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128 | Zoom Fatigue, Racial Tensions & the Needed Upgrade (Wayne Francis) Jul 02, 2020

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dadAWESOME

We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter

FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS

Join a team of 100 dads biking 100 miles and raising $100,000 for the fatherless locally and globally.
OUR MISSION: End fatherlessness globally. Every child with a man they can call father. (Malachi 4:6a "He will turn the hearts of the parents to their children, and the hearts of the children to their parents")
VISION: We ignite a father's calling by connecting him body and soul with the cause of the fatherless and the heart of the Father. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS will change your life by forcing you to look past yourself. We're going to push ourselves, cycling 100 miles, in response to our Heavenly Father's heart for the Fatherless.
DATE: Saturday, August 29, 2020
MORE INFO: http://bit.ly/F4F2020

Wayne Francis

Wayne and Claudene, who he calls "Classy", have been married for 20 years and have two beautiful teenage daughters, Haleigh and Ryleigh. Wayne loves to cycle and takes great pleasure in turning any floor into a dance floor. Wayne and Claudene Francis lead the New York location of The Life Church.

Conversation Notes:

1:24 - DA Foundations - 4-Hours of Intentional Fatherhood - We're hosting the 3rd round of DA Foundations and it's a Zoom online cohort on Thursdays (starts a week from tomorrow) from 9-10pm. This is a FREE 4-week group that unpacks the 4 keys to adding LIFE to the dad life. You've got to register and we're asking all the dads who join us to try to attend at least 3 out of the 4 dates... Here's the outline of the content and the RSVP form. Please register by July 7th.
1:50 - FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS - http://bit.ly/F4F2020
2:45 - DA DAILY - we are focussing the 31 days of July on Dad Wisdom from the 31 chapters of Proverbs. If you want to join us for a daily text, just text "dad" to the number 77222
6:47 - Plants and Pillars message on Father's day - Psalm 144:12 - May our sons flourish... like well-nurtured plants. May our daughters be like graceful pillars…
7:50 - "Great daughters and great sons are not called out, they are carved out,...which means that you're chiseling something over time and your polishing and finessing, so it's a work of art when you're a dad that happens as a process of time."
8:28 - "Asking a question is better than making a statement. Questions shape character more than just statements."
9:05 - How he has chosen to parent differently from his dad, and what he has done the same.
10:46 - Experiencing "reverse intimacy" with his father.
13:21 - Mistake when parenting his daughters
15:45 - Exposing our kids to the pain of the world so that they can develop a heart of empathy. Having conversations about justice with our kids.
16:48 - "I think it's very important right now to give your children the capacity to see beauty and diversity. That their relationships are flourishing from a very young age with kids that are of a different color. That they are getting to see exactly what it looks like to be in a multiplicity of cultural diversity that's going to impact the type of humans they'll be two or three generations down the road."
17:29 - Diversifying books and resources from a young age
18:40 - Talking to his kids about how to react when experiencing micro aggression
19:55 - "The condition of the soul is always at the tip of the tongue."
20:45 - Zoom fatigue analogy for having conversations around race.
23:52 - Discussing injustice. "Your kids will never react to what they don't see you reacting to."
24:41 - "Black fist white knuckles" sermon series.
25:36 - "I'm trying to raise pillars not pillows."
27:04 - "Love doesn't get laryngitis."
28:23- How to be an ally.
29:40 - "You need to be the type of man that you're going to be happy walking your daughter down the aisle to. Because you are the only one that's going to shape that image."
30:35 - "Daughters and sons don't grow in bad soil...am I the type of man that I would want my daughters hanging out with if there was nobody else around?"
31:11 - Wayne's prayer for dads.

Links:

Plants and Pillars message on Father's day
Wayne's Church - The Life Church NY

127 | Father's Day Mic Flip (Jeff Zaugg) Jun 25, 2020

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dadAWESOME

We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter

FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS

Join a team of 100 dads biking 100 miles and raising $100,000 for the fatherless locally and globally.
OUR MISSION: End fatherlessness globally. Every child with a man they can call father. (Malachi 4:6a "He will turn the hearts of the parents to their children, and the hearts of the children to their parents")
VISION: We ignite a father's calling by connecting him body and soul with the cause of the fatherless and the heart of the Father. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS will change your life by forcing you to look past yourself. On the one weekend when it's easiest to sit home and consume, we're going to push ourselves, cycling 100 miles, in response to our Heavenly Father's heart for the Fatherless.
DATE: Saturday, August 29, 2020
MORE INFO: http://bit.ly/F4F2020

Jeff Zaugg

Last Sunday was Father's Day and Jeff Zaugg had the privilege of being interviewed by Dr. Kim Kimberling on the Awesome Marriage Podcast. Today, Episode 127 is a repost of that conversation and it's a look at the genesis story of the past 127 weeks of dadAWESOME along with some of the backstory on Jeff Zaugg and what he has learned about fatherhood from nearly 100 dadAWESOME interviews. Jeff and Michelle Zaugg have been married for 19 days shy of 14 years and they have 3 daughters (6, 3 and 1). They live in the Twin Cities in Minnesota and have an 11 year old Goldendoodle named Boomer. Jeff enjoys ultimate frisbee, surfing, slack-lining, waterskiing, basketball, cycling, triathlons, spikeball, family Dairy Queen bike rides, climbing trees, date nights with Michelle, walking to work and taking his girls on daddy daughter dates.

