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99 | Fathered By God (Pablo Ceron PART 2) Dec 08, 2019

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Pablo Ceron

This is PART 2 of a conversation with Pablo. If you missed the first half of the conversation, here's a link to Episode 98. Pablo has been a speaker, teacher and leader of men's ministry initiatives for over 10 years. He's also the Founder and President of Wldforce, Inc., a non-profit organization dedicated to the restoration of the hearts of God's people.

Pablo was born and raised in Colombia and moved to the U.S. in 2,000, where he married his loving wife Juanita. After a long journey through the desert, and into their "promised land", they now live in Colorado with their two wild sons, Mateo (8) and Lucas (3). Pablo has also worked as a Product and Technology leader for over 20 years.

Conversation Notes:

3:07 - Jeff transitioning into PART 2 of tis conversation with Pablo
4:16 - Living as a son of God. Tending to our hearts. What does this actually look like?
4:30 - "Know that I don't have all of the answers, but I can approach life with question marks and then ask my Heavenly Father to father me"
4:50 - Searching for validation at work
5:40 - "At the core of my identity is my place as a son of God... And He is actively involved in my life"
6:35 - God says, "Yes son. You've have what it takes. You are my son. I'm proud of you. Well done."
7:40 - Practical idea for connecting with God through worship... Worship God in the shower.
8:35 - Self care. Cultivating adventure.
9:15 - Fighting for your children's hearts. Making sure they know they're the apple of their fathers eye.
10:56 - Breaking the lie that there is no time
11:25 - Start small with self care and adventure
11:40 - Tip from a mentor = "Outside Everyday"
12:10 - Seek God in creation for beauty so you don't go looking for beauty elsewhere.
12:45 - Tips for praying to God before entering the house after a day of work
13:15 - Unplug from technology
16:00 - Tribe from Ransomed Heart
17:08 - Pablo explains the heart of WLDFORCE and WLDSONS
17:25 - We're searching for the John 10:10 life to the full
18:05 - We must fight for the hearts of one another
Jeremiah 6:16 - "This is what the LORD says: "Stand at the crossroads and look; ask for the ancient paths, ask where the good way is, and walk in it, and you will find rest for your souls. But you said, 'We will not walk in it.'
19:50 - Fight for the hearts of men so that they become the sons of God and discover their true identity.
21:02 - The journey of being a great father starts with being a son. Approach our Heavenly Father and receive his love.
22:00 - Pablo's prayer

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98 | Awaken The Warrior Heart (Pablo Ceron PART 1) Dec 01, 2019

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Pablo Ceron

Pablo has been a speaker, teacher and leader of men's ministry initiatives for over 10 years. He's also the Founder and President of Wldforce, Inc., a non-profit organization dedicated to the restoration of the hearts of God's people.

Conversation Notes:

4:26 - Pablo introduces himself
5:11 - Pablo tells the story of a recent adventure with his son to a hidden cabin up in the woods
6:25 - Fighting for the heart of his son
7:00 - "The importance of the loving touch of a father... for him (my son) to know that he is the apple of my eye"
7:49 - Pablo's Backstory
7:55 - Pablo's mentor says, "We become what we didn't have"
9:00 - "The man that we become is in great part the result or outcome of the story of our life, the story of the wounds that we have received. How we interpret those wounds and how we learn to self protect so that we don't experience pain and suffering again"
10:40 - The importance of having our hearts come alive in healthy ways
11:15 - The devastation of wrecking his wife's heart
12:15 - The importance of working through issues at the level of the heart
13:10 - Story of his financial crisis
14:00 - The powerful moment of meeting Jim
15:50 - "There is a 250lb gorilla coming after you"
17:00 - Friends reach into us and they can pull the gold out.
18:10 - Understand the impact of the wounds that we have received
20:30 - Book recommendation, "Wild At Heart" by John Eldridge
21:40 - "Ask your Heavenly Father to reveal the man that he created you to be"
22:00 - "Father, what is my true name? What is my true identity in you?"
22:20 - "Because we are the sons of God, we must become the sons of God" - George McDonald
23:08 - Proverbs 4:23 "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it."
23:20 - The difference between a transactional do's and don'ts religion to a heart faith
25:45 - "There is a battle to fight and I was given permission to be the warrior that God has created me to be"
26:16 - Am I going to the wrong place for what is in my heart? There is a counterfeit that draws our hearts.
28:00 - I am a warrior. How do I discover my warrior heart?
29:05 - ask your wife, "Hon, how is your heart today?"
29:45 - Setting up safe guards vs. looking at the root cause of what's going on in your heart.

