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158 | Dad Life with a Demonstration of God's Power + Celebrating 3 Years of dadAWESOME Jan 28, 2021

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dadAWESOME

We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter

Jeff Zaugg

Jeff and Michelle Zaugg will celebrate 15 years of marriage this year. They live in New Brighton, MN with their 3 young daughters and they are expecting their 4th baby in Spring 2021. After 10-years of entrepreneurial non-profit ministry leadership, Jeff served as a pastor at Substance Church in the Twin Cities for the past 7 years. In Fall 2020 Jeff took the leap and went full-time fatherhood ministry. He is the founder and lead cheerleader at dadAWESOME & FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS. When he's not wrestling or playing hide and seek with his daughters, you might find Jeff out for a bike ride, making a pour over coffee, sitting by a fire with his wife or challenging some friends to a game of Spikeball.

Celebrating Three Years of dadAWESOME:

Episode #1 = "We Trust God"
3:20 - Throw Confetti and please add the hashtag #dadawesome https://dadawesome.org/confetti/
4:30 - Throw Feedback https://dadawesome.org/feedback/
5:38 - Throw Some Powerful Prayers https://dadawesome.org/pray/
6:10 - 1 Corinthians 2:4-5 "My message and my preaching were not with wise and persuasive words, but with a demonstration of the Spirit's power, so that your faith might not rest on human wisdom, but on God's power."

Conversation Notes:

Full Interview with Jeff Zaugg on the Bethel University Alumni Podcast (Apple Podcast & Spotify)
10:09 - Time hop of post-college career path
10:27 - YouthWorks, pastoring, kids pastoring, dadAWESOME
12:34 - Describing the work of dadAWESOME and Fathers for the Fatherless
13:17 - Malachi 4:6 - He will turn the hearts of the fathers toward their children and the hearts of children to their fathers.
13:41 - The promise that fuels the passion in dadAWESOME - Deuteronomy 30:19 - I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live.
16:40 - The LIFE framework: I am Loved. I am Intentional. I am Free. I am Engaged.
17:28 - Fathers for the Fatherless events for Summer 2021
19:05 - "I think every entrepreneur, they find a pain point and you try to meet a need to correct that pain in some way you want to alleviate a pain."
19:49 - Publishing Episode 101 right after his dad went to heaven.
20:07 - Pain fuels passion.
21:16 - Being planted in the local church was a huge part of God seeding the vision for DA.
22:13 - Runs and Rides lead to Resources which lead to Retreats.
25:43 - How has God met you in the wilderness seasons? Expecting every 3-5 yrs a major life crisis will come my way.
26:28 - Wilderness Fellowship
26:50 - Finding brotherhood
27:24 - Freedom heart work
29:54 - Imagine Beautiful - marriage ministry
32:27 - "If you want to get shiny eyes for the current season, if you want to be at a spot, living in your passion, help other people around you get shiny eyes"

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Make a Donation to dadAWESOME
Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team

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https://dadawesome.org/158

157 | Tech Limits, Pornography and Raising Kids Who Love Jesus (Peter Haas part 3 of 3) Jan 21, 2021

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dadAWESOME

We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter

Peter Haas

Pastor Peter Haas came to know the Lord while working as an EDM rave DJ in a nightclub. Since that day, he has traveled the world, sharing his radical conversion story and calling others to experience the same joy and power. He and his wife, Carolyn, planted Substance Church in 2004 and they serve on the Lead Team of the ARC (the Association of Related Churches). He is passionate about music, film, and comedy. Peter and Carolyn live in the Twin Cities with their 3 children, Lijah, True, and Eden.

Conversation Notes:

Part 1 of this conversation with Peter Haas (Episode 155)
Part 2 of this conversation with Peter Haas (Episode 156)
2:09 - How to raise a kid who loves Jesus? Nightly rituals, helping them find mentors and live in community, and falling in love with God's church.
8:40 - How can dads help their kids with the big question of how can a loving, all-powerful God allow pain and hurt in the world?
10:40 - Navigating smartphones and technology. Create rules younger.
15:55 - When it comes to technology, "You do have to be a learner to be a leader."
17:00 - Talking about sex and pornography with your kids
19:01 - Covenant Eyes
20:09 - Setting quarterly goals
22:00 - Work life balance for dads
24:35 - [Link to Peter's blog post]
24:38 - Parable of the seed and the sower - Mark 4:18
25:23 - Planted in the house of the Lord they will flourish
26:43 - "Find dads who are living out your dreams and get around them."
28:28 - Peter's parenting blog posts
Episode 22 with Peter Haas