Conversation Notes

1:52 - Morgan Snyder on Episode 124
2:08 - Paul Hurckman on Episode 125
2:18 - Banning Liebscher on Episode 126
2:36 - Awesome Marriage Ministry
6:00 - It was pain that led to a deep passion to start dadAWESOME. He didn't want to see kids in pain.
7:46 - How to be a great dad…."Part of [being a great dad] is the realization that our role is important."
8:15 - Deuteronomy 30:19 - "I have set before you life and death blessings and curses so now choose life so that you and your children may live."
8:30 - We get a choice as dads to choose life, to be a life giving dad. "Adding LIFE to the dad life."
9:27 - "The role is bigger than you know and more impactful and your kids will thank you forever by just being that dad that says I'm going to bring life."
11:59 - What are dads this generation doing right?
16:09 - Fathers for the Fatherless Bike Ride 2020 - Turning Father's day into a mission to activate dads to do something hard on behalf of kids without dads.
18:04 - I think if we can ignite fathers around a bigger purpose and calling...our kids see that.
19:31 - Malachi 4:6 - He will turn the hearts of the parents to their children and the hearts of children to their parents.
21:49 - Heb 12:1-2 - Throwing off our past pain so we can run toward our kids
22:30 - If we let the baggage hold us back, then our kids' eyes don't shine.
23:25 - "Brotherhood is the strength that keeps the hard days from becoming permanent hard days."
24:10 - Isolation and pace of life are the areas that are sucking the life out of the dad life for this generation of dads.
24:54 - "Brotherhood is everything to keep us on the trajectory of God's best for our life."
26:14 - Where do you find brotherhood?
27:20 - Approach friendship from a peer mentor approach
32:07 - Psalm 78:4 - "We will not hide these truths from our children, we will tell the next generation about the glorious deeds of the Lord, about his power and his mighty wonders."
32:40 - "Every single person I've interviewed in their sixties says I wish I would have invested more time."
33:40 - Quoting a mentor: "What you're doing as a dad when you connect with your kids is you're on a treasure hunt for their heart, and part of your job is to reach into their heart, pull out their purpose and show it to them."
36:40 - "My girls know, they can sense,... is there unity, is there peace, is there love between the two most important big people in their life...they can see and they can feel how mom and dad are doing."
40:02 - How do I put my wife first? Going to counseling and prioritizing date nights. "Taking the vulnerable step of going to counseling with her is a way that I put her first... I'm going to take my heart and expose some of the hurts and some of the things I'm feeling that are hard for me to share sometimes."
43:00 - DA Daily Text - text "dad" to 77222
43:20 - July DA Foundations - starting June 9th

Episode Links

126 | Dads Who Dare To Dream (Banning Liebscher) Jun 18, 2020

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dadAWESOME

We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter

FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS

Join a team of 100 dads biking 100 miles and raising $100,000 for the fatherless locally and globally.
OUR MISSION: End fatherlessness globally. Every child with a man they can call father. (Malachi 4:6a "He will turn the hearts of the parents to their children, and the hearts of the children to their parents")
VISION: We ignite a father's calling by connecting him body and soul with the cause of the fatherless and the heart of the Father. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS will change your life by forcing you to look past yourself. On the one weekend when it's easiest to sit home and consume, we're going to push ourselves, cycling 100 miles, in response to our Heavenly Father's heart for the Fatherless.
DATE: Saturday, August 29, 2020
MORE INFO: http://bit.ly/F4F2020

Banning Liebscher

Banning Liebscher is a pastor, speaker, and author. Along with his wife, SeaJay, he founded Jesus Culture, a ministry of worship, conferences, and leadership development. In 2014, they planted Jesus Culture Sacramento, a local church in California with a passion to see people fully engaged in becoming who God has called them to be and to do what God has called them to do. Find out more at jesusculture.com. Banning's passion is to see a generation of revivalists raised up who have encountered the extravagant love of Jesus and have given themselves for worldwide revival. He and his wife have three children, Ellianna, Raya, and Lake.