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DA Ideas:

Reading Psalm 23 and inserting the names of your kids
The Lord is _________ shepherd, _____ lack nothing. 2 He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters, 3 he refreshes my soul. He guides me along the right paths for his name's sake. 4 Even though I walk through the darkest valley,[a] I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.
5 You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies. You anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows. 6 Surely your goodness and love will follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever.

97 | Reject Passivity & Lead with Courage (David Robbins) Nov 24, 2019

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David Robbins:

As 17-year veterans of Cru, David and Meg Robbins have served in a variety of capacities, including team leaders in Pisa, Italy, campus directors at the University of Georgia, national director of Campus Field Ministries in campuses across Alabama, Florida, Georgia and Mississippi, national facilitator launching Cru's Millennials Ministry in NYC, and now President of FamilyLife since 2017. They live in Little Rock, AR with their four children—Ford, Mim, Roe and Mac.

Conversation Notes:

3:00 - David introduces himself and his family
3:45 - David explains his job at FamilyLife and their moves as a family around the country
3:50 - Joshua 1:16 "Then they answered Joshua, "Whatever you have commanded us we will do, and wherever you send us we will go."
5:35 - David explains the mission and vision for FamilyLife
https://www.familylife.com/weekend-to-remember/
passport to purity
6:20 - "Transformed people end up transforming other homes."
7:45 - The focus on being present with his kids
8:30 - Asking questions to engage your kids hearts and pull something out of your kids
9:12 - "Be present and be ok delighting in the hilarious stories"
9:30 - Asking a 3rd question. Was there anything today that made you angry or upset or emotional?
11:20. The manifesto statement bout fathers from FamilyLife: "...We are committed to turning the hearts of fathers back to their children by emphasizing the importance of their role as "father." We are committed to exhorting every father to model a love for God and His Word, to model love for his wife, and to love his children. (Malachi 4:6; Ephesians 6:4; Colossians 3:20-21; Deuteronomy 6:4-9; 1 Timothy 3:4-5, 5:8)"
12:03 - An absent father does not start with being absent. It starts when passivity starts to take over..."
12:30 - "If we stay stepping in and reject passivity, leading courageously, leading spiritually, the ripple effect is amazing."
14:15 - David talks about his father
16:00 - David explains his tendency for trying to earn love by being an overachiever and win people's approval
18:05 - "The purpose of life is intimacy with God and He values character over competence every time. He values presence over performance all the time. Us encountering His presence."
18:45 - Asking the powerful question, "I would be more satisfied if _______"
20:30 - "God uses us in our weakness. His power is made perfect in our weakness"
20:45 - "If dependance is the goal, then weakness is actually an advantage"
Hosea 2
22:30 - David explains his Sabbath
24:20 - Seeing life with eyes of wonder through their three-year-old child
25:40 - David unpacking his not so awesome dad fail
26:50 - Story about trying to keep up appearances and hurting his kids because of his focus on his own reputation
29:06. - David explains his family decision making framework for big decisions
30:20 - Write down a core set of values and put it in a Ziploc bag and pray over it in the shower for a few months.
32:00 - the significant question of "Am I surrendered?"
32:15 - John chapter 15:5. Am I abiding? "I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing."
33:16 - David's prayer:

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96 | Keeping a Long Range Vision for Fatherhood (Josh Walters PART 2) Nov 17, 2019

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Josh Walters

This is the second part of our dadAWESOME interview with Josh Walters... Here's the first half of the conversation. Josh and his wife Katie have six children, AnnaJaye, Abigail, Abel, Asher, Ari, and Anthem (The A-Team). They've been married for 17 years and Josh has been a pastor at Seacoast Church for 10 years.

