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148 | Andy Crouch - The Tech-Wise Family Nov 19, 2020

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Andy Crouch

Andy is partner for theology and culture at Praxis, which works as a creative engine for redemptive entrepreneurship. His two most recent books--2017's The Tech-Wise Family and 2016's Strong and Weak--build on the compelling vision of faith, culture, and the image of God laid out in his previous books, Playing God and Culture Making.

Andy serves on the governing boards of Fuller Theological Seminary and the Council for Christian Colleges and Universities. For more than ten years he was an editor and producer at Christianity Today, including serving as executive editor from 2012 to 2016. He served the John Templeton Foundation in 2017 as senior strategist for communication. His work and writing have been featured in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Time, and several editions of Best Christian Writing and Best Spiritual Writing--and, most importantly, received a shout-out in Lecrae's 2014 single "Non-Fiction." He lives with his family in Pennsylvania

Conversation Notes:

1:16 - Andy Crouch - Author of The Tech-Wise Family & co-author of My Tech-Wise Life with his daughter.
1:36 - Check out dadawesome.org/give for ways to support dadAWESOME.
2:59 - Introduction to Andy's family
5:03 - What are some of the components that lead to a family that is flourishing?
- Authority
- Vulnerability
- Discussing parenting literature about parenting with a balance of warmth and firmness.
6:54 - The authority and vulnerability paradox. Authority - capacity for meaningful action, the ability to do something and have it really matter in the world. Vulnerability is exposure to meaningful risk.
7:17 - "I think that our best moments as families, our best moments as parents but also kids' best moments, are when we are given the capacity for meaningful action in some way. That is, we have some ability to have something matter that we do, AND we are exposed to meaningful risk - that is, it could go wrong and we could lose something."
9:27 - Discussing the process of writing a book with his daughter.
11:45 - "Before they hit [adolescence], they're transparent in a way [that] we know what they're feeling, we know what they're thinking, and we usually know why. But then there's this important thing that happens in adolescence which is detaching from that transparency, in a way. Hopefully without secrets."
12:20 - Jeff's perspective on the book: (1) Andy continually pointed his daughter back to scripture. (2) It wasn't just about technology, it was about connecting with his daughter's heart.
14:08 - "The reality is tech is about the heart because so much of our relationships now are mediated and...especially as your kids hit adolescence... you really have to pay attention to the way that technology, and really specifically media, shrink the channel for relationship."
16:02 - "The first way in which this is really about the heart, is our heart is ultimately about Who knows me? Who loves me? Am I known by someone and does that person once they know me, do they love me? Do they still love me... once someone really sees who I am? And you know the biggest way tech fails is on on question number one: Does anyone know me?"
17:19 - "So many of our relationships get channeled through these media that really are not sufficient for deep real relationship, and we really have to pay attention as our kids get older as to how we help them navigate that."
17:43 - Phrase from Tech-Wise Family: Technology makes things "easy everywhere."
18:50 - "There are good things about this (easy everywhere), but they aren't good for our heart because we don't grow when things are easy."
19:57 - "So much of our lives has become so easy, and easy is always an option, that we never actually experience what it's like to grow through difficulty, to grow through adversity. And yet, that's what actually makes us into the kind of people who can have deep relationships and who have... hearts to offer the world."
21:15 - Being creators versus consumers.
21:45 - "I believe this goes all the way down to who we are in the image of god and that we are meant to cultivate and create in the world that's our that is our purpose as human beings uh representing the one who created the whole world."
22:13 - Connection between consumer culture and the story of the garden of Eden.
23:20 - "And the message that we all get now is you're defined by what you consume rather than defined by what you create."
24:35 - Coaching from Andy around family rhythms and developing a "creating" culture in our homes and with our kids.
24:45 - Definition of Culture - patterns that reflect underlying values. The strongest cultural patterns are those that everybody does. Build your culture and things you all do together.
28:07 - Build a culture on rhythms of use and non-use and a rhythm of work and rest - Sabbath.
29:07 - Screens disrupt sleep and screens allow secrets.
30:53 - How he set up his house to facilitate the family culture
32:15 - "How you design your space makes a big difference about what are you inclined to do together? Will you turn something on and start consuming or do you actually pick something up and start creating?"
33:24 - Hope and encouragement for the dad who feels like he's messed up. "You are not going to get through this without the two elements of trust: Rupture and Repair.
35:45 - "You have got to realize that a limitless world is terrible for human beings and so you have to be willing as the authority in the home to re-establish limits that may never have had."
38:55 - Andy's prayer for dads.

