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79 | Failing as a Father & The Faithfulness of God (Paul Anderson) Jul 21, 2019

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Paul Anderson joins dadAWESOME for a chat on the topic of FAITHFULNESS. This is the 7th part of our 9-part series on the Fruit of the Spirit. Paul Anderson graduated from UCLA and Luther Seminary. He pastored in Southern California for twenty-five years before moving to Minnesota to direct Lutheran Renewal. During his tenure he founded The Master's Institute and the Alliance of Renewal Churches. A young adult community called Communitas met in his home for eleven years. Now a house church gathers there on Sundays. Paul authored five books and enjoys writing his blog. He and Karen have six children and fourteen grandchildren.

Conversation Notes:

1:15 - Social Media links for dadAWESOME

Instagram: www.instagram.com/dadawesome
Facebook: www.facebook.com/dadawesomepodcast/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/dadAWESOMEpod

4:40 - Top dad advice = Intentionality

5:25 - Apologizing to his kids

5:53 - Teaching kids to appreciate being together

6:25 - Question jar for dinner conversations

7:02 - Being intentional about teaching kids to work and to love work

7:30 - Saturday morning work party as a family. Making work fun and adding music and marching to kick off the work together.

9:35 - Paul describes the special moments of celebrating birthdays by affirming and speaking encouraging words over the person.

11:00 - Paul shares about the powerful conversation when he asked his kids how he had failed them as their father.

12:30 - His kids were kind enough to tell him how he had failed.

13:30 - Intentional meeting with his kids to follow-up. Two questions he asked them:

What you like about the family
What you don't like about the family

14:05 - "You need to find out where you have failed and if you're willing to ask, your kids will tell you"

15:06 - Talking about generations. "It's about generational righteousness"

15:30 - "I pray for my kids grandchildren that don't yet exist. We're in this for the long haul. We're in this for the legacy. We're in this to change the culture. And when you get a legacy and four generations of righteousness there is a greater potential to change the culture"

16:24 - Paul telling a story about faithfulness and his wife's parents and their current role of praying for their great grandchildren.

17:40 - The powerful moments of seeing the fruit of obedience and faithfulness and passion.

18:15 - Seeing gentleness in his parents and then pass that on to our kids

18:40 - Seeing a love for God's word and his church and seeing that passed along to our kids.

19:45 - "I think of faith as believing in God and if faith is the lips of our obedience, faithfulness is the legs. Faithfulness walks out what you believe in your heart."

21:15 - Story of Paul's daughter yanking the flowers up out of the ground one by one.

23:40 - "I'm struck by the faithfulness of God. I'm not struck by my own faithfulness but I'm really really struck by the faithfulness of God"

24:00 - "You'll do what you can, but God will will do what you can't because He is faithful to his promises"

Episode Links:

Paul Anderson's Blog

Paul Anderson's Podcast

78 | Life-Giving Fatherhood & the Goodness of our Heavenly Father (Tyler Reagin) Jul 14, 2019

Show notes

This is the sixth part of our summer Fruit of the Spirit series and our guest Tyler Reagin explores the topic of GOODNESS... Tyler was the President of Catalyst, a leadership development organization that exists to unify and equip leaders who love the Church through resources and experiential events. He remains the Brand Ambassador and also runs his own leadership company called The Life Giving CO. (lifegiving.co).

Conversation Notes:

4:50 - Becoming a student of leadership. "We are all called to lead. We're all called to steward our influence well"
3:37 - "Help find the uniqueness, that God-given Psalm 139 uniqueness in your kids and start encouraging that out... calling that out"
5:55 - Color Chart personality profile tool https://www.colorcode.com/
7:40 - Diving into Emotional Intelligence
7:55 - The difference between self-awareness and self-regulation
8:30 - Apologies do not take away consequences
9:30 - Creating layers to our kids' foundations so that they are prepared and not crushed by the storms of life
9:45 - "Leadership isn't easy. It's difficult because it matters. It changes people. It's valuable. And things of value require sacrifice."
10:50 - Story about their family moving and the difficult transition for Tyler's kids
11:30 - When employees or people we lead or our kids are having a difficult time, ask yourself what you have done to lead them to their current behavior
13:35 - When it comes to chores, do what you can to MAKE IT FUN and then watch the results.
14:19 - Calling out adventure in our lives and feeling fullness
15:08 - "This life is full of adventure. This God we serve is full of adventure. How do we show attributes of God through our day to day life? A lot of that for me is showing a God who is fun and plays with us and is full of adventure..."
16:03 - The power of their weekly rhythm of going to church as a family together every Sunday.
16:35 - Be on the lookout for unique opportunities to steal away and create moments as a family
17:30 - Process big life decisions and career decisions with your kids so they can see how you seek God for wisdom and direction
19:00 - John 10:10 - the paradox of Good vs. Strife & Struggle
20:01 - Great leaders give life to people. An outflowing and an overflowing of life.
22:50 - Conversation about legacy. Fighting to give life and care to his boys.
25:40 - Calm is contagious
26:20 - Presenting attractive qualities for his boys (like the Fruit of the Spirit) that they want to emulate when they grow up
27:25 - Leading from your truest self... Be ok with yourself. Don't copy others.
28:30 - it's ok to have flaws. Keep working on your role as dad and don't be afraid to talk about it.
28:50 - "One thing I'm really proud to be is Carrie's husband and their dad... And I'm going to fight for those things"
29:50 - Conversation about the Fruit of the Spirit
30:30 - "When I think of GOODNESS, I think of a depth of love displayed in action"
30:55 - "When I think of my Heavenly Father, I think of someone who wants good things for me"
31:50 - Goodness is a posture. It's a heart condition. It's coming from a place of abundance.
Psalm 139:14 "I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well."
32:55 - Connecting God's goodness in creation for our kids to understand. Watch them come alive.
35:15 - Advice for himself back 8 years ago.
36:30 - Tyler's dad loved him unconditionally. His dad said "I love you and you matter."

Links:

https://www.tylerreagin.com

Book: Life-Giving Leader

https://lifegiving.co/

https://www.catalystleader.com

77 | Crafting Key Moments, Modeling KINDNESS & Praying with Desperation (Ryan Skoog) Jul 07, 2019

Show notes

Ryan Skoog joins us for the 5th part of our dadAWESOME Fruit of the Spirit series. Ryan is an entrepreneur, ministry leader, world traveler and adventure dad. He started Fly for Good, Volunteer Card, Yonder Travel Insurance, and the non profit Venture.org which helps people do tough things to help people in tough places around the world.

Conversation Notes:

4:20 - Story of the first moments after their son was born
4:50 - "That was our welcome to parenthood. Welcome to getting on your knees and crying out to God in prayer"
5:34 - "I want to stay fighting on my knees like this all of the time for my kids"
6:30 - Story of travel and being exposed to those in need around the world
7:50 - Story of Ryan's dad and mixing love for travel with love for evangelism and serving others
9:25 - The impact of waking up and finding his dad reading his Bible every morning (praying through Psalm 91 over his family)
9:55 - Praying Ephesians chapter 1 and Ephesians chapter 3 over his kids
10:40 - Ryan explaining his career journey and the story of launching Venture
14:15 - the other organizations that Ryan leads:
- https://www.faithventures.com
- https://www.flyforgood.com/
- https://www.volunteercard.com/
- https://www.insureyonder.com/
16:20 - "As parents, we shouldn't just have experiences where we celebrate together with our kids. We also need experiences where we struggle together. Where we sacrifice together"
17:28 - "Instead of being an amazing leader and a decent dad, I want to be an amazing dad and a decent leader"
18:30 - "I wanted to be able to create experiences, key moments for my kids surrounded around our families core values"
18:50 - Ryan explains the step by step plan for creating these 1-on-1 moments with his kids
- Age 6 or 7 -- Adventure in the woods. Create a cross.
- 20:05 - Rock Climbing while learning about character and values. Character anchors us like a rope anchors us
- 20:40 - Cliff jumping for learning about courage
- 21:40 - The set-up for the adventure the night before. Burnt edge paper with a note. 24 hour blitz trips.
- 22:30 - Climbing up a mountain for a sunrise. Holiness and Purity. "It's tough, but it's worth it"
- 23:50 - Mother/daughter trip to Chicago for tea.
- 24:35 - Trip to a church in Alaska with Ryan's dad and his son. A prayer moment. A moment about legacy.
- 25:15 - An adventure when they spend a night on the streets. Learning about compassion.
25:45 - Mission trips to difficult places in third world countries have transformed their kids. Their kids pray every night for these kids without mommy's and daddy's
28:20 - Normalizing in a good way intentional parenting
28:35 - The family dashboard of values and mission and prayers they are praying as a family.
29:30 - Memorizing scripture as a family
30:05 - "We should not, as parents, have a mentality that outsources faith to the church. They should reinforce what we are doing as parents"
30:30 - Every member of their family has a Fruit of the Spirit that they're working to grow in
32:10 - Introducing the focussed Fruit of the Spirit - KINDNESS
34:30 - Story of the early church adopting babies left in the trash - "The church was started on kindness"
35:15 - Inviting our kids to be able to call us as parents out when we are violating the Fruit of the Spirit
37:40 - Catching your kids doing something good and celebrating it
38:40 - Daily prayer focus
39:30 - Having the interviewing questions with our kids. Asking for feedback from them on how we are doing as dads
40:00 - Using code words to express large emotions with a short phrase
40:30 - "If you pray for something for your kids, you will see it start to happen"
41:00 - "God is actively wanting to answer prayers from parents for their kids. It's pretty amazing."
41:55 - Ryan's last words... Add more intentionality to your dad life.
42:50 - We need each other
Recommended Books:
- The Tech-Wise Family: Everyday Steps for Putting Technology in Its Proper Place Hardcover (Andy Crouch)
- Boundaries with Kids: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Children (Henry Cloud and John Town)
- Boundaries with Teens: When to Say Yes, How to Say No Paperback (John Townsend)
- The Entitlement Cure: Finding Success in Doing Hard Things the Right Way (John Townsend)
- Take entrepreneurial business books and apply those principles to being a dad