Conversation Notes

3:30 - "I think that we are called to pour our life into what will be left behind...I'm convinced that what will be left behind is not structures we built, not things we implemented, but just people that we fathered - that's what's going to be left behind."
3:51 - "I feel like I am to bring my life to the next generation and lay it down for them and give it to them."
4:44 - Dads being dreamers vs. Dads settling
5:45 - "When I stop dreaming, when I stop allowing my heart to really dream about things that apart from God are impossible, I not longer kind of lean in, I begin to lean back. I don't engage, I disengage. And I would say the greatest thing in the world you could do for your kids is to be a dreamer that's pursuing what God has in your life."
6:17 - "So I think our kids seeing us pursue the dreams that are in our heart is a really critical part of our fathering and discipling of them."
7:02 - "I think what we do comes out of who we are, and that we can't be defined by what we do."
7:14 - We have a call to "be" which is our IDENTITY and we have a call to "do" which is our MISSION.
8:03 - Challenging dads to not settle for anything less than the fullness of God in your life.
10:12 - "As long as you move at the speed of obedience, and as long as you move with the speed of community and covering, then you'll never be off, and even when you are off a little bit there will be grace because your heart is to be in this lane."
12:20 - Banning's new book - The Three Mile Walk:The Courage to Live the Life God Wants for You
12:43 - Family moments during quarantine
14:34 - Dad hacks to stay connected to the kids traveling
15:01 - "My kids are going to sacrifice for who I am and and the call on my life, but they also need to benefit and be blessed from that."
15:54 - "Whatever you do, like what I do to provide for the family has some cost involved, but I also want to make sure that there's blessing involved and that my kids are connected to it..make sure blessing is connected to the sacrifice as well and that it's not just sacrifice, it's not just that dad's gone."
18:07 - A story of trusting God with his kids
20:59 - "At the end of the day, what we know is this: any area of my life that has blessed, any area of my life that has wisdom attached to it, any area of my life that has fruit attached to it, it's because other people have joined me in it."
22:03 - "When I stand before God one day, [He's going to say] I didn't just require your best, I require your best and the best of these people I put around you, so when it comes to father I think the reality is our best ins't good enough - that's really never meant to be good enough. It' snot just my best I'm bringing to the is equation, it's my best and it's the best of...these men that pour into my life, that walk with me, that then allows me to be a good father."
22:46 - "When I allow myself to be isolated, when I allow myself to be independent, when i allow myself to think that I just should be able to do this on my own and I don't need anybody speaking into my life or challenging me or encouraging me, well I just want to say that your best isn't good enough...God didn't set it up that way."
23:09 - "God didn't set it up where...it's just you and nobody else, you just give it your best. He's like, I put a whole family around you and I'm bringing those strengths into your life so that you can accomplish what I've asked you to accomplish and raise these kids."
23:26 - "There's not one area of my life that hasn't been touched by the strength of other and that's why it has a measure of success to it."
23:38 - The Three Mile Walk:The Courage to Live the Life God Wants for You - Banning Liebscher
25:47 - "Those that are fully alive are the ones that are fully engaged to the call of God to be and to do."
26:51 - "If you're listening to this podcast I can only imagine then that you have a desire to be a great father. Being a great father takes a massive amount of courage...facing the things you have to face internally, looking at your weaknesses and trying to grow, saying God I want to be more patient...but if I'm going to be who God's called me to be as a father, it requires me to be encouraged."
28:10 - Reinhardt Bonnke's book, "Living a Life of Fire"
30:51 - When I had my first kid, I realized the greatest think I'll ever do with my life is raise this kid, and it's the hardest thing I've ever done hands down. Hands down being a dad is the hardest thing I have ever done and it has challenged me in ways I didn't even know I could be challenged. It is scary, it is vulnerable, it is raw, and by far the best thing I've ever done and the greatest legacy I'll leave."

Episode Links

Jesus Culture
Reinhardt Bonnke's book, "Living a Life of Fire"
The Three Mile Walk:The Courage to Live the Life God Wants for You - Banning Liebscher

125 | A Conversation about Justice & Racism with Paul Hurckman Jun 11, 2020

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dadAWESOME

We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter

FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS

Join a team of 100 dads biking 100 miles and raising $100,000 for the fatherless locally and globally.
OUR MISSION: End fatherlessness globally. Every child with a man they can call father. (Malachi 4:6a "He will turn the hearts of the parents to their children, and the hearts of the children to their parents")
VISION: We ignite a father's calling by connecting him body and soul with the cause of the fatherless and the heart of the Father. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS will change your life by forcing you to look past yourself. On the one weekend when it's easiest to sit home and consume, we're going to push ourselves, cycling 100 miles, in response to our Heavenly Father's heart for the Fatherless.
DATE: Saturday, August 29, 2020
MORE INFO: http://bit.ly/F4F2020

Paul Hurckman

Paul Hurckman is the Executive Director of Venture, a faith-based justice organization that does "tough things for people in tough places" around the world. Venture allows people to raise money through biking, hiking and running for justice and missions projects like refugee care, human trafficking and extreme poverty. Paul and his wife Candace live in North Minneapolis with their 5 kids.