Conversation Links:

andy-crouch.com
Andy's Podcast
My Tech-Wise Life: Growing Up and Making Choices in a World of Devices
The Tech-Wise Family: Everyday Steps for Putting Technology in Its Proper Place
Strong and Weak: Embracing a Life of Love, Risk and True Flourishing
Culture Making: Recovering Our Creative Calling
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147 | Jon Tyson on Intentional Fatherhood & Creating the Primal Path Nov 12, 2020

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Jon Tyson

Jon Tyson is a Pastor and Church Planter in New York City. Originally from Adelaide, Australia, Jon moved to the United States twenty years ago with a passion to seek and cultivate renewal in the Western Church. He is the author of Rumors of God, Sacred Roots, A Creative Minority, The Burden is Light, and Beautiful Resistance. For the last 15 years Jon has lived in Manhattan with his family. He serves as the Lead Pastor of Church of the City New York.

Conversation Notes:

2:07 - Statement from a friend who works at Barna that heavily influenced Jon's life, "The church has basically reached a point of irreversible decline statistically, and by radical discipleship of our children, what would be described as a historic revival the church is beyond human turnaround. So it's going to take an act of God and radical discipleship for our kids."
3:19 - "The summer of covid-19 has probably been the hardest season of my life, but I've seen the greatest answers to prayer in my entire life this summer as well."
3:35 - Thoughts on personal prayer life and for our kids. "Intercessory prayer for the places that we live, having a sense of call to shape a place through prayer, those are sort of the huge passions of my life and I think it's the number one thing most people want to do, but don't know how to do. And it's the thing the enemy attacks the most because it's where all the power and fruit lie."
4:33 - How to coach our kids to pray? Make Jesus as compelling as possible. Also, stewarding your own life of prayer and sharing those answers with your kids. And make prayer fun. "The goal of prayer is to get your kids to love Jesus and I think when you're a kid, making prayer as enjoyable as possible and having consistency over intensity."
Video Link -"Teach Your Children to Pray" with Dr. David Ireland -- We pray that these resources will be an encouragement and help to you as you guide your children in learning to speak with God! Thank you all so much for taking your time and resources to invest in your children in this way. I am confident that the Lord is going to raise up incredible disciples because of the way you are all sewing into your children's lives and faith!
6:31 - Dr. David Ireland. Jon Tyson's coach.
7:02 - Thoughts on having a coach, finding a coach, and what Jon has learned from that relationship and how it's changed his life.
9:22 - Reasons to have a coach - "I think everybody needs someone older speaking into what they do. It's it's quite often in midlife...you've got enough success, you've sort of built your own coping mechanisms, tactics... you're kind of like 'I can just keep it going... I've built a life [and] I can probably manage this thing out,' and I was just like I need to get better. The future's changing and as things grow I need to be more agile, so I need to get a different toolkit."
11:38 - How to recognize a mentor? "I think... we all need to know what are we deeply called to, and then we'll know when we have the right person to speak into our lives."
11:55 - The Primal Path: Raising a Son of Consequence
13:28 - Sharing about writing meaningful letters to important people in our life.
14:04 - His son's voluntary expression of gratitude and how it impacted him.
15:05 - Writing a letter to his dad to share with him what he got right.
16:04 - Richard Rohr - "Whatever pain is not transformed is transmitted." "We tend to break our kids in the same place that we are broken because we don't know a way through it."
18:00 The Council of Dads: My Daughters, My Illness, and the Men Who Could Be Me by Bruce Feiler
19:03 - The World Race