Links:

76 | Intentional Fatherhood, Radical Mentoring & The Power of PATIENCE - Fruits Week 4 (Regi Campbell) Jun 30, 2019

Show notes

Regi Campbell joins dadAWESOME for the 4th part of our summer Fruit of the Spirit series. Regi is a serial entrepreneur who has founded 15 companies and has now devoted this phase of his life to creating a mentoring approach that produces incredible leaders and deep discipleship. He is currently leading his 18th mentoring group and has now personally invested in 144 men and indirectly, in their marriages and families.

Conversation Notes:

4:40 - "You're just doing what Jesus did... He handpicked a group of men for a season of time and invested in them"
5:25 - "My goal is 5 generations of multiplication. If that happens, more than a million men will have been equipped to manage life better"
6:00 - "The only way to leave a legacy is for Jesus to use you to pour into others who have a hunger to pour into others as well"
6:50 - Regi shares his goal of investing in mentors who mentors others
7:50 - The key to something being sustained is that it must be motivated by selflessness and it must have intentionality
8:50 - Anything you care about should have intentionality
9:15 - The importance of raising kids who are becoming good adults
9:45 - Basic principles of Radical Mentoring
10:50 - Make sure that your kids know that you love them
11:25 - I realized that I have a perfect Heavenly Father who loves me
13:50 - There is always something that you don't know
14:35 - Story about Andy Stanley putting his kids to bed and asking about their heart
15:15 - Be firm, but don't lose track of their heart
16:05 - Make time in the morning to connect one-on-one
16:30 - The importance of sharing with our kids what is going on in our life if we want them to share with us
16:45 - Talking to your kids like they are adults and really connecting with them
17:20 - Be a dad who is in your son or daughters presence
18:25 - Be careful not to exasperate your children
- Provoke
- Stir up anger
- Do not irritate
- Do not be hard
20:50 - The importance of keeping our kids emotional tanks full
22:00 - The danger of jumping to conclusions
24:45 - The value of a slower pace and limiting activities and a hurried life
26:20 - Sadly we don't have many spiritual mentors and hero's that we want to be like
27:00 - Matthew 28:19-20 The Message (MSG) "Jesus, undeterred, went right ahead and gave his charge: "God authorized and commanded me to commission you: Go out and train everyone you meet, far and near, in this way of life, marking them by baptism in the threefold name: Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. Then instruct them in the practice of all I have commanded you. I'll be with you as you do this, day after day after day, right up to the end of the age."
29:20 - Encouraging dads to be intentional and initiate... lead yourself
29:35 - You get what you glorify. Whatever you glorify, that's what your kids will lean into.
31:00 Story about intentionality and helping his kids find good friendships
34:00 - Curating Your Kids Friends
35:30 - Proverbs 24:3-6 "By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established; through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures. The wise prevail through great power, and those who have knowledge muster their strength. Surely you need guidance to wage war, and victory is won through many advisers.through wisdom and knowledge it's filled with treasures"
- Knowledge is just data
- Understanding is context
- Wisdom is taking data and filtering it through context and being wise with decisions