Conversation Links:

Make a Donation to dadAWESOME
Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team
Substance Church
Peter Haas
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156 | Peter Haas Rapid Fire Dad Wisdom (Part 2 of 3) Jan 14, 2021

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dadAWESOME

We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter

Peter Haas

Conversation Notes:

Part 1 of this conversation with Peter Haas (Episode 155)
2:09 - The trade off to having golden parenting time.
6:02 - How to find common interests with your kids
8:21 - We cannot expect our kids to initiate finding common interests.
9:55 - Taking advantage of fighting and whining for teachable moments to grow your kids.
12:11 - Your life happens in the margins and the less margin you have, the less time you have for those relationships.
13:53 - They won't understand us unless we seek first to understand our kids.
16:42 - Be present in the pain of life.
17:37 - "I've noticed that my kids don't need me to have all the answers, but they do need me to be emotionally capable of helping them find God in the midst of that. And, and I I've noticed that the greatest disciplers aren't the ones with all the Bible answers. They're the ones that are just willing to be present and go on a journey with you."
18:51 - "One of the number one predictors of healthy parents is the stress level of the parent."
21:36 - Being intentional beyond the sphere of our direct kids (boyfriends, friends circle).
25:19 - Focus on your marriage in the season where your kids are all young because when you begin to empty nest you realize how important your marriage is.
27:56 - Asking mentors, what do I need to be doing now so that it will make things easier later? Questions he asked mentors as a younger dad.
28:20 - Before age 13, make these four things clear: (1) "When it comes to dating, mom, dad and the family get to be a part of the choice...do they fit with the family values?" (2) Speaker 2: "No person will ever fulfill you and you need to understand that." (3) Speaker 2: "When it comes to the timing don't date too soon." (4) Start having the sex talk younger.

Conversation Links:

Make a Donation to dadAWESOME
Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team
Substance Church
Peter Haas
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155 | Peter Haas on Maximizing Intentional Parenting During the "Golden Window" (Part 1 of 3) Jan 07, 2021

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dadAWESOME

We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter

Peter Haas

Conversation Notes:

Substance Church
5:20 - Sharing about dropping his daughter off in a new state for college last year
6:15 - "There are certain things you can't protect your kids from. You need to just watch them go through it."
8:11 - " I like to think this way... parenting is a series of 2000 conversations and I say 2000, I'm making up that number, but it's actually not just 2000 conversations. It's 2000 conversations, demonstrations and impartations."
9:56 - "And if you think about those 2000 conversations, impartations, demonstrations, what's weird about them is you can log a lot of those when they're young, but intellectually, the conversations, they all kind of happen in a very, very, very tiny window."
10:40 - The "window of discipleship" is between 12 and 16.
12:58 - You can't log all of the conversations, but what you can do is give them principles like Psalm 92: "Planted in the house of the Lord, you will flourish."
18:56 - "You can't export what you haven't first imported."
20:15 - Begin with the end in mind.
21:14 - Choosing priorities and avoiding regrets by paying attention to the juggling metaphor
23:57 - How being a part of church helps provide multiple mentors
26:48 - Sacred family rituals
28:20 - "Logging as many hours as we possibly can in that golden window is the definition of good parenting. And if they have to not be exposed to as many opportunities on purpose, and my kids don't regret it, it's not like my kids sit and think, well, I didn't get as many piano and dance lessons and as many sports opportunities. They never sit around and talk about that. They talk about how many hours we logged doing a common hobby together..."

Conversation Links:

Make a Donation to dadAWESOME
Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team
Substance Church
Peter Haas
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154 | Rope Swings, Giving Thanks & Big Prayers for 2021 (Jeff Zaugg) Dec 31, 2020

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dadAWESOME

We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter

Jeff Zaugg

Jeff and Michelle Zaugg will celebrate 15 years of marriage this year. They live in New Brighton, MN with their 3 young daughters and they are expecting their 4th baby in Spring 2021. Here's a link to the 2020 Zaugg Family Christmas Card. After 10-years of entrepreneurial non-profit ministry leadership, Jeff served as a pastor at Substance Church in the Twin Cities for the past 7 years. In Fall 2020 Jeff took the leap and went full-time fatherhood ministry. He is the founder and lead cheerleader at dadAWESOME & FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS. When he's not wrestling or playing hide and seek with his daughters, you might find Jeff out for a bike ride, making a pour over coffee, sitting by a fire with his wife or challenging some friends to a game of Spikeball.