Conversation Notes

6:16 - Paul's family and foster story.
8:28 - Fathers for the Fatherless bike ride http://bit.ly/F4F2020
8:57 - Venture (https://venture.org/) - Justice for the unreached - Four focuses: Human trafficking, refugee crisis, extreme poverty and oppression or persecution specifically around the church and in Christianity.
11:05 - Being dads who lead on the home front in this topic
12:08 - "Can we be dads who have courageous conversations? Because I believe God smiles when he sees dads press into the uneasy."
12:30 - How to explain racism to my 6yr old.
13:11 - Should I talk about this? "that very question is a question of privilege. Now when I say privilege, I'm not being condescending for the listeners. I am a white man and I have both white and black children. My wife is both white and Native American so we have layers that we are always considering in the conversation, but when you say, should I? I don't know if there are many communities where they don't get that option of the ideal time to talk about something."
15:42 - "They know clearly where we stand and they know that it's because the Gospel invites us to something different. I will tell you this my kids don't know if we vote red or blue or donkey or elephant they don't know the names of our congressmen, but they know clearly what we believe about dignity equality equity, and when that isn't happening, that mom and dad are going to try to show up so that's the start of the conversation for us."
17:17 - How do we help our kids help our kids understand God's heart for justice?
18:16 - "One of the problems why our society and our culture and humanity has a problem is we don't have agreed-upon baseline. As Christ followers we have an agreed-upon baseline, and that's the kingdom as we see in scripture. And so as we have been discipling our kids on the kingdom in scripture, it provides access to how we talk about different things. So justice, I know, can be somewhat polarizing. I get it. It feels like it's co-opted by one side or the other side, or by the urban or by the suburban, or by the red or by the blue, or by the donkey or by the elephant, or by the Evangelical or by the Catholic, or by the this or the that, it's not any of those things. When we, as Christ followers, we're like no this a really clear Kingdom principle. It's talked about 2500 times in Scripture. This is not for some people at some places in time or some ministries in the church, but it's for all of us as Christ followers to understand that because of our relationship with Christ, we are intimately linked to his design and that design was never meant to just be us and Jesus."
19:14 - "The church is supposed to do something when there are systemic problems, you can fight me up and down, but theologically it is airtight. This is part of what we're supposed to be doing."
20:20 - Matthew 7:3 - "And why worry about a speck in your friend's eye when you have a log in your own?
21:14 - What encouragement would you have to help keep a dad in learning leading versus passive?
22:30 - "If we would approach conversations of justice and race in that same way [as having a new baby] not because you have a black or a white child, but because scripture clearly invites us and we cannot disciple our kids without helping them understand race. If we can if we can address this in a way that this is not optional, but it's mission-critical to the kingdom, then what I would say is you're gonna make a mistake."
23:24 - Practice being a person of peace.
23:23 - Training our kids to make the changes in the systemic injustice
24:08 - Being a person of peace. Being intention about conversations.
24:35 - How can we choose to press in?
25:35 - "If we wait until we have the answers we'll never engage."
26:45 - Philippians 3 - Equality with God not something to be gained.
27:18 - "If you read the text enough and know what Jesus did, you're gonna find the answers to what you're supposed to do with your kids and your kids friends, and if you do it right, all of your kids friends won't look just like them and it's really important that you're ready for that."
30:12 - "Paralysis is from Satan. I know it's tough. I know you feel stuck. I know you want to do it the right way. I know you love your kids and I would assume a majority of people listening do not identify as racist and are trying to root out any of those things, but the moment that you back away because you can, you are complicit in a system that hasn't stood up and had a voice. You have a voice with your kids. You are responsible with your kids. Use that voice. If you don't want to explain to them out of the blue then don't have it be out of the blue. Figure out a life rhythm where you're explaining what you're already doing…"
32:06 - "Nothing will change just because you feel bad….If you're not going to have paralysis, then you also have to have grace on yourself and other people. You can be right and you can try to make a point, or you can make a difference. You can spend all of your time being right on social media, or you can leave the digital space and enter into your community and have stories for your kids of what it looks like for mom and dad to be a neighbor."
33:18 - "I don't think Satan wants you to be a racist. I don't think that propels the ideology. I think he wants you to be lukewarm, to feel bad, and do nothing, when the kingdom invites us to be a neighbor." - Story of the Good Samaritan
36:53 - Heb 10:39 - But we do not belong to those who shrink back and are destroyed, but to those who have faith and are saved.

Links:

Video of this conversation - https://youtu.be/IwxScM_V-u8
FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS bike ride http://bit.ly/F4F2020
Venture (https://venture.org/

124 | Becoming Wholehearted (Morgan Snyder) Jun 04, 2020

Show notes

dadAWESOME

We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter

FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS

Join a team of 100 dads biking 100 miles and raising $100,000 for the fatherless locally and globally.
OUR MISSION: End fatherlessness globally. Every child with a man they can call father. (Malachi 4:6a "He will turn the hearts of the parents to their children, and the hearts of the children to their parents")
VISION: We ignite a father's calling by connecting him body and soul with the cause of the fatherless and the heart of the Father. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS will change your life by forcing you to look past yourself. On the one weekend when it's easiest to sit home and consume, we're going to push ourselves, cycling 100 miles, in response to our Heavenly Father's heart for the Fatherless.
DATE: Saturday, August 29, 2020
MORE INFO: http://bit.ly/F4F2020

Morgan Snyder

Morgan Snyder is a strategist, entrepreneur, teacher, writer, and speaker. His passion is to both be shaped by and shape the men and women who are shaping the kingdom of God. In 2010, he established BecomeGoodSoil.com, a fellowship of leaders whose global reach offers guidance for the narrow road of becoming the kind of person to whom God can confidently entrust the care of his kingdom. He serves on the executive leadership team of Wild at Heart and Ransomed Heart Ministries, having served alongside John and Stasi Eldredge for more than two decades. Morgan goes off the grid every chance he gets, whether bow hunting in the Colorado wilderness or choosing the adventurous life with his greatest treasures: his wife, Cherie; his son, Joshua; and his daughter, Abigail.