19:08 - Sharing about the experience for his son. "I wanted him in this liminal space. My goal was to irreparably break his heart for the poor of the world so he'd never just be a spoiled, complacent American ever - He'd always be haunted, because those years are so formative... I just wanted to get in there, God's heart for the poor."
20:00 - Book: The compound effect.
20:25 - Sharing the story of his son's finishing The Primal Path with a 33 day hike across Spain
22:08 - Parenting through social contracts - agreements around responsibilities, rights and privileges. Inspired by Stephen Covey's Seven Habits of Highly Effective Families
24:43 - Book: Parenting With Love And Logic by Foster Cline
25:30 - "We have a responsibility to take the beauty of Jesus and make him come alive in our kid's hearts."
26:08 - The Primal Path. "The missing piece in modern culture, designed to help you walk a kid from adolescence into adulthood."
27:25 - "Designed to create a sacred relationship and a sacred journey between his father and his kids to help them get into adulthood....if you don't initiate your kids and take them on a journey, they will self-initiate, often through tremendous harm, or the culture will initiate them....it's basically who's going to design the pathway of helping your kids figure out life?
28:15 - "I'm trying to disrupt toxic masculinity and reclaim as normal a formation pathway from adolescence into manhood."
28:35 - Pathway for his daughter - "50 Pieces of My Heart: 50 key deposits every father needs to make in his daughter's life."
29:02 - Jon's next book, Intentional Father, Outlines five kinds of dads:
- Irresponsible dads - come in, get out, do nothing
- Ignorant dads - don't know what they are doing and do damage
- Inconsistent dads - torn with their own ambitions - often absent
- Involved dads - our culture's version of a great dad
- Intentional Father - believes it's the primary responsibility and builds a pathway based on who those kids are
30:40 - Sermon series around Altars. Message about the Home
31:00 - Most recent book: The Beautiful Resistance - Being a dad of conviction vs. compromise. "Part of it comes with a sense of sort of working through your own drama... and figuring out what it is that God's given you, understanding what faithfulness to Jesus looks like, and then fundamentally breaking the fear of man... I'm not going to give an account to our culture for my life, I'm going to give an account to Jesus and there's joy in having convictions and there's joy in keeping them."
32:34 - "Work out the convictions that God puts in your heart, convictions about discipleship, and then just don't care what people think. And it takes a lot of work and maintenance to not care what people think. And then to raise kids who are not controlled by the fear of man or the culture. You can't impart that if you don't have that. So there's a lot of soul work that you need to do to understand your own values and your own convictions and then be willing to literally go to war for them."
35:23 - "Maintain the emotional bond with your kid. Kids come out of the womb with an emotional bond. Cultivate it. Keep it. That's the most important principle. So whenever you want to do any of these things, there's a connection where they trust you and they see that it's worth it."

Conversation Links:

The Primal Path Course - Raise a son of consequence
The Intentional Father: A Practical Guide to Raise Sons of Courage and Character (available Father's Day 2021)
Beautiful Resistance: The Joy of Conviction in a Culture of Compromise

Jon's Altars Series:

Jon Tyson

146 | Mark Batterson on How to Win the Day as a Dad Nov 05, 2020

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Mark Batterson

Mark is married to Lora and they live on Capitol Hill with their three children: Parker, Summer, and Josiah. He serves as lead pastor of National Community Church in Washington, D.C., a church with eight campuses that meets in theaters throughout the D.C. metro area, and also happens to own and operate the largest coffeehouse on Capitol Hill. Mark holds a Doctor of Ministry degree from Regent University and is the New York Times bestselling author of 20 books including The Circle Maker, In a Pit With a Lion on a Snowy Day, and Play the Man.