Links:

Regi's Website

Radical Mentoring

Mentor Like Jesus and Regi's other books

75 | Living with Less & Experiencing God's PEACE (Joshua Becker) Jun 23, 2019

Show notes

Joshua Becker joins us for part 3 of our summer 9-part series on the Fruit of the Spirit. Joshua is the founder and editor of Becoming Minimalist, a website dedicated to inspiring others to find more life by owning less. Joshua lives in Peoria, Arizona with his wife, son, and daughter.

Conversation Notes:

3:51 - How cleaning out a garage led to exploring minimalism
6:00 - "Not only was everything I owned not making me happy, even worse, everything I owned was taking me away from things that did bring me happiness and purpose and meaning and significance and joy."
6:54 - Possessions have become a big distraction in a lot of people's lives
8:00 - Ideas on how owning less can help us be more effective in our parenting.
9:28 - When we focus less than the things we do not have we have opportunity to appreciate the things that we do have.
10:31 - "It is about aligning our lives around our values as opposed to being distracted by things that do not matter in the long run"
12:05 - More stuff never resolves our discontentment
13:18 - Jesus said, "Take care, and be on your guard against all covetousness, for one's life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions." Luke 12:15
13:40 - Examining our motivations behind work and collecting more stuff
17:12 - How minimalism opened Joshua's eyes to a new passion and approach to orphans and adoption.
18:30 - The Hope Effect
20:30 - Multi-generational influence of Joshua's family
22:50 - "I want to be as engaged and live each day as meaningfully as I possibly can"
23:50 - The big mistake of how much time and energy was invested into chasing the wrong things
24:30 - The mistake of wanting his kids to have the same qualities and attributes as their dad
25:10 - "So much of parenting is being intentional. So much is just studying our children and learning who they are."
27:20 - Joshua describes two types of peace - peace in our circumstances and peace with the life that we're living
28:25 - "We can find peace in how we know that we're doing our best even though our best isn't perfect. I can still find peace in the life that I'm living."
29:33 - "When the world is turning upside-down, when we're in these moments of trial and turmoil, we can know that there is a God who loves me, who is watching out for me, and a God who knows best."
29:56 - "The things that are taking place around me may not bring me happiness; they may not bring me joy; they may be very difficult. But I always have that rock that I fall back upon. I can know that no matter how hard the wind is blowing… I have an anchor, and there is a God who loves me and is taking care of me and is watching over me."
31:41 - Joshua talks about the benefits of fewer toys (both for kids and adults)
32:30 - Research about fewer toys leading to creativity and imagination and problem solving and contentment
35:00 - "Kids who don't learn boundaries become adults who don't define them for themselves."
36:00 - "We overcome envy by focusing on the blessings we have, focusing on our uniqueness and what makes us special, and knowing we're directing our resources on what matters the most. This is where we overcome envy and start to find peace in our lives."
37:06 - "We we find our greatest peace when... we know we're being intentional with our time and our money and our schedule and our space... when we can say I'm doing in this moment what I think God would have me to do... that this is where we find peace in our lives."

Resources

Top 10 Blog Posts - https://www.becomingminimalist.com/most-popular-posts/
Joshua's Blog - https://www.becomingminimalist.com
Joshua's books - Links to purchase at his website: https://www.becomingminimalist.com/books
- The Minimalist Home: A Room-by-Room Guide to a Decluttered, Refocused Life
- The More of Less: Finding the Life You Want Under Everything You Own
The Hope Effect - http://www.hopeeffect.com - changing orphan care by providing family-based solutions

74 | JOY & Unpacking the Proximity Principle - Fruits Week 2 (Ken Coleman) Jun 16, 2019

Show notes

Ken Coleman joins us for part 2 of our summer 9-part series on the Fruit Of The Spirit. Ken is a career expert, best-selling author of "The Proximity Principle" and national radio host of "The Ken Coleman Show". Pulling from his own personal struggles, missed opportunities and career successes, Coleman helps people discover what they were born to do and provides practical steps to make their dream job a reality.

