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How to Stop Apologizing for Being Your True Self - EP188 Mar 15, 2022

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How many times have you worried about how others perceive you? Maybe you've worried people will judge you for getting your nails or hair done too much. Maybe you've come back from a night out completely paranoid about every little thing you said.

Life is exhausting. Let's not make it harder on ourselves. As life goes on, we evolve. There should be no apologizing for that. And we can't let others dictate how we choose to show up in our own lives. They're OUR lives, not anybody else's.

On this episode of Destined to Be, I discuss my experience second-guessing myself and how I have been able to transform into my most authentic self by prioritizing my own needs.

I share the reasons why it is crucial to honor your own boundaries by doing work to better yourself, rather than spend your time serving others.

Listen in to learn more about how to take control of your life and stop apologizing for living your truth.

Key Takeaways

Mallory's experience second guessing herself at speaking engagements and how she learned to navigate her truest self

Why you should never apologize for showing up as your authentic self

The negative implications of living up to other peoples' expectations, rather than your own

How to honor your own boundaries by prioritizing your needs

How people often seek validation from others in order to feel good about themselves

Why it's good to leave relationships and friendships in the past after you have outgrown them

Why it is helpful to learn to let go of other people's opinions

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Why Our Triggers Are the Keys to Understanding Ourselves - EP187 Mar 08, 2022

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We all know the feeling of being bothered by someone so much that we can barely stand it. But what does that insinuate for ourselves and our mental well being?

Why is that particular thing so triggering? Why are we so worried about what someone else is doing?

We know that oftentimes, our triggers are a reflection of something we need to work on in our own lives.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Jeremy shares his experience battling with his hatred for hypocrites and what that means for himself internally.

Listen in as we discuss how being curious can answer those internal questions in a non-judgmental way. It is important to remember, when you're curious about something, you can't be critical.

Key Takeaways

Why Jeremy is triggered by hypocrisy

The importance of practicing what you teach and living in congruence with your life values

Why life coaches need to do the work behind the scenes to better themselves in order to be able to effectively coach others

How to identify when you are too worried about what other people are doing

When something is bothering us, it means we need to look within to understand what we need to work on within ourselves to find peace

How we can show up with more integrity in our lives to find gratitude

How to listen to your pain and suffering with curiosity, rather than judgment

How praying for someone and wishing them well makes it much harder to be bothered by them

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How Perfectionism Hold You Back From Achieving Your Goals - EP186 Mar 01, 2022

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I'm going to let you in on a little secret. People are not paying as much attention to you as you think they are. I don't say this to mean that you don't have a great impact on people, but we often hold ourselves back because we think people will notice we aren't perfect.

You might not launch your business because your site isn't perfect, or not go to the gym because your outfit doesn't match. Hint: nobody cares.

It's taken me a long time to realize this, so on this episode of Destined to Be, I discuss some of those problematic ways of thinking that hold us back.

Oftentimes, we just need to become aware of our negative energy, how we're acting and responding to things, and then we are able to move out of that headspace quicker.

Listen in as I go through the things that typically hold us back and what you can do to make sure you are empowered to live your best life.

Key Takeaways

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What ultimately holds us back from reaching our next level

Mallory's experience with moving on from things too quickly and not celebrating her victories

Becoming aware of our negative energy can shorten the lifespan of that energy

The importance of honoring your feelings by allowing yourself to sit in them

People are not paying as much attention to you as you think they are

Perfection will hold you back almost every time

We don't know other peoples' stories and circumstances, so comparing yourself to others is unfair to you

How to tap into your own energy, negative or positive

How determining what the energy is behind what we're trying to accomplish leads us to make empowered decisions

If something is triggering you, it's probably because it's something you need to work on.

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How to Prioritize a Challenging Personal Growth Program - EP185 Feb 23, 2022

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In March, we're starting an intensive, nine-month master coaching certification program. A program we know will challenge us mentally and emotionally.

How are we setting ourselves up for success? What are we doing to prioritize the program around parenting and the multiple businesses we run?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we explain how we each approach a program we know will test our time and attention, describing how to make decisions around what's possible from a 'window of tolerance' or neutral place.

We discuss what the DiSC assessment can tell you about your behavior and explore how to work with someone with a very different decision-making process.

Listen in for insight on the pros and cons of being hyper-aware and learn how to show up with intentionality as you start any challenging new personal development program!

Key Takeaways

The intensive master coaching certification program we're starting in March

What we're doing to prioritize this coaching program and set ourselves up for success

How to approach a program you know will test your time and attention

Why Mallory can't make decisions from a high or low place

The concept of a window of tolerance or neutral space from which you can make a level-headed decision

Jeremiah's ability to make decisions quickly and thrive in a stressful environment

What the DiSC assessment uncovers about your behavior and how to work with someone with a very different personality and decision-making process

The pros and cons of being hyper-aware

Why it's crucial to process and use the tools of personal development vs. just moving on to the next program

How we define wealth as having true ownership of your time

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Breaking Down Fear to Live a Fuller Life on Destined to Be EP184

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Breaking Down Fear to Live a Fuller Life - EP184 Feb 15, 2022

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We spend a lot of our time in the comfort zone. We know what we like and continue our routines in our careers, with friends, and even the small things like a coffee order.