Conversation Notes:

1:20 - dadAWESOME is on YouTube
1:50 - 4 parts of todays podcast (WHY, WHAT, WHERE and HOW)
- Why dadAWESOME
- What were some highlights of 2020?
- Where is this ministry headed in 2021?
- How can I join the movement?
2:20 - Proverbs 24:3-5 Wise people are builders. they build families, businesses, communities. And through intelligence and insight their enterprises are established and endure. Because of their skilled leadership the hearts of people are filled with the treasures of wisdom and the pleasures of spiritual wealth. Wisdom can make anyone into a mighty warrior, and revelation-knowledge increases strength.
I want this for my daughters:
- Their hearts filled with the treasures of WISDOM
- Their hearts filled with the pleasures of SPIRITUAL WEALTH
- They are a mighty WARRIOR
- They have revelation-KNOWLEDGE
- They have increasing STRENGTH
3:40 - WHY dadAWESOME - Rope Swing Ripple Effect
3:40 - "The reason we exist is we want to see a generation of dads who are builders, who are saying with intentionality and focus with their time, with their money, with their passions. I'm going to build a family. I'm going to build towards having a heart connection with my kids. I'm going to build, in a direction that glorifies the Lord in a direction that my, my girls, or in your case maybe boys, my kids, my sons, my daughters are proud of a dad. who is building something of significance."
4:15 - Wise dads are builders - they build rope swings
4:20 - All of the POSITIVES of having a rope swing - the contagious ripple effect
6:12 - All of the NEGATIVES of missing out on experiencing a rope swing
7:06 - The Ripple Effect of Intentional Fatherhood
7:40 - dadAWESOME exists to cheerlead and resource intentional fatherhood... Dads with hearts that are connecting with their kids
7:55 - Deuteronomy 30:19 "…I have set before you LIFE and DEATH, blessings and curses. Now choose LIFE, so that you and your children may LIVE.
8:20 - The NEGATIVE - the lack of fatherhood
8:30 - FATHERLESSNESS Ripple Effect
- According to the U.S. Census Bureau, 18.3 million children, 1 in 4, live without a biological, step, or adoptive father in the home. (Source: U.S. Census Bureau. (2020). Living arrangements of children under 18 years old: 1960 to present. Washington, D.C.: U.S. Census Bureau.)
  - POVERTY >> 4X GREATER RISK OF POVERTY
  - MOM-CHILD HEALTH > 2X GREATER RISK OF INFANT MORTALITY
  - INCARCERATION > MORE LIKELY TO GO TO PRISON
  - TEEN PREGNANCY > 7X MORE LIKELY TO BECOME PREGNANT AS A TEEN
  - CHILD OBESITY > 2X MORE LIKELY TO SUFFER OBESITY
  - EDUCATION > 2X MORE LIKELY TO DROP OUT OF HIGH SCHOOL
9:35 - We believe that dads connected to our Heavenly Father's heart are more intentional dads
10:05 - FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS - awaken passion and awareness to the cause of the fatherless
11:05 - We Resource & Celebrate Intentional Dads & We Ignite Passion & Action for the Fatherless... Pain Fuels Passion
11:24 - What were some dadAWESOME highlights of 2020?
11:35 - January 2020 - dadAWESOME Podcast Celebrates 2-years (25k downloads)
11:45 - March 2020 - YouTube Intentionality (3k views in 2020)
11:56 - April 2020 - Creation of dadAWESOME Foundations (93 dads joined us)
- I am LOVED
- I am INTENTIONAL
- I am FREE
- I am ENGAGED & I EJOY my kids
12:24 - August 2020 - FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS (64 dads raising $104k for the fatherless)
12:39 - October 2020 - Jeff Takes The Leap to Full-Time Fatherhood Ministry
13:00 - Where is dadAWESOME headed in 2021?
13:05 - Proverbs 24:3-5 Wise people are builders. they build families, businesses, communities. And through intelligence and insight their enterprises are established and endure. Because of their skilled leadership the hearts of people are filled with the treasures of wisdom and the pleasures of spiritual wealth. Wisdom can make anyone into a mighty warrior, and revelation-knowledge increases strength.
13:43 - "Our prayer as a ministry is that we would be helping dads be builders, but that we would build a ministry based with skilled leadership and that we would have the treasures of wisdom and we'd have the pleasures of spiritual wealth and that there would be intelligence and insight that would lead to us equipping mighty warriors for the kingdom. Dads who are mighty warriors, raising up kids who are mighty warriors and there'd be increased strength and all these families."
14:12 - Five Goals For The Upcoming Year
14:19 - Prayer Team Grows to 150 members - monthly / daily / weekly / 2x/month (10 people praying every single day) https://bit.ly/dadawesomePRAY
14:52 - teamAWESOME Grows to 75 members (people giving financially to fuel the mission) https://dadawesome.org/give/
15:22 - dadAWESOME Podcast Multiplies 10x to 250,000 downloads https://dadawesome.org/listen/
15:41 - dadAWESOME Youtube Multiplies 100x to 300,000 views https://www.youtube.com/dadawesome
16:11 - F4F Multiplies 10x to 640 dads raising $1,000,000 for the fatherless https://dadawesome.org/f4f/
16:42 - How to Help Build dadAWESOME Together
- 16:47 - JOIN us - ride, run and listen and watch
- 17:06 - SHARE - Subscribe / Share / Review - by simply subscribing and following and sharing, the mission is advanced
- 17:30 - PRAY - the prayer team is the engine of this movement
- 17:45 - GIVE - https://dadawesome.org/give/
- 18:20 - INVITE - text 5 other dads and encourage them to check out dadAWESOME