Conversation Notes:

(4:55) Living a purposeful life through our work - we were all created to do work that matters
(5:24) The Proximity Principle book
(5:55) Passions for leadership tie into principles of being a dad
(6:30) Taking his kids with him on speaking trips
(7:13) We want our kids to see us invite people into our home
(6:20) Things he loves to do with his kids
(8:08) There is a lot of togetherness. We're a close knit group
(8:35) Dad advice - you're going to need to own what you did wrong and say sorry. Many times. This will do more for your relationship with your kids.
(8:50) Kids need to see their father ask for forgiveness.
(10:30) Painful moment - he thought he was helping his son by pushing him, but was actually pushing him away.
(13:29) Small rhythms have big long-term impact - parenting for strengths.
(14:15) "Use what you do best to do what you love to do most... That's the sweet spot. That's the calling of God"
(14:42) Help our kids be self-aware adults - do you know who you are?
(15:15) Psalm 139 - you knit me together in my mothers womb. Talent and passion.
(15:35) Help our kids understand their role to the father and their role in this world.
(16:18) The power of intentional questions - you'll get more out of them if you ask a question vs tell them.
(19:33) Why is joy important for dads and kids?
(19:40) Difference between happiness and joy
(20:18) Joy comes in the morning (Psalm 30:5)
(22:00) Other tools to help kids step into joy: help them understand the journey of faith.
(22:50) That moment of pain needs to be put in greater context of the bigger broader story.
(24:35) The Proximity Principle - "in order to do what I want to do I've got to be around people that are doing it in places that it is happening"
(25:55) In order to be a great dad I need to be around great dads and be in places where great dads are hanging out
Ken Coleman Show
(28:14) Assess the peers you're hanging out with.
(28:50) Don't do dad life alone. Get around other dads who are ahead of you to ask advice.
(29:18) Analogy: Training for a race - running with people a little pace ahead helps us to go farther. You don't want to be the fastest guy in the group.
dadAWESOME groups

Links:

The Proximity Principle: The Proven Strategy That Will Lead to a Career You Love

One Question: Life-Changing Answers from Today's Leading Voices

73 | LOVE - Fruits Week 1 (Paul Van Coller) Jun 09, 2019

Show notes

This episode kicks off our dadAWESOME 9-part series on the Fruit Of The Spirit as described in Galatians 5:22-23 Paul Van Coller is a phenomenal communicator of God's Word and the pastor of Hope Church in George, South Africa. He is a great storyteller and inspires people to have more faith and risk more for God. His passion is planting churches in all corners of the world. Paul and his wife Marinette have been married for 16 years, have two awesome boys and both have been in active ministry for over 20 years. Before they re-planted Hope Church in George, South Africa in 2012 they were missionaries for 10 years with The Zambia Project which they pioneered and continue to lead.