Conversation Notes

5:47 - Talking about his "second great conversion"… "To become a son has changed everything for me…C.S. Lewis said, 'I believe in Christianity like I believe in the sunrise.I believe in it because I see it every day, but it's by the sun I see all things.' ...To become a son is my sunrise. I believe it because I've experienced it to be true. To unlearn God as Father the way I've learned it wrong and to open my heart to receive him as the true Father he intends to be. It's by that I see all things."
7:26 - Growing up in a home without God - winning the "game" of life - having success in many areas, but losing his soul.
8:30 - giving his life to God
9:27 - "God became my father, my pastor, my guide, I entered into a slow and steady process of being initiated as a man and fathered as a son. And so where I find myself now is ...in process of over two decades of making my life about becoming the kind of man in whom God is glad to entrust more and more of the care of his kingdom, becoming more and more honest about what's not yet, about what is under construction. But that used to feel like a weight and now feels like a promise because there's so much hope."
10:29 - His wife is the Chief Life Officer.
13:11 - His wife shared in counseling, "I feel like a bird locked in a cage. And I can't fly"…. That wasn't my heart's intention at all. I dreamed about being a loving husband, but the fruit was I was a broken man, an unhealed boy inside a man that was still driving to get his question answered by achieving. I am loved when I come through. I am loved when I achieve. And now it's just in the name of God, it's just in the name of being a husband. And all the while my strength wasn't actually rescuing the beauty, it wasn't actually fighting for her, it was actually diminishing the glory of her life."
14:29 - "I believe one of the greatest sacred trusts given to me is to champion her calling and allow her to thrive as the Chief Life Officer."
14:51 - Finding the way to the center of your daughter's heart.
15:51 - A birth experience gone wrong
16:29 - "God I agree with your story for my son, and I want to participate with what you have planned for him. I want to participate in initiation and I'll participate in the birth story you have."
16:56 - "God is very interested and motivated in the initiation of our children. It's what makes Him come alive. He has their best interests in mind. And when I put down my agenda, I got curious. I got responsive. The path that my children have chosen and the God has chosen for them is not what I would have chosen in so many ways, but being a student and being attentive and participating has changed everything."
18:02 - Talking about his daughter - "I approach her with a question of 'Holy Spirit would you show me her heart? Who did you make [her] to be? And how do I bring my delight to her and communicate consistently - [you] are loved. And there is nothing you can do or not do and say or not say that will cause me to withdraw my delight. And if I can get that right, then everything else becomes secondary."
21:11 - How do I initiate my son?
21:59 - "Fundamentally, when we can pull back from the trees and see the forest, we offer the sum total of who we've become, we will apprentice our kids for good or for ill into the person we've become."
22:30 - Technology and growing up as an adolescent girl in our current culture.
23:16 - we try to offer what we haven't received and offer what we haven't become…..
24:30 - whole-hearted parenting and growing in union with God
25:08 - "We can only fake it for so long and until we come to an understanding that excavation is simply non-negotiable bc when we build on a shoddy foundation, we don't know until the storm comes but the storm will come. We are in a culture of uncertainty and in a time of shaking."
26:42 - Immaturity vs. sin
28:40 - "Reality is what we bump into when we're wrong." - Dallas Willard
29:20 - Look to the older men in your life and ask where did they get taken out or hijacked.
29:45 - "I have a choice. I either have to settle for engineering a small life, ... where life becomes mostly about comfort, security and arranging for a life that I can control, or at least have the illusion that I can control and it doesn't require me to change. And that's what most men become. Or I can take those exclamation points and I can start asking questions."
30:15 - "We really only have two choices, either humility or humiliation."
30:25 - "I realized the questions are the core to apprenticeship and it's the questions that led me back to the path of life."
33:34 - "Someone with my best interests in mind is at work. What I recovered was an upside down kingdom. Where most men build, the invitation was to stop building and allow God to excavate so that he can build your character - not just morality but whole-heartedness."
35:10 - "Actually it's the good soil, cultivated over time, that yields the supernatural harvest."
38:08 - PODCAST EPISODE ABOUT MARGIN
38:40 - How does a fish know that it's water is polluted?
39:45 - We are in an age of exponential change and we all, as a culture, carry more load than our limits.
40:25 - So if we come to terms that we are in an aggressive culture that wants to destroy our margin, the gap between our load and our limits, then we understand we have to fight to protect that space.
40:41 - "The great frontier in our age is our attention and our affection, and its in margin, its in the space between the load and limits, that we can recover our attention and our affection which was actually meant to be the epicenter of where we grow with intimacy with God."
42:12 - "Identify your load. Identify your healthy, sustainable limits. And if your load exceeds your limits, then that's a frontier in which you need to be curious with about God."