Conversation Notes:

2:35 - Josh talking about tattoos to remind him and his wife about living with multigenerational focus
3:30 - "We are driving this vision. We are not drifting into random grandparent names"
3:40 - "I probably have more vision for grandparent Josh than I do for young professional Josh"
4:20 - The tattoos are a reminder of the endgame. Hopefully someday I get to parent into my kids parenting of their kids.
4:45 - "You can lose vision for 30 years from now. You don't just stumble into a future where your children want to come home and spend time with you. Or want to spend their holidays with you."
6:40 - "I feel like I am constantly learning and reminded of my dad more now with his passing…"
7:20 - "We get to model healthy family and the love of a father and boundaries and fun… And write an alternative story for family"
7:55 - The influence of helping our kids navigate friendships as a dad is probably one our most significant influence on our kids
9:15 - Dad mistake would be getting really angry when his kids didn't take care of their stuff
11:25 - A second dad mistake would be missing moments to lay with his kids and connect with their hearts before bed.
13:10 - Josh explains the mission of Francis and Benedict
13:15 - Marriage tip — for 17 years of marriage his wife was organizing her and her family around Josh's career… This vision was an answer to dreams on their heart before they started having kids.
16:45 - "Don't underestimate what God can do with a dream"
18:00 - Josh praying for all of us dads

Episode Links:

dadAWESOME Ideas:

Thanks Shane Long for the DA idea of capturing and celebrating answered prayers
Get a jar and begin collecting answered prayers

Submitting dadAWESOME IDEAS:

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95 | The Painful & Beautiful Journey of Losing His Father (Josh Walters PART 1) Nov 10, 2019

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Josh and his wife Katie have six children, AnnaJaye, Abigail, Abel, Asher, Ari, and Anthem (The A-Team). They've been married for 17 years and Josh has been a pastor at Seacoast Church for 10 years. This is the first half of our dadAWESOME conversation where we explore intentional connection before bedtime, creating celebration moments of becoming teenagers and reflections about the generosity of his dad.

Conversation Notes:

3:08 - Josh introduces his family
6:13 - Some family highlights for shiny eyed fun moments
8:15 - Josh explains the joy of being a "church family" and their kids loving their local church
9:15 - Parenting Hacks sermon from Josh https://youtu.be/ymx7y1jzOeE
10:22 - One of Josh's biggest dad struggles = "Will you lay down with me?" being asked of him by his kids... Quality connection with each child.
12:15 - That connection question; "Will you lay down with me?" will stopped being asked at around 11 or 12 years old
14:20 - "Do your best to make yourself lay down and connect with your kids at bedtime even when your mind is saying that you need to do dishes and sweep the floor"
15:20 - Connecting with his daughters and giving them more freedom as they turned 13 years old
17:25 - Intentional celebration moment of stepping into a new season from a girl into being a young woman
21:15 - Stories about Josh's dad
23:40 - "My greatest challenge is the giving of my time. Managing it all. The house, the family, life and prioritizing my time"
25:15 - Josh processes the journey of losing his father and processing the loss with his kids
28:15 - "It was very hard and very beautiful having a closer proximity to the final year of his dads life for the grandkids"
28:50 - Having a specific day to remember and celebrate Josh' father
29:20 - Josh' dad was a father and grandfather to a lot more kids and grandkids than just his own family
30:40 - "Death became very close, so the idea of Heaven and eternal life and even just the pain of grief... I think they (my kids) got to experience loss in a way and see parents grieving and pain and stuff that I think the enemy would want to use as a weapon against us later in life... and that's a natural normal part of life that they got to walk through with us and that was just such a special season."