Conversation Notes

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(4:41) Paul introduces his family and ministry
(5:44) Our mission as a family is to honor God and see God's kingdom grow.
(6:03) Cultural differences on fatherhood
(7:14) Fun things Paul enjoys doing with his boys
(8:12) Illustration of aligning arrows (priorities) in our lives and families
(9:50) John 3:30 "He must increase, but I must decrease."
(10:38) Understanding our calling as a family
(11:34) "We are together in this mission... I can't succeed as a dad or as a person in serving God and fulfilling what I feel God has called me to do unless we all fulfill what God has called us all to do."
(12:15) "We're on this journey together. We celebrate the wins. We pray together for various things."
(13:05) Paul describes how painful experiences brought him closer to God
(13:57) "God is such a big God, and he loves us so much. He is for us. When we come to Him and bring our pain and suffering to Him… surrender it to Him, He is able to patch it all up and do something amazing with it"
(14:35) Allow the manure of pain and past mistakes to become the fertilizer for reaping great relationships
(15:23) Paul talks about what he learned from a past mistake
(15:35) Be adaptive in our leadership and parenting because our kids are continually changing seasons in their lives.
(16:30) Beginning conversation about the Fruit of the Spirit of LOVE
(17:30) Biblical love is different than our cultures "romantic" love. Biblical love is sacrificial.
(17:38) Love puts our families above our own needs and desires. We as men need to be willing to "die" first.
(19:00) Find the balance between self-sacrifice and making an idol out of our families
(20:05) Don't just pray that God would bless and grow our kids, but also pray to hear from God about our kids.
(21:20) Story of coffee and intentionally slowing down
(21:54) We need to force ourselves to stop, reflect, process, and get ready for what is coming next.
(22:33) "The mistake that I was making, and that I think that many of us make, is that I was rushing from one thing to the next."
(23:13) If we take the time to stop with our kids it can leave to some of the best conversations.
(23:28) Living lives of love does not happen in a rushed state
(24:08) Make sure we are really present with our kids and we're really there in the moment.
(24:29) Some people talk best while we're doing something. The conversation starts moving while we do something together.
(25:25) Paul's time machine advice to his younger self would be to "Listen more and have more fun." Be intentional about making positive memories.
(27:54) "My dream is that they would one day say I showed them what it looked like to radically follow God."
(28:00) "Be full of faith, putting God's kingdom above our kingdom, and have fun along the way."
(29:06) Parting advice: have fun, don't take yourself too seriously, and admit your mistakes.
(30:10) "I pray that you would continue to give us the grace to love as you love us, God."

Links:

Paul on Instagram

Hope Church

The Zambia Project

72 | Humble Yourself & Let God Do The Lifting (Susie Larson Part 2) Jun 02, 2019

Show notes

Susie Larson is back for part 5 of Mom Month with the powerful second half of a vulnerable conversation. Susie is a talk show host, national speaker, and author of 16 books. Her passion is to see women everywhere awakened to the value of their soul, the depth of God's love, and the height of their calling in Christ Jesus. In case you missed last week's episode, here's the first half of this interview in Episode 71.

Conversation Notes:

GIVE to the Fathers for the Fatherless 100 mile ride - webpage here
We're now offering a daily dadAWESOME text message with encouragement, prayers, Bible verses, dad tips and other fatherhood inspiration. Simply text "dad" to 33222 to receive DA Daily Texts. (2:14)
Your Sacred Yes: Trading Life-Draining Obligation for Freedom, Passion and Joy
We're now offering a daily dadAWESOME text message with encouragement, prayers, Bible verses, dad tips and other fatherhood inspiration. Simply text "dad" to 33222 to join DA Daily (3:05)
"Sadly, once we've secured our eternity, far too many of us live like the rest of the world… When we forget, or become too busy, to tap into the provision and power God has made available to us, we find ourselves weary, rushed, earthbound people who merely react to our circumstances. From the outside looking in, we look like everybody else - tired, overworked, and underjoyed…" (3:54)
Are we living to be loved or are we living from love? There's a difference in their eyes, in their level of joy (4:25)
Live out of the love of the Father because his love changes everything (4:37)
Soren Kierkegaard quote: "You have loved us first, O God... You have loved us first many times and every day and our whole life through. When we wake up in the morning and turn our soul toward You – You are the first – You have loved us first..."(4:50)
Ephesians 3:17-19 "so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. Then you, being rooted and grounded in love, may have power, together with all the saints, to comprehend the length and width and height and depth of His love, and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled with all the fullness of God" (5:05)
Three types of yeses: the Sloppy Yes, the Shackled Yes, and the Sacred Yes. (5:13)
Sloppy yes - you don't see the value of your life and your calling. You're busy. Sloppy in what you say yes to. Not sustainable, exhausting, not able to bear fruit, and makes you spiritually vulnerable - a dangerous and joyless way to live. (5:18)
Shackled yes - fear of man - misusing time, treasurers and talents to manage a persona and other people's opinions. Captivity. Won't bear fruit. (5:59)
Proverbs 29:25 "Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the LORD is kept safe." (6:05)
You may go through a season where you have to be content to be misunderstood and you'll have to say no. (6:28)
"You will never accomplish anything of substance as long as man's opinion holds more weight than God's." (6:40)
Sacred Yes - living with a single-minded focus and living for an audience of one. (6:52)
Psalm 90:12 "Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom." (7:07)
"I'm not who I was, I'm not what I do, I'm someone He enjoys." (7:39)
Some blind spots for dads (8:40)
We have a natural tendency to attach our identity to the things we do (9:15)
"You're going to be giving thousands of chances to die to yourself and you should take every one. Because that's where the resurrection power will come." (9:50)
The impact generationally of us choosing to die to ourselves (10:50)
"In Genesis we read about how Esau gave up his birthright for a bowl of soup. He let himself get so exhausted, so extended, so hungry that he lost sight of the bigger story of his life. He traded his birthright - something that would impact future generations - for a bowl of soup. Soup! Yet that's exactly what we do when we extend ourselves to the point of exhaustion and reduce our choices to options that just get us through the moment… We deprive future generations the blessings God has promised us…" (11:10)
How many Heavenly storehouses remain untapped because we're racing around just trying to get through the moment." (12:20)
The Lord said to me, "Most of my children are scratching the surface of what I've made available to them." (13:50)
Two of three times per year we'd sit down and write out everywhere our time was going (14:25)
"When you just go on cruise control or autopilot, you disengage your heart" (15:00)
Four boundaries that Susie has set up around her life (16:20)
- Holy Confidence
- Humble Dependance
- Kingdom Passion
- Calvary Love