But what if your preferences are blocking your possibilities?

It's easy to decide your fate before you've even had the chance to explore your options. We often find ourselves being fearful of the bad things that could happen in our lives, instead of embracing the endless opportunities.

It's me, Mallory, and I am back with another solo episode of Destined to Be, where I discuss the importance of breaking down your fears of what might happen in order to unlock your full potential.

Listen in for more insight on how asking yourself important questions about what you truly desire leads to breaking down barriers and living a fuller life.

Key Takeaways

Why it's crucial to ask yourself why you're operating the way you are and challenge your own routine
How letting your guard down with yourself allows you to break your own pattern to become more open with other people
The challenging, but rewarding process of Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy
How focusing too much on worst case scenarios takes you away from what is actually possible in your life
Why figuring out how to evolve in your life can open up opportunities better than you ever imagined
How to tapinto the pureness of curiosity in order to grow as a person

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The Ugly Side of Personal Growth on Destined to Be EP183

The Ugly Side of Personal Growth - EP183 Feb 08, 2022

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In every area of life, to move forward, we must look back and address certain parts of ourselves. This can be one of the hardest and scariest things to do, but we don't have to go through it alone.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss the ugly side of growth and why it's not always sunshine and rainbows like everyone online makes it seem. We explore how we have dealt with the many struggles that come with stepping outside our comfort zone and confront many truths that can be hard to swallow.

We discuss the importance of confronting your past, how to deal with fear, and the impact that having a good coach can have on your growth journey.

Listen in for insight on what comes with growth and how to persevere through the growing pains to reach your next level of success!

Key Takeaways

Jeremiah's insight on what the ugly side of growth looks like for him

How social media distorts our reality and what growth really looks like

The importance of internal work

Jeremiah on how to get past the comparison trap

How importance of having a coach or mentor

Why staying busy isn't enough

Mallory's insight on what a surface level existence looks like and how to break the pattern

Jeremiah's experience with getting past his own fears and discomfort

Where to look for support in your growth journey

The most crucial step you have to take before you can move forward

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Empathy & Compassion in Relationships - EP182 Feb 01, 2022

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Going into any situation, whether it's with a loved one or a coworker, it can be so easy to put the blame on others for how we feel. "You should have helped me." "You don't care about me." But what's really going on inside for us to feel these things so deeply?

Is it childhood trauma, built up resentment from lack of communication, or an insecurity that has been pushed down for years?

How can we deal with these beliefs and make it easier to have empathy and compassion in our relationships?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss what having empathy and compassion can look like in a relationship and the subconscious beliefs that may be getting in the way from growing in this area. We explore how Jeremiah and Mallory model empathy and compassion around their relationship and work to continue to evolve.

We discuss how deeply important it is to incorporate somatic work in your life to neurologically reset your body, improving your relationships and overall state of being.

Listen in for insight on how to work past belief systems and apply these practices to gain more compassion in your intimate and platonic relationships.

Key Takeaways

A Level Up client's experience with subconscious beliefs regarding compassion in relationships

The importance of inner work and where it stands in your life and business

How Jeremiah and Mallory have learned to grow in communication and compassion

Where belief systems usually stem from

Jeremiah's insight on how communication can help prevent emotion-based reactions and assumptions

Jeremiah and Mallory's insight on compassion in regards to a significant other vs a stranger

What a mental spiral is and how it keeps you from thinking rationally

The belief system process involved in the Level Up programs

Jeremiah and Mallory's experience dealing with their oldest son's belief systems

How Jeremiah and Mallory's work through these challenges in their relationship

How Mallory works through a spinout

Why most people don't get past their subconscious beliefs

The importance in having a dialogue around compassion and what it looks like for you and your partner

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Simplifying Your Life to Do What Matters - EP181 Jan 25, 2022

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With the new year we tend to have unrealistic expectations for ourselves that cause us to hit a wall, throwing all our resolutions out the window.

What if instead of adding, adding, adding to our lists, we simplified our lives to be able to fit in more of the things that really matter?

On this episode of Destined to Be, I, Mallory, explores the idea that we need to shift from the new year, new me hustle mentality with a more simplistic and joyful mindset, describing ways we can create a space that feels good and show up for ourselves in healthy ways that doesn't lead to burnout.

I explain how finding an in between the all or nothing mentality can allow you to do more without overcommitting, and how important it is to find community and accountability that will keep you on this healthy course.

Listen in for insight on how the hustle mentality holds you back more than it propels you and learn how to create more flow in your life, being able to show up more for yourself and others!

Key Takeaways

The Level Up Program and how it is transforming lives

The common theme of the new year

Why you might be feeling burned out already

Mallory's insight on the "new year, new me" mentality

Tapping more into the joy of each moment instead of seeing tasks as a burden

Finding an in between the all or nothing mindset

The importance of finding community and accountability that adds to your life and doesn't drain you

Questions to ask yourself to elevate your 2022

Mallory's habit stacking tip

The exclusive Level Up VIP offer

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