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109 | Crafting Key Moments (Ryan Skoog Revisited) Feb 16, 2020

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Top 10 Revisited

Jeff sat down with Ryan Skoog and recorded this conversation in June 2019. Originally released as Episode 77, this conversation is being revisited as part of our Throwback Winter Series.

Ryan Skoog

Ryan is an entrepreneur, ministry leader, world traveler and adventure dad. He started Fly for Good, Volunteer Card, Yonder Travel Insurance, and the non profit Venture.org which helps people do tough things to help people in tough places around the world.

Conversation Notes:

4:20 – Story of the first moments after their son was born
4:50 – "That was our welcome to parenthood. Welcome to getting on your knees and crying out to God in prayer"
5:34 – "I want to stay fighting on my knees like this all of the time for my kids"
6:30 – Story of travel and being exposed to those in need around the world
7:50 – Story of Ryan's dad and mixing love for travel with love for evangelism and serving others
9:25 – The impact of waking up and finding his dad reading his Bible every morning (praying through Psalm 91 over his family)
9:55 – Praying Ephesians chapter 1 and Ephesians chapter 3 over his kids
10:40 – Ryan explaining his career journey and the story of launching Venture
14:15 – the other organizations that Ryan leads:
- https://www.faithventures.com
- https://www.flyforgood.com/
- https://www.volunteercard.com/
- https://www.insureyonder.com/
16:20 – "As parents, we shouldn't just have experiences where we celebrate together with our kids. We also need experiences where we struggle together. Where we sacrifice together"
17:28 – "Instead of being an amazing leader & a decent dad, I want to be an amazing dad & a decent leader. If I have to make a choice, I want to take the same entrepreneurial type of thinking & intentionality to being a dad as I would to being a leader."
18:30 – "I wanted to be able to create experiences, key moments for my kids surrounded around our families core values"
18:50 – Ryan explains the step by step plan for creating these 1-on-1 moments with his kids
- Age 6 or 7 — Adventure in the woods. Create a cross.
- 20:05 – Rock Climbing while learning about character and values. Character anchors us like a rope anchors us
- 20:40 – Cliff jumping for learning about courage
- 21:40 – The set-up for the adventure the night before. Burnt edge paper with a note. 24 hour blitz trips.
- 22:30 – Climbing up a mountain for a sunrise. Holiness and Purity. "It's tough, but it's worth it"
- 23:50 – Mother/daughter trip to Chicago for tea.
- 24:35 – Trip to a church in Alaska with Ryan's dad and his son. A prayer moment. A moment about legacy.
- 25:15 – An adventure when they spend a night on the streets. Learning about compassion.
25:45 – Mission trips to difficult places in third world countries have transformed their kids. Their kids pray every night for these kids without mommy's and daddy's
28:20 – Normalizing in a good way intentional parenting
28:35 – The family dashboard of values and mission and prayers they are praying as a family.
29:30 – Memorizing scripture as a family
30:05 – "We should not, as parents, have a mentality that outsources faith to the church. They should reinforce what we are doing as parents"
30:30 – Every member of their family has a Fruit of the Spirit that they're working to grow in
32:10 – Introducing the focussed Fruit of the Spirit – KINDNESS
34:30 – Story of the early church adopting babies left in the trash – "The church was started on kindness"
35:15 – Inviting our kids to be able to call us as parents out when we are violating the Fruit of the Spirit
37:40 – Catching your kids doing something good and celebrating it
38:40 – Daily prayer focus
39:30 – Having the interviewing questions with our kids. Asking for feedback from them on how we are doing as dads
40:00 – Using code words to express large emotions with a short phrase
40:30 – "If you pray for something for your kids, you will see it start to happen"
41:00 – "God is actively wanting to answer prayers from parents for their kids. It's pretty amazing."
41:55 – Ryan's last words… Add more intentionality to your dad life.
42:50 – We need each other
Recommended Books:
- The Tech-Wise Family: Everyday Steps for Putting Technology in Its Proper Place Hardcover (Andy Crouch)
- Boundaries with Kids: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Children (Henry Cloud and John Town)
- Boundaries with Teens: When to Say Yes, How to Say No Paperback (John Townsend)
- The Entitlement Cure: Finding Success in Doing Hard Things the Right Way (John Townsend)
- Take entrepreneurial business books and apply those principles to being a dad