Conversation Notes:

2:06 - "At the end of the day, I want to be famous in my home, and it's hard to be famous if you are not home."
2:28 - Son - 25, Daughter 23 newly married, Son 18
3:28 - Her heart is yours as a dad until she is married.
3:54 - "Fathering daughters and sons are like two different game plans."
4:08 - On raising daughters - "I really believe that as a father, I have this responsibility to prototype what a man of God looks like, talks like, acts like, and how I treat her."
5:01 - Encouraging his daughter to keep her heart pure until he walks her down the aisle.
5:28 - Mark's books have been springboards for Jeff over the years: Circle Maker, Chase the Lion, Play the Man
6:53 - "Borrowing" life experience as a young pastor by reading books. Statistics say that every author pours about 2 years of life experience into each book. He read 250 books/year in the early days as a pastor.
8:01 - "The people I know and the books I read will determine the direction [I'm headed]." - Jeff
8:32 - The last prophetic word says that God will "turn the hearts of the father to their children… and I'm believing this nation needs revival, but I believe it starts in the home, and I believe it starts with fathers when we take ownership of the responsibility that God's given us. And that's not to put undo pressure on us, we are going to fall short, and that's where the Heavenly Father compensates for our shortcomings as earthly fathers."
9:18 - "How are your kids going to learn how to say sorry, unless they learn how to apologize from you? So your mistakes are actually one of the greatest opportunities to teach your children one of life's most important lessons….I think it starts with prioritizing our children. Not idolizing. Prioritizing. Big difference there."
10:15 - Mark's prayer for dads to incline their hearts toward their children.
11:30 - Proactively pursue fatherhood with a game plan.
12:36 - Lion Chaser's Manifesto
13:03 - Why stop worrying about the past and things we've done and ways we've been harmed? "Because if you don't own the past then the past is going to own you...we've gotta have self-awareness of those past hurts because hurt people hurt people."
13:48 - Story of Benaiah who chases a lion into a pit on a snowy day and kills it. "Most of us run away from a roar, we run away from what we're afraid of instead of really running toward the roar and going after those 500,000 lb challenges we face. And fatherhood feels like that."
14:23 - "You never arrive as a dad."
14:48 - "You will always be their dad, and it changes, but the challenge is kind of unending, and honestly I think that's pretty thrilling because I want to be the best dad I can be at every age and stage."
15:48 - Creating "reference points" with his kids. "I think it's one of the most significant things I've ever done, more significant than being a pastor and writing books."
16:38 - Creating a "Discipleship game plan" with a weekly FSM (Father Son Meeting) and training his kids to cultivate a "holy curiosity" over the course of the year.
18:38 - Book: Play the Man - a fatherhood book about being the man and raising the man
19:23 - "Time is measured in minutes but life is measured in moments. So as fathers, I think it's our responsibility to almost engineer or architect moments. You can't totally manufacture it. You still need God to show up and show off. But I do think that there are things that you can do to set the table to have those sacred moments with your kids….it's about creating these moments that then pay dividends down the road."
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22:40 - Creating a poster of words of life for his daughter as prophetic words that would speak into her life.
23:45 - Thoughts on praying for your kids: God's word does not return void (Isaiah 55:11) - Boomerang prayers - keep standing on the promises of God for our children and "the answer to the prayer will boomerang back and God will answer that prayer in a really profound way."
25:15 - Book that Mark wrote with his daughter, Summer: God Speaks in Whispers. A book about hearing the voice of God in everyday life.
26:32 - "I think kids have a distinct advantage over adults when hearing the voice of God because they are better at learning second languages."
29:11 - Discussing his most recent book: Win the Day. Principle from the book - "You don't find time, you make time for what's important to you."
29:28 - There are two kinds of people in the world, those who want to win the lottery and leave it to chance, and those who win the day. Get up every day and practice daily disciplines, cultivate the habits that are going to produce the kind of results you want."
29:53 - "I don't care what goal you're going after, what problem you're trying to solve, what habit you're trying to break or build, I know exactly how it's done - one day at a time."
30:32 - Habit #2 from Win the Day, "Kiss the Wave." "You may not be responsible but you are response-ABLE."
30:50 - "You have to learn to kiss the wave that throws you against the Rock of Ages." - Charles Spurgeon
31:25 - Talking about his wife, Laura, and her cancer journey. "What have you come to teach me?" - A question to ask in hard times. "We need to embrace some of those challenges we face, in order to become who God's called us to be."
33:05 - A final challenge for dads from Mark. "You'll never be a perfect parent...but you can be a praying parent. And prayer turns parents into prophets who shape the destiny of their children."
34:29 - "Is there a blessing or a prayer that you can pray over and over and over again and it not become just repetitious or meaningless but would actually become more meaningful every time you pray it?"
34:46 - Luke 2:52 - May you grow in wisdom and stature, in favor with God and man.