Episode Link:

Parenting Hacks Sermon

DA Idea:

Create a unique version of Rock, Paper, Scissors.
Recently my 5 yr-old daughter and I made up a version including our baby, our Golden doodle dog and a kitty cat. We call it Boomer, Kitty, Raya and it was a simple fun creation that involved my daughter helping me create the characters and the order of victory.
Boomer is bigger and stronger then Kitty.
Kitty scares Raya with it's claws.
Raya wins Boomers heart.
So Boomers beats Kitty, Kitty beats Raya and Raya beats Boomer.
Our hand gestures are; all 5 fingers up like a high-5 for Boomer (he has long curly hair that sticks up)
Pointer finger and middle finger up like a peace sign for Kitty (like a cats pointy ears)
Just the thumb up for Raya (like a baby sucking it's thumb).
Boomer, Kitty, Raya, shoot...

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94 | The Big Ski Family (Chad Johnson) Nov 03, 2019

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Chad Johnson is a CEO, Entrepreneur, Coach, Speaker, Husband and Father of 11. His family has taken on the role of Global Ski Ambassadors and their vision is to introduce 1 MILLION families to the joy of skiing together. This dadAWESOME conversation covers clarifying priorities/values, the benefits of working hard as a family and the life changing freedom that is available to every dad through breaking the chains of sexual sin.

Conversation Notes:

2:54 - Chad introduces his family
3:34 - Imperfect fatherhood - there are no perfect husbands and there are no perfect fathers
4:00 - "Man, it would be awesome to have 10 kids... And you can see what happens when you keep saying one more"
4:40 - This fathering thing never stops... now they keep adding new kids as their kids get married
6:17 - The Big Ski Family - "it would be so fun to have a family entrepreneurial whim" - Global Ambassadors for Family Skiing
9:00 - The Giant Five Framework - top priorities
- 1) Faith - it's foundational
- 2) Marriage - must be on the same page fighting together
- 3) Children - Aspire to raise them to be all God created them to be.
- 4) Heath - being fit, healthy and active
- 5) Career/Work/Ministry - Using God given Unique Abilities to earn, serve, and bless others
16:30 - Chad reflecting on his father
18:10 - My dad has always prioritized his relationship with God and my mom.
21:15 - The value of working hard as a family... "Ability to tackle hard things. To not run from a project"
25:10 - "I'm ok stirring the pot. I don't want my kids to have a sterile, safe, protected, isolated environment."
27:01 - Chad reflects on the pain of sexual sin and how it impacted his family.
30:05 - "My young children were at risk when I fell"
31:00 - "You want to talk about ripping your heart out. I knew that I was hurting my wife and I hated it. I despised it. And then I realized that I was brining it into my children's lives somehow"
32:15 - "I was believing the lie that my wife and my children would be better off without me"
33:15 - The driving mission of helping men hear the message of freedom in Christ and the solution that only God can bring.
34:00 - Christ in me the hope of glory
34:40 - I needed power for the right now. Ability to walk in power of the Holy Spirit.
36:20 - Fatherhood, Family, Freedom - they all intersect and if we walk in freedom, our kids get freedom
37:00 - Resources - "Sin No More & Sanctification"by Michael Pearl
38:00 - Coaching words for us - "Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he."
39:15 - God made you a masterpiece
40:53 - "The world is crying out for men and dads who are on fire. That love what they're doing and their giving it their all"
41:53 - "Live life like a movie you'd want to watch with your children and grandchildren"
42:00 - Chad's prayer - Jude 24-25 "Now unto him that is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy, To the only wise God our Savior, be glory and majesty, dominion and power, both now and ever. Amen."