Conversation Links:

Become Good Soil
Book - Becoming A King: The Path To Restoring The Heart Of A Man - Morgan Snyder's Becoming a King speaks unabashedly to men, teaching them the life-changing truth about the power that God intends for them to responsibly step into for his Kingdom, while also giving women an honest peek behind the curtain into the lives and hearts of the men they know and love.
Podcast: Become Good Soil
Join the dadAWESOME daily text message: Text DAD to 77222

123 | Faithfulness, Focus, Freedom & Fun (May 2020 dadNOTES) May 28, 2020

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dadAWESOME

We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter

FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS

Join a team of 100 dads biking 100 miles and raising $100,000 for the fatherless locally and globally.
OUR MISSION: End fatherlessness globally. Every child with a man they can call father. (Malachi 4:6a "He will turn the hearts of the parents to their children, and the hearts of the children to their parents")
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We understand that the dad life is at times a very full life... Often it's easy to miss an episode or forget some of the key action steps from previous dadAWESOME conversations. Episode 123 is a new rapid fire format with the top-3 takeaways from the past three episodes.

Conversation Notes

1) One-on-one time with your kids

2) Take a Sabbatical

3) Spiritual Leadership Requires FREEDOM

4) Stop it!

5) Think About Your Wife

6) Laugh Together

7) "Am I doing things that I want my kids to copy?"

8) Losing focus on the most important thing…

9) Slingshot Faithfulness

10) Add more laughter to date nights (my personal take-away)

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122 | Slingshot Surrender & Planted Like a Palm Tree (Jordan Durso) May 21, 2020

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Jordan Durso

Best known as Marissa Angelique & Isabella's Dad. Jordan is also the Executive Director of The Legacy Center where they are relentless about moving people forward to achieve their ultimate potential. The Legacy Center fights to see individuals change for life and not just for the moment: To live Life on Purpose; To take every step with intention; To help people create a Legacy that their kids will want to copy. Jordan lives in New York city with his three girls.

Conversation Notes

5:10 - Legacy Center New York - not just meeting physical needs, but meeting relational and family needs
6:45 - "This is what I want my kids to copy from me."
7:12 - "Is there something I'm doing, God, that I don't want my kids to copy."
7:35 - Being the man that I want my girls to marry
8:20 - The stuff we see us do every day - I see my kids copy that stuff.
9:35 - Being intentional with finances with his kids
11:11 - Focus on now
11:50 - dad fail - losing focus on the most important things in travel and work
14:25 - Story of loss and pain of divorce
18:40 - "I don't believe God makes all things happen but he makes all things good so if I give him my life and I give him my story and my situation I think he can make even this situation good and help people that are going through the same situation."
19:40 - As I was in this stage feeling of being stuck, I felt like I was being stretched, and not in the good sense at first….all my friends... were passing by...God what about me? And I felt like God spoke to me that I was like this slingshot that he was pulling back and he was stretching me and though everything looked like it was going this way and I was going backwards, it was really preparing to launch me, and the farther back I went and the more I got stretched, the farther I'd go, so I just had to say OK and throw my hands up in surrender."
21:18 - How to keep our eyes on what's most important in the stretching seasons. - Make sure you have really good friends to be honest with. Get around guys who are stronger than you. Real brotherhood.
24:04 - Palm trees roots stretch and search deep toward water sources and interlock with other palm trees. Eventually storms will die down. Secure stance, interlock with other people who are going through the same thing sometimes.
26:50 - What are the water sources that would help a dad who is in a storm right now? Accountability, interlocking with others, reading the Bible, reading other great books by people who have also been through hard times.
28:24 - "God did it for him, could God do it for me? Let that question raise up and spark your faith…. Unbelief says some other time, but not now some other place but not here, for somebody else but not me. Faith says anything that he did anywhere else he's willing to do here, anything he did at any other time he's willing to do now, and anything he did for anybody else he'll do for me." Reading other people's stories ignites our faith that God will do it for us too.
29:20 - In the business of helping other people get healthy, and I can only do that if I'm healthy.
31:00 - Dad wisdom time machine advice = date your daughters
31:35 - Create memories with your kids... travel with your kids
32:05 - Put your family first. The other stuff is not that important.
32:45 - Reflections on Jordan's father = spending too much time serving at church and missing many of the special moments with his kids.
35:00 - adding the goal of sitting down for dinner and pausing and connecting as a family.
35:55 - Giving the travel planning to your kids. Ask them to make the plans.
37:20 - Learning your kids love languages and speaking that language to them.
38:30 - Jordan's Prayer

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121 | Laughter, Shiny Eyes & an Awesome Marriage (Dr. Kim Kimberling) May 14, 2020

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Dr. Kim Kimberling

Dr. Kim has been a professional counselor for over thirty years. He is President and co-founder of Awesome Marriage. Awesome Marriage reaches thousands of people each month with God's plan for marriage and relationships. Dr. Kim has been married to his lovely wife Nancy for 50 years. Together they have two adult married children and five awesome grandchildren. Dr. Kim's inspiration and passion for marriage began at a young age as he watched his parents live out the true meaning of having an Awesome Marriage centered around God's incredible plan. He is open and honest about the struggles he has experienced in marriage and uses these personal examples to help others.