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145 | Resilience, Servanthood & Showing Up For Others (Jason Vallotton) Oct 29, 2020

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Jason Vallotton

Recovering mental health, Cultivating spiritual fathers, and Living with Hope. Jason Vallotton is the pastoral care overseer at Bethel Church in Redding, California and is a sought-after counselor, teacher, and speaker. Previously, he served for 10 years in the Bethel School of Supernatural Ministry as a pastor, counselor, and overseer. Jason and his wife Lauren live in Redding, California, and have 4 wonderful children. Jason's primary passion is for the hearts of men to live fully alive to their calling. In his downtime, Jason can be found hiking in the Trinity Alps, fishing the Sacramento River, or hunting anywhere that wild game can be found!

Conversation Notes:

Full Conversation = Episode 131
Takeaway #1 - Perspective Switch - there is opportunity in the hard times
1:38 - "Great opportunity comes with every hard season for those who have eyes to see it."
1:58 – "I only get to decide what I do when I'm awake."
2:29 – "If I don't check out, but I stay in the game even with my kids and my family, I gain so much more than if I check out for the evening."
2:37 – Quote from Danny Silk – "Kids are gonna pull 60 pounds of energy from you whether you give it to them or whether they take it from you you just get to decide how it happens."
Takeaway #2 - Friendships & Mentorship
We must build these relationships
"What is covenant? You have permission to change my mind and I have permission to change your mind."
3:40 - "Servanthood is the way to the top. You will never outgrow serving...the more you have the more you're required to give."
"we're building an inheritance for our kids...the relationships that you create today, that you sacrifice for, it's not it's not as fun as people think. It's not easy I can tell you all those relationships that I just mentioned, there's conflict inside of them. We use all of our communication skills and conflict resolution and honor to keep those relationships going."
Takeaway #3 - People Need What You Have
4:55 - Attending church for yourself is the lowest level of living for a Christian.
5:23 - His dad told him, "People need what you have. They need what you have, and you need to go to youth group and find someone that needs what you have and give it to them."

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144 | Dancing on a Rooftop, Sabbatical Prayer & Freedom From Sexual Sin (Jeremy Shelton) Oct 22, 2020

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Jeremy Shelton

Jeremy Shelton is a man on a mission to directly confront sexual sin in the church today. He does so with the belief God is using him to grab hold of those heading toward a slaughter. His book: UNMUZZLED, exposes the grip of sexual temptation and sin like never before, and is set to be a game-changer for Christians in sexual bondage. He no longer just claims to be a Christian; he's now determined to go out and actually do what a Christ-follower does. He and his wife of eighteen years have five children and live in Texas.

Conversation Notes:

Takeaway #1 = "Man Time"
1:58 - The purpose is to help my son know that his daddy loves him and cares about him
2:10 - give your kids the freedom to pick what they want to do
2:38 - pulling a "Mary Poppins" and dancing around on the roof
Challenge = make some time on your calendar in the next two weeks. Get a 1-on-1 scheduled

3:53 Takeaway #2 = Take Time Away To Hear God's Voice
4:22 - Taking a Sabbatical
4:45 - Why take a "sabbatical day" away to hear from God.
5:10 - It's desperation that drives us to spend time with your Heavenly Father
5:20 - I liken a sabbatical to that. I go away every year for my annual sabbatical to hear the Lord on what I'm called to do for that year. It's phenomenal when you get away to hear the Lord. My mentor said, if Jesus had to get away to hear the Father, how much should we?"
Challenge = Take 2-hours and get alone with your Heavenly Father