Links:

108 | Intentional Fatherhood & Radical Mentoring (Regi Campbell Revisited) Feb 09, 2020

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Regi Campbell

Regi is a serial entrepreneur who has founded 15 companies and has now devoted this phase of his life to creating a mentoring approach that produces incredible leaders and deep discipleship. Last Summer he was leading his 18th mentoring group and he has now personally invested in 144 men and indirectly, in their marriages and families. Here's a list of 6 things that Regi did every day:

I will walk with Jesus every day
I will be grateful and live every day to the fullest
I will bless my family with words, pictures, and videos
I will invest in "my guys" for their good, God's glory – not mine
I will not give up and "run out the clock"
I will let people love on me!

Conversation Notes:

4:40 - "You're just doing what Jesus did... He handpicked a group of men for a season of time and invested in them"
5:25 - "My goal is 5 generations of multiplication. If that happens, more than a million men will have been equipped to manage life better"
6:00 - "The only way to leave a legacy is for Jesus to use you to pour into others who have a hunger to pour into others as well"
6:50 - Regi shares his goal of investing in mentors who mentors others
7:50 - The key to something being sustained is that it must be motivated by selflessness and it must have intentionality
8:50 - Anything you care about should have intentionality
9:15 - The importance of raising kids who are becoming good adults
9:45 - Basic principles of Radical Mentoring
10:50 - Make sure that your kids know that you love them
11:25 - I realized that I have a perfect Heavenly Father who loves me
13:50 - There is always something that you don't know
14:35 - Story about Andy Stanley putting his kids to bed and asking about their heart
15:15 - Be firm, but don't lose track of their heart
16:05 - Make time in the morning to connect one-on-one
16:30 - The importance of sharing with our kids what is going on in our life if we want them to share with us
16:45 - Talking to your kids like they are adults and really connecting with them
17:20 - Be a dad who is in your son or daughters presence
18:25 - Be careful not to exasperate your children
- Provoke
- Stir up anger
- Do not irritate
- Do not be hard
20:50 - The importance of keeping our kids emotional tanks full
22:00 - The danger of jumping to conclusions
24:45 - The value of a slower pace and limiting activities and a hurried life
26:20 - Sadly we don't have many spiritual mentors and hero's that we want to be like
27:00 - Matthew 28:19-20 The Message (MSG) "Jesus, undeterred, went right ahead and gave his charge: "God authorized and commanded me to commission you: Go out and train everyone you meet, far and near, in this way of life, marking them by baptism in the threefold name: Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. Then instruct them in the practice of all I have commanded you. I'll be with you as you do this, day after day after day, right up to the end of the age."
29:20 - Encouraging dads to be intentional and initiate... lead yourself
29:35 - You get what you glorify. Whatever you glorify, that's what your kids will lean into.
31:00 Story about intentionality and helping his kids find good friendships
34:00 - Curating Your Kids Friends
35:30 - Proverbs 24:3-6 "By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established; through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures. The wise prevail through great power, and those who have knowledge muster their strength. Surely you need guidance to wage war, and victory is won through many advisers.through wisdom and knowledge it's filled with treasures"
- Knowledge is just data
- Understanding is context
- Wisdom is taking data and filtering it through context and being wise with decisions

Links:

Regi's Website

Radical Mentoring

Mentor Like Jesus and Regi's other books

107 | Fatherhood insights from the life of Abraham (Jeremy Pryor Revisited) Feb 02, 2020

Show notes

Top 10 Revisited:

Jeff sat down with Jeremy Pryor and recorded this conversation in April 2019. Originally released as Episode 66, this conversation is being revisited as part of our Throwback Winter Series.

Jeremy Pryor

Jeremy Pryor is a business owner, creative entrepreneur, author, podcaster and a builder of multiple movements with family at the core. We're incredibly thankful for this conversation with Jeremy about his time in Jerusalem, welcoming his children into creative roles in his company and the long term iterating of their family sabbath.