Conversation Notes:

3:48 - Dr. Kim Kimberling introduction
8:18 - What his dad did well.
10:45 - A difficult parenting moment
14:11 - "What I've learned is that if I put God first every day, it's really easy to put her second because God's not going to put anybody else in second place besides her because that was his design and plan. And when we are in sync, we really are good together and we can really see ourselves as a team and we parent well together."
14:35 - "We sometimes don't always value our wife's perspective. Our wives have an insight and a wisdom that we don't have. God gifted them with some things especially relationally that sometimes don't even make sense to us but they are right and they're right on."
16:05 - "When you stick together as a husband and wife, you're going to make good decisions for your kids and I think eventually your kids are going to see that."
16:19 - Dr. Kim's books: Seven secrets to a an Awesome Marriage: Strengthen Your Most Intimate Relationship and 14 Keys to lasting love Bible reading plans. Daily email.
16:55 - Top 2 things he'd tell a dad for how to have an awesome marriage.

- Stop doing something that doesn't work, and seek God.
- Intentionally pursue your wife
19:38 - The idea of seeing the big picture. "What do you want their life to be? What do you want to impart to them in these years? And what do you want it to be when they leave? And what do you want it to be when they are adults?"
21:14 - Common patterns he is seeing that cause a dad to have a train wreck - Social media, video games as an escape.
22:46 - "My prayer is each day, what can I do to make Nancy feel like she's loved and how can I come alongside her today, and God always gives me an answer to that."
23:26 - Dr. Kim's instagram
23:40 - One Thing email
24:35 - Looking for opportunities for laughter in our marriage and parenting
25:30 - "There is something in a kid's eyes when you are laughing with them that is really special, you just see it, they just light up, they love that and it bonds them to us and connects us in really special ways. I think it's a gift that God gave us. And a lot of times we don't think about God laughing or Jesus laughing but they do."
The dad can be the initiator of laughter
26:30 - "Look at the eyes of your kids, look at the eyes of your wife. Are their eyes shining? And if they're shining there's a good chance that you've brought life into their life." - Jeff
26:49 - dadAWESOME purpose - To add LIFE to the dad life.
27:13 - Practical ideas for how to be a life-giving dad.

- Look for opportunities to go with them and talk with them - don't expect them to come to you
- Be available when they want to talk - you need to go into their world.
- Take advantage of open windows to talk, because if you don't they will quit asking
29:14 - "Don't be hard on yourself. We serve a God that is redemptive, that can bring good out of anything. ....God doesn't want you to punish yourself. God wants you to learn from your mistakes and he makes us aware of them but to realize he's got an answer and you can overcome that. Our kids need to see that we make mistakes and how we handle those mistakes. I think failure becomes failure if you don't let God turn it around. But if you turn it around it becomes an opportunity to teach, to grow for yourself and for your kids and your spouse to see those things."
30:05 - Dr. Kim's Prayer

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120 | UNMUZZLED (Jeremy Shelton) May 07, 2020

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Jeremy Shelton

Jeremy Shelton is a man on a mission to directly confront sexual sin in the church today. He does so with the belief God is using him to grab hold of those heading toward a slaughter. His new book: UNMUZZLED, exposes the grip of sexual temptation and sin like never before, and is set to be a game-changer for Christians in sexual bondage. He no longer just claims to be a Christian; he's now determined to go out and actually do what a Christ-follower does. He and his wife of eighteen years have five children and live in Texas.

Conversation Notes:

4:38 - Asking other dads, "How are you capturing your child's heart?"
5:05 - The enemy is after our children
6:15 - How to connect with your child's heart. Intentionally turn off the job, stress, and be engaged
6:38 - Make a mental switch to turn off my concerns of the world. "Lord am I ready to be a husband and a father?"
7:38 - Man Time with his son. Create a memorable moment.
9:10 - Pursuing his daughters - Daddy Dates.
10:40 - Sharing a dad fail.
13:21 - Where are you choosing to put extra focus now? Time. "I am sacrificing business for time with my family."
16:55 - Why take a "sabbatical day" away to hear from God.
19:00 - I liken a sabbatical to that. I go away every year for my annual sabbatical to hear the Lord on what I'm called to do for that year. It's phenomenal when you get away to hear the Lord. My mentor said, if Jesus had to get away to hear the Father, how much should we?"
24:52 - "God did not design men to struggle with this (sexual sin). He designed us to stay away from it"
25:07 - "Your flesh is flammable. Sexual sin is fire"
25:20 - Proverbs 6:27 "Can a man scoop a flame into his lap and not have his clothes catch on fire? ...Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his garments not be burned?"
25:30 - 1 Corinthians 6:18 "Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body." ... Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body."
Three Steps:
- Stay Away
- Flee
- Escape
27:05 - James 1:15 "Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death."
27:33 - 68% of Christian men are living in sexual sin (Pure Desire Ministries)
28:00 - Prediction that 80% of church going men are looking at pornography monthly
28:30 - Story of being a Wet Match - "Today the church is flooded with wet matches who have a little belief God is actually going to show up in their lives. They sign up for or continue in Christianity as more of a life insurance policy than a personal relationship with God."
31:20 - Story of seeing Muzzles on men - they couldn't cry out to the Lord. They couldn't praise God.
31:90 - Washing ourselves with "cheap grace" or grace without Christ.
32:40 - How many men would say that they are leading their household as the spiritual leader of their home? I think the number would be sickening. They can't.
33:12 - Matthew 12:29 "Or how can someone enter a strong man's house and plunder his goods, unless he first binds the strong man? Then indeed he may plunder his house."
34:10 - A dad stuck in sexual sin can't do anything to help his kids who are stuck in pornography
34:20 - "it takes free people to free people"
34:50 - A dog with a muzzle can't eat, bark or bite
35:00 - Muzzled Men - "A Christian man in sexual sin…is muzzled. This muzzle renders him passive and powerless to participate in the Kingdom of God on this earth. It prevents him from becoming the man, husband, father, and witness he is called to be. This spiritual restraint mutes his connection to God. Worse, it incapacitates him from fulfilling his God-given purpose."
- Can't Bark - prevents him from becoming the man, husband, father, and witness he is called to be
- Can't Bite - passive and powerless
- Can't Eat - his spiritual restraint mutes his connection to God
Deuteronomy 30:19 "This day I call the heavens and the earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live"
41:05 - "God will never stop stop chasing you. If you're heading towards destruction, you're following the enemy"
42:40 - Unmuzzled Book
43:12 - Jeremy's prayer

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119 | Jim Burns on Confident Parenting & Being Serious about Fun Apr 30, 2020

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Jim Burns

Jim Burns is the President of HomeWord and the Executive Director of the HomeWord Center for Youth and Family at Azusa Pacific University. Jim speaks to thousands of people around the world each year. He has close to 2 million resources in print in 30 languages. He primarily writes and speaks on the values of HomeWord which are:

Strong Marriages
Confident Parents
Empowered Kids
Healthy Leaders.

Jim and his wife, Cathy, live in Southern California and have three grown daughters, Christy, Rebecca, and Heidi; two sons-in-law, Steve and Matt; and two grandchildren, James and Charlotte.

Conversation Notes

1:00 - DA Foundations
1:50 - 10-Day Mom Awesome Challenge - https://dadawesome.org/momawesome
2:42 - Jim Burns intro - 45 yrs investing in leaders. HomeWord
5:00 - Home Word is the largest parenting ministry in the US. "Strong marriages, confident parents, empowered kids, healthy leaders."
6:20 - Doing Life with Your Adult Children - unsolicited advice is taken as criticism.
8:52 - "Three good things" - On a birthday, say three good things about the person.
9:45 - "Relationships can't all be super serious, sometimes they need to be serious fun."
11:45 - Intentional changes he has made as a dad
12:58 - Being the transitional generation - you either recover or repeat patterns
13:51 - having an affair with his job
19:49 - "Some of the greatest mentors I've ever had are people I've never met"
21:00 - But if we parent too much on circumstance and chance and we don't take a step back and be intentional about it, dads are really intentional when it comes to work, but at home they're just like ok so what are we going to do today. And I'm saying to dads lead, but don't lead in a weird way, lead by being intentional. And so you be the person who is most fun, you be their greatest cheerleader, but at the same time don't be letting your wife do all the discipline and you try to be Disney Land dad because you don't know what to do, or you want to be liked, or your too tired because you had a hard day at work….
24:05 - "I'm still to this day not a confident parent, but I look back and go wow, some of those decisions we made were good decisions." - comparison with working out.
24:48 - Having intentionality around sexuality.
26:12 - "The more positive, values centered sex education kids receive at home, the less promiscuous they will be and actually the less confused."
29:05 - "When a dad is intentional with his daughter, with his time, not about sex, the questions will come easier."
33:58 - Two areas he would have nudged himself to put more focus when the kids were little: Engage them more spiritually, and appreciate the moments with them. "Kids are leaving the church, but there is a 300% better chance that kids will stay in the church if they have faith conversations in the home."
36:25 - Be intentional about finding mentors - start finding time with people who you respect.

Video Interview: https://youtu.be/MCc_sovSJ0g

Links:

HomeWord
Jim's Blog on Marriage and Family
Jim's books: Amazon

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