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CHANGE YOUR LIFE (PART 4): Change your brain May 06, 2020

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Your brain is a powerful machine that has been programmed by YOU for your entire life. You have chosen the thoughts that have led to the feelings that have created the actions that have created the reality you have right now. Which means...if you want to change your life, you MUST change your brain.

In today's episode I'm sharing the 5 steps that will allow you to rewire your brain for happiness. Also, I'm giving you a heads up on the 4 most common reasons people give up before the brain changes (and how to move past them).

CHANGE YOUR LIFE (PART 3): The thing that keeps you from what you want Apr 29, 2020

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If you want to create what you WANT, you have to have awareness of what's keeping you stuck.

In part 3 of How to Change Your Life series, I'm sharing the 7 most COMMON thought patterns that people think that keep them creating

Listen to today's episode and find out which pattern (or patterns) is keeping YOU stuck.

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HOW TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE (PART 2): What you THINK matters more than what you DO Apr 22, 2020

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We've been programmed to believe that willpower and grit and pushing through and taking action is what's going to create success.

But, no.

I mean, what you do DOES matter, but what you THINK matters more.

Because what you THINK creates how you FEEL.

And how you FEEL dictates what you DO.

If you are constantly moving through your life beating yourself up, being hard on yourself, focusing on feeling BAD to motivate yourself, you're going to burn out.

Your THOUGHTS will create your reality.

Today I'm sharing why:

~ all circumstances are neutral

~ what you THINK is always a choice

~ what you think will create a FEELING

~ what you FEEL will dictate your behaviors, actions and habits

HOW TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE (PART ONE): Your Conscious and Subconscious Minds Apr 15, 2020

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You cannot create lasting lifelong changes if you keep thinking the same way you're thinking now.

In order to change your life, you must change your thoughts.

In order to do THAT, you need to understand WHY your thinking matters and HOW your thinking actually does create your reality.

In part one of How To Change Your Life, I'm sharing:

~ why it feels hard to create real change that *lasts*

~ why most people aren't able to create the real change they want in a sustainable way.

~ what the conscious + subconscious minds ARE and why they matter

~ why what you hold in your subconscious is either creating what you WANT or what you DON'T want.

~ why your thoughts matter MORE than the actions you're taking

6 THINGS I STOPPED DOING THAT TRANSFORMED MY NEURODIVERSE MARRIAGE Apr 08, 2020

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This episode is NOT just for people in neurodiverse relationships, it will help ANYONE in ANY relationship.

When my husband was diagnosed with Aspergers 5 years into our marriage, I googled "married to someone with Aspergers". The stories and articles that came up were completely discouraging. Everything said that these neurodiverse relationships don't usually work, but if they DO work, the neurotypical partner is going to face a life of suffering and sacrificing.

Ummmm...no thank you.

I decided that was not going to be MY story. I decided that was not good enough for me. I believe that life is meant to be lived FULLY, not just survived.

And so I decided that WE would create our OWN narrative. WE would be the example of what is POSSIBLE in a neurodiverse relationship.

And that's what we did. But the way we did it was NOT the way most people were suggesting because what other people were suggesting wasn't working. After spending SO many hours having conversations about communication that went nowhere, we did it differently.

Today I'm sharing the 6 things I STOPPED doing that allowed us to transform our marriage and create a neurodiverse relationship that isn't just surviving...we're genuinely happy.

YOUR LIFE IS STILL HAPPENING...HOW TO KEEP SHOWING UP Apr 03, 2020

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(This bonus episode comes from a FB live in the Show Up and Love Facebook group.)

Just because you are social distancing, just because you are working from home, just because the world outside looks DIFFERENT...YOUR LIFE IS STILL HAPPENING.

In this quick bonus episode I share why it's SO important to keep showing up for your SELF and your LIFE and how to do that, when you feel so much uncertainty.

FINDING EMOTIONAL BALANCE DURING A CRISIS Apr 01, 2020

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Right now the world feels overwhelming.

It feels heavy.

It feels uncertain.

And YES there are very bad and serious things happening in the world right now, but not EVERY moment needs to feel dark.

The Universe is created in a principle of balance. Yin and yang. Light AND dark. Good AND bad. There is uncertainty AND hope.

In today's episode of Show Up and Love, I'm sharing:

~ why reality is starting to set in for so many

~ why your brain wants to focus on what's going WRONG, what's "bad", what's scary

~ why it's the best time to get your hopes up

~ why you have to actively and mindfully choose different THOUGHTS in order to shift out of the dark

HOW TO HANDLE ALL THESE FEELINGS (during coronavirus + in crisis) Mar 27, 2020

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During this coronavirus pandemic, particularly at the BEGINNING of this situation, there tend to be a lot of feelings. A LOT of feelings.

And our human nature is to AVOID these feelings or JUDGE these feelings or try to FIX these feelings. The problem with that is that it only prolongs the suffering.

In today's mini bonus episode (recorded during a FB live in the Show Up and Love FB group), I talk about how the first step to moving forward and handling ALL these feelings is to SURRENDER to the feelings.

Surrendering doesn't mean give up or give in. It means compassionately allowing yourself to just FEEL what you feel and just BE where you are.

5 QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF DAILY Mar 25, 2020

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Today I'm sharing 5 questions that I use to shift my mindset from anxiety to confidence, from fear to calm.

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HOW TO FEEL FEAR WITHOUT BEING CONSUMED BY IT Mar 19, 2020

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I've heard from so many people that things are starting to feel REAL. The initial shock is wearing off and the fear is setting in.

But we are in a LONG game and the self care needs to begin NOW.

Today I'm sharing how we can feel the feelings without drowning in them. How we can FEEL the fear without being CONSUMED by the FEAR.

~ Fact thinking vs Story thinking