Conversation Highlights:

Meeting his wife in Jerusalem (7:55)
Jewish dads and the intentionality of men with children ((9:30)
The life of Abraham and his role as a father (9:45)
Asking a dangerous question- is there a connection with Abraham and how he saw family? (10:40)
The Bible exclusively sees family through a fatherhood and family lens
Abraham saw family as a multigenerational team on mission (11:30)
Fatherhood insights from Jerusalem – Encounter, consider it, be influenced, adopt these principles (12:00)
Story about Jeremy's daughter joining him on mission with his podcast (13:20)
It's ok to sweep your kids into your own quirky obsessions (14:20) >> Strategically propagandizing his kids
Superhero movies and the explosion of interest with the mythical (15:40)
They read the same 5 passages of scripture each week as a family (16:50)
Book Life together by Bonhoeffer
Deuteronomy 6
Bible Midrash (17:30)
Friday night epic meal to kick off the sabbath (18:00)
Friday feast – Iterating on their sabbath for 15 years (18:20)
It's a skill to learn how to honor God with the sabbath (19:45)
Entering Rest
Cleaning up as a team. Make it a dance party (20:15)
Sabbath – if your kids don't see the sabbath day as their favorite day of the week, then you're doing it wrong" (22:00)
The sabbath is the Zenith of the week. Make it fun and make it meaningful and give yourself lot's of grace. The goal is for the sabbath to be life giving
Goal – for his kids to all want to honor the sabbath when they are grown
A mentor told Jeremy that he wasn't connecting with his sons heart (25:00)
My bar was not at the right place with regards to what it meant to really have your kids heart at every stage (26:50)
Are you partnering really well with your wife in this current season? (28:50)
Don't be passive. Be a leader. Be a directive leader. (29:00)
Be a strong central presence in the home in the stage of young kids. (30:00)
Be a culture setter in the home (30:20)
Creativity is within the mandate of Genesis 1 (30:45)
God had a creative challenge and he set loose the family (31:30)
There in nothing more central to the mandate of the family than being creative (32:20)
Thinking about family as an investment with a much longer time horizon (34:00)
We are not the center of our story. We're part of a much bigger multigenerational story (34:45)
When dads start thinking multigenerational (35:20)

Resources from Jeremy Pryor:

106 | Listen For Jesus' Voice & Do What He Says (John Wyatt Revisited) Jan 26, 2020

Show notes

Top 10 Revisited:

Jeff sat down with John Wyatt and recorded this conversation in summer 2018. Originally released as Episode 33, this conversation is being revisited as part of our Throwback Winter Series.

John Wyatt

John Wyatt lives in Jacksonville, FL with his wife Carrie (21 years married) and two teenage daughters (14 & 17). He has been serving for over 10 years at Celebration Church and is currently an Executive Pastor. This incredible conversation explores asking for forgiveness, praying for our kids to hear God's voice, honoring the Lord with our money and the parallels between surfing ocean waves and our role as fathers.

Love God, Serve Others, Win Souls & Have Fun
When was the last time you apologized to your kids? (Will you forgive me?)
How do you know that I love you? It's because I discipline you.
Guide your kids to honor God with money
Do not miss your kids activities. Cherish every moment.

James 4:1-2

What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don't they come from your desires that battle within you? You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God.

Ephesians 6:1-3

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. "Honor your father and mother"—which is the first commandment with a promise— "so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.

Recommended Resources:

On Becoming Baby Wise: Giving Your Infant the Gift of Nighttime Sleep (Robert Bucknam)

Growing Kids God's Way: Reaching the Heart of Your Child With a God-Centered Purpose

Good and Angry: Exchanging Frustration for Character in You and Your Kids! (Scott Turansky)

Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood (Lisa Damour)

105 | Wisdom, Mentorship & Being Present (Edrin Williams Revisited) Jan 19, 2020

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Edrin Williams

Edrin Williams joins dadAWESOME for our 3rd segment of our "Best Of" winter throwback series. This episode was originally recorded on Valentines Day of 2019. This conversation challenges us to enjoy the journey and love our kids from a place of being loved by our Heavenly Father. Edrin is the Senior Pastor at The Sanctuary Covenant Church in Minneapolis and with his wife Shanequa they have two beautiful girls, Taylor 9 & Harper 3.