Episode Links:

www.StrategicCoach.com (Coaching the world's best Entrepreneurs and Business Owners as an Entrepreneurial Coach)
www.TheBigSkiFamily.com (On a mission: Introduce 1 MILLION families to the joy of Skiing together)
www.CeramicDecoratingCo.com (Wine Bottle Screen Printing Company Since 1934. Growing our 85 year old, 3rd Generation, family owned and operated, glass bottle/container printing business, as CEO. Focused on the wine industry, CBD Oil, Craft Beverage, and Specialty Food Industries.)
Instagram (Chad @thegiant5guy)
Instagram (@thebigskifamily)

DA Ideas:

Andy Dauer's DA idea
Helping kids calm down
1) Get down on their level
2) Listen first and validate their feelings. Value them
3) Ask them to look you right on your eyes
4) Take a breath in through their nose and then out through their mouth
5) Blowing out the candles with your fingers
6) Trace their hand taking breaths with each finger - like a roller coaster

Submitting dadAWESOME IDEAS: We are gathering tools, games, strategies, dad hacks and other ideas that need to be shared to help all of us take a step towards awesomeness in our fatherhood. If you'd be willing to share an idea or two, please reach out so we can share them:

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93 | Looking Past Childishness to See Awesomeness (John Burns part 2) Oct 27, 2019

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John Burns:

This is part 2 of the dadAWESOME conversation with John Burns. (here's the link to part 1 Episode 92) John and his wife Helen pastor Relate Church in Vancouver, Canada and are featured on "Sex, Love and Relationships" on the Hillsong Channel. They have been married for 45 years and have three daughters with eight grandchildren.

Episode Notes:

2:22 – John walks us through a not so awesome dad moment
3:05 – His daughters began making excuses to not go on their daddy daughter dates... It was because John was boring them with his questions.
3:35 - He was putting too much pressure on his daughters to answer his questions
4:40 - The mistake of trying to get our kids to act like other kids
5:00 - "I decided that I was going to enjoy my girls just the way they are"
5:09 - "You know honey, you're my hero. When I grow up, I want to be just like you"
5:20 - "You've got to look past the childishness and see the awesomeness in your children and then speak to it. And as you do, it just confirms it in them"
5:58 - Proverbs 13:21 - "A good man leaves an inheritance to his children's children, And the wealth of the sinner is stored up for the righteous."
6:10 - We are way too nearsighted and we need to look further and focus on the generations.
7:00 - The younger generation are hurting. They have information, but they don't have connection and wisdom.
7:30 - The importance of the connection between grandparents and grandchildren
8:25 - The importance of pouring into your kids friends and build bridges to reach your kids
9:15 - Psalm 92:12-14 "The righteous will flourish like a palm tree, they will grow like a cedar of Lebanon; planted in the house of the Lord, they will flourish in the courts of our God. They will still bear fruit in old age, they will stay fresh and green"
9:50 - "Your kids will follow your heart. They wont always follow your ideas, but they will read your heart."
10:15 - The two most important things to do to transfer your faith to your kids: 1) Love God 2) Love your church
10:25 - "When your kids see your heart for God in worship"
11:15 - Church is messy and family is messy. Your kids need to see how you negotiate your life and church.
12:20 - Loving your wife in front of your kids.
13:00 - When kids see their dads love waning for the local church, they will question their love for God
14:13 - Sex is the celebration of love
14:40 - Loving your wife is giving, not receiving
15:30 - Sex is all about giving. Love is not about feelings.
16:20 - The importance of your kids knowing about sex
17:00 - The most important thing in sex and marriage is talk. We must sit down and talk and learn how each other are doing.
17:35 - Intimacy is first emotional. It starts with talk.
18:30 - It's your job as a dad to approach the more difficult areas of marriage. Sex or finances or other areas.
19:25 - Date your wife. Date her often.
19:30 - "Build your wife up and praise her and tell her how amazing she is"
19:45 - Use the word HELP... Ask your wife for help. Take time to listen to her and invite her to help.
21:00 - John's prayer over us dads

Conversation Links:

John's Church – Relate
Sex, Love & Relationships show on the Hillsong Network
Book – "Miracle in a Daddy's Hug"

DA Ideas:

What gets recognized gets repeated
You've got to catch your kids doing what you want
Be a cheerleader
Idea submitted by Stefan Brinkley

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92 | Miracle in a Daddy's Hug (John Burns part 1) Oct 20, 2019

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John Burns:

John and his wife Helen pastor Relate Church in Vancouver, Canada and are featured on "Sex, Love and Relationships" on the Hillsong Channel. They have been married for 45 years and have three daughters with eight grandchildren.