18:50 - Jeff's Prayer - Proverbs 24:3-5 Wise people are builders. they build families, businesses, communities. And through intelligence and insight their enterprises are established and endure. Because of their skilled leadership the hearts of people are filled with the treasures of wisdom and the pleasures of spiritual wealth. Wisdom can make anyone into a mighty warrior, and revelation-knowledge increases strength.

Conversation Links:

Make a Donation to dadAWESOME
Join the Prayer Team
Subscribe to the YouTube Channel
Write a Podcast Review on Apple Podcast
Learn more about FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS

153 | Marriage Tips, Mentorship & Neuroscience Awesomeness (Ted Lowe) Dec 24, 2020

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dadAWESOME

We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter

Ted Lowe

Ted Lowe is an author, speaker, and the director of MarriedPeople—the marriage division at Orange. Ted is the author of two books—one for marriage ministry leaders (Married People: How Your Church Can Build Marriages That Last) and one for married couples (Your Best US: Marriage Is Easier Than You Think). He served for almost 10 years as the director of MarriedLife at North Point Community Church. He lives near Atlanta, Georgia, with his four favorite people: his wife, Nancie, and their three children.

Conversation Notes:

2:35 - "It's about going after more moments of awesome and fewer moments of awful."
3:30 - Moving from fewer moments of awful to more moments of awesome in marriage.
4:00 - Marriage is made up of micro-moves. "We can choose to have awesome moments and they're not as big as we think."
5:08 - What his dad did right
5:12 - On losing his mom at age 10
6:20 - How losing his mom has impacted how he has raised his kids
10:00 - A dad fail moment
11:40 - James 1:9 "Be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry."
12:30 - "What they've found in neuroscience is that you need eight seconds once you're triggered for your frontal cortex to kick back in."
13:25 - Take time when everyone is calm to coach our kids
15:00 - Nurture vs Nature
15:30 - "Kids come into the world fully baked. God has created them and it becomes our job as parents to steward that"
17:48 - "When we look at our kids, you can take the pressure off yourself dads of thinking that you are in more control than you are... Give yourself some freedom that you just have to guide who they are"
18:24 - Analogy from Pastor Levi Lusko about being an Archeologist
19:35 - How to be intentional with finding and stewarding mentorship. Sharing wisdom from Doug and Kathy Fields.
20:40 - Telling his kids, "It's ok to be shy, but it's not ok to be rude."
22:45 - It's important to find those couples who are down-the-road for mentorship, but be careful not to compare your family to theirs because God created your family uniquely.
25:00 - How to invite feedback from mentor friends.
26:00 - Quote from Dr. Sue Johnson - "We're trying to get emotionally from a couple people what we used to get from a whole village."
26:10 - Their story of adoption
28:09 - Comparing a family to a baby mobile - "it doesn't matter if it's healthy or not, it starts getting in a rhythm. And when you add something to the mobile, whether it's good or bad, it gets the mobile off."
29:40 - The four core habits in his marriage book.
Your Best Us: Marriage Is Easier Than You Think