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Episode Links:

Episode 71 - PART 1 with Susie Larson

dadAWESOME Episode 29 (Kevin Larson)

Your Sacred Yes: Trading Life-Draining Obligation for Freedom, Passion and Joy

https://www.susielarson.com/

71 | Nothing To Prove & All of Eternity To Live For (Susie Larson part 1) May 26, 2019

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Susie Larson joins dadAWESOME for part 4 of Mom Month. She is a talk show host, national speaker, and author of 16 books. Susie's passion is to see women everywhere awakened to the value of their soul, the depth of God's love, and the height of their calling in Christ Jesus.

Conversation Notes:

Taking intentional time to develop friendships. Placing your friends above yourself (2:40)
Proverbs 12:26 "The righteous choose their friends carefully, but the way of the wicked leads them astray." (3:25)
The benefits of hindsight... seeing the fruit in their family after all they've sown into their boys and seeing the grace of God in the ways they missed it (5:12)
"I don't like to say I'm busy because busyness means I'm out of control. I have a full life and I'm careful with my YES." (5:35)
The story from her husband Kevin's perspective - listen to dadAWESOME Episode 29 (6:50)
You must have an intimate thriving walk with the Lord (7:33)
"If you want to walk in the miraculous, you have got to hook up to the power source." (7:55)
As a couple - pray together every single day (8:05)
You have to grab ahold of your identity in Christ and you have to declare it every single day (8:15)
People are misusing their time, treasure and talents to try to prove something that God has already proven and then it's a colossal waste of time (8:25)
You've got nothing to prove & all of eternity to live for (8:35)
The importance of family meetings (9:40)
Let's talk about Christmas. It's about Jesus, not about you. What does entitlement look like? What does gratitude look like? (10:10)
She would tell her boys, "You're a Christian first and a teenager second," because we can't be blown by the culture we live in (10:30)
"We cannot grow beyond our ability to receive correction." -Francis Frangipane (11:04)
You are not your performance, but how you perform matters. You've got to leave places better than you found them. You've got to be a giver and not a taker (11:15)
The importance of a family meeting and each person sharing a growth area and a strength area with each other (11:40)
Hearing from her son "Mom, you worry too much and dad you work too much" (12:30)
Susie talking about her husband Kevin (14:00)
Kevin working 2 or 3 jobs and the pain of him working too much (15:00)
I want couples to know it's worth it. Work through the hard times and don't give up on your marriage. You'll have the strongest and most enjoyable marriage after the fact. (15:30)
Kevin telling Susie, "You're not going to one doctor appointment by yourself." (16:05)
Kevin mentors his adult sons and they each have lunch with him every month. (17:20)
Susie reflecting on her father (18:49)
When you're overcompensating, so often it's coming out of a heartbreak or trauma or fear of some kind (20:45)
Susie's dad: "My whole life I've thought I had to earn God's love and at this age, I finally found out that it's free" (21:10)
What if we have pain from the relationship with our father? (22:20)
God wants to make us whole... Psalm 23:3 "He restores my soul" (22:45)
"God goes to the hardest places in our souls and He untangles them so that you're trauma-free" (22:55)
"As Christians, we don't have the option to sit in unforgiveness and hold onto bitterness" (23:45)
"Pain that is not transformed is transferred" -Dr. Shane Wood
Susie reflecting on some mom-mistakes (24:50)
The pain and confusion with two of their three sons wandering from the faith (25:10)
"Parenting is not a formula that guarantees an outcome" (26:06)
God takes our offering and He's not done with us yet (27:05)
Your Sacred Yes: Trading Life-Draining Obligation for Freedom, Passion and Joy
"Sadly, once we've secured our eternity, far too many of us live like the rest of the world… When we forget - or become too busy - to tap into the provision and power God had made available to us, we find ourselves weary, rushed, earthbound people who merely react to our circumstances. From the outside looking in, we look like everybody else - tired, overworked, and underjoyed…"
People who have begun living from love vs. living for love (28:40)