7:02 - You Can Experience Freedom from Sexual Sin
8:00 - Deuteronomy 30:19 "This day I call the heavens and the earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live"
9:25 - Muzzled Men - "A Christian man in sexual sin…is muzzled. This muzzle renders him passive and powerless to participate in the Kingdom of God on this earth. It prevents him from becoming the man, husband, father, and witness he is called to be. This spiritual restraint mutes his connection to God. Worse, it incapacitates him from fulfilling his God-given purpose."
- Can't Bark - prevents him from becoming the man, husband, father, and witness he is called to be
- Can't Bite - passive and powerless
- Can't Eat - his spiritual restraint mutes his connection to God

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This is a FREE 4-week group that unpacks the 4 keys to adding LIFE to the dad life. You've got to register and we're asking all the dads who join us to try to attend at least 3 out of the 4 dates… Here's the outline of the content and the RSVP form. Please register by November 3rd:

I am LOVED I am INTENTIONAL I am FREE I ENJOY my kids

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143 | Inside Pretty, Modeling God & Speaking Life (Moses Ehambe) Oct 15, 2020

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Moses Ehambe

Here's the full conversation with Moses on Episode 118... After thirteen years of playing professional basketball all over the world, Moses is now the Senior Assistant to Athletic Director at Oral Robert University. Moses and Sarah have 5 kids. Living the DREAM one moment at a time.

Conversation Notes

2:22 - Inside Pretty
2:39 - "What's most important is what's growing on the inside"
2:50 - The Fruits of the Spirit
3:27 - His son is in Gentleman's University
4:00 - Dads are the closest representation of God to their kids
4:20 - As a dad, it is our job to mimic the qualities Jesus had on earth so our kids can know what God is like "God loves me, God protects me, God thinks I'm special….I mean the world to God. This is the most important part of parenting."
4:46 - God is our provider. God is our protector. God is our friend. God is our lover. That's who God is
4:57 - We have to exaggerate on those qualities of God even more to our kids
5:30 - Speaking Life. Thinking Life.
5:44 - "Control your thoughts, control your words, because they will become who you are and your habits."
6:00 - Gentlemen's university - protect girls emotionally and physically - speak LIFE
7:00 - Proverbs 22:6 Raise up a child in the way of God
8:09 - BONUS idea = "LIPS!!!"
9:00 - Jeff Zaugg Transition and Vision Video = https://bit.ly/DAtransition
DA Foundations Course: https://dadawesome.org/groups/

Links:

Episode 118 = Full Episode
Moses on Instagram
Oral Roberts University
Parents Working From Home - Quarantine Edition | Team Ehambe (Neek Films)

142 | Banning Liebscher on Trusting God with Our Kids Oct 08, 2020

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Banning Liebscher

Banning Liebscher is a pastor, speaker, and author. Along with his wife, SeaJay, he founded Jesus Culture, a ministry of worship, conferences, and leadership development. In 2014, they planted Jesus Culture Sacramento, a local church in California with a passion to see people fully engaged in becoming who God has called them to be and to do what God has called them to do. Find out more at jesusculture.com. Banning's passion is to see a generation of revivalists raised up who have encountered the extravagant love of Jesus and have given themselves for worldwide revival. He and his wife have three children, Ellianna, Raya, and Lake.

Here's the full conversation with Banning on Episode 126: https://dadawesome.org/126/