30:30 - Biblical marriage is more about how God wants us to love each other, not necessarily from examples of marriage in the Bible.
35:07 - "Marriage is not about the big day, it's about the every day."
36:15 - "It always takes two to keep a negative cycle going, but sometimes one can stop it."
37:05 - "People don't have bad hearts they have bad habits. And habits we can change."
37:20 - His wife said, "I don't need you to FIX this. I need you to FEEL this"
36:23 - Final marriage tips:
38:44 - Sharing how his wife asked him not to talk to her like a man, talk to her like a woman.
Colossians 3:19 - "Husbands, love your wives and don't be harsh with them"
39:15 - Stop patterns that frustrate her and stop allowing small things to frustrate you.
39:45 - Make moments you enjoy. What would make her so happy today.
40:00 - When asking her, "How can I love you more?" Then when she answers, say, "thanks for letting me know."
41:30 - Keep trying to win her heart... She's asking every day; "Will he still choose me?"
42:40 - Tips for becoming a more awesome dad. "Get on the same page as far about what you feel like you want to do with the kids. Because they will play you like a fiddle…kids need to know that you're solid."

Conversation Links:

Your Best Us: Marriage Is Easier Than You Think
Married People: How Your Church Can Build Marriages that Last (Ted Lowe & Doug Fields)
http://tedlowe.com/
https://marriedpeople.org/

152 | Dad Perspective from Thailand (Aaron Smith) Dec 17, 2020

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dadAWESOME

We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter

Aaron Smith

Aaron Smith was one of the founders of Venture, now living full time in Thailand as a missionary with his wife and nine year old and thirteen year old kids. He has a passion to resource dads both in Thailand and the US.

Conversation Notes:

2:37 - Discussing life in Thailand as a dad.
5:37 - Resources Aaron is providing to help Thai dads experience the love of God.
- "I went to a counselor and was diagnosed with work-induced burnout and kind of the result of it was that I just felt like that God expected us to work so hard and prove our worth, similar to parenting here in Thailand. Like you have to prove you have to gain your worth, your value, you have to pay back your parents for raising you, I kind of felt that way with God. But that's really not God's character if you really read the Bible. You can see that there's so much love and grace there. He just wants to spend time with us. We don't have to earn it...His desire to relate to us is not based on what we do or not do...He really cares for and loves us graciously, mercifully compassionately, and his desire is to really connect with us."
8:22 - Losing his dad in a biking accident 16 years ago.
14:10 - Encouragement for dads with young kids and balancing expectations of family and work.
14:40 - Recovering from burnout and needing time to rediscover passion for God, kids, wife.
16:30 - Rhythms that add life
17:00 - Recommended podcast: From Burnout to Breakthrough
18:25 - Verse by Verse ministries - a resource Aaron uses for his morning time with God.
19:45 - Friendships and mentorship while living internationally.
20:19 - "More than anything else in life, as a human, I desire someone to know what's going on in my head and my heart at the most raw and honest level. If you don't have that, you're not living life. And then the truth is, like, what's inside of me is not always pretty, it's ugly, like it's really ugly and thankfully the last year I've spent working on developing that kind of relationship with my wife. Before this we had a good marriage right but it wasn't amazing. It was harmonious, but this last year we both made a commitment to each other that we're gonna share what's going on in our heart even if it's ugly, even if it's distressing, even if it's like, oh man, it's shocking, but we want to be known by each other."
22:45 - Fathers for the Fatherless rides and runs for 2021
23:15 - Sharing stories of the impact of Venture in Thailand.
29:57 - Aaron's closing prayer
31:30 - Recommended books:
- Surrender to Love (Book)
- The Gift of Being Yourself (Book)
- The Place we Find Ourselves (Podcast)
31:51 - Aaron's ministry page

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151 | Raising Spirit-Led Kids Part 2 (Seth Dahl) Dec 10, 2020

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dadAWESOME

We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter

Seth Dahl

Seth Dahl is a writer and worldwide speaker to adults and children. He is known for his powerful wisdom communicated through a contagious joy and childlikeness. Seth and Lauren love to empower families to build a strong connection that fosters peace and creates a thriving family culture. Seth, Lauren and their three children homestead with a large garden and handful of animals on a small farm in Texas.