Conversation Notes

Give the the gift of your presence to your family
Step in and enjoy the journey of being a dad
Your kids trust you and need you to be a big safe adult who loves them
Friday night family night. The power of protecting these moments.
We must receive love from our Heavenly Father
Remember you're a beloved son of God
Invite mentors to speak into your fathering
Let your kids enjoy the process (stop over managing and pushing them)
Celebrate your wife (cheer her along)
Intergenerational Relationships (look ahead, your peers and younger dads)
Pursuing mentors and Godly friends to learn and grow in your dad role.
If you want to make a difference in this world, one place you can change the world is being present and making a difference in your kids.
Asking intentional questions to help our kids think through their choices.
It's our job as fathers to care for the souls of our children
Let your wife know that supporting your family and your kids is a top priority
Dads! Your role is more significant than you realize.

104 | Surrender & Praying for Acceleration (Rick Glewwe Revisited) Jan 12, 2020

Show notes

Top 10 Revisited:

Jeff sat down with Rick Glewwe and recorded this conversation in summer 2018. Originally released as Episode 32, this conversation is being revisited as part of our Throwback Winter Series.

Rick Glewwe:

Rick Glewwe joins dadAWESOME with a heart-wrenching message of fighting through "bigger than myself" moments and learning to surrender to God's grace and hope.

— Has pain and loss defined your perspective as a dad? — Do you desire a supernatural strength that is beyond your understanding? — Have you worked to build brotherhood that will be with you in the highs and lows?

In this interview:

— Dealing with pain and loss — We are not home yet — "Bigger than Myself" visions — All Fight, No Flight — If you invest in others, you will never be wanting

Rick Glewwe is a father, pastor and leader. His deep commitment to his family inspires many to fight for "bigger than myself" visions, even when pain and loss have tainted our perspective.

A Tale of three Kings: A Study in Brokenness by Gene Edwards

103 | The Heart Matters. No Excuses. (Matt Keller Revisited) Jan 05, 2020

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Top 10 Revisited:

Jeff sat down with Matt Keller and recorded a 2-part conversation in September or 2018. The dadAWESOME Episodes were released in November of 2018 as part of the Inside-Out Dad Life series. This conversation is the best of both episodes revisited.

Matt Keller:

Matt Keller is a people builder at his core. With more than twenty years in the people business, he is an authority on what it takes to build great teams and a great organization. Matt Keller is a Pastor, Author, Speaker and Leadership Coach. His insight on organizational and personal leadership helps businesses, nonprofits, and churches take their organizations to the next level.

Conversation Notes:

Leading from a full heart
Who you do life with shapes who you become
Parenting out of past pain
Winning the first hour
The 0-6, 6-12, and 12-18 parenting zones
Tilling the soil of your heart
Your parenting comes where you came from
Words create worlds
Counselors are not for crazy people
Being alert to your excuses
Being the dad YOUR specific kids need

Questions for Time Alone With God:

What am I afraid of?
How Close am I to burnout?
Where do I feel like I'm winning?
Where do I feel like I'm struggling?
Where do I feel like I'm out of balance?
Am I over hobbying?
Am I under hobbying?
Am I under resting?
How Am I doing with my Sabbath Day?
How is my marriage?
How's my relationship with God?
How Am I doing at sitting in my Heavenly Fathers lap and just receiving from Him?

Books Mentioned:

Leading on Empty: Refilling Your Tank and Renewing Your Passion (Wayne Cordeiro)

God of the Underdogs: When the Odds Are Against You, God Is For You (Matt Keller)

The Key To Everything: Unlocking the Life You Dream of Living (Matt Keller)

102 | Finishing 2019 with Two Prayers (Jeff Zaugg) Dec 29, 2019

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Overview:

Jeff Zaugg prays two impactful prayers over his family and every listener. These are prayers that have deepened his faith and our prayer is that by ending the year 2019 in prayer, we will enter 2020 to new levels of courage, freedom and faith.