Conversation Notes

We are most alive when we are dreaming
3:20 - "When I stop dreaming, when I stop allowing my heart to really dream about things that apart from God are impossible, I not longer kind of lean in, I begin to lean back. I don't engage, I disengage. And I would say the greatest thing in the world you could do for your kids is to be a dreamer that's pursuing what God has in your life."
3:53 - "So I think our kids seeing us pursue the dreams that are in our heart is a really critical part of our fathering and discipling of them."
Trusting God with the Hearts of our kids:
4:20 - A story of trusting God with his kids
5:45 - "God I trust you with the hearts of my kids. I trust that you have what's best for them"
Brotherhood & Friendships
7:48 - "At the end of the day, what we know is this: any area of my life that has blessed, any area of my life that has wisdom attached to it, any area of my life that has fruit attached to it, it's because other people have joined me in it."
8:50 - "When I stand before God one day, [He's going to say] I didn't just require your best, I require your best and the best of these people I put around you, so when it comes to father I think the reality is our best ins't good enough - that's really never meant to be good enough. It' snot just my best I'm bringing to the is equation, it's my best and it's the best of...these men that pour into my life, that walk with me, that then allows me to be a good father."
9:35 - "When I allow myself to be isolated, when I allow myself to be independent, when i allow myself to think that I just should be able to do this on my own and I don't need anybody speaking into my life or challenging me or encouraging me, well I just want to say that your best isn't good enough...God didn't set it up that way."
9:54 - "God didn't set it up where...it's just you and nobody else, you just give it your best. He's like, I put a whole family around you and I'm bringing those strengths into your life so that you can accomplish what I've asked you to accomplish and raise these kids."
10:14 - "There's not one area of my life that hasn't been touched by the strength of other and that's why it has a measure of success to it.

Episode Links

Jesus Culture
The Three Mile Walk:The Courage to Live the Life God Wants for You - Banning Liebscher

141 | Three Takeaways from John Eldredge Oct 01, 2020

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John Eldredge

John Eldredge is an author, a counselor, and a teacher. He is also president of Ransomed Heart, a ministry devoted to helping people discover the heart of God, recover their own hearts in God's love, and learn to live in God's Kingdom. John and Stasi live in Colorado Springs and he loves the outdoors passionately. His most recent book, Take Your Life Back provides a refreshingly simple guide to recover your life. By practicing a few wonderfully simple practices—or what John calls "graces"—you can begin to recover your soul, disentangle from the tragedies of this broken world, and discover the restorative power of beauty.

Three Takeaways > Show Notes

3:10 - dadAWESOME Episode 117 w/ John Eldredge
3:30 - DA Daily - text "dad" to 77222 to receive an encouraging daily text message with prayers, Bible verses, dad tips & other fatherhood inspiration.
3:50 - Takeaway #1 = Why is the Inside Out Dad Life Important?
4:08 - Proverbs 4:23 - "Above everything guard your heart because out of your heart flows the wellspring of life... "How your heart's doing affects everything else in your life. If your heart's not doing well, you don't love very well, if your heart's not doing well you don't have a lot of dreams. It is the epicenter."
4:12 - "We are reaping the fruit of a lot of human brokenness generationally….Many kids are growing up either without a dad present, or without a present dad. He might be taken home, but he's so taken out himself."
4:23- Carl Jung - "The greatest psychological impact of a parent on a child is the un-lived life of the parent….. If you're taken out, it's really hard to chase after the hearts of your kids."
5:08 - Parent for behavior vs. Parent for the heart
Takeaway #2 = Process of being Fathered By God
Fathered by God by John Eldredge
6:30 - Both the little boy and little girl look to the father to answer their core questions. Boys - Do I have what it takes? Girls - Do you delight in me? Will anyone fight for me?
"God steps in to say, 'Look, I can still Father you. I can take you on the journey of maturation. You need to know you're a beloved son, you need to know that you're a delighted daughter first.'"
God takes us through stages to the place where he can entrust us with kingdoms and influence (a family, education, money, etc). Guys blow up their world because inside they stay in adolescence.
Takeaway #3 = Advice to John's younger self
8:24 - What you would tell your younger self - "You boys need to know you love them, and make that your top priority. You're going to mess it up, everybody does...but love heals…...If your kids know "My dad adores me" then a lot of the failure stuff kind of bounces off. It really does."