With over 15 years experience working with children and being a children's pastor, Seth has cultivated a passion to help parents create a thriving family culture at home. Sometimes parenting is overwhelming, but it doesn't have to be! Seth and Lauren love being able to equip people with the practical and spiritual tools they need to create the thriving family culture they've always dreamed of.

Conversation Notes:
- Episode 137 with Seth Dahl >> Show Notes
- 2:11 - Keep Austin Weird
- Jesus Loves Austin Instagram
- 4:50 - Praying Scripture - protection from promises of God against fear
- Luke 4:18-19 - Jesus reads Isaiah - He announces that "The Spirit of the Lord is on Me, because He has anointed Me to preach good news to the poor. He has sent Me to proclaim liberty to the captives and recovery of sight to the blind, to release the oppressed, to proclaim the year of the Lord's favor."…
- 5:45 - Crafted Prayer by Graham Cooke
- 6:46 "I'm teaching my kids the Bible and I'm praying over them and I'm doing it over and over... I don't want them to just know verses that they learned in kids church. These are the Scriptures I want them to become who they are and to pull out that peaceful, powerful, loved, blessed child that they are..."
- 8:55 - Powerful story of transforming the pain of not having a father growing up into gratitude and intentionality with his own family
- 9:36 - "Be thankful in all things."
- 10:50 - "Honor is celebrating who they are, who God made them to be, without stumbling over their stuff." Wearing a ring as a statement of honor and reminding what he's changing and breaking off his family.
- 15:05 - An encounter with God that transformed the pain of his dad and his relationship with God.
- 18:52 - Seth's book - Raising Spirit-Led Kids: Raising Kids to Walk Naturally in the Supernatural
- 20:38 - 1 John 4:18 - "There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love." (NIV)
- 20:48 - The difference between punishment and discipline.
- 21:03 - Hebrews 12:8 - "If you are not disciplined—and everyone undergoes discipline—then you are not legitimate, not true sons and daughters at all." (NIV)
- 21:13 - "If we punish our kids, we bring in the spirit of fear, not the spirit of God, the spirit of love....but if we don't discipline, it says we basically invite the orphan spirit, because they're now illegitimate orphaned children because we don't discipline, we don't correct, we don't have boundaries....so that's a huge part of the book because you don't want to punish, but you do want to discipline."
- 24:08 - The heart of sonship and identity vs. heart of an orphan. "At its simplest, it means we're no longer alone in this, we're not on our own."
- 26:15 - "The son is like, 'I'm not on my own. I do what I see the Father doing. He helps me, he leads me, he's for me, he loves me, he pours into me, and then I have it to give to them. I don't have to conjure it up. I don't have to figure it out. I don't have to do all these fancy tricks. I receive and then I give..."
- 28:25 - "He is the architect and we are the contractors. It's our job to figure out his plan that he's designed and then design it and help build it in the earth."
- 30:37 - Judges 13:8 - "Then Manoah prayed to the Lord: 'Pardon your servant, Lord. I beg you to let the man of God you sent to us come again to teach us how to bring up the boy who is to be born.'" Manoah prays for an encounter with God to give specific directions for how to raise his son.
- 31:55 - "I don't want to do it just from books, I don't want to do it just from the Bible, I want to do it from meeting God. I want encounters with God where he teaches me what to do with my kids and reminds me who they are."
Conversation Links:

150 - Chasing the Dreams of Your Family (Jonathan Wiggins) Dec 03, 2020

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dadAWESOME

We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter

Jonathan Wiggins

Jonathan Wiggins is a Christ follower who loves his wife, his family and his community of friends. Jonathan speaks, writes and mentors leaders. He is the lead pastor of Rez.church in Loveland, Colorado.