Prayer #1: Daily Declarations

2:05 - Jeff praying his daily declarations
This list of declarations was inspired by Pastor Craig Groeschel's List of Positive Affirmations to Renew Your Mind
Here's Jeff's prayer

Prayer #2: Kill The Spider Prayer

6:12 - Prayer of Freedom and Protection from Kill the Spider by Carlos Whittaker (Adapted from John Eldridge)
Link to the book Kill The Spider
Link to John Eldridge resources

101 | Just Another Day in Paradise (Chuck Zaugg) Dec 22, 2019

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Chuck Zaugg:
Jeff Zaugg recorded this special episode of dadAWESOME the day after his dad, Chuck went home to Heaven to be with Jesus. Chuck was 67 years old and after a 100-week battle with brain cancer and lung cancer, our prayers were answered and he is now healed completely in Heaven. Chuck loved God, pursued a passionate 43 years of marriage with his wife, Pam, and he lovingly cheered along all four kids and 11 grandkids. Chuck lived with wisdom and he had an amazing ability to have a vision or dream and see it through to completion. This episode of dadAWESOME is a tiny fraction of what could be shared about Chuck Zaugg and we pray it inspires all of us to live life with anticipation and keep our eyes shining with wonder.
Episode Notes:
- 1:00 - My dad, Chuck Zaugg, moving from paradise to PARADISE
- 1:45 - "When we live live with anticipation, we live life with shiny eyes."
- 3:10 - We called my dad "Papa"
- 4:00 - Romans 8 - God's Spirit beckons. There are things to do and places to go! This resurrection life you received from God is not a timid, grave-tending life. It's adventurously expectant, greeting God with a childlike "What's next, Papa?" God's Spirit touches our spirits and confirms who we really are. We know who he is, and we know who we are: Father and children. And we know we are going to get what's coming to us—an unbelievable inheritance! We go through exactly what Christ goes through. If we go through the hard times with him, then we're certainly going to go through the good times with him! That's why I don't think there's any comparison between the present hard times and the coming good times. The created world itself can hardly wait for what's coming next. Everything in creation is being more or less held back. God reins it in until both creation and all the creatures are ready and can be released at the same moment into the glorious times ahead. Meanwhile, the joyful anticipation deepens.
- 6:05 - Episode 100 talking about launching our kids further and faster than they could go on their own
- 6:25 - "Just Another Day in Paradise"
- 7:15 - Living life with anticipation of more of Heaven coming here on earth
- 7:42 - Here are 10 ways I want to be a dad like my dad:
- 7:55 - 1. Loved My Mom - he kissed my mom daily. He served my mom. He valued and deeply loved his wife.
- 8:26 - 2. Family Man - his eyes shined with love for his family… dinners together, sports together, vacations together, play together
- 8:42 - 3. Integrity - telling the truth and following through on commitments always
- 8:48 - 4. Dream Chaser - seeing the future and believing in faith that he could move past obstacles to get there
- 9:46 - 5. Hard Work - the hardest working man I've ever met
- 9:57 - 6. Excellence - he cared about the little things and he was always proud of his work.
- 10:05 - 7. Love For Others - he deeply cared about people and his care often led him to serving them
- 10:31 - 8. Problem Solver - the creative ability to not get stuck and find a way when there seemed like there's no way
- 10:53 - 9. Generationally Generous - my dad built a family business that will bless his grandkids and beyond. He gave and has continued to give to his kids and his grandkids.
- 11:15 - 10. Surrounded by Praying Friends - show me your friends and I'll show you your future… story of Jack kneeling in prayer
- 13:05 - Advice = "Keep reading the book of Proverbs and keep making wise choices"
- 13:35 - The Wisemen from the Christmas story (Matthew 2)
- 14:03 - Part 1 - When the star reappeared "they were so ecstatic that they shouted and celebrated with unrestrained joy." ANTICIPATION
- 14:26 - Part 2 - When they came into the house and saw the young child with Mary, "they were overcome. Falling to the ground at his feet they worshiped him." - EXULTATION
- 15:00 - Part 3 - After bowing in worship, they made a generous DEMONSTRATION of their faith… their response was to GIVE their resources. "Then they opened their treasure boxes full of gifts and presented him with gold, frankincense, and myrrh."
- 15:46 - Part 4 - REVELATION >> Clarity from Heaven... = "Afterward they returned to their own country by another route because God had warned them in a dream not to go back to Herod."
- 18:35 - Ask your Heavenly Father, "What's the revelation you have for me? How can I live with a forward leaning anticipation for what God has next?"
- 19:00 - Jeff's prayer
- 20:30 - Worship song, "It Is Well" by Bethel Worship
Episode Links:
- Chuck Zaugg's Caring Bridge Final Post from Pam Zaugg
- Episode 100 talking about Chuck Zaugg building a launch ramp for Jeff
- Song - "It Is Well" from Bethel Worship
- Zaugg Resort website