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140 | Dangerous Wonder (Jeff Zaugg) Sep 24, 2020

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dadAWESOME

We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter

Three Updates & a Challenge:

This is a prayer soaked podcast - God has a next step for each of us
3 Updates:
1. Season #2 Five Highlights- three dadAWESOME takeaways from _________ (5 episodes in the month of October)
2. DadAWESOME Foundations - starting October 8th... the foundations of dadAWESOME on 4 Thursday nights
3. Partnership with Connected Families. Discipline that Connects with Your Child's Heart (Book & Course)
  - 8-Part Parenting course that starts on Oct 6.
  - Use the code: "AWESOME" to Save 15% on the registration fee.
  - https://connectedfamilies.org/dtc/small-groups/

The CHALLENGE

From part 4 of DA Foundations
Enjoy your KIDS
4 parts of DadAWESOME Foundations

L — I am Loved (You are my son, whom I Love) I — I am Intentional (Time, Marriage, Friends, Church, Mentors, Exercise, Career) F — I am Free (Heart, Forgiven, Pain, hurts, wound, Baggage, Purity, Shame) E — I Enjoy my kids (In you I am well pleased)

Adding LIFE to the dad life
Our kids can tell when their dad loves being their dad
My prayer is that our kids would say, "my dad loves being my daddy and that being a dad is the favorite thing my dad does in life"
Shiny eyes come when we father with child like wonder... We need to father like a child

* curiosity * Joy * Wonder * Being present * Fully alive

The Fight for our Attention. For our Awe & Wonder
John 10:10 "the devil comes to Steal, Kill and Destroy, but Jesus came so that we might have LIFE to the Full (Abundant Life)"
The devil wants to kill, steal and destroy our wonder and our joy
We must pay attention to what is stealing our attention
ENJOY = synonyms
- love
- be pleased by
- appreciate
- savor
- be fond of
- find/take pleasure in
- rejoice in
- bask in
- be amused by
- delight in
- adore
- get a kick out of
Story of Wonder
Opening story in Dangerous Wonder by Mike Yaconelli
A mind shift of intentionality
It took intentionality to set up this moment of wonder
Matthew 6:21 (TPT) "For your heart will always pursue what you value as your treasure"
The more we treasure the dad life the more our heart will pursue more of it
Our heart will pursue what we treasure
My prayer is that you would ENJOY the dad life
You are dadAWESOME
Your kids can tell when you enjoy being their dad
Episode 141 - next week will feature the top 3 dadAWESOME Takeaways from John Eldredge
dadAWESOME Foundations starts on October 8th
- Use the code: "AWESOME" to Save 15% on the registration fee.
- https://connectedfamilies.org/dtc/small-groups/
Jeff's prayer for every dad

139 | Fostering, Developing a Non-Anxious Presence & Loving Without Limits (Josh Carney) Sep 17, 2020

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dadAWESOME

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Josh Carney

Josh is married to Lindsay and they are raising six kids ages 13 down to 6 including two foster kids. He is the lead pastor of University Baptist Church in Waco, TX.

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4:32 - Connecting as a family
6:05 - Acknowledging seasons where it's more difficult to connect with our kids
7:45 - The struggle to show up emotionally to the kids. Connecting with emotions and being future-oriented.
10:45 - Takeaways from his dad.
12:23 - Bringing a non-anxious presence to every area of life
13:35 - How to help our kids have a deep level of trust with us when they are in college.
15:35 - Wanting to be a dad who can stay calm, melt the layers of his child's heart, and then pray for them.
17:10 - Taking our child seriously, speaking to our child as an adult is a subtle form of validation
18:16 - A valley moment that led to an "aha."
21:00 - Being taken seriously as a teenager and how that has influenced his parenting.
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- Partnership with Connected Families. Discipline that Connects with Your Child's Heart (Book & Course)
- 8-Part Parenting course that starts on Oct 6.
- Use the code: "AWESOME" to Save 15% on the registration fee.
- https://connectedfamilies.org/dtc/small-groups/
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21:35 - On foster parenting
22:19 - "storge" - Affection type of love - talked about by C.S. Lewis - The Four Loves
22:35 - Foster parenting and loving without limits
26:40 - Discussing fostering and anxiety, adopting a posture that says, "I can't open and close these doors, I can just be faithful."
26:58 - A dad mistake - Using a violent action to make a point that was more harsh than called for in that moment.

Conversation Links:

UBC Church - http://ubcwaco.org/
Partnership with Connected Families. Discipline that Connects with Your Child's Heart 8-Part Parenting course that starts on Oct 6. Use the code: "AWESOME" to Save 15% on the registration fee.

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