Conversation Notes:

3:37 - Jonathan introduces his family
6:26 - Learning the dreams of people you love... exploring them and fueling them
8:25 - "he made so many of my dreams come true"
9:25 - "I don't even know what your dreams are I don't know what the kids dreams are and so we spent the next few days unpacking the dreams of our kids of my wife or myself we wrote them down"
9:45 - Renting an RV and putting 30,000 miles on it chasing dreams
11:45 - Father's Day Facebook Post
13:04 - Bible story of Rachel and Lea >> "The eyes of the Father are always turned toward those who hurt"
15:35 - Don Boyett > "From you I learned that the eyes of the Father are always turned toward those who hurt. I learned that punishment is only useful to minimize exposure to greater harm. I learned that relationship, acceptance and love is what it takes to make a man. Thank you."
15:45 - Jeff > "I have found that deep pain unhealed and un-surrendered to God without the Lord's power can really mess people up and cause such pain to their future kids and their future spouse and their like pain can really ripple down through generations we see it in the bible all over the place but sure deep pain that is transformed and healed and and submitted to a loving heavenly father that deep pain can lead to deep passion"
16:20 - Bone brake analogy - forgiveness
17:30 - "I remember just praying, God I don't know how to do this and I felt like God spoke to me and just said, imitate Me as I imitate christ... and I felt like God said who's the best father you know and I was like Don Boyett... i mean he's the best father I know and I felt like God said, just imitate him follow his example and in following the example of a great father I've become a good father"
18:30 - darkness
20:30 - "If light rescued me as a son, maybe light can rescue my son"
20:40 - "Whatever I say or do, my kids are allowed to tell anybody at any time"
21:25 - "You're only as sick as your secrets"
Galatians 6:1
23:20 - getting along or with trusted friends in the wilderness
23:50 - Restoration Project - wilderness retreats
25:00 - Story of letting his son take the lead... healing through letting his son guide the play
27:05 - "It's not enough just to spend time with your kids or to pack them full of your dreams for them... it is such a kindness and it adds so much dignity to your kids to dig out what's on the inside of them to really discover what God's put in there because we do leave an imprint on our kids in their sense of self but God has first dibs on that and if we can help them discover what God's put there i think that's the best kindness we could show as dads"
29:00 - Dad Fail
30:05 - Inviting your kids to talk to you about anything
30:20 - Maximizing Connection
30:45 - Story of his son calling Jonathan out for making comparisons - "You are giving to me what that guys dad gave to him"
33:00 - Forgiveness - "I just want to be the opposite of my father"
33:40 - "Forgiveness frees us up to be the men we are called to be and not just a reaction to the pain and woulds and rejection in the past"
34:53 - Practical Advice = Make Time
35:19 - Christmas Letters - draw names and write a letter to the person whose name you draw - what you see in them. Words of affirmation.
36:20 - "I think a lot of times us dads we leave things unsaid and so if there are things like that it doesn't have to be Christmas letters it doesn't have to be anything in particular but if there's a way for you to just say you know what i'm going to intentionally say what needs to be said your words are so powerful in your kids lives so open up your mouth and spend some of those words that we sometimes are stingy with in the day speak to your kids speak into the life of your kids"
37:17 - Jonathan's Prayer

NOTE: New Book from Pastor Jonathan releases in January

"In at least one way, we're not that different: Every person on the planet longs to be fully known and deeply loved—both, not one or the other. To be known but not loved makes us feel terribly exposed; to be loved but not known is superficial and unfulfilling. In this book, Jonathan Wiggins explains the heart of God for rich, strong, healing relationships. He teaches from a compelling biblical perspective, and each chapter is full of illustrative stories and practical suggestions. And Jonathan writes from experience. He has developed this kind of relationship on his staff team. They call themselves "lions" because they've found the courage to be honest and supportive as they work together to do great things for God's kingdom.

The concepts in this book apply to staff teams, small groups, families, and friends. If you believe life change happens in relationships, this book is for you."

Conversation Links:

Jonathan's Church - Rez Church
Jonathan's Instagram

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Allen Arnold is an author, (The Story of With and Chaos Can't) speaker, and Executive Producer of Content for Wild at Heart. His passion is awakening people's hearts to pursue their dreams and creativity with God. As a former Fiction Publisher, Allen oversaw the launch of more than 500 novels. Now he helps people live a better story. He loves blue oceans, black coffee, hot salsa, and big ideas.

Conversation Notes:

1:27 - Thankfulness games with our kids
2:11 - Allen Arnold's new book: Chaos Can't
2:41 -Check out dadawesome.org/give for ways to support dadAWESOME.
7:30 - "As dads, we have the privilege of inviting our kids in a way that invites them into a larger story."
[additional Show Notes coming soon]

Conversation Links:

Allen Arnold Website
Book: Chaos Can't

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