100 | Building Launch Ramps & Becoming dadAWESOME (Jeff Zaugg) Dec 15, 2019

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Thanking The Team:

1. My wife, Michelle – 1000 hours of support. She is momAWESOME 2. My inner circle of friends – Drew, Paul, Mario & Jay 3. Substance Church - Specifically the support from Pastor Peter Haas & Pastor Nate Puccini 4. Wade Branch - audio mixing/mastering 5. Brent Haglund – Podcast Music // Pin Drop Remix 6. Joshua Davis – website (Smart Web Ninja) 7. Artem Anderson – graphics and logo 8. Jake Hanson - writing show notes 9. Tyler Van Eps - writing show notes 10. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Team - Core leaders Tyler Sevlie and Andy Rosenau along with our partner ministry VENTURE

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About Jeff Zaugg:

Jeff and his wife Michelle have been married for almost 14 years and they have three amazing daughters (6, 3 and 1). Jeff is the KIDS Pastor at Substance Church and lives in the Twin Cities. Jeff started the dadAWESOME podcast 100 weeks ago.

Episode 100 Live Recording Notes:

THANK YOU to Chick-Fil-A Northtown for supporting the Episode 100 live recording party.

9:25 - How do you stay intentional about connecting with your kids? Do you have any resources that have helped you be an intentional dad?
10:55 - Episode 1 of dadAWESOME = We Trust God
13:52 - "Am I adding LIFE to my family or taking away LIFE? Does this ambition, commitment, pursuit, hobby, etc. bring LIFE to my family?"
14:14 - "After 100 weeks of dadAWESOME, I'm at a place where I love being a dad more now than I did 100 weeks ago"
15:32 - "The dadAWESOME journey has been an invitation to dads to double down on the dad-life... double the prayer, double the time, double the love, double the intentionality, double the humility, double the focus."
16:03 - Crashing kitchen cabinet story
20:26 - "As dads, we are building launch ramps for our kids. We make choices every day to build intentionally with our words, our time, our resources, our prayers, our energy, our marriage. We are choosing to build launch ramps and that's what intentional dads do. They build launch ramps that shoot their kids further and faster than they could go by themselves. We take what could be average or lame and we make it epic. That's what we do. That is dadAWESOME."
21:33 - My dad built a launch ramp for me. He tripled the height of my sledding hill by building into our family.
22:32 - Apologizing to our kids and reconnecting with their hearts
22:46 - Focus on building our families, instead of minimizing the damage to our family.
23:30 - "We get to choose LIFE or DEATH... We get to offer our kids the painful path through a kitchen floor filled with broken glass or the thrilling ride down a launch ramp."
23:40 - "We can fuel their purpose and launch them into their passions, or we can add pain and heartache because of our selfishness and passivity."
23:50 - Deuteronomy 30:19 "…I have set before you LIFE and DEATH, blessings and curses. Now choose LIFE, so that you and your children may LIVE."
26:12 - "Many of us have been living the Dad-Life without the LIFE"
29:55 - God is bigger than your secrets
30:26 - Our Heavenly Father wants to heal our hurts, fill us with His love and turn us loose to build Launch Ramps.

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