Episode Notes:

3:12 - John introduces himself and his family
5:00 - "As dad, a great place to start is to say I don't know, but I want to know"
5:45 - Top dad advice = Get a calendar
6:25 - Get a real calendar. A paper one. A big one... and on that calendar you need to write the names of the most important things to you. Those things have names.
6:50 - Dating your children is the very top of the list for fathers.
9:34 - Be careful not to make dating your kids just a normal thing
Four tips for dating your kids:
- Make it Special
- It must be planned
- Time - It needs to be a portion of your life that you prioritize
- You must connect

10:20 - The importance of listening and being interested
10:30 - "dads - you have no idea just how important you are"
10:45 - The power of words
11:10 - The intro story from John's book "Miracle in a Daddy's Hug"
12:15 - Hearing his Heavenly Father say, "it's going to be ok"
12:45 - Transferring the miracle of what God had done in John down to his daughter through a hug
13:45 - Keeping on the look out for miracle moments
17:00 - Keep believing for your children. Keep praying and keep believing.
18:15 - The prayers of a parent are powerful
19:24 - John's time machine advice to himself
19:40 - Do more out-of-the-box things with your kids

Conversation Links:

John's Church - Relate
Sex, Love & Relationships show on the Hillsong Network
Book - "Miracle in a Daddy's Hug"

91 | Growing in Flexibility, Throwing Pancakes & Watching Fear Dissipate (Aaron Shust) Oct 13, 2019

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Aaron Shust:

Aaron Shust joins dadAWESOME for a vulnerable conversation fatherhood and trusting God in difficult moments. Aaron is a song writer and worship leader who records songs that magnify the name and nature of God. Nothing To Fear, just released in September 2019 and is Aaron's Ninth full-length album. Aaron lives with his wife Sarah and three boys in Nashville, TN.

Conversation Notes:

3:37 - Aaron introduces himself and his family
4:42 - His son experiencing bullying at school
12:20 - Focussing intentionality around rhythms
15:15 - The challenge of transitioning from touring as a musician to being home with his family without a schedule
15:50 - "Lord help me to be flexible"
16:30 - The number one thing is prayer
17:55 - "I am losing this battle Lord and I admit it. I need your Spirit to step in and Supernaturally do what you do"
17:40 - Dad mistakes... being too rigid and inflexible
19:45 - "I need to get down on my knees in front of my boys and say I'm sorry... I want my boys to see their daddy being vulnerable."
20:00 - Marriage tip - say "I was wrong"
20:10 - "Whatever I do is their definition of what a dad does... whatever I do is their definition of a man"
20:45 - "Will you forgive me?"
22:07 - Trusting God in difficult moments - lyrics from "My Savior, My God"
- "I am not skilled to understand. What God has willed, what God has planned. I only know at his right hand. Stands one who is my Savior"
22:40 - Crying out to God for his son
23:10 - James 5:14 "Is anyone among you sick? Let them call the elders of the church to pray over them and anoint them with oil in the name of the Lord."
23:50 - God healing his youngest son and now he can hear
24:50 - "It's not about the level of faith. It's got to be about God's plan"
26:16 - God has the power to answer your prayers, but sometimes he doesn't and we need to trust that God's plans are good... "We need to trust that God knows what He is doing"
27:10 - Testimony Videos:
- Nicky's Miracle Story
- Aaron Shust shares Michael's miracle story
- Aaron Shust, Testimony, and sings "No One Higher"
27:45 - Nothing To Fear - Hebrews 4:16 - "Let us then approach God's throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need."
28:20 - "Fear always becomes more prevalent and rises whenever my focus is on myself"
29:08 - "Set your eyes on the Word of God and watch the fear dissipate"
30:00 - Ephesians 6:4 "Fathers, don't exasperate your children, but raise them up with loving discipline and counsel that brings the revelation of our Lord."
30:40 - "If you want to know how our Heavenly Father acts, just read the Fruit of the Spirit. That's His calling card. That's who He is. God is love"
31:00 - Aaron's closing prayer

Episode Links:

https://www.aaronshust.com

DA Ideas: (From Erik Romsaas)

32:40 - Change Up The Environment... Change it up. When it feels like you're stuck as a dad, change the atmosphere and try connecting again.