Episode Links:

dadAWESOME Episode 29 (Kevin Larson)

Your Sacred Yes: Trading Life-Draining Obligation for Freedom, Passion and Joy

https://www.susielarson.com/

70 | Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World (Kristen Welch) May 19, 2019

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This is part three of Mom Month and Kristen Welch joins us for a conversation about chasing dreams, living with gratitude and the dangers of living with ourselves in the center of our own universe. Kristen is a blogger (Wearethatfamily.com), author, podcaster and founder of an incredible nonprofit ministry in Kenya.

Conversations Notes:

Showing our kids unconditional love (1:35)
Romans 5:8 "But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us." (2:20)
Living for my family alone led to a child-centered home (7:35)
My husband could see the emptiness in me and he hurt for me (11:00)
The trip to Kenya woke me up... I literally woke up from the American Dream that had become a nightmare for me. The cycle in me that there was never enough. (11:40)
Story of a young orphan boy in Kenya who in the worlds eyes had nothing (12:50)
Why was this boy filled with joy? Why was he smiling when he had nothing (13:50)
I have everything because I have Jesus (14:30)
A response of doing nothing is still a response (16:18)
We must acknowledge what we have done in the past that has led our families to where we are at (17:08)
My choices changed. The way I shopped, consumed, lived and served (17:40)
It revealed my own entitlement. How much I expected and felt like I deserved (18:00)
"I don't want to add Jesus to my life like salt and pepper to a meal. I want him to be the main course!" (18:50)
The can't have a child-centered home and a Jesus-centered home at the same time (18:55)
Service was not part of who we were. We did not serve others (20:35)
"It is really hard to change the direction of a ship [your family]. It does not happen overnight. It is slow and steady and consistent."
We began making service a normal part of our lives (21:20)
Instead of keeping everything to ourselves, our response was to start Mercy House (21:45)
The reason you feel empty is that you're keeping these blessings to yourself (22:10)
We simply took small steps towards saying yes everyday (23:30)
Moving from a joyless person to a purposeful person (24:15)
Where do we have extra to share? Spare seat at the table? Open seat in the vehicle? Room during the holidays?
We're sitting on this incredible secret that generosity changes lives... it makes us grateful (25:55)
Story of her husband helping her chase her dreams (26:55)
My husband was way ahead of me. He was leading our family spiritually. He was asking questions that made me uncomfortable... He was seeing a pattern in me that was unhealthy (28:25)
My husband said to me, "What happened to the girl that wanted to change the world?" (29:25)
The heart of a husband that wanted to bring out the best in a wife... he didn't want motherhood to kill her dreams (32:20)
I said let's do something radical and my husband said, "let's do it" (33:00)
"God had to take me all the way to Kenya and wreck my heart so that when I came back I would be on the same page as my husband" (33:30)
The real tension of needing her husband to lead in ways that were best for their family (34:00)
This life isn't about me or even my family. This life is about the Gospel. We exist to make the Gospel known and glorify God in what we do. (36:30)
"Wait for life's sweet spot where your passion and our skills collide with God's timing" (37:30)
Be grateful. Gratitude can turn the hardest days into the best days. (38:30)
Gratitude is a lifeline in our lives. It truly reminds us of what we have and a global perspective also helps us realize what we have (39:20)