079

The Wild Man Experience

Traction: Get a Grip on Your Business by Gino Wickman

In the Flo by Alisa Vitti

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus by John Gray

Exploring the Way Trauma Shapes Us—with Kyle Depiesse - EP175 Sep 23, 2021

Show notes

More people struggle with trauma than we realize. And we all cope with it in different ways.

For me, the pain of feeling like I wasn't enough made me a troublemaker in school. Later, I turned to drugs and alcohol to fill the void. And most recently, I used achievement and expensive toys to prove myself to the world.

So, what does it look like to explore the way trauma has shaped you? And what can you do to stop hiding from the pain and start working through it?

Kyle Depiesse is the Adventure & Fulfillment Coach behind The Reaching Beyond Experience. He creates one-of-a-kind men's experiences for high-level entrepreneurs.

On this episode of Destined to Be, I'm sharing my conversation with Kyle on the Reaching Beyond podcast, where we discuss my journey through addiction and why I used drugs so people wouldn't find out who I really was.

I get honest about the irrational way of coping with emotions I developed in childhood and the trauma that brought on my recent nervous breakdown, challenging you to consider that building a relationship with your Creator is our true purpose on this earth.

Listen in for insight on making play an important part of your life and find out why you can't afford NOT to invest in yourself!

Key Takeaways

How we use hope, achievements and significance to hide from pain

My take on how the way you do one thing is the way you do everything

The irrational way of coping with emotions I developed in childhood

My journey through addiction and why I used drugs so people wouldn't find out who I really was

How Mallory saw something in me I didn't see in myself when we started dating

The trauma that brought on my nervous breakdown (and the therapies I'm using to work through it)

Why building a relationship with our Creator is our true purpose

Our social conditioning around alcohol and what to ask yourself re: how it impacts your life

What play looks like for me and how I see work and exercise as forms of play

Why I can't afford NOT to invest in myself and how it benefits me in terms of time and expertise

The vulnerability and authenticity that differentiates Kyle's groups

Connect with Kyle

The Reaching Beyond Experience

Reaching Beyond—The Podcast

Kyle on Instagram

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The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk, MD

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Resources

Audible

Power vs. Force: The Hidden Determinants of Human Behavior by David R. Hawkins

Dr. Wayne Dyer

EMDR Therapy

75 Hard

Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Battle

Gary Vaynerchuk

GoBundance

Arete Syndicate

Mallory's Level Up VIP Coaching Program

Transitioning Into a New Season, Part 3 - EP174 Sep 16, 2021

Show notes

Last week, we talked about making a smooth transition from one season to the next, celebrating the previous season for what it was and building the habits you need to succeed in the new one.

But what else do you need to consider as you enter a new season of life?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we explain how to determine who you need to connect with in a new season, describing how to set boundaries around the friendships that no longer serve you and find the supportive people who can help you get where you want to go.

We challenge you to define the vision you are working toward in this new season and weigh in on what it looks like to embody the feelings that align with that vision.

Listen in for insight on the relationship among self-esteem, identity and the choices you make—and learn where to go for support as you move into the next season of your life.

Key Takeaways

The 2 different kinds of seasons you might be transitioning through

How to determine who you need to connect with in a new season of life

How to set boundaries around the friendships that no longer serve you

How to approach messaging an influencer you want to connect with online

The value of investing in a mastermind or coaching program

Why it's crucial to create a vision to work toward in each new season

What it looks like to embody the feelings that align with your vision

Why accepting that you are enough is the first step in realizing your vision

How we know when someone is in pain related to a previous trauma

The relationship among self-esteem, identity and the choices we make

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Resources

EO Accelerator

GoBundance

Arete Syndicate

Transitioning Into a New Season, Part 2 - EP173 Sep 09, 2021

Show notes

There are two different kinds of seasons. There are the actual seasons of the year—spring, summer, fall and winter.

And then there are the seasons where we move into the next phase of our lives, like when our kids start school or we shift from one career to another.

Either way, moving into a new season is emotional and can pull us off track if we're not careful. So, what steps can we take to create a smooth transition from one season to the next?

On this episode of Destined to Be, I explain why it's important to honor the last season as you move into the next and challenge you to set the intention for what you want your days, weeks and months to look like now.

I discuss how to embrace a new season, describing how to focus on the possibilities of what you could accomplish and set yourself up for success.

Listen in for insight on adopting the tendencies of a person in the role you're working toward and learn how to build the habits you need to support you in this new season of life!

Key Takeaways

The 2 different kinds of seasons we transition in and out of

Why it's important to honor the last season as you move into the next

How to set the intention for what you want your days to look like in a new season

Why I prefer a physical planner to map out my days, weeks and months

What it looks like to schedule your non-negotiables (e.g.: workouts, meal plan, etc.)

How to embrace a new season by considering the possibilities

How to build the new habits you need to support you in each new season

What it looks like to assume the habits of a person in the role you want

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Resources

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Transitioning Into a New Season, Part 1 - EP172 Sep 02, 2021

Show notes

If you're transitioning into a new season of life, it's normal to feel some stress, fear and overwhelm.

But if you don't have the right habits in place, it's easy to shut down in tough times and backslide on all the progress you've made.

So, how do you navigate the challenges of moving into a new season?

On this episode of Destined to Be, I discuss the support you need to transition into a new season of life, describing the emotional week I am having and the healthy habits that are keeping me on track.

I explain why pouring into yourself is a necessity, especially during difficult times, and challenge you to surround yourself with a judgement-free group of people who support where you want to go.

Listen in to understand why accountability is more important than ever in seasons of transition and find out if the sisterhood and support of Level Up VIP is right for you (or someone you love)!

Key Takeaways

The benefit of having healthy habits in place during an emotional week

Why I don't want to replicate the response to anxiety and overwhelm I grew up with

How pouring into yourself is a necessity (especially in tough times)

Why accountability is more important than ever in the craziest seasons

How Level Up VIP gives you the space to share difficult feelings and get judgement-free feedback

Why it's crucial to surround yourself with people who support where you want to go

The sisterhood and support that gives Level Up VIP a special energy

Connect with Mallory

Resources

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Unlearning the Behaviors That Don't Serve You - EP171 Aug 24, 2021

Show notes

"Maybe the journey isn't so much about becoming anything.

Maybe it's about un-becoming everything that isn't really you,

so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place."

--Paulo Coelho

Personal development is often about adding things to your life. Another program. A new routine. A next-level experience.

But the most impactful work we've done so far has been about taking things away. Exploring why we react the way we do and un-learning the behaviors that don't serve us.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we share the work we're doing to uncover childhood traumas and reshape our belief systems, describing how the coping mechanisms we use as kids turn into character defects later on.

We explain how behaviors that were 'normal' to us growing up are not serving us now and get vulnerable about the challenge of replacing our automatic, unhealthy responses with new ones.

Listen in to understand how your thought patterns program your body to react and learn how un-becoming what isn't really you makes space for who you were always meant to be.

Key Takeaways

The work we're doing now to work through deep childhood traumas

What it looks like to reshape your belief systems

How childhood coping mechanisms turn into character defects

What it means to reach the next level emotionally and intellectually

The challenge of replacing automatic responses with new behaviors

How behaviors that were 'normal' to us growing may not be serving us now

Why sitting in your feelings is the hardest part of unlearning

How inner dis-ease creates external problems

The danger in suppressing emotion vs. getting it out of your body

What it means to be codependent in a relationship

Why cultivating more love is our true purpose in life

How our bodies are programmed to react by our thought patterns

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