90 | Raising Kids Who Change The World (Mark Foreman) Oct 06, 2019

Show notes

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About Mark Foreman:

Mark Foreman lives in the San Diego area and is the lead pastor of North Coast Calvary Chapel. The question Mark and his wife Jan Foreman are most often asked is: How did you raise your kids? Never Say No takes you on a personal journey to learn first-hand how they raised Jon and Tim of Switchfoot. Mark's been married to Jan, his "best friend and favorite Bible teacher," for over 46 years. Together they love surfing, sailing, travel and especially being with their family.

Conversation Notes:

3:00 - "You are the same today as you'll be in five years except for two things the books you read and the people you meet" Charlie "tremendous" Jones
3:45 - Mark introduces himself
4:50 - Bring your kids along for the adventure. Authenticity is an important ingredient.
5:40 - Agreement with their sons that they can all talk about anything they want. All topics are fair game because Jesus touches everything
6:30 - Surfing/Fatherhood comparison
7:15 - We must isolate the different variables of fatherhood and isolate some of them and then work on the variables that you really want to change
8:40 - "If you win 5000 people to Christ and you lose your own son, how does that feel?"
9:40 - The mistake of carrying around the wooden spoon and taking on the rigid disciplinarian role
10:50 - The importance of filling our kids love tanks
11:00 - "Time, Touch and Eye Contact" and the importance of wrestling
12:20 - The importance of listening and letting your kids dream
12:35 - "I Enjoy You" and the power of these words and the wonder it brings to children to hear them
12:05 - The surprising fact that a lot of people don't "like" their children
13:45 - The more time we spend with our kids, the more we enjoy them. We tend to like the things that we invest in
14:00 - It starts with understanding that God enjoys me
16:25 - book The Second Mountain (David Brooks) // We must go through a valley of pain before we can move to the 2nd mountain of serving and living for others
19:00 - Overview of the book Never Say No
20:30 - Process of thinking backwards and working backwards... What are we hoping for when our kids launch from the home at 18 years old?
21:10 - Most parents primary goal is safety. Most are scared to death of their kids getting hurt by the jungle of this world
21:40 - "Raising kids who own the jungle. Raise kids who change the world rather than run from the world"
22:25 - Raising artists. Every kid is raised in the image of God. He's a creator. He's the greatest artist.
23:30 - "Wonder happens when we get closer to God"... Humility and serving others also comes when we get closer to God.
24:15 - Reading books that stir up wonder
25:45 - Am I accidentally cutting the wings of my kids wonder and creativity
26:38 - Book Quote: ""How do I feel about God? Am I satisfied? Comfortable? Cynical? Disappointed? Indifferent? Am I on fire? That torch in my hand will be passed to my children more substantially than any religious education. If I want my children to grow spiritually, I must stay alive."
28:40 - It must be in me before I can hope something is in my kids.
29:00 - Mark's sons seeing him spending time reading his Bible
30:30 - "We are the caretakers of our kids hearts"
32:15 - "We're launching our kids from the moment they're born if we really believe we are raising kids that will change the world"
34:00 - Entire dadAWESOME episode on the book Never Say No with Ross Manders: https://dadawesome.org/episode48/
34:20 - Slow down
35:30 - Mark's prayer for us fathers.

Links:

Never Say No (Mark and Jan Foreman)
Switchfoot (his sons band)
Mark's church
Mark on Twitter

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